Bisexual Privilege?

[@MichaelHenrycomedy]

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[@Dexcesss]

Where is DC?

[@bardwayer]

Lots of people in the comments completely missing the part where Matt says that the common factor is fetishizing men who are emotionally unavailable which has nothing to do with any of them happening to be bi.

[@robertjackson3552]

he is seeking out them or treats them like they are emotionally unavailable until they act like that

[@erisjusteris]

That part. People really missing the point here and completely comfortable making broad generalizations.

[@ezzamrahman8711]

“Is that why you cut your hair felicity?” OMG THAT WAS GOLD!

[@vparker1543]

he knew it was funny and could barely hold it in! god, I love being gay... only we would get the reference.

[@tychoman]

💀💀💀💀💀💀💀

[@eandean]

that was a 30 year old reference

[@nm1673]

I need this reference explained please. 😮

[@cbsadler]

@@nm1673 en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Felicity_(TV_series)#Time-slot_and_hairstyle_changes

[@b.n1429]

When a member of the LGBTQ community stands up against bi erasure, an angel earns their wings. This was a great video

[@e-heromanny4348]

Reminds of the part in the Selena movie where the dad talks about the duality of being a Mexican American in Texas that I feel like can also describe the struggles of Bisexual. “We gotta prove to the Mexicans how Mexican we are and we gotta prove to the Americans how American we are. We gotta be more Mexican than the Mexicans and more American than the Americans, both at the same time, it’s exhausting”

[@horchatatee5407]

oof

[@cousinJackee]

This might be a hot take, but I've also met other bisexuals who do the same. I tend to be a de facto "bisexual nationalist" in the sense I usually date other bisexuals. Not on purpose, but it's just easier, freeing, understanding, and we have more in common. I don't have to "get over the hump" of having to get the partner to accept my bisexuality. Less time wasting. I do like the "genderless-ness" of dating other bisexuals too. Even if the bisexual is a woman, I don't feel like we're "straight" or conforming to heteronormativity, despite being able to "pass" as a straight duo.

[@JLogg444]

I tend to do the same. I find bisexuals more interesting and more freeing to date. Not to slight any group but sometimes it feels like gays and straights kind of fall into the same patterns and mindsets, whereas bisexuals feel more outside of that

[@mhmlesbian]

No i think you will always feel more inherently comfortable dating someone the same sexuality as u

[@cxzact9204]

I live for the term "bisexual nationalist" 🤣👏🏻

[@SlikkTim]

If you're a bi dude, good luck trying to hold a relationship with a straight woman for more than a couple weeks. In my experience, the sexual dynamic just doesn't match and anything that's too outside of traditional gender roles will be a major problem down the line. I actually realized lately than most of my ex GFs where queer even if I didn't make it a point.

[@krisk3363]

Historically, we have been treated like a dirty little secret. Many have

[@SeanShimamoto]

Really? The few bisexual dudes I’ve been with have all treated me like a dirty little secret…they all liked fμcking me, but all of them would only date women. So I haven’t been with a bisexual dude in ages. I have a lot of gay friends who’ve also been treated like a dirty little secret by bisexual guys…they’re good enough for sex, but they’re not good enough to date or meet his friends and/or family.

[@Sbudre]

It's because most bi's are so secretive.

[@owlislike]

​@Sbudre Maybe because bi people constantly get acused of being "greedy", not real, being confused gay people, being too afraid of coming out, that we treat people like a fun fetish..and oh yeah GETTING BLAMED FOR AIDS SHOWING UP IN THE STRAIGHT WORLD DURING THE AIDS CRISIS. We get shunned on all sides so yes, that could be one of the many reasons we stay quiet.

[@BlanBonco]

Just a phase. I don't want to be biphobic but the "everybody's bi" is often used just as much by bigots saying it's a choice as sexual liberation advocates. If everybody literally was bi that might be hot tho 😊 🤷‍♀️

[@john.premose]

Queens like these guys are never going to like you, but they will pretend to defend you because it's a duty now because bisexual erasure has become a buzzword, and these types only think (if you can call it thinking) in buzzwords.

[@DaveTexas]

I’ll admit that all my experiences with bi guys have been negative, too. I’m older and was dating back in the 1980s and 1990s when things were different and fewer people - especially bi guys - were "out." While the gay men I dated back then were all out and very open about their sexuality, the bi guys I dated were all much less open about their sexuality in general, which made it seem like they were hiding things. That was hard for me to deal with, as once I was out, I was out all the way. No secrets, no closets. Then there were the two bi guys I dated who ended up telling me that they needed to go back to dating women because it was "easier." Societal pressures were too much for them and they felt that being "gay" was too difficult. Maybe it was, but it reality felt like one of those "it’s not you, it’s me" breakups. Since I didn’t have the option of deciding not to be gay anymore, I couldn’t empathize with their plight. As unfair as it is to generalize, I wasn’t going to put myself through that again, having to worry about being dumped because being perceived as "gay" got to be too hard. I’ve been married for more than 25 years now and my husband was married to a woman before I met him. The difference is that he’s not bi; he was always gay but felt societal and religious pressure to be straight so he married a woman and had two kids. It was only when he gave up on trying to do what society dictated that he became happy with himself. I guess what I’m trying to say here is that I have trouble being around people who aren’t being true to themselves. I got burned by a couple of bi guys early in life and that made me wary of all of them. That’s not fair to bi guys, but I did what I needed to do to protect myself. I did the same thing with closeted gay men - I had one as a boyfriend for a couple of months when I was in college, but that got old very quickly and I refused to ever date a closeted guy again. So, to all the guys out there, bi, gay, or otherwise: be true to yourself and to anyone with whom you’d like to have a relationship. Don’t keep secrets and then wonder why no one trusts you…

[@teryckcoles]

That last line is so poignant! ❤

[@lordsxman]

I have had similar experiences with Bi guys. As a matter of fact I've never met a Bi guy who was out to his family or straight friends.

[@sarfaraz.hosseini]

@@lordsxman I'm out with family and friends, while both are supportive, coming out has been quite negative in terms of dating. I honestly somewhat regret it.

[@AGTngo]

It’s important to remember female-identifying person are VERY judgmental towards bi men. On social media they’re very supportive of it, but behind closed doors, when there isn’t an audience, it’s a very different experience. This is often times why so many bi men aren’t terribly open.

[@caraqueno]

You never met me, then. The bisexual men I know (myself included are out and proud bisexuals: not heterosexual nor homosexual, bisexual@@lordsxman

[@segamai]

HE ATE- H HE ATE MY ASS LIKE A CLIT That line and the delivery- I think I can stop seeing my therapist

[@loveinnerchild0]

Ohmgosh, want to add some awareness to this discussion. Being bisexual is not half-way between straight and gay worlds, just like being enby is not halfway between being trans and cis. Bisexuals are 100% within the queer community and they never once leave it even when dating a straight person. A bisexual dating a straight person has its own difficulties (aka, am I going to encounter homophobia in this relationship?) and SO many bisexuals would rather date other bi- or pan-people, because they just get our FULL persona, not like a sliver. Cross-gendered relationships are not automatically hetero, and they are so queer in so many ways. Yes, there are some privileges that come with being bisexual, though I'm not sure the video quite got them. I think if you are running into bi-men who see gay sex as a kink, you are running into more straight leaning men who are exploring. Most bi-men I know are SOLIDLY in the queer community and would never fetishize our gay brothers. We see gay relationships as 100% as real as straight relationships and if we end up being in a cross-gendered marriage it is for so many reasons, and our Bi-ness never disappears. What is real, though, is bi-phobia and exclusion even within the gay/queer communities. It can sometimes be hard to understand how someone can be attracted to ALL peoples, but be assured it is possible! We bi people date people for a variety of factors, particularly their individualized psyche/physique, so we by no means are turning you into a kink!

[@user-yb6tk1ru6x]

So many labels...

[@ijansk]

​@@user-yb6tk1ru6x And of those made up.

[@Enhancedlies]

this

[@thecoffeesloth]

I went out on a date with a bi guy. He constantly throughout the date talked about eating "meow meow" and how we should have a 3-some with a woman. This was literally the first date, hadn't even kissed! I had to remind him several times that I was gay and while I didn't care that he was bi, being gay by definition meant that I wasn't into said "meow meow" There wasn't a second date.

[@curlyhairdudeify]

The exact same thing happened to me; but, he was "in love" with the sl-ut of a roommate he had. She wasn't even into him.

[@amaihito]

It's amazing how many of us have the exact same experience! Like, it's just such a common experience

[@BlanBonco]

Some bi guys are ok but society offers them a much easier path of meow meow I'm not gonna compete with that

[@andrewmcmanus9023]

Eating "meow meow"? Is this what the transbian catgirls talk about too? Lol. I know the gays have their weird stuff, but...

[@nestorv7627]

Meow meow 😂😂😂😂😂

[@boriquaelrey7129]

MICHAEL!!!! I LOVE YOU FOR THIS!!! I’m a Bi guy and what all of you said is so true. I love this one. It’s one of my favorites. ❤❤❤

[@Nersius]

Thought he was going to Will and Grace us, but nope, classic Michael quality. 🤗

[@caffeinatedpeanutbutter]

As a pan person, thank you for making this 💓💙💛 🤝 🩵💜💗

[@TJV67]

I think the situation is far more complicated than that with bisexual men unless they prefer men more a lot of them will not come out. This is because a lot of heterosexual women are not attracted to bisexual men in the sense they don't want to think of their man being in the 'recieving' end like a women. Moreover, in heternormative relationships you decrease contact with the opposite sex afte marriage as to avoid temptation. With bisexuals this is obviously impossible however this custom is too ingrained in heternormative relations that most women arent willing to take the risk unless they really love this man or if the bisexual is 'masculine' enough/have other qualities that it may not matter. Now with the gay men. There is definitely a fetishization of catching a 'straight masculine man’ however a lot of bisexual men do view gay men as people only to date not build a future with or even worse just for sex or to experience something different before they go back to the 'real' world, of having wives and BIOLOGICAL children. With already of culture that lacks commitment dating a bisexual man adds to another layer of uncertainty. All this unfortunately also effects how bisexuals can navigate the dating scene and these two worlds BUT to just to shut the discussion by calling everything biphobia feels disingenuous and also harmful for bisexuals in being able to freely be themselves.

[@henniandreasson1449]

Honestly, as a gay girl who tries my best at overcoming biphobia, most of it boils down to fear. If a bi girl and I was dating, she could leave me and be both happy and validated by society for confirming to the hetero norm, however I could never do the same without being extremely unhappy. And that scares the shit out of me.

[@maximusasauluk7359]

This is the same fear for gay men, it's probably worse actually because statistically women identify as bi much more often than men but biologically this makes no sense. This is because a much larger share of bi men are in denial, unaware or down low, while women tend to be more comfortable or accepted. For men, there's a bigger pressure to conform, so the risk of a "bi man leaving a gay man for a woman" or a bi man not taking a relationship with another man seriously is higher. Still, I think avoiding bi men in dating is stupid and ironically (for the nature of the community) discriminatory. The reality is not homogenous, there are bad bi men as there are bad gay men, however we can't ignore the fact that this "women attraction" or choice to lead a heteronormative life just doesn't exist with gay men like it does fir bi men, so I can't help but be cautious when dating them. Doesn't help that the first relationship I was in, was with a bi man and he completely used me for his own secret sexual exploration.

[@yeshayaamichai1512]

Michael!!!!!! Thank you so much for this. Truly and sincerely.

[@robertalmond1898]

Pizza? You're crazy. I thought we were talking about pretzels😂😂😂

[@puppy7505]

Wait, where is the ad? His ads are the best. The plot twist this time was that there wasn't one.

[@user-re8vc5dq4g]

Wow, my breakup with my bi "ex" was exactly like this. I feel read to filth.

[@Iammyselfhere]

Let’s generalise about bi men ! 😅

[@AndromedaChace]

I'm here for the CXG reference

[@mustanggox]

i agree that there is a sense of privilege in being able to return to heteronormative relationship life in a way that gay men can't, but that's an issue with society in general, not necessarily bi men, so if ur takeaway from this video is to be biphobic u've missed the point. while yes gay ppl have every right to be frustrated by how they're treated as a kink, secret or side thing for bisexuals, bisexuals are often fetishized in the same way. Be careful that when u complain about a problem, u aren't also contributing to it.

[@JeBusInYoutbe]

I agree , don’t engage at all bisexuals until it’s recognized they like men in society .Could be revolutionary in its on way . However in all cases gays lose sadly

[@andrew20146]

The 'privilege' of being bisexual usually involves having to stay closeted. The reason why so many bisexuals are closeted is because acceptance for bisexuality is low, and it can lead to a lot of rejection by romantic partners.

[@mustanggox]

@@andrew20146 that’s a good point. At the same time though, staying closeted while still being able to have romantic relationships happily seems like it would be easier than a situation where u either have to out yourself, be incredibly discreet or not find love at all. Both situations are super unfair and horrible, but i know which one i’d rather choose if i could. i hate even talking about this because i feel like biphobes would use these arguments to be horrible, (the difference is i can accept this while also being fully supportive of bi ppl)

[@JeBusInYoutbe]

@@mustanggox male bisexuals prefer not and Block any development of romantic engagement . People screaming biphobia ; dont realize bisexual men and gay men are not the same or have the same experiences and and Can Choose to not struggle. They dont really care About being recognized or have a political agenda

[@adrianaambrosio9660]

@@mustanggox I have dated a bi guy and have friends who are bisexual. You meet a women you like, but can't tell her your sexuality, but you're out with your friends, so you have to constantly face the prospect of rejection. You're not entirely accepted by gay men, and may be rejected by many or have to assume the role of a fetish and "straight guy" role.

[@davidmay465]

I dated a “bi-guy” but I was his first gay partner. He absolutely wrecked me, in the good way and the bad.

[@GamerFollower]

I dated a bisexual guy, we became "official" for 4 months and then he broke up with me for a women immediately because I gave him "the confidence to ask out a girl"....

[@Not-Ap]

LOL XD

[@canarygoodie3873]

Im dead😂

[@RBS_]

*...ANDY!* (0:14) ....oooh, "Felicity" was really IN it, wasn't she!? ...ha-HAAA!!

[@fernandopoo8211]

I love the hint about baseball boys.

[@Werkitbehen]

what about them? are they bi?

[@fernandopoo8211]

@@Werkitbehen I've had a lot of fun with boys I've met at Royals games. The fresh air and slower pace of the game leads to bonerville.

[@ayindestevens6152]

@@fernandopoo8211teach me your ways

[@Drewski217]

Glad they ate up his latent biphobia, wish they could do the same in these comments!

[@mollis377]

Michael Henry called me a pretzel so imma put a hit out on him, a good type of hit

[@rachelk-w6341]

i LOVE a video that clarifies bisexuality while being SO comedic about it that in the end we realize that essentializing any person or group is just a silly thing to do !!!

[@jaredleemease]

Thank you guys 🌹🪻🌻🌷

[@artbaugh3]

Exactly!

[@YuzuruA]

I don´t understand people discussing boring topics about bissexuality when we have a pearl like "is that why you cut your hair, felicity" complete with a smirk😏

[@jerrygereden]

i am so done with bisexual techno djs (full of these in berlin)

[@JeBusInYoutbe]

lol what’s the tea ?

[@Plottoberry]

Lol sign ME up

[@ayindestevens6152]

I think the real twist is that Michael was the voice of reason and wasn’t exactly the butt of the joke as he usually is. Then again Michael being the butt of the joke is pretty funny for us.

[@ManamiKeel]

It is more privileged to be bisexual since you have the opportunity to be in a straight-looking relationship and avoid all the homophobia and violence that comes from society, hell, you could even go to some countries and not be afraid to hold hands with your partner while if you are gay or lesbian it could cost you your life! I'm a trans person and I have dated tons of bi guys, what the person on the video says it's true, many MANY bisexuals will, at the end, choose what's easier for them and what's expected from them: basically to have a straight relationship, but they will enjoy the queer part of their identity in the sex part and treat it more like a kink. Not every bisexual is equal, but I would say most bi men are like that at least, I don't know about women.

[@iscreamatthemoon1251]

Boo this person! Boooooo!

[@JeBusInYoutbe]

At most they would offer a friendship if they are a decent person .thats it

[@neptunelyy8188]

yea its such a privilege to not be welcome by either community 😍 i love being fetishized by straight men asking about a 3some before the first date. i also love that some lesbians refuse to date bisexuals because we “might leave them for a man”! and i know a lot of bisexual men love that straight women are grossed out that they like men. and that gay men are afraid they might “leave them for a woman”! yes a bisexual in a straight-passing relationship won’t get hate crimed in the street but that is where the privileges end. the only place we are welcome is in our own community because of takes like this. please reflect on your biphobia.

[@erisjusteris]

y’all been dating the wrong bi men… 👀

[@JeBusInYoutbe]

@@erisjusteris maybe you were dating gay guys who label themselves as bi

[@harmo2502]

thanks for this, im happy to see some good discussion down here too

[@gerryszymanski8468]

"Do you like oysters or snails?"

[@scarlettptheoriginal]

This scene helped my queerphobic mother understand my bisexuality!

[@meckerhesseausfrankfurt4019]

I think bisexual "priviledge" goes both ways and wouldn't exist without enablers. If I tell a guy that I have work stuff ("gotta finish that project") or family stuff ("gotta help my sister move") and therefore can't meet, I'm an inconsiderate a**hole. If I fudge the truth (I'm like a 5 or so on the Kinsey scale) and say that I can't meet because I'm bi and right now I can't get away from my girlfriend, we'll that's okay. Bis might treat gays as a kink, but so do gays the other way round. It's a system that rewards dishonesty. Others will make accomodations for you if you're one another's dirty little secret, but not will not excuse you having other priorities in life.

[@focusedeye]

Completely relateable.

[@darkphoenix474]

Clint is so ridiculously handsome

[@bunbun8001]

The sexy " You got a BEARD now" guy from the 2018 after election video. Sexier than ever.

[@AnimeLover-ct6fz]

The Felicity comment.....werk! I miss the WB

[@thejameze8178]

I was told by my doctor that HPV is more in bisexual men or men who sleep with women. Is this true?

[@kdknyc]

Over years of experience, I found out that I want my men to be able to make up their mind. So no bi guys for me--learned from deep experience.

[@joshta99]

"I'm so tired of all the mind games and insecurities...coming from you." Why do they really act like this? So dramatic lol.

[@patrickwalker8968]

Ok, the dog chase in the background did it for me..😂

[@snowpocalypse69]

As a bi trans person who mostly gets with other bi/pan trans people it's interesting to hear about how the cis gays feel about this stuff. In my circles it's almost assumed that everyone is bi to the point where some people will disregard a monosexual's identity to hit on them inappropriately (this mostly seems to happen with transmascs hitting on lesbian transfemmes, I guess "man knowingly hits on lesbian" is a tale as old as time 🤷‍♂️)

[@declaracionespolemicas]

Your circles are concerning, no one should be disregarding other people's sexualities or consent 🤢 creepy af. The best part is they'd probably get mad if someone else disregards their sexuality, the hypocresy is just too much.

[@whatelsewouldyoudo]

“He will never emotionally fulfill you..Ever.”

[@TheNukewarfare2]

Speaking from personal experience, I think part of the problem might be guys that are heteroflexible being misidentified (or mislabeling themselves) as bisexual. From the outside, it’s difficult to differentiate between guys who just want to get their rocks off and guys who are actually open to romance and a committed relationship. Moreover, I think some men who swing both ways may feel that it is simpler to seek out long-term partners in women, especially if they’re not out. Pressures from family and a still predominantly heteronormative society about what is verboten regarding relationships and marriage does not help either. Just a thought.

[@janjr165]

It’s a useless thought. Bi men know exactly who they are, and what they’re doing - they just choose to straddle the fence so that they can play around and not have to commit to any one identity. They get a kick out of playing with other people’s feelings, and that’s not okay.

[@tristanmacmahons9803]

Bisexuality is a spectrum. If you have a preference for women you'll get your rocks off with men, but seek romance with women. If you have a preference for men, you'll miss 😻, but probably date a guy. If you're somewhere in the middle you can have a choice. Society is both hetro and homo normative. Being bisexual isn't quite accepted or even well understood. Common thoughts: _A bisexual exploring their sexuality is just "using gays/lesbians for sex", he/she might actually be hetro/homo sexual and leave me for the other gender. I'm not homo/hetro phobic but i'm grossed by the idea of a partner having sex with the same/different gender._

[@lemonpay7747]

I don't think heteroflexible is a real sexuality, is just a Bisexual that doesn't want to identify as such because of Biphobia and/or Homophobia. There are just people who aren't romantically available, not a whole convenient sexuality.

[@lemonpay7747]

​@@tristanmacmahons9803 Monosexual is the word you are looking for. Society is Monosexual normative. And I don't think that a "preference" condition someone like that, being romantically or sexually available is in itself a personal choice and situation in time, regardless of sexuality.

[@JeBusInYoutbe]

Heteroflexible is made up term by pop magazines and pretentious writers . You are either het gay or bi

[@SpeakingJargon]

Reading the comments? Interesting choice! Prepare yourself for personal anecdotes about a bad experience with one and/or more bisexual men thus justifying prejudice towards them as if that wasn't the goddamn point of the video.

[@deansenrama98]

So not wanting to date bi guys is prejudice? Bi guy can choose to only date women but gay men can't choose to only date gay guys, interesting

[@caraqueno]

Amen!

[@jeffersonhassan4558]

Humans have a way of stereotyping a particular group due to their experiences with said group, we've all done it and please don't come out here to say you haven't even if it's another group

[@caraqueno]

@@jeffersonhassan4558 I agree with you. I wasn't being sarcastic in my last comment to you. I was, sincerely, thanking you, for pointing out that I had written a blanket statement and that wasn't right.

[@declaracionespolemicas]

​​@@jeffersonhassan4558 All fine and good until they do it to the particular group you belong to. If it was gay men being stereotyped we'd be defending you or calling out the other person for being homophobic or stereotyping. At least be kind enough to be aware of your biases and not do the same to them? 🙏 Believe me, I get it though. That's exactly why many straight/bi women tend to be like "men are X, Y, Z, the worst of the worst" and straight men are also like that towards women when they got too many bad experiences with the opposite sex. I understand why it happens, doesn't make it okay to be hateful and generalize an entire group over a couple bad apples.

[@JeBusInYoutbe]

Tell bisexuals in the Middle East or Latin America that are “pretzels” 🙄

[@bobble13345]

Huh?

[@elitettelbach4247]

Omg love seeing Matthew Scott in the Michael Henry cinematic universe! Bi guy here. Love the pretzel analogy!

[@RBS_]

...well, as a former Professional DEEJAY (1998-2015), I can tell you a THANG or two about the "mixtapes" I made, for....and, WITH....Bisexual Men! ....ooooh, la, la, la la-la-la-la-LA!! (0:27) 😋 ...ha-HAAA!!

[@PaulHo]

Pretzel crust pizza, y'all!

[@aafrophonee]

Did Michael just call me a pretzel?

[@matthewgatthew7984]

I love bi men they’re almost always trans-positive

[@barbaravs1814]

am I crazy or some of you didn't watch the video??

[@tom-ss2mn]

It seems like being bi would be more difficult. MaInly in dating. So many wont date a bi guy because they would assume he couldnt be happy settling down with one gender

[@JeBusInYoutbe]

Not really because they don’t suffer for being DL and closeted . They really have their cake and eat too . At most their confusion and drama for being partly gay

[@tom-ss2mn]

@JeBusInYoutbe I don't believe bi people are confused. They are just attracted to both sexes

[@neptunelyy8188]

@@JeBusInYoutbe ew biphobia 🤮 don’t worry, no bisexual is gonna want to date you with that attitude so you’re safe lmfao

[@JeBusInYoutbe]

@@tom-ss2mn oh there are definitely men confused when they realized later in life they like Both sexes . It seems there are men who lack self awareness and depending on the personality and homophobia it can hit them

[@JeBusInYoutbe]

@@tom-ss2mn a lot of bi men lack self awareness

[@yeetyeet1655]

It’s not a bi guy thing, it’s definitely an internalized homophobia thing. Maturing is realizing this

[@rachadlendar4918]

It's both

[@DanteVelasquez]

Thank you for this PSA 🙂

[@Not-Ap]

01:03 I think is the real answer XD

[@Samantho87]

Not the real housewives quote! They will never emotionally fullfill you XD

[@lukefarrell1453]

The problem with accusing bi people of being privileged is that you have to ignore the struggles that specifically impact bi people.

[@AndromedaChace]

No need to ignore. It all applies. Privilege isn't an accusation or an evil thing, it's a fact of how society treats you based on any number of social status signifiers. Bi people get straight passing privilege if in a hetero relationship. Homophobia in gay relationships or aligning with the community. Plus biphobia from both queer and straight people.

[@adamcullen8777]

YOU"RE TOURING!!! YAY!!!!! COME TO MPLS SOON!!!!

[@Amoradamian]

Not yall missing the point of the video 😂 and still projecting your insecurities

[@belias360]

That is literally exactly what's happening in the comments 🙄

[@jeffersonhassan4558]

We are just stating facts,if the bad experiences overweigh the good ones,maybe you should ask yourself why

[@BakaNeBaka]

This Andy/Felicity bashing isn't nice.... It sounds like their experience isn't being acknowledged. Yeah the mustard or mayo ones can take their pick and chill while the one or the other ones will have to just roll with whatever they are in the mood for?!? That doesn't sound fair...

[@jinmushui1soul]

I think the point is not stereotyping emotional unavailability or promiscuouity as a trait or all bisexuals when it's better described as a trait of all men 😂

[@andrewmcmanus9023]

Michael's great at getting multiple sides of a complex issue into one short video, but this missed the mark. Apparently Andy/Felicity's whole problem is just being a "crazy homo", even though his bi ex actively participates in heterosexuality? Like, you know, 90% of the population?

[@andrewmcmanus9023]

Very, very true. And yet these comments are also full of people crying biphobia. Michael's great at making videos that hit all sides of a situation in under 3 minutes ❤

[@caraqueno]

@@jinmushui1soul Not all men, either. Please, don't exchange one stereotype for another.

[@Kevin-s5n]

You have to be old to get that Felicity joke.

[@willow417]

this is peak education

[@thepokekid01]

This was so nice to bies.... maybe too nice I'm joking, this was kind of refreshing, but I'm sure some people are not going to like that definition of Bisexual (but who cares really). I know Bies get a lot of stuff for complicated relationships, but many relationships don't work out in general. Some bi people are more into women and say they are really wanting maybe a friends with benefits relationship... but some gay guys are like that too and are 100% into guys so I don't know. I definitely believe gays when they say people want to be DL about it because of society, our society is far from perfect on LGBTQ issues, we're lying to ourselves to say otherwise, but from me personally I like the emotional investment. (Even though I have my deviant fantasy dreams of maybe having a thruple or maybe 4-person couple)

[@user-yb6tk1ru6x]

I use to think it'd be cool to be bi as it doubled my chances of finding a partner.

[@Lustformldhfk]

DAMN MATTHEW ATE HIM UP!!!

[@pinkwizards]

Please don’t put mustard or cheese on me

[@ThangPlants]

how about in you

[@mustanggox]

​@@ThangPlants oh!

[@ToaPohatuNuva]

One of those guys really looks like he could be a shin model in Australia. Idk just a vibe I'm getting

[@Bimtavdesign]

As a bisexual, I'm feeling attacked.

[@rabarra]

U better do 😂

[@averyanahi]

Is it hard in your experience to be a bi guy?

[@mustanggox]

i feel like its more about the societal attitude associated with gay-bi relationships than any individual bi person haha

[@JeBusInYoutbe]

Aren’t you a woman ? Different things

[@sarfaraz.hosseini]

@@averyanahi I'm a bi guy. Yes, it's extremely challenging.

[@dewdney101]

Michael: makes video challenging gay men's biphobia Comments: but what if I add some biphobia 🤔

[@lukefarrell1453]

That’s social media in a nutshell unfortunately

[@jeffersonhassan4558]

Humans have a way if using their experiences to stereotype a certain group, we've all done it including you so don't come here and act holier than thou

[@joshta99]

This is how crazy yall really are. I didn't even do sh.

[@markg3169]

Probably the best analogy for gay men would be how we can be vers. You might have a preference but every now and then under the right circumstances it’s fun to do the other one:)

[@matthewscottmontgomery109]

don’t miss the v end

[@nestor-martinez]

I feel seen.

[@outinsider]

As a bi man myself, I have dated a lot of gay men. It's a turn off when the occasional biphobe enters my DMs, because his projected issues with homophobia is not my fault. I do love the pretzel analogy. Thank you for capturing the projection, Mike. Also, if being bi was actually privileged, there wouldn't be biphobia at all.

[@rachadlendar4918]

Yall are so corny, of course no one is truly "privileged" if we just solely focus on the negatives, but the reality is that bi men benefit from heteromantive relationships whether you deny it or not

[@d12kiem7]

truth

[@eddiefniii]

I don’t like pretzels! SALTY!

[@shortcake66]

I love pretzels. SALTY!

[@Ephebvs]

My husband is bisexual!

[@jamiepetras1]

I'm sorry!🙏

[@jdb101585]

Mine is too. :)

[@Ephebvs]

@@jamiepetras1 Haha! It's okay! He only cheated on me with women when we were dating. He stopped since we got married. It was only casual stuff, he didn't have any affair. He's actually romantic with me. He used the old justification that he cheated only with his penis not with his heart. That sex and love are different things, when he apologized.

[@Ephebvs]

@@jamiepetras1 You dig Brazilian 1970s funk and soul? I'm Brazilian from Florianópolis island but I live in São Paulo cuz my husband is from there.

[@Ephebvs]

@@jdb101585 Do you guys have an open relationship?

[@josephsager9425]

I don't know... kinda seems like you're being dismissive of your friend's emotions.

[@sammyvictors2603]

But at the same time, he's generalizing and vilifying bisexuals. No emotional pain is an excuse for prejudice.

[@robertjackson3552]

it's funny this topic with three women would more likely go like the one in sex and the city.

[@MamoruMe]

I think this one doesn't "show multiple sides" in the way his videos often do. Of course the points michael raises are valid, but comp het is a thing and it isnt biphobic to notice an overlap between bisexuality and comp het.

[@Scar-jg4bn]

This comment should be pinned. 🎯🙌🏻

[@rizzofromIndo]

Michael, i am sorry, but this is feels like a personal attack. Ouch!

[@robertjackson3552]

michel was on our side educating his friend and people watching the video on what bisexual is

[@scarpien]

I don't date bi or straight guys so I can't relate.

[@JeBusInYoutbe]

You can’t data straight guy because straight guy o my like women . It’s against the definition

[@kael9664]

yeah cause they wouldn't want you.

[@iscreamatthemoon1251]

Sometimes saying nothing is also an option.

[@scarpien]

@@kael9664 LOL Keep telling yourself that. But in the mean time keep on worshipping them while they continue to treat you like the self-hating POS that you are.

[@scarpien]

@@iscreamatthemoon1251 And other times minding your own business is an option as well.

[@jonathanbalagtas848]

Sorry...NO for me. Ive been with a few bisexual guys(that I thought were gays)... Yes. He will dump you just like that. The worst is, you didnt even know. 😡🔪 Its true we cannot generalized, but, might be depends on "attitude" and mindset. Uhmmm...still NO for me. I've had enough!

[@fariesz6786]

pretzels go with nutella

[@Taijifufu]

Did he say bone call? 🍖

[@heyheyhey40]

I never order pretzels.

[@Melanco001]

Ouch, as bi I’m already feeling attacked 30 sec in

[@Jumpoable]

Because it's true. Bisexual men, even if well adjusted, will always have the option of fitting into the MORE CONVENIENT heteronormative society, so why wouldn't they choose that after kinky gay sex?

[@aeropavore]

Well the privilege is there, but it seems kinda disingenuous (at best) to bring up power structures and worry as if every single bi guy will choose the path of least resistance.

[@Amoradamian]

Nop

[@iscreamatthemoon1251]

Boo this person! Boooo!

[@ras3024]

Is it really more convenient if you still have to hide your sexuality? Also, why do yall act like bi men don't have feelings or would never develop feelings for a man? So insecure.....

[@JeBusInYoutbe]

⁠​⁠​⁠@@ras3024what are you talking about of course if it’s STILL is more convenient they don’t suffer hiding it like gays and they don’t even have to be gay 24/7 …. They can be happy engaging rarely when no one is watching or suspecting. Some , the decent ones could offer some friendship and that’s it . The most conflict they experience is when the fight the urges which they quickly or eventually Get over

[@altairsegundo7082]

What’s going on with those eyebrows?

[@kaboombox1581]

Yeeeeeeowwwlll!

[@aagold76]

DEFINITELY MORE Matthew Scott!!!!!!! (not Matther.... ;))

[@raynaudier8622]

🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@thisisbgm]

always pizza!

[@2waine]

ok, @2:14, I see you... 😈🍑

[@12oshinko]

I'm 100% gay and I love the bi men in my life

[@asianmtl]

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