biggest hair change in YEARS & we need to talk about babies

[@sarahkhan1081]

The baby conversation resonates so much. I’m 35, married and we have no intention of procreating at present. Thank you for sharing these thoughts.

[@Makeupbyrach18]

I’m 40 and having a hysterectomy this coming year and people still ask us all the time if we want kids or if we’ll change our minds. It’s exhausting! We also don’t want any.

[@gabrielleolson4756]

I hope to find a guy that also doesn’t want kids someday

[@rachelbhall]

I COMPLETELY AGREE!!!!!!!! Thank you!!!!! I get those questions all the time and don’t understand. The world is already overpopulated and without care in many parts of the world. My ego is not big enough to think the world just needs more of my genetics. I’m kind, full of empathy, love and a powerful women: I don’t want to have children! There’s nothing wrong with me.

[@azsakamoto4582]

Im 36 and still never woke up and wanted to have a child. My husband is 39 and he feels the same. ❤ Our parents know the fur babies r their grand babies🎉. We love that u dont use filters.. we love u and how u make us feel!

[@deloresd7500]

Allana first love the bangs! Second so happy you are talking about women and babies. As someone in their 40s with no babies, I love my life everyday. And if you want babies, have them. Don’t let anything pressure you to do anything outside of your dream life. Society will catch up ❤

[@TaylorTpot]

Thankyou so much for your honest thoughts on the baby topic. People create sooooo much pressure on women about having children, and its exhausting. When it is absolutley okay for a woman to not want children, or want to wait until they are older. Women are allowed to love babies, and love other peoples babies, without wanting their own, and we don't need people breathing down our necks about it. Also what you described about people being like "iMaGInE dOinG tHaT wItH a BaBY" that is one of my biggest pet peeves in life lol. They say it like a jab to us and it makes me insaaaaaane. We can't ever have a hard day or anything because it apparently isn't hard enough unless you also have a baby

[@Maddimurch]

Thank you so much for chatting about your feelings on having kids. I feel the exact same way as you, so know you also aren’t alone!🥰 ALSO, the curtain bangs and darker hair is a vibe🤗 looks amazing on you!!

[@dogwalker97]

When people pressure others with questions and opinions about having kids, it’s really more about them (their values, their criteria for a “successful” life, what defines a regret, etc) and not you.

[@girlygurrrl7]

I've never understood why people care so much. They aren't the ones raising the children so what difference does it make to them? I feel like it's because people don't have anything else to talk about so they just bring up children not knowing how frustrating it is. I'm 32 and my husband is 35 and we still don't think we want kids, but we are getting a ton of pressure from people. Like what are we going to do when we are older? Who are we going to spend time with? Like again, how does that affect you? It's our decision that we have to live with. So glad you brought this up because I'm dealing with it currently as well.

[@rachelnoel323]

Same here!!! I’m 35 and in a very happy marriage & I really don’t have the desire

[@nyrhtak03]

I think people with kids push the idea of kids on to others to validate their own life choices 🙄 So annoying. And I say that as someone with 3 kids myself 😆

[@efirw]

people tend to have a issue with women today having a say on basically anything also with seeing a particularly successful woman having the independence to spend their money on themselves or with their homes, on vacations etc and that also applies to couples because people are really bothered when they see "carefree" independent people living their lives

[@JenAlguire]

Okay Dejan!!! Keep being that sweet, swoony hubs for our Lan!!! 🥹 The baby conversation… I too grew up with not only a lot of siblings, my mom ran a daycare in our house! I snuggled babies everyday from the time I was old enough to hold them! They were my real life dolls! Babies were always part of my plans, but in my mid 30’s I was still not in a serious place with a fella and knew I was speeding along to my ‘no babies at this age’ of life. So, no babies for me. I love them! Babies make me cry because they are truly miraculous! Don’t feel pressured, just listen to your own self, and what you and Dejan want and what may be will be! ♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@guzmangadriana]

As someone who was never a baby person and took 5 years married to conceive I see you! Now I have 3 and waiting was the best thing we ever did! Take your time and if the feeling never comes that’s completely ok too!

[@ashleighlock6059]

You are spot on about the kids conversation, especially the attitude around nothing is good enough unless you’ve done it with kids (which those same people know is really hard so they just want you to struggle?!) I felt the same way as you, I had my first son at 35 and second at 38, I’m considered an old Mum but I couldn’t care less. I enjoyed my life & my relationship before I threw kids into the mix.

[@chrstnaw]

THANK YOU for speaking to this complex subject about not necessarily wanting children as a woman in your 30s and society’s response to it. It resonated so strongly with me!

[@lindyralph8792]

Cool toned hair is 100% the most flattering colour on you, and with that green jumper - OMG, stunning! My hair is naturally an ashy blonde but now that I'm old it throws red and I hate it. I recently got a cool toner done and a workmate said 'I love how it has that little bit of red' and I'm like 'noooooooooooo'.

[@evelynrodriguez9238]

As someone who struggled with infertility for years, multiple surgeries and can finally say I’m pregnant with my first baby THANK YOU for acknowledging those going through this tough journey and how hurtful it is when we are constantly asked when we are having kids!

[@jilla8503]

Thank you for recognizing us women who wanted children so badly but couldn’t conceive. I totally respect your decision. I wish ppl wouldn’t ask other women constantly about why they don’t have children yet as well. You will definitely get the urge to want to have them if you do if not that’s ok too❤

[@Sophie-5]

49 years old,, no kids, noooo regrets! Your life, YOUR choices! People need to respect whatever one chooses, imo.

[@mashantha]

Your thoughts on babies are exactly the thoughts I currently have! It’s crazy how you echoed every thought, feeling, emotion I have around this almost word for word. In my early 30s, married for a bit and have never felt this maternal instinct - at least as of yet. Also yes, I feel like a child myself - so the thought of opting into the responsibility of another whole human is scary to say the least. Thank you for having these honest conversations even though I am sure it opens you up to a lot of random attacks online.

[@MultiRumorhasit]

Your new hair looks so so beautiful!!

[@jessieradies]

First - you have tons of time to have kids, so don’t feel any time pressure. And Second - if you don’t feel ready, you are not ready, and that’s OK - it’s OK to not have kids, you can have a wonderfully rich life without them. (And I am a mom of two amazing young women). So take your time, figure it out and don’t feel like having children are a requirement to a fulfilling life. Plus - every young person also needs an amazing Aunty.

[@slove444]

I’ve been waiting to want to have kids and I am now 41 and accepting that it won’t happen. I love my simple stress-free life with my husband. I understand how it feels when everyone around you is having kids. I used to feel fomo but I know that’s not a reason to do it.

[@gabrielleolson4756]

34 and feeling this change where all my friends are having kids and I’m single and unsure still

[@juelclyne7392]

The conversation “to have or not to have kids” resonated so much. I’ve never felt that I wanted kids growing up and don’t have any and have no plans of having any and absolutely love my life with no regrets whatsoever. Love ❤️ the bangs ❤

[@Jjotc23]

The hair color looks soooo good 😍

[@bettyalexkollias8058]

I've been married for 26yrs and we tried everything to have a baby. Found people to be so mean, constantly insinuating how selfish we were not having kids. Then, not inviting us to anything just cause we didn't have kids. Their loss. Me and sexy hubby are still happy, laughing all the time. Plus, have 2 kitties, cuddles and monkey that make me sooooooooooo happy. xo

[@samanthaflood6216]

So happy to hear influencers like you and Victoria talking about child-free living as a viable choice. Or even just acknowledging that you might want to wait and don't have everything figured out just yet. It's such an important conversation that often gets lost in the noise, so thanks for turning the volume up a bit.

[@lvfreddy84]

You are so valid in your thoughts. Old society 'ways' will always seep into current context - the value of a woman was to birth.... we are so much more than that. As a mom of 2 (11 and 13 year old girls... who I hope will never feel this pressure) I have to say that you'll never regret the kids you have BUT you'll also never regret the kids you don't have. I love my children so damn much, but if I was in my 20's now... and coming up into adulthood now, I think I would choose a different path. You do you. You are living a beautiful life no matter what.

[@elizabethburkhardt966]

Take your time. You do you, you’ll know if that’s what you want . Love the bangs ❤

[@cLion926]

Thank you for talking about the pressure women face. Thank you for bringing up how it’s unacceptable for women to not want to. Thank you for talking about what you want❤. Love your vlogs and fashion content also 😅

[@kristasferrazza7046]

Love your hair! Taking notes and showing my hair stylist! Also thank you for sharing your thoughts about children, so validating and refreshing to hear thoughts that I’ve also had myself! ❤ lots of love!

[@julsz528]

I love love your new cut !! It really does make your eyes pop and love the layers in it ..

[@Mors-j6s]

Thank you for the "having baby's" talk - so real, so genuine. Thank you!

[@azinz6207]

thank you for being the amazing you and know you're not alone ❤ you look even more beautiful with your natural hair color ✨

[@michellesimenson8191]

Love the hair and agree wholeheartedly on the babies conversation. You’re amazing and thank you for brightening my day ❤😊😻

[@megansmith2818]

So much pressure 😭 you said it so well, our worth and future seems to rely on having kids. I can’t imagine just jumping into having a kid until I’m ready! Thank you for speaking about this❤️ But major respect for all the mamas at the same time🙏

[@ananyagupta3793]

Everything about this video was so wholesome that I can’t choose one❤ I’m not one to comment usually but I felt compelled to do so because I came to this video not in a good mood and by the end of it I feel so warm, things that were talked about like babies and filters...thankyou! Just can’t articulate better, thankyou for being real and almost like a warm hug felt from this video 🌻

[@57athina]

Oh. You gave me at least 4 new outfit ideas that I already have in my closet, reminded me to actually finish A Court of Thorns and Roses, and even though I’m a Mother of three wonderful humans that are grown now older than you, your thoughts about parenthood somehow resonated. Two of my children have 3 each but my youngest and his wife are child free. And perfectly happy. When you’re ready if ever, you will know. I never planned my pregnancies. But I now have my best friends in the whole world. My forever people.

[@cathyhanson5885]

Hi Allana, it’s ok if you don’t want children, not everyone does, don’t let anyone pressure you, you have to do what’s best for you. Your life does change when you have children but you can still have a career and do things you enjoy, it’s a little harder but not impossible. You still have plenty of time to think about what you want in your life, you are young so just enjoy yourself..🍁

[@tonii2019]

I used to be offended by people when they asked me and my husband about kids but now that I’m in my 30’s I just stopped caring what people think and chose not to accept any “societal pressure.” I realized most of my family and friends meant well by asking. My maternal clock is indeed ticking so I also realized it’s just a natural, stage-of-life question for people to ask (Like when you graduate from school, and the usual next question is, “are you working yet?”) My perspective changed on this when different family members and a close friend were experiencing fertility issues/infertility. It was so good for me to have an honest discussion on this topic with them. It gave a deeper understanding around conceiving which would have never happened if they didn’t ask me about kids. P.S. I’m glad you included the FT convo with Dejan in this vlog. It was so loving and wholesome!🫶 Excited for LANmas!! 💚❤️

[@katiec102]

I will spend all of my 20s pursing a medical degree and I really struggle with the fact that I don’t think I will feel ready anytime between the ages of 30-36 but yet also know I will be under this immense pressure too. Being something I have always wanted I’ve just accepted that I honestly probably won’t be ready but that such is life. Idk that’s kind of a shitty answer but just letting you know you’re not alone in the feels 🖤🖤 writing this from my honeymoon! Got a Jenny too dress because of you 🖤🖤

[@lidiyaz.7354]

THEY’RE BANGS. hands down, no questions asked, they’re bangs & they’re gorgeous on you.

[@TheRegularjenn]

I totally feel you on the having children subject. I always thought it was strange that people say that I'll regret not having kids. Is that a good reason to have them? I don't think so; I think it's way more selfish to have a kid just in case you may regret it later. Live life how you want to!

[@BotanicAlley]

Anyone else agree... Allana is Daphne Bridgerton?

[@dogwalker97]

Your new hair style is beautiful!

[@mollywilliamsonx]

Loved this vlog, the topics perfectly resonate with me and the pressure put on women is horrendous!! So I’m sending lots of love and hugs! ❤️ Also, I’m a big tennis fan and love the tennis chats and content! You really look like Elina Svitolina!!! 😍😍😍

[@pinkstartwilight]

Your bang definition 😂 spot on haha

[@kuzmanator]

I’m a year older than you and have been with my bf for 8 years and I feel that same pressure and have been going through many of the same feelings and thoughts the past couple years about becoming a parent. Everything you’re saying is so valid and real and honestly proud of you for having such clear and intelligent thoughts around it. I do want a kid someday but so many things in my life make it really hard for me to think it can be any time soon and that makes me sad but also I’m thoroughly enjoying this time of my life now and the freedom we have. ❤ keep doing you

[@briannacharlton9865]

YOUR HAIR!! I loooove it 😍😍😍😍

[@nicolejohnstone9987]

Thank you for the baby conversation. The moment I got married (11 years ago), people asked when am I going to have kids. I can't have kids, and every time people ask if I have kids, or when am I going to have kids, it is triggering. It is a personal, sensitive and private topic that no one should ask or question about. There needs to be a societal change where no one should pressure anyone to have children, period. Also when people ask if I have kids, and I say no, it is like "too bad, I guess we can't hang out or be friends" because people with kids almost only hang out with other people who have kids.

[@carolinacarreon698]

This is what I wanted 🥹 loveeeeeeeeee how beautiful you look 😍♥️ great decision!!!

[@masqueradingfaces1022]

Love the hair colour!!!! You are giving Jessica Alba vibes ❤️❤️ My husband and I enjoyed being married and going on adventures just the two of us for quite a while. They didn’t think I could have kids and we were surprised when we found out the news and that has been a completely different adventure. But having that time with just my husband and me was invaluable and I’m so grateful for it 💗 I also have many friends who have chosen not to have babies but if they think they haven’t contributed to the success of my boys lives they are crazy! I’m so grateful for them and the unique perspective they are able to offer us and unique position to support my kiddos in a way I can’t always. No matter what the future holds there is always worth in what you choose ❤️❤️❤️

[@kuzmanator]

The bangs! As a straight banged person for most of my life these are absolutely bangs and I think that this style suits you more than a straight bang! Can’t wait to see you style them and have some more fun with your hair. ❤ low commitment big results

[@KariBartolone]

You definitely aren’t evil or selfish. If/when you have children I would love for you to do a reaction to this moment. ❤

[@RobinnLauraa]

Love your natural hair color. And the green sweater is made for you! I really like it layered with the blue. Definitely inspired me.

[@oliviahastie]

Only through the first part of the vid and just have to say… those Sezane pieces + your hair + your makeup are what fall DREAMS are made of 😍 catch me ordering every single thing and possibly getting bangs lol

[@MonicaRanger]

Hi Allana! I am 44 and I do not have children. I've been happily married for almost 25 years. My husband and I have never regretted the decision. We have a brand new baby nephew. I wondered if his coming into our life would make me want to have a baby, it did not. I love our sweet baby nephew and think he's the cutest little guy but my husband and I are good just the two of us. Great sweater + shirt combo! 💙💚

[@nonilady1577]

I love it!!! Aliana you do you when it comes to babies.

[@michellemori222]

You are beautiful in all your looks and this new hair style and color is amazing!!!

[@kimshine4011]

I love your hair! That color and cut looks so good on you!

[@elainemabray2919]

U look beautiful with the new hair❤

[@oliviahass6687]

thank you so much for the baby conversation - as I am approaching 30 shortly and all the women in my family who are my age are getting married and having kids it is truly the only question I ever get, when are you getting married and when are you having kids. And it's really hurtful considering I have spent the last decade working so hard on my career, being independent, reaching my own professional and financial goals - it's like nothing matters except getting married and having children, especially to the older generations of women, it's like they take it as a personal offense that you aren't following the path they chose. It's not cool and has made me feel distanced from the women in my family which I hate because I have been SO SUPPORTIVE of their life choices and goals.

[@bettibrenton2774]

Love love love the hair😍😍

[@masha_sw08]

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS BABY CHAT! This hits home. I am 31, but I am just a baaaaaabyyyyy.

[@AnnemiekeVreugdenhil]

I love your new colour and bangs!!

[@Itsangggsolano]

The pressure for what the “next step is” is awful and can make you feel like you’re behind. As someone with a baby at the age of 30, there is no pressure! Having kids not having kids is no one’s business. And people need to stop putting pressure or comparing their life with others with kids and no kids. Thanks for bringing this up for others ❤

[@barbaraveloz1730]

That green sweater is GORGEOUS ❤ Love the detail Love the new hair color and hairstyle. Ooooo that pleated skirt ❤

[@lizziewing]

I totally get your thoughts on the babies topic! I noticed the pressure subside a bit once I had been married for a few years. It’s totally fine to do things on your own timeline. I had to release myself from the pressure and from others expectations before I was even able to really think about what *I* want. I chose not to receive their pressure and live my life on my own timeline. Everyone else eventually adapted :).

[@tessaaaa1996]

I am watching this while pregnant with my first baby but I completly understand where you are coming from. Having kids is the biggest desition anyone can make and it is not right for everyone. Do what's right for you!❤

[@Sarahlynlaffy]

The pressure is very much there. I had my son at 36 and can't say I ever had that maternal instinct through my 20s and early 30s. I love my son more than anything, and I wouldn't choose differently for me. Parenthood isn't something to enter into flippantly, and you're 100% not wrong to choose to never have them! If your choice makes others uncomfortable, that is a them problem amd they have something they need to confront internally. Stay true to you. Always. Everyone else's opinions don't matter ❤

[@tonii2019]

This 👏💯

[@eileenboffo6300]

Thank you for staying true to you ❤️

[@meadowbird]

Your face is not scary. The filter is scary! Your face is literally beautiful in its bare state. Like a butterfly, you can’t see your own glistening wings. 🦋

[@chelseaw9355]

Sezane is beautiful and so are you, love your new hair so much

[@terrysnyder]

Definitely bangs and your hair looks great! ♥️

[@arieldawson4358]

Your hair looks SO flipping good.

[@grace8994]

Allana!! Your eyes!!! Omg so good

[@seachelles7]

The kitten bangs and the darker colour look fantastic, and the Clyde trench colouring is perfect with the hair and the makeup. Love it! I also got the green Nils sweater and blue tomboy shirt and was so happy with how soft the Nils was! It looked like it was either going to be the softest sweater ever or unbearably itchy and I’m so happy it was soft Thanks for all your talk about babies. People need to stop asking women when they’re having babies. Just completely stop. It’s so not anyone’s business and people have no idea what is going on in your life. As someone who has decided to have babies, people also need to stop asking when you’re going to have more 🙄

[@jessegreening8808]

I decided very early on that I didn't want kids and I occasionally get someone question why or tell me I'll regret it but that's been pretty rare for me. I'm lucky mine and my husband's family don't seem to care if we don't have kids. Plus Meryl is perfectly happy to be your baby in her sling!

[@karolinaspangenberg9425]

almost 40 here, happily married, also a very proud cat mom ;) never wanted to have real kids, and this is never going to change. I would say, if you dont want to have kids, dont give in just because of all the external pressure. cheers!

[@gabrielleolson4756]

I read somewhere if you’re not yearning and wanting kids so bad and 100%ready, then don’t do it and don’t put pressure on yourself. That’s how I’m trying to think at 34. I’m tired of the pressure!

[@jowiens32]

I love your bangs so much! I have been so tempted as well. I don’t know if I have the patience to fuss with them though. Hey! It’s tight season and we still need a review on those sheertex tights! Also, the countdown is on to Lanmas and I cannot wait! 🎉 Ahhh I was hoping I’d learn where that green sweater is from! Stunning. 😍

[@margaritag3925]

The mini bangs look great!

[@deborahbourdon8003]

Love the hair and color. Both really accent your eyes. Beautiful! 37:01

[@MyshelLeAnn]

FYI… to help remove a curdling tan I always apply a body cream that contains 10% Urea a day or two before removing the tan. It really helps remove all the old skin cell layer shed off making the tan come off much better. CerAve, La Roche Posay and Eucerin all make a body cream with 10% urea. There are one’s with lower % but I highly recommend 10%. It’s high enough to work but not too high where you can actually cause your body to peel. People will put like 40% on really thick callused skin like your heels but definitely wouldn’t do that on normal skin. Urea is good because it accelerates exfoliation but it is also very moisturizing at the same time.

[@canuckbeauty297]

Love the hair, looks amazing

[@lisahodgson1706]

I love the bangs!

[@KaylaRobbPoodleQueen]

The hair is giving ✨chic✨ and I’m here for it 🙌🏻 that trench is gorgeous and I never considered a cooler toned cream, I love it! Obsessed with the color of those shoes!! Having children is the most selfish choice and there is no reason to reproduce. You are not alone in not wanting children and your feelings are valid. I have never wanted children and have heard every single thing someone could say about why you should have children and the truth is: people regret their choices and seeing someone who chose not to, be happy with their choice makes them regret theirs. In short it’s projection and misery loves company. So don’t let misogynistic, selfish, outdated beliefs dictate what you want for your life. Never in my life have I ever been in a situation and thought that a child would make the experience better 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@natalias.correadebarros531]

sooooo beautiful with natural color

[@amygalbraith_]

YES for bangs!!!!

[@susanwright802]

You and Dejan may never feel ready for kids. And your feelings are as legitimate as those who long for children as well as those that could take it or leave it. Family and friends can wish whatever they want but it's your life and future and you don't owe anyone babies. Truly. I thought I would "probably" have kids but never felt that strongly about it, though I love babies and adore my friends kids. I didn't meet my sweetheart till I was 35. We don't have kids and I've NEVER regretted it, not once.

[@Milquetoast702]

I liked you blonde but now seeing you with darker hair - i really like it.

[@user-DVpazyamor]

The shoes, the green and hair color…. I love your style!

[@moniquehughes8810]

I never really cared much for kids, now I have two, and being a mom is like my identity 😂 not all my identity, but a good chunk of it. It grows on you. And it’s natural to have doubt. People who say “doubt means don’t” are silly. It’s a major life decision, some doubt is natural!

[@Faves997]

My partner and I were 50/50 on kids but we finally decided to take the leap since we couldn’t 100% say we did NOT want kids. We just welcomed our first child (we’re 35) and it is roughhhh! I think if you aren’t ready for your entire life to change then perhaps wait a bit bc it’s truly jarring lol wonderful but shocking. Very much the coolest experience of my life thus far but I 100% understand why people might not want children.

[@idalarsson4729]

I need to say that your hair has never looked better! I absolutely love the cooler colour and the cut is gorgeous! Now the baby conversation; I’m 49 years young and I have opted out of having children and so have some of my friends as well. I love children, I just never had the desire to have my own, and I’m still able to live a happy and fulfilling life. One of my reasons to not wanting to be a mother is the state of the world. * All of the wars * The overpopulation * Food and poverty issues. On problems closer geographically. * The cold and selfish attitude towards each other. * The gang activity. Just the other week a 16 year old boy got sentenced for killing ( shooting ) 3 people! And my personal reason; I have never felt maternal. 💕

[@DogGoneDayz]

Oh my gosh yes LOL once my hubby and I got married (mind you, we got married in our later 30s) people were like OKAY WHERE ARE THE BABIESSSSSS like, HOLDUP LOL - it't insane and a personal choice! Don't ever let outside opinion sway you one way or another, it's your life. Period.

[@alisasepe6098]

Love the hair color being a mom is fabulous and worth it

[@EshiJay]

Don't get your nails done!! I know you had said you wanted a reset for them, and it's going to take a little longer for them to regrow well. Listen, as someone who went through a similar process, I don't regret letting them chill. Just paint them normally every week to help with the chipping (not at a salon that will buff the top layer). Your nails will thank you!!!

[@EshiJay]

P.s. your hair is bangin 😉😉

[@Ginmabes]

I am 35, single, and childfree. My life is more beautiful and rich than it has ever been. The choice not to have children doesn't come without grief, but there are so many wonderful things in place of being a mother. There are plenty of kids in my life and I love them. You do NOT have to have children to have an amazing life full of love.

[@alexandracrawford9466]

You took the words out of my mouth, thank you for sharing your opinion on having kids. If you haven’t already, listen to “i think about it all the time” by Charli xcx

[@alyssalawton921]

Love your new hair, you look amazing! Like you're glowing, it suits you so well! Just got to say cuz I never comment lol Love your content such a fan of your videos 😊

[@kathleen5800]

you look so beautiful with bangs 😍

[@thaysescussel4041]

I am 38, married and very happy. Motherhood feeling never knocked on my door and my hubby never felt the need for children. We have such a simple and joyful life and we have never felt the need to have babies, time keeps passing by and life makes more sense with this choice which is not a choice, just life keeps happening. And btw 38 I am just a teen to have babies lols!