The TRUTH ABOUT what YOUR EX is thinking

[@blacademic]

Book a 1 on 1 coaching session: calendly.com/breakupcoachtj

[@funmiadebayo4685]

I practiced the No-Contact rule and 6 months after the breakup, my Ex reached out to me two weeks ago. No contact actually works. 👌

[@emmokaya4071]

@@andrecardoso3768 you can contact me brother

[@shonnii6098]

Ummm 6 months is a long time

[@funmiadebayo4685]

I am not going back to him. He's an Ex for a reason 👌

[@ninjamy9866]

But the fact is many will back to ex n get married😅

[@funmiadebayo4685]

@@ninjamy9866 it happens 😭🤣🤣🤣

[@Sparksflymich]

it's been 2 months since my ex dumped me and im staying in NC, 70 days strong now and i am not going to break it. It's his loss. Thanks coach keep it up

[@vernasmith1108]

He wants me to chase him, asked for money, he wants me to be needy and clingy and I can't.

[@cl5080]

This is all true, but oddly enough, for my ex, “he can do better than me” really means “he needs someone not as good as himself.” This is because he’s a fearful avoidant who prefers a woman who actually IS clingy and needy and chases him. And I’ve NEVER been that woman. Now that he’s slowly starting to come back into my life, and apologize all over the place, I’ve decided that the best policy is to not change myself in any way, still treat him exactly as Coach Blac says…cordial and polite, and taking care of myself and my elderly Mommy. Let him pursue me, not ignoring him at all, and NEVER dredging up whatever past mistakes and harms he’s ever done. He will always see me as “too good for him,” but maybe he can get therapy and also develop a relationship with his Creator that is so vital to any human relationship he will ever have. For me, that right there is the number one prerequisite to me ever getting back together with him. By the way, it’s been well over a YEAR since he broke up with me.

[@nicholasvodanovich1503]

My ex isn’t thinking shit, the girl already thinks she’s in love again lol

[@count666dracula]

Im in the same spot...its a defensive move they make so they dont deal with post break up truama.but its not gonna last.they will face their thoughts and the truth :)

[@franklujan8304]

It’s funny how women say that they love you, but they turn around and stab you… they push you away and they cheat on you. That’s the most funny part.lol…😂

[@thu6449]

I believe it can also go the other way, where they think they're not good enough for you and they get scared by the pressure of stepping up.

[@aS__Spencer]

I second this and I feel like that this is what my ex feels after she broke up with me. It was the hardest decision she ever made because we had a healthy relationship and we were both each other's first love. We were together for 6 and a half months. We broke up 2 months ago, and I did no contact, and I will be meeting up with her in person either this week or next week. Going to focus on re-attracting her, having a great time and showing her why I'm still a catch.

[@Godsfavoritefairy]

@@aS__Spencer update?

[@Godsfavoritefairy]

when someone really loves u and doesn’t want to lose u forever the one that broke it off should reach out and i agree w u but also strongly believe if they let the fear or “pressure” get in the way then they don’t value the relationship as they should so regardless if u go back it wont be for the best at that point ur better off moving on

[@growandheal]

@@aS__Spencerupdate ?

[@aS__Spencer]

@ilu2 no meet up yet. Still waiting on her to let me know which Thursday works. Either this week or next maybe? I'm not expecting anything at this point. She's an avoidant

[@chellegsellscars783]

You’re absolutely correct and I’ve moved on to someone better. The crazy thing is he literally spoke my new beginning into existence for me. I damn near need to call him and thank him. I miss our connection, we had fun sometimes, but I’m so thankful for my man, I love him so much ❤ trust God has what you truly deserve ready when you let go of what’s no longer serving you 🙏🏽😊

[@shawny979]

This is very helpful. Can we get a video on letting go of anger though? I've been in no contact for 4 months, but I am still angry over the blindsided breakup and how it was done.

[@22jp]

Give this man his FLOWERS HE know what he talking about

[@morenopalmesano]

My girlfriend broke with me 1 month ago. After 12 years together. We spoke the last weekend and she told me that she loves me. I know it's true that she loves me and misses me. But she says that she wants to stick with her decision. I don't know what to do, really. We were both hugging and caressing each other, but neither she has spoken to me nor I to her. Honestly, I don't enjoy anything I do these days, things that I used to love like riding a motorcycle, now I don't enjoy them. I know that writing here is not very helpful, but I need to get this out of me. He is my soulmate, the love of my life. And I have lost it.

[@ilovepapiler]

Same here. Hopefully with time, we will be over it.

[@candieehill]

12 years & unwed ? Bless ur hearts...

[@SentilongJamir777]

Tell her you forgive her and self reflect take this opportunity to build yourself up 🙏 stay strong

[@cherylalwanza5553]

Same here but I’m starting to slowly get back to myself.. and I mean slowly .. it’s hard to change your life back to normal when u don’t hear from your person u usually talk to on daily basis .. like you lost your best friend

[@guillermosanchez6284]

What is my ex thinking right now after almost 4 months of being blocked lmao? I’m actually in a much better place career financially and emotionally better than I was 6 months ago when I got dumped. This video was about 5 months too late but whatever something better will come my way

[@lars396]

Did she ever reach out?

[@howcuriousss]

Bro just spits facts

[@muzwakhilemlambo6898]

Man this guy knows his story....Thanks man.

[@muzwakhilemlambo6898]

I'm back with my ex...its Not 100 yet but we are doing much Better.

[@boshascott7375]

Coach you should write a book or a pod cast. I'll definitely support.😊. Thank you for your wisdom because it is definitely a challenge.

[@anastasiajohnson4768]

Like frfr

[@sapura_ch3890]

yesss

[@charleanestone1012]

3 weeks in and I've removed him totally and not sure about reconnecting but thanks for your advice :)

[@saravalentin7008]

The fact that you genuinely, thank your audience for investing their time to watch your Chanel is amazing and I truly appreciate it 🙏🏽 thank you for your time sharing your knowledge to us who are watching your videos. Subscribed ✅

[@shanawazahamed3759]

Fentastic advice bro ..God bless you

[@CalebLedieu1993]

Hi, Coach, my ex started viewing my stories again about 4 weeks into no contact... She started watching them quicker and quicker then all of the sudden stopped again. What does this mean? Has she lost interest completely?

[@devineone6239]

My ex said that I'm needy and he wants nothing to do with me that I bring him bad luck. And he doesn't believe me saying I'm done.

[@Trueblue03]

Man my break up was back in November 💀 now I'm thinking it's over over 😮‍💨

[@joshuariddle5062]

Same here 😵‍💫😮‍💨

[@joshuariddle5062]

November 15 for me. I’m staying strong in no contact.

[@Trueblue03]

@@joshuariddle5062 doing better then me I broke NC Twice new years N her birthday... got reply from her both times but I didn't try an make conversation. Probably going to take a lot longer who knows 🤷🏽‍♂️

[@zacdeeds87]

november 7th, i’m honestly feeling pretty good. not to sound like a cliche but it’s really her loss. i tried to work things out towards the end but she seemed distant. i gave her the breakup off rip. she’s on my social media often

[@khemical133]

She left me on Thanksgiving

[@thenamshana]

It has been 4 months since my wife left. No contact,

[@shawntehoward8857]

I don’t want anyone of my ex’s back!

[@AnnaAnna-gp6br]

I wish I could feel like that, I want to feel like that but want him back

[@sholomobenyosef9659]

No contact is going to be easy… it’s football season.. plus I have a second job 😂😂😂

[@tripaloski_bear]

Thank you so much mr coach, your videos saved me from critical situations, now I see how I didn't really need her although I miss the little things like kisses and cuddles etc... Even without her I can be better than yesterday and live my life at its fullest. I did too many wrong moves and probably gave her some red flags, but as the first relationship, after also the first real and painful broke up (made through msgs) I feel relieved and I understand the value of no contact as MY benefit, not her.

[@dl6043]

My ex gf said she’s so heart broken she won’t ever let anybody get close to her gain she never wants to date again that she wants to sit on the couch and rot away if she could. Doesn’t really sound like she wants to try and find something better?

[@brooklynbabe6613]

Each and every Last one of my exs tried to come back. But I was the worse woman in the world according to them. But they all tried reaching out and begging all 4 of them! I'm like no lord never!

[@jenniferduarte3299]

Coach your my Angel.. Thank you so much. I can’t wait to get my journal. Stay Blessed

[@nanocoppersilvereauozen2788]

2 yrs after leaving my ex started liking and following my stories over a couple of months,I did not react to it,she increased her likes and following my stories and received nothing from me until months after ,I liked one of her stories after an operation on a massive cyst and left it there no reaching out directly.

[@trevorbroch6510]

My Girlfriend of 10 years broke up with me in may. We got back together end of October. She wrote me such a sweet letter about not wanting me to leave and making sure that this time it's for good. She started a new job in december and broke up with me on the 15th of December for this new co-worker guy she just met. I found out they slept together barely 24hrs after the breakup. Now she says she is in love with him and I need to get out. We live together and struggling to find a place to go. All she does is get mad at me for existing now. I dont feel no contact is going to work this time or probably I shouldn't bother after this. I forgot to mention we were planning to get married this summer and start a family. And she may already be pregnant with this guys kid who happens to already have a child with someone else. It's just a crazy situation for me to be in.

[@kleft565]

Cut that hoodrat off already stop wasting time

[@robertswift6101]

run......run away fast and go no contact

[@margaritanikpalj8753]

She is thinking very low of you. Like somebody already said: run away as fast as you can. Prepare yourself for one year of suffering, but after that you will be free and find a new love!

[@DiscLaddie]

You have come to a fork in the road, its time to take your ass up the path of least resistance and let her take the other one. Thats a long time, i've also been a long relationships in my life and i'm here to tell you, it does get better when you prioritize yourself afterwards. Cut your losses, move out, get some therapy in your life, get some hobbies, start cooking like a master chef, etc etc. Anything to distract yourself away from her situation. Go no contact, perhaps even block her on everything if you find yourself looking, remove pictures from your devices and profiles(save them to a thumb drive if you don't want to delete them entirely). It's going to be rough for awhile, but if you prioritize your health, wealth and heart, you will make it to a very happy place. There are millions and millions of people for you, do things that you love and the right person will find you. Don't entertain her if she comes crawling back, be nice and cordial. If you entertain her, you will lose ALL progress made towards a happier you. Run for your life, literally.

[@trevorbroch6510]

@@DiscLaddie I appreciate everything you said. Iam seeing a therapist and iam already a chef so I do got this for me. But here in northern minnesota at the moment it's hard to get out and do certain things but I'm trying. Definitely wont look back I'm actually looking forward to a new beginning and a better me.

[@cherilynwilliams]

What does it mean when an ex contacts your mutual friends and tells them I was the best woman he has ever had in his life and he misses and loves me, but won’t contact me directly and tell me these things? I think he wants me to reach out first and I refuse to contact him. He broke up with me and blind-sided me in November right before our Key West vacation and stopped calling and texting. This was not characteristic of him. In the past 3 months, he’s only sent a Christmas Day greeting meme and a news bulletin to my email, but no direct conversation. We were together 2 years.

[@freebay66]

Man i am so impressed with your introduction...👍👍

[@ThePoppy74]

Not sure about the assumption being made here that breaking up with someone means you think you can find better. What if it's that life on your own is better than with them? Breaking up with someone because you think you can do better is getting into the the realms of narcissism. You're relating vertically rather than horizontally. It says more about you than them. They've had a lucky escape IMHO.

[@jjeanedoe]

I think that even if you know you will be spending time single for the foreseeable future, it is still true that if you broke up with someone, you expect you will find a better partner for yourself in the future by breaking that connection. I don't see this as being narcissistic at all. It can come from a place of naivety or maturity, but I see importance in assuming this notion to be true.

[@-theultimateredpillturp2162]

Super helpful, Super like, thank you Coach Black!

[@daynastubbs929]

Can you talk about breakups due to a death in the family? Or what grieving does to a realtionship? I'm just not sure if he will ever feel the pain of the break up. Does he skip it due to the grieving he was going through? I stayed by his side after he dumped me to help him through the grieving and he met someone right away. Thr thing is we were very very happy amd were best friends prior to the family loss. It's been a year. I can't get over the break up, he's now stalking my social media.

[@Naural2024]

I send this to my Ex Good morning Andrew. Im using my cousin phone my aunt Tasha is in the hospital. Then I going to lake Providence. but anyway. I really love you so much. I'm really sorry for everything. We all go through things in life with our guard all the way up. I really try to start over with you. I try to give it one more shot with us. Love don' fade over night .We had so many memories great memories. Well I know you moved on with a lady named Ariel. Im going to stay single for a while. I started going to bible study. I understand now why you blocked me . I will never disrespect you and I will not ever text or call your phone again from another number or through other people I wish you nothing but the best. Always love you . Christina and he send me this 👉🏽 Thanks for the message. I hope your Aunt gets well soon. I'm sorry about giving up on us, I really do love you and I always will.. but It's best for us both, we had good times but a very unhealthy relationship. Thanks you for the kind message. I wish you the best. God bless you

[@Shadow-sl8wj]

🐾 I💝 listening to u, ur voice is so amazing, so do ur smile🤗. Thank u so much for ur wisdom🙏💐.

[@bluegrasser9992]

Super awesome and so truthful. If you start flocking after them... your just teaching them,,, and yourself,,, how to become a doormat.... just a heads up! Lol ty for the great video. Pushing away people who do this to you also helps you create boundaries and keep narracisst out of your life,, hopefully.

[@wutabeta1187]

Your videos are like having a crystal ball🤣

[@PB-md3nt]

Preach the gospel Coach Blac

[@stephenfry5957]

So what about a coworker? I have leadership role in the workplace, but she does not. How do I calmly keep my distance if we have to work together?

[@rsaunderst]

He is Leaving. I am Done. It's no coming Back. No contact!!!

[@dontaedennis1989]

Bro this video was fire 🔥for real. This just helped me out soo much, my girl of 3 years broke up with me, it crushed me. This video just gave me the blueprint on how to move on with my life. Keep up the good work my dude

[@patsalazar2916]

Thank for this!! It was very helpful!! Thanks

[@9parasqn656]

Thank you. You have bolstered my determination.

[@LatenighttalkswithDeejay]

Definitely do a podcast !!

[@tanakagurajena1258]

Im happy to be amongst the first people to watch this.Thanks Coach

[@blacademic]

Thank you! 🙏

[@lucylu299]

What about a short term relationship? 5 months from chatting till being together, I have been 2 months no contact. Does it mean completely over? Can you do videos like short term relationships please? Thank you.

[@Godsfavoritefairy]

i wouldn’t consider 5 months short.. that’s pretty long if u both bonded over that many months

[@yng27]

it’s really up to you, don’t set a time frame or limit though. work on yourself, your career , your body , your studies, whatever you can improve on become the best but not for them or to get them back but for yourself so you can send that message out to the universe that you choose YOURSELF not anyone

[@amrelessawy6774]

Hello Coach, Thank you for videos. They really bring me peace when I’m at my most down. My question is what if my ex Fiancé broke up with me and blocked me on everything a week after, still has me blocked over a month later? She gave random reasons during the break up, then told friends it was because of something early in the relationship that I thought we got over. She refused to talk at all when the breakup happened and till now. Told friends she has a fear about me doing something in the future and that she thinks she doesn’t need closure Again, I really appreciate you and everything you do. Any input would really help ease me. Thank you again coach!

[@jessedanger8788]

That is a NICE jacket!!!

[@boxerxx951]

I applied no contact before then my ex reached out to me then broke up again and then again no contact and it’s been a year or more but I’ve been wanting to move on this time

[@xahiigaming8471]

After breakup i beg her for about 2 months,but she hated me more ,but after begging for 2 months ,i said her yesterday that i am not following u now ,i am good now ,u don't deserve my love ,now i am under no contact rule ,will it work?

[@Pinpolish]

I appreciate you so much. Great video❤

[@ValNiqqui]

why do i feel like i cannot find anther person in my life that will match his kindness, comfort etc... i feel like i only matched with him.. i have been single for 5 years and i really like this one.. i want him back, maybe im the problem? the vibes were all there he would tell me the same.. broke up with me said that we didnt match so dunno. told me to continue with my life..... fucking HELL im going through

[@nova12332]

ugh its only been 6 days and its so hard to maintain NC...

[@minevermabula4981]

Great advice guru 🥰

[@janingraham325]

You have a soothing voice

[@blacademic]

I didn’t know that till I started posting videos lol. But thank you!

[@leighjacobs6125]

coach thanks so much for the great videos u help me through so much, im divorced, he divorced me and iv been in no contract for 6 months... it would be awesome if you could do a lil more vids for divorce too. love you u R genius 💜💜

[@audrey4150]

Thank you so much for doing this. I’m in so much pain rn and watching your videos helps so much.

[@Factsseries-m5g]

I've broken the NO CONTACT Rule several times, can I start over again and will it still work?

[@niteowlvirgo6242]

Hi I’m new to following you, not sure if you’ve answered this but what’s a normal time frame no contact can last?

[@jackbuttler7106]

Legend🏆 by all means, thank you.

[@tonylopez9200]

Very true, men 🙏 .

[@donyawalker8459]

That was great and truthful

[@tatianagithuka1307]

Thank you

[@eustacesmith9635]

Two months now she break up with me I used to text on beg her I listen to your advice and go in no contact on now she text me everyday and ask me if am ok thanks for your advice

[@a.d.b535]

What if the reason for leaving wasn't neediness, but being too independent in the relationship?

[@jamaicanprincess2835]

Just wondering what qualifications you have as a coach Where do you get your information All your videos sound very familiar as another coach Lee 3:21 on you tube Are you sure you have not copied his information Your info is literally identical I know he has 20 years experience

[@liliandube7888]

Thank you so much couch 🤔

[@bryanmardoian6339]

My x disconnected her phone a month ago it's been two months she just went mia saying I just bought my uncle home from the hospital and that s all that matters .I sent very nice texts asking why u won't talk to me .nothing for 6:weeks the I got blocked then she disconnected her phone.

[@thisdjsc3571]

What if they broke up with you over something you did,if it was minor or major

[@irenewanjiru3846]

Nice one 🔥

[@catdoghedgehog619]

How do I book with you? İ dont see any links, Im in another country.

[@myandes100]

Thank you so much!!!!

[@Ellie-ug2rw]

Hi coach black 💃😊

[@dnpaker84]

Me and my Ex been FWB for 3year just five months after the back up.. But she still doesn’t want to get back together.. 🤷🏾‍♂️ But I really don’t care about that anymore.

[@namzito22]

Serious question, what do you put in your beard?

[@catdoghedgehog619]

There is no link where is a link for a one-on-one?

[@Taedajuan42]

After 3 months of no contact my ex told me the situation she’s in and asked can she move back as friends because she don’t want a relationship. I felt bad but after three weeks of thinking about it and knowing that I want to be with her I said yes. She just moved in a week ago and say she doesn’t want a relationship but call and text when she not at the house consistently what do I do from here

[@Robert-ri7mt]

You are being used

[@demetriceedmunds2692]

​@@Robert-ri7mtFacts, a person will use you if you let them.

[@nameloading..8665]

I would love to hear the story of how you started on this path. Your really good at it and your advice is on point. @shantibeads

[@MubiruPhilip]

Hi coach have been with my ex for 2 yrs, no sex she said we should wait, she's 23, am 42, last friday I asked for help, she didn't care atall,have gone no contact, wat should I do?

[@khristianabanto5577]

is it late to start no contact if we broke up 6 months ago and still contacting and dating each other from time to time?..., and she trreated me as a friend?

[@mkwhole]

Thanks man

[@Mmjk_12]

What if they are avoidant and its a long distance relationship 50% of the time?

[@alekskribbs3022]

Let me know when you figure it out. I feel for you man, hang in there.

[@Godsfavoritefairy]

let me know on the update

[@Godsfavoritefairy]

what if they consistently watch ur ig stories almost instantaneously. should we remove them so they don’t see anything at all or is that ok ?

[@zakietsuzuh8884]

Happy to you

[@pamk380]

What if was a 2 week relationship? Does this still apply?

[@brandonwilliams2109]

Hey coach Black Holla back at me

[@MegasTeque]

Does this still apply if they entered a relationship instantly?

[@emmokaya4071]

Then he/she never really loved you and was never ready to be in a relationship the first time. Keep ya head up!

[@mjgray0820]

Here is the thing my wife barely picks up her phone so how she going to notice that I am in no contact or not

[@willow_pillow]

I was in no contact for 57 days and yes, he contacted me. Before that he wanted to be "friends" and I contacted him several times because of that. He responded cold and distanced. Now he has contacted me five times over the last weeks and I have not responded. After nearly two months of no contact, its his turn to feel the pain

[@nevlee5921]

Should you block them from your phone

[@iva3744]

The truth.

[@horaceblige2699]

She with her new guy I believe after two months

[@חניאהרון]

❤❤❤

[@constantinelateralus9891]

I removed myself cuz i know how crows works but when you tell the Truth you shut the mouth to crow that she will be silent even more...But one thing is for sure IM SO DAMN BRAVE THAT I WILL FACE MY EX...And give her a reason she cant find any better... But we will go step by step... ❤️ BUT when she left me i show her a side that she do not want to mess around...she admit that she got scared but as a man i said im sorry... In the end i took all her stuf and bring her to doors and like a gentelman gave her a ROSE... Take it and suffer now...Im just acting like a human being... Sorry 🤣❤️😎

[@genietravelblog2940]

I hope

[@jesseniaguajardo2206]

I say he's name alot supposedly he thinking of me idk

[@HolyRollerTV]

yea but your ex aint shit..thats why you aint with her..never take her back

[@anneedens2154]

You're christalclear

[@Almighty_rage777]

All I see is girls in this comment section telling their success stories. Are there any guy success stories here? 😂