Ben Folds Five - Brick

[@Balthazar2242]

One of the most honest songs I've ever heard. It takes guts to write about an experience like this and release it on the radio with no agenda. I think this song should be remembered for a long time.

[@chazzatheninja]

what's it about?

[@Balthazar2242]

chazzatheninja This is about a time when he got his girlfriend pregnant and they went to get an abortion. He's said that he just wanted to be honest about his experience without entering into the larger debate. I'm just impressed that he can totally open up about it to the masses and be honest about how sucky it was for him and his girlfriend.

[@bradleygonzalez1160]

wow....

[@kellyadams1783]

It kind of reminds me of a Crash Test Dummies Song "mmmmmmmmm". Another sad song about experiences released on the radio.

[@filminginportland1654]

Dunno why everything has to have an agenda. Glad he just let it speak for itself without attaching anything.

[@CountryBuns]

One year later, here we are again at 6AM, day after Christmas. Here's to everybody who keeps coming back to this song year after year. Take care of each other, my friends.

[@A-RonHubbard]

A few hours late, but I made it.. Thanks for your comment.

[@Nicole-br8rf]

Happy new year, friend.

[@stardust4285]

You 2 Country buns lol great name btw.

[@poultonboys3108]

@@A-RonHubbard I always think of that line when Christmas comes around. I’ll have to join you guys in listening to this song on that day.

[@A-RonHubbard]

@@poultonboys3108 Only 11 months now until X-mas, it's right around the corner!

[@bryanventura2778]

I recall in the late 90s, I was 14 years old, sleeping on the floor, listening to the radio at my friend's house in the middle of the night, with my friend and his twin brother sleeping in the same room. I stayed up, hoping to hear this song. At 4am this song miraculously played and I struggled to hold back my tears. My mum had just left the country for good to start a new life. I didn't know it at the time but I was numb. This song, and RHCP's Scar Tissue, were the only songs that could make me feel anything. Thanks for getting me through that.

[@cherrydarling1329]

💖

[@Mojojojo85757]

🥺💔❤️❤️❤️

[@Rob88]

This song is about abortion.

[@narczs]

R/thathappened

[@eganc1976]

music heals

[@jumpinjohnnyruss]

Why don't songs like this get on the 90s playlists? This was a big song back then.

[@LibertarianLatina]

Because modern day feminists might find out it’s about the deep regret of having an abortion

[@rosered3608]

This is what they want us to forget..we were young and depressed like the youth today.

[@patrickrowland3518]

not acording to Ben. "People ask me what this song's about... I was asked about it a lot, and I didn't really wanna make a big hairy deal out of it, because I just wanted the song to speak for itself. But the song is about when I was in high school, me and my girlfriend had to get an abortion, and it was a very sad thing. And, I didn't really want to write this song from any kind of political standpoint, or make a statement. I just wanted to reflect what it feels like. So, anyone who's gone through that before, then you'll know what the song's about." being sad about something isnt the same as regret. Regret implies you would make a diffrent choice and nothing I have seen says otherwise.

[@chunkybladwin3988]

If Ben could tell you about life...he may have transposed it into a song of death and acquisition...

[@chipames558]

Cuz most people that weren't really "involved" in the 90's think grunge and Pop punk bands were the only thing around

[@capitalt348]

This is actually one of most stunningly beautiful piano intros and compositions I have ever heard.

[@yogaflame4128]

I watching muted, haven’t heard this song since the 90’s YET as a musician I can still hear the melody of the intro.

[@johnicka711]

It’s a really simple intro.

[@peterhughes614]

Beautiful song but that’s pretty standard pop song shit bruva.

[@DaarkDestiny]

Don't forget Counting Crows colorblind.

[@cheymcloughlin6366]

It's not fancy, but I completely agree. That simple intro invokes emotion very well.

[@idunnomanigotnothin]

The first few lines "smell of cold, car seat is freezin" speaks to something so deep in me, it's hard to put into words.

[@mrb6309]

I feel the exact same way. No other line touches me as deeply as the feel of a car seat freezing. That line seems so human to me; I never ever thought about the temperature of a car seat until the day that I was going through my own personal crisis.

[@buswell503]

"And she's alone...and I'm alone"...kills me everytime

[@wolfrit69]

"And now I know it"

[@chasgorman1086]

When this song came out I was I dad with two young boys. This song took me back to an episode that I was involved in , back in my 20’s. A girl from college got pregnant( didn’t know who was responsible) but two of her friends called me , asking if I could drive to a clinic. I agreed. I’ll never forget the ride back. This poor young woman was devastated by what had just happened. Her two friends held her and offered what support they could. This memory has never left me. When ever I hear this song , it takes me back to that day.

[@TheMoonwillow23]

Jesus understands and forgives. He loves you so much!

[@badgernathbarry7184]

...but was it the day after chistmas?

[@monanae1976]

❤❤❤❤

[@happy_fecker]

@@TheMoonwillow23 If the church is any indication, Jesus also loves little boys.

[@scottcharney1091]

@@TheMoonwillow23 You missed it. The vast majority of women who have abortions feel relief, not regret. Being in tears like that is pretty common when such a weight is off of one's shoulders, you know. That might not be the case here, but you assume too much.

[@cb3332]

I lost my daughter as a still born and listen to this song whenever I think of her and gives me a little strength. 1 year later my wife left me for another man and I wanted to end it all. For you people out there who might be going through the same pain, think of those who love you and how much pain you will bring to their life and get professional help. Medication and help doesn't change anything and the pain doesn't go away but it can be the difference between life and death.

[@neednojams9506]

I went through a very similar thing. Lost my baby, husband left me (emotionally......and eventually went our separate ways) because of it. But you and I (and others who have experienced a similar thing) are both stronger and better people because of it! And our family and friends will always love us. We need to be here and be strong for them if nothing else.

[@daniellloyd1801]

Stay strong my man

[@tonygreen161]

I'm sorry

[@jeremiahclark3084]

I hope things have been better since then. You are strong, and those of us who have been to that dark place know what you're feeling. You can turn it around.

[@LibertarianJRT]

I am sorry for your pain. May joy find you in these terrible times.

[@verbavolant6895]

I've fallen down the hole of 90s nostalgia. But that's okay, life is better down here anyway.

[@emileesmits6585]

Me too

[@mickklower6465]

Yep, im here right now... 98-99

[@tammym8966]

Same friend, same

[@jeremiahclark3084]

I'm here with you

[@allyfowlks9067]

OMG I literally just looked at my fiancé and said “oh God I’m gone down a 90s black hole right now.” But seriously...it was the epic decade.

[@rysachibana1486]

90's wasn't a decade. It was an emotion.

[@Iheartplants82]

Perfectly said.

[@RJT80]

We were the last to experience life as it was meant to be experienced. I feel awful for kids these days. You cant be exposed to the crap they are and come out okay. I have friends with young kids who feel their kids are as exposed to adult themes at 12 years old as we were at 16, 18, or even 20 back then. The innocence lost.

[@anthonywilliams2347]

It was an experience. No cellphones and "platforms" for a holes to say random BS.

[@kitsunelee007]

....it really was

[@aircandypodcast]

That’s the realest thing I’ve read in a long time

[@richardhart1513]

This came out during high school for me. Our adult neighbor had a paper route to help his family on top of his job. He worked hard. He needed a break during Christmas time. So, my mom and I took over for him for a couple weeks so he could spend time with family. I remember disliking getting up so early during my school break, but I have find memories even 20 years later spending those early mornings with my mom while we listened to the radio and delivered papers. I always loved it when this song came on. Love you mom.

[@lindsaypeacock3259]

I still can’t believe how much hate they got for this song. It’s by far my favorite of theirs. Gorgeous, honest, haunting. Timeless.

[@last7509]

? Hate?

[@danielrivas3241]

@@last7509 Because this song is about the song writer's own experience with abortion.

[@last7509]

@@danielrivas3241 a few people crying in their echo chamber doesn't mean anything to me

[@kentunderwood31]

Worst song in history of songdom

[@flip65515]

@@kentunderwood31 C'mon dude. You know there's worse than this.

[@flyntflossy3044]

I wish this man would get more love. I've seen him play solo, in a band, and with an orchestra. The best musical concert I've ever been to

[@MapsAndCaps]

He played with my local symphony in 2009 and it was a really good show. He's great

[@CountryBuns]

Back once again with my annual comment. See you all again in one year--keep on keepin' on, my friends.

[@micheller2283]

Was it the day after Christmas? I can't believe I missed this song on the day after Christmas. I never forget but I did this year 😢

[@CountryBuns]

Hey, at least you're here now--just re-imagine the lyrics to "month after Christmas," and you're good to go! @@micheller2283

[@xystem4701]

missed you this year

[@CB-tl4ty]

Peace

[@1TightMinute]

See you next year

[@daveloughran729]

I will never get sick of this song.

[@Jilldenise80]

Same. One of my favorite songs ever

[@jamesroberts3642]

I remember just getting my drivers license and my dad bought me an old 1989 for Taurus. I spend a hundred or two on a "skip resistant" portable cd player with a "tape deck attachment". This is a CD that I worre out driving during High School. Nostalgia is a hell of a drug.

[@brantinghamjohn]

It's truly one of the saddest stories put to song. It's difficult to balance the feelings of helplessness/ desperation and regret/guilt in order to preserve one's own ego. It's soul crushing to feel forced to do something you don't want to do but must because you see no alternative solutions

[@nicholasyoder]

God damn. I miss the 90`s. Almost brings a tear to my eye.

[@paulquidachay]

nicholasyoder i feel you. Feeling a bit nostalgic right now and had to play this song.

[@willritter4076]

I'd be honored if some 90s fans would take a listen to my acoustic piano & vocal performances of Arms of an Angel by SARAH MCLACHLAN, Long December by the COUNTING CROWS, and Mmm Mmm Mmm Mmm by the CRASH TEST DUMMIES on my channel in tribute to 3 great 90s standards. Live acoustic with no digital editing. Thanks and peace out.

[@youtubehatesfreespeech2245]

@@willritter4076 I'm already subscribed lol

[@alexandriamcnally9871]

Hey me to I know how you feel the 90s was the best now it's just a bunch of bullshit

[@selw0nk]

Same here, I miss this era of music. I watch all these 90's videos and makes me want to cry.

[@judyp3801]

I love this whole album. I was so fortunate to work with them when I was at Epic Records when they debuted! 38 years later and I'm still in the music industry. It's the best!!!!

[@gregreno5781]

I was, trying to get back in. Merry cmas..happy bolidays.

[@jamesmartin1948]

Judy Ross aka Judith Rosenfarb!! rock on

[@ikuep]

Few decades dare to be as depressing and melancholic as the 90s

[@DonSulis]

Ikue P In other words, as earnest. Less bullshitty.

[@ikuep]

Yep

[@Huxtee7]

+Ikue P Unless your into rap

[@Bobo-lz3hf]

+HuxStee7 a Horse with no Name even that was darker- 2pac, Biggie, NWA (early) Jay Z. What big rappers are actually talking about real issues and struggles now?

[@Huxtee7]

Ell Guy Immortal Technique, JMT, Rite hook etc...

[@heids418]

Came here because this song came on the radio the other day, I hadn't heard it for years and I finally got a chance to listen from an adult perspective (I was relatively young when this song was released and didn't really understand what it was about). The heaviness of this song brought tears to my eyes and made me hear it like it was brand new.

[@Kurz_Weber]

Same here.. Very different understanding of it to back when I was in school.. It's a very cold song.. Apparently it was worse when it was first written.. Ben didn't write the chorus another band member did - apparently it breaks up the heaviness of the song because the original version was much too sombre.

[@sarahsays7420]

heids418 same.....I just listened to it on repeat 5 times and realised how sad it is. I was maybe 15 when this was on the radio. I never really listened to the lyrics, but now I'm hearing it as a 33 year old woman and almost near tears for this girl I've never met. Music is such an amazing conduit for emotions.

[@filminginportland1654]

Sarah Says same here. I'm slightly older than you, but had that same experience.

[@MrEparis]

Brick , inside ir outside . Wish I broke then . And we broke each other

[@bubskelton5894]

Hearing this song now gives me so much more appreciation for it and makes me proud of my music choices as a youngster lol

[@CountryBuns]

Leaving my annual "6AM, day after Christmas" comment at the appropriate date/time. We won't be here at this moment again for another year, so let's take a moment to appreciate it.

[@FrankieG11011]

Wow thought I was the only one who listened to this every year day after Christmas.

[@IcyCool7227]

I'm here though 6 am is too early to be up when you don't need to be!

[@daveanderson707]

A few hours late, sorry. See you next year ;)

[@badnewskellyleak5974]

Awesome comment!

[@Greatlakeskyle.]

Okay William Montgomery

[@woonteague]

It's the subtle deep breathe at 0:44. I feel it in my chest every time i hear this song. I love it.

[@nickrandles1102]

Day after Christmas 2019. Atlanta airport on a layover. Thinking of what’s beautiful in my life and what isn’t. God bless all you guys.

[@Elioka]

I had totally forgotten about this song, when the other day my art teacher put it on in class and I immediately remembered it.. my dad used to play this song while sitting by himself on the couch at 3 am getting drunk off cheap wine. it sounds crazy but now that he’s gone I sometimes wish that I’d hear this song coming from the living room..

[@heeheehawhawheehee]

Did he wake you up playing it

[@Elioka]

@@heeheehawhawheehee I could never fall asleep knowing he was out there, and the sound of the music on the stereo always rumbled through the whole house making it next to impossible to fall asleep

[@jasonalanlane]

Sorry

[@djkase1]

😥

[@chriseaton7887]

Sorry for your loss I recently lost my dad and music makes the memories flood in

[@jayemoraful]

Ben Folds writes some of the most emotionally wrenching lyrics I've ever heard. I knew this was about an abortion the first time I ever heard it and became an instant fan of his music. Evaporated is another song that takes you to the same emotional place that drove those lyrics. It's an exceptional talent and I think it helps the more sensitive among us feel a little less alone.

[@duffman18]

Apparently he didn't write it though. I believe it was the drummer who wrote this song, Darren Jessee

[@sweetscience1]

@@duffman18 I think it was a collaboration, with Darren being responsible for the chorus.

[@russellsimonds7148]

Such a heartfelt song. I wish people still wrote like this

[@smelltheglove2038]

You don’t like drill beats and mumbling?

[@palyddon]

So poignant. My heart goes out to everyone who finds themselves in this situation. Thank you, Ben, for expressing your pain so beautifully.

[@gusterguy01826]

I'm so glad that Ben Folds had a true hit. He's such a great artist, most like him never get a crack at popular radio.

[@michelleeverett8125]

I'm so sorry he was inconvenienced by a woman he had sex with. An abortion? Geez, what an ordeal... for the man.

[@micheller2283]

​@michelleeverett8125 what? Lol

[@alicethegreat7497]

I had forgotten about this song until I heard it on The Wilds. So melancholic. The cello is particularly beautiful. I don't identify with the song personally but the sadness is palpable

[@bcz3548]

I am literally watching The Wilds right now! Weird, because I haven't heard it in the show yet.

[@mariasavarino7621]

😂 Same

[@JohnThomWebb]

That's a bass, yo. But yes, certainly beautiful.

[@alicethegreat7497]

@@bcz3548 are you on season 2?

[@lilmatty33059]

That's a bass, my dude.

[@palespectre]

I feel like I'm in good company here. Feeling nostalgic about the 90s with strangers and we are all separated by time. Some years ago, some a few months, me today. Same sentiments though.

[@LCAC75]

Here, time becomes space.

[@brandonohara4865]

Yess sir January27th 1990

[@mellowlemonmoon]

And me today

[@randomlibra]

This is one of the most haunting, heart breaking songs ever. Driving back to her apartment For the moment we're alone But she's alone And I'm alone And now I know it That part kills me every time I hear it.

[@patwaddington]

+Kiley Willard He's in a conflict of love... To choose the brick or the woman

[@selaclement6878]

pat waddington he's talking about how he fell in love and got her pregnant and had to get an abortion

[@randomlibra]

Yea, not sure what pat is going on about. Who would choose a brick over a woman???

[@filminginportland1654]

Beautiful, even with that same chord played over and over and no vibrato with his voice. Always have loved this song.

[@patwaddington]

Did you's think I was being serious? :\

[@bannana77]

Ben Folds. One of the greatest storyteller musicians of our generation.

[@mcnabbsouth]

I wish I could live in the 90's for eternity

[@Erika-hl4xb]

Things will never be like the 90's again. I'm just thankful I was a part of it. Bittersweet

[@ianpommer8684]

I feel this comment deeply

[@rhoeness]

Such a great decade

[@musicalneptunian]

But then O.J.Simpson would be sending the California police patrol on an infinite chase.

[@neednojams9506]

Now that I'm an adult.... I finally understand the whole of this song. So deep and so beautiful. I was such a stupid dumb teenager.

[@christystaude4395]

Egh... your good

[@jonburbridge2968]

We all were

[@Jayhazy23]

Anti-abortion song?

[@kellydixson9221]

This song and singing is so terrible I don't care what it's about...

[@bricecpops8171]

@@kellydixson9221 Excuse you

[@augustmoon5596]

I sing this every year this day. Since I was a teen. So sad. Heard them play live in the middle of Atlanta at night about 15 years ago. To have him play a baby grand in the middle of the street and a 1000 people singing this together. Was nostalgic yet heartbreaking.

[@pagemastrogiovanni9195]

Where in Atlanta?

[@augustmoon5596]

@@pagemastrogiovanni9195 yes it was a summer concert called on the Bricks..i also saw Cake there that summer too

[@pagemastrogiovanni9195]

@@augustmoon5596 I love ❤️ Cake...especially 'The Going the Distance" song. The reason I asked is because I have lived in Atlanta for the past 35 years since I was a college student at Emory and I was/am a frequent concert goer to The Masquerade, Atlanta Symphony, The Fox Theater, Tabernacle, Lakewood Amphitheater (now it something else), Georgia Dome, The Roxy....so on and so forth. I spent a great deal of time in Little 5 Points and at different music festivals like Lalapalooza, Lilith Fair, Pot Festival, Jazz Festival...but somehow I missed this. I was just wondering if it was in one of these spots.

[@pagemastrogiovanni9195]

@@augustmoon5596 From my research I think I went to one of the free On the Bricks concerts in Centennial Park about 20 years ago to see Sting. It was wonderful! From an article: "Atlanta Prepares For ‘On The Bricks’ Billboard Staff 4/24/2002 Rising neo-soul star India.Arie will headline the inaugural show of Atlanta’s 2002 On the Bricks free weekly concert series. Set for May 24 in the city’s Centennial Olympic Park, the bill for the opening event will also feature singer/songwriter John Mayer, modern rock act the Calling, and locally based singer/songwriter Chrystina Lloree. While the full schedule for the series is not yet announced, many artists who will perform in the park throughout the summer have been confirmed, including Michelle Branch, They Might Be Giants, Cracker, Blues Traveler, Sister Hazel, former Whiskeytown member Caitlin Cary, Will Hoge, the Smithereens, and Edwin McCain."

[@hieronymusboschful]

The first few chords of this playing and I already have chills. I hear this song and I am 14 again watching video hits on a rainy Saturday morning and catching this for the first time.

[@SecretAmericaPodcast]

On the one hand, Ben writes this timeless, beautifully crafted, emotional song. Then writes song for the dumped. Love the guy

[@360degreesmusic2]

In The Know: Ben Folds understandably struggled to write “Brick,” a song about his high school girlfriend’s abortion. With such a delicate experience on his hands, he admitted that the choruses he came up with sounded too literal. Luckily Darren Jessee provided the refrain, “She’s a brick and I’m drowning slowly/ off the coast and I’m headed nowhere” for Folds’ distressed falsetto. Carried by a somber piano melody and underscored by Jessee’s subdued drumming, it manages to sound serene in spite of the emotional turmoil behind each of Folds’ troublesome scenes.

[@anthonycaputo7222]

This song is about an abortion? How do you know?

[@teenyverse7707]

Weird, The Verve Pipe wrote a song about abortion too, both were hits around the same. Wonder if it was the same chick.

[@tylerrutledge2449]

Best comment on this list. 👍

[@strawdawgs78]

Anthony Caputo - I thought it was pretty obvious.

[@heatherlovesdeuteronomy]

"As weeks went by it showed that she wasn't okay" I always thought this song was about HIV/Aids

[@graceevangeline7721]

His feeling in his voice and face makes me cry every time I watch this... But it's my favorite song .. the true and honesty in life is what makes this song perfect.

[@RockStreetStudios]

I've been in love with this song from the moment it was released. Few others completely capture the pathos of love gone bad; you hear it in this singer's voice --- the flatness is exactly how one feels at their very lowest point. That this group has chosen a subject matter as important as this deserves kudos. There is a lesson that comes through...without being preachy; that takes skill. A simple yet haunting melody...I listen to this song a dozen times in a row, each time falling deeper and deeper into new shades of meaning.

[@commanderkeen3787]

It's amazing how a good song like this can convey its story so clearly without explicitly outlining it in the lyrics. That is the power of music

[@johnfish8394]

This is Ben Folds best song in my opinion. Love how deep it is. A story untold but experienced by so many.

[@kristintolly2909]

It's one-of-a-kind, honest and brave. Underappreciated. Your last sentence is too true and well stated.

[@ziggyprime]

This song came out about two years after I got out of high school, when I was going through some serious sh*t in my life. It wasn't about abortion for me, but about a dead end relationship that was destroying both of us. It helped me through it, and helped me move on.

[@shirataka8331]

The power of art. "don't forget the songs that saved your life."

[@Jilldenise80]

That is exactly how I interpreted this song. I was a young teenager when this came out in a messy and toxic relationship with my daughters father.

[@OGAngelInBlack]

Beautiful absolutely haunting description of pain of loss and the weight of guilt, lies, loss, and grief that I deeply felt when the song was initially released that is now so close to exactly my experiences in 2016 that it’s a little strange for me but oddly comforting. I’ve always loved Ben Folds Five and this makes me want to play the piano again. Thank you

[@behymer82]

Can we please go back to having great music like the 90s produced. I miss this stuff so much!

[@gregreno5781]

Here to listen to it morning after Xmas. Giving me the same feels it gives you. I just hope heaven is as cool as the 90s. Id go back for just about anything.

[@BigPat216]

I remember hearing the song when I was a kid, and wasn’t really a big fan. Thought it was another dramatic love song. Listening to it now in my 30’s, I never knew how sad and powerful this song is. I’m nearly in tears, such an amazing track.

[@jenniferwhite8449]

This song still makes me cry. I had to make that decision at 16 and it still hurts to this day. This is a very hard song to listen to but it helps in a way. Thanks for sharing this story even though I'm sure it was hard to do.

[@brylledeuda544]

😔😔😔😔 life must be go on, its ok to cry and to be sad that is the sign that you are brave.

[@heatherwillis5505]

You didn’t have to make the decision, just to be clear. It’s okay to forgive 16 year old you and find peace, though.

[@JG-kk1mr]

@@heatherwillis5505 shut up heather

[@tristanmorris9432]

@@JG-kk1mr She’s right.

[@tristanmorris9432]

I’m sure the regret of making such a choice is hard to bear, and I pity you. But I won’t say that you don’t deserve the emotional pain that comes with doing something so reprehensible.

[@bernadettehoffmann1825]

Going to see him Thursday night at the Beacon, NYC. I saw him there years ago and it was hands down the most impressive and unforgettable live show I've ever experienced. This man is an amazing musician!! A friend who came with me didn't know his music before the show but left a huge fan.

[@wendycohen9038]

Just heard about Ben Folds and looked him up. Man. The 90's woulda been a bit better if I'd known about him then. This is a perfect thing.

[@kristintolly2909]

Musicians can be brave and this is a perfect example.

[@THEJOEDAVISBAND]

probably one of the greatest songs ever written.

[@michaelkuehl7415]

I’m not even a 90’s kid. My dad listened to this song and I’m just now realizing the meaning of it and how he was having to experience this when he was at my current age. Beautiful song and I hope it lives forever. It truly gives that 90’s vibe that I think of when I am reminded of my dads family in Milwaukee growing up

[@WadeNunnBetter]

Ben Folds is way under rated. Amazing artist.

[@tinogamer3227]

I’m listening to this at 6am…day after Christmas

[@NinaC]

This and Freshman by The Verve - beautiful, sad, nostalgic

[@johnnylawrence918]

For sure...

[@matthewdurden5929]

For sure.

[@musicguy20]

I often listen to them back to back when I listen to one or the other.

[@mbusch1025]

I started thinking about that song halfway through this one...

[@DeDona1]

Yes!!!!!!

[@peterk9579]

My son was conceived right before christmas while we were still a mess. We were discussing abortion and we decided not go through with it. I love my son so much. He saved me from myself.

[@courtneybannister3417]

I have 5 kids and I could never make that decision, but the lyrics I understand and I understand being so heartbroken for sure.

[@jasonf2024]

My mother and father were recommended abortion because my mother had so medical conditions. I'm 27 now and thankful for the decisions made.

[@scottcharney1091]

@@jasonf2024 It's not like you would know the difference.

[@scottcharney1091]

Good; that's what choice is.

[@BIPOCperson]

@@scottcharney1091ok buddy boy

[@Jcruz388]

This song takes me back to winter break in a suburb in Chicago. Mid to late 90s. Shoveling the freaking driveway as fast as I can so I can go back inside and read comics and listen to Q101.

[@5StarFlix]

Now she's feeling more alone Then she ever has before This hits especially hard today.

[@bmr208]

This song just made me realize one day (praying not) my daughter may be in this situation. And it terrified me to think she would have to go through this alone. Parents teach your kids safety and make them understand that you've got their backs no matter what situation they find theirselves in. They should never be afraid to come to you.

[@unrelatedcoma]

or just teach your daughter to not sleep around

[@snakeeyes9246]

I'm not ever going to have kids, but I understand that fear.

[@duffman18]

@@unrelatedcoma don't be naive. Teenagers will always try to fuck. You can't teach them not to, any more than you can teach a dog to not try and grab food when you're cooking. It's just instinctual for them. Teach teenagers to practice safe sex. Always wear a condom. And even get teenage girls the copper implant that prevents pregnancy and use that in combination with condoms, to prevent pregnancies AND STI's You've gotta be really naive to think you can tell a teenager to not have sex. If you do that, all they'll do is have sex anyway but they'll hide it from you, and they won't practice safe sex because you haven't taught them about it, so they'll get pregnant, or they'll get gonorrhoea or herpes or the clap, or whatever. You're an irresponsible parent if you don't teach teenagers about safe sex

[@scottcharney1091]

@@unrelatedcoma It doesn't take "sleeping around" (as you put it) to get pregnant. Besides, why would you want to punish her?

[@ThatHippyDuck]

@@unrelatedcoma yeah that will just work... guess what? push your kids to act a certain way under FORCE and not constructive advice, they'll absolutely do that thing to spite you. it's better that kids be educated about safe sex and birth control, as to not NEED to be in this situation.

[@guerrillaradio9953]

For a long time, I've felt a bit guilty for having such good memories of this song: first time holding hands with someone, first love, first kiss, first time having friends with cars and lives and style and dreams...but you know, I'm glad. I'm glad that Ben was able to take this awful pain and turn it into something so beautiful that you can remember it with the best of feelings. He turned pain into perfect beauty, and that's exactly what art is. Thanks, man.

[@ronalddawson6496]

Went through this with my girlfriend around the time this came out...still brings me to tears to hear this...

[@BIPOCperson]

Well you did unalive a baby so it probably should do that

[@marckanatkin7196]

This song still gives me shivers like 20 years later

[@PhuzzBuzz]

I remembering hearing this song when it came out and how instantly it hit me with a flood of emotion. This is one of the most beautifully sad songs written in the past 25 years. Every time I listen to it I fall back into the story of young love and regret played out.

[@fuzzy8593]

I remember how different this was from every other song on mtv when this came out. I was young but recognized the quality. It is still one of the best songs I’ve ever heard.

[@jimcummings4342]

I listen to this every 12-26 at 6 AM. The last gasp of talent and talented musicians the 90's had. And ...the last good decade. Let's face it....life sucked starting Sept 11... to now in 2020.

[@katiemurray5862]

Listening in 2023 ❤️❤️❤️ Still makes me cry. This song hits home. I gave my baby girl to a couple who tried to have a child for 19 years. Her name is Ava. She will be 14 June 5th. I gave birth to her. Two days later, I handed her over. It broke me. But I know I made the right decision. She's happy and healthy. I couldn't give her the life she deserved. She's a constant on my mind 😔❤️

[@rollmops3113]

I feel you💗💔💗 I have a similar story to yours, same time too. Sending you loads of love

[@TimmyTickle]

Do you have any kids of your own now?

[@katiemurray5862]

@@rollmops3113 thank you so much ❤️ I hope you're doing well. I'm sending lots of love right back to you! Merry Christmas/Happy Holidays 🌟🌟🌟

[@katiemurray5862]

@@TimmyTickle I do! He's 6 years old ☺️ And the light of my life ❤️ I've been clean and sober for 12 years now. I can be the mom I've always wanted to be!

[@ek-eq1ox]

That's beautiful.❤

[@TheDellaniOakes]

So sad and so beautiful. This song always makes me cry

[@falayyou]

Best Ben Folds Five song by far

[@leemalcolm9301]

My wife had our eldest at 16 .. Tough times.. 25 years later still together and strong as ever..

[@joshrobins3046]

Sounds like you guys enjoyed giving each other the old 'Kingsbray Chookie' from a young age.

[@proculusjulius7035]

Congratulations 🍻

[@GMR.24]

This is truly wonderful. So happy you've made it together. Being married and having children is definitely an amazing and beautiful thing, and, it also takes a LOT of work! A lot of dedication and commitment. It's truly not easy, and it's so worth it. 💕

[@rainydaze9318]

I'm sure it was so hard but better than the alternative I think. You all made it through!

[@Foo281]

I had an abortion at 16. Do you not understand this song???? 🙄

[@Nklecz1980]

Classic 90’s in every way

[@jessiross84]

This album is the second thing I ever shoplifted. I was 12 years old... 36 years old now and still love this shit!

[@jesseb5447]

Do it again!!!!

[@aliyahhartman-ginn100]

@@jesseb5447 PERIODT

[@LlM0]

I am calling the police

[@stephaniebaker2960]

This song is Absolutely Beautiful/Heartbreaking/Honest to the core. Think I have a Major Crush on Ben Folds❤❤

[@teiagaw7663]

God would understand

[@joeykremple]

Something about that last frame w/ the bird’s eye view of the woman and her blowing hair, and then the final chord just abruptly punctuating the video seems to work really well. Ah the mysteries of art.

[@englishlessons5700]

Well said! That shot has always moved me. You can feel the despair. Their lives have been changed forever. A new chapter begins.

[@nicholasyoder]

On another depression nostalgic kick again. Being 45 blows. Take me back to the 90’s.

[@davidoehl811]

I feel ya, buddy

[@LibertarianLatina]

We had the best years tho. 🙏 #GenX

[@yvonnedurden]

Growing old sucks..56 is coming up.Ouch.

[@dottieb718]

2 years later im right there with you at 47. Ugh will anything ever be as good again😢

[@asaandgage8021]

One of the most beautiful songs ever

[@SandiByrd]

Heavy memories attached to this song. It still makes my heart ache a little hearing it - but in the most beautiful way.

[@michaelgreene4816]

I've never said this on SM before but this record...During the icestorm here in Quebec I would listen to this album over and over again. Ben Folds. Wow. I don't think that he'll make a better record and I thank these guys for helping me through that tough time.

[@venerated]

I remember seeing this video on TV when I was 10. I never knew then that I'd become such a fan of Ben Folds (Five) in my 20's.

[@sisaggie]

Always think of this song at 6am day after Christmas.

[@drdremd]

sisaggie I woke up at 5:50 day after Christmas for no reason. I figured it was fate.

[@samuelwalkingstick2949]

I wonder why?? Lol but you and i both since i heard this song when i was like 11

[@samuelwalkingstick2949]

Also the counting crowes has a song lyric that goes its 330 am on Tuesday it doesn't get much worse this. In beds in little rooms in buildings in the middle of the lives which are completely meaningless. I seem to think of that when i wake up early on a Tuesday. Bout 330 or so

[@JohnnyUtah488]

@@samuelwalkingstick2949 Perfect Blue Buildings. I love every bit of that album!

[@rustysteam]

That bow on the bass strings gets me every time.

[@juansalazar7882]

I heard this song on the radio about 15 years ago, I was at work and I couldn’t here who the artist was or the name of the song. I tried finding it this whole time with some of the lyrics that I vaguely remembered with no luck. Tonight, it came up on my playlist as I was driving home. This is a day of days!!!🎉

[@sonny0888]

This guy is one of the most talented musicians on the planet.

[@christopherbarber5283]

the fact that ben folds is not a dominant cultural icon today tells you everything you need to know about popular music and culture

[@elianagomesneto2708]

dtdt

[@alicesrabbit7126]

honestly, everyone is always like, "this song is so sad." i find it liberating. i know exactly what this feels like. for them both to finally talk about it is a real, freeing moment. that's how i take it. it really is just like a brick that is dragging you down. you cut that shit loose, and suddenly, you are free to enjoy life, again. i know that the sad part, for me, was not wanting to hurt someone that i cared about. that was the real struggle, and it's part of the reason why you tell yourself lies for so long before finally being too worn down to carry on. that's the sad part, i suppose, but once you lop that shit off of you, it's like the weight of the world has been lifted from your shoulders...

[@pphtm]

Thats an interesting take. The transition from chorus back to verse feels like a release of emotional pressure. They really capture the moment well enough that you can feel all the emotions around it. Its a powerful song that puts you in its place. It must have been very difficult to write and record.

[@scottcharney1091]

That's very astute.

[@programedople]

bring chills down my spine..what a beautiful song 90's era of music is 2nd to none...glad to be growing in the 90's and be able to listen to these amazing songs.

[@caseycarden1179]

Sitting here drowning slowly in my own tears I just lost my wife of 10 years 13 days ago it was all of a sudden and unexplained she did leave me with the best thing I've had in my life so far which is our little 3½ year old boy who is doing more taking care of me than I am taking care of him I still don't know how I'm going to make it but I've got to do it for him

[@speednutsII]

Damn man, I’m sorry. I’m a father of 3 boys. Just keep breathing. And take it a moment at a time. It’s going to be sad for a long time.

[@gregreno5781]

Much love brother! I'm here to tell you things will get brother your little son needs you..

[@Claws934]

I sincerely hope you guys are doing okay. Keep fighting bro.

[@k8lynmae]

Quite possibly from the clit shot vakkscene

[@lincolnjeanmarie]

I just read this. I hope you’ve been okay. Take it one day at a time. So sorry for your loss. Life can be so unpredictable. God be with you 🙏🏾🙏🏾🕊️🕊️🕊️

[@chrishagan6853]

This hits particularly hard today.

[@kenstr321]

Listening to this song at 6 a.m. day after Christmas for the win!!!

[@kmaz8329]

kenstr321 me all me.nobody else love jade.my.project my Alta.mater gift..

[@jamaldavinci2932]

kenstr321 Nice

[@juanbond85]

Doing that right now!

[@mierardi88]

It's something of a tradition for myself.

[@klausthedoors7710]

Well I'm just a few hours late, but it's still the day after Christmas

[@SethGavriel111]

This song should have at least FIVE TIMES the views! Such a powerful and achingly beautiful composition.

[@finkboy66]

The 90's were the last decade of truly great music

[@coyotelong4349]

And yet parents in the 90s would have said the music today is just noise lol

[@jenniferdunn2837]

Yes

[@davisstyles9516]

I literally lived this song. I couldn’t even listen to it until recently.

[@mattypuddingfingers6562]

@@motherandson6223 this is a pretty messed up link to post to someone who had a traumatic event occur. Also why do you choose to believe God is a unforgiving God that chooses to punish people to eternal hell unless they repent in a certain way? If God created us and is all powerful and loving then God understands that we aren't perfect and we do what we feel is necessary in the moment. That site doesn't help someone in pain feel better and you should feel ashamed.

[@motherandson6223]

@@mattypuddingfingers6562 Child murder is not a traumatic event; it is a serious sin. There's forgiveness for the sin of child murder through Christ alone.

[@mattypuddingfingers6562]

@@motherandson6223 you sound like you've been brainwashed by the death cult your in.

[@shirataka8331]

Same. I listen to it now, and it helps me grieve. It came out literally months after going through the whole thing. I used to get sick and shake when it came on the radio. Now, it makes me feel more human.

[@scottcharney1091]

@@motherandson6223 Embryos aren't children.

[@ipperz12]

My favourite Christmas classic!

[@BluePedal]

Great song to listen to when selling your gifts!

[@LiZmichelea]

I didn't know an abortion was a Christmas classic?!

[@Taradise85]

I think the classic Christmas song was a joke hun

[@bobprovost5046]

I'm late to this chain - I've read a lot of the comments on this thing about this song, nearly all them valid & valuable. In a very bonafide way most of us can connect (maybe profoundly) to the entire listening experience especially if we've ever had our hearts snapped clean in half, or have done the same to someone else. Of course, we connect to the lyrics in own very personal way, especially when the brilliant piano hooks us, and keeps us entirely hooked until the final note. My comrades - I have one word to describe the tune, that also the defines the word itself in the purest possible way. This here song is what we call a freaking MASTERPIECE!

[@jasondetamore108]

This song is a masterpiece. It is hauntingly familiar even to those of us who are blessed with amazing companions. The emotions it conveys through the conflicting vocal images are flawless. Bravo✋

[@StillIKeepItTeddy]

“Now that I have found someone, I’m feeling more alone, Than I ever have before” Fuckin gold. No matter what the situation is, I think everyone can relate to this on some level.

[@albertlevins9191]

This song found me at a particularly vulnerable time in my life. It absolutely blew me away. It was this line that got me

[@vixxenreigns]

Gawd have I related to that line a few times in my adult life.

[@letyourlightshine7131]

Sad, but true....to be with someone and feel more alone. We have much spiritual growing to do as humans

[@mkelisd]

In the 70s we had very few options and none of them were good. Suffered with many friends, cried too many times and wished we had been more responsible, many regrets and far too much heartbreak. So many of us still wonder. Not me. My daughter will be 39 this year and I am so grateful for everyday that she has been a part of my life. I am blessed and one of the lucky ones

[@dbkent]

Well said

[@xcvx16]

To think your generation is unique to feel this way is genuinely idiotic.

[@xtrnl999]

This song made me so grateful for my daughter. I am so glad that her mother and I never considered anything besides bucking up and doing the right thing. Good on you for doing the same, especially considering how much harder it was back then!

[@xtrnl999]

@@xcvx16 Where in her comment did she say or imply that?

[@adamhaas3168]

@@xtrnl999 Perhaps you Didn't do the "right thing". Nothing wrong with an abortion. Nobody ever sees the kid and the kid...if you want to call it that, never knows. Abort it. Be done with it.

[@daniellebauer3678]

I remember hearing this for the first time. I owe my life to two young men who shared more life with me than anyone ever. Thank you, Andrew Banks & Gregg Hammerman.

[@brucerewa105]

For me it's the flip side to this song . My son Andrew came when i was a 17 year old junior. What if you never we're. Questions I've asked myself , what if I never got to see my baby boys eyes when everyone told me I was to young to be a father? Glad you are here andrew, when all my friends were getting addicted to pills you saved my life by your existence I know I had to do right by you glad you are here my sweet son I love you and this song very much

[@MrJHarley17]

Good for you, kids are an amazing live changing experiance.

[@nicnaciswack8681]

Me too my now husband and I were at the clinic 17 years old and the nurse says your boyfriend is insisting on talking to you...he comes in.. has tears in his eyes...he asks me to marry him no matter what I decide.. but he hopes we can keep the baby...my daughter is now 16 I'm 34 my husband is 35 and we just celebrated our 16th wedding anniversary. She was 3 months premature. I learned to never take my children for granted. I'm so very thankful 🙏❤️

[@clarifythe3rd]

Beautiful 💖

[@pitmaningat]

DJ at the local pub karaoke reckons this song suits my voice, I will try as appreciation and for you being a good dad to your son, well done...

[@goalie2998]

Every life matters. Make the most of it.