BEWARE These 3 Types Of Women

Are you tired of relationships that leave you feeling drained and undervalued? In this insightful video, Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, with 15 years of marriage and professional expertise, delves into the three types of women to steer clear of in the modern dating world.
Discover how to protect your peace, self-worth, and potential by avoiding the Self-Absorbed Queen, the Ice Princess, and the Passionate Tempest. Adam provides practical strategies for recognizing toxic patterns, securing your attachment style, and finding a partnership that truly fulfills you.
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[@lovenosa1105]

I’m just here to make sure I don’t have any of the traits 😂😂

[@AttachmentAdam]

@lovenosa1105 Self-awareness is a good thing! Any surprises in what you've discovered?

[@anthonyharmon9265]

Sounds like denial to me

[@user-yq7ud5vt2j]

​@@AttachmentAdam the queen treatment is a mainstay in asian and arabic marriages which tend to outlast white men's 50-50 "marriage"..

[@randerbear84]

@@lovenosa1105 same!

[@Chemistry727]

Also- The wounded bird. Draws on your desire to be a hero. Draws you into conflicts with others on her behalf.

[@Regina.Clarke]

Depends… she may be open and willing to self reflect. Some people need to learn boundaries so end up wounded until the realize the lacked it. If she isn’t willing to be accountable, red flag.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Huge red flag right there, in both parties!

[@cappygurl]

Adam could you make the male version of the 3 type of men?

[@AttachmentAdam]

@cappygurl Many are curious about a male version! I'll see what I can do 👍

[@changingwoman1494]

Adam, we're still waiting.

[@rianeufeld5563]

I thought guys wanted women to disappear right after sex????? Isn't that all they want from us????? Isn't this the perfect woman??

[@user-yq7ud5vt2j]

@@AttachmentAdam if you dont address the opposite, you're just another redpill tater of the soy persuasion

[@youtubeaccountserio2633]

Womens are 1000% more prone on to ruining someones life

[@RetreatHell]

Brother, WHERE THE HELL were you 20 years ago in my late teens and early twenties?!?! I’m happily married now, but I definitely could’ve used you then Lol. 😂 In all seriousness, I’m so grateful that you’re doing all that you’re doing, especially for men. You’ve also REALLY helped me personally figure out the “why” with some of my past relationships not working out, and why I was so attracted to certain women I’ve dated in years past.

[@AttachmentAdam]

@RetreatHell It's never too late! I'm grateful you're here now. How has your understanding of relationships evolved from my work? Not for previous relationships, but in your marriage?

[@maureengriffin7448]

I’ve seen so many Princesses… and men drool over them lol

[@maureengriffin7448]

Now do one on the 3 men

[@miyabiparis]

Spot on ! But the same for men. There are so many men equivalent to your description!

[@Regina.Clarke]

Yep just shows up slightly differently.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Agreed, men have their own bad variations!

[@anthonyharmon9265]

Nope...women are 10 times these types and more common. Dont believe me? Go to family court one day and see what women do to men. Women initiate 80% of divorces while divorced men are 9 times more likely to commit suicide so thinking this is all 50/50 behavior in both genders you are grossly mistaken. Not saying there arent bad men of course there are but dont start with the man hating bs. This video is for MEN.

[@Adriana.Gabriela]

As a woman, I avoid these types of women too. They don't make good friends either. I do want to add that good women can be intense too sometimes, but not overbearing with focusing just on you, nor other mentioned things. We're all different. From my experience, it's easy to see to difference between the good and the bad ones is trying to raise issues with them. The good ones will want to talk. Even if they're not sure how, they will try and they will listen

[@AttachmentAdam]

That's really insightful, glad that this video helped you discover the type of women that you want to be friends with.

[@GodHelpMe369]

I am filled with, and consumed with: rage and grief. I desperately want to die, I can no longer bear the darkness...

[@AttachmentAdam]

Please reach out to me through [e-mail] so we can talk. I'd love to help any way I can.

[@anthonyharmon9265]

Mine was a #2, the ice princess. When dating it was sex all the time...then we had children and over time all sex stopped, zero intimacy or affection and she grew extremely hateful, spiteful and vindictive. All this despite her not working and me paying for her lifestyle. This hell lasted for 16 years. It ended 5 weeks ago and through the divorce, child custody/support her true colors came out. To call her an evil, heartless monster would be sugar coating it. But all things are made right at some point and when her day comes I wouldnt want to be her.

[@AttachmentAdam]

I am so sorry to hear this. I hope the kids are doing OK as they make this adjustment. Learning attachment on your end might be the best shot at helping them learn about love and connection. Keep going, and let me know how I can help.

[@Claframb]

These behaviors sound like cluster B type problems

[@AttachmentAdam]

Many of them yes

[@poopenlicht6448]

Thanks Adam. Can I suggest a timestamp for this video and future videos? To separate the topic, 3 types of women, in the 3 parts?

[@absolute3112]

#3 is something more to explore, because this is how I am..but the change isnt a manipulation, its the response to the guy changing and becoming complacent in relationship with me.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Becoming complacent and taking you for granted is definitely a separate issue

[@budatrox9171]

Married to an ice queen for almost 20 years. Recently divorced and to be honest still hurting real bad. Take the time to really understand who you are getting involved with.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Wow, 20 years is a long time. It's completely understandable that you'd be hurting after a divorce, even if things weren't sunshine and rainbows. What are some things you're finding helpful during this time?

[@Detour-2002]

Thank you Adam for this content I found it educational and insightful. I learned that to her three types of queens or princesses to look out for, and also got the insight to look at it might being attached because I’m lonely, or if I’m intoxicated by the love bombing. Not to act on impulse, but to act on what my gut is telling me.

[@Detour-2002]

I can’t really give you an example in a relationship that I’ve been because I put my female companions in queen status, or princess status immediately

[@AttachmentAdam]

Hey there, glad to hear from you again! Good news that you're learning these types. Getting your own attachment squared away first is the best way to defend against these types - they won't even really want you that way.

[@maureengriffin7448]

Shit. I think I’m with an ICE PRINCE!

[@mayahabchi4127]

Met the male version of the third type of woman you described, was exactly like you described, couldn't have worded it better: you get eaten alive 😢

[@ryangray2276]

Hey adam! I love your content and how consistent it is throughout all subjects. It would be interesting if you made a piece of content about what really forms these monsterous traits in certain women. Id imagine that the queen would be a woman that has been physically blessed with a level of attractive qualities that gives her attention literally everywhere she's goes. Which leads to a level of delusional self worth that sparks an ego explosion. Id imagine the ice princess comes from a woman that has been taught that all men are destructive beings that dont deserve genuine love And id imagine that the temptress is a woman that craves all of the attention that she never got growing up, back handed with the power and control she never felt like she had. Would love your take!

[@AttachmentAdam]

Hey there, good feedback! Thanks! What I've seen is that attachment issues form the basis of NOT connecting with other human beings in a loving or empathetic way. That opens the door for all kinds of broken behavior, whether exploitative or doormat. It all comes back to those childhood attachments in the end and what they had to do to feel safe as a kid.

[@ryangray2276]

I can see what you're saying. Maybe something like the queen used material things or attention as an outlet of gratification, the ice princess has never had a warm relationship hence making her bonding methods ice cold, and the temptress not getting the love she needed as a kid and holds a level of resentment from it. Different reasons per unique individual. Thanks for the reply, keep being great! Hope to see you more on mindpump as well (where I discovered you)

[@tiagoquirino2214]

Spot on; dated all three 😅

[@AttachmentAdam]

Oh no! Fix that pattern!

[@samanthaseaward6631]

I watched to see if I’m one 😂😂 thankfully not 💪 i love your videos. I got some great advice for building great relationships with my kids. Your 10 min play time/one on one time is game changing!

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad to hear this is not you! And love to hear the 10 minute approach is working for your family!

[@brogers1559]

Yeah, and the absolute horror of marrying a woman who is all three! Yup... Also noticed that you have "No More Mr. Nice Guy" on your shelf... Excellent book!!

[@AttachmentAdam]

@brogers1559 It's a great book for personal growth! Have you found it helpful in your life?

[@brogers1559]

@@AttachmentAdam Yes, but I need to read it a few more times... I'm definitely a recovering nice guy!

[@nannuky1128]

watching it as a woman to see if I'm one of them.

[@AttachmentAdam]

What was your final decision?

[@nannuky1128]

@@AttachmentAdam looks like none of them 😅 thought I might be the Ice Princess - until you mentioned starting with sex, while I leave that for marriage, sooo.

[@PsychologistSabira]

I came here to see if I am any of these archetype. And ends up finding that my bf is combo of first and last one. I am curious, hence asking....if these archetype are gender specific? If yes then kindly upload a similar video about men archetypes that women needs to stay clear off!

[@AttachmentAdam]

@sibshakir9130 Gender archetypes can certainly be interesting to explore, thank you for the suggestion!

[@youtubeaccountserio2633]

Where is the worse one? The NPD???

[@AttachmentAdam]

NPD is different because it's a personality disorder and not an attachment style. However, I encourage you to watch my short video titled 'Avoidant vs NPD' and let me know if it clarifies things.

[@youtubeaccountserio2633]

@@AttachmentAdam thank you sir! For what you do to make normal people like us who unfortunately get in contact with these people who we let ourselves walk on! However the best advice ever is to move on and not play their SICK games, that’s the only way you truly win, nor AVPDs nor NPDS or sometimes individuals with both are ever capable of not hurting their partners, did their trauma teach them to hurt others? They’re gonna be alone forever, its better not to let them drag normal people with them. Thank you again sir

[@youtubeaccountserio2633]

@@AttachmentAdam can I recommend a video where you sir share your view on how to move on from this ABUSIVE beyond abusive relationships? Am talking about avpd in specific

[@randerbear84]

What if he hurt me and made me feel like and told me i disgusted him and that was why he cheated on me for a long time...... while i was sick. I am all over the place now, in direct response to how poorly i have been treated, spoken to, and disrespected? I definitely have my issues and my wrongs, fire real though is it possible that we are both broken people?

[@positivel5530]

Adam, I am chaotic and detached if I see inconsistency and feel like my boyfriend is lying to me. My boyfriend finds me asking for reassurance to be a negative. Is that toxic ? We are in a long distance relationship. When there’s a break in the emotional connection for long periods of time and there’s no physical affection I tend to need a lot of validation. I feel I’m intense at first but if my partner reciprocates in a way that is genuine and not to get his needs met then I calm down and can settle into love but if I see red flags then I tend to ask questions and ask for a lot of reassurance. Which has turned them away. Am I toxic for asking for reassurance ?

[@AttachmentAdam]

It's understandable to seek reassurance in a long-distance relationship, especially when you feel disconnected. Your need for reassurance isn't toxic, but it's important to find a balance and communicate effectively with your partner. I encourage you to reach out to me through [e-mail] so we can discuss this in more detail and I'll share the different ways you can feel reassured without overwhelming your partner.

[@danladd4764]

I think i been with all these types before

[@AttachmentAdam]

Glad you have learned to spot them and are not with any of these now!

[@erikstormtrooper]

Adam, what's the appeal of the ice princess in your opinion?

[@oambitiousone7100]

Sex upfront.

[@AttachmentAdam]

A lot of sex up front and then the craving for their approval once they withdraw.

[@hankmarsh1474]

Also women of 40 who listen to Taylor Swift. And women over 40 who watch “The Bachelorette”

[@AttachmentAdam]

There are many red flags to watch out for!

[@absolute3112]

😆😆😆😆😆😆You have to be joking. No one is going to be successful in dating making such broad generalizations like this. yall always focus on the wrong things... smh maybe wmn likes TS music, her message, her backstory. Maybe she watches Bachelorette because she likes the hair, clothing. I watch Drag Race, because of the artistry of the costumes, I was going to school for COSTUME DESIGN. lol . We're all allowed our guilty pleasures and should NOT be judged for them. Maybe some of things you enjoy, look like youre a complete psychopath to someone until its explained. ssmh

[@hankmarsh1474]

Lighten up. It’s obviously a joke.

[@donaldsodav290]

Tempest= Borderline?

[@cappygurl]

The tempest is the fearful/avoidant or disorganized. I know I used to be heavy.

[@donaldsodav290]

@@cappygurl which is amplified 1000X in the borderline cluster B subtype.

[@AttachmentAdam]

Or Disorganized Style, which can be a smaller version of BPD

[@AttachmentAdam]

Precisely

[@AttachmentAdam]

Typically

[@redbabywins]

Ok hold on… ice princess sounds like an avoidant woman doesn’t it?

[@JoelPit]

That's what I thought