Being SINGLE Your WHOLE LIFE?! | The Hop Pod Ep.67

[@YouGotWatch]

team evergreen where you at! 📢🤝

[@lijiahongjordan]

[@joeyyyiqi]

Introvert evergreen here, I feel like this ep is made for me. I wanna be estee's friend!

[@YouGotWatch]

You are not alone! 🤝

[@kuehmerlion]

For me as an evergreen (guy) myself, I have grown very accustomed and comfortable to doing things alone; be it eating out, watch a movie, going to museum/recreational places or even traveling abroad. I think it has unfortunately reached a point that because I actually enjoy doing those stuff by myself, I often find it increasingly difficult to accommodate someone else in my life. Hopefully for all my other fellow evergreen who is actively looking for their first relationship, don't end up like me who have already accepted table for one. 😂

[@YouGotWatch]

Not unfortunate at all! Being able to enjoy your own company is amazing.

[@lijiahongjordan]

you do you!!

[@Colonelmj]

come for nick, stay for nick.

[@YNA64]

Stayed for nick, came for nick.

[@marcuskwek3832]

@@YNA64 I came.

[@madelynn_18]

Wah as a late 20s evergreen here, this episode makes me feel like breaking into tears :'( I can say that I've liked guys who've always choose someone else (my friend, my sister, etc) over me and I do think that at this point I'm getting a little too tired to have my heart broken again and again. Despite the advice is to be more proactive in finding new circle of friends or groups, I've also decided to just take a back seat and wait because I can't afford to keep feeling this way. Sometimes I also wonder if people think it makes sense I'm single like Nic (no hate on Nic! I can understand how he feels because I do know people who think this way as well, I think it's pretty common), or I'm not attractive enough. Being abit on the heavier side and extroverted seems to affect even if my friends think I'm very kind and sweet. I stop hoping because it's not doing me any good, despite the wish to have a life partner. Similarly to Estee and Q, I also have those same experiences when it comes to asking for movies or hanging out to new places, and sometimes I think I force myself to believe I'm okay with this. All in all, I've been trying to work over this insecurity and issues for awhile now, but it seems like we have to be at 100% to be even eligible to be in the dating scene at this rate.

[@madelynn_18]

No hate the the pod or crew really! It's just that this episode hit alot of my buttons that I feel sad to come to. But I can really understand where everyone is coming from 🤗 I do think Estee and Q are very sweet people too, hope you guys find your lifelong partners that is deserving of you/vice versa 💗

[@YouGotWatch]

@@madelynn_18 Glad this ep spoke to you! A big virtual hug from us ❤

[@mainemainez]

33 yr old evergreen here! Dating was just not my priority, been busy with work , school & gym till very recently ! 😅

[@thisiskimbo]

Estee is only 25!!! But honestly I feel that's a good age to start dipping your toes in dating and "collecting data" so that you'll eventually know what you want/need in a partner. Also dating events are more "out there" these days, it could be less awkward than a 1:1 dinner date. I would say enjoy a good mix of doing things solo, but also keeping your eyes peeled to expand your social circle will be a good balance 👍🏻 and have fun!

[@loganmystic1676]

Different standards applied to women and men. Usually women get judged harshly if they are still single or unmarried after a certain age. For women that are always searching and complain they cannot find The One after several years, high probability these women have issues with their character. Whether the person is experienced or inexperienced, if there's a spark between the two and both make some effort, it will work out eventually. But both must make the effort and not be unrealistic.

[@chunniverse]

"he got it down to a SCIENCE!" ba dum tss! nice one Joie! love it hahah

[@Marty-gv4nv]

Isn’t that estee from TSL? What’s she doing here ? No longer with TSL ah?

[@Glennny]

Would Q date someone younger? If yes, what is the age gap thats okay?

[@usernameerrorxx]

but i also think its very reasonable to not want to date someone evergreen, because it can be very exhausting to have to "teach" them things and go through the process of them not knowing what to do in a relationship

[@jigsoree]

Disagree. Ive encountered and know people who are not even evergreen but not know what to do in a relationship. Being a new mom or a new dad is basically the same, you are evergreen and you learn as it goes by, that doesnt mean you have no experience means you cant have a child. You only live once and we all live this life differently from others. In all honesty its the same in every relationship you get to know the person and talk things out with the person, I believe you are the problem if you find it "exhausting" to communicate with the person.

[@DiablocaShinra]

ngl sometimes i see some random uncle alone eating alone im like fk thats me in the future. GWENCHANA!!! u are not alone in being alone ;)

[@shawnlee4933]

Sometime i feel i not good looking,introvert n no money n maybe not interested in relationship

[@JuzNicky]

by the definition stated. since NS i have been ever green since ? cos i read so much about bgr issues for ns guys so i didn't bother and now its been 20 years. I didn't mind letting her lead. for me is always about the company and not the place or food or activity. but what ever the who what where when how or body count or icks or flags, both of the persons have to sit down and build the ship. not just leave it half built and abandon it. too many a times ppl would just go break then break. unlike back in the 90s where u see how strong sec sch ships have grown to be like ww2 battleship strong. I agree with Q's mindset shift. friendships over committed relationships. That loneliness is hello darkness my old friend. but movie company is for sure Idm with any one. cos its just watching a movie. so Idm watching movies with Estee. But hey Tau geh fam !

[@tlq4957]

evergreen is never been in any relationship what... no meh?

[@rafiq6521]

estee sounds like an ideal gf tbh..

[@lijiahongjordan]

LOL

[@zheyi13296]

Lmao.... Girls with no rs experience? No thx

[@N4tur4lX]

@@zheyi13296 you tell me which girl start out with experience

[@Hamburger_Got_Cooked]

please remove this extraneous word; “like” it’s kinda irrelevant

[@RoyvenGo]

a very relatable topic oof. introvert evergreen 23m here 😂. thanks for sharing ms.producer! 🔥 hmmm for me personally, ngl it does get 'lonely' at times but this is due to external factors bah (things i couldn't really control(?) it can stretch from seeing couples in public, people asking why, and even to the extent people on childcare leave(?) like 'awww they got a child of theirs 我的leh!?'🥲). but besides that, i am comfortable being with myself bah and i crave for solitude instead 🤡