BEST OF 2020: Discovering the Secrets to a Lifelong Romance - Dr. Kevin Leman

Creating a happy, fulfilling, lifelong marriage may be simpler than you think!
In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, popular guest Dr. Kevin Leman serves up another offering of his humor and wisdom, coming alongside couples to help them discover and strengthen intimacy in their marriage.
Dr. Leman shares the secrets to a lifelong marriage, including: identifying the key needs of your spouse; living a lifestyle of 24-7 intimacy; using feelings to strengthen your relationship; understanding your spouses’ temperament. Jim Daly’s wife Jean also joins the conversation to bring some insight and perspective from Jim and Jean’s marriage of over 30 years.
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[@cathysuleman1926]

Came across this video by accident...glad I did. 32 years of marriage flashed before me, mostly what Dr. Daly said is true in my case...like men can't read your mind! Lol I only know these things too well however we get married to serve each other and oh boy did we have a deep intimate relationship...oh I miss my soul mate..my hero...my PI was always looking out for me. He passed away 5 months ago. I say thank you Lord Jesus for those beautiful moments we shared.

[@annelienmoffat6079]

Dearest Cathy, I can relate,my precious godly husband went to be with Jesus and I miss a godly mate so much!

[@vedawattieram1974]

Ladies, how l long for the relationship you have experienced woth your husbands! I have not had a soul mate for most of our almost 30 years of marriage. 😢 This past year was was very sad.

[@letsgetreal4752]

I always love Dr. Kevin Leman, and I always want to bring myself all I can. I'm divorced, broken and I never conceived any children. I still WANT TO LEARN ALL ABOUT MARRIAGE AND KIDS. We need role models and mentors. Most important, we need prayer and God's word during these hurtful times.

[@paulaglenn388]

"Honor Christ by submitting to one another." Love that! Every one should hear this whether married or especially thinking about getting married!! Seriously funny but at the same time seriously informative and could save your relationship!

[@maybee...]

Kindness in communication helps.

[@acharich]

💯💯💯

[@kanditallant6740]

I so related to Jean when she said that she was struggling with self esteem & it set her mindset for the whole day. I’ve been guilty of this more than once. I really enjoyed this broadcast.

[@hisshalom9545]

Same here!

[@joanneclarke4226]

Marriage is not a contest we're a team to win

[@jtfairchild3838]

Yes!!! Thank you , sister...!!

[@passionforhispeace1194]

I enjoyed seeing Jean add to a broadcast. She has such a warm smile and personality. I can see how both she and her husband are such a valuable part of the Focus on the Family ministry. Dr. Leman and his sense of humor are always one of my favorite things to read or listen to. It would be interesting to hear his wife on a broadcast sometime too!. I'm constantly working and trying to implement Dr. Leman's advice in our home . . . feels like we always fall so short . . . but haven't given up yet! :)

[@mydaughtersbeautifulmind]

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[@kristynfujimoto]

I loved every minute of this! My partner and I aren’t married yet, but I have been watching all the marriage videos I can but this blessed me the most. I need to share this one with him, I love it. He’s going to get a kick out of this.

[@girlwicked]

First of all ... Dr. Leman is hilarious ... he just cracks me up! Having said that, he is a varitable mountain of information which is very correct!! I will be buying this book and I am grateful that I ran in to this video!

[@andrewharald88]

Hi Barbie

[@elsaestrada-morales8604]

Wonderful sense of humor! Love listening to Dr. Lehman.😍

[@nelygaltorr6648]

needed to point out that NOT ALL women go to the bathroom together. I personally dislike it and find it strange.

[@lisajackson3743]

I appreciate Mrs. Daly’s reflection, that was so real and I’m glad she shared. That sounds like something that I might do, so now I know how to overcome it. I’m not married yet but I will acknowledge my feelings without shame so it doesn’t derail my day. Thank you Jean!

[@hollyvondross9635]

Misleading title but really enjoyed it despite never having a husband that was faithful. Just enjoying the friendship aspect now.

[@mfisher7490]

My grandchildren love Leman Academy. Thank you Dr Leman. Bless you.

[@TheRiverChurchNortonville]

Thanks for sharing. Great video and easy to listen to!

[@hisshalom9545]

Really identify with Jean Daly feeling insecure at the water park!! Thank you for your transparency!! I often feel this way at these kinds of places and usually just don't go. Hard to share these feelings with my husband because its such a tough subject. When I do go somewhere like this it can leave me feeling off camber the whole time; possibly longer... it's a real thing for woman that we just don't talk about!

[@acharich]

Mmm, I imagine not just women tbh.. 🙏🏾💭

[@momsmushroomsjodyfoster5786]

Wow thanks for sharing this. Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one struggling with this. It's caused immense suffering and depression for me.

[@annelienmoffat6079]

Love this,bless you for putting this out!A sense of humour is sooo needed!

[@sarahmukuruwa9840]

I really enjoyed listening to this and can relate to what Jean was saying. Thank you so much for this video 💓 😊

[@annateves8944]

Well put, thank you Dr. Leman

[@raeannaroylance5401]

“World class grabbers” 😂I’m dead!💀

[@ChaplainReece]

Wonderful Teaching

[@maryerb6062]

My compliments to the editor. I have seen both of these before and I don't know where you put them together. This is smooth!

[@andrewh1737]

Hi Mary

[@jtfairchild3838]

Kevin Leman ?!? !! Love Kevin Leman !!! Haven't heard you in over 30 years!! Still the same ! Love it..

[@elsaestrada-morales8604]

Right??😍

[@annetaylor4683]

Wonderful and useful conversation 👏🏼👏🏼

[@FrancineRichards]

Thank you for this.

[@essiesdancevidsandtravels6917]

As a woman speaking, AFFECTION is #1!!!!

[@sylvialouback8428]

Excellent, even for interactions in general

[@yongchandler6835]

It’s so funny, it’s because I can totally relate with your conversation!

[@acharich]

Very relatable indeed.. 💯

[@HowardLeeR]

What a terrific show and channel. 😊🙏👍

[@aliciamitchell9903]

Wow so relate to a lot said in this video!

[@debnohokau200]

Wow, thank you for this entertaining and family oriented marriage panel for Christians. Will keep watching this chanel from Australia.❤

[@hellamunteanu5]

Ihr seid so klug! Danke für den vortrag.

[@lisalawton7867]

I read the Birth Order book tears ago! I loved it!

[@helenacena2709]

I always communicte what I want but it is always what he wants and his comfort that matters

[@ritafotiadis7855]

Thank you for sharing 🙏 🌹 💞

[@valerietulloch4038]

Who here watching this on Valentine Day 2021

[@shamgod3003]

Loved this

[@AG-kr1my]

Loved this content 🥰

[@GradyTaugen-nu8sn]

I am not married but in a relationship. I believe knowledge makes marriage work. Before I delve into it, I think this is a knowledge I will need later. From Papua New Guinea 🇵🇬

[@laylarose4919]

Absolutely he nailed it for the WOMEN 100% my salutes to you Sir.

[@elizabethharding7360]

Thank you.

[@reason4being868]

Thank you so much for sharing Jean! So much of the time I have underlying insecurities that come out in unhelpful ways with my spouse and children.

[@abigailperez7298]

Soy de México podrían agregar subtitulos me han recomendado muchísimo este video

[@indriadrayton1132]

This may prove interesting.

[@chuck4739]

I agree that we all have to become Christ like by allowing Christ to live within us and by taking up the cross to be an example for unbelievers

[@julierichey5336]

Role definition helps. It goes back to communication.

[@morninglynn6281]

Can I explain the bathroom "social event"? Women are trained by other women who have been abused that going to the bathroom in a public place is not safe to go alone because of predators. We train our daughters from really on, never go alone

[@jtfairchild3838]

Christian Counseling , Psychology and Sociology is the best , smartest and safest ..... Christ has the right approach to everything ...

[@PB-yo3uc]

There is actually a fifth temperament that has been recently discovered. It's the Supine temperament. It's so meek that it, in a way, gets absorbed into the other temperaments. It's starkly different, though. Another neat thing regarding the temperaments is that each one lines up beautifully with some of Winnie-the-Pooh characters.

[@ministerioshallom4930]

Muito interessante!

[@edmcwilliams6524]

Trump. 2020. Keep on Praying. !!!!!!! Great Video Thanks

[@kimvangthivo1376]

Could you please please I don no how to do?

[@ChaplainReece]

I need all I can get

[@sophiyabhoire1341]

Lord i need you, your help, i need to talk to you

[@acharich]

Hebrews 11:6.. 🙏🏾

[@funinthekeys]

He is FAITHFUL! Will always be there for you. Gal. 6:9

[@davidquinn9353]

Then talk to Him and be patient

[@pamelarichards464]

Absolutely, don't be too prideful to ask the Holy Spirit for guidance.

[@yongchandler6835]

Woman in particularly need of affection, and communication, Floppy like pretty male bird , performing his best interest in his wife! It’s a simple touch! I am telling you , it’s Not about me , it’s a God’s idea 💡 🤨😅💝

[@alohagirl808]

Can we still get this book?

[@focusonthefamily]

Hello, friend! We appreciate your interest in book, The Intimate Connection. You may purchase it for a donation of any amount at this link: bit.ly/3s2Sk2h. Grace and peace to you!

[@alohagirl808]

@@focusonthefamily Mahalo just went to link, 13 yrs married, we are ok, but want to step up to plate, and be the 👑 crown on my husband's head. Thank you for helping guide me through my life's journey, especially the hardships. Faithful and true to God's kingdom you all are. My father-in -law: Rev. Solomon William "Hotch" Kekoa went to Pasadena college. He passed away at 79 yrs. July 2014. Dr. James Dobson attended same time. So grateful for Legacy

[@acharich]

@@focusonthefamily 📝✨🙌🏾

[@kathryndalton9867]

Both my marriages failed bec there was no affection from him only from me. Communication wasn't understood we may aswell been alien from each other. My last boyfriend (passed away now) no affection twds me yet he did gives loads of affection when he saw his ex plus gave her red roses and valentine card yet not me and yet said he wanted to be with me but I then decided only bec I was a carer and he had multiple sclerosis health problems in a wheelchair last 4 years. Only why he wanted felt need to be with me. When he was walking I struggled with heavy shopping he saw his ex immediately carried hers. So well

[@nelygaltorr6648]

sounds like narcissistic symptoms

[@concken1]

I keep trying to "invite my husband" to be my hero but he often pushes back by saying he has no time/he can't. :-(

[@bethanyatkinson6944]

He's scared he'll fail most likely

[@concken1]

@@bethanyatkinson6944 yeah probably. Then what??

[@bethanyatkinson6944]

@@concken1 perfect love casts out fear... For myself I have trouble figuring out how to perfectly love though. I'm usually reacting out of hurt and fear of living disconnected... the thing that has helped me figure out how to make my own choices instead of reacting to his has been the book "keep your Love on" by Danny silk. Chapter 3 is on love versus fear... I have read a lot of books; that one has actually changed my life and relationships. But I feel like creating an environment that calms his fear and encourages his effort is the answer. We simply can't do that in our own strength. We're too attached to our own side of the equation. And yet that is the very thing that makes connection possible. Still on the journey of figuring this out myself, but I have learned a lot.

[@valeriemoore2215]

Lord End it or mend it

[@Cosmicoo82]

Almost 24 years of marriage with a 20 year old son, and he’s ready to walk away! I believe in communication he doesn’t and never has

[@dbishton247]

Praying for you!

[@bobs7295]

Jim, I really wanted to hear what Kevin had to say about the different topics, but without fail, when he would start to explain himself, you would cut him off and change the subject to the next item on your list. I need the type of wisdom that Kevin can shine onto relationships, but you effectively prevented that from coming forth.

[@racheldunbar3311]

You could buy the book!

[@bryantlane8646]

Would have to

[@acharich]

😅😅😅

[@maryerb6062]

Buy the book! His are loaded with insights!

[@Charity-vm4bt]

Sad that he put down mother in law. 38 min 22 sec mark.

[@skinnycookscantbeatrusted7788]

I dont see that

[@acharich]

38:22 - how..? 💭

[@indriadrayton1132]

I don't understand Mrs. Daly. Maybe that's what it is.

[@lisajackson3743]

That’s ok, everyone is different, but her contribution was just what I needed.

[@251melabelle]

So WHEN IS the time, if not in bed at night, to talk about and share life issues? Kids and phones INTERRUPT (conveniently for him).

[@faithemerson6897]

I'm a Phlegmatic only child :3

[@drianalochan8719]

What happened to DR DOBSON... This was founded & was referred for years as DR DOBSON' FOCUS ON THE FAMILY.... What happened to him? Why did he leave " Focus on the family"?

[@focusonthefamily]

We should clarify that Dr. Dobson is no longer with Focus on the Family. His last day here was February 26, 2010, which marked the culmination of a leadership transition process he initiated in 2003. To contact him, we encourage you to visit his website - www.drjamesdobson.org.

[@jtfairchild3838]

Well ...?!...It is probably best to ask ...Dr. Dobson .. He can tell you better than us

[@jessiegoodling3481]

What if u married a narcissist

[@joannbaker3497]

Y’all h

[@chuck4739]

Wow women choose odd times to do things. Do women really think about their timing or actions?

[@troycarpenter3675]

Funny how their face doesn't match their voice

[@acharich]

Huh..? lol

[@Kelle0284]

That's downright hilarious.

[@indriadrayton1132]

I am having trouble with this but I get the feeling that a lot of what goes wrong is the women's fault in this program.

[@barbsmart7373]

Oh Indria, I didn't feel in any way that blame is put on women here. It seemed very balanced and supportive of women. I also feel that this lady was very honest and deep with her contribution. I like her honesty, as arguments often do come out of very deep insecurities from the past. I listened to Dr Gray recently and learned a lot then, too.

[@acharich]

@@barbsmart7373 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@franciszico828]

I can’t believe you listened to this awesome broadcast and this is your summation 🥺😄

[@troydebby1786]

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[@traciebecker6669]

Your joking about women is insultingly childish and men need to grow up and recognize that they gather in groups, for example golf and in my experience they talk more than women do. Who is talking more in this video?

[@indriadrayton1132]

Tracie Becker I thought it was just me who felt that way?

[@QuiverofArrows]

It's a joke, key word there. Joking is exactly that fun and funny. Learning to laugh at yourself is incredibly important. It helps you see the funny side of life.

[@jtfairchild3838]

We apologize ...Dr. Leman doesn't mean any offense ...but another woman or two would be a help .. Mrs. Daly handled this very well

[@jtfairchild3838]

Dr. Leman has been this way for years ... Lol !! Jim Daly took the edge off .. for the sake of his wife

[@jtfairchild3838]

Sorry .we are terrible sometimes

[@annettewebster296]

Jim, I quit listening to Dr Daniel Amen (amazing Neuropsychologist) when his wife was on the podcast bc she would not let him talk…….very annoying! I watched you doing the same thing w your wife. You would ask her to tell a certain story & then you would jump in there & tell it. Not sure you realize that you do this (you also did the same to Dr Leman). I just wanted to reach thru my computer & smack you. Go back watch the podcast…..it’s all on video. 🫢