Best Ways to Find a Japanese Boyfriend♥ Ver. GAY

[@keoneeweyummy9610]

How can you two have so much chemistry just talking, I just enjoy so much how you finish each other sentences and small gestures

[@allansevilla5640]

When I lived in Shinjuku I met a Japanese guy in 24. We had fun and afterwards he invited me to grab something to eat. Ended up going to a love hotel and had fun again. We exchanged contract details and he would often ask me if I'm free to go with him in 24. We would go around to check guys but would end up in each others arms. And this went on for quite a few times...... Until he told me if I wanted to go exclusive with him and then we stopped going to 24. I know a lot of people would disagree with me, but had that relationship for about five years. He wanted to move in together but unfortunately my work didn't permit that. But that was really the most memorable experience I had in 24.

[@dickwintered]

Was it difficult finding a love hotel that admits two guys? I hear most of them wouldn't accept two guys checking in.

[@arbsan8366]

Can I ask what is 24??

[@allansevilla5640]

@@arbsan8366 ni ju yong kaikan is a bathouse in Shinjuku

[@sugar_shohei]

What a sweet story 😍

[@sugar_shohei]

@@arbsan8366it’s a famous bathhouse in Nichome :)

[@avarussurava9488]

I’m so glad you guys are still friends, your chemistry is just amazing.

[@user-yb6tk1ru6x]

I love Meng. He's so sensible and down to earth. Gives really great balanced advice. He'd be such a great friend.

[@soldatjj]

Meng's looking a lot beefier, but in a healthy way :) looking good!

[@noaso]

I don’t know if you watch shows like that, but i read about a japanese queer dating show (the boyfriend) that is getting released next week. I thought it might be interesting for you:)

[@TokyoBTM]

Planning to watch it!

[@noaso]

@@TokyoBTM amazing

[@The_official_jaijai]

I need to be up at 2am more often!!! Soooo excited for this video!!!!

[@TokyoBTM]

Hope you enjoy!

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Andrew really said: “I’m a lifelong student in Yearnalism.”

[@derekspeck8346]

You guys are so great. In April I traveled to Tokyo with two friends and we watched your videos before our trip. Your suggestions helped so much! And, one of the highlights of my trip was meeting Andrew at Eagle Tokyo! Thanks for being so nice and talking with us! Wish we could have met Meng, too. Hopefully next time 😊

[@THikkikomori]

I would be open to a long term relationship with someone I've met at a bathhouse. Meeting at a bathhouse means you two have a common interest and that's a good starting point for any kind of repeat connecting with a new person 😅

[@TokyoBTM]

bathhouse dates?

[@THikkikomori]

​@@TokyoBTM lol I love that idea❤

[@Sadude13]

@@TokyoBTM Great content as usual. Thanks for uploading!! Xxxx

[@fletchti5984]

I met my husband on grider... been together for 6 years, and this year, we will be married for 3 years.

[@hibiscusboy]

ちょうどドコに行けば日本語喋れる彼氏に出会えるか考えていたんで this video/topic came in clutch. Thanks boys, happy dating to you two too!

[@sugar_shohei]

I feel honored! I’m one of the earliest members of the badminton club that Andrew mentioned 😉 Now if I can give any dating advice, mine would be: the start can be anything (apps, bars, clubs, parties) the important thing is to find a common thing that you are both interested in and do it together so the relationship can grow into something ✌️

[@TokyoBTM]

What a wonderful suggestion ☺️ thanks

[@wesleydhanis3304]

So it is really a gay badminton club? Because that is so interesting! We have plenty of gay sports clubs in Europe (even badminton), but never heard of them outside of Europe. We host lots of gay tournaments all over Europe as well, to get to know the 'international' crowd, even though it's mostly Europeans. Good to know if I visit Japan, I might be able to join the club and play there maybe during my stay and get in touch with fellow badminton players!

[@gatinhopretolp]

I'm black and considered conventionally attractive by most, and I still don't initiate due to fear of racial rejection. I'm wondering if that's what happens to Japanese people with foreigners. I was in Eagle Blue in May and one Japanese guy initiated convo with me, but after I told him my name he just walked away and passed me off to his female friend who then spoke to me about her best friend who lives in my country. It was odd lol

[@trevorcolas]

That's interesting. I have not visited Japan yet, but I hear about challenges for foreigners in general socializing in Japan. How is it for Black foreigners or residents in particular?

[@gatinhopretolp]

@@trevorcolas my experience is my own, but I found that in Nichome more women spoke to me than men. The men just look at me, never approach, except for that one guy mentioned. On the apps the only guys who spoke to me were older Japanese men or Asians from other countries, not Japan. I was very popular in the sauna, VERY popular, maybe because they didn't have to speak to me?

[@James1701e]

I'm reminded of an episode of HBO's Looking when Dom first meets Lynn (it's in a gay sauna/bathhouse) and being older gents Lynn comments how it's now frowned upon to casually chat whilst inside despite it being commonplace when he started going in his younger days. Whilst Japanese culture is unique in its approach to things, perhaps it should become more widely accepted for guys to have conversations. People have "f*ck buddies" and "friends with benefits" (for me there is a distinct difference) why is that any different to a guy striking up a conversation with another at a bathhouse regardless of whether they're going to have fun. Great vid guys.

[@xtiandogs]

Meng you’re looking strong!

[@dagontheseatitan7846]

As always great video guys and I love the topic of the video. This is great tips for finding a Japanese boyfriend. Keep up the good work and I can’t wait for next video.

[@enui9049]

The more I watch your new clip the more I enjoy.

[@WayneMueller-ie7wu]

Thank you for the tips I like body touch I think it s a great way to express interest and intimacy. When I was first coming out, I met a very nice guy at a bathhouse we had fun then went back to his place had some more fun and we are still friends many, many years later. I have met many guys who met their partners thru the baths, the apps, and bars.

[@USCanthony]

It was go0od to see just the two of you sitting down and talking again. We always learn much more than you two might think. While I did not learn anything really new this time, it was very entertaining watching Meng still trying to convince the world that he is an angel and Andrew not buying any of it. Andrew knows you too well Meng. Those of us that have been watching your videos for some amounts of time also don't buy the Angel routine at all but nice try.

[@WillianWelter-lt1bt]

I stayed in Tokyo for a week alone last December. Every night I went out to Nichone and thanks to that I knew some friends drinking and asking for the lighter and talking to some strangers. If you smoke, asking for a lighter always works.

[@Gazeba32]

MENG! SHOW OFF THAT NEW BUFF BOD! WE WANT TO SEE MORE ❤

[@sultanfajar3906]

You both are getting cuter everyday! 🎉

[@blueyonder1233]

I did like Andrew's last comments into the mug! 😉

[@hismajesty9951]

I love your comment at the end of the video, Andrew! So funny haha xD

[@RexCapulet]

My lips are SEALED 🤣 Another great vid guys!

[@arishem555]

Meng, I love your haircut❤🎉

[@jasonlee7225]

I was in Tokyo 2 months ago, and struck up a convo with Don at Dragon. He was real friendly, as were the other customers. Would love to visit again soon.

[@danielintheantipodes6741]

Amazing information. Thank you for the video!

[@BretonInTokyo]

I'll 100% side with Andrew on how always being the one initiating is exhausting. Guys have become lazy and make zero efforts. They don't show interest, don't keep the conversation going, never ask you out. And when you do, they're never available. The main reason is that they try to get attention from as many guys as possible and then pick the one who responded who they're the most interested in. That's why some guys keep messaging you after weeks. They forgot they did already or they're just trying again, and the whole thing goes nowhere again. I refuse to entertain this level of mediocrity.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Flirting with a firefighter? OOOOOH 👨🏻‍🚒🚒

[@KHDemyx]

I just moved to Tokyo after 7 years back in Denmark. I lived in kansai for a year, but I never really felt like I belonged in nichome. I think I'm too introverted to connect with people in these club environments. On the apps, I was kind of fetishisized as a ginger viking, but I got some lasting friendships out of it, I can use now that I'm back. Maybe I just need an E-friend who can help me get out there, but I get sort of anxious and insecure when I'm around so many people at the same time. Or maybe I'm just too picky. It's complicated 😅

[@paolocruz8392]

Thoughts on the new Netflix series "The Boyfriend"?

[@calvind2054]

What is the dating life for a Black person in Japan? I already know it’s not that possible in Korea. Because you mentioned the bars where foreigners could go, do you know or have you seen Black people there? What are the chances of one, or me, getting lucky there?

[@diegog.2293]

Meng! Long hair looks good on you! Makes you look younger😊

[@jamesquivey1538]

I've seen on multiple videos that Japanese gay men shun men from other countries. As such I crossed Japan off my list of places to visit. I spent a month in Thailand and I saw that the men there are attracted to white Americans (yes I know about the sugar daddy searchers). When I complimented someone for being attractive, he giggles like a little girl. I came back to the US with 8 of them in my WhatsApp where we keep in contact We exchange pictures and stories. It honestly makes me want to go back. The people are incredibly friendly.

[@sykoticx]

Mengくんの日本語喋り方可愛い🩷

[@willujames4989]

9 Monsters is great to meet local guys (as a 50 something white guy). I have 3 friends already (though 1 has a bf so I am an the side mister)

[@anjerowalker9566]

Met my Japanese boyfriend on G App.., dinner date then had an action. He busted me after confessing for a month of meeting. I still pursued him until he accepted my proposal. He speaks a little English, that’s our common medium, though I speak basic Japanese. Now, were on sixth year and counting. But, the twist is we have been sexless for 3 years. Still, I love him and were getting closer, having fun travelling and doing hobbies together.

[@lugrandgg]

Hello, are you guys watching the new Boyfriend series from Netflix? I thinkit would be awsome if you guys made a react video.

[@arishem555]

I am sitting in the airport and then Andrew applying to Nichome filter on 7:14 and I was like if he on the airport speakers or what 😂

[@dramonmaster222]

Thanks for the dating tips guys.

[@TokyoBTM]

Please share your best tips with us!😆

[@itsneroart]

My tips is to stop using AI art in your videos. :)

[@kp-gbuniqueinterest]

Iv tried everything. I have friends who have made bfs/husbands from sex apps, bathhouses, apps, etc. And still single. I miss Korea, it was so easy for getting long-term bfs. I think being born and speaking Korean made it easy even though I'm mixed and don't look Asian. But in America, White guys are very picky not many asians near me. The only thing I get is str8, guys surprised I'm pushing 40, but look, I'm in my 20s. You think they would like a trophy wife, haha.

[@EzioIsGod]

omg first >_>

[@issacbrown1933]

Oooh cover the boyfriend!!

[@PokhrajRoy.]

16:47 Huge asterisk after that statement

[@bishojonenmagic5299]

16:52 I just find the cup is so cute 😄

[@atlantian88]

I made friends at a Bathhouse in Tokyo as a foreigner it was nice, especially coming from a country where my lifestyle is illegal. Went there with my boyfriend , I know looooooooooooool

[@KeepWalkingNeverStop]

I've tried the whole go out to bars and places to meet other people thing but it doesn't really work anymore... There are not that many people going to bars nowadays, plus the ones that do are the lonely drunk type who sits at the bar feeling sorry for themselves or they are with friends so that makes it super hard to approach them. Another big thing for me is the lack of appropriate spaces to make this kind of connection. I'm genuinely happy for all my friends who met their significant other on the dancefloor but I need a quieter and more meaningful setting. Unfortunately, such settings usually harbor other dangers like homophobic comments from people etc. Dating apps are meat markets so no point in using those either. I'm really struggling if I'm being honest.

[@avarussurava9488]

Y’all are really doing GOD’s work

[@EastWindCommunity1973]

4:20 Lolol, yes body touch video!

[@joffreygacita]

your such us inspiration stay strong❤

[@alanbiernacki639]

Maybe the practical goal should be" to get a good boyfriend" not to have a Japanese boyfriend.

[@davidnguyen348]

As a long time viewer, can I please request that you stop using AI generated images in your videos? Not only are they jarring, destructive to the environment, stolen from assets of actual artists, but you guys are just better than that. Please consider stopping, it doesn't add anything to your videos, you're fine without them!!

[@jrobi501]

That’s your personal opinion which is valid however this is a very casual channel leave them be. It does add to there videos at least for me! You want change then go after the corps not small KZbinrs

[@davidnguyen348]

@@jrobi501 Disagree completely, nobody should be normalizing the use of it because no matter how big or small, every time it's used and generates images for you it causes environmental impact and perpetuates the theft of artists. If anything, small youtubers should absolutely stand with smaller artists and creators and refuse the use of AI generated content because we expect corporations to try to exploit us, but not each other. A "small youtuber" shouldn't be ok exploiting "small artists" by using gen AI art.

[@Glowsaphinebaker]

It’s because you’re yt sir and they have a hierarchy even concerning average looking men where they value yt ness so maybe that’s why

[@JaimeVega]

Watching a new epiaode and not a 3 year old one hahaha Well for me apps like grindr is where I have met the most interesting peolle so far. Yes, most of them started with sex but then there was conversation and some became friends and others even bf. About being not direct with conversation... Pff i don't know, i am so sick of endless chatting that goes nowhere. Or endless chatting to then meet in person and not click... I usually push to meet relatively faster for a simple plan, a coffee or a walk. What do you think as a topic? How often you found yourself finding s big gap between the online persona and the person in real life? And yes, sometimes is about looks, or how big is the gap between the picture and the real person. In my limited time in Japan i found out that pics were sort of fake, quite a big gap! And for me is more about the gap rather than the looks itself. If a guy looks like a 10 and then is 6 might give me worse impression than a guy who looks like a 6 or 7 in pictures and then is a 5. Maybe this is on me for seeing a very hot guy who wants to chat with me snd see the Aliexpress versión in person. What do you think?

[@SailorGreenTea]

3:26, maybe try thinking of it from the perspective of someone viewing you as a person emulating a "Cain" culture but you do not know your are doing it. Cain from the Bible. Think of how his descendants from him might act. I say emulate because, my theory is Cain had blue eyes but yours are brown.

[@danielborges2409]

guys i'll be in Tokyo in october and I'd love to meet you

[@Frenchmisto]

Ok, i don’t go to nichome, I have been going there for years and hate it. It’s as fake as any gay area I’ve been to all over Europe. Also, being close to 60, it’s just not my thing anymore but, I wouldn’t judge negatively people who like going there, if it’s not their only goal in life! I have met guys who had nothing else to talk about… the whole conversation was about their weekend plans in nichome. There must be more to being gay than just going out to find the next fu..k

[@JaimeVega]

I guess big difference is with people who go to Nichome or people who ONLY go to Nichome and do nothing else. It is the latter group you should definitely run unless that's your whole personality. I guess Nichome or any gay bar really should be a way to connect with people or to go out every now and then for a drink if that's your thing. I don't know, I personally need someone that can carry a conversation and it is not only about gay bars and parties ...

[@Frenchmisto]

@@JaimeVega I see your point but I have experienced it regularly for a few years and there is nothing left out of it. Not even one person keeping in touch. I don’t want to become this British guy who is there every day and gets ignored . Plus I had become the subject of negative gossip from one of the places mentioned owners. Not a good feeling.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Boyfriend? But I thought Meng was looking for a Military Hubby 🔥

[@Jackson-g4u]

> Goukon - going to goukon but have a bf - haha ~

[@OmarIsmaelRossi]

Guys I need help!!! I've met two guys using 9 monsters. Different cities, different ages... We have sent some videos, and chat. (With one of them was more hot videos) Anyway, I'm going to travel to Japan for the first time in September and those guys have invited me to stay in their home. What does it mean?? It seems so gentle and kind, as a Latin American I understand that but I wonder if it's normal that Japanese culture is so open to foreigners. I'm older than them so maybe it is a thing... I don't know. I'm glad but confused 😊 I appreciate any comments..❤

[@TokyoBTM]

Not trying to be a party pooper, but please proceed with caution. There are a lot of scammers these days. Don't trust people easily

[@TT-by7tv]

Meng where are the glasses :)

[@tcsargea]

I met my Partner in the baths 17 years ago , we have been in an open relationship from the beginning , monogamous is not common in men and not necessary , I agree with Andrew it’s 2024

[@PokhrajRoy.]

15:55 The worst thing is when gay guys ghost you like I’m still looking for answers hello??

[@PokhrajRoy.]

0:40 I’ve heard people getting married because of it

[@MP-lv5vk]

Are you watching The Boyfriend on Netflix‽

[@AB-qu4dv]

全然出会えません。どうしたらいいんだろう。教えてください。

[@TokyoBTM]

もっと頑張ってください❤️

[@PokhrajRoy.]

11:47 I have an online E-Person so I have an EE-PERSON

[@Sam-uz7rw]

Have you guys heard about Pure Top?

[@798081aa]

Japanese men are OK ❤❤

[@MeowzzzzzDONG]

Is it just me, or is there some weird tension between Andrew and Meng? Like… the vibe is off.

[@TokyoBTM]

It's just you 🤭

[@BooTheBeagle]

Oh wow. It sounds like if you don't speak the language or drink alcohol you will have a tough time.

[@shinward3686]

its hard to find Japanese boyfriend because they lost interest if your not physically fit

[@Lecodelsur]

I believe peoplo are not taking initiative, and this is happening all over the world.

[@rickgarms7656]

IMHO a large percentage of Gay Men (cis-gendered males mainly) tend to be the most judgmental in the larger LGBQTIA+ community. Gender fluid, Non-Binary, Trans folks, in my personal experience, tend to be more inclusive. As someone who would probably be considered in the 'Siver-Daddy-Art-Bear' category, I've had the joy (and discomfort) of aging in our colorful community. I am curious if there is a sub-culture in Japan of aged (Silver) gay men? I know your content is normally centered around those who are 'in your wheelhouse' of age/type. But I have wondered about it viewing your work. Cheers Guys. You made it through PRIDE month, now, it's time to make it through PRIDE year.

[@905woody]

Ok ok. Tokyo BTM sponsored Goukon live on KZbin

[@The_official_jaijai]

You both are such sweet souls. I’m a talker at bath houses too. Like we had a good time why not keep it going?? 🫣😩😩

[@darren5597]

兄弟，你也来了!

[@The_official_jaijai]

@@darren5597 哈哈!! 我無所不在！