Real Families: The Courageous Bond of Julia and Ayla

Following on from 'JULIA'S BABY', we see how Julia has coped with the birth of her daughter, Ayla. After two years the pair have figured out their own way of communication, but that is just one of many difficulties for Julia to overcome.
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[@laurajudd6785]

Julia Gates is now Mrs Julia Kimbell, mother of three, still living around Peterborough with John and their children. She hasn’t much of a presence online after 2004, however seems she’s been living a great life since the show - so good to hear!

[@marybelvin452]

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[@marybelvin452]

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[@shiniestar32]

That is awesome to hear. I fell in love with her the way she talks so sassy lol. Wow. She has raised 3 children, that is great. She did it and proved everyone she could do it.

[@NadineMiller1974]

Thank you for posting the follow up. That is wonderful to hear. So that means her children are grown adults now. I had seen another program of a husband and wife, I believe the mum was Blind & Deaf but I think the das was blind living in the UK as well. Julia's story (life) is no where near how this family was/is. They were chain smokers and the eldest daughter was actually filling the role of mum & dad. It was an extremely sad situation to the point she wanted to end her life and she was barely a teen if that. The parents said they would just keep having kids and no one could say different. Difference is Julia was/ is determined to be the best for Ayla and she was!

[@buglove515]

Amazing!! Love the update ❤ thank you

[@cristinadinger5115]

I don’t believe Julia hates social services, she just wants the chance to do things on her own just like the rest of us. I think she is a very positive, hardworking, good mom!

[@saram2446]

yes but I also understand that the social workers have the need to look after them, because we cannot really know how it is to be deaf and blind and we do not have the other senses oversensitiv such as deaf and blind people do have it

[@pamelarogers8897]

Exact, and she needs to be grateful that so much help and assistance is available to her, graciously accept it, and drop the attitude. It's good for her to have determination but common sense needs to prevail.

[@notaprettymom7620]

I work in disability support and this situation wouldn't be the same nowadays. Julia's "attitude" is in my humble opinion completely reasonable and she is very articulate and patient. She's got super positive energy which is actually amazing given that she seems to have been alone in her struggles for so long and keeps being made to prove herself. Today, she would receive support on her terms. People who she interviews and trains would either be hired through an agency or by her without the middle man, and be paid through funding for disability support. Listening to the social worker and the staff in those early days try and figure out what the problem is is with the benefit of hindsight kind of silly. Julia knew all along how the support should have been and I'm just sorry she didn't get it at first because it's tough for anyone being a young mum and she had all of these extra troubles trying to get proper supports in place which took precious energy away from the beautiful and massive responsibility of caring for her sweet girl. But she did it!

[@ph4780]

@@notaprettymom7620 they tried to give her a seeing eye dog to help her be independent and she abused it so badly they took it away from her. She's just unable to regulate her emotions.

[@ilikenapsandyou1060]

​@ph4780 where did you find that information?

[@heatherleonbruno3263]

"Well then, don't ask stupid questions." 🤩 This woman is one quick, brave, and independent lady. Really an inspiration!

[@kristycanning9255]

I just commented this and saw your comment !! Right like haha 😂 she’s amazing and so strong and she’s witty af. I’d totally be this ladies BFF if she didn’t mind me for being witty and cheeky also

[@kristahathaway9308]

@@kristycanning9255 both of you are 100% right this lady is amazing she's beautiful strong independent woman and she proved them all wrong and shoved it in their face she's doing so good now I hear she has three children I am at 34 minutes and 49 seconds so I don't know what goes on after that but it looks like she gets married Maybe three children wow

[@catherinethemba]

You left out selfish. No kid would choose her as a mother. Zero eye contact and left crying for hours. Luckily for Ayla she got that dad.

[@njsmkmmsthatsit3518]

@@catherinethemba There has never been a parent that was perfect. Not you not anyone else, so don't be so judgmental.

[@tinktinkkks4209]

When she was telling the doctor ur hurting me, and then called him a bichh lmao or did she call the bby that 😭😂 I hear lil b

[@MamaTriedSolo]

I empathize with the social workers and caretakers...you are angels! Gratitude is not always given when it should. In this field, if your paycheck is all the gratitude you'll ever receive...DO IT ANYWAY! God sees your heart even if no one else does!

[@gingerleamcwow435]

I'm really surprised that no one seems to notice or take into consideration how child-like and immature this woman was on top of her disabilities. For me, that is more of a concern about her ability to parent more than any physical disability. Just my opinion. Dont come for me, lol.

[@jmj5388]

It is quite possible that Julia grew up spoiled. To get pregnant by a married man, when you are single, blind and deaf, is not a mature action; neither is getting pregnant again, by a different man who has made no commitment to you, and who left without notice…possibly because he did a lot of underappreciated heavy lifting in the relationship. Then, to openly resent the social workers who were forced to get involved in your life because of the decisions you made, reflects a childish sense of entitlement and a lack of consideration of her children’s best interests. The outcome could have been disastrous, but fortunately all turned out well.

[@vickiezaccardo1711]

What a heart- warming update. What a wonderful mom! In comments it was said that Julia went on to marry and have 2 more children. Would be nice to see a doc on that. I'm so glad all worked- out for her

[@theresajohnson1959]

Same here🤗

[@teijaflink2226]

All the kids should be adults now, would be so fun to see how they all are doing now and if she has grandchildren.

[@survivingitall5263]

Julia's best friend/helper is an amazing person. It's so great that Julia has help that she chooses and isnt just assigned people she doesnt trust

[@justineharper3346]

Ayla is such a beautiful and intelligent child. I love how she leads her mom by the hand to show her stuff ❤

[@MsPiinkFllamingo]

Me too it’s so cute.

[@DieAlteistwiederda]

For anyone wondering: This little girl turned out just fine and is now an adult. Only saw some pictures bur she also had one with both of her parents so I am sure I found the right person. Disabled parents can be wonderful or horrible parents just like any able bodied parent can be.

[@zimzalabitch]

Where did you saw it?

[@daynalynnxo]

Also curious

[@melindathomas21]

@@daynalynnxo me2

[@amysnews6808]

Where did you find pictures?! I haven't found anything but a few articles and none of them had pictures of the little girl more grown.

[@Rosa-kf6yy]

Julia needs to thank her lucky stars for social services. It's WHY she can live on her own. $$$ Ayla is doing great because Julia HAS had the help of social services, people to help her, make her dinners, clean her house, help hold, talk to , make visual contact and respond to Ayla. Show some gratitude.

[@elizawybieraa7357]

True that, I use to work in Uk with disable people and some of them were so entitled... not that I expected some gratitud but at least be nice to me. But some of them were lovely people that I still miss

[@87clits]

That's exactly what social services is designed for. Think of all the incompetent ablebodied people out there who need help with their children. It takes a village. This is what that Village is there for.

[@MsPiinkFllamingo]

Yeah well without her strong push for independence and proving everyone else wrong-she definitely wouldn’t have a right to her own child. She’s amazing and the one person I can think who is entitled to help as an amazing human being who holds her own to the very highest level she can given the cards she was dealt.

[@MurderMysteryMeMe]

She didn’t ask for this and Isabel amazing woman. No one wants to live with strangers and she does awesomely

[@brendahutcherson42]

How about giving Julia some credit! She wanted to keep her Baby ,being Blind,deaf. My Mom had 12 and kept 5! Julia’s a Great Mom!

[@bettymikhail5101]

Does anyone remember HELEN KELLER AND HOW FAR SHE DID GO AND HOW MUCH SHE CONTRIBUTED TO THE WORLD OF THE DEAF AND BLIND? This woman is amazing!!!!!!

[@kirstenornelas881]

Everyone remembers Hellen Keller and she deserves the admiration for being such a fighter but we often forget to give the admiration deserves to the teacher who didn’t give up on her and who developed the method of teaching those like her.

[@amandapanda7878]

helen keller never had a baby

[@papawnanasaveslovesnlife9530]

@@amandapanda7878 so this makes Julia Truly an Amazing ❤ felt momma n determination of more that some without disabilities ✔💯❗... I'm Amazed by her story n her witty personality n determination jus as others are 🗯😍❗...

[@kirstenornelas881]

@@amandapanda7878 the reason she is being referenced is the way that Julia communicated and the woman communicated with her with the hand movements was created by a teacher who met decided Helen Keller was not brain damaged like everyone thought. She simply didn’t have a way to see or hear so she found a way to reach her and teach her how to communicate. That’s the method of communication this woman is using here and people are referencing that without the teacher and Helen Keller both being strong and stubborn and not giving up people like Julia would never have had a way to communicate with or understand the world around them. They were prior to that placed in homes and left in the silence and darkness and barely cared for. So nobody was mentioning her over the part of being a mom or not but without her and her teacher, people like Julia could have never been mothers. She wouldn’t have been given a chance and wouldn’t have made it to adulthood without the method of communication she was using having been invented. If she had made it to puberty they would have sterilized her or had someone like her gotten pregnant they would have forced abortion on her or just taken the baby away without her ever knowing what was going on. Without a way to understand what was happening to her because there wouldn’t have been a way for her to be told or understand what was happening.

[@tyffaneelavely8087]

yeah but it was even worse for Helen Keller bcuz sshe was born that way. Julia went deaf at 20 YO and blind at 4. So she was already taught the world thru her ears. Which makes it much easier to learn the hand sign language. Not saying it's easy by any means. She is a true inspiration. I'm just saying the fact that that woman was able to teach Helen Keller anything is a miracle in itself.

[@justmejo9008]

I think losing John for a time was probably a real eye-opener for Julia. Not appreciating people was part of her problems

[@MsPiinkFllamingo]

Me too. It was an eye opener.

[@TJHutchExotics]

I think she loved and appreciated him but had a wall built around herself preventing her from displaying amd saying it - but I think she did need her eyes opened

[@hellaSwankkyToo]

ableism + the tough exterior she had to built to protect herself from it + all the ableism social services agents was her problem. Julia was clearly capable from the beginning + had to fight doubters + prove herself twice over every step of the way. she needed help but she should’ve been able to direct + determine what that help was + how it was received. she should’ve been treated + respected + listened to as if she knew her own life + her own needs better than anyone else ever could. it wasn’t until they figured that out that things got smoother. thank god we do things better now. even though the ableism is still just as bad + ever present. especially in the minds of abled spectators who think they know better than the disabled person when it comes to identifying their “problems” + what they need. 🙄

[@hellaSwankkyToo]

@@TJHutchExotics completely agree.

[@justmejo9008]

@@hellaSwankkyToo they gave her the kind of help she requested 🙄 ugh! Go safe a woman who needs your help.. this lady was amply accommodated

[@barbarae-b507]

How can you have someone move in with you and get pregnant again but never say you love him.

[@carolynlong9148]

I think Juliea is doing fantastic. I work with people with disabilites and I support independence all the way. Two 👍👍for this video.

[@tammyjuice]

Julia is rude and defensive but it can be understandable why. Happy she can defend herself instead of agreeing with what she’s not comfortable with

[@emilytelfer7542]

I think if she hadn't been so defensive and head strong they would have taken her baby at birth. She did what she had to.

[@mayhemmiracles700]

she should of been on birth control but workers and authorties cant enforce it.

[@girlwithnoname77]

@@mayhemmiracles700 what a horrible thing to say!

[@kristahathaway9308]

@@mayhemmiracles700 you're horrible person everybody deserves a chance telling somebody should have been on birth control that's f***** up she obviously has her s*** together and put it together and can take care of her child you should be ashamed of yourself open your heart a little bit more there are mothers that do not take care of their children what people do bad things to them and do bad things to them and this mother is a wonderful woman and mother wonderful mother and she's amazing shame on you

[@angelaberni8873]

To have such a friend as she has having to constantly do signs on her hand is truly a God sent. You are a gem of a friend.

[@LyYAHN]

And at that age as well! I have tremendous respect. Not for being a friend... Julia seems to be a great friend to have and you can count yourself lucky to be her friend. The respect I have for Lisa is much more directed towards the fact that she decided to go into that line of work. As I've previously mentioned - especially at that young age. It's amazing that she decided to learn this specific language. She is a hero for that!

[@illailla5813]

I don’t think it’s just a friend doing a favor. I think she’s a paid by the state assistant.

[@Jessicavargas-ig1zm]

She is a paid assistant however, they built a friendship and a bond with one another, so their relationship went beyond a working relationship.

[@royalejordan-hunt8358]

Julia was ALWAYS determined to take care of baby ! Even with here multiple disabilities, she never backdown. Because she knew if she gave social services a step they would have taken a mile and her baby away from her. This story is truly inspiring.

[@Goodwillwinoverevil1984]

Why would they take the baby away from her? She has rights as a mother.

[@hellaSwankkyToo]

yup!

[@catherinethemba]

She is only coping because of her husband. Watched a few documentaries about her, Ayla was left crying for hours waaaay too many times that's why she attached so easily to others when small.

[@katekburns3495]

I didn’t like the way she smacked her hands when she was feeding her. The baby is so well behaved and feeds herself

[@dlminor]

I didn’t like that either. I’m glad I’m not the only one that noticed that. Anyone know when this was actually filmed and how they are doing now?

[@petitehippie7064]

I agree with you. She wasn't even doing anything. Not that there is ever an excuse. But, how often does she get smacked if Julia feels she is misbehaving? Absolutely dreadful.

[@Garfieldisswag]

Right and how often is she smacked off camera ? You can tell she has a bad temper

[@petitehippie7064]

@@Garfieldisswag You're absolutely right. I completely agree with you.

[@pdjtw]

First reaction shocked but I think there's a specific reason for it that we wouldn't know - something like she's trying to train her child to leave her hands down so that she (mom) can feel her hands to communicate with her like before each spoonful (a kind of behavioural training for special communication, a way to adapt to her disabilities so that she can properly communicate to her child). And if you think about it, smacking her hands is what sighted parents do to their kids at times too to get a message across.

[@dorisf7368]

This lady is very complicated to get along with. Too stubborn. I admire all helpers and social workers for their enorm patience.

[@andreabennington]

Me, too, LOL. She reminds me of some old people at the assisted living home where my Mother lives. Rude and argumentative and think they can get away with it because they are old.

[@extracelestial1027]

wow 20 years later and they’re still together :) love that. every relationship has bumped in the road

[@kristahathaway9308]

I'm trying to look for all the information all you guys on here are telling me you found the information on the internet but I can't find it anywhere can you give me the link

[@Goodwillwinoverevil1984]

She's lucky her partner has good values. She's lucky.

[@andrecancol]

@@kristahathaway9308 exactly I cannot find any information about this at all

[@twingytwango6971]

My only concern is that she doesn’t hear the baby crying.

[@tanyabrown9839]

I cant figure out why they couldn't have trained the dog or a dog to alert her when the baby (or later child) is crying.

[@brera2434]

The main thing would be to find a solution so she can detect when the baby is crying when it is not next to her...nowadays it would probably be a vibrating babyphone (instead of one with a microphone or a light notification)

[@kellym9756]

Wow. What a remarkable woman. This is so touching. I am neither deaf nor blind and I struggle with 2 children. I hope she is made aware of these comments and realises how much admiration she has received. This has made a real impact on me. Thank you so much for sharing. Blessings to you Julia and family.

[@Doplev]

How can she be sitting on the couch, petting her dog, while the baby is crying her eyes out? And claiming she dont need help? That's like, i dont hear het crying, i dont hear her crying, so she isnt crying?

[@Foxys1974]

Yes! She doesn’t have to see or hear any pain from the child so she’s not in tune to it at all… I think she’s very entitled and selfish. She smacked that poor child harshly for nothing.

[@mayhemmiracles700]

exactly what I said...

[@mayhemmiracles700]

Exactly,,poor baby.

[@BlindBombshell]

As a blind mother of three in the United States, I understand why Julia was apprehensive and abrasive with social services. They just assumed because she was a person with a disability that she had to have around the clock help. She’s a beautiful, wonderful mother and I hope for, the best for her and her family.

[@MsPiinkFllamingo]

Props to you! ❤

[@hellaSwankkyToo]

exaaaaaactly. this is what nobody else in the comments seems to get or understand. this exactly! + i’m sure i know why that is.

[@OhioTreasures]

I wouldn't want these ppl in my business at all

[@kimdenny3294]

It's obvious she cannot look after a baby by herself......

[@magdalenaos8215]

She is not only blind but also deaf. Maybe not her, but her baby will need help of someone else all the time.

[@antoniajane5442]

As of 2004 Julia is married and with 3 children. Maybe someone can find a more recent update.

[@bettydamnboop3030]

Bless you Antonia I was praying that everything worked out for them. Such a beautiful journey that they are on🌹

[@pacemarshall9358]

Hi Antonia! Where did you learn this? I've been trying to find a follow up but can't.

[@kyla6538]

Where can I find this update?

[@antoniajane5442]

@@kyla6538 I just Googled her name.

[@yikesokayy7606]

@@antoniajane5442 what name did you look up

[@angelaberni8873]

How rude of her to speak in such a manner to the the social worker .

[@secretdoll92831]

Having social services breathing down your neck constantly/near constantly, it can cause major stress that can make a parent unable to properly parent, especially those with disabilities or mental conditions caused by extreme stress

[@theunforgiven2885]

I absolutely agree I'm so glad John maned up and came back because that was devastating things could have ended very differently for her ....

[@secretdoll92831]

@@theunforgiven2885 I had social services breathing down my neck at my most vulnerable point, (I'm autistic and because I "mask" well) I wasn't considered "parent material" because I didn't do or feed exactly what cfs expected at "THEIR" time. Kids often eat dinner anywhere between 4-7 pm, depending on the household (playtime, study time, sleep time). My kids were fed, at minimum, 5 times a day (while breastfed) and after they were weaned, still insisted to be breastfed, despite my persuasion to move to cow's pasteurized milk CFS doesn't approve because that would mean mom and baby have a strong bond, and cfs wants to break that bond so that they control, everything you do, indirectly or even directly in some cases

[@YagwitOG]

School forgot to bus my child. SS came to my house for months. That was years ago. I still can’t allow myself to make a mistake. I bought all my kids phones so they can contact me if school forgets them. I clean from 8:30am-3:30am. I don’t allow them outside alone. My 17yr old was outside, coming home from a friends, and SS said I wasn’t responsible. I had to use the restroom so I wasn’t at the door to greet my daughter. I have MS. I look a fright. They were very unkind about how my appearance would emotionally damage my kids. Even when I have a stroke like episode, I hide it, because you can’t show weakness to these people. 9 more years, and I can go to sleep.

[@kaylamackenzie1716]

Well I’m glad it worked out for her, but she can’t just diminish the fact she could not have done it on her own. She was extremely lucky nothing happened to the baby. Imagine if she had stuck something in a plug and the mother wouldn’t find out until way later than the average person. Very very lucky woman she had people there almost all of the time, and she made it seem they didn’t need to be there but the second her man leaves she knew she couldn’t take care of 2 babies or even just 1 toddler. “She gets into things and I don’t find out until it’s too late” a quote from her herself. I hope they’ve come out with new baby products for the blind/deaf or even both together. Something like a monitor for the crib that she could wear and it would vibrate when it hears sound from the crib. I don’t know, I’m not an engineer, but I’ll have to look into if there are new adaptive tools.

[@Sarah-xj9il]

so cool how so young she helps her mother by touching. plus so smart

[@lindasanderlin4444]

So happy for her! What a delightful little girl. She was a beautiful baby and is a beautiful child. They are a lovely family. May God bless and protect them.

[@AzizanYunus]

Social services were worried for the baby and Julia failed to understand that. She doesn’t need to be rude to Sandra as she was leaving. She will understand later in life I hope. I wounded why her mom doesn’t want to help her. John walked on her and will leave her again. She makes it difficult for her self and other and mostly her baby. Pray for her🙏

[@gingerleamcwow435]

Guess you havent seen the updates, lol? She's been married to this man for over 20 years now and has 2 more children with him.

[@jmj5388]

⁠@@gingerleamcwow435Hopefully, he is still with Julia because he loves her. But he couldn’t leave his children alone with her.

[@kristycanning9255]

Omg I love this lady “don’t ask stupid questions then” 😂

[@babsywoman4212]

It is amazing the way Ayla adapts and feels instinctively she has to communicate with her mom in a different way as with others.

[@bettymikhail5101]

Her situation is that she has to be an over achiever from the moment she wakes up THANKGOD FOR HER STUBBORNESS

[@Leahla333]

I was looking all Over KZbin and the web in hopes of finding this. I had heard mention from a viewer of the last documentary about Julia. So excited to watch!

[@kristahathaway9308]

So just to let you know I heard she got married to John she had this son that she's pregnant within this show and then one more kid

[@hollyperkins959]

very obviously a different time period... I was shocked when she smacked Ala's hands and yelled at her during meal time... WTF??? A child doesn't learn that way. I really was rooting for Julia, but now I feel a tinge of concern

[@SaMaNtHa.2023]

I love and how she explained that there is mums out there that are just got a baby but don't love it. And there is people out there that have a baby and love it so much that they are more protected than just a mother. I would be proud to have you as my daughter. I had my daughter and she was born with a cataract and she is completely blind and deaf in her left ear as well as blind in the left eye due to the cataract. And my family history and genetics wearly in life as I've got glucoma and I'm only 35. This is giving me hope that my daughter could chief of everything being a mum and I am so proud. Thank you so much for sharing your lovely story.

[@mariaparker7545]

Totally in awe of this lovely lady... what a fantastic mother she is... so happy for them...

[@twingytwango6971]

Damn, I wasn’t deaf or blind and I had angst as to whether I could keep my children safe. These social workers are presumptuous.

[@BABYDOLZ]

She deserved the right to try and prove herself. I get it her condition can inhibit her ability as a parent but we should never judge a book by it's cover. It feels wrong watching them put her through this. I get it but it don't make it right. She has every reason to distrust them. This heightened her fears witch is completely understandable. She has to prove her self at every turn in her life because of her condition also not right. I'm glad she got them out of her life and found a good man and had more children! I hope they left her alone after the first and just let her live her life as normal as possible...

[@shamasseylivingwithblindne6110]

I’ve been blind since birth, and this was very interesting for me to listen to. I do have a few deaf-blind friends. I can relate to her attitude with people trying to help me and my husband out so I try to let them know in a nicer way when I first meet them. 18:01 18:06 6 am. 18:58 19:37

[@Foxys1974]

Felt physically sick when she smacked that beautiful baby girls hand down… ouch! Wasn’t a gentle Tap?! Was a wicked smack…

[@ladyerynicorn3863]

Ya that part was weird to me too

[@karronpitman6368]

I wonder about Julia's childhood and her upbringing. Julia doesn't seem to have a gentle soft side, so was she raised that way. Probably taught to be all business and self reliant. Was probably not coddled at all. And probably not cuddled much either.

[@deed6709]

There was no reason for that

[@sonjam314]

It seems to me she wants John around because it makes her entire life easier. Even by the end she couldn’t just say I love him. It’s I need him. I hope over there tears she was able to truly love him not just as someone who helps take care of her and the children. I hope she shows and tells him how much she loves him and vise versa.

[@mistiashmall6175]

She did say she loves him and that she and Ayla and the new baby need him.

[@hellaSwankkyToo]

she communicated to the audience that she loved him in other words. also, “i need” doesn’t just have to mean need physically. people say that all the time + mean they need their partner or loved one emotionally. to me it’s pretty clear she loved him (which doesn’t negate or diminish John’s very valid need to hear that more directly, especially if that’s more in line w| his love language). it’s also clear she hates being seen as vulnerable more than anything else. i mean, this entire documentary is about her resenting her own vulnerability!

[@TreasureHuntingNana]

Julia is remarkable... but it shocked me when she smack Alya on the hand :/ I have got to say... Alya is absolutely gorgeous. Why would you even think about giving up the one you already have???? This story just get worse.... it's heart breaking

[@johnaesessoms2178]

Same thing I said I was all emotional then she smacked her hand

[@brittanycoggins7367]

That made sad too. Baby is so young but I guess she has to train her a certain way for them to communicate together. 🥺

[@AotearoaAnge]

She's a very intelligent woman, of course she knew he would want her to say she loved him. She was throwing up brick walls to protect herself because of being burned by the married man, Ayla's birth father.

[@MsAmique]

She should not be smacking the baby. 😡

[@sassyangelkiwi]

It was a sensory “smack @ not a punishing smack. Her communication is the sensory touch and that’s how she warns and disciplines as well. Ayala didn’t cry from the incident so she knew what you don’t

[@MsUniverse805]

Please educate yourself more. Travel more. Reach beyond where ever you are and what you know. And stop basing your life on the standards of social media and your backyard.

[@jeanneprieto5219]

Julia is truly remarkable. Having a baby is challenging for anyone. Most moms need help and I think she recognizes it, but she was being scrutinized with the expectation of failure. Good for her proving everyone wrong. The way I see it, she needs help mostly having people visit and talk to her so her baby learns how to communicate on a hearing world.

[@pamelastates5600]

Aww she is a smart little girl. Beautiful family. Wishing them all the best . God bless them. ❤️🙏🏽🇨🇦

[@twingytwango6971]

Talking to her via signing in her hand is amazing!!!

[@marielcastillo6025]

Julia has been better mother than so many who can hear and see but prefare to ignore their children....full marks to her. It would be so nice to have an update about her and her family.

[@terrinew9474]

I hope they are still together. Ayla is beautiful!!

[@kristahathaway9308]

People in the comment section section say they are and they got married and now she has three children

[@gillianbrookwell1678]

Julia's carer is a very patient and wonderful help to her; I think she should accept all the assistance she is offered.

[@tiffanypenaguzman749]

She doesn’t have to, if she doesn’t want help it should not be forced.

[@sistatiph2308]

​@@tiffanypenaguzman749right when it comes to HER. but unfortunately when you have a child, even NOT deaf and blind you need help. How will she know if her child has a bruise or a bump or a rash... What if a stranger walked in...Ayla needs someone to show her the things Julia can not . you didn't see the real version of this. At one point the baby was in the cot all day. 😢

[@feliciasamples3311]

​@@sistatiph2308and how did you find that out?

[@lindasanderlin4444]

Oh my goodness!! I wrote that comment only to see he left her. That’s terrible. Shame on him. If he needed her to say I love you, then he should have asked for what he needed. What an immature man! Shame on him for up and leaving her Aylah and his baby. I’m so disappointed in him. Grow up, you made the choice to create a baby so work it out.

[@andreabennington]

I would have totally welcomed 24 hour government paid for live in help in my government provided 3bedroom 2bath home. All mine and my child’s food paid for, all medical provided and bills paid, etc, etc, etc….Julia is quite entitled and does not seem grateful at all.

[@jenniferberry120785]

You have to be the way Julia is to get anywhere in life with disabilities.

[@kathyhardee2398]

I'm so proud for Julia, I noticed she smiles most of the time. I feel Julia is making a great parent and is doing great with her well behaved baby.

[@MissAnonymous21x]

If you just watched the first episode of this story skip to minute 29 if you don't want to re-watch half the story.

[@1985bjaycat]

Thank you!!

[@VividReality74]

I felt the feeling of abandonment that Ayla seemed to feel. That light in her eyes were gone when John left. And she looked unkept. But as soon as he came back, those eyes lit back up with assurance. I’m happy John realized that he had to be there for Ayla. And Julia, has become more calmer with him.

[@hellaSwankkyToo]

seriously? 😂 please stop projecting onto a whole 8month old baby. wild! 😂🤦🏾‍♀️

[@jenniferbaggett5775]

​@hellaswankky510 not that it matters but she was well over a year old at the time of projecting 😅

[@SnugBee-Gum]

She’s so amazing! Her child is beautiful abs I’m so happy she has John now❤️❤️❤️🙏🏼

[@cylversprings]

I needed to see this. My heart broke for her when John left with her pregnant again.

[@bettymikhail5101]

Is that the last news?

[@carrieanncancino5118]

She is married to John with 3 children now

[@adraper46923]

He was a married man. He had a different family with other kids. He cheated on his wife with her.

[@justineharper3346]

@@adraper46923Ayla’s father was. Not John

[@earlyjicama4302]

Kinda rubbed me the wrong way when John said that Julia is more important than Ayla

[@brownskin477]

This story was so real, it’s taught me how blessed I am. Through her strength!❤️🙏

[@baldheadedhoe6168]

She admits to kicking the door, going "mad", screaming at her toddler because she's frustrated, she smacked her daughter, and she admits that she can't care for her. This is a disaster and I don't think she's kind, or a good mother. That POOR baby.

[@lostineggsaisle]

Unpopular opinion....I feel like people that can't give a child the best possible life do things like this selfishly. Just like people that have a child with severe genetic birth defects and go on to have other children knowing that there is a very high risk of them having the same problems. They end up with 3 out of 4 children being so profoundly disabled that they will have to have a lifetime of care just because they want multiple children. Adopt. Foster. Don't have children that won't have a good quality of life. What happens to these children when their parents are no longer there. Institutions? That's a great thing to look forward to. Group suicide so they just take them with them? Great idea (I'm obviously being sarcastic). They aren't thinking about the children in these situations. Only themselves. If you cannot properly care for a child do not have children. It's simple.

[@lilielove4815]

You guys are literally disgusting I hope you never have to take on the responsibility of having a disabled child

[@pamelarogers8897]

She needs to be grateful that so much help and assistance is available to her, graciously accept it, and drop the attitude. It's good for her to have determination but common sense needs to prevail.

[@rosannacellini2158]

Aww, The baby is so beautiful and healthy! So happy for Julia, and it's great that she had help to live and thrive as a mother. A mother's instincts are very strong. Happy to hear she got married and had two more kids.

[@maryreynolds5310]

Hun, you have to take the load off, let it go, let go of your stubbornness. I'm glad John came back, I sure am!.

[@patriciakelly69]

This was so sad. I read the comment down below. I’m so glad she found happiness. Can’t believe he walked out.

[@pamelarogers8897]

They're not asking stupid questions but Julia is giving stupid answers. Julia's attitude is the problem. The old saying of "Don't cut your nose off to spite your face" definitely applies here.

[@Therealmegalollie]

I hope so badly that they are all doing well!! I stumbled upon their story this morning and just adore the kindness in Julia and Isla is precious. Sending so much love, wherever they are!

[@lindaromero5095]

can yous do updates on her after having her 2 nd baby?

[@tammyjuice]

That baby girl loves s very helpful to her mother. Is a if she just knows

[@messybunmurderconnoisseur8603]

We need more ! Thanks for this update

[@chriskilgour5576]

Her speaking is so good because she didn’t lose her hearing completely until she was 20. So up until then she heard so she learned how to speak well like any of us.

[@tanyabrown9839]

ah thanks for that, I was wondering how she came to speak so well

[@DuFreZa]

Nope. I met quite a few deaf people, they were all completely deaf since they were born. I didn't realize they were deaf until they casually mentioned it about a year later (they thought I already knew, so the topic never came). So no, they don't need 20 years of hearing to learn how to speak. They only need decent teachers and by the age of 3 they'll have completely full conversations like any kid their age. Oh, by the way, they also had a couple of deaf and blind friends since born and they'd also speak perfectly fine.

[@justmejo9008]

It’s a sin that Julia has such a hate for social services. Where would she be without all the help she was given in her time away from her family. There are single women, young children etc. that get lost in the shuffle and never have the strength or ability or services she afforded. I hope one day she is able to understand and apologize.

[@colorbugoriginals4457]

just bc they are helpful doesn't mean they shouldn't be criticized. idk if you know what it is like for a person to rely entirely on them. can't just tell disabled ppl (anyone) suck it up bc they are being helped when it is what decides details of your entire life. they are intimately intermingled in her personal life, she has every right to be critical.

[@NymphadoraTonks843]

She’s right not to trust them fully

[@Kek-fn1jh]

When she’s always in fear of her baby being taken, no wonder she doesn’t trust them

[@justmejo9008]

@@NymphadoraTonks843 trust NO one fully 🙋🏻‍♀️ but appreciate when deserved

[@colorbugoriginals4457]

@@justmejo9008 where did she seem unappreciative?

[@QueerCripple]

Lovely carer, she knows that Julia will resent her a bit. Yeah, it happens. My partner and I are both disabled and we can lash out at each other here and there. We don't mean to, we don't want to, life is just stressful.

[@JustMeDoc]

But you are partners. A caregiver is first and foremost an employee and should never be abused in any way, shape or form.

[@QueerCripple]

@@JustMeDoc my partner and I don't have the money for full-time caregivers

[@QueerCripple]

@@JustMeDoc also, we both have sleep issues and so when dealing with sleep deprivation, it is a bit impossible to control your emotions. We don't snap at each other constantly, but we also are forgiving when we become cranky. We also talk through any issues we have 😊

[@rabahnasheet5243]

@@QueerCripple if you need any Help sort in anything let me know if I can.

[@tatorkator9901]

i wish they would censor the baby and their genitals. maybe someone can go in and add that with some blurring.

[@jessedavis8499]

I knew she would just be an amazing mama! So proud of you Julia!

[@tinktinkkks4209]

All she did was leave the bby crying and was selfish of every person who came in her home to only try to help.

[@Dexy83]

As an aunt to 5 amazing people, I adore giving noisy toys. hehe That wouldn't bother Julia. 😂 I appreciate the updates in the comments, but is there an updated videos?

[@pineappledinosinspace]

I'd love to know how they all are now.

[@leah20480]

They need to make a move out of this story

[@cjjohnson2374]

What a wonderful story. I don't blame her for her concerns with social services. Shes a woman, she can have children just like the rest of us. Thats our right as women!

[@YellinUpAStorm]

Wait why can’t Anna be friendly? They are living in the same house! It’s probably easier if you’re friends as well as coworkers.

[@puppymonkeybaby8505]

I hate to say it but she absolutely needs help If not it puts the babys in danger.

[@JustMeDoc]

I don't like Julia. She is a caregivers nightmare. She is rude and mean. I saw the 1st video where Ayla would be crying away while she is on the couch reading yet she didn't want anyone to interfere and say "Hey, your baby is crying. " They also don't talk about her 2 different service dogs were taken away due to neglect and abuse. Ayla was the product of Julia and a married man who would not leave his wife for her. I do believe his wife left him though when he was ordered to pay child maintenance. This was all many years ago. I'm sure life has gone on for all of them.

[@petitehippie7064]

I agree with you. I don't find her likeable at all.

[@midnightmoon3550]

She didnt need a carer. She was forced to have people hover over her baby as if it was impossible for her to do it. Babies cry in crib...a routine would be necessary for mom and baby. They have their own way of communicating w touches. You would be defensive if a stranger moved in and hovered over your newborn as if you were crippled??

[@JustMeDoc]

@@midnightmoon3550 but I am not disabled. She is. She was rude and snobby to people prior to the birth of Ayla. She even said herself...after John left...that she would have to give up one or both of her children. I know this is an old documentary but can you imagine being her neighbor listening to a crying baby all day? Yes babies cry of course. I have had 4 myself. A big difference between her and I is that I could tell the difference between my babies cries. There is most certainly a difference between a fussy cry and a cry of pain. Maybe she is a different person now...this was many years ago...but somehow I doubt it.

[@river8760]

There is something about her behaviour that really disturbs me.

[@petitehippie7064]

@@midnightmoon3550 It's more than letting her baby cry in a crib. Julia wasn't just defensive , she was rude and nasty to the carers, who had nothing to do with the decision of whether or not she could care for Ayla on her own. There was no need forJulia to take her anger and frustration out on them. Being disabled is not an excuse for her bad behaviour. She is extremely self entitled.

[@lisaess]

think she has 3 kids, ayla, ricky and jordan kimbell (looks like ricky might be blind or partially).

[@alisonalibongo3177]

i work with severely disabled children. Bringing up a baby who is deaf & blind. wow Don’t know how to feel about this. She will always need help. But i have deep respect ❤ being blind & deaf what an courageous women. Not being able to hear or see your child….

[@hannahg3475]

I had that same watermelon outfit when I was like 1.5 years old lol back in 1996/1997

[@rebeccaxx]

lol thats sad poor child

[@MsPiinkFllamingo]

I don’t blame John. She is a little difficult to handle. I think he had a purpose for leaving a short time.

[@moniquevanleeuwen6514]

I’m so so happy to see she’s doing so good!! Live your best life Julia, you deserve it as much as anybody and more!! 💕🙏🏻💕

[@ellesbells902]

Julia looks a lot like my mother did at that age. I think she's a long lost cousin ♥️

[@tinktinkkks4209]

37:02 w t f 😭

[@hellaSwankkyToo]

@Kirsten Ilsa hopefully you mean, it’s not OK; 30yrs ago social norms were different re: child rearing. b|c that definitely was not OK.

[@hellaSwankkyToo]

what’s wild is i rewound it to make sure i saw what i thought i saw when i was only half-paying attention, + immediately said, “WTF?” so, needless to say….ditto - my thoughts exactly.

[@Lionessjazzmazz]

this experience from another human being is very inspiring but Julia needed to be more appreciative of the efforts of social services. As a mother I understand the stance that she took but it was logical from their angle bcuz realistically, she did get help and she needed the help long before John came. Well done to her though, for fighting to keep Ayla. It was great the way she humbled herself when John left but I guess they both needed that time apart. God bless her and her beautiful family!

[@pinkdiary349]

So awful how they violated her and ripped the baby out of her..

[@MyFavoriteColorIsBLUE]

Using forceps? Yes, it's painful but sometimes necessary

[@tandiparent1906]

Why? She asked and wanted a natural birth and when the baby went into distress, the Dr had to use the forceps.... that's the way it's done and the way it's been done for years.

[@justsandra71]

Oww, it's 3am here. I have to wait til tomorrow. Julia is amazing.

[@rlpittard]

What an amazing mother, her disabilities made her stronger and more determined to succeed!

[@Friskyhorton]

Julia seems so ungrateful

[@lisathompson6722]

Julia has been an inspiration in my life,, I love her and her family... I wish she had more videos,,I would love to follow,,,thank u Julia ...