Being KAMBUA | A Father's Heart can Hurt and Heal (1) O’Neal, Willis, & Omari

It is often said that men don’t hurt, and when they do, they don’t (shouldn’t) cry. But Father’s deeply grieve the loss of their children whether through miscarriage, still birth, infant loss, or whatever circumstances. These three gentlemen bravely lay themselves bare- letting us into their pain and struggle in order to be better understood, and also to tell other men, that it is OK not to be ok.
#BeingKAMBUA #kambua

[@kambua]

Thank you O’Neal, Omari, & Willis. People are healing, because you were willing to be vulnerable. Thank you for allowing us to see you and to understand the heart of a father 🦋

[@emmamwicigi8421]

😊

[@pahtnjeri2747]

Kambua's husband should be hosted here too- hat off to these Band of Dads❤

[@deotio2768]

Kambua is very private and protective of her loved ones. I don't think this will happen.

[@christineawino-cv3kv]

We respect that,but, amlete tu please

[@iamjulie.k]

Oh God!!O’neal’s story has messed me up a good one 😭 Oh Jesus!! Willis,I wailed when your baby passed .It was in January 2020 when you announced the loss.I shared the story with my husband.I was 35weeks preggo.February,a month later,I lost my baby during delivery.😭 Only God can comfort us

[@jamesngugi8755]

Very sorry for your lose 😢

[@polynenganga6795]

Kwanza Willis narration.....😢😢😢

[@wangarimwangi7395]

Kambua, can I hug you. Thank you. When they say we grow into the image of Christ, really, you are embodying that, being the balm of Gilead to our nation. the good Lord be exceedingly gracious.

[@judywanjiru3005]

One day 'Being Kambua' should host those of us who've been on the premature journey as well. I know soo many of us who've really been judged harshly by society

[@alicemaina6957]

This conversations are helping me heal, I'm barely 2 months since I lost (miscarried)and there's alot happening to me and my hubby,but everyday he assures me that It's WE that lost, reassuring me that am not alone, and I feel like I've not acknowledged this enough,I have to rewatch this again with him

[@Jennifer_kim94]

Someone tell me why I'm crying when they are telling their stories😢😢😢.. Thank you Kambua for this channel and allowing men to be vulnerable and share their story. Sending love to everyone healing from child loss❤

[@beatricemuringi4120]

That ending is heartbreaking......... My heart goes out to the men, so boldly being vulnerable about their pain. "There is nothing special about those who go home with their babies and there is nothing wrong with those who don't go home with their babies"

[@antonynyamori7099]

Mr Oneal..big up,some of us are where we are today because of your service to God at Word of life.God bless you

[@joanchenane4072]

These conversations have come to heal most of us. It is so surreal to get to know that most of us have gone through the same experiences, had same emotions and felt exactly the same way. May God heal everyone and meet each person at their point of need. When the time is right, God will make it happen. He surely restores.

[@elizabethwachira7884]

The ending is heartbreaking 😭

[@joskyshams4758]

I love how Okari phrased that he is a believer. Very important.

[@Shanice-K]

Joskyshams I know you from somewhere😂 I guess Rawder Kidula shows..am I right?

[@kambua]

Omari, yes 😊

[@obarefamily]

Oh noooo this broke my heart 😭😭😭 O’Neal I didn’t expect that last part of your story.Please God hold these men and their families under your wings.

[@christineatego6199]

so heartbreaking , I have cried with him

[@moureenwanjiku8738]

😢😢

[@carolmagara7244]

This was difficult for me to watch. It’s just so overwhelming 😢😢😢I can relate with the cold room experience, the frustration and anger. Especially having done everything humanly possible. The pain is just too much for any human to endure. More grace to you all. Thank you Kambua.

[@evedansdaughter]

The pain of being able to relate to their stories 😢. God strengthen us

[@faithngari3005]

I do not understand what makes someone feel embarrassed with loss. I have gone through loss several times and I felt embarrassed, that was the hardest feeling to deal with.

[@teshian07faith]

Oooooh this is another interesting one!❤ I love it❤

[@annkazungu988]

My heart goes to them..uweeh this is heavy..ni Mungu pekee anaweza kupeana faraja ambayo mwanadamu hawezi kutoa..

[@hildaalividza3461]

Premier gang...I love this stories

[@MiriamSagini]

Oh my heart. These stories are so so sad, but talking helps with healing, and anyone else who might be going through loss that's listening to this, will definitely know they are not alone and that nothing is wrong with them. I am eagerly looking forward to the next episode.

[@joskyshams4758]

Thanks Kambua for coming up with this session. Many will be healed.

[@franciskaria9524]

I needed this episode! We are getting there

[@rhodakhanaka3933]

Thank you Kambua for these men. The hurt is real,the pain raw and healing is divine. God bless you. As a woman who has been through miscarriage, it's good to hear this from the fathers' side.

[@madrinewamaitha1264]

You just touched the emotional side of men. Kumbe it's even there. I think men need more platforms like these to open up. Alafuu, i like the way you hold the cup as you take the coffee 😍

[@Maddidee]

Kambua thank you for creating this space. It was much needed.

[@lindawakecu9006]

Been Waiting for this particular Series....! Not just for myself, but especially for my Hubby. He too has walked this journey. Thank You Kambua, for this Forum.

[@misslinnah3772]

You doing amazing Kambua,looking forward to more men on this platform.Am also looking forward to the next episode

[@kambua]

Thank you for being here 🦋

[@mutheumwikali]

Eagerly waiting for part 2 May God heal them

[@emmyann5713]

Such a good conversation kambua praying for every soul going through healing

[@sarahnafula2955]

Ooh God!! Hard places to be and its really great to hear men's side of the story when it comes to loss and grief and the healing journey.

[@hinesightmind]

This has changed my view on so much😢😢😢 . I wish you healing.

[@sallymumbi7300]

Kambua, you are an angel sent by God to walk with for mums with angels in heaven. Lots of hugs.❤

[@brigitlameka5030]

So so overwhelming! Ooh! Praying for God's grace......

[@neddyachieng8680]

Glad to see Mr.Nyanje O.Been a silent follower on his page for the longest time.Glad he is doing well.When they lost their babygal i was so heartbroken..

[@lilliz4631]

I lost my gal 10 yrs ago but, listening to these 3 story,I felt like yesterday,it's too sad to lost someone you love

[@janetm7693]

Amazing handsome and eloquent men, who have agreed to be vulnerable for others to heal. Hugs and more hugs for Oneel. ❤

[@roselynemuriithi7312]

I was really looking forward to hearing the Father's. This is intense. My heart goes out to them. May the Lord's love cover them!

[@estherwatiri6858]

we hurt and heal differently...but this was so intense for sure..😢

[@BobS8]

Oooh no😢😢 the ending!!! I wasn't prepared nor expected that... I was still on the cancer process. May God help all men in pain. We always assume they are strong they are ok. Pole sana for your loss. May the grace of God carry you through.

[@AwesomelyDorcas]

Loss and grief, waiting for the nxt episode

[@user-jn4on7ds3s]

Listening to men narrating what they went through is heart breaking 💔💔thankyou so much Kambua for your listening ear 🙏

[@miriammwangi5172]

Difficult but very very timely and very very important conversations. Very important. Thank you Kambua. But the 3D dreams part 😂😂😂😂😂

[@paulinefaithonyango]

Couldn't hold back my tears through the entire videoo❤🫂

[@ValentineHokah0]

Oh Lord. Just be kind to people. God bless you K. Eeeeeih neema ya Mungu itoshe tu❤ Bless these gentlemen too❤

[@monicalewisky4925]

This was difficult to watch,thanks to the gentleman for being vulnerable with us. Thanks Kambua for being the safe place ,giving them time to speak ...thanks for thr consistency. God bless

[@faithorina6901]

Give us part 2 for O'Neal oh my imenishika

[@nyaromondi]

The ending left me with goosebumps all over.

[@sucreimbo1112]

So sad yet so inspiring

[@sharonthuo5705]

Thank you Kambua for this episode ❤

[@carolinem3885]

My heart breaks for all these men, but for O'neal 😢😢. Oh good God almighty 😭😭😭❤

[@kambua]

A heavy cup indeed, but enough grace to match it 🙏🏾

[@mutheumwikali]

Indeed God is a good good father,they don't look like what they've been through.

[@Mjane_001]

Kambua you have such a beautiful smile & your skin is so beautiful as always ❤

[@imeldaatieno4305]

What have heard from all of these interviews is the lack of remorse from the medics,I'm interested to know,aren't they taught in school how to pass the sad news,in a way that doesn't seem heartless

[@muthonikaranja135]

Doctors should find a better way to break the news.I can relate how willis felt ,for us its still so fresh no heart beat! My hubby and i have never forgotten that.

[@eunicenjeru215]

Kenya there is no work ethics because of lack of licensing body that permits one to practice in their career.The licensing board can oversee that the practice is ethical and revoke licenses for those not acting accordingly.

[@charlesmburugu1746]

Wah, these stories are so heartwrenching....that ending especially messed me up 😭😭

[@lilianchybire9610]

Poleni 🥺 This is emotional O'Neal 😢...

[@RebeccabeckyMwangi]

Had to pause a few times coz the emotions weeuh 🥺. Enyewe Loss is such a journey and we should all always be kind to people ❤

[@magaretnjarumi8987]

Always tuned in every Thursday,the conversations are always uplifting my soul,thanks alot Kambua!

[@Christine-4-Christ]

I am listening to this and i am wondering how deadbeats fathers live??? Like there's a man out here who has lost not 1, not 2 but 3 or 4 and he still sticks around the same woman!!!!! Mã ngãi mwathani😢 Change baba mtoto wangu to embrace our child. Omari as a woman/mother i bless you, i speak God over you and your life and your generation... may the lord give your triple greater than you've ever. Mrs omari, loads of hugs

[@sharonnemartins2798]

Next Bring baba Nate😊 praying with you all.

[@LynnWacu]

This episode is so heavy 😢 but needed

[@evelynendungu620]

This is so painful to watch but our God is a faithful God He heals the broken hearts and restores back the joy

[@thefoodsafetyenthusiast6377]

This is heavy 😢😢😢

[@elizabethwanjiku1993]

The ending has left me so broken 💔💔💔💔….like why should just one person go through so much pain!? 😭

[@focusonchrist77]

I am terribly sorry guys for your loss. I can only imagine how difficult and heart aching it must be to lose a child. What I also wanted to note is that we scapegoat God for the sin and the death and the pain, calamity, corruption, loss and lack we see in the world. We have blamed God for the death we see around us instead of blaming the sin/iniquity/missing the mark/not partaking of eternal life that entered this world through Adam’s sin. The wages of sin is death. Mankind concluded that God pays us with death because of our sin. Sin is the one that brings death in the world. Paul makes a clear statement that the wages of sin is death ”For the wages which sin pays is death, but the [bountiful] free GIFT of God is eternal life through (in union with) Jesus Christ our Lord.“ ‭‭Romans‬ ‭6‬:‭23‬ By one man sin entered Therefore, as sin came into the world through one man(Adam) and death as the result of sin, so death spread to all men, [no one being able to stop it or to escape its power] because all men sinned.“ ‭‭Romans‬ ‭5‬:‭12‬. The only thing God gives is eternal life. God can only give what He has in Himself. There is no darkness and death in God so how can God give us death? God is not the Author of Death. The only thing in God is light and life. Even God Himself died with the sin of the world but rose up on the third day. To show us that He is not the Author of death and when death came knocking at His door He was raised up and that kicking down the power of fear death held on us. Death is dead guys! Death is defeated and we have the light of life in Jesus. We need to see the book of Job and the Old Testament not carnally but spiritually. Not according to the Letter but according to the Spirit of the book. And Jesus is the Spirit of the whole Bible. In the Old Testament it was Christ concealed and the New Testament is Christ revealed for who He is “the word of God made flesh”. God needs to be sanctified in the eyes of the church. There is nowhere we Jesus brought death to anyone in the Gospels. And He said I only do what I see my Father do. When Jesus’ disciples wanted Jesus to call down fire to consume the Samaritans for denying them access through their town what did Jesus say to Peter? In fact the Bible says He rebuked them. ”And when His disciples James and John observed this, they said, Lord, do You wish us to command fire to come down from heaven and consume them, even as Elijah did? [II Kings 1:9-16.] But He turned and rebuked and severely censured them. He said, You do not know of what sort of spirit you are,“”For the Son of Man did not come to destroy men's lives, but to save them [from the penalty of eternal death]. And they journeyed on to another village.“ ‭‭Luke‬ ‭9‬:‭55,56 AMPC‬‬ We live in a fallen world where sin and death is around us however in that we have light and life and death is defeated and will be completely eradicated when death will put in the lake of fire. Rev. 20:14. ‭‭

[@mercymbula8653]

Sending 🫂♥️ to the dads.

[@millicentnjambi7893]

What a moment.. so overwhelming. Hats off to this very courageous men for being vulnerable. 🎉

[@isaiah9100]

When the sad news came in about O'neal's daughter having died in the pool, i remember he had come for his clinic and was waiting for the doctor, it was such a hard time, unbelievable

[@alicemuthoni8086]

I am sorry that your most excruciating moments of pain and loss were plastered all over social media with people forming opinions and commenting on things that were none of their damned business as they did not know the full truth and the pain you were all going through.😢😢😢

[@teresiahkemuma3684]

Having lost a baby, I feel their pain but O'neal 😢😢 I'm so sorry.

[@rosemarygichohi6774]

Thank you Kambua and all the guests! These are experiences that need to be shared. Thank you for sharing you have helped me with my grief process. Truly grateful for your words!

[@marygithui7958]

But we have very intentional present dads. May God heal them. I teared listening to Willis. This is heavy.

[@teresiamungai7602]

Oooooh my. This is heavy 😢.

[@bethwanjiku2756]

My heart breaks for the men..oh my waiting patiently for part 2...i had not really thot how my hubby may have processed our losses too...a conversation i should have with him by Gods grace

[@eunicewanjiru8200]

Woow What a conversation

[@linetwambui8296]

its so good to heah willis side of the story

[@alicemwihaki4049]

Wah today's was heavy 😢 wah

[@paulinefaithonyango]

PART 2 PLEASE

[@JBcarol]

One day we'll meet our loved ones, when Christ comes.

[@annmwongeli2486]

This is so hard to watch been there very painful brings back all the memories

[@kambua]

We are all healing together ❤️‍🩹

[@villagecocktail]

Wow!

[@Shee_Wainaina]

I agree so much on compassionate ways for the medics to relay such news. In 2016 I went for an ultrasound at 18weeks. I'd never been there and never done it,I was super excited. The guy asked, 'what have you noted ' I said the backbone, I've heard a heartbeat. So naively. He looked at me and said, 'means you were not keen, there is no heartbeat, no movement so the baby is dead' he wiped the gel off my tummy and just left and said, I will get the report at the reception.Heh!!!!

[@Gr9814]

I’m so sorry you went through that.

[@Shee_Wainaina]

@@Gr9814 Thank you

[@naomiwangare754]

Unfortunately many are like that

[@antonynyamori7099]

🙌🙌🙌

[@lynnettekarimi2860]

Eh! That ending left me feeling some type of way, sending hugs to all ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@anniemuisyo6327]

Wow the ending 😢

[@waihiga124]

😪😪😪 I am so sorry gentlemen.

[@cirumuiruri]

❤

[@Lizsimaloi]

No pain can match that of loosing your own baby😢😢😢😢

[@joskyshams4758]

Doctors needs to know how to break news. I'm also a victim.

[@paulinekawira4524]

Oh noooo,it hurts n hurts

[@jonesbarasa6105]

Ohh 😢😢😢😢

[@sarahnyambura1634]

Pain is pain but O'Neal ? Oh my goodness 😢

[@marymarie405]

Weeeeeh majameni😢

[@dukeof032]

Men hugs 🫂❤️

[@veldahmonyi7301]

Uweeeee😢😢😢

[@user-vf4xk9ns4u]

Having lost a baby,😢,very traumatic but God

[@paulinekawira4524]

Doctors fail parents wen breaking loss,"Remember it hard for you to conceive again"

[@fridamukami626]

Wah...its not easy to loose a baby. I lost 3consecutive pregnancies and is never easy and it will never be

[@TabbyKaranja-ob5xt]

Painful.....but is conversation complete?

[@fancytulula9537]

😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@keziagatheca1343]

Jesus Christ😢