I would go back to the salon and ask the stylist to re-tone your hair. It has happened to me before.

Would have to be a pretty dumpy person to spank a traumatized child. 😮

I adopted my daughter 18yrs ago through foster. She is currently almost 21 and enrolled in free college through dfps aftercare. She has a lot of needs and also bx issues and has been offered something called PAL program here in Houston Tx which provides housing, job training and life skills when they age out. She is currently homeless since before delivery of her baby boy whom we have had in our home since he was born. She wont stay within a shelter or home because of the lack of ability to tolerate rules (no matter how basic) but she is finally utilizing the opportunities in our county for education. What an honor to have made such an impact for this young adult!

My friend was fostering a 3 year old, it should have been 3 months while parents got it together unfortunately dad is serving 7 years and mom has been in and out of rehab.so my friend ended up adopting. I understand the goal is getting the kids back to the parents but in a lot of cases parents are junkies and can't get it together.

ME: HEHEHEHEHEHEHEEE...

What a beautiful idea to continue to support where you can.

Miss A is getting so used to your family and you wouldn’t be able to tell you hadn’t known her your whole life

They took my son off all 3 medications.He was on after being in a mental facility less than a month than they took custody. They said that they could not force him to take his medication or go to school , so he got Behind in school and rather than seeing at the air this month so week he stopped seeing them at all and rather than taking his three medications a day he took done. Because in less than 24 hours, they knew more about what my son needed mentally and physically.Then an entire hospital of doctors and psychiatrist. When they did send him home after they realized they f***** u* They had changed his insurance to his father's and let him pay for it. But rather than giving me a card that just texted me the numbers. I go to the Doctor because while he was in their custody they had a wreck and he his head hurt his ear and his knee. I take him to the Doctor and they say they can't just use the numbers. And I don't even have all the numbers.. I call while at the counter at his doctor and they tell me to call my abusive ex husband and ask him when they were the ones that changed the insurance...the entire 15 years of life my son had after his father quit even pretending to care.I had made sure he had insurance.He was with them for less than a year.They change his insurance.And they want me to speak to somebody that I have not spoke to since my son was a toddler. I have a protection order against him in 2 states.I don't even think I'm allowed to contact him.And he wasn't allowed to contact my son.But they forced my son to speak to him only to see what a piece of shit he was and how mean he was to our child.And him missing 98% of all hearings and lack of child support until he was 12 However, if what you are saying is true and children can be removed for not having healthcare, why is it okay for them to change a child's health care and send them home without the parent... Who is now the legal guardian having any way to get their child seen by a Doctor because you do not give them the insurance card.. I was more than willing to give them all his medication. And insurance card because I knew how important it was and how long I had tried and begged to get him to go to a therapist. And it was finally successful and they took all that work and all that effort and flesh it down a f****** toilet and returned him with a messed up ear, a busted knee and more mentally depressed than I've ever seen him. And over a year behind in school. They didn't even give him credit for the school that he was in in the state.He was before we moved here. Or the school I have been paying for. Or the the alternative school that the state sent him to. The lady at the alternative school said they would never give him those credits.I thought she was joking, but not only did they not give him credits.Nowhere he ever went to school with them.Did they give him even a quarter of a credit that transferred. They literally took credits away from him that you got in another state.They took him away from his psychiatrist.They took him off his medication.They took him away from his mother.They took him away from his home and they sent him back home as soon as they had injured him. Only to have no insurance to be able to take care him.I had enough money to take him to the Doctor to have him checked out.And they saw that there were multiple problems. But without insurance getting cat scans and x rays are kind of difficult. The last 2 months he was there. I was having to buy him canned soup and food because they were only feeding him once a day. He could not go out to the cafeteria because other kids were threatening to beat him up. So they said that they would bring him food, but they would only bring once a day. So he was literally eating one meal, a f****** day.. I'm sure a lot of the people involved in foster care are great people. But as you are saying, people have no idea that dumb a** reasons that they take children away and do not care the repercussions that the family has they're out of the system. They don't give a f*** about you or your child. Or if he has insurance or food or anything once their home u will have to clean up their mess on top of the one you already needed help with .The people that may be fostering may be good people. But the people that decide where the children go are f***** u* because, rather than admitting that they're wrong or that they can't do anything to control this child or that they can't make this child go to a psychiatrist or take their medicine. Then they say that they don't need it.They get in trouble.The foster parent Kicks them out. 11 homes 2 hospitals and group homes in under 11 months ..does that sound healthy for anyone. A kitty cat cant even mentally handle that many moves in a short time but put that on s teenager full of hormones and confussion. He gets kicked out the last time the 11th ..What do they do take him to the hospital. What's wrong with him?Nothing but says they're not giving him therapy or his psychiatric medicine. I ask whats wrong im informed they are looking for placement. The foster parent he had before. That would not allow him to call. Had nothing to do with us not being able to speak But as soon as he was away from her and out of the hospital, we began weekly visitations. Had everything changed in 1 week. Away it didn't they were wrong. They want. Ed me to follow a plan.My plan was make sure my bills were paid and pass drug test. My f****** house.All my bills had been paid and have been for years nd I don't take any drugs that aren't prescribed to me. When my son was returned, there were people in the courtroom.Clapping for me for finishing my plan.I don't think they had a clue that my plan was pretty much.Continue do what you're doing right now and have been doing. The scar. S that they left on eyes are deeper than any problems.We have or probably will ever have with one another.

First motel 6 then hospital... Let us all thank devon fritz for not caring about my son when they kept him in a hospital 5 days bc they couldn't find placement and he wasnr sick. It was the only place she could find . Go Georgia Defects

Merry Christmas 💗🎄✝️

Very fun! I love these traditions!

Wow the kids are huge!

I used to be a foster kid, and this channel makes me so excited to become a foster mom. I want to do everything I can to help children like me. The one thing I must add is just make sure to tell them their rights as a foster child. My guardian refused to tell us our rights so if we ended up feeling unsafe we didn't know that we could switch homes and/or call our social worker.

I can’t believe I’ve been here for 5 years. Darcy and Sawyer are so grown up I feel so old !! 😂 sounds like you’re doing what’s best for your family ❤

Omg ridiculous! I would understand if it was the other way around & you had a person living with you that wasn’t on record. You don’t even have any fosters in your care right now.

As hard as it is to get foster parents you would think that agencies and people who make the policies would make the process easier. I think that the standard for care is vastly different from state to state.

I love how empathetic you are. I could only wish for a parental figure that kind…

Caseworker/social workers aren’t experts. They can over time become very knowledgeable. Consider someone straight out of University, young, still living at home never been around children, is your worker. They are still learning and I know they don’t have all the answers. Skill yourself up and know what is important. Don’t rely on the Social Worker.

I was the biological child of my mother and step child to me step dad and we had an adopted brother, a foster sister and foster brother. I bonded with my siblings and never got over the loss of the foster siblings.

In training they tell us. It’s not if but when

Okay, Penny is seriously the cutest dog I have ever seen!😭 I don’t even like dogs lol

Seeing Darcy copying you, and then you smiling at her, just melted my heart.💕 My mom would have hit me even at that age.😅

Omg THIS is the video I needed to see, especially being a single person

Alberta doesn’t use “violation” in their caregiver language. They keep it positive. Caregivers work with a caseworker, but each caregiver is assigned our own support worker. I never had a support worker in the states. Having that support worker has been crucial to the success we’ve had in the last 11.5 years here. If for any reason, we are having a lot of difficulties, our support worker speaks with us, asks questions, and then figures out, do we need more respite, 4-6 months of hiring a housekeeping service, etc. The support workers are there to prevent anything from going sideways. I’ve been so impressed with the system here. ❤

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How do they have time to check in with you if you don’t have current foster kids in the home?

Whitney. It's ok to pull the hair out of the corner of your eyeballs. My eyes are watering watching the last two videos Oh finally you did!

You advocate for change through your state legislature. You have to identify a rep with backing willing to sponsor a bill. A group of foster parents in Maryland have tried to get legislation introduced the last several years to give us some basic rights beyond the 'foster parent bill of rights'. It is shocking to watch the testimony on Zoom. First, so many of our elected officials don't even listen to the testimony. Then, attorneys for child welfare blatantly lie. It is truly sad to watch when we are asking for things such as being allowed to attend court hearings (not being asked to leave). In perfect world, we wouldn't need to. The caseworkers would truthfully represent the case and would share with us what happened in court. It's not a perfect world. That doesn't always happen. We are supposed to be notified in writing of court hearings. We aren't even always notified. Trying to get notification for foster parents through the court the same way parents and attorneys are notified went nowhere. They actively work against foster parents when they are in such need for them to care for children.

U look lovely friend 🌹glad ur able to talk about this to help those who don't .

We 'had' two children placed with us with the intent of being adopted. Without going into all the details, the youngest made allegations against us to her therapist. Thus, now an investigation is under way, right before Thanksgiving. Both children have been moved at this point and we are in limbo. Everything went down within a week and a half. The only real communication we are getting is, we will call you when the investigation is over, it will take 45-60 days. Meanwhile, we continue to attend our support group and talk to our support team (not case workers). There are many actions our support team is recommending we should have taken. 1) As the child was threatening to make allegations against us prior to her therapy appointment, we should have talked to the therapist in advance before her session. The discussion should have presented a clear understanding of what the child was saying and why she was upset. After the therapist talked to our child she was not able to communicate with us afterwards, is the key point here. 2) Documentation is always recommended, you can never have enough documentation. I have video of my oldest child threatening to kill us in our sleep as an example. 3) We were very open in communicating with our team but, at this point (1 month later) we have caught our case workers not being honest with us. Our support team always said it is not a matter of if allegations will happen but, when. They followed that up with, when it happens your case workers will disappear. They were right. 4) You can make a request for the investigative report once it is complete. I am not sure how that is going to help but, as I said, we have caught both our case worker and the children's case worker being dishonest with us. If we are even allowed to continue as foster or adoptive parents we would need a team we can trust. The children were with us for 16 months, much longer than it usually takes to adopt waiting children. Behaviors were declining. There were a lot of options the case workers could have chosen to eventually move the children from our home. The youngest had a mental breakdown and was hospitalized for a week, the children actually left as soon as we brought her home from the hospital, where our case worker was waiting for us to provide that news to all of us. We will always love them, we miss them very much, especially with the holiday's but, this is probably for the best for all four of us. Regardless, this two months of limbo not knowing what the investigator report is going to determine creates many sleepless nights. We have been fostering for over four years, we took a shot at adopting children on the waiting to adopt list but, that could all be over depending on the investigators report. We are in Kentucky, the children came from Ohio.

What if you have a 17 yo living with you and they turn 18 and they keep living there, would you have to update your home study then or just simply notify them?

I'm in GA. I have a dedicated retention case manager. She verbally check in with me monthly and in person quarterly. She is amazing. I can and have gone to her with issues and frustrations on many things. She is an excellent sounding board and stepped in for me when I was struggling with a placement's case manager.

Girl, your county (or counties) seem a lot more rigid than mine. I'm not sure that would have resulted in a violation in NY.

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22:10 omg every time I see Mac & Cheese, Hot Cheetos, or Oatmeal Cream Pies, I think of Miss A now🥹

Tacky?! That place looked like an absolute blast!🤣😍

She seems so sweet <333

I'm a single foster parent of 2 1/2 years. I take in older kids/younger teens. Let's just say that just about everything that could have gone wrong did with my 2nd set of placements, and I got burned & burned out so hard. Debated letting my lisence lapse but ultimately decided to renew but stay on hold. Only to have my first set of kids come back into care. 😭 My health and mental state was shot from the last round, but I ended taking just one of the kids back in. (Heart-wrenching, but a good home was found for the other.) She's with me now for the foreseeable future. I've done a lot of personal healing work amidst this, but it's hard while actively fostering. I've prayed a lot and determined I'll close my license when she no longer needs me. This season of my life is drawing to an end. I may start from scratch again one day (maybe with a spouse should God bring that about), but my time as a single foster parent is drawing to a close. It's encouraging to hear from others who have a similar struggle and to know it IS okay to close my license and find other ways I can support.

I was that kid too. But in a different home of course. This is where my case worker told me I was a cry baby and that's the problem. Oh and she had been my worker for the last 4 years at that time.

Around 8:27 when you mention no expectation in return. That hits. And as a ex I foster I encourage you to consider the personal convoys you two have shared. I promise she or he or whoever will remember you. For your true care. I have many memories of heart felt conversations that litterely got me through.

Thank you for even caring. I remember being moved. Alot. By time I was 12 ADHD had just came out and all the state kids got to try it. As you know state kids that you "inherit" with already preexisting medical tratment, it's on you to see that it's taken. At the time I was probably 12-13 and I wasn't hyper. I was traumatized. The "mom" was saw the supper and depression it put me in and tried to fight to have me off of it. I know now as an adult in contact with different sets of my old parents. Many who never thought they'd hear from me again, have said I was worth more to the "community" if I had the label...."high risk". That year I got pulled and moved out of that town. I also bumped up in pay. From a SCF KID to a OYA KID. I've spent the last 25 years trying to fit into society as a "productive member" and not an inmate. Honestly I did have a few good people go through my life but I did this on my own. I was absolutely doomed to fail. Some may have really wanted what's best but the entire system is not designed for this. It's what's best for the system! Please check out "FOSTERING REALITY" and give your honest opinion. It's not for everyone.

11:48 how the hell does she do that on her own head?!🤣 so impressive

Honestly I would be excited for jury duty too🤣

Damn, coming from a cosmetologist, she is a natural!

Would you consider being a court appointed special advocate. I’ve been considering it and with the information I’ve gotten it seems like it might be a way for you to interact with foster youth and advocate for them without having to be a foster parent.

Done being foster parents?

Surrender your life to Jesus. He is real. He will only reveal himself to weak and humble and will not show himself to the proud. It’s the only way to handle these situations. We are licensed for trauma enhanced sibling groups and teens. It’s only by my full surrender to Jesus can I walk this path of this calling to Love regardless of the situation. “But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.” ‭‭2 Corinthians‬ ‭12‬:‭9‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Girl take your time ! to rest and reaccomodate everything, you and your family... and then (if you really want to) come back stronger... doesn't make you less of a good person, or less credible in any way, on the contrary, it shows you as a really responsible caregiver (we can't take care of anyone if we don't take care of ourselves first)

We wanted to Foster full-time, but it doesn’t work for my child. So now we offer respite. That works out nicely for my child and still allows us to participate in supporting Foster youth.

I am a caregiver who recently turned 21 and I plan on submitting my foster application next week. However, my biggest fear is the fact that I do not have support from my family. I was completely abandoned at 16 years old and barely had support from my family growing up. Will this deeply affect my foster child? I want to make sure they have a strong, loving support system, but to be honest, I don’t have much of that myself. Any tips? It would be so much appreciated.