Being Single Is Now An Unaffordable Luxury

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Being single is becoming an unaffordable luxury for a lot of people.
The cost of everything is exploding right now and without a partner to share the financial burden with, single people are financially falling behind their friends who are in consistent relationships.
Being able to combine incomes and share expenses is only where the subtle advantages start as well. Multiple studies by world renowned institutes in multiple countries have found that traditional married couples even earn more on average than people who are single.
Interestingly the reasons the researchers found for this pay gap were causal, which means that it wasn’t just that richer people were more likely to get married, it means that being married on average gives people key benefits that lets them earn more money during their career.
The gap between couples and singles is only growing and to make matters worse the cost of dating is ALSO increasing at an alarming rate.
This means that the financial benefits of long-term relationships are now, more than ever, disproportionately going to go to those people who are financially stable enough to be able to play the dating game.
We must also remember that there are lots of people who want to remain single, and even more worryingly, there are lots of people that are in relationships that would like to get out of them if only they could afford to.
So it’s time to learn How Money Works to find out how being single became an expensive luxury and why traditional couples on average end up so far ahead.
#personalfinance #howmoneyworks
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[@Noperare]

Too broke to have a girlfriend, too broke to be single, I guess I am just too broke to be alive.

[@udhsids]

Same

[@ricardopetrere]

Canada got you covered, it seems... 🤡🌍

[@presidentirinavladimirovna7054]

@@ricardopetrere lmfaoooooo. Careful, you might get sued for practicing medicine without a license

[@in5minutes556]

You’re just a brookie, a waggie, a slave to the matrix - Andrew Tate

[@antpoo]

‘Sometimes having nothing is a pretty cool hand’ Cool hand Luke

[@JorgeRodriguez-ww4pl]

You've made videos about my job being pointless and how I will never retire...but this is the most depressed you've ever made me feel, and right around Xmas too. Well done, Subscribed.

[@HowMoneyWorks]

Sorry. Comment made me LOL

[@montralanca]

He also said we suck at investing, we’re never getting our finances together and we’re easy to replace. Bruh…

[@impaledface7694]

IT'S OVER

[@gromm93]

@@HowMoneyWorks This is why zoomers are 1000% fucked.

[@JV3Player]

You should be able to retire if there are promotions at your job and you have time in life, a dead end job? Jump ship to another job.

[@YuraEnjoji]

The most economically streamlined option beyond marriage is obvious: MOM'S BASEMENT!

[@afanasymarinov2236]

In praise of mom's basement - absolutely underrated life choice.

[@AllTheArtsy]

Multigenerational family homes is literally the answer. Americans (or Westerners in general) are just too proud to acknowledge it.

[@TehFlush]

Based mom's basement dweller

[@johnyseimah229]

or ground floor if there is no basement!

[@ThisisDaniel]

Or the attic, if you like a view!

[@HTV-2_Hypersonic_Glide_Vehicle]

Being able to live on your own without debt and being able to retire is the new flex everyone.

[@KangTheDigitalNomad]

It should have always been a 💪 flex

[@louisinese]

Agreed

[@HTV-2_Hypersonic_Glide_Vehicle]

@@danielisaac7586 I could never own a company. I don't have faith in myself for such responsibility like that. Then again I am only just 20. But congratulations on your accomplishments.

[@eat_ze_bugs]

Retirement is a luxury throughout human history. Most of the people in history have never really got the chance or opportunity to retire.

[@HTV-2_Hypersonic_Glide_Vehicle]

@@eat_ze_bugs Oh

[@pimpnamedslickback7780]

Ironically enough the high cost of living is also making dating more difficult as many people cant afford their own place, cant afford to spend money dating because of student loan debt, or cant afford to spend time dating bc they have a second job. So you're just an endless feedback loop of pain and misery until you perish.

[@brianl1341]

Men should never marry or cohabitate , nothing to gain everything to lose. Only one reason would be to have kids, given women in the west not likely to happen.

[@warrengraham5145]

And that's late stage capitalism for ya.

[@danielcantiego9374]

We truly live in a Society

[@Random17Game]

Its getting ''more expensive to date because people go for more materialistic girls'', we don't need much to date, just willingness and 2 persons puting their mind to it and bonding

[@rexx9496]

I'm sure someone will eventually figure out that this is why fertility rates are plunging in rich countries. Only people having lots of kids are poor immigrants(who are just carrying that tradition to their new country) and rich famous people like Elon Musk and Nick Cannon.

[@JazzJackrabbit]

You know what's more expensive than staying single? Not having a pre-nuptial agreement, then losing half your assets in the divorce!

[@yunleung2631]

If you’re both making money then it’s not a loss.

[@zanychelly]

@@yunleung2631 Without a pre-nuptial, in the US, there isn’t such a thing of BOTH making money on a divorce…

[@TomMcMorrow]

Agreed friend! Men and women alike would benefit from having one, and it's being financially smart. As I told my girlfriend, the wedding is the love part of marriage. The prenup is the business part.

[@brianl1341]

In the current system judges are now tossing prenuptial agreements for whatever reason they deem. In family court judges have judicial discretion thus the wrong judge can ruin your well laid out plans.

[@D0omC0okie]

Are you talking from experience or from what you’ve heard

[@defilerzerg9152]

“Some people ask: “Why is everyone poly these days?”. Dude, it takes seven people to buy a house!”

[@spencerqwashington]

😂

[@karlasouza6104]

😂😂😂 Best joke I've seen so far in the comments.

[@pq7185]

Being homeless, divorced, and paying child support is more expensive and harder to recover from than just being homeless

[@tenebrae1191]

👍

[@Lord_Vanns]

Facts

[@RocketVet]

Truth.

[@akshay9602]

This video is applicable for women only. Looking at all the biased laws which favour women, only women benefit from marriage/relationships.

[@dorino9057]

Don’t have kids then if you don’t want to take care of them

[@truhartwood3170]

I have way more money now that I'm single vs when I was married! This video assumes you're with someone who makes money instead of being with someone that just spends all the money you make. (I'm much happier and more mentally stable as well!) Not looking to get back into a relationship. Being single is definitely a nice luxury and well worth it if you can make it on your own.

[@jobobminer8843]

Excellent point. I think the assumption made in the video is that the people are in a healthy marriage. I'm sorry to hear you didn't get to experience the financial benefits and I'm glad you have the resources to succeed on your own

[@eriknephrongfr8847]

Here F’ing Here

[@KangTheDigitalNomad]

Drink 🍻 to this chaps

[@Imagine_sisyphus_happy]

Yes sirrrr

[@Ice_Solid]

Exactly, it was way cheaper being single.

[@kawaiicoded4292]

You shouldn't get into a relationship cause, you're financially struggling. Adding another person just complicates things. Stay single and get roommates. Relationships and finances can complicate things especially if you're weren't financially independent prior to that person.

[@Rampage1Rules]

Yeah , the title is kind of clickbait. Women are very expensive to deal with.

[@southcoastinventors6583]

Also don't live in San Fransisco like How Money Works does.

[@6dhypercube740]

@@Rampage1Rules Not inherently, only some women.

[@akira1404]

@@6dhypercube740 more than some but yeah not all

[@nepfain8932]

Actually... such a situation is a natural filter. In that situation the one you get should in theory one you can rely on simply because they are willing to be with you at the lowest.

[@cosmicbrownie333]

A roommate is only good if you have someone equally as responsible as you..otherwise it’s a huge burden. I know too many people trapped in bad relationships because they need their help with the bills. As an introvert, living alone is a expense worth paying for.

[@keyondidit8118]

The leave then. Why stick around to keep some bill help?that’s selfish and delusional. Be scared ain’t it either. “She”willingly won’t leave for financials reasons but not for her life? Madness

[@lithoplanemasters6522]

@@keyondidit8118 Because they are desperate for money. This isn't a simple case of going out for a party. They could either a: can't afford a home b: can't afford to eat or c: will wind up in jail for being unable to pay bills.

[@keyondidit8118]

@@lithoplanemasters6522 that’s the life you chose to not be able to take care of yourself and fully relying on someone else . The decisions got you to this point and you have to deal with the consequences

[@YannMetalhead]

I live in Brazil, where living with our parents isn't a big deal. So, for me, to be single while living with my parents is far more viable than to be married and live in my own house.

[@KangTheDigitalNomad]

They don't know in America don't help them figure it out. America's culture to Americans is toxic they did it to themselves thought being conservative fiscally was a bad thing it was never or being frugal was bad for years America and Americans are wasters and if you lived there 1 year you'd see it.

[@PAPO9609]

Yup. Same here in Mexico

[@JK-td4hi]

Living with parents is literally normal in every single culture except modern western culture where people live in a world of delusion. Nearly all other cultures are collectivist. In the west, it’s all about individualism. It may not be the only issue plaguing western society, but too much individualism certainly is a big one.

[@YannMetalhead]

@@JK-td4hi I agree.

[@karna8658]

Same here in India.

[@vankram1552]

Sorry this is just wrong, girlfriends are very expensive.

[@jeffbarrett791]

you aint seen nothing until kids

[@currypablo]

And so are divorces!

[@JohnDoe-tj8rq]

You gotta find one who earns more than she spends.

[@2MeterLP]

Youre going for the wrong type of woman, then. You need a woman who is your partner, not a leech.

[@TheStupidrule]

Can confirm. Every time in my life that a relationship ended, I was shocked by how much money I suddenly had left every month without a gf draining like 50% of my salary.

[@TubBunnyChews]

If you think being single is expensive, try getting a girlfriend. Don't even think about marriage.

[@se2664]

Well don’t get friends either

[@Dweeble233]

Girlfriends don't have to be expensive. If they value you and your time hey, they should be paying also.

[@imlostagainWTF]

Ya it depends, if the expectation is now you have to support yourself AND the gf then yes they are expensive. but if she works too and support her self then you both can enjoy the combined shared assets like having a netflix subscription but only pays half just like the video mention. So don't get a gf that wants you to pay for all her things.

[@sethsorensen6431]

A big tip that helped me save some money: deep freezer from Walmart and buy meat on clearance to freeze, or from butcher shops in bulk. Now that I don’t need to buy meat at the store my average grocery bill is $40 per week for some fresh vegetables and a few other items. You can also DIY car repairs by watching KZbin. I’ve done every car repair on my 2008 Camry since I bought it 3 years ago and have saved roughly $3.5k

[@WCCXtra]

Yeah, KZbin is a godsend for diy car repairs. 99 Accord V6 coupe with 140k still going strong.

[@joefer5360]

Don't become a DIY bug. Learn to make more income through your proficiency and find other skilled men who depend on your income to keep their skill in business. Either do that, or take this skill of fixing vehicles and distribute it to the market.

[@jennifertarin4707]

That's great if you a) have the space and b) have a vehicle with which to haul your massive freezer and purchases and c) don't live in a shared residence. I don't even have my own refrigerator and have to share a dorm sized one with another roommate making it impossible to go grocery shopping

[@TheNerdyPencil]

As a single woman in her early twenties, after having a roommate who had her shitty boyfriend living in my apartment half the week for free, I decided to live alone and I have not regretted it at all despite my housing expenses more than doubling. Luckily I received a 50% raise after trying to leave for a different higher paying job so that I could afford this. I’m not saving much more than I used to but sometimes peace of mind and safety is worth the expense. The recent inflation increases on a single income definitely hurt my plans for a vacation though.

[@Roccofan]

You’re at the prime marrying age. I strongly recommend you find a husband. Yeah, I know, you can do it all on your own…blah blah…..after 27 or so, the shine diminishes. There are younger and more compliant models rolling into the dealer lots every day. Yes, I know how sexist that sounds, but it is reality. A reality I hope I’m not the first to tell you. If I am, then you really need to get with a good man and get a ring on it. Best.

[@kenonerboy]

Stop bragging

[@stevematin6050]

Vacation is for nerds anyway. Keep at it!

[@geordirendum583]

@@Roccofan bruh

[@Roccofan]

@@geordirendum583 Were any lies told?

[@martinebon4333]

As a single man, with a median salary, its frightening that I am just barely surviving each month with a a bit of savings if I really try to be frugal. But considering having a family where I have to support a child with no recourse to further money is much more terrifying. If I ever get in a relationship, having a child would be the least of my priorities and maybe just enjoy our time together, once there is a baby on the way, there is no turning back....other than abortion....

[@alvariuztheplug5728]

Bro you Gon have tu support her, f children, she's gon cost you at least double the amount of money you'll spend in your kids 💀🤣

[@rumplstiltztinkerstein]

@@alvariuztheplug5728 That depends on who you choose as partner. If your partners are like that, it tells more about who you are than them.

[@brianl1341]

Love is grand, Divorce is 500 Grand.

[@martinebon4333]

@@alvariuztheplug5728 that depends on your partner, if she is going to be scrounger, then this relationship is not gonna last. We need financially independent women in our lives.

[@D0omC0okie]

Idk why you gotta think about kids, take it one step at a time

[@potapotapotapotapotapota]

Yes instead of buying two sets of things for two people you can share one set of things between two people. The key word is share. If you are incapable of sharing your things then don't get married.

[@zukodude487987]

Woman never share the bill on a date, not for long at least.

[@evilds3261]

@@zukodude487987 Sharing is caring. If they don't share, they don't care.

[@Max-ve5tu]

Like Alec Baldwin says in The Departed: "Marriage is an important part of getting ahead... Married guys seems more stable. People see the ring and think at least somebody can stand the SOB."

[@KangTheDigitalNomad]

Marriage is a club most don't understand how it works they do it and don't use it to their advantage

[@matheussanthiago9685]

Isn't it a case of mistaking causality with causation? It is not that married people are more stable. People that are stable are more likely to get married (or at leat it should be the case)

[@priyojitchatterjee6164]

that sounds like gaslighting instead of motivating. imagine telling a woman you are too stupid to stay single and see where it gets you. getting married testricts your mobility, your spending and your choices. thats not the definition of getting ahead, thats called getting held back.

[@fedyx1544]

simple solution, wear fake ring when at work then take it off once you get home

[@nineonine9082]

@@fedyx1544 Was just about to say that hahaha, Love me some mind games baby!

[@JPDuval-xy4yy]

Being single saved me a lot of money these last 3 years

[@JonniD]

If you're miserably alone, by all means, try to find someone one. But *HIGH FIVE* to my fellow happily single souls who laughed at the absurd "benefits" and ridiculous assertions in this video.

[@minin911]

Reason #1 (sampling bias) is almost certainly the main reason for the difference. It's not causal, it's simply that wealthy people are more likely to get married.

[@zetaforever4953]

@@minin911 It can also be that married men feel greater pressure to earn more, especially if they have kids. But I'm not sure how that can be thought of as a benefit. The extra money you earn is just being spent on your family, plus you have more stress since failing to earn that money would affect your family members badly. Anyone would earn more under that kind of stress, but that's hardly a plus point.

[@6dhypercube740]

I suspect that a lot of this is unfortunately correct. Society is oppressive and penalizes people who don't fit the norm. We need to organize and form systems of financial organization that don't rely on romantic relationships.

[@kamilareeder1493]

Yeah great advice huh ? Move in and date someone to avoid poverty lol

[@zukodude487987]

This video missed so many crucial variables it is almost autistic in its content.

[@j.mieses8139]

This video hit me hard...recently divorced after being married for 10 years and 4 kids I find that I cannot afford anything...barely afford my basic bills, amounting credit card debt, not to mention child support..basically living paycheck to paycheck..and thats after getting a second job...and dating? cant afford to do that. At first I thought it was going to be fun being a Bachelor again with my own place. I am stressed out of my mind!

[@crooked52h]

Yeah because CS payments and alimony will almost assuredly drive you into the poor house

[@Roccofan]

I’ve had some dark moments in my marriage and when I did the math, it was always…….cheaper to keep her.

[@6dhypercube740]

@@crooked52hI think you have a dim view of women. They are all individuals. Only a small fraction are how you describe.

[@crooked52h]

@@6dhypercube740 I have a dim view on western marriage it does men no benefit just causes liabilities to someone who is incentivized to behave poorly

[@crooked52h]

@@6dhypercube740 most marriages end in divorce and are initiated by women

[@knurlgnar24]

If you think paying all of your own expenses is difficult, try marriage. Men can live with very little and be satisfied. Your family won't.

[@ThomasJDavis]

Define: satisfied Herein lies the controversy.

[@philip7922]

ain't that the truth. I actually prefer my bed on the floor.

[@sunso1991]

Not to mention the absurd amount of soap and toilet paper the wife uses. When I lived alone my one bottle of handsoap would last like 3 months, and a roll of TP like two months. Now married for 5 years. I have to buy two 32oz soap refill and 18 rolls of TP every month. Like How?!

[@inuhundchien6041]

...you must be an ace or a handsome stud. A lot of men can live with very little material thing, but go crazy from lack of intimacy. Of course the easiest way is just to go gay, intimacy without women's baggage.

[@sunso1991]

@@inuhundchien6041 but I love bosoms

[@Jose04537]

Live with your parents. More and more adults are now living with their parents, because how unaffordable living alone is, and how less and less people are marrying (the number is single people is also rising). The stigma is going to go away eventually when reality sets in, just like it did with remote work and remote education.

[@wanderingrandomer]

I can't imagine the stigma going away soon. I've lived at home my whole life with my parents and it's a source of self-hatred for me, a sign of failure to make it on my own in the world. It also makes finding a partner harder because of the embarrassment.

[@impaledface7694]

Definitely has it's own set of issues. If you don't go full NEET it's probably alright. I like my parents but the older I get the weirder it is. At the same time renting an apartment is literally flushing money down the sink for.... a smaller and worse living space.

[@Heyu7her3]

A lot of people live with their parents but don't save, so the stigma shall remain

[@Jose04537]

@@Heyu7her3 Still better than wasting half of your pay check on renting.

[@Jose04537]

@@wanderingrandomer That's not a problem in a lot of cultures, Americans need to change as the world does, instead of living an unsustainable lie (that they can afford what previous generations did, when every single study and poll say they can't).

[@TairyHesticles]

Uh, try being not single and paying for like 80% of everything. If I were single again I'd live like a king.

[@zukodude487987]

Im living your dream

[@lephtovermeet]

This has been the case for about 10 or 15 years in most regions. And if you ever want to self improve, one partner has to sacrifice and grind while the other works on themselves, which puts incredible strain on a relationship. Many couples are literally too broke to break-up despite not being happy. If you don't have friends or family to help you through tough times you're literally F'ed and one major life event away from being homeless, even among traditionally well paid people with technical degrees and expertise. The worst part - it will never get fixed. It's been getting progressively worse since at least the 70s.

[@Warder-hn7pe]

Seriously? I just ended up moving in with my bros since I’m not married. We ended up buying a small ranch in rural Texas. We grow most of our own food, pot for recreational use and make our own beer. The part time job I keep is only for taxes, health insurance and miscellaneous items. Just keep your expenses low, there’s many ways to cut what you spend.

[@donaldlyons17]

Your job must pay you enough to afford to do that.....

[@Anngrl69]

How much did you all pay for the property?

[@Warder-hn7pe]

Eh, it’s a gas station part time job. A bucees. But it’s also rural Texas so cost of living and land is cheap.

[@Warder-hn7pe]

Over 5 years. About 600k for 50 acres, 5 cabins with solar and well water set ups. We basically pay nothing but insurance, taxes and misc expenses.

[@kerynl.sanchez9891]

🎉

[@DYH00000]

I'm from Ukraine. It is significantly more expensive to have girlfriend that being single. Just find your way, make money and enjoy your life

[@inuhundchien6041]

It will be less expensive in the future if you stay alive. I remember a story about a Russian soldier that survived after the War, the only one in his village. He was the father of all the new babies in that village after he came back. Good luck!

[@eat_ze_bugs]

@@inuhundchien6041 Well he was the last man on -Earth- village

[@Lord_Vanns]

Just go your own way brotha. Women will make you broke before they build you up

[@whatever9274]

bro you have way more bigger problems than getting a girlfriend.

[@gigaus0]

So much to pick apart...For preface, I'm a widower with two kids. worked pretty consistently for the last two decades, and haven't remarried. All of this is bunk. It's been bunk since I was a kid, and even my grandparents mocked this. The idea that 'married couples make more than singles' has been a line since the 50s. Clearly, since they have studies for it from the 50s, where one of the hypothesis behind it is 'Married men are just better people, and better people work harder, and make more money for working harder!' These studies more or less look at two person families. That is, married couples that never have kids. Being married, we lost money even before having kids, because we didn't deep dive into tax programs and schemes, or use mine or my wife's income to buy up several thousand in stock. Fact is, getting married even just to share finances, you lose money, not gain it, and the data doesn't reflect that whatsoever. There's an exceptional bias to prove that it's better to get married, yet omit the biggest cost of getting together; Kids. And to not point out that the couples making money, are doing so in sideways means, again like stocks or 'side hustles'. I'd be very interested in seeing the receipts on this one, because I'm seeing a rather large lack of what studies were used for this. Because this sounds like just more bs being pushed for views.

[@LetItRoll97]

I believe that Pew Research did a study on this in 2017, but I don't remember the name off the top of my head.

[@Heyu7her3]

Three are several studies from 2019. And a lot of it is about taxes (single childless adults are the most taxed) and income (married employees, particularly men, are arbitrarily paid more than singles).

[@mandisaw]

I'd be interested to see some cohort studies across ethnicity, and controlling for double- vs single-income married (men vs women earners). Yes, there is definitely a hard bias in that *society* needs more people to get married, and men benefit from the arrangement more than women do. Very hard to back out actual causes from data that's a bit tainted by that bias. Also, fellow wid here! 17yrs together, not-quite 3yrs out.

[@ThomasJDavis]

Yeah. You need to cut this cynical crap. What you're complaining about is DISCRETIONARY INCOME! Married couples have a higher NET income. NET! And yes, so much of it goes toward raising kids. Guess why?

[@gigaus0]

@@mandisaw Congrats!

[@shaolinotter]

as a single childfree man I would say discrimination at work is a big factor. Ive considered pretending I have kids at work so I can get a promotion and a looser schedule

[@evilds3261]

I would not tolerate discrimination at work and I would point out how having children is financially irresponsible because it simply creates additional expenses and adds more responsibilities and stressors into your life on top of the ones you already have. Tell them that you are only able to come to work without being completely exhausted because you do not have a child to sacrifice your soul to. I swear, society has gotten things backwards, what joy and fulfillment are you supposed to get by becoming even busier, stressed, and exhausted than necessary by bringing a financial liability into your life? Also, I will demand payment in advance for overtime work and will gladly work overtime, provided I am paid in advance so that the company cannot make excuses as to why there is a delay in my getting paid overtime because I care more about money than I do giving myself additional expenses on top of the ones I already have. If I am not getting paid for my time, then they will not receive my time. And if my parents are not able to continue supporting me, then why did they bring me into the world? I mean, maybe I could go live with a friend, that is possible, but I like to view myself as a corporation that is trying to profit to appease my shareholders - those shareholders being my parents and loved ones. If my investors are not happy, then I am not running a good company and any business that does not enable me to profit has no right to receive my labour. If everyone thought of themselves as a company out for profit, then we could collectively negotiate better wages by forcing corporations to do so and if they simply raise costs to ensure our spending power remains stagnant or keeps decreasing, we will demand higher and higher wages until costs stop rising. If the wage death spiral truly exists - then it presents a major flaw in our economy that will need to be corrected. And if triggering it is what it takes to motivate people to finally correct it, then so be it.

[@jane925]

That's insane man, everyone should choose freely whether to have children or not and not be judged...

[@yashuarazohr486]

New retirement plan: live with parents (be sure to pay some rent, help around the house, follow the rules while living there and be frugal) save money and invest, and learn a trade as well; and if you still have any tuition and saved up money get an education in STEM. Don't be ashamed of living with loved ones just because society say you should.

[@marmedalmond9958]

What if you have bad parents?

[@Narrator1]

@@marmedalmond9958 Or your parents are already dead?

[@eavyeavy2864]

Cant follow her rules when she want to control me and hate everything i do. I reject this privelege.

[@SwipeDogg]

What's a "loved one?" Sounds like something only coddled people have.

[@user-kpkxgtj]

Do consider for a moment that those loved ones might have other plans for their own lives, and someone extending their stay with them might get in the way of that.

[@Retired-jr3qs]

I am 60 and retired. I have no kids and life is great. Being single and retired is awesome.

[@daveblakk8318]

Good for you boomer

[@3DHDcat]

Your genes die with you hahaha

[@geordirendum583]

You didnt serve society by not having kids and now you are profiting of society .

[@gladheateher5458]

imagine being 60 years old and needing to brag about your lack of responsibilities to a bunch of strangers... compensating for something, are we?

[@WanderTheNomad]

Sounds like the dream

[@arinaira1417]

Although you can split your bills by going into relationship, money is always the main reason people fight in relationship. It only works if you have good relationship. People fight over money. Of course living single is more expensive. But I don't see getting into relationship helps financial struggle. If you have kids for example, that adds up really quickly. Married man tend to have greater pressure to earn more. It's getting complicated. So many arrangements for both of your finances. In my culture, marriage is expensive and divorce is worse. I personally wouldn't dare to be in relationship and combine our finances if I'm not feel secure financially. Looking through my family history and how miserable people when they're in relationship and have kids but can't afford it, it's a recipe for disaster.

[@kershaad]

Pretty sure being married was more expensive than being single. Pretty sure getting divorced was the most expensive of all though 😅

[@frankolwenda5128]

Depends on the type of partner you have. If you have someone who expects you to meet all the financial responsibilities then being single is way more cost effective

[@yankeefederer1994]

Relationships have exponential potential- for better or for worse. Two virtuous and endeavoring people will more than double their output by maximizing their strengths and splitting necessary duties. It's a negotiation with other benefits lol. But two conniving, cynical or selfish individuals will only get in each other's way, rather than helping each other achieve success.

[@mpy715]

Thank you for this comment. The video, and the comments section, have forgotten to point out that having healthy stable relationships (in which both partners are willing to make changes to make it work) is such an important and natural part of individual development. Everybody complains about how individualistic and selfish our society but not many people are actually willing to do one of the most selfless things you can do, which is get married, staying married, and raising good kids. And when people can't get ot stay in a relationship they blame it on everyone else

[@qlxmaosldk3576]

no wonder marriage and leverage rhyme

[@eriknephrongfr8847]

You’re hosed with one of each, and the virtuous can always change. Marriage is a bad bet.

[@bigscores7237]

I broke up with my sub-psychopathic ex gf because one of us was gonna end up at the bottom of the lake. And it wasn't gonna be me.

[@youtubeuser1052]

Getting married cost me over a $250k when she decided she didn't love me and wanted to leave. And she was a "stay at home mom", never once was the word "housewife" mentioned. I did at least half the cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, laundry and child care in addition to paying all the routine monthly bills, including 100% of the mortgage payments. During the small portion of our marriage when she had a job, she used that money for personal expenses. We never had any joint bank accounts. If she had money she paid her own credit card bills and car loan payments, but when she wasn't employed I paid those for her. We had some good times before she announced "I don't love you anymore", but the lawyers were quite clear that during the entire time we were married 50% of the money that was being automatically deducted from my paycheck and transferred into my 401k account belonged to her. And 50% of the nothing she ever saved belonged to me. Oh, and we split custody of our child 50/50, so naturally I have to pay her $650/month and she pays me $0/month. I don't regret any of the time we spent together and we till get along quite well as friends who don't love each other, but the legal system is a blatant wealth transfer system with no consideration for who earned what. I lucked out on the house. I bought it before I met her and we got married during a housing bubble and divorced during a crash, so there was no net gain in value during the time we were married. But the lawyer was quite clear that if the value of the house I bought had gone up while I was married I would have owed 50% of the capital gains. I was very lucky we didn't get married during a crash and divorced during a bubble.

[@Random17Game]

the legal system is not a balant wealth transfer, I know you feel hurt, but you could have signed a pre-nup agreement of seperation of patrimony and wealth, that way, at max you would be paying her some small amounts. You may think yeah but I don't wanna start with a hand behind my back... but at the same time why would she oppose it? Is she planning a divorce in advance? She would continue to live in the use and confortably as long as you were married so that should not be a problem.

[@youtubeuser1052]

@@randomjin9392 I actually don't think you have it quite right. It's not exactly men vs women, it's high income vs low income. The real lesson is, never marry someone who makes less money than you do, regardless of gender. If I were a woman with my college degrees and I married a man with my ex's education I would have ended up in exactly the same financial situation. The issue is that divorce law doesn't recognize the situation of "person with education and in demand job experience marries person with minimal income potential". I never objected to sharing my home (purchased before meeting her), paying for all the vacations, all the child care expenses. But it hurt to be told "the person you've supported for 10 years doesn't love you anymore, here's the dollar amount you owe her for the time she spent being supported by you." I think it might actually have been worse if a highly skilled professional woman married an occasionally employed man and he decided he wanted a divorce when her looks started to fade.

[@bradleyjohnson8780]

If you truly love someone base it off of taking care of each other / sharing responsibilities / keeping your word, not some legally binding contract IMHO

[@huli566]

*Marries someone who doesn't work* *Enters agreement to support person who doesn't work* *Gets divorced* Lawyers: Alimony and child support are concepts that exist. Man: >:(

[@SSchithFoo]

If anyone is stay home, make it 100% their repsonsibility to do house chores including taking out garbage. It's a dog eats dog world out there and there is no time to fck around.

[@JoeDoe1]

This video simplifies a complex situation. If a couple doesn’t act in good faith with each other and they’re not working towards financial success, their struggle may be worse than a non-married person. Attributes of reliability are internal and unique to an individual and have nothing to do with relationship status.

[@gemini_1085]

I think it makes the most money sense to stay single. No divorce expenditures (should they happen) no kids, you can dictate where you live and how you live. Multiple studies have found you earn more in a relationship but that is ONLY if you are in a healthy, happy relationship. Divorce is massively higher now. I can’t count how many times I’ve heard “yeah I’d do what you do if I was single too” or “man if I didn’t have kids and a wife, I could do that stuff too”. I literally travel more, live better and do more for myself than any married person I know. Idk man, I think getting married for money is a big mistake.

[@ThomasJDavis]

All these people saying it makes more sense to be single are already high earners.

[@gemini_1085]

@@ThomasJDavis that may be so but I would argue that a lower earning person has even more to lose in a marriage. Divorce will still wreck your ability to take care of yourself financially even if you are “well off”. I can’t imagine going through that if I’m already struggling to make ends meet.

[@ThomasJDavis]

@@gemini_1085 You mean they have more to lose in a divorce. Well, vet your dates carefully then. Let your gf know you're in it for life. You're not here to play games. You're here to have a family and life long partnership and bond with someone.

[@gemini_1085]

@@ThomasJDavis you can say “vet your dates” all you’d like but the reality is that divorces wouldn’t be so common if that actually worked. I’ve lost count on how many people in my life have been with people they’ve thought were perfect, until they got married. I’ve yet to see a marriage last. You may have a different experience but that’s the reality I see.

[@ThomasJDavis]

@@gemini_1085 Not sure what culture or environment you grew up in. I grew up in a very conservative Mormon community in Utah. And divorces were pretty uncommon as far as I could tell. Everyone's parents stayed together. Both my elementary school friends' parents stayed together. My parents stayed together. Other church leaders from my congregation never got divorced. It just hardly happened. It was the exception to hear about one of my peers at school who's parents got divorced (and perhaps they didn't want to publicize it, IDK). I just never grew up around people who's parents got divorced. People really did take their marriage vows seriously. I do remember hearing about a divorce a few years ago in a family whom we knew for many years in our church congregation. I was definitely surprised to hear about it. I never thought a divorce would have happened between those two people.

[@jonathansibindi5562]

We're all getting partners in 2023 right fellas. Fellas?

[@M3ganwillslay]

🤣😂✔☹

[@johnsuckher3037]

sugar mommas 😍😍😘😘🥰🥰

[@oruamollabrac4183]

hell naaw

[@AllTheArtsy]

Multigenerational family homes is literally the answer. Americans (or Westerners in general) are just too proud to acknowledge it.

[@Priinsu]

Yeah I think that makes the most sense but everyone wants more space and privacy to do their own thing. I've mostly got by having roommates and it's worked. I'm not close to my family at all, except for my mom.

[@AllTheArtsy]

@@Priinsu That's too bad. I suppose roommates you can trust is the option for you. But multigenerational homes, which is common here in Southeast Asia, are the heart of community. Extended family to care for the children, share in the burden of cooking, meal planning, grocery shopping, etc. As well as socialization, learning to work with others, how to compromise, how to get along with different personalities. And to get stories and lessons from multiple perspectives. It's a shame that some cultures have done away with that in exchange for solitary nuclear families.

[@Priinsu]

@@AllTheArtsy I'm originally from Texas. But, I live in San Diego, CA because of my job. Having a roommate is the best option for me and I'm saving an extra $1500/per month to use for investing or whatever i want so, I can't complain.

[@yoleeisbored]

It should not have to be that way though.. boomers could afford their own place way less.. its not fair

[@Xaforn]

Too many households where it just will not work, especially if parents and their children have vastly different beliefs.

[@Angelstar7774]

This video acts as if divorces don’t exist, they happen to over 50% of people who get married and are more often than not life ruining and really expensive. Kids and child support are also super costly. Making more money is one thing - it’s another when you’re living paycheck to paycheck on a six figure salary.

[@ErwinSchrodinger64]

LOL! I would rather live in the gutter than be divorced and I've had my kids stripped away from while being a wage slave to the family courts... the state... all the while... having no access to my children (joint custody is not joint... it's just 4.5 days out of the month). I wasn't even married, between the court battle ($50,000... I had to go to court to even see my daughter every other weekend) and child support (was $24,000.00/year because my ex couldn't afford private school tuition.... hence... her problems become my problems... if I can't pay... straight to jail). My ex set me back 18 years financially. My daughter only recently turned 18, in the last 4 months, I already have $16,000.00 saved. Do not cohabitate. Do not get married. Do not even date woman who have children.

[@otrebla8944]

Good grief! Sorry you had to go through that. The legal system needs an overhaul.

[@ptracey5998]

I'm living with my parents and can't date. I guess it's a silver lining.

[@Flotter-Flo]

@@ptracey5998 You can still date if you're good-looking. But yeah, living with your parents AND being average-looking probably means you can't date. Tons of others stuff to do, though...

[@priyojitchatterjee6164]

@@ptracey5998 you have dodged a bullet. live for yourself, earn for yourself. be independent and NEVER get trapped in an institution whose default position is to enslave you for no fault. most people Gaslight you into getting married because that means a new slave for the corrupt system.

[@zukodude487987]

I respect your grind and your wisdom. You are very inspirational. I stopped dating about 2 years ago, no regrets.

[@greenleafyman1028]

There is also an alternative to marriage which is a cooperative living. Because of the work and our want of independence from our parents, I and my 2 friends and 1 cousin decided to live in my friend's old house which was already abandoned by his parents for about 2 years now. We are sharing the household expenses obligation and buy in bulk for anything possible but we individually washes our own dishes and clothes but I'm the one who usually cook the food. It really a great relief compared to when I was just renting a room alone, the only problem is since we were both boys, we usually have fun by going out and drink a lot which makes our money saving strategy almost useless.

[@siddharthr1853]

Most girlfriends are seriously so expensive than being single. A stupid amount of money being spent on goods all with jacked up prices

[@daveblakk8318]

If you need to spend exorbitant amounts of money on your girlfriend, that’s just prostitution with extra steps

[@6dhypercube740]

How? Do you have any evidence? You do realize most women have jobs too right?

[@KindredEmotions]

I'm more concerned with a relationship sending me below the poverty line than trying to increase my income with it.

[@durandus676]

I did the math earlier. and yeah, i could save about 10K just by splitting bills with 1 person. I have trust issues due too childhood-teen stuff, and im extremely reluctant too pursue anything

[@ThisIsGoogle]

Incel

[@diemes5463]

Great point, too many get involved romantically at a young age, setting poor precedents and damaging future relationships

[@synaesthesia888]

Sometimes you young-ins just need to stop feeling sorry for yourselves and tackle personal problems head on....

[@dlow4872]

@@synaesthesia888 true the more you ignore it the worse it gets

[@mpy715]

@@dlow4872 you shouldn't ignore it for sure. But like that guy said you need to face your challenges and move on.

[@darkmage728]

The workplace thing is so true. I am single and my co-worker was married. I work my butt of at my job got a lot more done while he took many days off and got off on time because he needed "family time". Fast forward to year end, we were rated the same performance and got the same bonus. I inquired this to my boss and his answer was because he had a family thus need the extra money. Lol I love how I pay for other's life choices as a single person

[@TimErwin]

Sounds like you need a new job.

[@hutch1010]

just pretend you have a family or dont work as hard

[@Saixjacket]

@@hutch1010 it’s pretty much don’t work as hard. Don’t lie, just “do what you can”. Notice these days, deadlines are often framed as “when do you think it’ll be done” rather than “the drop dead date is this”. Don’t fall into the trap of putting yourself on a salary clock, you’re most likely hourly.

[@thandomakubalo414]

In South Africa, having a partner puts you behind financially relative to your peers because women are not going to split any bills with you.

[@zukodude487987]

This is also true in the west.

[@evilds3261]

Not splitting the bill should be a dealbreaker.

[@rcmwalker1987]

Another point you did not cover was that a second income allows you to take more risks. You don't have all your eggs in one basket so to speak. Not only can you recover from sudden job losses quicker. You can quit and go for that big new job, or retrain into a higher paying job if you have a second income backing you up.

[@Proxyincognito]

This looks pretty 'Murica centric. I live in the Netherlands, was single untill very recently and set 1k Euro aside every month on an average income. Sure i live smaller than my peers and own fewer items, but i also have fewer wants and needs. Being in a relationship would instantly set me up for a rat race since i'd lose my financial flexibility due to increased responsibilities, even more so if you add children in the mix. Currently i could lose my job and be fine for a year till i'd need to actually dig into my savings. If i had a family to take care of that would not be an option, it would be the opposite, I'd imagine i'd just be looking for more ways to make more money rather than just chill and enjoy life.

[@SpinningSideKick9000]

There's definitely the lifestyle inflation aspect to consider. Personally, I wouldn't be with someone who wants to spend a bunch of money, but I suppose that's rare

[@ClemensJason]

I'm sorry, but what do you think about this video, then? It's about being single is also expensive in the Nederland kzbin.info/www/bejne/b6iYhY2we7WXZrc

[@Aidiakapi]

The situation here in the Netherlands is different. We have a much stronger social support system in many ways, from help paying rent, to much higher minimum wages, very low taxes for low income households, etc. Two people individually might have a low enough income to get approximately 1000 euros of support every month (500 each), but if you combine them, they might receive nothing. So yes, you can save a lot of living expenses, but a 1000 euros (after tax/netto) delta is still a lot to overcome. That said, as you get into medium to high income earners, who never get any social support anyways, the situation becomes more similar to the way it's described in the video, where you can simply share lots of costs. That is under the assumption that costs are actually shared, and both parties work. That said, if you've been employed for a reasonable period, you can always become unemployed, and keep 70-75% of your before-tax income, which usually translates to 80-85% of after-tax income, so you shouldn't massively go into debt over that, regardless of your situation.

[@Priinsu]

No pays attention to the Netherlands you guys are irrelevant on the world stage.😂

[@johnyseimah229]

@@Aidiakapi everything also costs a shitload more...groceries are double to almost triple the price compared to the USA

[@OperationDarkside]

I don't know, if it was mentioned, but being able to marry, also means, that you're in some way more attractive than others. And we shouldn't forget pretty privilege even in the business world.

[@Flotter-Flo]

Look at some of the absolute ogres that get married. Getting married CAN mean you're appealing to others, it can also mean that you are ok to live your life in servitude to some bitter being who will resent you. I have seen a lot of married men get bossed around on a level that was painful to see. And they take it, no questions asked. So pathetic, lol.

[@OperationDarkside]

@@Flotter-Flo Maybe that's their fetish, then good for them. I'm not judging.

[@Flotter-Flo]

@@OperationDarkside I doubt it. They're just thirty and desperate, so they will take anything that gets them laid.

[@Joaofigueiredo126]

Remember: we are more then 30 yo and still living with parents. It shows a lot of how world is becoming an expensive place to live.

[@ModernDayDebate]

Or it shows people have become more weak and dependent

[@nerobernardino88]

@@ModernDayDebate Do ask the boomers about their economic oportunities and then compare the hard facts with current-day life.

[@Nimbereth]

I'm in my 30s and married with kids. People tend to be lazy. That's why they prefer to live with their parents.

[@Nimbereth]

@@wbay3848 I have a bachelors in Economy, sir.

[@marmedalmond9958]

@@Nimbereth are you going to pay 700000$ for a house if an average wage is 40000$ a year?

[@TheSimba86]

I disagree, I know a lot of people that are financially ruined after they get married and have kids, and I know plenty of guys that are now broke and will stay that way for decades because they are paying spousal and child support

[@RoyMatzem]

Thats exactly the trick; Wife; +1 Kid; -2 Kids is so much expensive, its unbelivable

[@Blackjack09721]

Yeah, a lot of people honestly couldn't survive without roommates or a partner at this point. Those rent prices man......

[@Igor_054]

This video has the same fatal flaw of every time someone compares married and single people: it fails to account for divorces. Divorce rates are so high right now that comparing singles to married only, instead of married + divorced, is just disingenuous. Divorced men are usually in much worse financial situation than single ones, and any married one is on high risk of eventually getting divorced in the next 15 years anyway. People don't like to think about it, but 15 years is more than enough time to ruin even the best marriages.

[@trecm734]

I think I'd rather stay single than end up having someone take everything in a divorce that I spent a life time earning. The only thing marriage benefits is the government and the court system.

[@shirley444]

You do realize that you can have your assets protected in marriage right?

[@nfrancis43]

@@shirley444 If men don't want to get married let them be lol.

[@6dhypercube740]

@@nfrancis43 What's the point in making this all about men vs women? Society coerces both men and women into romantic relationships. We are in this fight together.

[@youtubeuser1052]

@@shirley444 I think it varies from state to state, but where I live you can have your assets protected but not your income. Anything you own pre-marriage remains yours after divorce. But if you marry someone who makes $x and saves $y and you make $5x and save $5y then at the time of divorce you give them $2y so that you each end up with $3y in savings. Marry someone who earns about as much as you do and it'll all turn out fine. Marry someone who earns a lot less than you do and you'll be handing them a big pile of money even if the only reason for the divorce is that they decide they don't love you anymore. And I don't think it's about gender, I think it's just about wealth transfer. The law assumes that when you get married all income and savings is split 50/50 even if one spouse spent years pre-marriage pursuing a high paying career and the other spouse pursued non-financial goals and doesn't spend much time in any sort of paycheck producing job.

[@sasi5841]

@@youtubeuser1052 the laws are quite archaic and relies on too many false assumptions. Yet for some reason they are still there.

[@minusCEE]

Or what you can do is, don't live alone. Just live with other people. There are many differences between married or having bf/gf and not living alone.

[@zukodude487987]

Cohabitation is often regarded as being married and she can legally take half.

[@nineonine9082]

@@zukodude487987 Thank god I dont' live in a backward country where that is the case., or perhaps I should move to one and take half of their stuff, because I INDENTIFY AS A STRONG INDEPENDENT LADY WHO WANTS MY STUFF.

[@user-kpkxgtj]

@@zukodude487987 it is possible to live communally with other people without there being any kind of sexual relationship between you. As an example, someone in this comment section has mentioned co-owning a ranch with male friends where each of them has their own house. Another has mentioned sharing an abandoned family house with his cousins. Living with others doesn't necessarily have to mean "share a house with someone of the opposite gender".

[@SangoProductions213]

Eh... Being married is actually rather expensive. Even if you still had that "until death do us part" in there. I mean, marriage was literally always there to ensure the safety and security of the women and children. It is to tie a hard working man to the family, rather than to their whims. Which is a genuinely good thing, don't get me wrong. The problem occurs when the loyalty is not mutual - and when it's socially encouraged to be non-mutual. And even worse when there's a financial and legal incentive to play the field. Of course married men will strive to earn more. That's the biological and social drive of men in the provider role.

[@holeefuk8505]

He's being diplomatic about it in the video but you're right, there definitely is a gender bias when it comes to who benefits most from marriage these days. Women get to cherry pick aspects of modernity or traditionalism whereas men are held to the standard of the latter mostly. Women have the security of big daddy government these days so ill let them pick up the tab while paying as little in taxes legally possible.

[@Stillbourne42]

As a single man, you are right that the proportion of me paying my expenses is much greater… but the total of those expenses that I spend every month have gone down by an order of magnitude. I never had as much monthly free cash as I did when I was with someone.

[@ThomasJDavis]

As a [high earning] single man. FTFY

[@Stillbourne42]

@@ThomasJDavis more like an old man who is at a stage in life where I’m making ok money

[@6dhypercube740]

This is just one of the ways in which society coerces people into romantic relationships. This violates people's bodily and personal autonomy. This needs to be identified for the oppression that it is and the structures that lead to this should be resisted and dismantled.

[@Hubcool367]

Absolutely. I'm pretty sure the financial inability to leave an abusive relationship to go live on your own is the biggest factor directly impacting domestic violence rates. Ensuring domestic violence victims can afford an alternative is the most efficient way to tackle domestic violence. It really is a fundamental human rights issue.

[@3DHDcat]

don't live in the city then,live in a village

[@WanderTheNomad]

@@3DHDcat Villages are also a form of society ya doof

[@WanderTheNomad]

@@broadestsmiler your comment got hidden by youtube for some reason. Wanna try replying with each individual sentence of your comment separately to narrow down what caused that?

[@3DHDcat]

@@broadestsmiler Single tax, interesting. How would they enforce it I wonder, there's plenty of people abusing the single mother benefits

[@WAThomasRKH]

There is no better financial decision for woman then to get married. There is no worse financial decision for man then to get married.

[@Fred-zt5ky]

very well said, but you’ll make the sheep mad

[@MeechYaboy]

Lot of “Potential” benefits listed for men but nothing about the divorce rate that’s sky high and trending upwards

[@taylorbug9]

I've been warning people of this for years and they didn't listen. Now people are stuck in unhappy relationships because they *can't afford* to be single.

[@CptTexas1]

Those studies have a major survivor bias. They don't consider the idea that women prefer men who make more money. You don't get richer by marrying if you're a man, you get married by being richer. In before, "But not all! But I know this one couple!". Cope, seethe, and dilate.

[@x97s]

True women want a man that make a least twice what they make

[@NerdSnipingBatman]

However most married men have to earn more money to afford the costs of rearing children. I would argue it's a net loss for their individual income compared to their single childless friends. What I would want to know: do childless married men earn more than single men? That I doubt.

[@the_real_mcgarvyer9]

I really don’t like the stereotype that single men are perceived as though to be irresponsible or are just out here to mingle with other females. When that isn’t always the case though.

[@the_real_mcgarvyer9]

@Whats🅰pp±⓵⓸⓷⓼⓺⓺⓼⓼⓸⓻⓵ be quiet you grifter.

[@jamalel-sayed5196]

I'd rather be single and pay a bit more bills than be in an unhealthy relationship full of fights and toxicity. I noticed for example once I moved out of my mothers basement, suddenly no one brought unhealthy food for dinner, I had the opportunity to eat what I wanted and eat what I knew was healthy. No one yelled at me in my own home, no one disturbed me and all I found was just peace and nothing stopping me from doing what I wanted. Having someone stepping on your confidence and your mentality every time you try do something for yourself sets you back so much more than just being on ground zero but then steamroll what you aim for.

[@LRosieB]

This video is a reason why people stick in bad relationships. Women at least, are often better off single than with a bad husband.

[@susancross5192]

Thank you! There`s nothing worse than living with a jerk/drunken husband . It`s hell! Soo much happier now.

[@karlstrauss2330]

Sorry but you’re way off on this one. Marriage is fine for high income earners, but it’s way too risky for everybody else. I’ve seen too many men get wrecked by divorce, mentally and financially.

[@Str4yshot]

F in the chat for the introverted and socially anxious.

[@email5023]

The money I saved from all the years of being single will cushion the inflation blues for me.

[@joyjog2353]

agree

[@SpinningSideKick9000]

And you won't have to save for retirement because you'll die earlier

[@antpoo]

Not for me, I’m bitter as I watch the bank drain my savings by doubling my mortgage repayment 😡

[@bluehairedlawyer8242]

@@antpoo that sounds like a you problem

[@antpoo]

@@bluehairedlawyer8242 probably

[@Skeleton_Black]

How it feels to be single - Me Looking at my married Coworker with kids who earns the same salary as me and i am like... how this dude earning the same salary as me able to afford to support 2 kids and i am struggling while single and no kids??. lmao.

[@Lakishia]

wife probably working too

[@sethjaffe9095]

I'm guessing their partner has a job too?

[@alexs.818]

He’s married! Therefore there are two incomes at his household (wife and him) which can make splitting living expenses and childcare possible. He’ll likely have more disposable income because of it.

[@JV3Player]

I don't know man... These videos are cute, but they don't provide enough wisdom when addressing social mobility. I'm sure there's a bunch of young adults watching this channel, but there's a right place, right time and right opportunity for everything and anyone willing to commit. Especially since there are different stages in life, but one in particular is the most important. Being single in your 20s is the best time to scale your education, occupation, finances, friends and possibly a relationship. You have all the damn time to grind in your 20s, no family responsibilities-hopefully, but some people become neglectful of it, then regretful of it later in life. By the time you reach your 30s, you should have scaled yourself into a reliable career to possibly open the family door. Hard work pays off, just as my vocational school helped me scale into construction management, best of luck 🇺🇲

[@Senki207]

While the title doesn't say it, this only applies to the US. In a lot of other countries rent is actually affordable, you get a bunch of mandatory benefits from your employer (mainly healthcare and retirement funds but often also grocery tickets, gym memberships, etc.) and things overall aren't that expensive

[@raventail2205]

Well rent alway went up every year. Water and electric bill rise too. Fuel rise 4 time a year. Grocery alway rise 3 time per year. Salary can never keep up inflation. Lot of country experience this. I live in malaysia, johor. Near singapore they also experience this, salary was never enough, money is getting smaller and price of everything rise so quickly. Don't think singapore money is very big, the expenses you need to spend barely made the end meet. That why singaporean will alway use thier money to spend in malaysia it like almost triple thier salary whereas malaysian not that happy singaporean come in malaysia to buy good cause that what made malaysian good more expensive cause thing never enough for people daily use. When good are in low number they rise the price, it made thing more and more expensive. Malaysia money keep getting smaller due to corruption, while price of goods keep rise it made life very difficult. Having a rich neighbor is not good. Competition of resources.

[@Jerspoon]

I guess I'll just have to start a crowdfunding campaign to support my solo lifestyle. Maybe I'll offer perks like personalized advice on relationships and dating.

[@sigmasithlord5828]

"To Be Single or in a relationship" is the hardest every single day decision until you die.

[@Fred-zt5ky]

speak for yourself hahahah

[@SSchithFoo]

There is nothing worse than being alone

[@WanderTheNomad]

@@SSchithFoo Being in a good relationship is better than being single, but being single is better than being in a shitty relationship.

[@brianisbrined9255]

I guess. If you follow the whole "by not making a decision, you've made a decision" thing. Most days I don't think much about it.

[@ThomasJDavis]

@@WanderTheNomad It's woman's choice. Always has been always will be. If she's unhappy that's her own fault.

[@SapperTV1]

I'm single and live on my own. Have a house and two cars. Guess that makes me a luxury. Sorry ladies you can't afford me.

[@avernvrey7422]

Think they have causation backwards. Married heterosexual men are married because they make more money, or are the type to climb corporate ladders, etc. Single men are single because they don't have access to resources, they don't, or can't, make money and so they remain single. While we see little income difference between single or married women because resource attainment isn't the means by which women find partners for marriage. This is also demonstrable from statistics we have on the earnings of married and single homosexual men (in Europe they have gathered those stats since the 90s, also there is the General Social Survey and the National Health and Social Life Survey). The findings are that there's no significant difference in the earnings between married gay men compared to single gay men. The overarching observation on this issue is simply that heterosexual women only marry heterosexual men they see as high value.

[@ArkusVI]

Nice. Expensive to be single. Expensive to be in a relationship. Expensive to be alive. Expensive to die too. Cool👌🏼I love good news.

[@richhornie7000]

Don't forget that it's expensive to be poor. Ironically it's cheap to be rich.

[@evilds3261]

Expensive to die? Nah, dying just means everyone else has to take on your previous responsibilities - you can use this as a threat to convince people to keep you alive so they do not have to work harder.

[@richhornie7000]

@@evilds3261 what responsibilities there are if you have no debt and are single though?

[@Nepatan]

The one thing I ask myself on those surveys about single men and women with their earnings, if the people there took into consideration, that the state with its regulations about birth rate can fiddle with the numbers of the survey. Because the state wants more workers and needs a higher birth rate for that, it drops down the average expenses of couples (in the hope they get children) and raises those of single people.Which makes the results of the survey known per default. I mean, if the state supports married couples and drops their expenses, there is no philosophical thing about how married men/women are seen and what they actually do.

[@CreativeExcusesGaming]

Just reacting to the title, but for most of history it was too expensive and dangerous to be single.

[@6dhypercube740]

Yes. It's part of how society coerces people into romantic relationships. It needs to be identified for the oppression that it is, resisted and eventually dismantled.

[@CreativeExcusesGaming]

@@6dhypercube740 I don’t think we’re on the same side of this argument.

[@doorhinge2039]

Married people on average make more than single people because married people are generally older and thus ahead in their respective careers. Correlation is not causation

[@Priinsu]

The idea of a woman waltzing into my life and taking half of my stuff is terrifying to me. I've been working since I was 16yo. I did my grinding in my teens and twenties with my head down, saving/investing my money, never went to college, never had a financial hardship, and now I'm 28yo and pretty well off now, independent, free, financially stable, etc. I do want female companionship and intimacy and eventually a family, because I'm human too, it does get lonely and i do want to share what i've built with people I love, but, I'm not willing to tap dance through a minefield just to get some love and attention. I'm risking too much on my end and opening myself up to be stepped on by her and the state should she decide I'm not good enough anymore. Which happens all the time, I've witnessed it myself before multiple times with different friends/coworkers, I've seen other stories of other men's experiences online, and I'm seeing other men's stories in the comment section of this video. Marriage is just not a good sell to me, I'm sorry.😓

[@renanfelipedossantos5913]

Ever researched into prenuptial agreements with a separation of property?

[@Priinsu]

@@renanfelipedossantos5913 not worth the paper they're printed on. Women find all kinds of under-handed ways to get around them.

[@Victor_Trumper]

@@renanfelipedossantos5913 competent lawyers can bypass a prenup very easily. I think they are even taught at law schools now. To match that competent lawyer, the other party also has to hire a competent lawyer. Now it's all about lawyer's strategies and the guy's pockets ( win the case and pay the lawyer or lose the case and pay the lawyer and the partner). Hire an highend escort for companionship or hire a high end prostitute for night (Check background and check her blood report if possible to avoid chance of HIV or AIDS)

[@mandisaw]

@@Priinsu Dude, you're going into it with a pretty negative, borderline misogynistic attitude. It's like starting a new job and already writing your resignation letter. Generally speaking, people pair-off with other folks at a similar economic level, so if you're 28, she's likely to also have her own job/money & prospects for the future. Also, depends on the location, but most US states don't consider your assets before the marriage as common-property - it's the money/assets you acquire *during* the marriage that are divided, while alimony is based around a bunch of considerations (incl the difference between your respective incomes). Unless you're crazy-wealthy going in, money is not your biggest obstacle here.

[@Priinsu]

@@mandisaw are you a married man?

[@ladyseeker2927]

I'm in early 40s and I can say: I'd never trade my freedom for anyone. Seriously, who would give up on their freedom only to have someone?

[@RandomStuffPT]

For you its perfectly understantable and a logic decision

[@ChocolateMilkCultLeader]

It is time for Tech to come and disrupt this. Marriage as a Service. The next big industry

[@guncolony]

Ok, this one made me laugh. 😂

[@ChocolateMilkCultLeader]

@@guncolony I got lotsa jokes , as my readers can attest

[@sergiowinter5383]

Certified Tinder moment

[@nubreed1980]

lol this vid. I am 42, single, never been married while making mid six figures in the state of CA the fact that married men make 44% more than single guys is an irritating thought. I am single by choice and because I get to do whatever I want whenever I want and the fact that I am not tied to a family gives me the leverage of not making compromises with my current role. I am competent so I’ll take what I know, whom I work with to the next better shop if that’s what it comes down to.

[@danielintheantipodes6741]

I would rather have less money and live solo. A lot of people have blissfully happy relationships, however, I can never forget Satre's wise words: 'Hell is other people.' Do you really have to spend a fortune to date someone? Can't you just go for a walk through the local art gallery or cinema?!

[@BabyBearRudy]

The real reason why married men make more money is bc they are less likely to leave the company bc the insecurity, whereas a single man will do it for a 10% raise at another company. This seams counterintuitive but what happens is, promotions tend to go to those via seniority, so a married man will most likely have stayed with the company longer so they would get the promotion and they make way more money in the long run via promotions vs jumping from company to company looking for a better pay

[@lonelychameleon3595]

I mean if you're both committed to living frugally and not having children then maybe it could work, otherwise it just sounds like trying to pay off debt by opening new credit cards.

[@koffiegast]

Thanks boomers and politicians. "Lets keep inflation under 2%" then why has money lost over 600% of its values in a handful of decades.

[@ricardodelacrvz1400]

This is ridiculous, everyone knows that bveing in a relationship is way more costly than ever being single. I mean restaurants, going out with friends, christmas birthday and wtvr gifts, trips, clothes, the amount off peer pressure and financial pressure

[@brucestiles6477]

Married Men vs. Single Men #5: It takes a while before someone gets married; thus, on average, married men are older than single men; people with more experience tend to earn more money.

[@rayden54]

They would've been able to control for that fairly easily. Just the nature of the study means all the participants are in roughly the same age group.

[@zukodude487987]

Most of the money married men goes towards her and the kids, not you.

[@HTV-2_Hypersonic_Glide_Vehicle]

This is what happens when the top 1% of the population has more than half of the nation's household net worth.

[@MustraOrdo]

I think it's pretty clear what we must do... 🍴🧐

[@HTV-2_Hypersonic_Glide_Vehicle]

@@MustraOrdo do I smell a revolution? ..................🇫🇷

[@Jazzmaster1992]

Apparently me being single forever means I'm gonna get depressed and sick and die early, and probably poor. But I don't really know that finding someone out of the desperate hope we can combine incomes is really the right move. Oh well, I'll keep going for as long as I can.

[@tenebrae1191]

👏

[@vozhonn401]

Don't believe everything you see on KZbin.

[@youtubebel3araby120]

i've always felt it that there's bias towards married men in promotions and forming relations outside of work with management. Not to mention all the entitlement they get like parental leave (in some cases), going home earlier to take care of the kids, sick leave taking care of again the sick kid. honestly just gonna fake it and say i'm married in a long distance relationship, or that i adopted my niece or something.

[@nolesy34]

Hence the George (Seinfeld) paradox You pretend to be married then when hit on the woman gets sense and says oh but your married. You cant possibly be thinking i would get involved with a married man Sighs

[@youtubebel3araby120]

@@nolesy34 faak yeah Nolesy you faagin drugga

[@nolesy34]

@@youtubebel3araby120 fukin yewww Kent's 😝

[@kunai92]

I'm not unattractive, I'm living a life of luxury.

[@wesch6354]

I dont think marriage will have as much of an impact moving forward. Mostly because fewer people are getting married in the younger generations.

[@doctort434]

this video is based on the premise that your female partner will consistently split the bills 50-50 for the duration of your relationship/marriage and wont divorce you. being single is usually more expensive for women, not for men

[@LouKiss]

Now do why people are moving back in with their parents or how 14 people live in a one bedroom Los Angeles apartment working under the radar. That’s reality.