Being Not Straight -

[@RenegadesReact]

GTA 5 Modded moments that will cause a lawsuit...: kzbin.info/www/bejne/mXmaZZhnbdSUndk

[@WarsunGames]

You are not the only one who doesn't have kids. Or had sex until they are 50. Trust me. Its not uncommon. Most people from the 90s where sluts, 2000s where arrogant A holes so no. Try the Zodiac to figure out who you re compatible with.

[@dariuszrutkowski420]

Nate walks into a room: Hey Nick, I think someone stole your car. (crickets) OMG! Someone stole Nick's car and they took Nick too.!

[@Sujinpuffy]

"Don't knock it 'till you try it" is something asexuals deal with constantly. "How do you know you don't want sex if you haven't tried it?" gets asked a LOT and the answer is always because they've never had a desire to and it should be left at that.

[@amazingaudroid1921]

Exactly! I’ve been told that so much from people who know me and even from random strangers butting in.

[@theirishviking9278]

it's even better when you have the Aces that actually have tried it and found it boring because they don't know how to compute that(the idiots, not the ace person)

[@geminiwolf0077]

The same logic can be applied to gay, bi, pan, and straight relationships. Like, I'm pansexual(I'm not quite sure about the romantic part though), so with that logic, I won't know I'm pansexual/panromantic until I've f*cked every adult human I found attractive. I've just decided to turn the tables and ask, "How do you know you're straight?". Like, you don't just stop being straight because you're single. Sometimes, I wonder how I haven't gone insane on this planet.

[@theirishviking9278]

@@geminiwolf0077 booze, books, and gaming. Generally that works to keep people sane....ish

[@un-näymed]

Just answer with "What do you mean you're not gay, have you ever had a gay relationship? So how would you know you don't like it? Maybe you just haven't met the right person yet."

[@dylandreisbach1986]

Unless someone basically says "yes you can touch/grope me" then it is not ever okay to do it. I don't care what gender or identity, that is just sexual harassment. If someone wants to hook up, they will say they want too. No need to force it, that is just wrong and illegal depending on how much of a horrible person you are. Its always okay to ask, but the answer they give is the final answer. And then if they say they do have the same feelings, still ask before touching them or anything. I don't understand how someone can be comfortable groping strangers. You are just a creep, no one likes that. You go from a chance of dating if you just asked, to an absolute no because you shown how little you care about personal boundrys.

[@chendror872]

Exactly true

[@noremac7216]

Well it's not always okay to ask. Better not go up and ask to grope strangers

[@beyondviolet]

@@noremac7216 obviously read the room first 😂

[@iiiisssssaaaaaacccccc]

I’m confuse, what does sexual harassment have to with what this video about?

[@matthewwatson5029]

I agree, also the reason why some people are gropers is that they don't have empathy thus they don't care if they hurt anyone.

[@jeodraws2473]

"Nobody is all kinds of smart But we are all some kind of dumd" -Nick I will take your wisdom to my grave

[@Vasarcdus]

I can't take credit for it. It's my favorite comedian Chris Porter.

[@VerbDoesStuff]

It’s true! And you can also go the other way with it: Nobody is all kinds of dumb but we are all some kind of smart

[@edwardnigma2638]

@@VerbDoesStuff well this is why I’ve created the term logically illogical

[@TheOsamaBahama]

And it's true. Not even the greatest genius knows everything, because the body of knowledge out there is just too great. So we all truly are some kind of dumb.

[@aaronnwithtwoNs]

Jaiden is just far too wholesome to partake in any sort of intimate activity, such as… *shudder* H A N D H O L D I N G

[@laziwastaken]

Oh, the humanity! Not... NOT HAND HOLDING!

[@TheKarret]

THINK OF THE CHILDREN! D>

[@ducksoup10]

*le GASP* hand holding!?!? *le faint*

[@nenmaster5218]

@@TheKarret Question: Where do you think lies the Main-Source and Fuel-Station of LGBT-Hate in 2022?

[@TheKarret]

@@nenmaster5218 What?

[@arthurzackaryabrin]

I literally had to explain my therapist that there is a difference between romanitc and sexual atrraction. I'm panro ace so when I told her I was asexual, but mentioned my girlfriend in the next sentence or so, she was really confused. So I explained that while I am sex negative, I am very capable of feeling romantic attraction. Like, people have one night stands. All the sexual attraction, non of the romantic one. So why can't there be the opposite? All the romantic attraction, and non of the sexual one. I think she understood, so I'm calling that a win!! Way too many people don't know that there is a difference between romantic and sexual attraction so I was really happy that someone with her reach spoke up about it!! I think this video will helps lots of people realize a lot about themselves!!! I mean, we asexuals are enough people to invade denmark!!

[@xx_isabel_the_wolf_xx3869]

Did i see you in Hasan's comment section?

[@Kittypika4]

@@xx_isabel_the_wolf_xx3869 I was thinking the exact same thing lmao

[@karlkewbz]

Ngl, even thought I found out I was ace long before this video, this video really spoke to me, and I'm glad it has (and hope it continues to) in the future!

[@ElijahWoods345]

Me too but my brother thinks I copied her and said I was gay

[@mortem8104]

That nice

[@GLArts_64]

Same, this and r/aace really made me realize my asexuality and I’m so happy.

[@Akiku2]

Wish I’d known I was aroace years ago. My ex would have stayed a friend instead of us breaking up and growing apart.

[@MrSpy13011]

Not everyone needs to be in a romantic relationship. Just get a good set of friends and you're set.

[@lemontea417]

platonic relationships exist too! and fwbs too...

[@definitelynotanarcissist.3135]

And some people are inevitably going to be like, “but the next generation.” We’ve already got 8 billion people on this planet; China is so overcrowded, people are getting paid to not have more than 1 child. I’m pretty sure some people being asexual or even just not wanting kids won’t be the end of the world. And if they want to be parents, that’s what adoption and donors are for.

[@ness576]

@@lemontea417 yes! Love and relationships come in so so so many shapes, not only romantic or sexual, the two which normativity and social conventions suggest or even socially pressure you into having to choose from.

[@suzub8963]

My response to anyone asking me the old questions of "when are you going to get married? When are ya going to have kids?" Would always be this: "When's your funeral?" This is not because I want them harm for asking it to me, but to put it in perspective. To realize how inappropriate it is to ask someone when they are scheduling big life moments instead of letting them happen when or if they do naturally.

[@syabilaazri7834]

You not the only one think like that. Not only asking someone single or an ace "when are you going to have kid?" is kind of hurt but also it kind of hurt toward people that who are married. I have a aunt who cant have children because of her cancer. So it kind of upset when i hear people keep talking of how she still have no children when my mom already have seven kid but what they dont know is that my aunt have cancer and it almost at the final stage and the docter say that if she try to have baby, it might be danger for her life and the baby too. So, for the rest of her life, she have been my second mother toward me and my siblings. She die when i was 16 but my uncle told me that she always happy when with me and my siblings

[@suzub8963]

@@syabilaazri7834 I'm so sorry for your loss and I'm happy that she had such a close family including you and your siblings that loved her so much. Some people try to excuse it with, "it's traditional way of thinking" or something like that. We are no longer living in the ways of the past, we are not our ancestors. It should no longer be a thing of expecting life's moments like it's a step by step program to have a good life. Thank you for sharing your story with me, Syabila. Know that it means a lot to me.

[@ahumanbeingfromtheearth1502]

I'm using this

[@AmazingAutist]

That could really backfire if they actually answered though. Like unbeknownst to you they were actually dying

[@Shalakor]

@@cathl4953 The best way to overcome that is to keep it on the topic of you instead of being a full turnaround, saying something along the lines of: "Do you also want to know when my funeral is while I'm at it?"

[@edim108]

25:00 That was basically my realization moment 😂 When 98% of music and books and tv shows are about people doing romantic stuff bc they're in love or whatever it's hard to understand you're fundamentally not into that stuff. That's part of the reason I DETEST most™ poetry. Nearly all they ever write about is their romantic feelings and love and stuff, which I am fundamentally incapable of relating to in a meaningful way or understanding the emotional implications of "she doesn't love me" beyond "damn, that sucks". It's like talking about colours with a blind person...

[@ninjabro3330]

45:43 what nick said really speaks to me. My last relationship was bad for my mental health cuz I felt like I was constantly putting in effort just to be with this person. Even to talk to them was a task cuz they wouldn't respond from days to weeks. Eventually ending with them saying "oops. Im dating this other person. I didn't know we were dating" like wtf? We kissed and I would say I love you alot. To this day I never want to spend that much effort just to be with someone

[@spaceartiste2496]

Yes, aroaces can indeed be in relationships! If they want to! Queerplatonic relationships are a great example of this. Something closer than friendship, but non-romantic and non-sexual. I really want a queerplatonic partner myself. I love the idea of having the same devotion as in a romantic relationship, but without any romantic or sexual feelings. Just having a partner to share your life with and being each others' first priority sounds so nice.

[@danielobrien1571]

Cool profile picture, how long's your hair? I admire woman that grow theirs out to impressive lengths, please describe yours?

[@AmazingAutist]

@@danielobrien1571 what the fuck type of creep-ass question is this?

[@fox-fluffl9002]

My friends and I often joke that if none of them find a romantic partner we all get married for tax benefits XD

[@gothic_ace2037]

@@fox-fluffl9002 i mean.... why not? sounds like a good deal to me XD

[@MakORollit]

​@@danielobrien1571they're not a woman

[@yumega]

Aro ace person who is married and has been with their partner for 8+ years here. :) This video makes me so happy, and seeing people learning the specifics of it is just as nice. It took me a long time to come to the realization that those labels suited me like she did. I guess the best way to describe being aro ace for me is to just say that romantic feelings and "intimate" desire aren't a part of my life. I never missed them or was sad because of it because the entire thing is about feelings I just... don't experience. Any "intimate" desire/ feelings I have are entirely wrapped up in making my partner happy (not as something I *have* to do, mind you, just something I want to do for them) but on my own, there just... aren't those feelings. My partner has attempted to explain romance to me in the past, and it just doesn't connect. It is very abstract/ theoretical to me because while I can look at a candle- lit dinner and recognize it as a romantic gesture, the only emotional reaction I have toward it is being grateful that they went through the trouble to do something they thought I might like. The way my friend explain this a decade ago is perfect: "[My partner at the time] is the kind of person who would set up a candle- lit dinner, and you are the kind of person that would walk into that room and ask why the lights are off." I also absolutely did the "I'm probably bi because I don't have a preference for either gender" thing like she did. Lol

[@margicates553]

Oh 🤯

[@sirwahthemonke]

Legit question here, how does that work? Does your partner not desire sex? If they do is your relationship open?

[@Zer-db1bp]

Great to see a big name on KZbin bringing awareness to the Ace community. They’re definitely not talked about or thought of as much as other sexualities.

[@MiraNecole]

let alone respected! I've had so many at school lack the basic understanding and mutual respect towards me because I never had any desire for romance or sexual interaction like many other kids did (I found the girls were the worse cause they found I was too quirky for a girl apparently...), Jaiden saying AroAce is cool and she was very open about that made up for the shit I dealt with ^^

[@un-näymed]

I think an important part of asexuality and aromatic is that it's a spectrum. Some do not feel sexual or romantic attraction at all some feel only one of them, some can only fall in love when they had a long and deep platonic relationship with someone and some like the intimacy or pleasure of sex but don't need to be physically or romantically attracted to that person. I really like that jaiden made this video because aromantic and asexuality are still pretty unknown and often not understood. I heard many people say that you can only become aro/ace after trauma or if you are impotent, which is obviously not how this works. I also liked your reaction you both had also a lot of interesting things to say.

[@coba3220]

You seem like you're an expert. I have a kind of a stupid question for you and i'm not sure about the answer i might have given myself, so i need help. Do people still count as asexual if they masturbate?

[@mirajoe1829]

@@coba3220 am not ace but i think i can respond. Yes ace can masturbate and still be ace. Just like a straight man is still straight even if they masturbate. Not sure if its a good example but i try. 😅

[@neroquin]

coba - I am ace and I can confirm, yes. It's that you don't feel sexual attraction to people, but you can still have a drive. Asexuals can also just straight up have sex with people without being any less asexual. It's about the attraction, not the action. Also it's a spectrum! So some people might feel it very rarely or only after developing a deep emotional bond with someone. There's tons more but that's the basics. Hope this helped :)

[@un-näymed]

@@coba3220 sure. libido ( the drive for sexual pleasure) and sexual attraction to someone are two different things. Ace people can masturbate for pleasure, release stress or any other reason they are still ace.

[@coba3220]

@@neroquin thank you!

[@jp3813]

Growing up watching "Married with Children" taught me that having a spouse & kids isn't necessarily a formula for happiness. Yes, it's a sitcom, but still based on people's miseries.

[@creepergd4884]

I like this channel because they actually talk a lot, it's not just a run-of-the-mill reaction channel where they are silent the whole time. They actually comment on stuff and it's pretty refreshing.

[@dulizardglasses3170]

I have a few members of lgbtq in my family. My uncle is gay and my sister is lesbian. My sister coming out was pretty funny. It wasn’t anything big but it was Christmas and after a lot of the guests went upstairs she said to my grandma and mom “hey I have a girlfriend, do you want to see a picture?” And it was the most random thing. But of course my grandma was happy she found someone she loved. My mom was also happy she found someone too. Thankfully I have very excepting and open family members.

[@andyidv]

aw thats so sweet! im really happy she was able to come out so casually like that, a lot of families arent able to provide an environment where someone feels comfortable enough to do so. good for yall!

[@dulizardglasses3170]

@@andyidv I hear a lot of bad story’s about Unaccepting family’s and I’m just glad mine is open and excepting.

[@IndieHorrorEnthusiast]

I wish my family were the same :[ I tried explaining to my dad what aro/ace is (I am aroace myself, but I was and still closeted) and despite my best efforts to explain to him, he continued to generalise aroace people as people who are scarred and too afraid to go back into romantic / sexual relationships because of past trauma.. and it hurts. A lot. Because my dad is really a good and supportive father with everything else, just not when it comes to LGBTQIA+ stuff... I wish there would be time where he learns to accept my aromanticism and asexuality, but given his headstrong and stubborn nature, it wouldn't happen anytime soon.

[@dulizardglasses3170]

@@IndieHorrorEnthusiast I wish the best for luck to you.

[@Iamtk777]

It "friend crush" thing is called a squish! :) And you're completely right, aroace people (and even allo, which is non-aroace, people) can have queerplatonic relationships, which are the "I want to be roommates for life!" thing.

[@spiritualmonk5337]

4:25 here you go

[@jerrumite4425]

Thanks Caleb

[@Terracylle]

Thanksm calebm

[@aokaygamer8192]

Thanks Caleb

[@skycipher6665]

Thanks Caleb

[@rockassassin64]

i relate so hard to people just thinking I'm gay.I mean I am but in college, everyone thought I was a gay man. Because I was a flamboyant theater kid. and I wasn't out as trans So I guess they were right but In the wrong direction

[@mirai.anonymous]

ur awesome !

[@rockassassin64]

@@mirai.anonymous thank you

[@edwardnigma2638]

Well I’m also asexual because I find the mere idea of sex to me is awkward, disturbing and unnecessary . All I want is a person who can hold my hand all through life and they understand me as long as their okay with it .

[@anaveragenightlordsfan]

I think this video from Jaiden has made me discovered that I’m maybe aro. Like, I’ve never had crushes, I’ve never thought to ask someone out, and I don’t really think about romantic stuff a lot. And I think if I were in a relationship I’d probably treat them like a friend and not a partner. ALTHOUGH IM STILL EXTREMELY INTIMATE, AND I STILL WANT TO FU- *bonk* ow… anyway the reason why I Im not sure yet is because one, I just found out. And two, I’m not really a sociable guy and probably just don’t know my type (personality wise) yet. So if I am, I guess I am a aro-straight male? I don’t know how these things work out.

[@dylandreisbach1986]

I know right. I am thinking about myself too. Im glad she is spreading a less known section of identity.

[@anaveragenightlordsfan]

You know funny thing is, I technically already told my parents I’m aro, before I knew I this knowledge that I am maybe aro. They were fine with it btw.

[@dylandreisbach1986]

@@anaveragenightlordsfan that’s good. I am lucky to have parents who are accepting to all sexual identities. Can’t imagine how hard it would be to be afraid to tell your parents you are different from the norm.

[@anaveragenightlordsfan]

@@dylandreisbach1986 I told them that I wasn’t into romance but was still into the… you know… BAM! before I knew it was part of the lgbt. Also I’m most likely not gonna have any aro flags everywhere since flags are not my thing.

[@joda7697]

It's called being "aroallo" (or sometimes "alloaro"), which is short for aromantic allosexual. And from the sounds of it you're a heterosexual one too. So you'd be a straight alloaro/ a heterosexual aromantic (you can leave out the allo part)

[@moonlightmoonchild1133]

seriously, I'm so happy that she made that video. there is so little representation or understanding of aro/ace identities in general public and this will help a lot of people understand/realise who they are. as an aroace person myself, I relate to a lot of things she said. even though I never felt an urge to create fake crushes. nobody around me cared about this things so I just lived my life until this point:)

[@MidnightKittehBoi]

I am so sorry to hear you were gaslit like that. Assault is unacceptable.

[@SouthHill_]

Jaiden's a fellow ace, is she? Can really relate to her story, not being able to understand other people and the like. For me it was "I'm quite sure I don't like guys so I guess then by default I'm straight?", and stayed like that for most of my teens and thought I was schizoid for a while, up until I discovered that asexuality was a thing. I don't hate the idea of being in a romantic relationship however, but I don't think I'm a romantic either, having never had a crush on anyone or anything. Since I don't outright feel nothing about the idea of it as I do with sexual attraction, perhaps I got into that same line of thinking as before? Probably just demiromantic or something along those lines, me thinks.

[@alexanderhunt88]

Could always date a fellow ace.

[@SouthHill_]

Well, in the end I'm also a complete and utter introvert, so I don't get too many opportunities to meet people in general. :D

[@alexanderhunt88]

@@SouthHill_ Eh, you'll be fine without being in a relationship. Not everybody needs one.

[@SouthHill_]

@@alexanderhunt88 Quite quite, I've always said I'd be just fine if I stayed single my entire life. :P

[@Vestaxowner1]

that vid made me realize it about myself, huh.... neat

[@thepaladinauthoryoutube]

What's funny is that if you were particularly religious, aromantic and asexuality is great. The Apostle Paul says, and I paraphrase to the extreme: "Men, if you don't feel attraction to anyone like me, great! Use it to do productive stuff like I do with ministry. Keeps you from complications and distractions. If you fall madly in love with the right girl, marry the girl. Just be smart about it." (1 Corinthians chapter 7) Turns out there's no moral problem with just not really wanting sex. Who knew? XD

[@AmazingAutist]

You really need to tell all the other Christians who are really upset about asexual people existing for some reason. Like, Chastity is only okay if you suffer through it?

[@TheTownHeifer]

@@AmazingAutist Yeah, that’s exactly it

[@DarkPrincessAly]

Demiromantic: The absence of romantic attraction until a strong bond is already formed. I only had crushes on my friends. Like, exclusively my friends. Regardless of sex/gender, every single crush was a friend first. And it was Super Confusing bc I was developing crushes on my female friends and felt Awful until I met my first gay friend (who I also had a crush on before he came out), and he taught me A Lot, and I felt a lil less ashamed of myself.

[@kaydakitty3566]

Jaiden’s video actually helped me realize that I am aroace

[@bobfive3140]

Same here, weird to find out from a video but the definition just fits, you know

[@thepixelman4776]

Congrats!👏

[@castroedgar316]

I think I'm in a subcategory of it

[@soragranda]

Aromatic?

[@bluewolf6323]

Congratulations! You are beautiful and valid!

[@mudfishnick9768]

Dating wasn't really an option for me in highschool. To summarize why: My class size seldom numbered more than 30 students, 95% of the people in my class I've known since 1st Grade, and I was literally the one guy in my class that wasn't a beefcake jock that played every sport available. Not to mention that my social skills, especially around girls, are so bad it makes Prince Zuko look like an absolute Casanova. On the upside, my family (both immediate and extended) have never really pressured me into getting a relationship

[@TheKarret]

39:14 In the ace world, we call that a squish - an urge to be really good platonic friends with someone. 49 There's a perspective that's been growing where sexuality is fluid and it sometimes does change - not for everyone, but for some people it can. [but not inherently in an LGB to Straight way, it could be the other way or one LGBT orientation to another LGBT one] 52 Sounds like sexual assault [not full on r*pe, but unwanted sexual touching counts iirc]. Imagine if he did that to a woman, ya know? That's so not cool that that happened to you; I'm sorry. ;C It's good that you don't talk to each other anymore. 1:05:09 She could have just been bi and switched up who she dated because she's attracted to both?

[@amberanime]

I have 0 understanding for guys who hang out with me after I tell them day 1 that I am NOT looking for a romantic or sexual relationship, Only friendships, and only want to hang to see if there is potential for friendship, and they agree and tag along, and then weeks later tell me they want to date, and I say I want to be friends but if they cant be friends I will understand if they go out of my life (but will be angry with them that they decided to hang with me if dating was the goal, if the romantic feelings just sort of happend despite plans for friendship thats a different story I can sympethise with that), and they say they want to stay friends, only to then start distancing themselves from me. I also have no understanding for guys who agree to hang despite knowing i have 0 interest in romance or sex, they still hang out with the intention to score sex or both and then feel insulted or upset when they cant change my mind. I'm not ever stringing anyone along. I pretty much say to every person on the day I meet them, HEY btw, not looking to date. May be a weird thing to say from the get go, but I want to avoid drama's where I can. Thankfully real life has not been nearly as dramatic. Almost all guys I'm friends with where already in a relationship when i met them, the ones that didn't where not looking for romances at that time either, and only 2 guys where looking for a relationship. One walked out of my life after I said No, the other stayed one of my closest friends (and has since found an amazing girlfriend who he goes steady with for about 6 years now). I dont think there is anything wrong with breaking contact if you where hanging with somebody to see if they could become a romantic partner, they where not clear on of romance was possible or not, you find out that wont happen, and would feel to heartbroken to be near them, I have full understanding if you walking away. But not by distancing or ghosting. Thats cowardly. just like somebody should not string you along romanticly, you should not string people along in a friendship way either. if your not interested in being friends, Say it clearly, and cut contact. Thats what adults should do. Communicate. clearly. And If somebody warns you from the get go they are not available, and they are not looking for friendships, then don't waste either of our times and blame them when they say no again down the line. 0 understanding for ghosting, 0 understanding for people who try despite clear langauge from the other that it's not an option (like pretending to be friends when they just want to seduce you or think they can change your mind), 0 understanding for people who try to stay friends when thats clearly not what they want and hurt everyone involved longer. It's simple. Instead of dancing around the topic as most people do, just be clear from day one what your looking for. If you already dont agree on that, no point in investing in ANY type of relationship, platonic included. If your open to both friendship and romance depending on how it goes, cool go for it. But I dont want to go trough losing people I thought I was devolping genuine friendships with only because they where only interested in banging me and dont want girls as friends. You wasted my time and needlesly hurt me. People act like the ones who's romantic and or sexual feelings are not returned are the only ones hurting. Thats not true. It hurts A LOT to lose somebody you thought was a close friend. People underestimate this sort of pain. It's not an attack when people say I want to be friends. It's not a lesser relationship, it's a different one. Especialy for AroAce people. there is nothing ''just'' about friends to me. Friends mean the world to me. And I dont invest in friendships lightly. Thankfully most guys I met where not jerks, and where willing to share their reasons for wanting to hang out with me day one so would could prevent wasting each others precious time. These days I just drop the ''Hi, I'm (insert name), I'm (insert some basic personal info that can be deal breakers for some relationships of any kind, including the AroAce part.) Long story short, communicate. Be clear on what you want. That goes both ways. Distancing is not clear language because you could also be distancing due to depression, hectic life happening, a new job etc. You could just be busy, especialy if you keep replying with excuses. People will keep hope friendship is possible. So dont do that. You dont want to be friends? Just say so and move on. Dont be a coward about. Stringing along is stringing along. That applies to sexual, romantic and platonic relationships.

[@Ohokk0]

this reaction (the parts with you guys talking about your crushes) prompted me to do some research and i can now say i'm gray-aro renegades made me gray aro

[@superpuppetmaster8947]

I actually like when you guys pause the video to talk, you guys provide good commentary and it let's the fans know your opinions on things.

[@CharlesinTampa]

This video made me reminisce about my first crush as a kid in school. It never became a romantic relationship, but instead was one of the most influential and important friendships of my life. Sad part is... I no longer remember her name.

[@Derpatron-gy6mp]

Damn you just reminded me of a friend I had in school a while back too, we were pretty close until he had to move. Don't recall their name either, guess that's just how the sands of time work I'm afraid. It was completely platonic, but i remember being pretty sad after they moved. Perhaps I did have feelings for him, but I was too young to know...

[@danielobrien1571]

Nice profile picture, how long's your hair? I admire woman that grow theirs out to impressive lengths, please describe it?

[@themessenger1871]

Nick: still crushing on Jaiden Nate: talking about 3 relationships 3 times

[@pleasehelp2446]

Nate I love you, you are so open and understanding.

[@luckycaptianrabbitking70]

An aroace icon we all need -An aroace

[@VioletMaeve]

Like I said on her video, I'm basically a trans-pansexual girl, but still haven't really cared to find someone until now. My high school had about over 1 thousand, alot of kids. I just wish I was able to express one of those of my life with my family. My family is really old fashion to the point where I have a great aunt that's calling viruses on her phone "Demons" and unsure "how she got them" in the first place. Also they are all super religious and stand for "God created man and woman, therefore they will marry as such. Man and another Man was not meant to marry, as well as a Woman with another Woman." I really wish they would just accept me as I am, I can't even be any slight of gay, like wear pink or bright colors, due to their imposing Gender Roles. And I'm 27 years old. I'm a grown ass adult.

[@geminiwolf0077]

As a non-binary pansexual bad b*tch, I hope your situation gets better. Just remember that true family and friends will love and respect you, related by blood or not. 🖤💜🤍💛

[@VioletMaeve]

@@geminiwolf0077 Hopefully, thank you for the kind encouragement!

[@geminiwolf0077]

@@VioletMaeve Of course (:

[@danielobrien1571]

Nice profile picture, how long's your hair? I admire woman that grow theirs to impressive lengths, please describe yours?

[@mikelcatalan4421]

I related to a lot of stuff Jaiden said in her video, which made me open to the posibility that i might be aroace, however there are some things that make me doubt it. For one, there have been instances in which i have considered some girls to be particularly pretty; also, i sometimes engage in, let's say, "not wholesome, one person activities (being careful with language just to be safe)". On the other hand, beyond finding some girls pretty, i have never felt anything i could consider romantic for anyone, i have felt no need or drive to be in a relationship or hook up with someone, to the point that i'm on my 6th year of college and i haven't been in any romantic or sexual relationship, at most being a little self concious that almost all of my friends have or had have relationship experience and i can only add to conversations about those topics based on (what i think is) common sense. Basically, it's the first thing i mention that makes me doubt whether i'm in the aro or ace umbrella or not.

[@vickypedia1308]

It's possible to be asexual *or* aromantic, it doesn't have to be both at the same time! And it's not that aces don't ever have "fun alone time", it's just that they don't feel compelled to do it with others. Honestly, some of the aces I know are the most dirtiest people ever XD

[@theirishviking9278]

without knowing the full details and just going off my own knowledge of the terms you might be pansexual/panromantic/another one I can't remember the name of... your attractions might be varied or just rare in the people you know honestly look up the more fringe ones like ace/pan/demi and see if anything seems to fit took me years to realize I was pan and I still don't know the full title... but that's mostly because after a point I stopped looking for a title and just said "I am me i'll figure the rest out as I live it"

[@micahvisser3772]

I thought at first you guys were doing this video for views by stretching the video out, but I only realized you expanded the conversation in a good direction once I watched a good amount of this vid. great discussion.

[@evanvison3106]

11:34 My entire highschool consisited of about 30-40 kids maximum. throughout all of my years there (though it was a private school so that makes sense). My graduating class alone had eight kids in total and the class behind us had four. Plus, to add to the small chaos, 90% of the school was related in some way. like 90% was one big family tree. and the other 10% was a bunch of families that just showed up for a few years and left or had been there from kindergarden till they graduated. Everyone knew everyone and we all new when drama went down between people. This was usually a problem because that made it even harder to make new friends and have knew experiences. The school was ok but man was I happy to graduate and meet some new people who weren't massive hypocrates.

[@danielobrien1571]

Nice profile picture, how long's your hair? I admire woman that grow theirs out to impressive lengths, please describe it?

[@reagankey]

Being pans myself, Nic's small description of pansexual is exactly how I put it 😂

[@para811]

your mom

[@Ohokk0]

yea it's perfect

[@light2499]

I too like kitchenware

[@theirishviking9278]

I'm pan as well i more feel it as some people are... "cute"(best I've come with for the explanation) and I don't really know why I know I'm not just pan but I can't be bothered to look up what else I am, at this point fuck the titles I'm just "me"

[@reagankey]

@@theirishviking9278 PREACH! lol yeah labels can be frustrating and sometimes confusing so you do you and take your own time with it

[@kingofmonsters14]

i never got attraction to celebrities. yeah, they're pretty/handsome, but i don't think it's worth going "i want them!!!"

[@djdomain]

Short Version - Jaiden tells everyone that she'll never be their waifu

[@Da_Shark]

I cant say I'm at all surprised Pretty sure she would have said something way sooner if not for her.......... time in the degenerate sun as it were..... she didn't want them to have ANY extra reason to do it

[@beyondviolet]

idk what this is referring to and I am concerned

[@noremac7216]

@@beyondviolet He's referring to the rule 34 work of Jaiden that got a lot of attention a while back. Which I'm not saying it's not a big deal It's just that it's weird how it's gotten so much attention when it's happened to literally every vtubber or big KZbinr who uses a 2D Avatar

[@beyondviolet]

@@noremac7216 I see. I did kind of wonder if that played a part in this video

[@leggotheeggodemon1323]

I... don't see how that would be a factor??? I mean... she just said shes aeroace. I don't think that's going to heavily influence r34... at all cause regardless people are going to draw whatever fantasy onto her fictional character whatever they wan't regardless of her sexual preference? I mean hell Maybe it is the reason And if it is I guess I just don't get it. Id personally imagine it as just the procrastination/discomfort around revealing something that personal of yourself to the internet. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[@noremac7216]

@@leggotheeggodemon1323 plus she literally says this is a fairly recent discovery of herself

[@thenaut2111]

U explaining u being demiromantic like that Nick has made me think that I might feel that same way, like everything u said I was like "yeah I get that too"

[@justanidiotmk2749]

Tbh ever since that romance vid she gave off that vibe to begin with.

[@justarose]

39:06 funny enough, we have a name for that in aromantic spaces: a platonic "crush" is called a squish!

[@Calais-dn5bl]

I can almost only associate Aero ace people as the "Cool Kids", because every time I hear the term my first thought is 'wow, they must be amazing at flight sim games, they're so cool" but even when remember what it really means I'm generally jealous, mainly because I'm more of a recluse daydreaming pervert who has a really bad hentai addiction, and heavily pushed towards intimacy rather than romantic. honestly being a romantic sounds exhausting more than pleasing. I tried multiple times to at least slow down, but with my nearly braindead job, my mind wanders a lot and when thoughts/images of porn/hentai pops into my head, its difficult to get rid of it

[@technicaldifficulties368]

My high school was always 2 combined towns due to population levels. My graduating class was like 200 kids.

[@jackjones5842]

Fun fact: In my old school,Kindergarten to 12th, Valentines wasn’t allowed… Actually, most group stuff wasn’t allowed; you weren’t even allowed to have people sign Yearbooks, not even TEACHERS could!

[@helper_games]

I wanted to give her a hug after she said she went 13 (i think it was 13, cant remember) years not knowing why she was, what she was struggling with

[@raulvalencia8573]

"Don't knock it till you try it" should only apply to food, And even then, food that at minimum doesn't brake your ethical standards.

[@NefariousDreary]

I don't think there's anything wrong with sleeping around as long as there's a mutual understanding between the parties involved. But of course, it's never good to lead someone on and take advantage of someone's feelings just to sleep with them. You definitely to talk about where you're coming from before engaging in the act and I think if someone does want a relationship but you don't, then it's best to not even get physically involved with them because it will cause complications and you don't want to take advantage of their feelings.

[@TomGonnaGetcha]

The rule 34 artists are shaking in their boots

[@unheardsirensincorporated2036]

Is that the Donkey Kong Country under water level music in the background? Awesome.

[@DissedRedEngie]

No kidding. I have wallpaper engine going on, and it's all Donkey Kong Country ost. Got scared there for a bit.

[@geminiwolf0077]

I feel like to me personally, romance and platonic relationships are roles rather than attractions. Mainly because everytime I become good friends with someone and we click, to me they could be a great partner or friend. I just can't tell the difference. *sigh* attraction is confusing lol

[@secretjanus]

Demisexual? Demiromantic?

[@smolmoru]

I just got reminded of actually multiple situations pre realizing that I'm aroace, when coworkers would ask me if I find this or that person attractive etc. and I just said "well .. they look like a person" like what do you want to hear from me? it's just another human. I did mention when I like someone's style tho, but that's just me and my love for artistically aesthetic selfexpression. I mean it's a form of art and I'm an artist

[@multiwaypche6640]

44:46 that moment is so accurate if you're wearing green and the green bird is flightless

[@CaptainCat101]

It's fine that Jaiden doesn't have sexual attraction to other people, but in one of Rebecca Parham's videos (Q&A), Jaiden said she loved Becca, so clearly Jaiden has a heart

[@johanstenfelt1206]

When i first watched this Jaiden Video, i highly looked forward to see Nick’s reaction or at least know his opinion towards it and know what he thinks about it.

[@ChromiumDome411]

0:07 Oh man starting off strong already? This is gonna be good. Also I need that sound effect.

[@crcoghill]

i feel like, at one point, i was Aromantic for a time, like literally during school. like, sure, i did have girlfriends but nothing got crazy. like a kiss on the cheek and holding hands.... and saying nice things. i got dumped for different reasons but i think my experience i learned is: don't rush relationships, especially in school. seriously: don't be pressured into something you don't get or just to look cool. the best things in life are just figuring yourself out as a friend and person first than finding someone you truly understand. now a days i see myself as Bi and Pan and it honestly feels pretty confident to find both men and women attractive. like i don't have to feel weird looking at a guy and say "that's hot" in my head and think I'm a creep. and i would assume most guys would take that as a compliment.

[@cloberlobster2276]

Then you were never aro to begin with, saying that you were something but decided to change can be very misleading (like someone can use your words and make it as an excuse to say it's a phase.)

[@neroquin]

From this it doesn't sound like you were ever aromantic? It's about the (lack of) attraction you feel, not about what you do in relationships or how well they go.

[@crcoghill]

well... yeah. of course i changed. i mean Jaiden herself said she had an old video that doesn't mean anything now and moods towards people and relationships can change over time. I was not fully attracted to people till i was in High School, late High School at that. just cause i say now a days I'm this doesn't mean at some point i wasn't that. that's just the ever evolving changes of life. Jaiden herself might go through one herself. who knows.

[@beyondviolet]

damn I wasn’t expecting a reaction to this but I am happy about it

[@localcomicnerd]

I feel nate and his small school. When I was in high school. Take in mind my school was pre-school - 12th grade and out of all the kids I believe there were only around 300 students pre-school through high school. I had a few crushes within that school so respect to Jaiden.

[@dylandreisbach1986]

The thing about climate change is that it may reach a tipping point. I do believe we are well past the point of no return, but one the gulf stream or something collapses, then it will immediately destroy the climate in most of the world. We will live past it, I do believe we are resistant enough. But the question would be how many of us, and that is a much harder question to answer. Any food imported would basically go away or go extinct. So we might support like a third of our population.

[@davidbehney3677]

I identify as demisexual, meaning that I have to form an emotional attachment to someone before I have intimate feelings for them. I too have had a crush on Jaiden, but I was pretty sure we could never be more than friends just because there's only so much that could be built between two people who are fairly distant from each other both geographically and emotionally... but love is hard especially for me.

[@itzyoboydex]

I wish you good luck with your love life, and hope you find the right person for you

[@LennyTheHopeless]

I'm asexual, and yes I do want a roommate for life xD. I want someone to grow old with. I want someone to love and someone who loves me. Social anxiety just has to get in my way at every possible moment though. I haven't met anyone like that cause I'm scared to even try. If I had to bet, I don't think I'll find love in this life, but I also can't stop myself from hoping. No matter how small that hope is.

[@krystaloftheshores]

I guess I never thought of platonically wanting to live with someone the rest of my life, like a lifelong roommate, someone I trust and feel close to.

[@joshnunya324]

Atleast now I know there's a word for it

[@Jaboy-of5fw]

0:08 I shouldn’t be laughing this hard

[@lukasoliverleo3730]

I can understand differently pronouncing a word, that's just accents/dialects, but there really is no "differently pronouncing" a given persons name. That's how their name is pronounced, and it seems kind of disrespectful to say you don't care when being corrected.

[@scarletpachyderm]

As someone who was called the American version of my real name for essentially my whole life, I agree

[@triggerfairy4070]

You can definitely differently pronounce a name. An indian and an American coworker pronounce my name differently.

[@scarletpachyderm]

@@triggerfairy4070 but if you’re corrected, you definitely shouldn’t say “i dont care”. you correct yourself. its their name and thats how they want to be called

[@lukasoliverleo3730]

@@triggerfairy4070 I know there is different ways to pronounce certain names, what I mean is when someone says "this version of that name is how MY name is pronounced" it's kinda rude to then still use basically a different name for them

[@Vasarcdus]

Difference being this wasnt the person with that name requesting a different pronunciation, it was just some rando on the internet claiming they were right.

[@heridragolia8798]

I knew i was aro for a long time now so it's nice to see more people talk about it!

[@LeaveItToRemm]

A kid at my elementary school would just bring Pictures of himself on random off road vehicles for Valentine's day as his Valentine cards and he did this till 11th grade. We had a little over a hundred kids in my grade until we hit middle school where 3 countries sent us to the same place until we graduated

[@johanstenfelt1206]

Hm, interesting, very interesting, you guys can have such a interesting conversations.

[@JJ-ml7pq]

There’s like a radar ping kinda noise happening intermittently and I’m not sure whether it’s part of the BGM track or something in the recording space. Not a huge deal, just something that distracted me a tiny bit, lol.

[@NefariousDreary]

Dude, I totally understand. Jaiden is an attractive person, both physically and personality wise.

[@quinhoprimeiro1049]

16:42 YES YES YEEEEEESSSS, the weird part is the absolute stupid involviment of family into your personal life FOR SURE

[@animepuff80]

See when Jaden came out I was so excited for it because I'm pansexual and I didn't know what that was in a million years like if you asked me in Middle School what my sexuality is I would told you I was straight yeah I questioned my sexuality a lot but looking back I did have girl crushes when I was younger but I thought that was a me thing like Starfire, Raven, and Shego

[@giothefew4300]

I cant believe you guys talked 40+ minutes into this

[@johnharding4181]

hold up but i am aro ace too and i did not know being good friends was too different to a relationship soooooo good informational video i guess

[@sarahbeautiful3999]

in my HS many moons ago my whole school population was i think 15000 thousands kids but in my grade alone like 900 hundred at most anyways so yeah

[@woodencat5990]

Jesus christ

[@sarahbeautiful3999]

@@woodencat5990 yeah and during that time around my senior year the new freshman grade group had way more then us and we were like wtf moment cause yeah that's a lot.

[@woodencat5990]

@@sarahbeautiful3999 Kind of an understatetment. I was never in a school with more than 1,000 students so I can't imagine what 15k would look like

[@danielobrien1571]

Nice profile picture, how long's your hair? I admire woman who grow theirs out to impressive lengths, please describe it?

[@rainestar6781]

I think the valentines thing where everyone brings a valentine for everyone might be useful, actually. Essentially giving kids training to see the good in people and be willing to express their emotions. Didn't really work on me but I'm AuDHD so I'm an outlier there, which is another thing you could use to learn who to keep an eye on and potentially get tested for that. Which would be extra awesome if we had better disability aid across the country rather than just preying on the physically disabled and flat telling them they're not allowed to own anything at all.

[@AHMEDRAVENBARNACLE-84]

Now it’s all make sense to me,I’m just like her,aromatic asexual,no wonder I haven’t fall in love yet,got to except it and move on with my life.

[@andreanairvin7724]

I think sometime adults "discover" things about themselves because they actually find the label that fits how they have always felt. Or societies ideas of what relationships are supposed to be has them living the life others think they are supposed to have. I have personally always thought I was straight because that was what I'm supposed to be. But as an adult I still struggle with understanding. I have crushes but on both gender but they idea of being intimate with either I'm more like meh not super interested.

[@helper_games]

1:04:29 im getting daja voo here, you've told this EXACT story before, word for word

[@takkycat]

I was once trapped in a hallway by a group of girls in high school determined to find out why I was not interested in anyone. I wish I knew what aro/ace was back then... It didn't end violently. They finally left me alone after I said multiple times I'm not gay and they weren't going to get anything else out of me.

[@IceHeartAlpha]

that episode was deep breaking 1hour episode

[@flopjul3022]

11:25 i life in the Netherlands my highschool had 2 different locations(one for sub par and the other for above) and combined that was around 4000 i assuma(5-6 years with each year divided into 10~ classes of 30~ and the other building had the same but with 4-5 years but with more classes) around 2k per location and the location i was at(above par) had 2 buildings one being 4 stories tall with around 8 rooms on each floor(including library and 2 places to eat, one on ground level and one on the 1st floor) the other building had 5.5 stories(the 6th one being around half the size but had on the lower floor an extra part for Gymnastics, technical usage of machinery and advanced Arts while the other building just had basic arts). but i had the same problem as Jaiden because i was looking at the wrong people and i realised that halfway through high school... im gay for any dutch people here it is the GUIDO in Amersfoort(i was on the Paladijnenweg 253/251) but due the education system TL is seen as sub par so i mentioned is as that while it is actually very different because you learn to work with your hands instead of your brain(for example you learn to be a car mechanic after you finished TL while you learn how to design a car after you have done HAVO/VWO/Gymnasium) so it is just different what your education is

[@JeremeDavis]

I understand that friend thing completely. I am aroace like Jaiden but there are people from both genders and across various orientations that I think would be awesome to be friends with, some of the top ones are Ryan Reynolds, Lzzy Hale, Markiplier, Jacksepticeye, Hayley Williams, Lindsey Sterling......

[@sappy.3xe]

For years, I’ve always gone back & forth on whether I’m aroace or not. I just realized now that I am, in fact, aroace. I was conflicted because I do feel romantic/sexual attraction, but I have no interest in dating/marriage/sex with other people. I find that I only like those things in my imagination. I’m repulsed by actually experiencing it in real life + doing it with real people. I truly don’t crave sex or romance with others.

[@ClawedAsh]

47:55 That's actually a thing in Aro and Ace communities, they're called Queerplatonic relationships (QPR's) and are that sort of like, overlap between a regular friendship and romantic relationship while still being it's own thing

[@danielobrien1571]

Nice profile picture, how long's your hair? I admire woman that grow theirs out to impressive lengths, please describe it?

[@ClawedAsh]

@@danielobrien1571 Sorry to disappoint but I'm a guy

[@danielobrien1571]

@@ClawedAsh OK, sorry about the mix-up, but your picture looked female. I'll bid you farewell and have a good day.

[@onebadger4993]

Noice game theory shirt but hey it’s just a theory

[@steveburns6636]

People often forget about having an exception. Like being a straight women but finding all the traits they want in a man in a women instead, they get along and maybe she doesn't care if it is this particular women and not be attracted to any other women ever again. It's her exception, sure they not be common but it doesn't mean that person is now bi or homo-sexual They are still straight just have one other they like anyway

[@breezyhillproductions349]

My class only had 19 students. In total the school usually had around 90 students at a time.

[@tylerhackner9731]

Loved watching jaidens vid

[@spiritualmonk5337]

Same it helped me understand myself better

[@khaliyahjefferson832]

@@spiritualmonk5337 what's weird ppl are upset about jaiden being aro ace and I think ppl are missing the point of the video

[@gothic_ace2037]

i had 20 people in my graduating class

[@Danisachan]

I think you can't help but be analytical about romantic stuff, if you are not experiencing the feelings that you are "supposed" to be feeling. No one can just shove the knowledge into you. Either you feel it or you don't.

[@Gadeberg90]

Love the Sasuke at 10:57.

[@Meisuki]

30:13 You got something to say, sir? Lol

[@danielobrien1571]

Nice profile picture, how long's your hair? I admire woman who grow theirs out to impressive lengths, please describe yours?