Being A Pick-Me Won't Save You and Here's Why.

[@pinksuperstar2]

I need this to be a on a billboard because it’s something every woman needs to know

[@ellapastoral]

!!!

[@DeannaJacksonDJsDelectables]

Alicent Hightower checks all the boxes for a pick me and a toxic boy mom. I don't want to spoil the latest episode for anyone who hasn't seen it, but all I can say is, "The audacity!!!"

[@ellapastoral]

I watched the last episode of season two when I posted this and I let out the biggest sign in the entire world because she can’t keep getting away with this

[@zeffraser7885]

Alicent really couldn’t be a better mom sigh, throwing consequences to others but herself

So good, I’ve literally had to struggle with white women pick-meisms my whole life, because i couldn’t get a grasp of it, being yes, white and sometimes femme presenting and afab, but pretty transboy-y as a child and now, nonbinary. Like, I applaud you for ysing the correct terms, such as dangerous and m*rdered.

[@ellapastoral]

I’ve literally been in demonetization jail since July so I’m not playing around with KZbin🥴🥴

[@RedDeadReverie]

I’ve never watched GOT, but I feel like the male audience gets this sick pleasure from watching women in the show get degraded. Also there are fully unnecessary 🍇 scenes depicted. Refuse to watch it and judge the men who do like the show.

[@ellapastoral]

The thing is the author of the books did such a good job building female characters and showing the raw honesty of life in medieval time but the show runners as soon as the ran out of book material turned to 🍇 for several plot lines

[@corneliahanimann2173]

Ehhhh, I think this critique is fair enough, and I think we should make versions of movies available that are edited to skip these scenes. They can literally edit these movies to fit the laws of different countries, surely editing it for more sensitive and possibly traumatised viewers should be doable? I personally don't mind sex scenes too much, especially when the sex scene also has meaning and doesn't glorify something or desensitize people to a certain experience by overusing a shock value. I think GRRM as a writer has done a good job at jist adressing the very real outcome of a patriarchial society where female intimacy is a currency, and how that gets in conflict of a woman's desire for intimacy too, and how it is used too often in a transactional manner. I think adressing these realities is not the same as overusing them.

[@RedDeadReverie]

@@corneliahanimann2173 Yeah I think if it was directed by someone else more sensitive to these issues it could be doable. But there’s a difference between consensual sex and abuse.

[@corneliahanimann2173]

@@RedDeadReverie may I ask, if the abuse was also depicted as abuse, would you be okay with seeing it, or would you just wish that they only show the consensual scenes, or maybe neither? See I think I make a good point at least with suggesting that there should be different versions out there that have re-edits without the sensitive scenes. This exists in some video games, like Baldur's gate let's you choode how graphic it is and how naked people can get. If it is possible with a game, it should absolutely be possible with movies and shows

[@RedDeadReverie]

@@corneliahanimann2173 I think you don’t have to show it to convey the message. Like in books, we can understand the victims experience just by words.

[@corduroycrook]

Nah I lost it the second Alicent looked Rhaenyra dead in her eye and said "it's too late to go back now" when she was dead ass wrong. Like my blood boiled inside of me! How can you be that hateful towards a girl you grew up with when these grown men who are supposed to be your subordinates spit in your face on the daily!

[@irondragonmaiden]

It could be me, but I think the pick mes, especially the white feminist pick mes, surged a lot due to the weird "Regina George was Right" vids and essays that came out. I think a lot of women identify with the toxic femininity that comes with being a pick me and hate being called out on it, so they pushed back with "you just hate feminine women!" and basically use feminist rhetoric to extol toxic femininity traits.

[@MsMiraboo12]

I love the way u paint your points so clearly that there is no arguing from the opposition because ur so right. Great video.

[@ellapastoral]

I am glad you enjoyed the video! But as a KZbinr for the last 2 to 3 years, you have to cover every single points because people will be like🤓👆 well actually and I’m like nooo…

[@CC-cw8wu]

I enjoy Cassie as a messed up character that’s realistic because I myself am an actor who’s played another crazy pick me Abigail from The Crucible. I think Sydney Sweeney and Olivia Cooke are phenomenal for bringing these characters to life in a way that makes us despise them. That being said, I’ve had a friend two versions of the pick me as friend in my life. I’ve had the boy crazy friend that ended up trying to sleep with my SO and sabotage the relationship and I’ve had the girl who is obsessed with one man that put her in no contact. The second one stabbed me in the back not over a guy but because she had to defend a male friend who tried to get me fired from a job. I supported her and talked her through the no contact period of her life. She still knifed me in the back. So you’re right. Male centered women are destructive and you need to keep them out of your circle of friends.

[@elizabethrose92]

Serena Joy isn’t infertile due to her being shot - the problem is with Fred’s low fertility. The show runners have confirmed this. *SPOILER ALERT* Serena Joy goes on to conceive and deliver a child.

[@LilithsCosmicLounge]

But I thought it wasn’t Fred’s baby? Was I wrong? 👀

[@ellapastoral]

In the canon of the first couple of seasons, that’s how they made it seem, though I did see the spoilers when I watched the ending explained and I was shook

[@Elkantar_Rostorgh231]

The fact my mother became a pick me fucking hurts every day

[@cambelloroxy9420]

I really love how you explained Alicent and I totally agree

[@samuelbutler3215]

I think the reason serena got her finger cut off is that she read a bible verse.

[@ellapastoral]

That even makes it worse like I literally slaved to help you while you were in a coma and you’re mad that I read the Bible… mind you she wrote books😭😭😭

[@Thatcaramelchic]

“Pick me Powers” 😂😂😂

[@ellapastoral]

I’m telling you 😭😭

[@saraaberdeen12]

Don't know if you guys watched the last episode of HOTD, 8 ep just feels like a filler ep and that there was supposed to be a 10 episode seasons and it shows so badly the last confrontation between them is so badly written .

[@ellapastoral]

Oh, I just finished that episode before I uploaded the video and it was a great episode but it definitely wasn’t a season finale. They set up so many good things and now we’re gonna have to wait two years for a follow up. I have so many issues with House of the Dragon, but every time I try to do a house of the Dragon video it flops on my channel.

[@irondragonmaiden]

@@ellapastoral For some wild reason, there's a LOT of Alicent apologists out there

[@saraaberdeen12]

@irondragonmaiden they definitely participate in the Allicent's defense Squad , maybe because that's how their mother threatened them, and they see her in Alicent but projection their mommy issues on to an fictional character won't make her love you😚🙂

[@Tirrrb]

I love your videos omg

[@ellapastoral]

😭 I love your vidoes too 😭🥴🥴

[@Andimoss]

I just came across your channel and omg you are sooo eloquent! Loving the makeup too ❤

[@ellapastoral]

Thank you so much!!

[@liminaljay3311]

Dang your videos are so good

[@emilyau8023]

Here's the thing, though. I think Cassie has BPD, Serena is probably a psychopath. They're not really pick mes. They have a personality disorder, I think. Cassie wants men to replace her father, and Serena is hungry for power but also wants a child cause she thinks it'll make her feel less empty. Cassie doesn't want to betray her bff, but she's always wanted to be her. Serena doesn't necessarily care about hurting women as much as she wants the world to fall under her beliefs.

[@ellapastoral]

You can have all of those issues and still be a pick me

[@harriyanna]

cassie was still wrong for her actions though. but also like i said it's bad writing because she showed no kind of interest in nate in season 1.

[@ellapastoral]

@harriyanna no seriously Sam Livingston has to pay for his crimes. I don’t even want to talk about cat and the travesty that was her character in season two

[@emilyau8023]

@@ellapastoral I guess what I'm saying here is pick mes purposefully choose to hurt or put down specifically women to make themselves look better for men. Serena just wants power and she will hurt men and women to get it. Her ultimate goal is to have a baby and she doesn't care about the men at all. They're just an object to her. Cassie wants love and doesn't have the goal to make women look bad. She inflicts more pain onto herself. These don't align with the goals of pick mes to me.

[@emilyau8023]

@@harriyanna I'm not really saying Cassie wasn't wrong for her actions. I'm saying her goal was never to put down or hurt women to look better than them. She wants love, but at the same time doesn't think she deserves it.

[@kafkaesqueee]

Appreciate your voice so much ❤

[@ellapastoral]

Thank you 😭😭😭

[@Kysean-rx5sh]

if you watch my hero pls do video on ending

[@ellapastoral]

I dropped my hero a while ago. I might pick it up if my friends want to watch it with me, but the things that I saw were so disappointing.🥴🥴

[@Kysean-rx5sh]

@@ellapastoral im happy i got replyed to

[@RiyemRiyem-t8h]

Ohhh sorry I'm not english

[@ellapastoral]

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[@StonedHunter]

This is true but people so so want to ignore it

[@koffiecake]

I agree pickmeism is bad but at 3:05 it kind of sounds like you're hating on religion

[@ellapastoral]

The two characters I talk about use religion to hurt the women around them and if you look at the women who are actively fighting against women’s rights in America, they are fundamentalist Christians and this is coming from someone who is a Christian

[@koffiecake]

@ellapastoral okay I understand what you mean I think all religion is good until you force anything on others

[@ellapastoral]

@@koffiecake !!!!!