Yes, I Got a Foster Care Violation-But It’s Not What You Think

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@rpete967 Ай бұрын

I'm in GA. I have a dedicated retention case manager. She verbally check in with me monthly and in person quarterly. She is amazing. I can and have gone to her with issues and frustrations on many things. She is an excellent sounding board and stepped in for me when I was struggling with a placement's case manager.

@BeTheVillageCommunity Ай бұрын

Love to hear these positive experiences being shared 🫶🏼

@sarahgerk Ай бұрын

Girl, your county (or counties) seem a lot more rigid than mine. I'm not sure that would have resulted in a violation in NY.

@beckyshell4649 24 күн бұрын

As hard as it is to get foster parents you would think that agencies and people who make the policies would make the process easier. I think that the standard for care is vastly different from state to state.

@Pugs309 Ай бұрын

U look lovely friend 🌹glad ur able to talk about this to help those who don't .

@charlestaylor2746 Ай бұрын

We 'had' two children placed with us with the intent of being adopted. Without going into all the details, the youngest made allegations against us to her therapist. Thus, now an investigation is under way, right before Thanksgiving. Both children have been moved at this point and we are in limbo. Everything went down within a week and a half. The only real communication we are getting is, we will call you when the investigation is over, it will take 45-60 days. Meanwhile, we continue to attend our support group and talk to our support team (not case workers). There are many actions our support team is recommending we should have taken. 1) As the child was threatening to make allegations against us prior to her therapy appointment, we should have talked to the therapist in advance before her session. The discussion should have presented a clear understanding of what the child was saying and why she was upset. After the therapist talked to our child she was not able to communicate with us afterwards, is the key point here. 2) Documentation is always recommended, you can never have enough documentation. I have video of my oldest child threatening to kill us in our sleep as an example. 3) We were very open in communicating with our team but, at this point (1 month later) we have caught our case workers not being honest with us. Our support team always said it is not a matter of if allegations will happen but, when. They followed that up with, when it happens your case workers will disappear. They were right. 4) You can make a request for the investigative report once it is complete. I am not sure how that is going to help but, as I said, we have caught both our case worker and the children's case worker being dishonest with us. If we are even allowed to continue as foster or adoptive parents we would need a team we can trust. The children were with us for 16 months, much longer than it usually takes to adopt waiting children. Behaviors were declining. There were a lot of options the case workers could have chosen to eventually move the children from our home. The youngest had a mental breakdown and was hospitalized for a week, the children actually left as soon as we brought her home from the hospital, where our case worker was waiting for us to provide that news to all of us. We will always love them, we miss them very much, especially with the holiday's but, this is probably for the best for all four of us. Regardless, this two months of limbo not knowing what the investigator report is going to determine creates many sleepless nights. We have been fostering for over four years, we took a shot at adopting children on the waiting to adopt list but, that could all be over depending on the investigators report. We are in Kentucky, the children came from Ohio.

@FOSTERINGREALITYLifeAfterF-z5d 29 күн бұрын

I can tell this has deeply effected your family. As it has thousands before. I grew up in Foster Care in Oregon. I was born in 1982 in Arizona to an UNFIT MOTHER and sold to Oregon Department of Human Services CSD, because my alleged father was in Oregon State Penitentiary. by time I was 5, I was well behaved and always happy. my moving around and not having anyone to hold me when i was sick or scared was now normal. And instead of giving you this whole story, Ill skip to this. For kids in the System, and i mean no parent visits. no plan of reunification, we are coached. By the case workers. Who in there profession are at the very bottom of the food chain. They are the foot soldiers for a billion dollar industry. The GOOD ones can shuffle a kid effortlessly through the many set up services. For example, 1 kid can become a recurring monthly paycheck for doctors who always find the same issues in all the kids. Just like military Brats, State kids always have there molars filled with amalgam. STATE PAID INSURANCE no questions asked. several different types of counseling. STATE PAID. And for like one of my counselors, he used me as a case study to further his career. He is now Published author and a leading expert now in foster children. The truth is, if you as a foster parent ever get flagged as a potential boat rocker, someone who has a different idea of what may be best for a kid in your care, its only a matter of time until they push you out. as a 40+ year old now who had to fight for life today, i have contacted some of the people from those days only to find out i am right. i was able to speak to a former case worker who thinks they tap her phone. My point is that the Children are the check, Not for the care giver but the state. The Care giver is the Cheap labor, and the case worker is the sales dept rep. All very compartmentalize and designed to swap around like modules. As a foster child I had never claimed any type of mis treatment. Neither had my sister. Even though we were both sexually abused in the system. when i turned 11, the state let my Grandmother who had fought for 3 years to adopt us, adopt us. that very next year as we where still in the system, my sisster and i where pulled into the offices of our schools and told that we need to be very honest about our home life. In this interview, my sister had said that my grandma had accidently scratched her wrist one night when she had come home smelling like alcohol.(my sister). THAT WAS IT. It had happened over 9 months ago and was never mentioned until that point. WE WHERE MOVED THAT DAY. AND SPLIT UP! Where we then got a new evaluation and My sister sent out of town to a group home for troubled girls, and I went from a foster kid, to a Oregon Youth Authority transition kid. Wich just ment i was being set up to go to prison and could not be placed in a home. I will be posting much more on this subject and including anyone voice who can speak out. There are thousands of stories but only 1 narrative.

@LindaY26 Ай бұрын

Alberta doesn’t use “violation” in their caregiver language. They keep it positive. Caregivers work with a caseworker, but each caregiver is assigned our own support worker. I never had a support worker in the states. Having that support worker has been crucial to the success we’ve had in the last 11.5 years here. If for any reason, we are having a lot of difficulties, our support worker speaks with us, asks questions, and then figures out, do we need more respite, 4-6 months of hiring a housekeeping service, etc. The support workers are there to prevent anything from going sideways. I’ve been so impressed with the system here. ❤

@FOSTERINGREALITYLifeAfterF-z5d 29 күн бұрын

I grew up in Foster Care. In Oregon. Where a Kid enters the system every 3.8 hours 24 hours a day. As of 2023 there where 2,297 new case loads freshley snatched up for the industry. Sadly it is estimated that of these children, AT LEAST 50% will go directly into the adult justice system. where they will seem to fit right in. 40% will experience abuse in some form for the first time in the system. The only positive news is that of these kids, 2% will get a two year degree. WAIT...oh thats not good. (source= Chat GBT4)

@kaclama 26 күн бұрын

@@FOSTERINGREALITYLifeAfterF-z5d These are important considerations, however, note that Chat GPT doesn't check facts. It's just a tool to produce text, and it's up to the user to verify that text. I'm not saying your stats are correct or not (I don't know), just saying that it's important to not automatically take what Chat GPT says as fact.

@lovekyds 29 күн бұрын

In training they tell us. It’s not if but when

@jenniferkitchenoir281 24 күн бұрын

Omg ridiculous! I would understand if it was the other way around & you had a person living with you that wasn’t on record. You don’t even have any fosters in your care right now.

@kellypat125 Ай бұрын

What if you have a 17 yo living with you and they turn 18 and they keep living there, would you have to update your home study then or just simply notify them?

@BeTheVillageCommunity Ай бұрын

In my state, that’s a full update

@woof5797 Ай бұрын

How do they have time to check in with you if you don’t have current foster kids in the home?

@BeTheVillageCommunity Ай бұрын

It’s a requirement. And it is also necessary to keep current licensed foster caregivers engaged to retain them. But also, I reached out to them for the update.

@nicolewooldridge9683 27 күн бұрын

Caseworker/social workers aren’t experts. They can over time become very knowledgeable. Consider someone straight out of University, young, still living at home never been around children, is your worker. They are still learning and I know they don’t have all the answers. Skill yourself up and know what is important. Don’t rely on the Social Worker.

@isabellaearnhardt6380 Ай бұрын

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@amys5669 Ай бұрын

You advocate for change through your state legislature. You have to identify a rep with backing willing to sponsor a bill. A group of foster parents in Maryland have tried to get legislation introduced the last several years to give us some basic rights beyond the 'foster parent bill of rights'. It is shocking to watch the testimony on Zoom. First, so many of our elected officials don't even listen to the testimony. Then, attorneys for child welfare blatantly lie. It is truly sad to watch when we are asking for things such as being allowed to attend court hearings (not being asked to leave). In perfect world, we wouldn't need to. The caseworkers would truthfully represent the case and would share with us what happened in court. It's not a perfect world. That doesn't always happen. We are supposed to be notified in writing of court hearings. We aren't even always notified. Trying to get notification for foster parents through the court the same way parents and attorneys are notified went nowhere. They actively work against foster parents when they are in such need for them to care for children.

@amys5669 Ай бұрын

I just did some more reading on the FB page for the group and they took the last year off due to political climate and opposition. You may be able to find the recordings of the 2022 testimony HEARING ON HB 1155 THURSDAY MARCH 10TH from Maryland legislature.