Being Single Needs A Rebrand | Eat, Pray, Author Elizabeth Gilbert Interview

[@dupuyloveable]

Let's not forget that financial independence makes emotional independence easier. Her autonomy and happiness has a lot to do with the financial freedom she enjoys. I really enjoyed this interview and I resonate with Elizabeth's enjoying being alone.

[@biondna7984]

Amen.

[@egl3369]

After my abusive dad died, I slowly watched my mum get happier and happier. She is now like a kid again. Loving life. People ask her about dating and she says "why would I want to do that?"

[@donnabunce1639]

Totally get it! At age 69 men don't even know how to be friends without blurting out in some form of protection that they are married. The others are for the most part looking and will ask you out without any forethought. The rare gem is a man who knows how to be friends. It's not high school as in ground hogs day over and over! Enjoy freedom and wholeness.

[@sebeckley]

The fear of aging is directly related to being attached to male validation and attraction.

[@egl3369]

Yep! I couldn't care less what they think anymore. It's so freeing

[@ExtremelyRadiant.5772]

Yes. Amen :)

[@patriciaphillips6925]

It takes a while to get over this. As you been trained to attach yourself worth to what men think about women. So freeing to not care anymore and love yourself enough.

[@coolbreeze5683]

I agree! When you deconstruct and decenter a lot of the old patterns you were conditioned to follow throughout your life (whether they are internalized sexism, racism, age-ism, etc.), you begin to free yourself. When the blinders are taken off and you see how ridiculous those old patterns are, you start not caring about other's opinions because you no longer relate to their blindness.

[@dupuyloveable]

​@@coolbreeze5683 Amen

[@susanmarie2231]

I was married for 10 years in my youth. It was an abusive relationship. No children. I’ve been divorced for 37 years. Had my son out of wedlock at age 40. Never remarried. I cherish my autonomy. It’s the right choice for me because I always give myself away in relationships. I struggle with remaining true to myself when I’m in a relationship. Yes, I’ve had therapy.

[@EmeraldIndira]

I’m happy that you found what works for you and esp that you are out of your abusive relationship.🙌💖

[@NextChapter3]

great!! i am happy for you!

[@WKBredhold]

“I deeply approve of myself these days.” I love her so much. This was a great conversation. Well done.

[@fayechipchase1049]

My doctor prescribed Eat Pray Love for me during a toxic relationship 16 years ago. That book is now part of my reality in life. Living single on an island living my most beautiful life. Thank you. ❤

[@JLTravels]

OMG, exactly my experience even down to the shaved head! Loving myself has eliminated codependency & toxic relationships. Happily solo independent introvert at 72.

[@ExtremelyRadiant.5772]

I was a teacher, working crazy hours, still obsessed with being with someone, because I was afraid of growing old solo. By April 2021, I was willing to "Feel to Heal" and release my many years of bullying by a group of kids in my new neighborhood circa age 8 to 12. After that, Divine gifts of self healing and helping other to heal have been HUGE, and sometimes, overwhelming. :) Starting a new Spiritual BIZ, as we speak. BUT....I manifested a Happy Ending type home for me, in Sedona and I have that. Being SO consumed with my little quarter acre, my new garden, and my bird sanctuary, front and back, it is SOO easy to hermit away and NOT share my gifts with World. Especially, when that world includes people who want brown people rounded up and deported. Makes my heart sink. BUT....isn't that WHY, powerful women leaders are rising to the TOP and young people are taking on the Herculean Task, of restoring our democratic system. Can you imagine? One person, one vote, NO Electoral College?? IT would be a nice development. KEEP shining and flying whatever kind of Freak Flag you HAVE!! :) If we ALL do not stand up together, then, we are doomed to fall to this simple minded criminal and his cronies. ;) PEACE, was won by Gandhi, BUT, it took him 30 years of Hunger Strikes and Politics and Fasting and Praying. I am not going anyone, and NOBODY, is going to put "Baby in the Corner" anymore. Love and Blessings of Peace and Divine Light :)

[@sunnyadams5842]

Me too! Even down to the shaved head!! I divorced my 20 year horror show Narc marriage 5 years ago. He did TOTAL SMEAR CAMPAIGN SO ENDED UP 100% ALONE. Turned to my parents. They shafted me in TERRIBLE WAYS. I figured out my parents were Narcs and I'd attracted the crap guys due to their ongoing Emotional Abandonment and Abuse 4 years ago. Fixed the CPTSD. Went No Contact. Got a PhD in Narcissism... Stil figuring out where I stand in the larger world, but in my solo world I am doing AWESOME!!

[@Catherinestoring]

Powerful conversation. I am so glad women are having these conversations and questioning what has been done for centuries and figuring out how to live life in their own terms.

[@JWRP2010]

I have been married for 38 years-- happy, uplifted, evolved, fulfilled. This is because I married the right person and we have both worked hard at the relationship. If you marry the wrong person and don't put in the work, the result is exactly what she is saying. It's easier to blame marriage than ourselves.

[@andrealacina5738]

I love that you guys listened during this podcast. So many hosts talk instead of listening

[@Lanestunes123]

So true. I noticed this too. Will subscribe now!

[@robertahoffmann8820]

I noticed too! You both were so kind to let her go on and on as her story was enthralling… without the need to add to it while she spoke. You both were so respectfully listening!

[@7WordsWorth]

A couple of years ago, while my marriage was dangling over an abyss called Over, I attended a workshop of Elizabeth Gilbert’s in Jacksonville. Having loved City of Girls and Eat, Pray, Love, I was eager to learn her wisdom and creative practices. But I walked into a massive room and knew NO ONE, had to sit at a long table with people who were all chatting with each other. I felt alone at home, alone at the library (my favorite place in the world), and had had enough. As she prepared to speak, I stood up with her book in my arms and left. I sat in my car sobbing for a million different reasons. I wanted out. I got out. And am now rebuilding my entire life. And I shaved my head last year as well. It’s quite liberating. 😊

[@suzanahas4740]

❤

[@karlee3095]

Been single for over a decade. I'm fortunate to be able to support myself bc I live on the US West coast--many people cannot afford housing here. Financial independence is crucial. But also psychological--independence. I benefit from being single because I have always wanted to be self reliant and have a calm environment.

[@patriciaphillips6925]

I lost my husband this summer and she is so spot on grief and relief. My husband died of Parkinson's and it was such a hard period for the whole family to see his decline. Four month later, I feel so much better better and our home has so much more peace. I cried for 3 months straight and now it has ease.

[@lauren_WI]

❤

[@andreamatriciano1311]

Three elegant ladies producing one hour of beautiful messages. I thank you for that ⭐️

[@gramarye_cottage]

As much as I adore the movie ‘Eat Pray Love’ I think the book is so much deeper and poignant. I’m 65 and twice divorced and like Liz I’m better/ happier etc on my own. I’ve been in a relationship with myself for the past 25 yrs one that will last my lifetime. I’m definitely a loner that’s for sure, I don’t need anyone to complete me as I’m whole on my own 🙏 Also I’m totally with her in regards to embracing my aging face and body. I’m no longer worried about how I look without makeup 🙌

[@lauren_WI]

Beautiful ❤inspiring for this myself! 👏 that peace ✌️ is non negotiable after you have worked so hard to make. God bless you and the many many other beautiful souls along this journey

[@debbiel.1655]

this was a great find. and I love that neither of you talked over the guest. It was a calm and enjoyable interview. So I subscribed.

[@Victoria-s5v6d]

I really loved this interview! Elizabeth Gilbert is always so warm, giving and HONEST! She holds nothing back and is so relatable because of that. Alas, the number of ads interrupting this interview really spoiled things. I've never experienced so many before.

[@LeslieNicole]

This was healing for me to hear right now because I left a marriage of 30+ years 9 months ago and I’ve been in pain wondering if I ruined a good thing by not trying hard enough even though things had gotten really bad and my soul was shackled. I realized hearing this that it’s because I’m still in a phase of transition with fears for the future and the pain of loss, but I have to remember to give myself a hug for following my soul’s cry even though it seemed foolish to leave so much. BTW, I love Elizabeth Gilbert’s book, “Big Magic”.

[@HomeBunch]

Such an honest and beautiful moment shared with this deep person. I love how she's always unafraid of sharing her truth.

[@carolynmaryscott]

Liz is a godsend! the courage to give up the "currency of beauty" is the real journey to authenticity - and Liz's beauty is so dazzling, radiant and breathtaking ... I have no words ... what I know now is that physical beauty feels cheap these days - the plethora of influencers - who all look the same - who show off body parts ... they are pretty yes but so cheap. On the other hand women who age naturally are full of LIGHT and wisdom. Rave on Liz!

[@audreyoreilly4055]

I've frequently said that if women got the inside scoop on just how happy one can be single, there would be a social revolution....with what's happening in the world, it might be time for one.

[@ExtremelyRadiant.5772]

Jane Goodall has never worn make up. Ever. ;) I quit wearing makeup at 36, when I became a teacher. This year, I shave all my hair off, too, for the second time, ever. :) I was married 3 times and did not want to be alone. Now, I am not dating two years now, and I am blissfully happy with my two rescue dogs and my dream home in Sedona. My 5th grade girls were right; Boys are stupid. ;) Girl Power!! :)

[@al3xb3]

❤

[@jenmdawg]

My SO died two years ago and it is amazing how people assume I am lonely and cannot understand that I am simply grieving and being alone is never going to be the issue for me. A relationship is not going to fix me and by the time you are my age (54) you better understand that. A few months ago I watched a doc on women/men scammed out of their life savings because they fell in love with a crook and it hit me hard that people have no idea how to be alone! It really is a skill that can be learned and needs to be de-stigmatized. It is ok to want to be in a relationship but it is also healthy to be alone and not seek it.

[@robincrowflies]

Yes. Better to be alone than trapped or otherwise unhappy, lonely in a relationship.

[@Corrans]

Love that! People are so desperate to be IN a relationship that they will blind themselves and get scammed.

[@The7AcreWood]

Thank you for this. The universe knew i needed this today... on Christmas day 2024. My husband walked out on me one week ago with 30 minutes notice. I'm still processing, but I've never felt such relief. Literally... this is what i needed to hear. Thank you again and please tell Liz I said thank you. I'm living my eat pray love right now and am buying a home in Italy. Did the ashram thing and won't get on a 24 hour flight for love nor money. Please tell her she is my S-HERO!!!❤🎉❤

[@doveserenelyon8733]

Oh how I love the glorious truth! I Am just now introduced today to Elizabeth Gilbert through this video. Wow I Am grateful beyond

[@GinaHarrisToo]

Makeup is not the enemy hair is not the enemy. Marriage is not the enemy. Children are not the enemy. Loss of a sense of self is the problem.

[@jayneelinor]

So so enjoyed this, she is so relatable to me as a 62 year old woman.

[@rosiediaz9661]

I am sooo in love with you. Single, 73, happy, joyous and free!😂❤😂

[@robincrowflies]

I just read The Signature of All Things--my first Elizabeth Gilbert book--and it was so life-affirming, so liberating. What befalls those of us who do not fit the beauty standards? Is it possible to be happy and live a full life? Oh my. It was magic. The weekend after I finished it, I was having suicidal ideation, then nearly died in a car crash that my own skillful driving managed to avoid, then the next day I was hiking at a place called Moss Island. It was magic. Synchronicity.

[@dianaadams8990]

I adore that book.

[@taracmonroe]

I love being single too (stopped dating at 32)!!! Singles, celebrate each other! Love Liz. Thanks for this... new subscriber:)

[@jentrain]

Me too!

[@bonniephilp7549]

One of the best videos I've ever watched in my life. So well researched and conducted. Thank you

[@kerryjordan2525]

OMG I agree wholeheartedly with Elizabeth. I was lonelier in my 25 year marriage than I have ever been in the 25 years since. Single hood is the greatest gift I have ever given myself. Love my solo life, the freedom is heaven to me.

[@ThomWinslow]

If you marry a man who is a widower who has a giving , kind nature. And you are the same way having a giving nature. You both spend the days trying to make the other person's life happy . You both build each other up and have each other's back as you go through life. As the days and years go on your trust in each other grows and live a very happy life together. It takes trust, kindness and some laughter each day to make a really wonderful life.

[@thefilipinojoe]

I’m a man, a huge Elizabeth Gilbert fan, and feel like I have a lot in common with her. I’ve also been in a lot of relationships, but I’ve found that I thrive as a single man. I not only appreciate and cherish the independence, but also the full control of my life and happiness. I have no problem getting in a new relationship, but I’m not willing to sacrifice my happiness nor my independence. Those days are long gone. I have learned that there is no need to jump into a permanent relationship or situation of any kind. That if someone is trying to get me into a permanent relationship or situation, to run the other way. It’s important to keep our options open, because we do not know the future. People who think that they know the future are naïve. Don’t be so naïve. Always have an exit strategy and make sure you can get out of the relationship or situation if you ever need or want to, and without injury.

[@ExtremelyRadiant.5772]

That is awesome, Dear One. :)

[@inthehouse1960]

Thanks for sharing this. You clearly have the upper hand when it comes to societal messaging. Single men for decades were referred to as "bachelors" while single women were referred to as "spinsters". Misogynists are poisoning our public discourse right now trying to return us to a time when women were scorned for singleness - i.e. "childless cat ladies". Those women who are "trying to get" you into a permanent relationship could be suffering from those messages, fearing their own power to choose something else. I urge you to be an ally of women's choices, so we can enjoy the confidence you do with your choices.

[@KaterinaNago]

I heard many of Liz's interviews but this one strikes home! Thank you!

[@marypelliott]

Liz, you are speaking to my soul right now. I'm so much happier not in a relationship. I did not like being married. I did much better in a long-term relationship not living together. I loved him deeply AND I began having a lot of chronic illness 4 years in. With my partner's death I'm alone again. I put so much energy into the relationship that I neglected parts of myself, including my work life. I'm now 70 with no one to answer to. I'm grieving the loss of my partner. At the same time, there are little bubbles of anticipation rising about my new life. It’s my time to find my emotional autonomy. I'm so grateful.

[@kathleensteeves488]

I love being single at 73….. I watched a Halmark movie…….this mother of a white Irish guy says to his fiancé mother a east Indian Christian Hindu ( I’ve been since 96) she says to her “ I’ve seen Eat Pray Live five times, I laughed so hard,it was exactly like a thing I would have said……I turned Hindu left my partner in the middle of the West Indies and came home to snowy Canada…I’m blessed……your blessed, know your best life . Now I study angels…..it’s so koooool.not religious just angels oh and music……thanks for this nice to be among you.😊❤

[@whoami6702]

❤ Wonderful interview. Thank you. ❤ "Emotional Autonomy" as she calls it, is always available to us whether we are in a relationship or not. The ideal is to always have it no matter what the present relationship status is. Whenever I feel being in a relationship is the reason for being emotionally dependent, I am blaming the effect instead of the cause. Byron Katie's The Work is a great tool & process for realizing this. I was recently being matched up to a retired wealthy widower (four yrs older) who is also a minister, traveler, & grandfather. My inner reactions were: shock ("What d hell made them think I want to meet someone?!?") and then, repulsion. The "gift" of this offer was seeing my feeling of repulsion -- clear sign I still had vestigial judgments (aka, blaming others) about relationships. This was my needed awareness (aka forgiveness). I can attest to the statistics she quotes -- I appear to be in my 40's (never had botox or surgery) even tho' nearing 60. Divorced 15 yrs ago & no kids. Truth of the matter is, writers and artist have a very vital inner world therefore, thrive in a solitary environment. Our nourishment of companionship comes from interacting within. Granted not all of us are at the Walt Whitman level of embracing the richness of artistic solitude nor are as lucky as Georgia O'Keefe who had a 'someone' who was 100% there for HER needs. I truly enjoyed this episode. My 1st one of your channel. (And now, I think its time to subscribe.😊)

[@Lanestunes123]

I am 55 , no kids, been trying to make relationships work as well and give so so much energy in my life to include giving to them financially in my past as well, and they all fail. I stay when I should go, etc.... Contemplating as of late could I be on my own and not think something was missing in my life. Now should I let my hair go gray and not color it is my recent contemplation. Just yesterday I was thinking my hair takes so much time, I need to chop it! It really is so strong to overcome the looks thing and just be. So strong to not be co dependent and break the cycle and just be. Love this talk and it comes to me a perfect time! Thanks Gals!

[@OG_lesliedixon]

Liz has always spoken directly to me and you ladies did a beautiful job with your questions. Thank you! ❤

[@natalia-schweizer]

I love Elizabeth Gilbert, thank you so much!!!

[@scopeunlimited17]

Random Saturday night YT scroll and I found you. What a fabulous hour. Thank you all so much. I'm a long time Liz fan, a bit older, also single, Aussie in Italy. I'll be tuning in more often.

[@Studiocolourjoy]

This was a fabulous listen. Thank you all.❤

[@priyasebastian9491]

That was such a powerful and wonderful conversation. Liz Gilbert talks about difficult subjects with so much grace and humour. The interviewers also asked excellent questions, including several that I had would have liked to ask about Liz's life which I had been curious about, especially how she navigated the more challenging chapters of death and divorce. I've taken away so much from this episode. Thank you. Also, Committed is a very excellent book. You'd think an analysis about marriage would be rather dry, but it was a riveting read which left me that much wiser on the subject.

[@bridgetmcbride6634]

I agree. And yes, Committed is a fantastic read, I recommend orbit everyone.

[@susanwood829]

I read Eat, Pray, Love on my honeymoon in Mexico back in 2008....wrong book to read on a honeymoon....we lasted a year!

[@Laura-g1c1l]

What an authentic and incredibly intelligent woman, both mentally and emotionally. She says she looks older with her head shaved, but I have recently seen her on a British chat show that was filmed 5 yrs ago, and she looks younger and healthier now.

[@charlieismunted]

This was such an amazing episode!!!!!! Thank you for bringing her amazingness to us!

[@christinem281]

Interesting that Elizabeth started with the ‘embarrassing’ story about an empty chair at a party which she said had been occupied by someone who had died, and later talking about Raya in the present tense , because , her influence, is still with her. A lovely example of the continuing bond with someone who has died..the relationship remains within .

[@karenslaughing]

Yes yes yes to emotional autonomy! Yes to the second childhood after menopause:) yes to loving being single🩷❤️ Totally relate to what Liz says- so refreshing to hear her talk about the entrenched narratives and the freedom to break out of them😅😂❤

[@idarabassey7455]

such a beautiful interview...I love what Ms. Gilbert says about emotional autonomy- definitely something I embrace as a woman of a certain age

[@simonechiavistello9490]

Loved all her books. I relate to everything discussed. It’s scary ! Liz is the absolute best ❤I could listen to her truth for hours!!!!!!!

[@julesmeans8174]

Liz’s honesty is wonderful 🥰

[@fiddlestix3025]

Lovely podcast, full of rawness, juice and meaning to me… That ‘most embarrassing’ story though at the beginning: as mortifying as it would’ve been for Elizabeth back then, -when she told it, I had a moment of: ‘I get it. It’s as if she wanted to invite that missing friend who’d died, into that party, make a space for it, make it still be a part of life. It takes time, at least for me, to fully grasp on all levels that a person has died, -in many cases even years or forever. There might be that initial period of shock and not comprehending that this person isn’t here anymore. So when Elizabeth reserved an empty chair for her, to me it sounded like a token of respect to this departed woman, an attempt to still somehow include her into that gathering of friends….. I don’t know, that’s just me, that’s how I felt about this story instinctually…. No one at that party was ready to accept the fact that there was death right in their midst, let alone anybody being ready to fully address it. Elizabeth did in some way, and in her own way. Not just trying to be funny, but also calling things out by ‘their name’…. Respect from me 🫶

[@fiddlestix3025]

…and yeah, Liz, for me it looks as though you’re standing on your own two feet, fully -with all the wobbliness and the occasional being pushed off-balance which comes with that. Life is a constant balancing act, right? With the only constant being change. So my aim also is to stand on my own two feet. And giving less and less of a damn what others think about my exterior, seems a good way to start that journey. As humans, we need each other, our mutual love, appreciation and support. But hopefully let it not come through the facade and fakeness of an external construct. And in this way, accepting aging as a beautiful thing can be a great way towards that goal. More power and love to the feminine and to the older people in our society 🌿💛🌿

[@msmichele-SixtyistheNewSixty]

I really needed to hear this conversation today. Everything Liz said is a confirmation of everything that I'm living right now. I loved it.

[@SandiHooper]

Too much wisdom (read:pain) for one lifetime. Just. Wow.

[@joannejohnson7006]

I’m really enjoying seeing women of different decades communicating and not competing with each other. Important to stay plugged into the different stages of this life 👍💯☮️💌

[@HealthAtAnyCost]

Ahhhh, far beyond _Eat, Pray, Love,_ comes _Big Magic,_ a book I read every 3 months. Ms. Gilbert speaks to my heart (as she does to so many others'). Marriage, 3 amazing kids, then divorce... to love, live, and marry (once legal), to a woman, who, 25 years in, transitioned FtM. By 32 years, I finally admitted my inability to reconcile my lesbianism and am sola now. Yes, also shaved head (for a couple of decades now) and 405 lbs., 2.5 years ago, made the choice to live. I started GLP-1s and am now healthy beyond any dream I ever had. Every obesity-related illness has vanished and I have lost 260 lbs. People never asked if I was going to start dating at 400 lbs., but I get that question all the time now. "F*CK NO!" is my answer. I have my life the way I have created it. I am ALIVE, almost for the first time in my life. Now I have created a world where my kids and grandkids are the orbit around which I gleefully flow. Besides my own. I live for _me._ I NEVER have to ask permission of anyone anymore. The idea of dating or being married again is abhorrant... and it's weird saying that out loud... but it is what it is. Thank you, Ms. Gilbert, for all you give all of us... and mostly, what you have generously given me.

[@muzikaishokolad]

Honest, authentic talk! We get lost by needing to be sympathized on the cost of not being fully authentic.

[@tinyrollingcamper]

Hi from Canada 😊Liz is always, always an inspiration. Thank you that was an excellent podcast.

[@donnaaddy7265]

20 years of having a relationship with my vivid deceased husband. You have described nearly exactly my own grief journey. I am okay.

[@scilines]

Liz is so wise. I always have to listen to her more than once to let everything sink in. 😊

[@kristywalter3437]

How inspiring, beautiful, awesome this talk was. Thank you for creating ❤

[@marypelliott]

It took me to 69 years old to find myself in a situation where I am answering to nobody. It's terrifying most of the time but once in a while I feel a little bubble of excitement.

[@kateevansnomadicwriter]

She always blows me away. Enjoyed your conversation with her. Her novels are great; I want to hear more about her writing of fiction. And she mentioned she wrote 3 books in the last 5 years...I want to know about that!

[@velocitygirl8551]

Oh how I fall in love with her over and over again every time I see her… I can replay the same interview and it still happens.

[@roxanebethjohnson3594]

Don't forget her novel, The Signature of All things, which is a glorious book & the audio version, read by Juliette Stevenson, is sublime.

[@amaryllisequistra]

1:01:51 I have been hearing exactly the same thing on the inner: cease striving on the outside and redirect that energy to your inner work

[@sharaswitala6296]

I loved city if girls..rereading again

[@rachelerynkalish2207]

I adored Eat Pray Love and reread it again while going thru a big breakup and traveling in London. Now listening to the patriarchal JDVance calling us childless -- women it’s perfect to listen to this. We are not alone. Thank you Liz. ❤️‍🩹🙏🏼💚

[@dominikheliosch7642]

First off I really enjoyed listening to this. Such a calm and peaceful and honest conversation. Also Liz, I think you look amazing! Last time I “saw” you was a year ago when I watched your TED talk. Today I finished reading your book eat, pray, love and I wondered: who is this person today? I jumped onto youtube and searched for your name and found this wonderful conversation! You have such wisdom in your words and life in your eyes and peace in your aura! I feel so content right now just knowing that people, that women like you are out there right now, making this world a better place. I love that you don’t give a sht about how people perceive you, because you shouldn’t have to in the first place. I hope you will inspire many more women to find their natural beauty while aging, too. Love from Switzerland ❤

[@corirenata6541]

So inspiring! Thank you for speaking this out loud.

[@alexandraneagu3073]

Thank you so much for this episode. I love your energy Elisabeth, you exude authenticity and joy of living. And you look great with your hair shaved! I hope one day to have the courage to do that, too!!You girls are lovely also, greetings from Spain and whishing you all the best!🙏💕🌷

[@celsaflores7529]

You know, the first thing I ever read of hers was this article about wine. I thought it was the most beautiful story I had ever read. I copied it from a magazine and to this day I still keep it. Never knew who she was and when her book came out, “Eat, pray, love”, it just came to my attention and connected dots together. Figured out she was the same author I had read a long time ago. Was happy and amazed. 😊😊

[@marypelliott]

I still drive past my old house that I moved out of 7 years ago. I admit it. It was a wonderful 200 year old house in a little village.

[@inthehouse1960]

I'm a diehard feminist who doesn't even use the term "guys" when addressing groups of people. But can we just mention that the world is big enough for the many paths women choose in life - and we have more choices than ever now? It's not a binary single vs married choice, and many Gen X and Gen Z women recognize this thanks to authors like Gilbert. There are married women with children who have autonomy and independence, single mothers by choice (myself included), and professional women heads of households. I worry that the backless to the emphatic promotion of female singleness is perceived as a discounting of other choices, and this is how it's seen by the basement-dwelling misogynists who are poisoning our public discourse right now. So, let's celebrate how many choices we have - because they can be stripped from our younger generation of women, in the US anyway. Also, Elizabeth, please cite your sources on those "data points". Some women thrive in relationships - and some women die of loneliness. The reality is we need to know what works best for us and have the options to choose that.

[@inthehouse1960]

That's supposed to say "backlash" not "backless"- damn auto correct.

[@jrtg1990]

Liz is truly a wordsmith!

[@maryesther6513]

The hosts did a good job and I enjoyed the interview. They did seem uncomfortable when she brought up the happiness-maritial-status stats. I was wondering if perhaps that was a piece of reality they are not ready to embrace? I remember being in my 20s-30s and buying into the standard myth (marriage/relationship = happiness) and I definitely would have resisted an older woman telling me the opposite. Also, I have heard that having children gives your life more meaning (I have kids) if not more happiness.

[@jacquelinenoble5039]

Ladies, this was good interview.

[@lisajensen1843]

This was fantastic! Thank you❤️

[@jrtg1990]

Re: Grief . All she said is true. Going it through right now with the lost of my younger brother. February 2, 2024 and counting ❤️‍🩹

[@karlakay]

Loved the book 'Committed" Very impactful - and should have ended this partner lifestyle back then! Time for me to reread! Then follow my gut to get back to Emotional Autonomy (and physical separation)

[@ちゃんぷぅ-e6q]

omg!! I loved the movie, loved the book and this episode is in my box of treasures!

[@invisigal007]

This was fantastic. Thank you.

[@Cityman29]

Love this. Relate men can also feel the same. Run for the hills!

[@velocitygirl8551]

After my lifelong best friend passed 6 years ago… he was so present the first few years, and like Liz… I’ve felt him less and less. Oh how I understand what she means…

[@sheryljackson8068]

And its ok to be married and be happy too.

[@flashgirl1]

This was so good!

[@MauiViolinist]

There were a couple of studies that showed non parents are happier than parents. I’ve certainly been happier as a single feminist than my married w children sister.

[@suryaalcayde7268]

The important skill to develope is finding which are the voices that come from outside and which IS your real voice. Respond only to the later.

[@jana6116]

I actually think Liz looks great now. I love the hair and glasses!

[@yoland9509]

And Liz looks so well!

[@biondna7984]

I cared for my late, beloved second husband about seven years before Alzheimer's took him. Oh yes, vast relief comes with the grief. But with dementia, you've been grieving their departure for years anyway. He was loving and affectionate; he healed me from 24 years with a malignant narcissist, which I was primed for by an alcoholic, narcissistic mother and distant father. I've been on my own for 3.5 years now; I was single most of my twenties; so solitude is familiar territory for me. I'm listening intently here about the reality of married life for women, even though my second marriage was deeply sweet. Now, given the coming "government" though, my cherished independence based on Social Security and Medicare feels at risk. I'm focused on creating new income. Financial independence is key, for me.

[@kim.s2523]

Wonderful interview & podcast 😊

[@ExtremelyRadiant.5772]

The book was amazing, but there was ZERO chemistry, in the movie. :( And, though, I love Julia, she did not express that book, that I read like 10 times and visited in Italy in 2008, after my third divorce, because Elizabeth's journey helped ME, heal, again, and again! :) BTW, I now live in Sedona Valley, in a lovely home, and stopped dating almost two years ago. My journey is TOO Divine, to have a man in my life. My wild birds and my two rescue dogs, ARE my family. We are all connected in Source/Love/God. So, we truly are never alone. :) Namaste, Ya'll :)

[@EmeraldIndira]

The movie was terrible in my opinion.

[@ExtremelyRadiant.5772]

@@EmeraldIndira I know, right? I LOVED the book, went to Italy and my ME Trip, after my 3rd and painful divorce. Chemistry between the leading man and woman was SO vital. I did not feel like the Spiritual part of her love relationship was fairly represented and her relationship with the Balinese Healer woman, was almost eliminated in the movie. ;) Yes, for whatever reason, "Eat, Pray, Love," helped me live a more abundant life. That ONE quote, she said early on, about herself in a love relationship; "I dive into the relationship, and start being the person they wanted to me to be, like a Trapese Artist diving into a Dixie Cup." :( WAY back in 2007, I starting dating differently. I am so thankful, that I finally shock off the Okie programming of "Settling down" and I live as I chose. :) Namaste, SiStar :)

[@CatherineQuinn-u5w]

I just heard you share what you felt your most embarrassing moment was but I believe that the spirit of your friend WAS probably on that empty chair at the party as you commented on - it was your soul speaking aloud ✨. Katie O Dee

[@HighPriestess-x2e]

I had that same thought.

[@dianaadams8990]

Me too.

[@kathleensteeves488]

Spiritual healing love wisdom creative and free to move your own universe to wards truth❤❤❤😊😊

[@RenfromBespin]

The way Palpatine infiltrated the Galactic Senate and rose to power to become Emperor for 20+ years is incredible. Converted the Chosen One to darkness. He was extremely powerful in the Dark Side too…W edit bro nice work

[@mikeash7428]

What a gift thank you for this wisdom

[@morganstubie]

The movie is hhhhhoooorrrrriiibblllee!!!! Julia Roberts doesn’t do it justice..

[@MeghanDonnellyIPY]

Wow. Just wow. I'll never be the same. ❤

[@deannamadrigal7503]

The biggest regret I have in my life was having kids. Ironically, I have no relationship with them, and I know that I had them for my ex and my mother. It's funny how many of us left relationships as we hit our Saturn return at age 29. I'm 64, starting to travel alone, which feels a bit scary but walking through my fear, mainly going to a country where you don't speak the language. I'm going to Costa Rica in January, by myself. Yes, I came very close to checking out at 37, severely depressed.

[@teresadunkin1229]

I absolutely love the story about that death joke. That's the kinda thing that I would say.