Being Not Straight

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[@jaidenanimations]

apologies if the audio sounds different, my mic exploded during recording

[@stainystudio7889]

It’s fine!

[@Jem_with_a_J]

Oh lol it’s okay lol

[@cakecake4469]

It's ok We love you

[@JJavon]

O

[@ZlatBurgerPlays]

its perfectly fine 🙂

[@MesamiRose]

"WHY ARE NONE OF YOU ATTRACTIVE" Literally the best line in the whole video.

[@tacticallemon7518]

“We’re all strangers not listening to ‘stranger danger’” and “We’re all pretending to be adults” have their moments, but yea

[@MEGAknight3419]

also relatable for fellow aroace folks

[@Bushwhack-lmao_xD]

well for me it was different i was a lil gae boi (gae moment lol) and then i always wanted to be interested in the older guys (like 16+ older) and then middle school hit... and uhh... im still obsessing with the same exact guy :-) even though there probably 18 by now... welp rip for me ig lol

[@WithinINSOMNIA]

exactly 😂

[@EdenFREAKINCD]

I heard that once Ok twice Three times + Im lonely

[@Kamiiinavy]

When I was younger I thought a crush was someone you hated because you wanted to crush them 💀

[@an_awkward_crybaby]

💀

[@XOonhelli]

Oh god 💀

[@someoneontheinternet072]

That is one of the most aroace thing I have ever heard

[@Drkekw]

💀

[@Anaea]

tsundere /j

[@drama_king_august7974]

i dont identify as aroace, but as an autistic person, the feeling of "well everyone else is feeling this way now so i should probably start doing it too" without understanding thats not how feelings work is very real

[@Gaming.Gamer.]

As a fellow autistic one, I can relate to that. I try to but I often struggle with "experiencing feelings". It took me a long time to realize I had feelings for my girlfriend even though I've known her since childhood now because I was never in a relationship before and allways thought I have to instantly fall in love when I see the right one or something. I still have a lot to learn about relationships but I know that my best friend will be there for me, helping me learning about how to love, in a way.

[@EChacon]

As someone also on the Autism Spectrum, I also can relate to finding feelings for someone even though I’m not Aroace.

[@Epicccccccccccccccccccc]

I remember having “crushes” while not understanding that you actually FEEL something

[@bellaxtastic]

I’m also autistic 😊

[@benjaminliu4893]

I... Miiiiight be Autistic? I've never been diagnosed but the symptoms exist aaaand.... I used to feel the same way, trying to fit in without even knowing how to emotions I eventually gave up and decided to just give up and just... act like I want to despite everyone else's ideas and time I still wonder what the word "Crush" even means lol

[@coyoteink]

I am a boomer. It took me a long time to realize what i was. I was raised in an environment where being homosexual was the worst thing possible. I’ve come to realize i am asexual. I felt ashamed of myself for years with no knowledge. Thank you for opening up Jaiden it makes even an old timer like me not so alone.

[@StxcyTube]

Lol

[@tomlonedits]

Good for you :)

[@ElijahBarrett-cn3mz]

Good luck on that journey

[@gabrielsamociuk2117]

Everyone who dont have bitches is asexual right?

[@Slimynews]

A boomer watches jaiden? That's kinda wierd

[@bigswordsman7330]

Jaiden thinking she's bi or pan because she was equally disinterested in everyone is the funniest thing to me.

[@b.h.4249]

Seems to be a common aro-ace experience, I had the same thing happen to me. Thought I was pan for at least a year. 😂

[@pepsimann2038]

yeah i started thinking i was bi for the same reason and then lockdown hit and i started using my brain lmao

[@clover-il7tf]

no I feel it so bad though I thought I was bi and greyro UNTIL NOW am I just aro wtf I am having a crisis

[@alvinbrillian3947]

i've read somewhere (so cmiiw) that long ago bi people included ace in the label because of the same thing, being 'equally unintrested'

[@guyfrompoland1358]

That's how me discovering my aromanticism worked 🤣

[@lucasagustinchinen8039]

Some asexuals: "I don't feel anything, something is wrong with me" Chad Jaiden: "I don't feel anything... You all are ugly"

[@celesteboman9069]

Honestly I resonate with Jaiden with the ugly part. Don't take it personally tho.

[@ThornDevl]

I agree

[@SimonRileyGhost329]

No Sigma Jaiden

[@someguy3357_gaming]

I call people gross when they ask if I have a crush

[@gwenk903]

Fr as an ace I can confirm 😅

[@treypyro]

As a fellow Aro/Ace, this was great. To your point at the end about "coming out" feeling weird, it absolutely is for aro/ace people. We aren't coming out as gay, we just aren't interested. It feels like telling someone you don't have a favorite sports team because you don't watch sports. Also, most people in your life already probably know you are comfortable being single, they may not know the term aromantic or asexual, but they know you aren't the kind of person to always be dating someone. So "coming out" as aro/ace feels more like educating people on the terminology than it feels like telling them something you've kept secret. For most of my life, I just thought I was a broken straight guy. I "dated" a bit in high school, but just as you did with crushes, that was more about trying to fit in than something I wanted. I was like 25 years old when I first read the terms "aromantic" and "asexual" on an online list of sexualities. I remember reading the description and going "That one! That's it, that's me, I didn't know there was a word for that." Also, aro/ace has the coolest colors on the flag. Purple, green, and grey go look so good!

[@hemi-semi-real]

“That’s not gay what the hell is that” goes crazy

[@elgato1715]

*”In the nicest way possible, its none of your business”* is literally the most understandable thing I’ve ever heard

[@DefeaterMann]

READ MY NAME!!!!! !!!!!!!!

[@youate2111]

Ok ash

[@iahuman7210]

For reall XD

[@SpiritOfHugs]

Whaaaa no, how dare she not provide details on her intimate life, I'm a long time sub which means we are basically friends! What's a toxic parasocial relation?

[@youate2111]

@@SpiritOfHugs thats what im sayin, these chronically online kids istg 💀💀💀😭😭

[@renthemen.]

"We're all pretending to be adults here!" jaiden has perfectly summed up the internet experience

[@Sleepntgood]

And the life experience

[@Radioactive-Braincell88]

You like beef bro

[@renthemen.]

@@Radioactive-Braincell88 yeah it's alright, minced beef good in Bolognese

[@yangliu6901]

and the comment section experience on this video

[@superswag9861]

7 year olds setting their age to 100 setting up their account on anything

[@Gabi-rr9ey]

I am 19 years old and I have never fallen in love, I have always forced myself to be in a relationship to fit into society, it was too uncomfortable for me and I felt like I was incomplete, but with your video I feel liberated and calmer. Thank you for doing this, you really helped me a lot :)

[@immasweetpi]

I watched this video being 15, discovered I'm asexual, almost 17, and I never felt as comfortable as I am with my sexuality, thank you, Jaiden

[@NeonisedCAT]

im WACHING this video being 14 hehe

[@immasweetpi]

@@NeonisedCAT I'm not gonna say you're a baby, but damn you're a baby

[@NeonisedCAT]

@@immasweetpiok XD dont go down !!! swear word !!!! ehhh..... your choise i dont fucking care

[@TwilightLOL2]

What is the normal age to find your sexuality cause I'm 13 and I think I'm AroAce but it might be too soon to tell,

[@ILikeToHarvestRoadkill]

Agreed.

[@ASquared544]

Ok, speaking as someone who is in High School and desperate for affection… Jaiden’s story about thinking “man I don’t have a crush on anyone, I guess I keep getting unlucky” really hit close to home… but I don’t think I’m aromantic? Because despite not feeling any romantic attraction I still deeply crave a romantic relationship, because theoretically, it sounds really nice and like something I would enjoy. And at this point I’m not sure if I’m just bad at identifying my own emotions, keep getting “unlucky”, or am somewhere on the aromantic/demiromantic spectrum.

[@sleeperzz]

THISSS ^^^^^^^^^

[@CHR0n1K4L]

same but tbh you prolly just at an ugly school like me 😭

[@justhere3464]

A lot of effort into this single comment

[@churro6372]

@SoundFoodist omg??

[@Shtickyaight]

I'm 13 luckily I don't have to worry about that :)

[@BonkedCat]

“WHY ARE NONE OF YOU ATTRACTIVE” Literally the best one liner in the video

[@imthedentist]

It's a question I ask many a minute

[@NITE_CALEB]

Lol

[@IcAnTsEH3Lp]

4:01

[@liligamer1232]

dang ppl are still commenting on this this was 7 months ago-

[@mothmooth8320]

lol

[@venti336]

Before I understood I am a lesbian, I thought a crush is someone who you think is nice and u want to be around them. So I had many „crushes“ on boys in my class in school, but then I met a girl and actually had a crush and my whole world collapsed. 😂

[@Sophie66262]

"romance and intimacy is what makes us human" well guess i'll just be a silly little alien

[@galacgacwatson3102]

Zinky zoogle, zeekybooble beeble meep 👍

[@m_affiliates]

Bogos binted 👍

[@FreeFilastin]

I'm the garlic bread creature, 🍞🧄

[@galacgacwatson3102]

@@FreeFilastin No joke, garlic bread is my absolute favorite bread. Now I want some

[@FreeFilastin]

@@galacgacwatson3102 Same, take a bit out of me I'm the garlic creature.

[@LonelySandwich]

Hearing other Aces say "...wait they're not joking?" about sex songs is the most validating phrase

[@areafire1]

Righ tho?

[@dan5827]

its such a common experience lol

[@Urmom-ky8wr]

I had only recently realized that so many song are about sex and I have been completely blind to ALL of it. I graduate in less than 3 months. I am genuinely questioning everything 💀

[@duhmoted]

true

[@randomfandomcreator2376]

same XD

[@chidori7234]

_"You don't have to be in a romantic relationship to be happy"_ Based Jaiden

[@olifromsolly6007]

there is nothing based about being a genetic dead end

[@TheAdvertisement]

@@olifromsolly6007 Imagine reducing people to their ability to produce offspring.

[@Sentient-potato]

@@olifromsolly6007 imagine being so mad someone does not want children (never even said that) that you make a hate comment. Wait until blind finds out tons of people don’t want kids 💀

[@Sentient-potato]

She did say she does not want kids in a different video tho

[@mariustan9275]

​@@Sentient-potatoit's perfectly normal to not want to have kids. Some people just aren't meant for that kind of thing. Besides it's not like being a genertic dead end is much of a problem since there are 8 billion people, it's not like humanity will die out?

[@emilyfelix20]

Just a tip: I'm also Aroace and you encouraged me a lot to be happy how I am. Thanks Jayden.

[@pikaboy101]

"WHY ARE NONE OF YOU ATTRACTIVE" I legit cracked-

[@dragonfire7965]

I’m not aromantic but i agree with the not-getting-why-being-just-friends-is-a-bad-thing point. Friendship rocks. No kisses i suppose, but still great Edit: this was not meant to cover every situation or be seen by many people at all, agh! I totally understand it being extremely painful when someone you have deep romantic feelings for doesn’t share them! I do think sometimes friendships, particularly male-female friendships, aren’t appreciated enough on their own unless they have the possibility of leading to a relationship. I was more trying to refer to that concept, though I realize I didn’t make that clear. I was sort of imagining a low-stakes situation of an acquaintance shooting their shot with another acquaintance (which could also be scary or embarrassing depending on the individual situation of course, but I figure it could also turn into a friendship if the awkwardness was surmountable). If you were rejected by someone you had romantic feelings for, I promise I’m not trying to dismiss that hurt, this comment was not meant to be universally applicable! And ending a friendship because it’s painful or awkward for this reason is absolutely not inherently a bad choice. Edit part 2: rewatching the video, I think I also should have phrased the sentence as understanding a feeling rather than agreeing with a point.

[@pearsegallagher9832]

well as she said its an emotional thing, if you really like someone an they reject you it can feel crushing it makes it hard to be around them

[@sami_irl]

What are you kidding me kisses suck hugs all the way

[@Mandate_of_Heaven]

virgin gang lit af

[@taylermuilenburg5029]

Especially if those hugs last longer than 20 seconds and feel actually genuine instead of weak!

[@StrengthOfADragon13]

Having a mismatch in the level of care you have for someone hurts, it isn't insurmountable but it is an understanding reason for someone to be unable to maintain a friendship after they have been rejected. (this works for crushes, marriage proposals, friendships, acquaintances and probably many more examples of relationships between people)

[@Lemon_Moonlight]

Alright. James has a girlfriend, Jaiden is aroace. *No more shipping them.* Edit: Jesus Christ this reply section is the scariest sh-t ever.

[@invisiblemaninthesky7927]

They will probably make something up to continue the shipping

[@Kermilesa2715]

@@invisiblemaninthesky7927 They tried to say it's non canon I think...

[@rrem8399]

or just never ship them

[@augustknoll9350]

Deadass

[@mariacantos6777]

FINALLY SOMEONE SAID IT

[@ericl9738]

A couple years later, I'm pretty sure this video is how I started to realize I'm ace. Like 9:45 is the most real thing ever lol. Genuinely thankful for Jaiden for putting this video out because I'm sure it's not the only person it's helped to figure themselves out

[@togathevampirequeen]

"I just met someone who I thought was cool and funny and had a really strong desire to be close to them." GUYS, GIRLS, AND GAYS, THIS HERE IS CALLED A SQUISH! As someone under the aromantic umbrella I was so excited when I found the term squish because it's what I'd always thought a crush was but I never wanted anything really romantic with them. Enjoy knowing this if it's helpful in any way!

[@wanderingwildlife6639]

Wait I love that so much I’m gonna use that now❤

[@cottage_cheese_thighs]

"WHY ARE NONE OF YOU ATTRACTIVE" would be an awesome senior quote

[@Birb_Boi]

I’m stealing it.

[@Xyb3rAnims]

I think I'll try setting that as my senior quote

[@Sir_Diarrhoea]

@@carlbrutanawanadelwski7026 Ok sure bud, none of us believe your crap. Go get a job freak, instead of framing a youtuber because of your jealousy.

[@Lucy-cl2qk]

@@TheDerplox no lmao

[@justsomeguywithguns159]

That's the one I'm going to be using in two years

[@NintendoNerdo]

“At the end of the day, we are all just strangers ignoring the stranger danger rule.”

[@JayJ101]

Its true lol

[@nenmaster5218]

@@JayJ101 America is homophobic-af. I'm gonna be direct as can be and ask: Please help with that by watching and supporting Telltale Atheist, Forrest Valkai and of course also this video here.

[@tdb4830]

S tier quote

[@Robotic_Individual]

@@nenmaster5218 the fuck does this have to do with anything?

[@keiramunnings265]

Lol true

[@Whats532]

I’m actually really glad Jaiden made this video because I don’t think things like this are discussed enough because sexual and romantic feelings are experienced and expressed wildly differently and topics of feeling neither kinds of attraction are like.. ever talked about. So thanks Jaiden, this was super comforting to realize everyone feels differently with this stuff. (I’m asexual and this helped me to realize that)

[@ainhoacoronadonunez9243]

"WHY IS NOBODY ATTRACTIVE" as an aroace person myself this is the realest thing I've heard.

[@ilikepie4685]

This was literally my aroace awakening. This was the first time I heard of these terms and I was like, “OH. OHHHHH. That’s why everyone is unattractive.”

[@Superavocado1]

Same

[@Cascada2009]

Why, sad that have to poke fun at others instead of looking at your sad, miserable life?@@noname-lf8yr

[@andrescaceres2822]

@@noname-lf8yr You're cringe. Next question.

[@Abcdefghijklmnopqrstuvwxyz12]

@@noname-lf8yryour life must be pretty sad if you don’t have anything better to do other than hating on others because of their sexuality

[@lordofthepigs888]

no, it wasn't. you're 12-16 years old and you spend too much time on the internet

[@ramenbomberdeluxe4958]

"We're all strangers not listening to the stranger danger rule" Yeah that's the Jaiden we know, classic sense of humor too, good start!

[@youcantakemehottogo]

@SoundFoodist wtf dude that's horrible

[@ramenbomberdeluxe4958]

@@youcantakemehottogothese people spit offensive garbage for attention, Jacks dad got mocked, Markiplier’s niece got mocked, these trolls are just animals to be ignored as they scream for attention. Don’t let them drag you down. Jaiden Mark and Jack ignore them and so should we.

[@KailaVlogger]

@SoundFoodist What is wrong with you? What if you were in her shoes?? You wouldn't like being told this!

[@youcantakemehottogo]

@UCf8J8NnXkq7L54lUSeyjtPA again, what the hell dude

[@achairwithinternetaccess996]

What the fuck happened there?

[@MistsMagic]

My daughter, 13 going on 14, just asked me what romantic feelings are like, and after a long talk, we discovered that she may Aro Ase! I sent her this video for more insight.

[@RichardMontgomeryYT]

Thanks for being a good dad like that!

[@MistsMagic]

@@RichardMontgomeryYT My daughter is the best person I've ever known. She deserves to be her.

[@RichardMontgomeryYT]

@@MistsMagic bloody awesome mate, really proud of you.

[@MistsMagic]

@@RichardMontgomeryYT I really appreciate that

[@Vixenschuuring]

I love how humans can be so different, I am genderfluid and pansexual which means I can fall in love with anyone. Some pansexuals use the "hearts not parts" saying which means personality matters and not what is in their pants

[@abigailgold-qv7bc]

My last girl friend learned that she was aroace, and didnt have any romantic attraction to me at all. She just saw us as really good friends, similar to that college person. We worked through it, and are now BFFs. I'm so proud of her ❤

[@Zizzy_2o]

Thank you for being so supportive of your friend!

[@bethanybratton6630]

This is so cute!

[@ambermao9547]

Yooo good for you and your friend

[@Kyle___Broflovski]

I love stories like this, because it’s how I made one of my best friends. Hope you guys are doing great!

[@lucantu6074]

The world needs more people like you 🤍💜

[@LazerLord10]

Man, highschool and even college were such a weird time to me. Your "fake developing crushes on people" is resonating with me so much right now.

[@creepy_artist]

One of us?

[@creepy_artist]

@@lunalee3021 thinking the romance in certain movies and shows is dumb, and having a very, incredibly big hard time even understanding what romance of romantic love feels like is very different. I too think certain romances in shows are dumb and unnecessary, but I'm not aromantic, if anything I'm a hopeless romantic with my partner, if you're heterosexual, do you feel attraction to your same sex? No? Well imagine there is no person in the world with opposite sex, that's how it feels like to aromantics in a romantic way and to asexuals in a sexual way

[@techx5802]

Relatable

[@doro5026]

@@lunalee3021 I don't think you understand what an identity is, y'know the thing that makes you, you? Being Asexual or Aromantic is part of an identity because it's who you are. The fact you didn't even consider it's existence is exactly why Jaiden' video was so important to the community; it sheds a light on us and tells people: "yeah, we exist, deal with it."

[@paulinexong]

@@lunalee3021 did you even watch the video

[@Mitchiemations]

you helped me Jaiden, nobody will ever see the comment but whatever. I have felt the same way all my life, never having a crush EVER and not understanding relationships at all. This video made me realize that I am aromantic and I'm not ashamed of it. If it wasn't for this video I would still be confused and lost, thank you!

[@wilywonky]

I saw the comment.

[@emilyfelix20]

"WHY ARE NON OF YOU ATTRACTIVE??!!" Cought me dead 🤣🤣🤣

[@AriiAniaismyname]

Oh my God the "why are none of you attractive?!" being yelled in the room full of people killed me 😂😂😂😂😂

[@AriiAniaismyname]

@Savetion (KING OF YT) I know you're a bot, but come on, you couldn't think of anything more clever than "gaymations"?

[@twitterusersarefreakingstu2200]

@Savetion (KING OF YT) I shouldn't be saying this, but you missed the *obvious* opportunity to say "Gayden Animations."

[@dougalbadger4918]

Hey look at that KZbins report system worked.

[@Aren_is_love]

Yeah same lol

[@PowerPotatoo]

I know this is supposed to be an at least semi-serious video, but that made me laugh out loud.

[@jt1940]

If someone ever passes you a note that says "do you like me yes or no" just just tell them I'm not registered to vote

[@fuzzytoasty1042]

I saw that meme and it made me laugh like a lunatic

[@MarinetteDupainCheng-mj1uk]

I get it

[@book_wolf_1939]

Dude yes

[@jessicaruizcollazo2372]

I would just do A: Tell them they made a mistake Or B: Just rip it up

[@elizabethhales3487]

Or eat the paper 😏

[@santicraftmcesp.9178]

After watching this video about a year ago, and now rewatching I am thankful that Jaiden put this out so that I learned what I truly am for so long I thought, crushes and dating was just being the best friend of someone of the opposite gender, don’t misinterpret that though, but now I can know how I want my social life to be, again thanks to Jaiden for all she did for me

[@gabe_vr790]

I respect you for sharing this so publicly and stepping out of your comfort zone.

[@pablosky_1233]

James: Has a girlfriend Jaiden: Is aroace Fanfiction artists: Let's go ahead and ignore that

[@indescribablycoolikeafurniture]

oh no you had to remind me (vietnam war flashbacks)

[@novianimates]

@@indescribablycoolikeafurniture i have the cold war flashbacks (soviet union fall)

[@indescribablycoolikeafurniture]

@@novianimates ah yes, the fall of our beautiful motherland...

[@gautaminandi5572]

Oh dear....

[@felixtla93]

That's because majority. More is power

[@AbsolutelyAri1]

"That's not gay what the hell is that" That line was too funny

[@Julian-pt1qi]

Owlhouse amphibia yes amazing marcy best character

[@AbsolutelyAri1]

@Jack Wrath uhm no

[@augustsockstrawberry]

Ayyy my gang

[@Julian-pt1qi]

Amphibia 4 life

[@G8t0r]

It was pretty funny

[@EarthsM0On]

why is this woman the most relatable person😭😭😭 I thought I was bi or pan but just now finding out wanting to be friends with someone isn’t a crush💀

[@Slimey_idk]

Greetings fellow traveler, it appears you’re taking a stroll through the newest comments section. I warn you now as this route will lead you to a bunch of comments that will bring you down to eternal stupidity. With that, have a nice day.

[@kitt_cozmic]

im in too deep to stop now ☹️☹️

[@matthewschmidt3912]

You see, I'm not aroace, but holy shit do I relate to "Society expects you to be in a relationship."

[@Senthain]

Tell 'em, always annoyed with people badgering me about it.

[@josha254]

me too

[@owen769]

Especially now when my friends try to ship me with people when it's not their business in the first place

[@takanuva_9355]

At 25 my psychiatrist asked why I never was in a relationship and I countered with "How is that connected to my suicid attempt" His response was going on a long rant about the word of god and me looking up other psychiatrists mid session

[@Peachkeeper87639]

It's especially annoying when you do tell someone multiple times that you don't want children or a bf/significant other and they laugh at you and tell you that you'll find someone one day. I want to focus on myself and the thought of being in a romantic relationship or having children grosses me out I want nothing to do with either of those things

[@catterhine]

Figuring out youre aro or ace or both is so hard bc society really teaches you that you need to be in a romantic relationship and be intimate or you'll be sad and die alone.

[@Supervolcano09]

​@Logan dude ur WEAK lmao

[@cameronbruning148]

​@Logan You don't even have a gf. So shut it.

[@NobleTitty]

That's because it's true. Just take the L and stop making it into a label

[@Supervolcano09]

​@@NobleTitty you're so outdated that even boomers won't say crap like this lol

[@mxddie_ess]

Literally

[@jellyperson]

i found out about a term under the Areoace umbrella it’s called Cupioromantic! i did a little bit of research and i feel like i fall under this term. The definition of Cupioromantic is “Cupioromantic is a micro-label orientation that describes someone who doesn't feel romantic attraction but desires a romantic relationship.” do what you want with this information but it’s a fun term i found.

[@cradica]

I feel the same way.

[@BobieBobs]

I used to think having a crush on someone was like a “level up” thing were once you get close enough to them ud have to have a crush on them and wanna date them like it was an xp bar or something 😭

[@FreeFilastin]

same xd

[@tachi4ever]

That “wait, they’re *not* joking??” moment is so accurate. This entire video describes what I was trying to figure out up until like a year ago. And the happiness of figuring it out, you’re not broken, this is a thing. It so upsetting in a good way? Relieving almost.

[@anyakylie6898]

She did a great job on the video and you're valid.

[@cloudii14]

everyone is valid mate

[@kat_the_lad9156]

Fr I was so emotional watching this, means a lot just to feel seen

[@Whateverhasbeenmynameforyears]

Demi was like this except when I found someone I liked and was suddenly like "oh that is feelings that happen' hm".

[@Darkmatter60m]

I just watched that part 😨

[@Kam_i_]

The whole “wait you guys weren’t joking???” Is the ace EXPERIENCE JDHDHD i remember the day i learned what asexual meant and instantly i felt so understood!

[@flzrian3623]

jdhdhdjdjfdhdjdhjddjd

[@enderf-r1722]

I'm demi and listen to a lot of country music, about half of all country music is "there was this very attractive girl who I talked to once, and I am now sad she's going away, because I love her" and I was always like "but... why?

[@Eggzinabeggz]

I think the best relationship is just being best friends 😎

[@swigzby]

"It's none of your business" It's shocking how quickly people forget that. They carry on like your (lack of) orientation actually affects them personally. I sincerely hope none of your detractors have scared you away from continuing to make amazing content.

[@rednami7406]

thats nice

[@Some-Bad-Editor]

Serious question. If it's none of your business, then why would you talk about it, in the first place? (In a KZbin video, ofc.)

[@luisaana8783]

@@Some-Bad-Editor To help other people who are feeling a similar thing using a large platform can help people to understand themselves if the creator is feeling something similar

[@swigzby]

@@Some-Bad-Editor because the content creator chooses to share that info. Anything beyond what the creator chooses to share is nobody's business, that's the point. In Jaiden's case, she's helping to raise awareness about aro/ace, which a lot of people didn't know about (myself included). Jaiden gave a boost to the popularity of Nuzlockes and Mario Kaizo, so this video is sure to raise awareness about being aro/ace.

[@colanax]

@@Some-Bad-Editor This is because Jaiden wants to share this part of her personality to help us better understand her, but she doesn’t want to share more personal information.

[@s0men0n3]

As someone who, after discovering this rabbit hole, found that they might be cupioromatic (not feeling romantic attraction but wanting a relationship) this video has really helped me. Especially with the part that Jayden thinks she has a crush but it just ends up being a focused desire to hang out with someone. There is a lot in here that I can relate to. At least, if my life thus far is anything to go by.

[@classicalricky]

Don't let the haters get you. I'm straight but im a ally. Whatever you want to identify as, go right ahead.

[@memelord2136]

Everyone else: I'm not in a relationship because I'm not attractive Jaiden: I'm not in a relationship because everyone else isn't attractive

[@DroneTC]

can relate, i dont think ive found a single person attractive really, i would just look a few times because i liked that some people looked a bit similar to me and move on with my day like nothing happened

[@EnternameHere09]

True

[@KristineWPhilbin]

also jaiden: *walks into a room screaming* WHY ARE NONE OF YOU ATTRACTIVE

[@Lamiishere]

Cringe af!

[@Sgood35]

...why does the make sense lol

[@turtleofthemoon]

"I hope you can understand even just a little of what I talked about, and if not, I just hope you can be nice." Standing ovation for that line, honestly. So many people who don't understand something use that as a reason to dismiss or invalidate it, but not fully being able to comprehend something doesn't make it impossible to have compassion for those who do experience it. (As someone who is constantly confused by other people, I have firsthand experience in this.) Also, major kudos for the approach of this video. Using your platform to speak up for those who don't often feel seen is a really admirable thing to do, and maintaining boundaries of your own personal life at the same time is very respectable.

[@yourcommentisntfunnyv2709]

you're soy

[@normicanomic6523]

By evidence with how other react negatively about this for odd reasons,it's really suck tbh

[@diane9958]

as an ace person, the realization jaiden had in the car was SO RELATABLE!!! "Like what do you mean you actually want to do that kind of stuff with the people you find pretty?? Do people actually feel this way?? I thought it was just a concept" were exactly my thoughts

[@aubreyfulda9352]

When this video first came out I was just like "oh cool" but thats when i was still kinda young and figuring myself out but recently i've been coming back to this video and rewatching it over and over again its just so good and has really helped me to understand myself more, I've realized to be oriented aroace and knowing and understanding that about myself has also made me feel a lot better about how i have been experiencing love and friendship. Thanks for making this video and being willing to share, I'm sure its not just me that you've helped!!

[@witchking01]

As soon as Jaiden said that she was aro/ace, my mind straight went to the flirting video and thought about her mentioning how two people who didn't have a relationship work out should still be able to be friends and how that makes a lot more sense now knowing that she's aro/ace... AND THEN SHE MENTIONED IT IN THE VID AND I HOWLED LMAO

[@Magical8eing]

I really thought that for years too. I know I’m aroace now. But even I still kinda think that, which is bad. I just don’t understand attraction like that.

[@NyxTheRandomPerson]

​@@Magical8eing same thing here but I'm demiromantic

[@i_a_r_n_a]

eh, exes being friends is pretty normal in the queer community, and that's dominated by allosexual people so... I'm not sure that's so much an aro/ace thing.

[@they_fw_lei]

@@i_a_r_n_a doesnt mean it should be normalized in the world yk. I keep seeing people of your community tryna force that ideal onto bi or straight ppl and its creepy sometimes so i hope you guys can be respectful yk?

[@Mad-Lad-Chad]

@@they_fw_lei You say that like there is something wrong with exes being friends. There isn't. You come across kind of...hateful in that comment.

[@jmd0605]

As someone who isn't aro nor ace nor both, I have to say that the whole "WHY ARE NONE OF YOU ATTRACTIVE" bit hit suprisingly hard lol 😂

[@forest_fire959]

Bro I know, but also 6:43, “I got math involved somehow…”🤣 so good.

[@DefeaterMann]

READ MY NAME!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!

[@lemmonboy6459]

I felt no attraction to anyone for YEEARS and only now am I actually in a relationship with someone, and even that took like several months of talking to them and hanging out

[@psychomanatee3459]

Demisexual?

[@lemmonboy6459]

@@psychomanatee3459 YEEEEPPPP My GF and I were completely Demi until each other lmao Was pretty funny when we discussed the feelings we felt for each prior to the Confession™️

[@angeldepew8813]

This video helped me come to terms with my Acesexurallity! Thank you Jayden

[@MireiaAlas]

Throwback to how I found out I’m ace.

[@SpiderSplash_]

saaaammeeee

[@jastro.]

Same (and aro)

[@dawnofraven3007]

I have been saying "I am sure I will feel love and affection if the right person comes along" for like the last 10 years. This kinda makes a lot more sense now.

[@Edward_Dusk]

If you mean you're in love with jaiden it's just pixels but if it's otherwise then it's fine

[@TheAdvertisement]

@@Edward_Dusk bruh what 💀

[@bellabumble8540]

LITERALLY SAME! I've been sad and feeling left behind too, its nice to realise im not alone (:

[@senboy9002]

@Logan Floor {UTTP} They were just saying their experience

[@rishavsinha3028]

@@bellabumble8540 true that, ever since learning I am an ace, I have felt alone, and feel like nobody would understand me. It doesn't change me as a person, just makes me feel, that this is something my close people should know about, but have never had the confidence to say anything

[@Nyx_editzz]

You were my aroace awakening tbh ❤️

[@cradica]

Same

[@holacasita1979]

Having a crush on someone isn't.... wanting to be their number one best friend?

[@YawnDaBox_]

THATS WHAT I THOUGHT-

[@holacasita1979]

Hold on while I rethink my life 🫠

[@NeptuneFlytrap51]

I thought it was a bug

[@YaidenVindevogel]

It is, right? Or am I in denial?

[@FreeFilastin]

unfortunately... And I get called "innocent" a lot for not catching hints and winks.

[@endel12]

“No one presented to me OTHER options.” Wow, WOW this hit hard. It took me a long time to finally realize I was Ace, it was a revelation that being Ace was a legitimate THING and not just me being indecisive/selfish/weird.

[@ASwallie65]

As a straight man, I found this video not only informative but helpful to my personal understanding of relationships and whether it is that I want to be in one or I feel pressured to be in one. This is an amazing follow-up to a previous video of yours and I'm glad you were able to talk about things in ways that people don't necessarily do.

[@killerapteer6312]

damn respect bro

[@MrDeaacon]

i agree

[@luisenriquefigueroagallego1782]

I agree, especially the part of “you can be happy on your own”, it’s something so basic but it stills hits really hard hearing it or trying make that sink in

[@itzmira2023]

Wait... I just realized... I AM LITERALLY THE EXACT SAME! I FINALLY KNOW WHAT TO TELL MY FRIENDS! (At the building of knowledge that I currently go to, some of my fellow students made a rule that before you join a friend group, people have to know who you are attracted to before you join and then people decide if you can join depending on your answer, it's a stupid rule really, I've been denied access to any of the groups because I say "I don't really know yet".)

[@hottiejaiden]

thank you so much for bringing awareness and because of this video i started trying to figure out my own identity and i realized i have similar experiences like trying to find a crush and i genuinely don’t/didnt know the difference between platonic love and romantic love. this helped a lot tysm ive been watching since 2015 and i love your videos and your so awesome ❤

[@RealestGuppy]

“We’re all just strangers refusing to listen to the stranger danger rule” THAT IS THE REALEST THING I HAVE HEARD IN A WEEK!!!

[@DulyDullahan]

I remembered talking about aromantic with a friend and he legit said “How does smelling nice make you LGBTQ?” because he had mistaken aromatic = aromantic 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@sdrawkcab_emanresu]

Made my day. Will make that joke for now on

[@Eeok]

it is scientifically correct that all aromantics smell nice

[@cabbageman2184]

LMAO

[@lunawolfheart336]

Why are people like this

[@miro-sb2rp]

every time I type aromantic there's always a red line under it because they think I mean aromatic. smh

[@macandcheesekenzie]

honestly, watching this video makes me feel better about my own identity.

[@Sodakodamoda]

Real

[@noobero_]

this honestly helped me discover why i also felt nothing towards people thank you for this

[@lundylow]

12:34 I don't know if this was intentional or not, but I love the idea of an aroace person expressing platonic affection and following it up with "no romo"

[@L1zz707]

Dude. You just got me the new phrase ill say every day of my lofe, thank u

[@miridroge6043]

the new aroace trump card

[@white_testarossa_7]

Aramco ?

[@gracegaskell8068]

Yeah, no! That's a common thing! Very much a joke at the 'no homo' crowd, but yeah. Definitely a thing in the aro community, and I love it so much!

[@VioletEmerald]

some people find it offensive to act like No Homo is just a funny thing to reference but yeah No Romo is very commonly said in the aro community as a joke about things

[@lokalcrow1470]

"So I made up a crush" is one of the most relatable things I've ever heard. I distinctly remember being in middle school and everyone talking about crushes and when I was asked about mine I just mentioned a close friend, and I did the same thing like a year later with someone else, and then the same when I got into high school, and I kept feeling like I wasn't doing something right. I eventually discovered I was aromantic and asexual but everyone around me was so weird about it. A teacher even told me "how are you going to teach your kids about sex if you've never had it?" Which- no comments honestly. I'm much happier now knowing exactly where I want my relationships to be and not stressing over which I'm expected to have. Great video Jaiden :) thanks a lot!

[@DefeaterMann]

READ MY NAME!!!!!!!!

[@i_moved_accounts3382]

A teacher said that? Who says that to a student wtf-

[@GhostPuddle]

Wait what? How are you gonna have kids to talk to in the first place? Not only was that inappropriate but it doesn't even make sense.

[@Aphidae]

That teacher really didn't think that through huh

[@dragone7897]

That teacher…… is a real weirdo

[@ThatFigure]

Watched this a few months ago and found out I'm aroace because of it. It's nice to come back to this video now and then. It's very comforting. Thank you Jaiden.

[@bread8637]

Proud of you dude :D

[@rumley3176]

I think some people forget how much being different from the “norm” really confuses people who are different. I’ve had ADHD (and probably autism) my whole life. I was always seen as different and wondered why I never was like everyone else in how I felt things, what I said, or really anything. I’ve gotten a lot more comfortable after learning more about ADHD and autism and now know this is just simply a part of who I am

[@Thatredheadperson]

Dude the “picking a crush out to feel like I’ve reached my emotional quota” is such a mood. I’m autistic and have always struggled feeling left out because I’ve never felt romantic attraction.

[@alexiane250]

right? same with dating people because i wanted to like upgrade them from friend to like best friend / dedicated friend

[@denver9290]

Literally SAME! It took me years to realize that my “crushes” on boys at school was really just the gender envy I had of masculine people… turns out I fall under the non-binary umbrella and just wanted to be more masculine. I don’t know if my neurodivergency has anything to do with inability to feel intense romantic attraction towards someone, but the thought of marrying someone and living with them forever just sounds… unpleasant.

[@ghost_shyguy]

feels bad man

[@marvintg2002]

Dude, same here! Does Asperger Syndrome ring a bell?

[@sachiel197]

yeah this def feels like the autism experience right here

[@birdeaux7991]

"WHY ARE NONE OF YOU ATTRACTIVE?!" You're fantastic. I really relate to all of this -- like, in a way that has me thinking "Okay maybe I do need to reevaluate some things I thought I knew about myself" -- and I really appreciate that you made the video even though it opens the door to a lot of people speculating and making assumptions about your personal life.

[@t_ylr]

Even as a gay man I related to that part. Just replace everyone with girls lol.

[@skv_llight]

yg

[@evabolton3224]

Time stamp 4:03

[@ryanpsaucier]

Although I'm not Aro or Ace, I heavily relate with the the whole "Wait, people aren't exaggerating thing" When it comes to basic human emotions. It took me way too long to figure out that constantly thinking about someone and wanted to be around them didn't just mean you wanted to be friends. In some cases it's different. I think the two sliders for Romantic and Intimate is a great way to verbalize it. Also I'm bi, people around me thought I was just gay for 2 years, and I was just confused for like 4 😅

[@underswappapyrus1408]

You helped me understand myself with this video since I was the same throughout my life

[@NerdinessD]

Loser

[@greyklein4154]

@@NerdinessD Child, has your parents ever taught you that name calling is wrong?

[@NerdinessD]

​@@greyklein4154No, why?

[@greyklein4154]

@@NerdinessD Oh, I’m sorry, I didn’t realize that your parents were so distant. Either way, that doesn’t excuse your behavior. When you do kind things, child, kindness returns. When you do bad things, evil returns. Your name-calling is only feeding into this cycle of evil. You should stop.

[@autumnt396]

I relate so much to her talking about her childhood "crushes". This video is literally the perfect explanation of what it is to be aroace

[@R3Cat]

though i ended up being mostly gay i can relate too because i used to have "crushes" on girls in the exact same way 😭

[@kluckva]

ikr right it basically feels like she told my own life story

[@evilemuempire9550]

Same, just in a slightly different way. My mom asked me who my school crush was, after humming and hahing for a bit, I just said who I thought was the prettiest. I had zero inclination of ever dating that person. TBH I still don’t really understand crushes, like are they just the person you find the most attractive or is there something more?

[@kluckva]

@@evilemuempire9550 i can feel your confusion sis/bro….. it’s such a strange concept for me

[@ylly5764]

girl who had a crush on bowser is valid tho

[@carpet7664]

“No romo”

[@cringeworthy6512]

This sent me xD

[@Mot0193]

im stealing this

[@hypertekextinction7886]

Good news than, Rome fell centuries ago!

[@Fanboy_of_everything]

AYO DAT’S ME

[@thepinkelephant2520]

LMFAOOO

[@yu-zeroyuu98]

This video blew my mind it was the perfect KZbin video in my opinion it was personal but not invasive comfortable and supporting informational and funny and jut there to enjoy not to push things on you also the just awkward feeling as they talk makes this video so human and warm keep up the good work

[@TheMidnightReaper983]

used to have a gay friend at my old school he was cool and smart got all the test answers from him on every test

[@nabman11]

Finally someone who believes the phrase “sex is a distraction from 2005 Battlefront II” more than I do

[@snakestaffmagic4499]

XD I respect that logic

[@primecreator5257]

.., I don’t think she suppprts EA. I don’t think she’s evil.

[@snakestaffmagic4499]

@@primecreator5257 XD meh.

[@tylerisadumb]

@@primecreator5257 You're thinking of the Battlefront II from 2017, published by EA. The Battlefront II from 2005 was published by LucasArts.

[@andrepriest8399]

2005 Battlefront II is above gender, sex is pointless, only battlefront II

[@newspider5693]

I like how you didn't overshare. Like, the entire statement is that we're all strangers that refused to listen to the stranger danger rule really hit me. People use the internet like a diary sometimes, so it's pretty refreshing to have a surface level talk, but not a deep sea dive into the life of someone I really honestly don't know. Jaiden is cool and awesome!

[@Stratictv]

Isn’t it funny how people got mad over this video

[@charwil3380]

Who

[@Stratictv]

@@charwil3380 who else twitter

[@NevieDUD3]

“I’ve got my eye on some of you,BEHAVE!” 😂

[@rl9217]

“Love is love…but what exactly is love? Its math. Let’s take this drawing board.” -Jaiden before figuring herself out

[@blablagamerbr]

last one i heared saying love is love was a pęđo

[@Kheran]

"We're all pretending to be adults here," is one of the best things I've heard in a while. That aside, it is lovely to see a video covering these topics. (:

[@livinuschiadikaobi4609]

Right?? We're all just Children at heart whether we live to be 90 or not. The difference is that, some folks that they're Children and LIVE life full of Vitality 'n all WHILE most pretend to be adults and get all bitter/grumpy due to responsibilities and "old age." It's anyone's pick honestly 🤣🤣

[@livinuschiadikaobi4609]

*some folks have accepted that they are CHILDREN and...

[@howdoeatjerry3975]

I am a child

[@Cressyn]

I agree, but on a sidenote, why do you do (: for a smiley face instead of :)??? Random thought lol

[@Littleha]

“Teens are just big children, and adults are even bigger children.”

[@existenceman6417]

ill be real, this sounds better than being straight🥲

[@essonyoutube]

well if it sounds better, why not just like… try being aroace? nothing will change besides like. not wanting to date people

[@J0sterr_]

@essonyoutube you don't get to choose your sexuality...it's something you're born with from the start of your life

[@Waltyworld]

@@J0sterr_ yep I didant get to choose to be aromantic but I’m happy I’m not dateing pepole and I’m gonna be a virgin for life may sound like I, sarcastic but actually I’m an introvert

[@J0sterr_]

@Waltyworld yeah i totally get you lol Actually I'm surprised up 'til this day people are commenting on this video💀

[@essonyoutube]

@@J0sterr_ you dont get to choose your sexuality but you dont get to choose things like the foods you enjoy either. second best way to find out is to try

[@KevinSmith-gu9tp]

i support you

[@lilyklein9218]

When she said that she didn’t know people were actually drawn to others who they think are attractive, I thought: what? THAT’S A RANDOM PERSON WHY WOULD YOU DATE THEM?! JUST BECAUSE YOU THINK THEY LOOK GOOD? I’m demisexual, and I was today years old when I realized that some people would go on a date with a stranger if they thought they looked hot.

[@VI_VA.]

As a demisexual/demirromantic person its still baffles me people actually do that. Or maybe they are already kissing in the second date lol My mom still points at a random guy in the street and asks "doesn't he look cute?" And I'm just like "....I guess??" 😂 my brain just goes "it's a guy" and thats it

[@Ebh55.]

I am bi but I would never go on a date with a stranger.

[@itsviolet29]

I have the same mindest. Am I demisexual?

[@strawberrymilk174]

@@VI_VA. don't you experience aesthetic attraction? Like you can tell if someone is objectively cute

[@VI_VA.]

@@strawberrymilk174 oh for sure, I was talking about in the sense my mother obviously expects to act like I feel sexual attraction to strangers 😅 appearences is not something i pay much attention to I do admit for a while i thought i had crushes on girls because I found them pretty, but that only happened with certain hairstyles or when wearing more men like clothes- turns out it was gender admiration/gender envy; I love the aesthetic and I wish I could look as cool as them lol

[@LDungeon]

"Hitting my normal human emotions quota" is a fucking great summary of my autistic school/high school experience, teenage me was dumb, trying to fit in instead of being himself and happy.

[@cynicallysalty4592]

I felt that

[@slevinchannel7589]

Best Asexual-Coverage i know: 'The Take'. BUT who's really in a critical Situation right now is Trans-People. I hope as many as possible from this empathic comment-section here go and watch 'Telltale Atheist' and his videos on current problems and more specifically Trans-Right-Bills!! Please inform yourself, as well as with the specific video: "Michigan Governor Kidnapping Plotters - Trials Begin" (i think especially of the end-speech)!

[@blitszina2570]

Oh gosh that's a mood as someone who's autistic too

[@cancelado.4]

Si el intentar encajar es difícil

[@handrising3714]

I'm both

[@solusfides]

so so well done. Thank you for your openness and clarity. I'm sharing this with the youth program leader at my church.

[@remi820]

This video: exists Literally Every 6 year old simp:😭😭😭

[@Sci-TechJumpscares]

Message to those 6 year old simps: Womp Womp

[@NerdinessD]

OK who cares

[@remi820]

@@NerdinessD literally noone in all of humanity cares, but clearly you took the time to comment so you must care

[@eldiamanterandom7586]

​​@@NerdinessD WOW, this is unbelievable, I have lost the count of how many homophobic and Sexist comments I have seen from you and your other friends, so, you know how much time you took to comment all that? I don't even know! This must be really important to take soooo much time throwing hate and all that stuff dude, and you say that "who cares"? Well, I care of it, because you are "the future of the world". And if that's true, the future will be chaos.

[@fazflix381]

@@remi820 true

[@tylernova9538]

Love the line “WHY ARE NONE OF YOU ATTRACTIVE!” 😂

[@SonnyVex]

Because you're severly autistic 🤓🤓🤓

[@kristinacuic5743]

That’s how Ace rep should be, none of that freaking out about not wanting to sleep with anyone, but freaking out about why no one is attractive! 😅 and then finding out sexual and aesthetic attraction are two different things. (its a more inclusive approach)

[@dawnriddler]

When you aren't ace and this is a problem 😩

[@slothtamer513]

same

[@soniyashi]

was my fav line

[@maddyc2025]

As someone who *finally* came to terms with being asexual, this video was really reassuring to see, especially the "they're not joking?!?" bit. I think that was the thought that finally confirmed being ace for me.

[@aleahryan146]

SAME! Well, kind of - I’ve always struggled with deciphering my emotions in general, so in all honesty, I don’t know if I can genuinely say I’m ace/Aro without potentially deteriorating the title somehow. But it is a nice thing to have, just a quiet title to silently hold on the back of my mind, you know? No? Okay great.

[@ljeans531]

Bruh, the delimema when your parents start to think you are Gay cause you don't have a love interest. And your like no I'm just not INTERESTED

[@xanthos9641]

Bro I was so confused when I first heard about people that were asexual. At the time, the only context I'd heard it in was asexual reproduction in bacteria, so I thought people were out there just duplicating themselves or something

[@pimp.named.slickback3928]

felt this HHHAAAAARRDDDDD i was scared to call myself asexual because people said it was just no sex until i realised the spectrum of it

[@diamondboom6169]

Same I knew that I was ace for like a month before this