5 Tips To Avoid Competitive Parenting | JUST B DIVORCE

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[@shbhchwh]

As a grandparent who has 2 dil's, I made a committment to myself a LONG time ago. I will never talk ill of my children or their spouses (and even if they become ex's) and grandchildren (and their friends and their other family members) to ANYONE, no matter what has happened or will happen. Once you make that committment, it makes moving forward from situational conflicts much much easier. You don't base your behavior on what other's say. You don't model bad behavior in other words. Empathy, while at times difficult to show, breeds more empathy. No one said it is going to be easy. You role model and you listen and you apologize when appropriate. You tell people you love them. You hold their hand. You try to understand various points of view. It requires strength. But you can go to bed with a clear conscience. As a grandparent, you are the family elder, as I am. We are all terribly imperfect, but we must try to look beyond your own selfishness.

[@user-mh7ne9pf1s]

bethany can you please talk about narcissistic mother daughter dynamics... im in 30's and i need to break away

[@Jules-cg3tf]

Great idea. I have 8 sisters, only one is a narc. My entire life until about 4 years ago, I was a wreck, emotionally, and I felt crazy because I was the only one who would point out the evil that my sister did. She made me feel like I was crazy. Thankfully, others saw it, and spoke up. I'm now free from that nightmare. I can't even imagine a mother being that way. So much respect for B.

[@NewCreationInChrist896]

Excellent topic, everyone has narssistic tendencies, it's why we need God. Satan is the biggest narssist of all. John 3:16💕

[@gloriachapman5618]

Please see HG Tudors KZbin videos on this.. Search bar his name. Be valuable information. Search his playlist. He’s the utmost authority on narcissistic behavior. No one else like him.

[@stephaniem5188]

Great suggestion. I cut contact with mine 4 years ago. Best decision of my life.

[@susannevyhmeister9475]

Mine is the same. Such a sad disappointment at times but look to my faith to fill the void. But doesn’t always get rid of the hurt.

[@TheTuellfamily]

As a former teacher who had a student whose parents were not amicably divorced, I can tell you that the dynamics between those parents made me and my co teacher’s job very difficult. We were often put in the middle of silly arguments and privy to information that was none of our business, but the real victim in the whole dynamic was their son.

[@gloriachapman5618]

You make absolute sense. In today’s world.. Women and men need to hear this .. The small, petty shit has to go..

[@edw8889]

My daughters are getting prenups. My oldest is getting married they don’t have much but they are still getting prenup. My girls saw what happened to me

[@munizr7]

This is the first time I have finally heard someone put words to the feelings my grandparents used to do to us as kids of divorce. And we were already teenagers when it happened so we were already atuned to the situation we lived through before the separation. It certainly alienates us from them after a certain tipping point! So true! Thanks for talking through this!

[@claudiasmith9117]

You never can win when you play dirty...-Nene Leakes Jason and his family played dirty. And Bethenny won!

[@marciamakoviecki3295]

Why do you think she won? After 10 years she finally gave him a boatload of money and joint custody.

[@luannk.1167]

Wish we could hear her ex's side of the story. I bet there is a difference in opinion.

[@luannk.1167]

@@marciamakoviecki3295 don't think so

[@litalpeled2055]

Did they play dirty? We don’t really know from hearing just one side of this story. Did bethenny really win? A decade on divorce- who needs that?? Once the custody was settled, she should have wrapped up the other things, forego a lot of money and keep the remainder of the “tons of money “ she has

[@betsybabf748]

If you hear only one biased side and reach a conclusion based on that, you may need more education in critical thinking and logical reasoning.

[@jennymarais8782]

This is why podcasters are up in arms about Bethenny.....it's because she makes sense. She doesn't bore the shit out of you

[@susiegross1853]

You look fabulous!!! I’m obsessed with your divorce podcast, you’re helping so many people out there who are so lost. Thank you ❤

[@jomoney465]

all this can happen to grandparents that are iced out when their child passes away and the living parent, of your precious grandchild, gets into another relationship and moves miles away so that you cannot be in the child's life. The only thing that matters is the child's comfort and happiness. I wish grown adults would think of someone other than themself when they don't get their way, or things go south, or someone dies. It's sad

[@KM-fv8kv]

Making righteous choices for the kids has an actual shelf life all the other shit doesn’t matter. I was consumed by my Ex having a larger family no less than 25 ppl potato sack racing, slip & sliding , hay riding . Can’t compete - gave MY kid my personal best. Good episode.

[@BettyBoop-t4v]

Thank you for speaking your truth. I just want to give you a big hug for everything you have gone through ❤

[@lovely946]

Thank you, Bethenny! Thank you for all the helpful information! I have been dealing with 9 years of Post Separation Abuse! I has been extremely stressful and a living nightmare! My ex has emotionally and financing drained me! I am hoping to go get a no contact order soon since I am starting to really feel physically sick from his contact and using my sons as weapons. I am trying to get my life back since my ex will not give up his power control. Your podcast has been a lifesaver!❤😊

[@mdl8210]

I really hope you get the help and justice you need. I hope you are getting good and sound legal advice. Google scholar is a great tool to help you understand custody cases in your state. Please remember every state’s laws are different and every case is unique. At the end of the day ask yourself is this best for my child. Good luck to you!

[@JoJo_GSD]

Bethenny, this episode is sooo important. In my opinion, this is the information we should be encouraged to take on board prior to marriage and kids. If this information was included as compulsory reading before the "I do's", maybe, just maybe, children wouldn't feel as conflicted & torn between parents as they often do, & maybe the parents would be less stressed as they understand the best way forward regarding how to co-parent without conflict.?. 🤔 Loved this Bethenny 🤗💯👊

[@dazzlingchick]

🌹Another fantastic part of this series! Such a needed topic to discuss. Thanks again. ~Love&Light♥️C. xx

[@susannevyhmeister9475]

I love it when she does these kind of videos. So healing to have someone put words to this.

[@franschultz2390]

Brilliant advise. You never need an entourage. You’re your own entourage, you’re BSTRONG❤

[@sarahb_]

In the 50s? Also in the 80s here in UK 😂 As a child I: almost drowned, almost got abducted, got kicked by a horse in the stomach and other things I never made a fuss of 😅 plus a few other things. all due to lack of adult supervision

[@carlypastore]

I would love to hear how Big Girl Parenting came into play. This is your reminder :) timestamp 21:47. It seems like Brynn could see Bethenny actively working through these challenges with problem solving strategies, versus trying to grease them over with manipulation the way a competitive insecure parent might have a tendency to do. I’m sure there is a parallel with how this can relate to working out problems and solving major challenges in business too.

[@ThoughtExperiment369]

Thank you for talking about grandparents alienation. I am experiencing that right now. My ex has large family, I do not, his entire family has made me the villain and they are trying to turn my 13 year old son against me. It really hurts

[@gusrgutierrez]

We need need you to write a book about this.

[@sarahb_]

Yes I can relate to this as my parents divorced when I was 11. They didn’t do competitive parenting that I noticed, but did used to slag eachother off a bit. And I used to hate it, even into adulthood, if they had to be in the same room or see or speak to eachother. It would make me very uncomfortable. Before sh*t hit the fan when I was a child and it all went down, I had no idea of any problems or anything. You can imagine the shock for a child my age. My brother was 13. Then seemingly weeks (probably months) later, my dad moves my new step mum in. No conversation. I stayed living with my dad as my mum moved out. But no conversation. I love both my parents but you can imagine there’s a little trauma from some of that. Some things that happened around that time I’ve never spoken to anyone about since. Not even my husband of 10 years (together 16) Saying that I had a good childhood overall, and especially before that.

[@ginnyleeakaginandtonic3621]

Love this strong women ❤❤

[@x.Aura.x]

Love your little Hello Kitty corner B 💓

[@BrookeAmber007]

You give the best advice. Invaluable. I WISH I would’ve had this advice and done this years ago. I’ve spent so much time being stressed over my exs antics. Grandparents I absolutely agree can be just as bad… dealt with that too.

[@ginaspellman9352]

Facts The click hit with my child at 12

[@Jenn-E]

I want to hear more about your relationship with you Ex and what went on behind the scenes.

[@PamHanley]

We are grandparents to 2 beautiful kids. Our son has a boy that is2 and a daughter that is 11. We have always bought stuff for our granddaughter for no reason at all except that we thought she would love it. Her mother has always been fine with it and knows our intentions were good. Our grandson's mother just thinks it's to out shine her parents. We have never spoken a bad word in front of the kids about their mothers. We love them too much to do that, however I can't say it hasn't been done on the other side.

[@taniawood-gush9366]

I love your attitude. Great advice.

[@Catbgone]

Very smart advice. Makes sense. Thanks

[@honeycococreations4906]

PLS HAVE KATE GOSSLEIN ON!!!!! I FEEL THERE A SIMILARITIES IN UR DIVORCES (PUBLIC EYE/TAKE TIME TO REVEAL TO TELL THW STORY/WORKING WOMEN/ORGANIZED). I miss her on tv and wish she could have a chance to tell her story

[@monicat.4880]

YES TO THIS WHOLE SHOW❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@oceanmcewen]

good episode, thank you❤

[@eviep7134]

Here we go here we go! 🙏💯❤️😉🌞😎

[@marlynnek6449]

I think it's amazing that BF has been able to allow her daughter to have a relationship with her ex and her ex in-laws cause they were all PSYCHOS.

[@karenneides7966]

All of this stuff goes on! It’s real

[@krisb.5327]

When watching the "Bethenny Ever After" it is clear that Jason has "enmeshment " with his parents. Jason tried to force Bethenny to "enmeshment" which was dysfunctional. Bethenny could have just visited them om occasion and focuses on her baby and her career. Jason's expectations of Bethenny we no realistic for a parent that works so much.

[@deb290]

Very good advice.

[@sharonfields4346]

You make this bad sh*t sound so funny

[@baconbacon3967]

"Let the whole circus come to town ...." lolol :D

[@elekay312]

❤❤❤

[@narelleravesi4993]

🙏❤️

[@juicie25bt]

I agree 💯 with EVERYTHING, but most people can't help themselves. 99.9% adults put their needs, wants & concerns bfor their children. A friend once said to me, I never bad mouth my boys father in front of them bcuz they WILL figure it out on their own. And guess what they did & my friend didn't look like an Ass. Great advise ur sharing, but if "1" human listens/takes ur advise I'll fall over.😂

[@NewCreationInChrist896]

Bethany, are you ADHD? Either way, I like hearing you talk.💕

[@greekre]

nutmeg is coming for the booze industry hahahaha

[@עםישראלחי]

❤Love from Israel🇮🇱🫶

[@jen.nightingale]

Oh no I never got the live notification 😢😢😢😢😢

[@DevonRexLady]

You'll survive.

[@luannk.1167]

Same old same old

[@luannk.1167]

This doesnt apply to everyone, obviously, her experience. I know divorced couples who didnt compete.

[@marciamakoviecki3295]

Wait, I thought she was the one buying Chanel jewelry for her daughter, buying a Hamptons house and a beach house and a Manhattan apartment for her and her daughter. I think she's competing ok and the kid probably enjoys that lifestyle.

[@yvettehatrak787]

Umm, yes, Bethany, Divorce effects EVERYONE!! Like your DAUGHTER!! STOP. JUST STOP!!

[@janellestuckey8477]

What is wrong with Bethenny? I’m serious. Can’t she see that maybe she shouldn’t be giving advice on relationships and now competitive parenting? What could she have to say on this matter. I’m quite certain that Jason doesn’t have a chance when it comes to being competitive with Bethenny Frankel and her wealth, which she flaunts daily.

[@lavienestpasunlongfleuvetr2559]

What is wrong with YOU? She went through a hellish divorce from a creep who tried to buy and sell her, and now she's warning other women of the pitfalls of marrying and trying to divorce the wrong kind of person. As for competition, Jason could give her a run for her money by having 2 parents with whom he's close, and perhaps an extended family. No money in the world can make up for a tribe of people who love you, and Bethenny has already alluded to Jason knowing this and using it to get one up on her. He's also likely very wealthy himself from the divorce, so it's not like he can't try to buy their daughter's affections, too, if he chose to.

[@sarahkapustic1881]

Your comments are always negative

[@nottthereyet4872]

So, Bethenney doesn't have a voice?

[@Therapistlife13]

Who are you to judge!? Find the exit and see your way out of here. ✌️👋

[@l-train7876]

She doesn’t give relationship advice, this series is about the divorce process. Also, she felt that Jason had the bigger family and she couldn’t complete. You must be new here.