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[@frogswithtophats]

I showed my friend some of your music and now whenever he texts me he says “noahfinnce” instead of “no offense”. And every time he says “no offense” in person he smiles really big it makes my day every time

[@alishak8241]

aww that's so cute

[@S0larSyst3m.K1d]

thats adorable lol

[@thatsmemichael]

THAT'S PRIME😩🤌

[@whyaretheykinda]

oh lol, ive been pronouncing his name "noah finance" because i cant read

[@harley5.7bviews5secondsago6]

@@whyaretheykinda lol I use to pronounce his name like "Noah fin-neace" until I heard him say it out loud 💀

[@idlecorville]

this is so interesting and terrifying to learn about as someone who has never been to boarding school

[@zoem.3393]

Oh

[@RaeLovesSF]

I want to like the comments but the likes are amazing 😭😭😭

[@Tabs-ll4rn]

Nah i went to a military boarding school, the legit gave us gvns cuz like why not lets give a bunch of mentally unstable teenagers gvns ig (someone in a few years above una lived themself…) But like apart from that lol it was kinda fun, i goofed of with friends, was in a relationship with my roommate, got to wear fancy military uniform (I always pissed off the teachers by wearing the boys uniform lol) snuck out and explored the town nearby, i kinda miss it ngl lol I didnt go nto the army tho lol

[@kiwin6246]

noah's 'hello underachievers' makes my day every time.

[@emanueledes7]

It would be nasty... if it wasn't just... British :D

[@BLE751]

Omg yes

[@MoonlitBookworm73]

Yep!

[@SourStephen3]

It’s funny hearing you say that your brothers friends yelled “Zacks brother!!!” At you because the exact same thing happens to me. It’s also funny when people see it happen then try to comfort me by telling me how much I’m not a boy and how I’m so obviously a girl, when I am very clearly not a girl.

[@DinosaurNick]

I'm Librafaun/Genderfaun and my brother tried to insult me by saying I look masculine and I said "Really? Thanks!" and he got so confused XD

[@sand_eater101]

I haven’t been insulted to my face before, but my sister’s classmates knew I (the older ‘sister’) had gone to their school and when my sis began saying “brother” because I was trans and she supported me (she was the first to support me fully with no questions whatsoever), she got this reaction: “OH MY GOD! Is she/he gay???” I can’t actually remember what she said that her classmate had said to it, but it was something along the above in a mocking tone. But to think that I used to be a girl (I didn’t even fit the definition of femme back then), I definitely don’t look like it and I haven’t even transitioned medically

[@keiri16]

I go to a public highschool in Canada and yes, I can confirm that the gays flock together. Even before we knew we were gay.

[@delaneykeller1389]

Yes! All the gays are friends even when they're all in the closet. We all just /know/ even if we are in denile

[@oops-a-davey]

We (my friend group and I) came to ninth grade completely "cishet" and entered eleventh as two pan girls, a bi non-binary person, a femme non-binary lesbian and an asexual masc non-binary person AT THE EXACT SAME TIME 😭💀

[@keiri16]

@@oops-a-davey that's just how it goes I guess😂 I mean just a few months ago I thought I was a cis girl but nope, I'm trans.

[@sophia7715]

i go to a private catholic high school in canada, and i can also confirm this (as a part of the flock)

[@atlasmoonstone3249]

I can confidently say this is accurate

[@samjohnson4751]

I went to a Christian school like my whole life and it is such a conservative echo chamber. If it wasn't for KZbin and social media I would know pretty much nothing about the lgbt+ community.

[@yoonashou]

same

[@P37rich0r]

I know I’m late but same

[@pupculturejackattacc]

I had a similar experience. I went to an all girls catholic school for almost 10 years. Although the school was more LGBT friendly than other catholic schools in my country, it still sucks cuz we were taught mandatory classes on how to do our nails and makeup... Did the nails, didn't do the makeup cuz I was thankfully allergic to literally every product except for the lipstick. I wasn't exactly the most popular in our batch, but people knew me because I was the kid of one of the teachers. I got bullied on and off throughout the years because I acted weird. Turns out, the reason that I was weird in school was because I was actually trans. I had hobbies considered typically masculine. I still have a couple of friends from that school and I'm mostly cool with the other people who went there.

[@NOAHFINNCE]

MAKEUP AND NAILS CLASS??

[@pupculturejackattacc]

@@NOAHFINNCE yeah it was the weirdest thing 😭😭😭. We also had these "gala uniforms" which are essentially long sleeved white dresses that we wear during the mass. I live in a tropical country and that uniform sucks ass during February cuz summer was starting. At least the school was openly supportive of lgbtq people tho. Last I heard there was talk about accepting transwomen into the school. I know a few trans guys who came from my school tho. ALSO OMG THANK U FOR REPLYING KING U ARE GREAT AND I LOVE UR MUSIC

[@thecorlorlesspig1993]

@@pupculturejackattacc hmmmm you happen to be Filipino?

[@pupculturejackattacc]

@@thecorlorlesspig1993 yeah I do!

[@thecorlorlesspig1993]

@@pupculturejackattacc omg just saw this and me too lol

[@jayjulius1521]

basing my style and aesthetic off of noah for the past few years and never realizing it until now💀

[@srhwllms5057]

I know im going to look like him when i grow up (yes we're like the same age)

[@superdrwholock]

This video really resonated with me. I often mourn the fact that I never got to have a happy childhood cos of dysphoria, was never allowed to have my hair cut and sometimes had to wear clothes I hated, and I get lowkey jealous that Noah has photos of him as a kid where he looks like himself if that makes sense (not in a ‘grr’ way just in a ‘damn I wish I had that’ way). And I didn’t get to be myself until 18 because my parents always dismissed it as a phase until 2 years ago, but I could’ve been on T now had they listened (I still love them). But this video just shows that Noah hasn’t had the perfect life at all and that sometimes your head makes you think people have better lives than you when you don’t actually know that lol

[@bruiser8820]

That’s exactly what’s happening to me oof. Except I’m 13 sooo

[@superdrwholock]

@@bruiser8820 Much love mate, and good luck in life :)

[@bruiser8820]

@@superdrwholock thanks man

[@prettyinpinky5937]

Why didn’t they just let you be a tomboy? Weird forcing your kid to wear certain clothes. My mom would just let me go shopping with my brother.

[@superdrwholock]

@@prettyinpinky5937 Yeah god knows! I was allowed to wear some clothes I wanted but I remember being forced into dresses and literally breaking down over it and same with haircuts, should've just cut my own hair aha

[@skylar_the_aetherian]

"if i was a lesbian, i probably would've had a great time" not if you were made to hate doc martens i'll see myself out

[@jay1033]

Just hearing the "Hello underachievers!" cheered me up (I lost one of my guinea pigs earlier so today has been rough)

[@c0mbatkitty]

i'm sorry about your guinea pig :((

[@mariettarumetshofer5841]

Oh no, I'm so sorry :((

[@jacksonns333]

im sorry, i know how you feel. i lost one of my rats a few days ago. it sucks losing pets :(

[@eeng17]

Sorry about your guinea pig. I lost one of my cats 4 years ago and call me over sentimental but I still cry when I think about her.

[@SnailTrailJay]

Noah I came out last Friday and I’m beginning to transition soon I’m so excited thank you so much with your videos and your music you’ve helped me a ton. Thank you!

[@bluechequer]

Well done, I hope your doing well and your family are supportive =)

[@SnailTrailJay]

@@bluechequer thanks and they are :)

[@bluechequer]

@@SnailTrailJay glad to hear it and no problem :))

[@riotix1196]

thats amazing!! im so happy for you! I came out september 2020, got ignored for a year and now im finally starting to medically transition (social was last year haha). good luck!!

[@sully0414]

Congrats =)

[@marikethan6411]

The complimenting part… I remember trying to fit in so I used mascara and a girl told me how pretty I look with it and told her clique how beautiful I was….”looking so feminine” she was really really nice and meant what she said but I remember going to the bathroom and sobbing. Because I realized how much I did NOT want to look like a pretty or beautiful girl-didn’t want to look like a girl at all.

[@Alex-el2lh]

im also trans at a girls boarding school, this hit hard

[@harley5.7bviews5secondsago6]

that must be really tough. Hope you're doing ok :]

[@mariettarumetshofer5841]

@@harley5.7bviews5secondsago6 hello, my fellow directioner ^^💙💚

[@harley5.7bviews5secondsago6]

@@mariettarumetshofer5841 OMG HI!! 💚💚💙💙

[@mariettarumetshofer5841]

@@harley5.7bviews5secondsago6 I feel like we're literally everywhere ^^ hope you're doing alright 💙💚

[@harley5.7bviews5secondsago6]

@@mariettarumetshofer5841 same! There's so many of us lol And, thank you! I'm doing ok, I hope you are too! ^^ 💚💙

[@roundsdm]

As a girl whos just recently realized im on the spectrum with sensory processing disorder & also had an ED, that sounds like a nightmare!! So damaging in SO many ways!! 🥺

[@ryleesyomom]

I have never related to something more “I liked boys but in a gay way” omg littarally me

[@riotix1196]

hey noah, i go to a catholic secondary school, and i came out as trans to my school about 4 months ago. your videos give me alot of reassurance so thankyou

[@sully0414]

Congrats on coming out =)

[@riotix1196]

@@sully0414 thankyou :D

[@sully0414]

@@riotix1196 no problem :)

[@avocadoolive1484]

Is your school accepting? :)

[@riotix1196]

@@avocadoolive1484 thankfully yes,just really weird timing since in Australia, our government is a tad corrupt. Trying to protect myself the best I can but yes we are gooddd

[@cherrywyrm]

gosh this sounds like such an awful experience tbh. i live in a country with mandatory military service, so i can relate to a lot of the stuff you've described as i served there for two years, and even though i was 18 when i got enlisted it was very traumatic and terrible for my mental health. i can't even imagine how much worse such an experience would be for 5 of your *formative years*!!! seems like utter torture

[@caramcp]

same for my brother, he was very affected by his military service when he enlisted, the difference in him before-after is crazy too. (we are korean)

[@apolly125]

As someone who used to go to boarding school the best way I can describe it is this: Envision Hogwarts, but then take the magic out of it, take the cool lessons and architecture out of it, take the good food out, imagine the freedom out, and then scrap all of it and imagine jail.

[@Serenity_yt]

Yeah well the arcitecture of the boarding house was great at my school as it actually used to be the summer castle of some high up royal that now rents it out to the school. But the rest spot on. Terrible food. No magic. Similar amount of stairs and walking over school grounds but much less magic with much more running because they didnt include the walking time in schedules. Extremly strict discipline (like drug tests if they even suspected you stepped foot in the netherlands during hols or walked funny and seemed kinda drunk, complete Wifi black out after 10 as this is village in a complete black spot you dont even get normal service otherwise). Schedules for every minute of your day. Sports and more active things and study time to have a pause from the active things. No houses just year groups and no uniforms though (as is the norm for my country) and generally much more shit than Hogwarts. Add on: Thankfully I wasnt a boarder as I lived the next village over but my best friend was a full boarder so stayed there pretty much always as Noah explained and we ate the exact same food in the same cafeteria as the boarders so got some experience.

[@apolly125]

@@Serenity_yt I was actually a full boarder, like full- full. My parents lived in another country so I stayed even on weekends and such and only went home for the holidays and it wasn’t great ngl.

[@Serenity_yt]

@@apolly125 I can imagine, although Ive never boarded. My friend was from China (most foreign students were asian) and the school is in western europe, not really a weekend trip ^^. (They even had guest families for the shorter holidays)

[@apolly125]

@@Serenity_yt I boarded in England, and my parents were french so it wasn’t too far away- but I can’t imagine having a guest family even in the short times that you might get to see your parents

[@dianalove539]

But the way he made it sound sounds so nice though? I hate being at home... I do like school. As long as I get enough sleep

[@librasgirl08]

I went to boarding school at 13 as well, it was at the end of the 90ies, which went totally different. We had the assembly every morning, we had 7 or 8 lessons a day, one hour for homework each day. Our class had maximum 12 students. My class had only 8 students, for Latin we were only 4 people, so our lessons were intense. But we were supposed to have an after school activity every day, sometimes two. I had tennis, diving, vegetarian cooking, pottery and choir. Our food was amazing, we had a cook, that cooked fresh food every day. There was always 2 dishes to choose from. Our teachers ate there as well, even the headmaster. Every day one student had kitchen duty, where we helped to prepare the dining area. There was always fresh fruit available. We could go home every weekend, except for one weekend a months where we had special events. Could be anything, but we went to theatre twice, one was the Rocky Horror Picture Show. On those weekends at school we had a fancy dinner. So fancy dresses and suits or even a tux were mandatory. We had a three course candlelight dinner with rather fancy food. It was delicious! I mentioned the Rocky Horror Picture Show, the year before I went, the students were actually performing it. Frank N. Furter was no other than our head boy! Fishnets and corset included. So yes, our school was really open minded. It was no secret, that two of the girls in 12 grade dated and still shared a room. They pushed their beds together and no one cared. We had guys dating as well. I'm glad, I had a good experience. But we were a tiny school, just about 120 students. Today it's a school for gifted children.

[@johncollinge619]

That's amazing!

[@no._.3894]

May I ask if this was st. Afra?

[@librasgirl08]

@@no._.3894 No Torgelow

[@nancydrewnerd]

Thank you for talking about how emotional being in the closet made you. When you talked a bout being angry at your situation and yourself I felt a huge flood of relief because I experienced those emotions in high school (still do every now and then) and, at the time, I thought I was crazy for feeling that way. I'm still in the closet but have access to LGBTQ spaces and resources now but have never heard anyone else mention anger as a side effect of being closeted. Admitting things about emotions is hard and I can't imagine doing it on the internet. Please know it is making a difference and respect for being brave enough to do that.

[@johncollinge619]

There is a Venn diagram where being closeted absolutely intersects with profound depression - even when you are not aware. Though it's not what people first consider, excess anger, I'd even say rage, is commonly a part of depression. Please take advantage of some of the resources! Check out Togetherall - it's available in many countries, is online, pretty much anonymous. Take care!

[@nancydrewnerd]

@@johncollinge619 That's interesting! Also, thank you for suggesting the resource!

[@sand_eater101]

It makes a lot of sense for anger to be a result of an unsafe environment for fellow queer people. I’ve had this before. They know they’re stuck in a Limbo, they’re pinched between living in a body that doesn’t fit the image of themselves in their mind, and being unable to come out because their family or peers are outwardly lgbtq-phobic. The way that I’ve had this (it has happened twice now), I’ve felt like I didn’t belong *anywhere*. I don’t want to change with the girls because I don’t feel like I am a girl, and it’s very hard for me to see a future where I am a cis woman, but I can’t change with the boys because my body is still the one of a girl. I can hopefully get changes done soon, I’m almost 15 with the mind of an 18y.o

[@tundraart2693]

Do you regret not coming out while you were at school at all? Im currently debating coming out so i can have my senior year of high school to be out and actually like how i look in my yearbook.

[@kylie.sparks_]

if you think its the right time then go for it! You will look back and be super proud of yourself. but make sure to do it gradually. tell your close friends first if you haven't already and make sure you have a small group of people who support you first. I hope the best for you and i hope you have a great day/night!!

[@kadenmigdal4209]

Tl;dr: I came out during my senior year and it wasn't terrible, and if you'll be miserable if you stay closeted, then you might consider coming out. It really depends on your circumstances, but I came out to my parents the summer before my senior year of high school. I went to a public school in the US, my parents were and still are super supportive, and the area I went to school in was super LGBT friendly. For the first few months, I didn't officially come out to everyone (mind you, I went to a large school, 4000+ kids), but at the beginning of the year I had emailed my teachers so I could at least put my name on assignments and stuff. I had already sort of started transitioning, so I didn't hate how I looked. During my senior portraits, I asked to wear the tux (they let me), and the photographer let me change my name that came up on my school ID. This gave me so much euphoria and confidence that I ended up coming out to my band directors that had known me since middle school and early high school. I also told my teachers to start calling me by name and using my pronouns, just sorta hoping people would catch on. I had come out online a little before so some people already knew, but not everyone. I was able to have my name changed in the year book, and then I eventually got it changed legally so I could have my real name on my diploma. I know that is kind of a long story, but if you think you'll have a good support system, then go for it. Will there be people who stop talking to you? Sure, but you probably wouldn't want to be around them anyway. You also don't have to tell everyone if you don't want to, especially if you won't see them after senior year or you're not super close to them. You really have to way the costs and benefits. If coming out is going to put you in an unsafe situation, then maybe hold off for a bit. But if you know that at least some people will be supportive, then go ahead. I know this was super long, but I hope it helps you or someone else. Good luck!

[@tundraart2693]

@@kadenmigdal4209 thanks so much for your opinion! I unfortunately live in a VERY conservative area with trump 2024 gear already everywhere. I have my friends that are accepting and thats all i care about. I am not worried about being physically harmed because its not that kind of transphobia where i live but more of a verbal thing. If i do come out though i will probably have to move with my dad though so thats my biggest problem lol.

[@mariejacobsen4956]

He answered that one ;)

[@SkelitonWren]

Go for it! I came out too my class, it worked out more or less okay- your gonna be bullied more for it but if you know your gonna have a mostly supportive environment you should :) (don't if you feel unsafe doing so, or if you don't want too)

[@Certifiedbaddie16]

It sounds like a cult 😬😬

[@malicedoesthings]

16:49 as a person who goes to a larger school all the gays know each other/ are friends with each other.

[@BubblegumKoi]

Since there were no gay people at my school I was stuck with the weird kids that no one likes :) (It wasn't fun, especially because once I got to know one of them, they made fun of LGBTQ+ people and said the n word numerous times a day)

[@i.am.OK.]

Wow, this honestly sounds like something out of my grandfather's times to me. I knew there were still a lot of traditional/conservative private schools in the UK, but I hadn't really spent much time reflecting on it. This would pe pure torture to me. So I guess thanks for reminding me how lucky I am for the school experiences I've had.

[@Irene-ph5cm]

Your videos are weirdly calming for me lmao i once couldnt sleep from anxiety and then i watched your room tour video and i could get to sleep after, so thanks!

[@lydia437]

When I lived in Germany and casually mentioned CCF (which I didn’t participate in) at my international school, my friends were so confused and freaked out by it. They thought it was really fucked up

[@InsertMyChineseUsername]

I had JROTC at school and casually came out to the whole class because some senior kept asking me out. The tiny skinny conservative kid looked so offended and looked like he wanted to start a fight, but I was so much stronger than him, so I got to watch him languish in misery the entire year.

[@nyasputin]

That's hysterical lmao 💀

[@Starberry50]

Raise your hand if Noah inspires you ✋🏻

[@hugol9927]

I spent my last 3 years of school in a similar institution, although it wasn't a boarding school, we did go home after the classes. But they controlled every aspect of our appearance pretty much the same as in your school. We got detention for sneezing the wrong way. There were nice teachers but most of them were really not that nice. There was a dude whose literal job was to control if people brought phones into the school (it wasn't allowed). He would run (i'm not exaggerating) around and catch people when he thought they had a phone in their pocket. He legit ripped off the pocket of my friend's trousers on one of these occasions. One time there was a guy who walked through the gate without a tie on, and one of the teachers deadass made him put the tie on and then made a knot that is impossible to undo. The dude had to chop the tie off with scissors that day. Can relate. I'm just happy i didn't figure out i was trans until after that school.

[@hugol9927]

OH YEAH, and we had military training as well which included parade training, shooting & other military stuff

[@trxpho._]

Really needed this alot,im a trans guy and I'm about to go to an all girls boarding school,it sucks but I don't really have a choice

[@NOAHFINNCE]

wishing u luck! u may be surprised and find a great group of people!

[@annaw9687]

This is so bizarre! It sounds like something from the 1950s not 2017. It’s kind of funny though to think of the kids being snobby towards state school kids because you’d be ripped apart if you acted like this in a state school. Also the rule about only being able to wear one charity wristband as jewellery really tickled me lol

[@myewzek2913]

This is so interesting to me because my school was the exact opposite. First of all, no schedule. Obviously not a boarding school. But no schedule either. Some subjects had classes, like drama or band where you obviously have to be actively participating, but most subjects’ classes were optional. They’d hold lectures, but going to them wasn’t mandatory. Most of the day was absolutely free, you could go to various places to study or just talk to your friends. You could even leave campus and go to a coffee shop if you were sneaky about it and were there for attendance. But you could even get off from school early if you told your teacher-advisor that you were going to. And there were a lot of students at the school, like 3000 or so? Some were online, most in person. Most students went there for the self-directed environment because they had a lot of other stuff going on in sports or because they had difficulty learning in a regular environment for whatever reason. There wasn’t really a dress code, though you obviously couldn’t be nude. Oh and not many restrictions on the wifi, I could definitely find porn if I tried to. I would have to try, and I think they did technically track what sites you go to, but I don’t think anyone actually monitors it lol. The food was awesome, our cooks were Vietnamese and made Vietnamese food every day (very good type of food). It was also optional, you could bring your own food and use microwaves/kettles to heat it up. Trans and gay people were generally accepted, but there we’re definitely cliques of queer people so maybe it was just everyone I knew. But there was even a point where my cis friend, who is not transphobic at all, was called transphobic for accidentally misgendering someone. So transphobia was like over-corrected in a way, at least within the people we knew. There were also clubs for people on all sorts of spectrums to join. Now, unfortunately I couldn’t enjoy this school all that much due to my incredible anxiety around people and my at that point undiagnosed ADHD in a schedule free environment, but objectively the school was awesome. And if I was on the meds I am now, and gone through the therapy I have now, I think I could’ve enjoyed it a lot. I enjoy university, and that’s kind of what that school was trying to mimic to prepare us. Very good school. Oh and I didn’t do homework. I think homework is a SHAM, it should always be optional. I got to spend time doing what I wanted to do instead of silly little math problems. I think it’s the future of schools. Edit: OH AND I FORGOT THE BEST PART: IT WAS FREE!! NO MONEY REQUIRED, JUST MAYBE FOR TRANSPORT TO AND FROM, AND I GUESS SOME CLUB FEES.

[@mfbfreak]

Bloody hell. That sounds properly shit. I once hid from my parents making them properly afraid because i didn't feel like going to horse riding school. Which was a totally nice school. I just didn't want to. After i heard them calling for like 30 minutes i decided to come out of hiding, and then it was too late to go anyway. I would've probably disappeared into the woods if they'd have tried to send me to such a boarding school. Authoritarian people? Nopenopenopenope.

[@richardpurdy2764]

I started high school in 1978 and I had a boyfriend. I so wished I was a girl so I wouldn't half to hide. For the longest time I thought I was trans but I'm not I'm gay. Anyway we came out at prom. We took a lesbian couple and switched dates once we were inside. It was really fun as you could probably imagine we turned a lot of heads. Anyway I'm so proud of you sweet boy stay strong and be proud

[@danfilmmaker]

I was closeted for 3 years in state school, because for various reasons my situation in school/my school was so bad that I could not possibly come out, and it totally messes with your mind. I felt like I was just moving through life until the evening when I could speak to my friends online. It was honestly so weird, the only way I can sum it up is it felt like a waste of time because I was just wishing my life/time away? Would not recommend but also could not have come out and that would have made my life (somehow) worse.

[@Anonymous-ju2dz]

I realized how f*cked up my family was when you said that you can go home and be yourself without being bullied for who you are... If i wasn't who my family wanted me to be i would get beat 💀💀💀 took me years to be comfortably myself and they are still angry when I am bc I'm different from them-

[@PixelPotat0]

So basically child abuse. Conservatives really are fricked up.

[@Mishalace]

Where is the "ex" part of the naval academy. That's a military school lol.

[@ash471]

the dedication to replacing everyone’s face in every pic with noah’s face >>>

[@nathanr5737]

Damm doc martens were compulsory, that uniform musta been so unnecessarily expensive ffs

[@art3misplays265]

As i'm listening to this i'm hearing a startlingly similar experience. I go to a fairly small private christian highschool in one of the most conservative provinces in Canada. I grew up in the conservative bubble and I had virtually no interaction with outside influences until I was about 14. I'm in my 12th year now and I have come out as non-binary to close friends and family. I don't hide it at school but it is not widely talked about. This year I am helping my friend start the schools first ever GSA because we have many friends in lower grades who are also a part of the community. The school legally has to give us one but the announcement has started a ripple effect through the tightly knit community and I am seeing very ugly sides to the more prominent families and the general populace. It's mostly fear I think, but there is legitimate hate and there is genuine harassment on young lgbtq people that is passed off as regular bullying. Lets just say I have it pretty easy even having a gender that most of them have never heard of. The teachers are all lovely and the principal is being a dart board for all the hate from parents, but for now we hold secret meetings in the basement...

[@liam_er]

fr wow 💀 some lesbian girl had an intense crush on me for a WHILE and i’m trans…. it took her a while to not use my deadname and she liked me as a girl… man wow it didn’t help that people thought we were a lesbian couple because she tried to get so close to me 🚶‍♂️

[@milahosh]

"If I was a lesbian, I would've probably had a great time." I don't know why, but I loved that sentence (and it seems to be very true haha)

[@OoglyWooglies]

im a trans man and my name is alex which is also actually my birth name i love when any other trans guy calls themself alex, even temporarily i think it increases my power

[@happinesspridejoy7394]

No offense but Noah Finnce needs to tour in the states 🙏🏼😭

[@abbs3661]

and canadaaa

[@NOAHFINNCE]

👀

[@incestfetus]

@@abbs3661 frr nobody tours in canada :( (atleast ppl ik/i like

[@abbs3661]

@@incestfetus i knowwww

[@scarlettcoburn3418]

you should do more videos this length i like it :)

[@aceatlasska4343]

When you talked about being the only "girl" in your chemistry class, I just though wow, I can't believe there were no girls. I did chemistry all the way through secondary school, and I would say it was one of the more equal classes in terms of gender ratio. (I finished school last year)

[@NOAHFINNCE]

there were a lot more boys than girls in that school in general, just so happened that my timetable was set out so that that class didn’t have other girls haha

[@aceatlasska4343]

@@NOAHFINNCE oh okay that makes more sense now lol. I guess there was more boys cos it was previously an all boys school? Also that "We only shop at Waitrose" chant was so funny, as someone who first heard about Waitrose in a book and has never been inside one in my life haha. Also question I just thought of, did you have any kind of sex education at this school?

[@drowsyClover]

How much I wish I was from the UK so I could go to your concert, anyway I'm sooo happy for you! ❤

[@laylahemerson3532]

noah this is literally prison 💀 i can’t

[@ravenhayden2394]

The last few minutes are such rel, since I lived with toxic parents that I was hiding being trans from. They were constantly criticizing me for different things, like when I started drawing to become interior designer, they were like „you can’t do it cause you should’ve started drawing when you were a child”. So many things like that. I just couldn’t express myself or experiment with my looks. I feel like I am sooo behind my peers right now. I’m 22, started T few months ago and feel like a 14 years old discovering who they are. - Raven

[@nehalp004]

honestly, my favorite part of this video was noah having multiple moments of realization of how much the school was like a prison

[@ZypherDecipher]

In my school all the lgbtq+ kids did flocked together and we used to hang out at the same table every break time, we called it the gay table

[@nyasputin]

Gayble :]

[@NDFrog]

EVERYTIME I feel like crap I just put on any one of your songs and I just immediately feel better, thank you for not being a prick.

[@rowan7403]

i hope you start feeling better soon!!!!💜

[@muldersimp2052]

Were they making shitty food to torture the kids? With those tuition fees you know they could afford to make better food.

[@yeet3256]

i have followed you since your boarding school days and i just wanna say i’m so happy to see how far you’ve come :)

[@spookycowb0y_]

OMG YOU EXPLAINING YOUR DRESSCODE REMINDED ME OF MY HIGH SCHOOL DRESSCODE . we had to wear blue polos, black pants, and dr martens. shirts had to cover your belly button with your arms up. you couldn’t have your hair in front of your ears, girls hair had to be up if they wore it long, NO HAIR BELOW THE EYEBROWS (very big emphasis on that), boys couldn’t have their hair in front of their ears and they couldn’t wear piercings of any kind. no jewelry or tattoos, unless it’s for cultural reasons, if you had gauges, you weren’t allowed to wear plugs and no face piercings or other body piercings. we had to wear solid black or solid white socks. just very strict and very conservative. although, our school was fairly accepting of the LGBTQ+ community, it was still religious and weird and just ew.

[@radztransdoggo]

Lol the teacher not believing people saying your a "girl" happen to me in reverse many time during my school years hahaha (but in reverse lol)

[@naokosedits8299]

this is similar to what I have to deal with today( I'm 13 and in school) at my school I'm out to my friends that I trust about my sexuality but nobody knows that I'm genderfluid because I have a friend who used to be in my friend group who was kicked out of the group because of their pronouns and that nobody would be respectful of them. there are some people in my school that are strong allies/passionate members of the LGBTQ+ community that were Labeled as "the gay kids" because of it and would not be seen of as anything other than that. there was never any bullying because of my school's strict no bullying policy but mean comments were always made towards them on the side.

[@SkelitonWren]

I go through the same thing. People like that are going to grow up doing something they hate cuz nobody is gonna willingly work with a toxic person- please be safe though! :)

[@katisbeingsilly]

my mom is sending me to a catholic boarding school, IM A CLOSETED BI TRANS GUY HELP

[@octaviabarrett123]

Doesnt sound like a prison just sounds like a cult-

[@jukebox7811]

I'm supposed to be at school right now but I skipped because my dysphoria is badddd lmao

[@saskiahorton]

holy fucking shit this doesnt even sound real... 'we only shop at waitrose'... AGHHHH im out of here! gross

[@saskiahorton]

but its good/interesting to hear the envrinoment these ppl grow up in loool

[@thomaswright7270]

I am not trans, but as a gay man in a very 'don't as don't tell community I think I understand a lot of what you talk about.

[@rainways7586]

Ahhh Noah your content and music is amazing!!! I hope your doing well :)

[@midnight_dame1596]

I was expecting trans stories and was not prepared for pigeon 💀😂💀😂

[@rachelhogan7726]

Thank you for answering my question! My son is in marching band at his high school, he loves it. He plays percussion, this year he played the vibraphone

[@ash-mm8lk]

I'm a closeted trans guy at an all girls catholic boarding school (although personally i don't board) and it is quite... and experience for people like me there. Lots of what noah said I was like yeah me too

[@ananyathosar7984]

This was unexpectedly relatable

[@lostfroggs]

Noah: the bedtime would be quarter to 10 Me, who happens to be a third former which is a 13 year old which is year 9 which is 8th grade, watching this at quarter to 11: well I guess I'm screwed then

[@OllieLovesMarkiplier]

You're awesome! You should come to Canada one day!! I would come to your concert!

[@mxanarchycake]

Gonna be honest, I only clicked because I saw the still and it was disconcerting seeing you with long hair. You looked like a boy wearing a wig, and in a sense you were, so I'm glad you got yourself figured out and just look like a boy now

[@riley8555]

HOPE YOU FEEL BETTER!!!!💖💖💖

[@humantrash1478]

do you think hair dye would damage my hair if i didnt wash it off for 47 minutes im not in the mood to pause the video ((the dye's been on for 20 minutes))

[@calebjnichol]

did it fall out

[@atlasiscooler4694]

Don’t think hair dye can damage your hair. But it can stain your skin, clothes, and things around you. Bleach can though. Be careful with that.

[@NOAHFINNCE]

i bleach it for longer than that sometimes, it’ll damage your hair a bit but not badly

[@humantrash1478]

@@calebjnichol nah it's still there btw it turned out great

[@kaixokkiten]

LMAOOO I feel bad you look so traumatized thinking about the chefs thinking they should serve pigeons to teenagers. what were the adults smoking that made them think it's ok to have such terrible food

[@mikxwikx7976]

Noah: says hoover Most people who aren't from England: the *w h a t* Ah quirky lil English things how adorable. To Hoover means to use the vacuum cleaner for anyone who doesn't know.

[@Liam-hr6hd]

Lmao the fact that Noah is at the top of my gender envy list makes a lot of sense bc our personality’s r so similar

[@furbyfan1]

PIGEON! MEAT! 😧 I also really resonate what you said about what it was like being surrounded by girls and liking guys As a gay trans guy, it helps put to words what I already felt and couldn't put to words. Being around girls and having girl friends and not relating to them was so weird - so I can only imagine the extent of it at such a school as yours. People also always thought I was a lesbian as well! People still mistaken me for a butch lesbian despite the testosterone, mens clothes, and short hair lol. Thanks for sharing your story.

[@Stumbi-se1ew]

I live in Utah, and just- this just sounds like normal school there (minus the uniform and 6 day weeks). We don't have GSAs and everyone is homophobic, but the gays do find each other- we just get shunned from the rest of the kids, by our peers and teachers.

[@probably_noah9417]

I'm also a transmac person who played drums in the marching band and loves to make music!

[@lin-db5ms]

oh my gosh no way I legit know what school this is that’s mad edit: I didn’t go there I knew people whose first year was like Noah’s last year if that makes sense

[@shczzma3083]

This is so interesting to me. I’m an army cadet and the routine you described reminds me of the cadet camps i do. I do the marching and the parades but i mainly do it for the band. It’s interesting that you had to do that all the time like i go through that for a week and I’m completely shattered and need a weeks rest lmao

[@lyle7655]

I would simply burn my uniform and salute while I gave them all the middle finger as I skipped outta there like dorothy on the yellow brick road.

[@lilinkbitch]

the fucking ‘we only shop at waitrose’ please😭😭

[@donutnarwhal135]

I'm in the Naval Junior Reserve Officer Training Corps (NJROTC) class at my school, and like half of us are LGBTQ+ it's very fun

[@Al-mj9nn]

In my school, literally, EVERYONE is gay, there’s like 2 straight people per class

[@idkhowbutdiscosarechemical]

What school? I want to go

[@reedsylvier5250]

Wait at our age (early 20s) its considered expected for LGBTQ issues to be brought up during secondary school?? I went to a completely normal school and it never came up once, sex ed was fully heteronormative, there was no official time anyone brought up LGBTQ things, ever, at least that meant none of negative stuff came up like what you've seen like wow wtf, but I didn't know teachers were meant to being that up? Literally the only time I heard about LGBTQ things was on the playground/friends bringing it up, probably why no one came out during school cuz literally the only exposure we got was playground jokes, so many people I went to school with came out after, no one while we were there, and that's 1000 a year of people I think. I'm curious with everyone else around our age range in the UK what's your take? Was it expected a topic to bring up even a little and did it? Luckily because of poor mental health support I flunked out of 6th form and was forced to go to college cuz at least there was LGBTQ people out around me, and even joined an LGBTQ club as there was one there, loved it, I may not have known what I was then but I'm so glad the space was there, I felt comfortable there, even if I had to experience that at the same time as the worst mental health I've ever experienced, honestly idk if I could've survived without it, but yeah thank goodness for college that allowed me to experience the possibility of actual real lgbtqness

[@SkelitonWren]

I'm not sure either, there is a legal requirement in mine that something had to be mentioned about them, so the only thing they did is put in in a page of the school leaflet that everybody lost within a day. There is only 1 teacher in my school that actually cares about homophobia, the rest just let people yell slurs 24/7.

[@ghosty3163]

39:05 "at least you can come home and do what you want and be yourself and be whoever you like at home cause theres no one thats gonna bully you for that." *transphobic mother is typing..*

[@inconceivabledark]

Great story. Well done for doing you. With pride. Next thing will be to check out yr music

[@loisfrost]

No-one: Literally no-one: Conservatives: We OnLy ShOp At Wa!tRoSe

[@reubenbryant]

So relate to a lot of this. I was sent to a private all girls school (not boarding). I got there through a grant because they had to offer a certain number of places to pupils who couldn’t otherwise afford so experienced the classism right from the start. Hated the place. I was there from age 7 to age 16. I begged all the time to leave. I was bullied for everything and like you there was absolutely no way I could risk coming out as a guy. My parents believed that to be given that opportunity was such a blessing. I suspect I will be traumatised for life.

[@annevver6802]

The being afraid og People finding your social media is me rn and ive tried blocking everyone and my brothers girlfriend is outing me while showing People my secret acount where i talk ab my issues ab being a part of the lgbtq+ so yeah seing you talk ab it actually kinda helps with the anxiety

[@idkhowbutdiscosarechemical]

I'm so sorry your being outed, I hope your OK and it gets better

[@MigliLovania]

A lot of the naval things you did in school reminds me of when I was a sea cadet we wore naval uniforms with awful itchy jumpers, had to stand at attention and salute the flag and all that jazz along with marching, parades, rifles, rowing, survival skill etc I can't imagine having to do all that while also being in school

[@thedarkvoyager8304]

I can't believe you got covid wish you a happy recovery bro nice vids

[@holdyouunder]

hope covid doesnt get worse for you and also get better soon !! :D

[@tabithasinclair6821]

hes negative now and outof quarantine he put it on his insta story

[@nathanr5737]

I went to a private sch yr9 to 11 and I remember one of my older brother friends wanted to shave his head for charity because his dad had cancer and the school fully said no unless he did it on school grounds (to give them good publicity)

[@SkelitonWren]

thats horrible

[@vansil2671]

ideed can conferm in publice schools the gays do fluctuate twords echother

[@VCRWR]

im going to private school, not a boarding school but im going to school for 6 days...

[@matthewcharles24]

Feel better soon Noah!

[@matthewcharles24]

@Silent Stay classy

[@startover_studio]

@Silent wow what an original and funny joke /s

[@DinosaurNick]

@Silent Wow someone needs a life huh?

[@Name-iq3zs]

@Ville he

[@cheyenneweiskopf4862]

Your “hello underachievers” makes my day