Being pregnant and single - Real Talk with Tamima

[@marykiragu9805]

At the beginning she says the baby is 11months,they broke up some years ago when the man learnt she is pregnant...(11months old baby). She also says she was 21 when she met him and he was 23,they dated for 1 year before moving in.. Now she 24 and he's 28... Jeezz y'all I didnt pass my Math but hii imenishinda.

[@ritamutema9335]

Same aki

[@bellajuma2663]

I heard this too.. Not adding up!!!

[@gracemuthigani8706]

also trying to do the maths an still nothing adding up

[@mungai2099]

Mary Kiragu me too I am confused

[@gladysgatwiri7739]

i did my month and i got confused as well 24 n 28 haitally plus some years back nay

[@rourinishein]

These Kenyan therapists talk not as therapists but as Kenyan parents. She was using very strong words and her facial expressions... Nooo. A therapist asks questions, listens and makes you feel calm and comfortable in your skin. But this one... I'm not on the hot seat but I felt like I wouldn't dare open up to her because I sensed some criticism in her voice and attitude.

[@gracek8763]

I agree she is from the old school thought and she does not know how to relate to the millenials. She is judgemental and needs more schooling on how to relate to thus time and age. Geesh

[@gracek8763]

I agree she is from the old school thought and she does not know how to relate to the millenials. She is judgemental and needs more schooling on how to relate to thus time and age. Geesh

[@MJ-ye7dd]

I tell you... she is so judgmental. Self righteous therapist...Oooh how I like her facial expressions. We need several therapists of her kind..hehehe

[@terrywnjoroge]

Awful therapist

[@ritagicheru5186]

I know what you mean

[@elsienjeri7059]

I could listen to Sheila all day. She's interesting to listen to and she's smart.

[@rhinahirina4038]

Sheila is super intelligent. She will go places, very focussed, knows what she wants and will not settle for less than she deserves. Bravo

[@thicker94]

The second lady is great upstairs i wouldn't move in with someone just because im pregnant for him

[@elizafashionloverkeneth8219]

thicker curls so true agree with

[@sarahmasenge4811]

thicker curls very true ,,

[@ashwajeshi1558]

Yes...

[@ricematenda]

I agree, but the counsellor wanted to impose on her, which is wrong. The counsellor is too emotional

[@mimsbaibemimskim9556]

am proud to a single of two coz peace of mind is very important than having someone who I dnt trust and fighting all the tym God is our strength we hv to move forward backward never

[@ZawadiBirya]

I love the attitude of the 1st lady. I think that's how people should take life - in their stride.

[@JudyWanderi]

Sheila Marete has an impressive level of emotional intelligence. It is true, you don't have to get married to someone just because you are pregnant.

[@jayne3226]

true

[@annitaanne7431]

that true

[@Quilant749]

U forgot to add how beautiful and mature she is, I like alot

[@annkaf3696]

Shila i like your maturity since high school go go girl

[@jamesmugo9100]

Very true...

[@ngooaggie8471]

Whoow,!-my story its like for the first lady ,my baby baba was 23-,and l ,21, .....after he realised l was preg...he decided to leave me,at 4monts... up to date ,12-yrs now....lam a proudly a Single parent ..hustling for my daughter's in the Gulf ...Thumbs up for all single parents,God bless u all

[@SasaBusinessVillage]

The second lady is real and genuine sharing her story, she would heal faster , all the best

[@kadzo6614]

Heal from what?

[@karenwangari4057]

The second lady has a good head on her shoulders.She will be just fine

[@samuelnjenga8434]

Wangari twambie love ya mchingo iko vipi. Tulikuona ukifunga Pingu na mchingooo

[@karenwangari4057]

@@samuelnjenga8434 iko poa sana

[@samuelnjenga8434]

@@karenwangari4057 hapo Sawa my siz. Bora ni maelewano

[@faithmuia3634]

The therapist though ...a typical Kenyan parent.

[@patiencewanjiru5612]

Wangari as my daughter is named wishing you all the best..

[@winniesarani155]

Patricia needs to go back to school and learn how to talk as a counselor. I pity her anakuja na shida zake na anajifanya kama yeye ndiye anajua. Stop judging but instead counsel.

[@zaidazainab2407]

Tamima u are amazing n vert smart in mind...i like the way you hit the nail on the head...we can't run away from reality and pretend ......

[@oliviamaina8255]

This therapist should be fired immediately...too judgmental

[@gigi.akinyii]

Honestly, your resident therapist is not the best there is out there. She lacks empathy, sympathy, understanding and is judgemental. She was listening to criticize. She did a very poor job of putting herself in these young women's shoes and where she is supposed to lessen the pain that comes from such youthful trauma, she only served to exacerbate it by pointing out their mistakes to them as if they do not already know that they made such mistakes. Honestly, I don't feel like she is the best fit for people who have suffered any kind of emotional and mental pain.

[@millicentkerubo1439]

Thanks tamima for this show, it really encourages me as a single Mum

[@ruttiespicy5460]

It's better to heal a wound of being left, than to be in a relationship with no love.

[@atuhansa]

This therapist is very bliss... there is what is theory and practical. In the age and era where 12 year olds are having sex... you can't just stand there and say that biblically. ..yes it's sin... but the generations have changed. We are not at a point where we stand staunch and say no... Kids don't know that.

[@mbuyajohn]

The show is interesting and i appreciate the ladies for sharing and being vulnerable. The therapist was very unprofessional, unethical and judgemental. She needs to apologize to the ladies and to the proffesional counseling fraternity.

[@malcolmedwin4929]

I am so happy there is someone who understands the unprofessional, unethical and judgemental from the therapist 😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡

[@ritagicheru5186]

Allow me to talk reality. Our mothers were married in campus. Some of them gave birth to us in campus. Our fathers were committed. The moment they made them their girlfriend the psycholohically prepared. The world we are living in today is not the same. A girl or woman naturally craves love. The girls have been raised with the wife virtues. But the boys have not been raised with husband virtues. For as long as this continues things wont get better. Because even as a working class i have realised the only way yo make a man settle down is get a baby...

[@TNJ-gn2gv]

Kumtrap si kufanya asettle. Ni kujitrap pia...na pia kutrap mtoto.

[@judypeggymugo7294]

True

[@memijessy666]

Having a baby is 50 50 way of making a man settle... So one has to be ready for the out come... And naturally women will stick with the kids... I would say it's better to avoid as much as possible trying to trap marriage by getting pregnant...

[@franciscahjepchumba308]

@@memijessy666 true dear

[@tiamo726]

Those days they married not come we stay

[@ritamutema9335]

Don't invite this counsellor over again please

[@marywambui6785]

Watching this at Baghdad, Iraq and loving the show..great job Tamima

[@jesseludenyo6436]

akujanuka uko??? ama ni afgan..

[@idafaith7300]

The second lady is so mature and talk so much sense, yes girl I agree with you in all aspects sweetie.... the last part was hillarious!!!! That guy Hahaha he should have been able to take responsibilities

[@perisgithinji6049]

This counselor is so bitter for life. She is in the wrong career. Too much emotion.

[@LolaBugzy85]

So true!

[@okellokenneth9057]

big up patricia. you have nailed it all through

[@shironjuguna5853]

*Please please please Resident Counselor, I am not even anywhere near counseling or knowing any of the core principles in counseling, but I know how not to counsel and yours is a CLASSIC EXAMPLE! Try emphathy! Switch TV do better please. Are we getting solutions or here to criticize??*

[@chynasyraii]

I was with my Childs father for almost 2 years. beginning of my pregnancy was smooth. I have 3 more months left and he ruined our relationship , cheating, lying , extra disrespectful. smh I dont regret my baby but I regret who I had my son with.

[@faithmuia3634]

Fire the therapist. She is judgemental😭. The first lady kuna vile joining the dots of your story is hard

[@faithvitieka2572]

Live From Bahrain A Single Mom To 3kids. .Big up Single Mom's We'll make it In Life And Our Kids Future Gonna Be Bright.... !

[@jotaya]

Being raised well should make one know when to hold people accountable when situations like this happen. The girl child has been conditioned to self blame. I’m glad that all around the world, they’re now in the limelight and being empowered. And of course we won’t leave the boy child behind. They’ll be equally held accountable for their responsibility especially in such situations. Girl child, boy child, we gonna walk together side by side, equal and respecting of one another’s role in our society! Tamima is great! She is indeed another great therapist!

[@annitahkirumba9975]

The second girl i like your voice and was in the same situationship,thought i was pregnant but wasn't and ended the whole shitty thing.

[@sweethomes263]

I was like,you know,as in,he was like,like as in ,I mean.my parents were like....when did explaining ones self become this hard??

[@dannyosolo2752]

Sheila is articulate and an excellent orator!!!

[@carenkiptoo3089]

Kindly change the therapist Patricia I have watched several episodes and she's too judgemental

[@kenyansingulfarabscountrie2988]

The second lady has a very strong voice

[@MissJudith2019]

I’m obsessed with this channel

[@suemwinza2463]

Patricia reminds me of a high school principal not a counselor. Good points but her mode of delivery is wrong and is bound to shut the people opening up. That said ladies please take care of yourself. Use protection, learn from others mistakes and stay sane

[@yudelleanlisatajirikenyana4519]

Watched from California, USA lol very true. I second this channel. Awesome topics

[@graceooko3778]

Pat is a cool therapist according to me... I think it Depends on what you want to hear

[@piarants3958]

Boy child boy child 🤔🤔🙄🙄🙄🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂bless him❤

[@veronicasyombua6817]

That therapist needs to go back to college to study the real counseling.

[@tiamo726]

Nope shes giving these kenyan girls they r know to be loose the harsh truth acheni come we stay thats bull shit

[@frannyoodhis5093]

Never felt the urge to comment on a video on youtube....... but this I had to comment..... This Lady Sheila Marete..... Damn...... The head on your shoulders must be really heavy.... every time you open your mouth..... you are just full of wisdom..... and you are fluent in it as well.... I could listen to you all day...... My opinion .... people need to watch this just to listen to you on how to hand relationships.... Its difficult being single mother..... but for you I am not worried at all...... you have wisdom of 100 women. God bless you.

[@missmarete3847]

Thank you very much 😊😊

[@veronicamwania9584]

The therapist is very wanting.... my goodness the topic was not handled with the sensitivity it deserves. So sad how these ladies were handled no wonder unsafe abortions are common because it takes a lot of courage for a young lady to carry pregnancy to full term and raise a child single handedly in such a society

[@kenyafinest964]

Veron Mwania she lacked tact. She talked down on them. There was no encouragement. She could have driven her point home but not in a dictatorial way.

[@hattieopisa8802]

ameeeen

[@garygreen7104]

It should be hard! It should be discouraged having children without a father.

[@naimaadan1263]

Omg the so called psychotherapist is judgemental and on a high moral road...i find her style offensive and very aggressive and even her first sentence was an attack.

[@marykawira9266]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@veronicasyombua6817]

I totally agree, as a therapist myself I feel that she is missing something. She is too judgement and is giving advise rather than counseling.

[@zainabumakaka2712]

This is the same story had happen 2 me but i thank God I am a strong women and proud 2 be a single mum 2 my daughter my boyfriend dump me and move on with my best friend

[@Kalibumpashards]

Zainabu Makaka samee thing happened to me except for he left me for a man ..

[@nikkip8634]

I wish i could have had translations I wanna laugh 2 😒

[@lydiahwambui4513]

Dear Kenyan therapist. You cant tell these girls not to be in a relationship. and can't judge them too... I think it's better to talk about contraceptives.

[@fatimahelias1763]

She was 21 and he 23 now she is 24 and he is 28! I thought there was only 2yrs age difference! And you can't tell a guy to use condoms while living together! Ok but u can use other precautions as a lady.

[@jesuslovesme4042]

Feeling kizunguzungu ki English

[@agneskaranja8099]

Thought am the only one who heard she was first 21 then 24

[@miss.sheilailahalwa885]

Lol, cool I confirm that I got it right, consistency is vital

[@mariowangari4934]

I know right 🤣🤣2yrs turned to a hundred

[@nimoras]

Kizungumkuti 🤣🤣

[@perisgithinji6049]

Tamima is a good and reasonable counsellor

[@amarachihappiness9882]

I was also a victim I got pregnant in my second year in school the guy denied me but he new for sure that I was dating only him I try severely to explain to him but he never believed me and I took it upon myself to carry on with the pregnancy all by myself I cared for myself and my baby in school there my parents and siblings where not aware I told my mum at seven month and asked her to keep it a secret and she did one day he called me begging telling me he has conscience and bla bla bla I told him not to ever call my number again because I have gone far with the pregnancy and was very angry with him so I moved on with my life and I had a lot of people that God brought my way that where helping me out till I gave birth to my child I called him to inform him he was very happy he also send me money for the hospital but before then I had sort my hospital bill with my money after a month he came down to school to see me and the baby stayed with us that day and left the next day my story is very long but at the end when I was deciding on how to go about the baby a lot came to my mind but last last I sent the picture of the baby to the sis and told her that the baby was her brothers and she was very happy told her mum and they ask me to come with the baby I prayed about it and took the baby to them because at that point I was afraid of my family that was why when the father's family accepted the child I was happy and today the baby is fine healthy and she's 2 going to 3 and she's so Adorable and beautiful I faced a lot of trauma physiological emotional and lots more but I had to encourage myself and be strong for my baby. Watching you all the way from Abuja Nigeria I love your program thanks

[@missmarete3847]

Your such a strong young lady am glad you and your child are doing well

[@wouiddydez2552]

Hard to read without punctuation.

[@garygreen7104]

There's no such thing as a male knowing for sure that he's the father.

[@vibebern]

What kind of therapist is this??? Patricia You have no business being a therapist!!! 😡😡😡😡😡

[@isabelgithaka6305]

She is too judgemental and seems to be not real

[@alukweimbaali1923]

Very judgemental

[@LolaBugzy85]

I have done some basic counselling and from what I know this is so judgemental. Zero counselling skills. Ama I am seeing my own things😔

[@qatoi6943]

She's speaking as though she dropped out of heaven and all the ladies and guy there are sinners

[@kevinnderitu1675]

She is so judgemental,where did tamima get this one from?

[@MAUREENMALD]

Who else thinks this sheila marete lady is the female version of van vicker??😁😁😁😁

[@sertifiedgamer.]

Si Kwa Ubaya Lakini Hii Kitu ni Scripted....time 1:44 The two couples ama hao watu walikuwa tu this same show but different Video.....Nairobi kweli ni hustle

[@francinemulumba5893]

I 💯💯💯💯agree with the counselor the truth hurts M a 20 old virgin I prefer waiting for marriage then giving myself to someone whom is not worthy of me my body is sacred

[@nyatichiosiri.official]

That is like the worse therapist ever..so judgmental. How do you even relate to her? Its a good show though I love it👍

[@ceciliaitube3228]

True she is soo annoying.

[@nellyariwi4261]

I AGREE! I was so surprised!

[@lydiahwambui4513]

true.. shes talking like a Kenyan parent.. there is no therapy here

[@Aristin-mc]

Nyatichi Osiri I don't like her

[@Krizadh]

This first lady NEEDS help a lot of it... I wish she could get help. I understand why she is talking like that...I empathize with you...

[@makhatha4723]

True

[@Probity100]

Horrible therapist, her facial expressions when Rita is speaking are very unprofessional!! I cannot fathom why some guests speak good English and then switch to another language. Don’t these people realise You Tube is global? I stopped listening when number 3 started saying LIKE LIKE LIKE LIKE 👉👂👈. Good show but is this show only meant for Kenyans?

[@yudelleanlisatajirikenyana4519]

Kris cris 😂😂😂😂 hoping they'll start interpreting the stories

[@chesslalon2355]

@@Probity100 it's a switch tv 😀😀😀

[@runnert6012]

This show needs English subtitles for Swahili parts for ppl who do not speak the language. The therapist doesn't sound professional the way she talked about Sheila. She made an assumptions that Sheila needed to be wirh a man just because the guy wanted her to move in. Sheila sounds very smart & confident. I didn't like this Therapist because she doesn't know how to talk to clients who hv been through painful experiences.

[@gathoniliz]

Where the hell is this Therapist From??? My God! She has failed. Not the right person for the show.

[@waitherawaithesh4764]

I like the lady with the flowery dress🤗🤗miss independent💃

[@ceceberry6051]

She looks classy and she speaks very well.

[@jacqueypatrick4090]

Shes so intelligent i saw me in her

[@donorfundsopportunities5999]

Sheila is smart, brave and confident. she aint scared of no sh****t from a man. luvin her approach.

[@naomiakoth2958]

😂😂😂😂😂😂 that guy man,thirty minutes boll pap

[@Kevin_Nyutu]

Sheila's handling of the situation really speaks volumes about her level of maturity which is through the roof

[@irenetootsie9195]

These ladies are describing my story

[@AVYBREE]

I love the therapist. I need such therapist in my life. Pampering and talking what one wants to here doesn't solve issues, it covers them up and you are comfortable with lies. THIS IS WHY PEOPLE KEEP JUSTIFYING STUPID MISTAKES. The truth will always set you free. What she said is just direct truth. The just have to pick it and go work on it. Full stop.

[@marthakinuthia7195]

I think am different from others coz I lyk the therapist, always young pple want to hear what they want BT the ready is frank, its a real lyf, so she must tell the truth.

[@sharonjumba4648]

Sometimes we need a slap to reality.

[@Fredrick_Lagat91]

Enable downloads for offline watch.

[@naxiz_kenya2805]

I have a problem with the slim lady's perspective. I feel like she was making that guys ability to make the right decision extremely difficult. I was ones in a situation like that and to say the truth a man literally locks in his brain because of how difficult you are making things to be. Emotional decisions should be a team effort but most ladies like this imagine it is a man's job to bend over backwards for your emotional stability and this is wrong. If we can work together as a team to make things work it can be much more easy

[@thepresidentofkenya7105]

i thot i was the only one who saw this...i think she is also full of herself....she has this attitude that "i have figured it out" ...from experience, slim "laptop-ish" ladies are problematic...sijuangi ni kwa nini.

[@lshiglobal]

You are being biased

[@lorrainelollio9071]

That Psychologist is judgemental and really shady nkt!!! She is just worsening how the ladies felt.

[@moodykimwele2564]

that's the point.....they regret what they did......don't go digging graves if you can deal with nightmares

[@dianamugo6625]

Burale and Masinde are the best 👏👏

[@wanjikunjuguna8386]

The therapist is not empathetic, you don't start blaming the girls. She represents most of the parents and no wonder the the girls suffer alone because they fear the parents reaction. I wish you could first of all appreciate the girls for being strong and positive and for sharing their story. Girls don't take that woman seriously, God will give you another chance and make up. we all make mistakes but I dont like the way the society blame the girl and leave the boys to walk out free. I wish to ask the therapist what she would do if her daughter get pregnant in first year at campus? Im a lecturer and and normally empower my gals, what we have agreed we shall never let the boys get out of it, these kids would like to know their fathers, my girls be strong and fight on. Alice dont fear the rich family, if they refuse, wacha wafanye DNA!!!

[@HardlyTalk]

Reasons why I am never showing up at therapists

[@boscolokwam3523]

I like her points the way she narrated to pple

[@upendomtambo5103]

Sheila your smart lady, courageous and focused...hugs

[@likesubscribethanku4853]

I actually like the counselor. I don't know why everybody is complaining about her. The truth always hurt and if you don't like someone telling your truth then don't come in public with your problems.

[@francinemulumba5893]

True I also like her cos she is truthful

[@qatatvip5451]

Am here also I liked her so much she is on point 💅💅💅💅

[@heiditemba314]

She said the truth. The difference is how she said it. There is a better way of putting your point across and still be sensitive to emotions

[@godsfiercegirl1293]

Why are some people judging this counsellor?She is very right.The young generation should hear this.She is very right.People tend to pretend not be aware of these important stuff.Big up for her

[@jayne3226]

I love Sheila, very intelligent lady

[@edithchemutai6132]

I love that guy, responsible for someone else

[@monicakendi3959]

This counselor can bring back all the pain and wounds..

[@chebetgabbie5146]

so the therapist said if u r in campus just study no relationship 😒😢😢😢😢campus will b very boring

[@debraayuma841]

Hahaha

[@felixmereru8186]

what a beautiful teachings ,,,

[@BIGBROTHERADVICECORNER]

Am learning a lot from your show from Dubai. Thanks so much

[@brendahmbaabu8002]

1 year later am here to confirm if this therapist is still employed😏😏😏so because she's in school her emotions should go to school too

[@maryshee8590]

😄😄

[@callmedetergent1852]

Atleast she changed..coz her previous z nt like ov present/recent.

[@sarahkaranjajoe]

Eti phobia ya parents 🤣🤣🤣.Mimi I can't be hidden coz of some crazy phobia

[@suzannemaina4773]

That therapist is very judgmental. That is not how to counsel people. That is a docket of compassion and grace, we shouldn't judge people but extend the same compassion that has been extended to us through Christ. That was very disappointing, you shouldn't use her again for any show.

[@margaretkuvunangomengome1447]

I think one day i will also share my past. But am proud of it cos it has made me who i am today.

[@elizafashionloverkeneth8219]

Margaret Kuvuna Ngome Ngome good girl coz we all have past 👊

[@immaculatenamatsi3235]

Am not OK with the therapist coz sex is there and we r all human beings the best thing to do is to provide sex education and to embrace those ladies coz some of them have not healed from trauma instead of being harsh

[@maggynowak3555]

This counsellor is judgemental and self righteous Lacking in empathy. She advices rather than counsel. Her opening sentence was terrorist attack.

[@christinegakure882]

I think the therapist is right in giving the tough love, so that other girls can know how to avoid the pitfalls

[@olusegunolatoye969]

We're are enjoying the talk shows but whenever the language is being spoken we lost completely. Kindly help us to translate so as to enjoying your program. Thanks

[@Plizah]

Bring this show to live please

[@MinAaliyah]

Sheila is my favorite. Very smart and intelligent woman

[@Supervisor-k7d]

This lady is not a proper counselor. Your job is to understand, create, empathy and offer direction in a proper way. Not to be the angry aunty. Find a proper person for that job.

[@tiamo726]

But on the other hand shes right why live with a man u don't knownhis people and marriage is not something you rush too ati tuna watotot we should be together.

[@myexpatlife9179]

Tamima you are a better councilor than this Patricia.

[@gladysashley6672]

I thot so too that therapist is a noooooo....!!!!!

[@cmchrisa1]

anyone notice the guy is on 2:35 but 2:43 the guy is not there and they din't go on a break

[@chancemoremadzibaba932]

lam in South Africa Cape Town l love this program very much but l don't understand Swahili and at the same time they good ladies and so beautiful keep it up

[@b-whiteconsultants]

That is not therapeutic at all. You don't dwell over spilled milk.

[@carolinemumbi1469]

this therapist seems to have book knowledge but is not knowlegable on the real experiences of life and the personalities of people.i dont think she is capable of understanding why people do the things they do.

[@winsjausenge9600]

that 1st lady is really confused

[@mplaylisttm5307]

I like the way tamima gave the therapist reality change

[@feliciatano3434]

I don't see any problem with the counselor ,she is just telling the truth

[@gracehinga2297]

When hasn't been in such situation can never ever advice leave alone counsel...its just mockery to reality.

[@rizikimurungi5754]

Someone take back this 'Therapist's' licence. Campus is not your normal school so telling Rita and other college students not date doesn't quite make sense. On Alice, parents being against the relationship is not really a red flag. Some of our parents eloped and they're still together. It seems the guy simply neither wanted the child nor her. About Shila's situation, I wonder what the she (Therapist) doesn't understand. From what I gather Shila is quite mature and all she wanted & still wants is the same level of maturity from the guy. Too bad the guy is the direct opposite.

[@lucywanjiru4218]

Thirty minutes one time🤣🤣🤣

[@esmeleighkemuma5914]

Whoever is saying the therapist is not professional you are sick in your head. She is saying the truth and most of us don't want to hear the truth.

[@maureenwm]

Those seats are too far apart from each other they're literally shouting at each other, it's supposed to be a conversation.

[@suwie549]

🤣🤣🤣

[@jecintanjoki4652]

Hellow fellow perfectionist😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@maureenmburuw]

That counselor is useless to say the least... why is she so inconsiderate to their feelings

[@missblessedbellablessed]

😂😂watu huku wanachekana na wako on the same boat ya mashida

[@patiencewanjiru5612]

Hizi Yeah ni mingi aki