Being A Kid vs. You Now

[@yardenrice]

Growing up, around 12 reading the Bible, I wanted to be a homekeeper, wife, and homeschool my children. Can you believe my mother discouraged me from that for the next 6 years? And can you ALSO believe that all the women in my life forward (until 18 when I left) discouraged me from that as well? Even 80 year old women telling me I better work and go to college bla bla bla! Thank God now I'm able to live my life serving a godly husband and raising his children set apart from this nasty world! Love your videos, keep 'em coming 😊

[@JenniferMoleski]

Yes. I can believe it although in theory it should be pretty frickin' unbelievable. Our daughter dreams about that too. Being a wife, cleaning, teaching her four children (she recently settled on four), and cooking food from the garden. Yarden, _waaaaaaaaaayyyyyy_ down deep there is propagandized feminist in me that says, "sure, _or_ you could x, y, z." But the truth is she knows about the x, y, z and it doesn't interest her. I absolutely encourage her dreams of love and family!

[@tmeyer2022]

Yes, I can believe that. At 12, children (Girls and/or Boys) shouldn't be making such adult life decisions. At 12 we should be learning "Critical Thinking" so that at 18+ we can start to make beneficial life desicions. That 6 year period plus the following "Teens" and "20's" are for learning to recognize both good and bad decisions we make. Take it from an old grandfather: Children, Family, and God are what life is all about. (That's all one purpose, one priority, not three.) P.S. Be a life long "Learner". If you do that, you'll be better able to help those 12 thru 20 something people to make better decisions. Live, Learn, and take care of yourself. If you don't do these things for yourself, you won't be able to help others.

[@ShyGuyInKilt]

i'm happy to hear some childrens are being guarded from the freaks.

[@brandymeidl7126]

Yes! From my teens years, all I heard was "don't have sex, you'll get pregnant and kids will ruin your life." To be fair... super TMI but I wasn't interested in sex..self pleasure was WAY simpler (STDs, pregnancy or stuff with dating), less complicated and the way to go (for me). It was easier to wait for the right person. I don't regret it. Then, 18-25 "don't get pregnant, kids will ruin your life". Married my high school sweetheart (divorced 6 years ago..), 2 years after marrying I was being asked by the same people "when are you having kids?". Like a switch was expected to flip from "kids=ruined, life" to "kids=❤️". Well, needless to say the programming worked because I didn't want kids. Neither did the hubby. It wasn't the programming, it was because I enjoyed the intimacy, respected him and believe in marriage. Wow feminism is powerful. Work, adequacy, compete, chase money, etc. At 39, my sole regret is chasing after ONE job which resulted in getting divorced (exh cheated while I was working late). It's not worth it. Also, I'm first now seeing why kids are a good thing. No ovaries on fire here. I just see better now. Modern feminism is a disaster to society. God speed to the youth. ❤️ Marriage and family ARE worth it. Love the video ❤️

[@shadowstarspammy]

Same here, peace and love!

[@bocckoka]

I wanted to see young Jennifer winning a car.

[@hectorg7090]

Yea. She looks younger in that thumbnail.

[@FFE-js2zp]

I “raised” two children. I did the same for both. One is a go getter and one isn’t. It’s really just who they are.

[@JenniferMoleski]

Isn't that just bizarre in a way? Nature ⚖️ Nurture

[@FFE-js2zp]

@@JenniferMoleski Looking back, neither has changed one bit from the very beginning. They just communicate better. Sometimes.

[@davidbigd9047]

The biggest reason most of us have this "adulting is hard" mindset is because we were taught that you have to work a job that you hate but the paycheck is enough to live a life of luxury and it's all about sacrifice as you will reap the rewards once you retire. My personal belief is to teach our children to find a career path or jobs that will bring you happiness and satisfaction even if the pay is not high. There's no shame in being happy living and raising a family with $10k or less in annual income.

[@motionman0]

Great video, Jennifer. I was raised by two parents who came from dirt poor families. Neither of them graduated high school. I was born and raised in a small town in Wisconsin. I did what I wanted. Never had to do homework. (Graduated with a 1.86 GPA.) Hangout with friends all summer long. But my mom was an ultra positive person. Both my parents did not want me to go through what they went through. Always showed up at my sporting events. My dad was the typical dad back then. He did not have to speak. It was the look! :) Was not taught anything other than follow your dreams. My parents were very supportive. But when I went out in the real world I was a lost pup! From the farm fields of Wisconsin to NYC! I need to write a book! :)

[@glenn2595]

I actually liked being a kid. I don't remember longing to be an adult, it just happened one day. I didn't really think about the future much when I was a kid growing up. Thanks for letting us know about the bookcase strategy. I wish I'd thought of it as it's too late for my kid but I'll pass it on to her as a thought if she has children of her own. We did get our child into violin as age 3. How she started was a month, 4 lessons, using a ruler taped to a macaroni box and she held a wooden dowel with an eraser taped to it as a bow. Her first lesson she complained that it didn't make a sound. It was posture training. We told her she needs to play it in the 4 lesson before she could get the actual instrument her teacher was using. When she did get it she really had no problem practicing on her own as it was special.... until she became interested in boys around 15.

[@davefarnsworth3020]

I remember when I was 9, I wanted to be self employed, own my own home/land, and marry a good woman to raise good children with. I'm almost 65 now, and so far I've been able to achieve the first two.

[@davidh.4649]

Jennifer, congratulations on 100K! Glad to see it ... you provide value to KZbin and I for one want to see you stick around to continue providing it. Interesting video. My dad used to take me out into the woods to learn about handling guns with simple target practice. He would carry a 22 rifle and he bought me a BB rifle that fired with the CO2 cartridges. But he taught me safety with that BB rifle and I learned on that for a good while before I ever got to shoot his 22 rifle. I wasn't allowed to take the BB rifle around without his supervision, I only ever shot it when we'd go out on our target practice trips. But I learned respect for guns.

[@joshuamatthews1644]

Congratulations 🎊 100K, Happy to see you grow. All the best for the future 👏👏

[@miffedcuttlefish6139]

I was glad my dad encouraged me to enjoy my childhood. He wasn't able to foster adult thinking in me. Except for the time tested concept that actions have consequences. He always told me that being an adult is like being a kid who can generally do whatever you want, but that you were NEVER saved from the consequences of your own actions as an adult. Never. It's why I never aborted my husband's babies, and I'm glad my dad raised me as he did. That thought in general allowed me to understand that my decisions haf weight no matter what stage of life I would be in.

[@Dollsteak69]

I was a free child. Born in the late 60's. My mom gave me a $5 a week allowance. She told me when it's gone it's GONE! Don't even ask. I knew better than to even ask.

[@tomcaldwell5750]

The library example is an awesome idea. Thank you Jennifer! As a child I was very blessed to grow up in a real live Leave It To Beaver type family.

[@matthewf6631]

I am almost 50 and to this day I remember a very important life lesson from my grandmother, its simply this . . . . “Sh!t in one hand and want in the other and see which one fills up first” . . . . . thanks granny, this was and still is one of the best things anyone ever told me.

[@zaphods2ndhead193]

I am older than you, born in '67. We were poor when I was young and lower middle class as a teenager. I was the 2nd boy out of 3 kids (textbook middle child). Most everything I had was a hand me down. At 12 I worked at my Uncle's gas station, 11 hours a day, 6 days a week for $100 to pump gas, check oil, check tires, clean windshields and fix flats and learn more. This was in Texas in the summer with no air conditioning. I also mowed, raked and did anything else someone would pay me to do. At 15 I rode my bike back and forth to my job at Taco Bueno. At 16 I had save enough to buy my first VERY used car. I have never stopped working and the reward is having money in the bank and buying some of the stuff I want to have for me and my family. What I learned was that if I wanted something I had to work for it. I also got my first .22 at 8yo and my first shotgun at 12. I can still feel the thump on my head from my dads ring when it was teaching me how to handle a gun (finger off the trigger, never point at something are going to shoot or kill, etc.). Were those hard lessons? Yes. Were the TRUE lessons I needed to learn? Yes and I am glad I was taught them. Those are lessons I will always have with me.

[@Zen-sl7de]

I love being an adult an adulting. Maturity is an awesome thing.

[@MrFrugalFrank]

Being the eldest boy of 4 children and parents average working class..Lived in such a tiny house was like a rat den..My mom always complained how her mother took all of her money. She did the same to me..By the time I was 12 I made as much as my dad.Just doing odd jobs. They stole from me..I remember having to hand over $60 a month during the winter months to keep the heat on.. Now dad is passed and mom in a nursing home and 2 siblings put everything in there names. If mom lives another year or so all the money will be gone.They don't have any money. Told them to sell mom's house but that market is going south.. Psssst I trade commodities as a hobby.. We just past through a top cycle. I can't stand greed..The point is I plan to sue so in the end I lose some $$$ but will be priceless when the other 2 get nothing.. Got one brother I help he is a sad story.. When I was 16 I met Chet Atkins and ask me to come to Nashville..Parents kicked me out kept my car and instruments.. Never recovered that part of my life.. Did anyone get the new car? Sorry bout the rant you just stirred up some bad emotions. Love your show..

[@tmeyer2022]

I'm not sure about Tim Pool's philosophy. There are "Wants" and there are "Needs". My parents (as I remember from so long ago) would easily say yes to my "Needs", but the wants were mostly "No" on "Wants." But sometimes, I was allowed to "Earn" a "Want." (That kid sized Roy Rogers cowboy hat that I wanted, fireworks on the fourth of July, etc.) Of course I learned this lesson at a young age, but didn't realize what I had actually learned until I had my own children. And by that time, society had changed to the "Give-Me" stage..

[@armcfaddful]

I grew up with no conversations at all. I was told too save money and was not allowed to spend it. I was told to work, so I have worked since I was 14.

[@stevenredmond3136]

Jennifer, I grew up being taught that working hard(what we call a 'good work ethic' today) would get you the things in life that you wanted(for the most part). All I ever wanted to be was a fireman. I had to work at other things before I was able to achieve that dream/goal. But I got there, and 32 years later I'm still at it. I've taught my children that; my son understood it sooner than my daughter did, but she gets it now too. A good work ethic (especially in today's world) is always in demand. Keep up the good work!

[@johnsojka92]

i was there, JMO. Starting in the early 60s. An Only Child. Everything was Lock Step. When you're this Old you get to do this, and/or that. I learned that Allowance has strings attached. When you're 16 you get to start learning how to Drive a Car. When you Pass 12th Grade, you get to have a Beautiful Graduation (Not Before)... like a "Congratulations to Adulthood". And, in 11th Grade we'll ask you, "So, what are you going to do after Graduation. We recommend College, paid for by GRANTS. Or the Military... 'cause you ain't hangin' around here spongin' off of us!" Yeah. Freedom ain't Free. 1981. I chose the Military. Best 20 years of My Life! I learned that Everything takes some Investment of Your Own Resources in the Sovereign Citizen World.

[@kordoliver]

Hi, my parents were the same way at 17 set me down and had the talk and at the end of the conversation I knew what I had to do get a job or learn a trade or both , I was raised up on a farm so surviving was the easy part taking b.s from some could be quit a pain at times lol be safe and take care sir

[@nobleroofinggeneralcontrac7961]

I was lucky enough to grow up with a dad who was a lazy man. Our phone always got shut off along with our electricity home near foreclosure and as my friends say today they would come to my house and see nothing but the light bulb and box of Arm and Hammer in the refrigerator. . I learned money when I shoveled snow and raked peoples yards. I would walk down the street with a rake or shovel and door knock. Best lesson was having no guidance. My daughter 34, now said dad the best advice you ever gave me was; GO figure it out on your own, exhaust everything and if you are still stuck come see me and we will try to figure it out together. She is self made today. I also told my kids that the world is an evil place. Prepare yourself for losing a love one and come to grips we all are going to die someday, so try to find a laugh everyday where ever you can.

[@viking7560]

Receiving a wristwatch for Christmas, being allowed to carry a pocketknife, going hunting without supervision, trying out for school sports teams, driving on my own we’re all rites of passage I looked forward to growing up. They gave me milestones to reach and a sense of accomplishment when I achieved them. Some I took the initiative to try, for example going hunting on my own because I felt I was ready and was confident my parents thought me ready. It was the classic risk- reward scenario. I knew that I miscalculated I would be shown the error of my ways.

[@Zen-sl7de]

That’s like working out. Yeah it’s tough but you know what it’s more mental than anything. When you get past that point you can kick ass.

[@Zen-sl7de]

In my speedos trying tan my cheeks what

[@michaelr772]

We provided basic clothes / things for our kids. If they wanted an expensive pair of shoes, they had to work to pay for the difference. .. If you want nicer things you have to work for it.. IT WORKED.

[@thetruther954]

Jennifer. Just as a prep, it sounds like we have some differences. My Dad was a member of the NRA. He had a giant safe full of rifles and hand guns in the basement. He went to the range and joined his buddies. But he never shot an animal in his life. He used to tell stories of the hunter who shot a buck then watched as the doe came up, nudged the dead buck, “come on let’s get going”. The look in her eye and how the the hunter never hunted again. That was my Dad. He was kind of a man’s kind of guy. Guns, planes, vintage wine, exciting stories. Certainly more than I was. But there were times he just dropped out. And housing, the “free lunch”? Yeah, I believe in those things because I think they help. Not that they can’t be abused. Any time you have people, there will be abuse, but the people you’re able to help will be worth it. So anyway, on to the question. I think I understand it, but it still hurts a little. How can parents just take you half way there? How can they say, ok son, you’re doing better, but now we don’t believe the things we told you and don’t care if you start screwing up. What if you see that top book, go to reach for it, and find it’s really a tangled web. I understand it simply now. My mother wished for me a closer marriage than hers. I didn’t see what that would mean, I kind of do now. It’s hard for a man to have a relationship that is closer than his parents while living at home, sometimes a long time after that. They are not turning their back on you, they have giving you what they have. If you want to go beyond that, you have to find the way. Yeah, if that top book has been read before, you and your husband know the story. Your child is content with stopping there. The top book is top for them just like it is for you. Everybody’s happy. Yeah, if you’ve lived that book, then great.

[@TheInsomniaddict]

I think I was about 6 when I started reading the family encyclopedia. My family often had Royal Canadian Air Farce on, and it was the beginning of my understanding of politics and the world proper. Adulting can be hard for me because I'd rather spend my time reading and learning about the world than doing mundane tasks. Still, independence was the only thing I really wanted, so that makes "Adulting" worth it.

[@thomasferkinhoff2385]

Congrats on getting 100k subscribers. I just discovered you a little while ago and you are almost always correct in your assessments.

[@sawdustadikt979]

That car you were denied, that is called betrayal trauma as well as abandonment trauma. Healing it is the way you let it go. Letting it go is a side effect. There is a saying I have found true in my own attempts to heal myself “The wound is the womb” the pain you carry is the entry point to the path of healing. We are all caught up in “letting things go” it’s a trap. I to was raised super poor, welfare, food stamps, soup kitchens and staying in shelters, in an old mill town where everyone was poor. As I have gone through life I kept screwing up, badly. It has taken an immense amount of education and work to learn that, despite the fact that I tie my shoes when I get up, I inevitably trip on them because they come undone somehow. So I tied them tighter, then trip on them at some point in the day. Then I get different laces, trip. Then get different shoes with even more different laces than last time,trip. What is wrong with me? What is wrong with these shoes? No one else is having this problem. I had to face the fact that I was Taught the wrong way, or was demonstrated to tie them if I was taught at all. Most likely the ladder, I wasn’t taught at all. A lot of things that shape our now and future was placed there by our childhood, our child hood and infancy IS our subconscious. If it was rough, desperate and dangerous that is how we see the world, no amount of toxic positivity can cover the actions we take. Despite being that poor, my parents were so mentally I’ll that the other poor kids made fun of us for never having any food, or clothes that weren’t very old or tattered. They had such deep issues that they managed to sabotage themselves while on welfare. Rising myself up and out of that town was very difficult. Tall poppy syndrome, and or crabs in a bucket was law. Any accomplishments you made were belittled, stolen and or destroyed and left out for you to find. Needless to say being seen, being recognized for anything I have accomplished scares me down deep. When things are going really good and progress is being made, I’m waiting for that other fucking boot to drop. I’ve spent so much money, time and uncomfortable effort to heal this but I will die on this hill for my son and wife. Prepare the child for the path OR prepare the path for the child. It seems to me the .01% of us preparing our children for the path are thinking about our children first, the other is only thinking of themselves. Just because preparing the path is common, doesn’t make it right. Kids are rapidly absorbing everything in their environment, including how you demonstrate to respond to situations, this is why we have to lead by example, not all these words that amount to “do as I say, it as I do”

[@Aeneas137]

when they were young I taught my kids how to disarm a gun several different guns and told him if you ever find a gun or you're at someone's house where they have a gun make sure you do this disarm it make sure it's not armed. never did really take them shooting much I think once just so they could see how powerful and dangerous a weapon is. I did something similar with my kids that you described with the bookshelf and that is a red books to them from a young age on up through their teen years and the books got more advanced and while doing that I would have them read select chapters. they often had a very hard time with some of the books and that encouraged them to increase their reading skill and it also impressed upon them how easily I can burn through those difficult words and that they have something to look forward to as they improve their vocabulary.

[@johnnie2638]

I like the idea of putting younger-accessible books on lower shelves & graduating older accessible material on higher shelves. When I was a kid we had separate shelves for adult books & kids fare side by side. Among my fondest childhood memories of the late 60s & early 70s are of my mom reading to us at bedtime. Even though we were very young my mother read to us from Rudyard Kipling's Just So Stories. How the Elephant got his trunk & How the Leopard got his spots are memorable to this day & I'm looking at 60. My all time favorite was The Sing Song of Old Man Kangaroo. She also read to us from books of poetry including The Highwayman, The Walrus & the Carpenter, Li'l Orphant Annie & Little Boy Blue....the poem, not the nursery rhyme. Believe me it'll tear your heart out. I still can't read this little poem without tearing up. Try it. The author is Eugene Field. Anyway, these story times instilled in me a love for books. As I grew older I started thumbing my way through the adult books. Stories from Reader's Digest, my mom's stash of science fiction and the World Book encyclopedia. As an adult I read to my son & taught him about the beauty of literature & delight of books. Today he's 29 and has shelves of books of his own. This is my mom's legacy. I'm glad I had a chance to tell her before she passed how profoundly such an innocuous action like her reading bedtime stories to me & my siblings had on me as well as her grandson. And lest anyone think we lived in a big house with an expansive library where both parents were degreed intellectuals, no. We were poor & lived in a trailer park. My dad worked as a surveyor for Az. Dept. of Transportation, very blue collar. My mom was a homemaker. We had little in the way of material excesses. But we did have books and books helped me grow & mature. Same for my son who is thankfully a well-rounded young man. I credit reading & more than that the enjoyment of reading for helping me mature. I would encourage every young parent to read to their children. Impart upon them the treasure of literature & the wonder of stories. I enjoy your videos Jennifer.

[@oxigenarian9763]

You are pointing out an important concept for managing people regardless of their age. Without a vision for the future, there is little to motivate efforts today except for immediate pleasures in life. It's no wonder kids are aimlessly wandering around in an emotional and intellectual desert without direction and purpose. Most kids should be able to tell you what they want to do in life early on. To get there, parents need to explore what the world has to offer with their kids to find out what they want to do and what they don't want to do so they don't grow up like weeds in the backyard...

[@MrRoberoni117]

Sounds like we had the same parents … 😒😒. Myself… French Catholic.. Uber strict and ultra poor. Couldn’t wait to make my own money and STOP giving paychecks to my parents. Thanks for sharing!

[@richvail7551]

My quick and easy remark is that perhaps this isn’t your only shot at life. What if you’ve lived many times already and you will live many more times in the future but in order to make it out of the beginners ring which we are all in now you need to strive and you need too tackle the challenges of life. If you take the easy road you return as you are, but if you take in the struggles and surmount them, then you have a better skill set in your next round about and perhaps you won’t need to come back to this place because you graduated to a more productive level of mind and life. Don’t give up, keep pushing.

[@dddyyylllaaannn]

i think the effect that upbringing has is more about circumstances (like money, location, divorce) than some parenting strategy or the lack of one.

[@rossilake218]

I love Women that love Men. I truely believe most don't! They need to find a man to support them and pay the rent. Jen i love your refreshing outlook and some day I'll get my stretch of land, somewhere in Middle America. Almost like middle Earth. Lol. I think you are like me, we Over-think things. Remember: Our World is not that smart. Luvya

[@rafaelshumaker1883]

I never actually thought that one through. Not just giving incentive to excel, but actually generate desire to excel, and be independent, and responsible, and not just older. To make responsibility exciting and special, such a grand concept. I remember developing that for myself in one aspect. I got frustrated with people suggesting I didn't know enough, simply because of my age. Seriously, that was their only objection. They could not refute my logic. So they dismissed me on account of age alone. So I asked myself at what age would that end. I was 13. So, 15? No. Maybe 18? No. Perhaps 21? Fewer, but still no. How about 25? I knew some would still do it even then. What about 30? In my awareness, even at just 13, I knew that nearly nobody would dismiss me for age once I reach 30. And I was completely right. I think the last time my knowledge was dismissed because of my age was at 29. So, how could a 13 year old know that? It is because I knew what I was talking about even then. But that's not my point here. In this context, my point is that I was excited about reaching 30. Some people still reject what I know, but not for lack of age.

[@ArtofFreeSpeech]

The biggest problem for kids right now is parents who won't let them fail... parents who believe in the "every kid gets a trophy" mindset. Kids must learn to fail and to adapt while they're in their peek learning years. Not getting a trophy or not getting the baseball cards you want or the game you want or the makeup you want are all tragic when you're a kid, but it's important that it happen, and it's important that we teach our kids to learn to deal with failure (a broken arm from falling off the monkey bars is NOT the worst thing ever to happen, I promise), and to get back up. The whole "everyone gets a trophy" mentality has left us with an entire generation of kids who are hopped up on anti-anxiety meds because they never learned to deal with the real world.

[@loug2414]

"You make your bed then lay in it". No excuses, no one owes you a living.

[@davidturner1643]

Let's just say I didn't easy and I experienced every kind of abuse imaginable from my mother. One such example that comes to mind (PG for YT) is when my mother threatened to send me to military school as a punishment. Joke was on her because I was excited to go. She didn't end p sending me because she "found out I didn't think it was a punishment" (her words). As I always did, I read and a lot as an escape. When we visited my aunt, who was in the military at the time, I got into trouble (by my mother) for going to school on my 12th birthday. I went to school with my cousin and fit right in participating in class, and was coming home with homework. Instead of celebrating my birthday, I got punished for going to school and being a student on a military base. I am so glad that my two boys have never experienced parenting like I had. They have been taught that sometimes (but not always) life does get harder as you get older but they are equipped with skills to help them navigate. I drop a kiddo off to college this summer and I can see him using the lessons we went over in his life and being really mature. I couldn't be happier as a dad to see him come into his own.

[@AZrakoon]

My parents pretended alcohol was no big deal and they even let me drink it. None of us became alcoholics.

[@PierceThirlen2]

My parents didn't need to incentivize me to read. I started with Dr. Seuss, then started reading science books. We did have the "Book of Knowledge" set and a set of encyclopedia. After a read the entire set of The book of Knowledge I started reading the Encyclopaedia Britannica in the 4th grade. My parents never really dangled the carrot in front of me. I got to do things at a much earlier age than my sisters because I showed that I was responsible and they didn't. I was working with power tools at about age 8. I was expected not to screw up. I never had a curfew. As long as I didn't screw up I had the freedom to do as I pleased.

[@kevingaddis7276]

Jennifer I love your channel, and I agree with most of your views. How ever I think all woman from 9s down to 1s should be treated as 11s .

[@joehutter7083]

This was a sad story to here. You always regret the times you could be a better parent. I would have let you have it. Something similar happened to me as a kid, I won a TV on a scratch off card, they would let me claim it from Wawa.

[@Elsbell]

I think we grew up the same way! My mom would've said the same thing in their thick Polish accent. Also now want to get my 8 year old into shooting. Good video! You rock

[@yetiquabaug6498]

I would really, really encourage you to investigate the Charlotte Mason method of child education. It is a Victorian method, but amazingly contemporary. This woman was a genius. CM is also a very good alternative to the Classical school methods. Did you say "split custody"? I don't understand.

[@edbrenegar679]

Parenting is about preparing your children to be adults. My oldest son was reading by five, reading adult history books by 10, and had written a 175,000 word novel by 13. I didn’t treat my children as children, but rather as emerging adults. I wanted them to make adult level decisions as young as they could. A place to start is share the things you love with them.

[@scottclark3761]

For my children, I teach that with responsiblity comes priviledge. If they want their tablets(Parental Controls!!!), if they want to watch their shows on TV, if they want to play certain games, they have to take some responsiblity. Age appropriate. I have a ten yr old and a seven yr old. Right now, grades are a big portion of this. Their behavior at school. Taking care of pets, insomuch as they can, household chores as assigned....et cetera. But if they want favorite toys, games, or to go to the zoo....you earn that priviledge by being responsible. Adults have a lot of priviledge, and those that work hard tend to have more. We'll see how it goes.

[@robertfleming387]

Let children be children give them more responsibility yearly, Nurture them and Guide them into adulthood,, Children want to hurry,,, Teach them to slow down...

[@hogheadv2]

I was able to provide a house and insurance for my family. Proving for yourself and those you care for is a blessing.

[@bienbueno4032]

I was ALWAYS told that being an adult was going to be a challenge and it would be HARD!!! There were no false stories or feel good tales, only the truth. I knew that I had to buck up and do what I needed to do in order to get where I wanted to go (out of my parents’ house) and what I wanted to achieve. Be strong, take care of yourself, and work. Life is a challenge for a reason…when the going gets tough, the tough get going!

[@danielcobbins9050]

Wasn't spoiled as a kid, but my folks did act negatively about taking risks, when it came to starting a new business. And yet, I was always told to move quickly, because time is money. I have a hard time, to this day, both with taking risks, and slowing down to do something. I have been learning that quality work does not come by rushing through it.

[@michaeltaylor9316]

The reason why people want a higher minimum wage is because it should be around 25 dollars an hour if it kept up with corporate earnings. Instead, minimum wage is a 11 dollars I believe, way off from 25. I just wish for people to be paid their fair share Instead of being subject to corporate greed. I believe jesus would agree with me. Everybody does not live as privileged as you, so have mercy on them as you would want on YOU.

[@briangarland9883]

Having to work for things when you're growing up teaches you that you don't get something for nothing. At least in normal life. Parents that just roll over and give kids everything help create that inevitable chronic dissatisfaction syndrome that seems prevalent today. It's strange how that works...

[@mikebraun9673]

Goodness Jenn... you missed out on that shinny new 1982 Ford Escort.... with powerful 4 cyl motor and the 5 speed manual with the crank windows.... uurrrggg ! Your Mom loved you and saved you from that awful machine.

[@mickdaggy4091]

When I was young, my dad would give my brothers and me each $50 to spend for a day at the state fair and every year I would come home with $50 in my pocket. *I've always had an amazing capacity to delay instant gratification which has carried over into adulthood. I find it interesting how when men find success and make money we ask, "How can I provide for my family?" When women find success and make money, their response is always, "I don't need a man!" The uncomfortable truth is throughout history, men have been with women because they WANT to and women have been with men because they HAVE to.

[@someoneoutthere7512]

Minimum wage is adjusted to compensate for inflation. If you look at history its pretty much remained a flat line.

[@MichaelTowns]

I think crappy parenting has contributed to untold problems in our society over the years.

[@rickchollett]

Raised five kids. Sadly we lost one when she was 19. Of the other four three are driven and working. But one seems to be not motivated by anything. I have no clue what happened.

[@RudyPipich]

Congratulations on hitting 100k subscribers!

[@TheKrugerm]

Martial arts. Learn to fall, basic footwork, build muscles........ sparing class.

[@dagoelius]

What a great human being you are.

[@s.beccari4678]

Listening to Jethro Tull. I was told that was for adults...

[@michaelblacktree]

The whole mindset of childhood vs adulthood seems to have changed. It used to be that kids looked forward to getting older, because they could do more grown-up stuff. Nowadays the mindset is that kids get to be pampered, but that all goes away when they grow up. So growing up has become de-incentivised.

[@greggbaker7120]

Being responsible For Yourself.

[@timsager6153]

The topic books reminds me when I was about 10. One day I come home and ther was a complete set of Encyclopedia there. THey were very old. Colored pictures under rice paper. I loved them and would sit for hours. One day I come home and they were gone. THe reason they got rid of them was they were old. I didn't care it

[@BlakesPipes]

So many comments, as for higher wages, people miss understood the land of the free part wrong. As for raising kids, they let daycare, schools, and sitters do that. Then people complain how expensive those all are. Stop buying with your wants and buy with what you can survive on and make better decision on 3000 Sq ft houses and 45k cars and spending more then they can afford. My second wife, now single mother of her own kids , raise them as adults with letting them stay up till they are tired and take showers when they want. Eat what ever they want as she buys them what they ask for. I had standards to raise them to an adult and make a man out of each. But that might have been what went wrong. As her and I were the best couple, but not with kids.

[@doubledensity2]

I would never let that car win go either. That was soooo mean to deny you that car

[@sMASHsound]

i wasnt raised that way, just got to do what ever there was. there was upsides and downsides. ur way, as u explained it is overall more beneficial. and the biggest reason why it may not be is when people restrict toooo much from children. some children may benefit and may be ready eariler for more mature stuff that is typical for theri age. knowing the nuances of that, woudl require paying attention to ur chidlren, their individsual strenghts and weaknesses, so that u can tailor what u expose them to. i grew up watching CNN and sesame street the same time. i learned simple arithmatic the same time i knew who binladen and gorbichov was.

[@crayfish9945]

Whether kids grow-up in semi-poor circumstances or not isn't the deciding factor ! If they are Given most Everything they Want Without a Price [ or No Effort on their Own ], they will grow up and be " Unprepared " to acquire Things on their own ! Those who had to pay a price, i.e. " Work " Get Educated " excetra will be like Fish Released into water. They will be accustomed to it !

[@zaphods2ndhead193]

I believe you should start teaching your kids early how to take on responsibility by working for goals. Going full on Jordan Peterson here but, meaning in life comes from purpose. Purpose is found in voluntarily taking on responsibility. Responsibility become competency and grows exponentially. Your job as a parent is turning a child into an adult strong enough to handle the world, not be their friend.

[@brandymeidl7126]

Love the video! Also love the example of teaching the daughter of earning and respecting mature things like guns. Cleaning, assembly and handling 👍 Also recommend getting her started on a bow or crossbow if you have one. Hunting with a crossbow is super fun! Hunting with a gun it's great too. Both teach handy skills. Defense and maturity. Highly recommend involving females in hunting/fishing related activities: skills! Everything from monitoring animal traffic habits, prep for the hunt to processing. Making brats is fun! As a child and teen, I was discouraged from hunting because "you're not going to like it..". My Dad and brother don't enjoy hunting. Now it's part of my calendar year lol A father like mentor has been teaching so much! (hunting, fishing and self sufficiency/gardening) ❤️

[@JenniferMoleski]

Awesome comment. I was told that I wouldn't like blue cheese when I was young but I ended up liking it... Ok, _fine!_ It's not the same as hunting... I'm just trying to bond with you! Thanks for the comment and ideas!

[@pilotandy_com]

In the military, you have to learn to disassemble, clean, and reassemble your rifle before going to the range. Doing things in order sounds reasonable.

[@charlesastle2077]

holding something back untill conditions are meet if i paraphrase your meaning i suggest may also apply to our relationships

[@robertfleming387]

I remember being 12 or 13 and Not being able to have a full banana split from Dairy Queen, Until I was old enough to drive and go get one myself from money I had earned And used to get a car to drive to Dairy Queen..lol

[@jefferynelson]

Jennifer, did you participate in track & field in school ? just curious, you have that 'cross country runner' build, there's a pitcher of beer bet on your answer

[@JenniferMoleski]

Nope. I was horrible at running. Although in gym class I always won the 100 yard dash. (My legs are super strong.) That is until *Stacy* _stupid_ *Petroski* was in my gym class...she was a race thorn in my side! I'm athletically built, but didn't really participate in any sports.

[@jefferynelson]

@@JenniferMoleski thanks for responding, I have to purchase my coworkers a pitcher of beer now, I enjoy your content

[@garrett3441]

Congrats on reaching 100k subs…. !!

[@unclebounce1495]

Good point. On that vein, here's a similar thought. Crappy liberal parents and their social "educated" educators believe " make sure you explain your decisions thoroughly so your child understands your adult lessons." That's the problem. It's a child. If your child understands your lessons, you're teaching him childish lessons. Lessons are to be understood later when you're older. If you understand them now, they're immature/superficial/childish. Parents are so worried the child is going to be frustrated or upset, they limit their decisions/actions to things the child with understand (to minimize negative reactions from them). Wrong. This same lie also constantly critiizes meyn for working too much and not playing enough with their child and making him happy. Wrong. The only adults who resent their parents for making responsible/unpleasant past decisions are people who never grew up. Not a single workaholic father is resented when it's time to pay for college or braces or to pay for experimental surgery for the child's child. Children are not supposed to understand why adults do what they do. They are to obey and trust. When they get older, THEN they understand. Making them figure it out themselves is also part of the maturation process.

[@teddychalgren]

I was taught from an early age to invest financially in my future, the Stock Market, precious metals. Glad I did, even now, with the way the Market is. Great content as always and congrats on 100K subscribers, Jen.

[@vikingshark2634]

We always believed there were zero perks to being a kid. We couldn't wait to grow up and get out of the house. We always knew that when we grew up, there would be food, money, freedom, and no one could beat you without consequences. Most of us turned out okay. However....Deprivation, abuse, overbearance as a strategy for raising kids....Zero stars, would not recommend.

[@dumbass3770]

The Bible says that you should raise a child in a way that you want them to go. I think the Jews say show me the first seven years of a child's life and I can show you the adult. Most of the habits and desires come from the subconscious. If you wait till they get older to instill values the foundation has already been set it's going to be difficult.

[@lioninwinter9316]

My parents did something similar to what you describe with reading and other things.

[@HK-qj4im]

Kids should be outside eating dirt.

[@donbraugh185]

I wonder if you're ma was correct about that taxes thing... They were not right IMHO in how callously they treated it- yet if you allow them to also make adulting mistakes, you will find help when you make mistakes. It's actually a principle throughout literature and even in the Bible.

[@AutomationDnD]

My mom was a Pepsi-Holic too I had one baby picture of me "Stealing" moms Pepsi (in the glass bottle) and sucking it down, the bottle was 1/2 as tall as me. I was wearing a one-sey the year was probably 1964 (not Long after I'd learned to walk)

[@WoziduranJahemter]

The problem is that too mnay parents are entangle din worry and false expectations that they forget to be capable of empathy and joy share. They behave likecold hamsters running on a wheel of toxic routine, sterile living and infantile impasible reactions.

[@DylanJNoyes]

I was raised being told I was living my best years. And that getting older meant paying bills and losing bodily function and freedom.

[@azizakharaz4660]

Congratulations 100k

[@Fatalinvesting]

Jen you watch Tim? Nice!!!

[@spicole2937]

Yes they be shaming us men getting body count up and saying were emotional intell special scholarships

[@lonwestover]

Wow, good Jennifer!

[@drome010381]

You will literally get punished for having high ethics and morals when you first enter the professional arena. It is not until you get to the critical positions and mature colleagues that ethics and morals become an attribute. Not sure why it felt necessary to post that.....but I believe receiving a "noble" wage is demanded because todays society is too weak to hold to those high morals and ethics until they reach critical positions and mature colleagues.

[@briano.1503]

I totally remember that contest!

[@QXZASX]

always look forward to seeing your pretty face and insightful womans view. Good stuff as always. 👌✌

[@johnjacobs4207]

Is that a thermomator below the mirrorr? I've not seen this room before

[@AkelasanAK]

... this exploitative system sucks, because it is wrong, unnatural. We shouldn't have to work hard to meat our basic necessities, but should put great effort and work to achieve our greater goals... ... hating childhood is as wrong as it is hating adulthood, both have their bright and dark sides. Just that as the power grows, so does the responsibility and that is often ignored, neglected ...

[@rjc7289]

I was raised by parents who had Herculean work ethics, but they never put a positive spin on the notion of having to work to earn your keep. They were always very negative, sour and argumentative about it, and it often spilled over into outright abuse. I can remember many a sweltering hot summer in my youth doing things like digging irrigation ditches, mowing fields of grass, pulling weeds, and an assortment of other things. If I didn't do said things to their exacting specifications, I would often get yelled at and even hit. So now as an adult, I put my nose to the grindstone, but I despise every God-forsaken minute of it! Anything that requires exhausting physical labor is looked at with utter contempt by me.

[@bartklump]

As much as there is truth to your answer. People are getting to smart.... Young kids asking about the purpose of it all They are not motivated by the fact that it all revolves around you as an individual. So if you talk about God. God needs people to do work. Not the other way round. And I myself have been asking these questions since I was 5. And more people are asking these questions. Just because they don't want to make life decisions that have them as the centerpiece. So you may be right for people with an individual world view. But once you mix in the bible. People will get fed up, with all the needs and burdens laid on their shoulder.

[@willw3900]

Nailed it

[@davidturner1641]

i am confused you say "my husband" and you say split custody? So, i think you mean your ex? not your current husband? as far as the rest, it seems pretty solid thinking. I am glad you didnt win the car. It made you a fighter and a worker to WINNN. not to win from socialism and hand outs

[@Allan_aka_RocKITEman]

👍👍

[@irvinekinneas6935]

Oh god no! What’s did I tell u about not wearing makeup??!!! I’m eating my breakfast for godsake!!! 🤮