This is the EXACT WAY to Treat Your EX to get them Back: The 5 LEVELS of Relationship with Your EX

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Coach Blac - Blacademic

Coach Blac - Blacademic

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This is the EXACT WAY to Treat Your EX to Get them Back: The 5 LEVELS of Relationship with Your EX
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@blacademic
@blacademic 6 ай бұрын
Watch the video for full context, but in summary, so there’s no confusion, after all breakup, your ex only gets one of the following 3 levels of relationship (out of 5 total). Strangers: when they aren’t contacting or interacting with you. Acquaintances: when random circumstances put you in their orbit. Romantic: if they reach out to you directly. No other option is available. Specifically friendship or enemies. Many people get this wrong. Treating your ex like an enemy makes you look petty and insecure and hurt. This does nothing to raise their attraction for you Treat them like a romantic interest when they reach out to you (not a spouse). But there should always be a romantic context to your interactions and if the refuse that, the only option they will get is to be treated like an acquaintance
@gillh405
@gillh405 6 ай бұрын
Thanks for giving me clarity. 18 month LDR, I recently spent a week with him and felt I'd been shifted to the friendship box even though he still called me his woman. Got home, I was 99% certain he was talking to another woman. He denied it, declined to end the relationship, talked about our next visit together then put even more emotional distance between us. He denied it again but I was certain so presented him with evidence, he didn't deny it this time but didn't admit it either. I wished him well by text, no contact for 10 days so far. I'm not certain we'll ever speak again but at least now I know unless he reaches out, he stays a stranger. We live in different countries so no chance of meeting by accident. It's so hard but if he thinks the grass is greener, he can go there. Do some people never learn? He's 67, I've just turned 65 and he's acting like he's 40 🙄
@married2purpose
@married2purpose 6 ай бұрын
@alicem3489
@alicem3489 6 ай бұрын
Should I archive the only photo I have posted of us on Instagram?
@user-gw1qy7pw4g
@user-gw1qy7pw4g 6 ай бұрын
Hes not a man why couldn't he tell me hes still with his wife this whole time now won't answer???????? he told me he was seperated and getting divorced any day now I cannot get in touch with him or maybe hes reading my texts and not answering!!
@paulbelland6220
@paulbelland6220 6 ай бұрын
She broke up with me in October and finally went into no contact on Thanksgiving weekend. Last week she showed up at my bar\hangout with a gf. She knew I would be there as I go every Tuesday. I was quite surprised and just shot a quick glance and left. I wasn’t angry or bitter just didn’t want to see her or interact yet as I Dont think it’s been long enough for her to experience any loss. Back in no contact now. Should I just wait for her to reach out at a later time or have I blown it?
@Mayank_bhonsle
@Mayank_bhonsle 6 ай бұрын
After 6 months of no contact, I'm less attracted towards my ex. Tomorrow is her birthday and I'm so less interest that I don't care much about it. Trust the process ❤ Give yourself time to heal and never let the same snake bite you twice .
@SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858
@SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858 6 ай бұрын
1. I think it would depend how long you guys were together. 2. What happend in the relationship. 3. How they feel about you. 4. Why would you want to get back with someone who obviously rejected you clearly and didn't fight for the relationship? 5. It will not be the same, the trust is gone, if you guys ever get back together. They broke that trust. It was THEIR doing. 6. Six months is a lot of time to think about whether you want someone back. A lot of things can happen in that time frame. Someone could get into another relationship. There can be a death in the family. A job loss, etc. If they will abandon you, they unfortunately never loved you or really cared. Plain and simple. A relationship and love is supposed to be there for you through thick and thin (sans abuse), but for the very most part, you are supposed to be able to rely on your partner. If they can bolt for any small or big reason, then they weren't that committed to you in the first place, sadly. It's better to start afresh with somone who DOES value that chance and won't throw it away or squander it!
@constancemiller4279
@constancemiller4279 6 ай бұрын
👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
@user-by4sd2jy2c
@user-by4sd2jy2c 4 ай бұрын
Facts 😊
@Colorado303Adventures
@Colorado303Adventures 4 ай бұрын
SNAKE 🐍 bit me 4 times... each time is worse. I'm on a lot of medicine 💊 to deal with the trauma. We're toxic together but also really good. We amplify our good sides and our bad sides. But the good is so good.
@Colorado303Adventures
@Colorado303Adventures 4 ай бұрын
This is the first time I'm going no contact, I'm just so done. But hoping this changes her if she does come back and if she doesn't then I'm going to live my life
@don6160
@don6160 6 ай бұрын
Sometimes your ex doesnt Comeback. I think it is necessary to focus on yourself. Especially on your mind set. It is all about controlling emotions, feelings, thoughts. And you will feel better soon. I can recommend the book THE CHARISMA MYTH. There author describes lot of techniques that help you.
@user-tc3zq7uy9m
@user-tc3zq7uy9m 5 ай бұрын
Thanks a million!
@NYCNY92
@NYCNY92 4 ай бұрын
We know this. Why must ppl state the obvious and bring down the moral. His videos are to help ppl get their ex back. If you got yours back you wouldn’t feel the need to reitirate the obvious. You probably wouldn’t even be commenting.
@canis556
@canis556 6 ай бұрын
From cream pies to no replies. True love story
@miketopcu8067
@miketopcu8067 5 ай бұрын
Lmao
@RecioJohn
@RecioJohn 2 ай бұрын
Hahahahah
@MrRelmonte
@MrRelmonte Ай бұрын
😆😆😆
@trishfarber7313
@trishfarber7313 Ай бұрын
Good one 😉
@richardochoa3832
@richardochoa3832 5 ай бұрын
This no contact is only the beginning And will work, BUT YOU MUST WORK ON RESPECT
@christopherdriver9369
@christopherdriver9369 6 ай бұрын
No contact is for your own healing. My ex reached out right before Thanksgiving. I almost had a panic attack. My fight or flight response kicked in. She was rude, entitled, and blocked me again right after she got what she wanted. It's been more than a year. I finally realized that I wanted nothing to do with her and I never want to feel the way she made me feel again. I blocked her on everything and feel so much more at peace now. She no longer has access to me.
@yangjirui123
@yangjirui123 6 ай бұрын
Congrats brother
@mord7072
@mord7072 4 ай бұрын
After 4 months in no contact ,she contacted me.We talk what was in our lives.We meet and eat ,drinking coffee few times. Sometimes she comes saying “ I wanted to sleep at you ,maybe watching one movie “ ,one time she said “ I go later at one bar ,is ok? “ I said “ u are not my wife anymore why u ask me this” ,she burst in crying and saying is stress from work. I end up everything,I block her everywhere because she just use me ,bring me there ,come drink with me ,I’m drunk please take me ,I can t move alone. Back in no contact now ,idc anymore.
@WhatsThePoint01
@WhatsThePoint01 4 ай бұрын
I’m praying your life gets better and you are able to heal. These things are hard, but tough circumstances create better humans.
@trevorstevenson4772
@trevorstevenson4772 2 ай бұрын
Let people down slowly dude.
@user-cy1mv1vw3x
@user-cy1mv1vw3x 6 ай бұрын
I just found your channel. I wish I had sooner. My ex broke up with me in April. I have lost my mind and did so many things to push him away more. He also been taking to a much younger woman this whole time. I have been watching your videos all weekend. It's time to do this differently. Thank you for your content.
@HojaFPS
@HojaFPS 6 ай бұрын
My GF broke up closely to 1 month ago. I was a mess before. I didnt had goals in my life, didnt do much and I dont wonder why shes gone. When she did leave I changed my life. I went to the gym nearly every day, followed a strict diet, found a really good job and.. well we have 0% contact. I always think to myself that this is all she ever wanted from me. Nothing more, nothing less. It makes it more sad.. I just keep going, I guess.
@matt1yas
@matt1yas 6 ай бұрын
1 month is still early, hope she’ll eventually see your value and reach back to fix things
@HojaFPS
@HojaFPS 6 ай бұрын
Honestly. I dont think so. I mean she might would, if she knew how I change. But she doesnt. She cant see it, I am silent on social media etc. And - honestly if I would do this stuff only to get her back, then I havent really changed myself. I finally realize I can do this stuff for myself. My whole day is planned on how will i maximize my finances when I start my job at 2nd january, the rest is how do I perfectly eat to get in shape and go to the gym + boxing lmao! I m sure if she saw me she would be surprised and I m not gonna be saying "no you dumped me there is no way back" - I will always remember what she did for me and if she wasnt there in that time of my life I have no clue if I was still here. So I ll be thankful and maybe one day I can give everything back. And if not, then maybe my part is just to let her go. @@matt1yas
@tinasettle1026
@tinasettle1026 6 ай бұрын
It's only been a month geeezzzz, don't give up yet
@Millennialtomb
@Millennialtomb 6 ай бұрын
@matt1yas Probably not. Women dump much better men than all of us for much more petty reasons. It mostly boils down to them getting bored and projecting everything wrong in their lives onto their man, so they grow to resent him. Once they're done, they're done. Harsh, but true.
@HojaFPS
@HojaFPS 6 ай бұрын
Agreed and disagreed. I guess thats for unhealthy / broken women^^ but thats not really what she was. I m almost confident me not loving myself was the reason that slowly happened @@Millennialtomb
@vorbis4860
@vorbis4860 6 ай бұрын
That is very clear, thank you.
@swolebodydaddy3816
@swolebodydaddy3816 6 ай бұрын
hey, thank you for your live streams, helped me alot
@rodzillarox4882
@rodzillarox4882 6 ай бұрын
Hope you’re feeling better Coach
@bipbop7231
@bipbop7231 6 ай бұрын
Coach, wishing you a speedy recovery! Another stellar video!
@lorriewinder3947
@lorriewinder3947 6 ай бұрын
Coach Black I've haven't been seeing any of your videos in a couple of days until now
@ashleywilliams3343
@ashleywilliams3343 6 ай бұрын
I appreciate these videos so much. I get a lot of value from your content, so thanks so much for what you do!
@blacademic
@blacademic 6 ай бұрын
My pleasure! Thanks for watching and commenting 🙏
@k1202009
@k1202009 6 ай бұрын
Sooo good!!! Thanks! ❤
@weirdguy3648
@weirdguy3648 6 ай бұрын
Thank you coach blac, now i don't care my about my thanks to you am now free and i can sleep now well.
@ligyasouza755
@ligyasouza755 5 ай бұрын
Excellent wise video
@scripturallove8567
@scripturallove8567 6 ай бұрын
My ex states he will come back if he has a change of heart unashamedly after i mentioned considering reconciliation in the future. Since this comment of his, ive done no contact. So hard not being able to check up on someone you care about 🥺
@RuthDocherty-fx3vw
@RuthDocherty-fx3vw 6 ай бұрын
If it wasn't for my friends i would txted him again by now but no contact does let you gain some dignity
@tamikomarsh976
@tamikomarsh976 6 ай бұрын
Thanks!
@lnoaltae
@lnoaltae 6 ай бұрын
Good insight. I wish i would have seen this in July. To date, we are strangers. 😢 When we broke up I thought we would both work on healing and reconcile but he moved on from woman to woman. And i messed up by still being there for him. He did make the move to get together but he still ghosted each time. So, yeah, now we are in the stranger level.
@jc15347
@jc15347 6 ай бұрын
That is exactly my situation. He moved on too quickly and is still dating multiple women. I also thought we could reconcile. But he was hot and cold and finally at the stranger level again 😔😓. Hope he gets his sense back. Best wishes to you too.
@ralowjohnson1506
@ralowjohnson1506 6 ай бұрын
Thanks coach we need more video,s about when your ex is dating some one new
@JM-bv2mo
@JM-bv2mo 6 ай бұрын
You’ve helped me a lot ty! I’m in the place where he needs to say his truth but I don’t talk to him like a friend. I said we’re friends but I don’t act like it.
@CatwalkPurz
@CatwalkPurz 3 ай бұрын
You should go no contact. hard-no-contact until you are offered more than friends-zone
@JM-bv2mo
@JM-bv2mo 3 ай бұрын
@@CatwalkPurz made the mistake of accepting friendship now I’m just gonna disappear! He still has my IG access but I won’t ever msg him
@lauren3027
@lauren3027 5 ай бұрын
8:16 Anxiety has been high today since his bday is tmrw. We are strangers though. I tried to be friends but he is clearly not interested in that. He's blocked me twice, now unblocked (I believe.... haven't reached out to see if that's changed), and NC for 29 days now, so tmrw being his bday and technically could end NC to say HBD but you are right, I wouldn't do that for a stranger, or anyone else who is out of my life, so why would I treat him differently, right? So thanks for this message, your perspective is exactly exactly what I needed to hear right now!!! 🙏🏼 ❤️
@CatwalkPurz
@CatwalkPurz 3 ай бұрын
Good strong movement. Stay strong. 🙌
@matt1yas
@matt1yas 6 ай бұрын
My girl broke up with few days ago… we still live together as we have an appartement. This is basically torture. We’re kind to each other as she never wanted to come to this but, she lost feelings during our 2 years together because of some very traumatic events coming from my family and other things… we’ve been torn apart from the outside and sabotaged. We weren’t ready for all this. The conclusion is that she needs to grow up and heal from all of this. But seeing her everyday is painful and sometimes I relapse and start to beg and be weak… the knowledge I get from you coach will sure help me once I go no contact. I’m full of hope since we were madly in love with each other and she still has a few feelings for me. Wish me luck
@alexthomas4442
@alexthomas4442 6 ай бұрын
She wont learn your value until you walk away. If you rekindle romance with this woman she will only see it as weakness. I'm sorry but this is the female nature
@Millennialtomb
@Millennialtomb 6 ай бұрын
It would be more ideal for you to no longer live together. However I'm well, well aware the current economic climate does not permit that a lot of the time.
@matt1yas
@matt1yas 6 ай бұрын
@@Millennialtomb it would sure and kinda sadly I’m looking forward to it since I have now a clear plan, be but as you said, you can’t switch from an apartment to an other in our current economic climate. So I sometimes make things worse without even wanting it
@scarboogie
@scarboogie 6 ай бұрын
My ex walks into the house talking to her new boo thing while me and my son is around. Karma takes notes. Be strong and patient
@user-vk7zw4vw2o
@user-vk7zw4vw2o 5 ай бұрын
I think yall need sit down talk bout who gonna move out
@smilebrown4480
@smilebrown4480 3 ай бұрын
She said she doesn’t feel anything for me! She said that three times today and that there is know way we can make up
@JossyDax-ts7pq
@JossyDax-ts7pq 5 ай бұрын
I always hit the like when you tell me btw😊
@LILSLEEPY81
@LILSLEEPY81 6 ай бұрын
I was there... got her back. But I can't stay out of my own way. Now she's gone again and I'm blocked.. who knows when we'll talk or if we'll ever. I'm tired of messing things up. I'm back at square one and this time I'm not falling off what got me back.
@brettvaughan7484
@brettvaughan7484 Ай бұрын
I messed up and bought my ex birthday presents 🤦🏻‍♂️ she did text me saying”you didn’t tell me happy birthday” then I went and saw her for like 30 minutes the next day and gave her her present. She said thank you for always being so sweet to me
@amamendez9860
@amamendez9860 5 ай бұрын
Good point! I didn’t accept his friendship and he got mad cause I didn’t text him happy birthday. If he doesn’t do anything I ignore him.
@Anonymous3.3.
@Anonymous3.3. 6 ай бұрын
Thank you for this video. Can you pls talk more about dealing with a husband who wants to end the marriage but still wants to live in the same house because we have kids
@ctooey9968
@ctooey9968 4 ай бұрын
I'd like to know too- same situation
@CatwalkPurz
@CatwalkPurz 3 ай бұрын
You are telling what your “ex” wants. BUT WHAT DO YOU want? 🤷🏻‍♀️ You have choices and options. Don’t let him run YOUR SHOW.
@ghstyt.728
@ghstyt.728 6 ай бұрын
Tysmm i love your vids it helped me alot and now i think my gf is close from coming back
@ZiqiHu
@ZiqiHu 6 ай бұрын
This is by far the most accurate explanation when other people say let's be friends. lol. Hurts to see the truth, I am the clown.
@user-pz5fg9hr1e
@user-pz5fg9hr1e 6 ай бұрын
I've come to the conclusion that its really over between me and my bd. Im finally seeing my worth. After getting cheated on, him giving me a std o realize how dumb i have been wanting this to work. I will still enjoy these videos, while i work on being the best version of myself.
@vondawilliams6260
@vondawilliams6260 17 күн бұрын
No there needs to be a conversation on how to make things better so that you both are agreeing on how to move forward
@sheenacarol265
@sheenacarol265 6 ай бұрын
❤treat your ex like a stranger
@Tasha_kids
@Tasha_kids 5 ай бұрын
Oh I been doing no contact wrong 😂… I being treated the person when we have to be in the same place , like he doesn’t exist 😮
@leonardvanonselen
@leonardvanonselen 6 ай бұрын
Six months after the breakup and after lots of breadcrumbs, following your advice, stints of no contact & radio silence, she's still in a rebound and still trying to keep me on the hook. I'm collecting the last of my possessions this weekend and then I'm done. Any alternative suggestions coach ?
@tinktink8888
@tinktink8888 6 ай бұрын
Send rebound your interaction texts. She can breadcrumb herself to Hell. Move forward, don’t look back.
@avenuempire
@avenuempire 6 ай бұрын
​@@tinktink8888don't do this. OP is presumably a male, and what you're suggesting is not only petty, but it's messy, feminine behavior.
@aBLA910
@aBLA910 22 сағат бұрын
My ex that lived with me for 3 years dumped me last week, and won’t stop messaging me. When I don’t reply he gets offended, but he also won’t meet me in person. He says it would be hard to lose me because I’m “still his best friend” I feel like I’m getting set up. How are we friends? He told me ALL the time that guys and girls can’t be friends, ESPECIALLY not exes… now he says this…And what happens when you get a girlfriend someday? Are you just gonna ghost me? I’m so heartbroken and made the mistake of maniacally begging for him back at first, but now I’ve been playing it cool the past few days.
@cplcaz01
@cplcaz01 3 күн бұрын
Hey love these videos so helpful, I have a question? When my wife said she said she didn’t want me anymore, I did all the usual stuff, I commissioned a song for her. When after No Contact do I give it to her or do I not? The song is about us together, how we met and stuff we have been through, I don’t want to come across needy but maybe I guess I’d like it to provoke the feeling again of what it was like in the beginning? Thank you for your time .
@lilianaramirezrealestatebroker
@lilianaramirezrealestatebroker 6 ай бұрын
Romance or acquaintance...Got it!
@yangjirui123
@yangjirui123 6 ай бұрын
Once i recognized my ex was taking advantage of me. All bets are off.
@albertocastillo4238
@albertocastillo4238 6 ай бұрын
I recently deleted all her pictures from my instagram giving her the break up. She comes shortly after a few days later that she unfollowed me and also took me off her following. Did I do a bad move ? I’ve been in zero contact with her for almost 3 weeks.
@nyasijahmilton6795
@nyasijahmilton6795 6 ай бұрын
My ex had moved on I surely miss him
@sorin_ion8151
@sorin_ion8151 Ай бұрын
It is not about the x ,is about you . You don't need a bad person back into your life .
@jibberjabber2
@jibberjabber2 6 ай бұрын
What if my ex is long distance, she broke up with me and I’ve been in no contact but she wants to be friends and talk to me occasionally. What can I do to offer romance since I obviously can’t take her out for drinks or currently go on a date with her?
@antoniajuddine203
@antoniajuddine203 3 ай бұрын
Why would anyone want a EX back just move on.
@Sporacle
@Sporacle Ай бұрын
I left my ex because of drug use. I wanted to see us through. Do you have any idea how hard it is to HAVE to leave someone, so that either of you can be well? And still feel nothing but love and dedication to the person you left? It's fucking brutal
@Beth1300
@Beth1300 6 ай бұрын
Just to clarify, as a woman did you recommend I suggest once that we meet up in public, if he's been initiating contact? I was unsure if you meant that or meant to wait for him to suggest it. Thanks. Feel better soon
@cecilgriffiths6399
@cecilgriffiths6399 6 ай бұрын
My ex was tagged in a Facebook post with photos of her in it - we haven’t spoken for ages but so want to reconnect with her so I replied with ‘let’s talk soon’ She hasn’t replied since last evening. I guess I’ve lost her! 😢
@Dreamsareareality
@Dreamsareareality 6 ай бұрын
Maybe she did not see it?
@MrTheomighty1
@MrTheomighty1 6 ай бұрын
It’s ok doing NC with an SP and being told to do it but there needs to be follow on videos where we need advice on what to do once the SP contacts us and breaks the NC we are in. How do we reply or respond back to them because I understand that once they reach out we don’t ignore. We need advice on how not to rush or ruin things. Coach can you turn off the adverts because they are longer than your video
@jvb6072
@jvb6072 5 ай бұрын
3 months of no contact. Is it too early to start dating again? How long does it take for an ex to reach out after all? Sometimes i feel, what am i waiting for?
@josealeman1500
@josealeman1500 6 ай бұрын
Coach , my ex blocked me when I ignored one of her messages. I had asked her not to contact me unless she had serious feelings about me. That was on the phone conversation prior to this. What do you think?
@couldstrife1
@couldstrife1 6 ай бұрын
Thanks for this, but I think I’m in the friend zone as my ex keeps reaching out as her rebound didn’t work out. Suggested meeting up and she seemed up for it then asked for a rain check when we talk it’s barely a conversation more one sided on her part so I don’t really know what to do I have suggested meeting up since
@tinashemaramba1472
@tinashemaramba1472 6 ай бұрын
She contacted me a few days back she also made the first phone call. The Problem now is that she's not giving me enough space or an atmosphere for us to have a flowing conversation. I'm exhausting myself to make a conversation flow" which i only did once" and because of this I've stopped texting her for 2days now
@user-zw1tq1zt8h
@user-zw1tq1zt8h 2 ай бұрын
We always meet up to clean the church but I don't talk to him and he also don't talk to me what should I do?
@bigshane4ever930
@bigshane4ever930 5 ай бұрын
Do you have a video of yours to refer me to where a man dumped his Ex and things to consider if he wants to get her back?
@DevBizkit
@DevBizkit 6 ай бұрын
just never came back. giving up
@nathantibble2801
@nathantibble2801 6 ай бұрын
So, my ex and I have been slowly reconnecting. I sent one of her tops back and used it as an excuse to message her. She messaged me to let me know it had arrived, so we had a short conversation, and she seemed engaged; she didn't have to say half of what she did. However, I changed the subject to keep it going, informing her that I started a new job today. She read it but didn't reply. Did she freak out, or is she worried that I'm trying to impress her? I'm assuming I should wait a few days before trying again?
@k1202009
@k1202009 6 ай бұрын
It's so interesting- once I backed off he started contacting me so much more now. We had an undeniable connection, he's said I was the one God made for him, the love of his life, the one etc he moved states to be with me- everything happened SO fast and due to circumstances we did need to step it back (his doing) and now he's unsure if he wants to move back here bc his career is there etc. and he needs 100 clarity it's me. I don't want him as a friend- we said we were each other's person....that's what I want. He's been reaching out every day this week- called yesterday no response, called again this morning and I didn't answer... I don't know whether to call back or leave him alone.
@CatwalkPurz
@CatwalkPurz 3 ай бұрын
Watch the rest of the videos in this channel, and you will be very very clear on what to do. Step-by-step it is mapped out what your next steps should be so that you are not being put in the friend zone.
@desireawhalen9405
@desireawhalen9405 6 ай бұрын
Can you do a video on how to get your ex back even when there’s kids involved and no contact isn’t really an option?
@blacademic
@blacademic 6 ай бұрын
No contact is still an option, this video touches on that a bit. You should be treating them like an acquaintance when you HAVE to interact with each other. Otherwise you should be in no contact
@ctooey9968
@ctooey9968 4 ай бұрын
Me too- same situation
@akatukwasaaloysious3441
@akatukwasaaloysious3441 4 ай бұрын
​@blacademic At some point, she got so busy with her work and time for me lessened,and we weren't staying together. It made Me cheat since I felt neglected. From the cheating and getting one pregnant. She gave birth to my first child ever and the other one found out. We now been broken up for 3 months. Been in NC for 4 weeks. Can NC still do any magic and we get back no matter how mad and hurt she was?!
@CatwalkPurz
@CatwalkPurz 3 ай бұрын
The third video in this channel speaks on that topic specifically
@dominiquestaussi3514
@dominiquestaussi3514 6 ай бұрын
Pleaseee could you do something about navigating a relationship with an ex who is an acquaintance and is someone you have to see regularly
@CatwalkPurz
@CatwalkPurz 3 ай бұрын
The third video in this channel speaks about this specifically
@isantos6543
@isantos6543 6 ай бұрын
What's their mindset when an ex texts on a holiday, after months of no contact?
@mrf4308
@mrf4308 6 ай бұрын
My ex and I were so good. We were so happy, so in love. We've never laughed so much, never experienced so much in life. For years she made so much effort, showed such kindness, thoughtfulness, love, as did I. Then she slowly stopped, rationed it, fed me crumbs, to the point I was having to ask, beg for affection, for love. She never wanted to divorve her husband, still lived in the family home and never wanted to buy together, she never wanted to leave her comfortable bubble. We argued, I left, then after 3 weeks of NC she messged, she told me she missed me, missed us etc. We tried again, then after a few amazing dates as a couple and a family, she held back, acted strange. She spoke and told me that she no longer feels the same. Im heart broken. I gave my all, treated her like a woman should be treated, gave up and sacrificed so much to make us work, and all she did was take what I had and drained me emotionally, physically and financially. I.still love her, still want a future, but shes given up 😢
@KoloJohn
@KoloJohn 6 ай бұрын
@Fhcxfhv Please can you help me with his contact
@KoloJohn
@KoloJohn 6 ай бұрын
@Fhcxfhv Thanks, I just keep in touch with you him now.
@CatwalkPurz
@CatwalkPurz 3 ай бұрын
🙌 Maturity is when you don’t force people to choose you. You can’t control their choices. You deserve more and the ex will keep stringing you along, as long as you let them see you as an option
@janestinemcfarlane5765
@janestinemcfarlane5765 4 ай бұрын
My ex asked me to give him space, and I told him ok it only been a 3 weeks he still texts, and I text him too ."I could tell that He still has feelings for him he always responds to my texts and shows me respect ..
@CatwalkPurz
@CatwalkPurz 3 ай бұрын
So do friends. You are letting him put you in the friend zone AND to dull his pain. You are essentially helping him through the pain and make it easier BUT HE DUMPED YOU! Why help him? He is friend-zoning you
@Handeugurlu
@Handeugurlu 6 ай бұрын
Heyy coach blac, i lost attraction before he dumped me, now i am attracted to him after he left me. Is it something that i am missing about him or is it my mind playing games?
@RuthDocherty-fx3vw
@RuthDocherty-fx3vw 6 ай бұрын
Im so sad its been 4 days NC, i can honestly say I'm heart broken, but i cannot contact him again there is such a thing called dignity I know I'm not a bad person just didn't realise he wanted more, he said i didn't put him as a priority i thought i did til last week..
@MynameisChippyyy
@MynameisChippyyy 6 ай бұрын
Whats ppls thoughts on going to a christmas get together where said person will be. I was invited by her brother (her brother is my friends partner). Which was also the last day we were on good terms with eachother too as i was there last xmas. I decided im going either way just to see why i got invited. Wondering if anyone thinks this is a setup in a sense. To make me see her with possibly a new partner or what.
@user-zl9hp6uc2b
@user-zl9hp6uc2b 6 ай бұрын
So question : like you said to be nice we have a kid he calls I don’t answer so what do I do
@TheDon6
@TheDon6 6 ай бұрын
🙏🏽🙏🏽
@Sevoflurane2014
@Sevoflurane2014 4 ай бұрын
My ex reached out 3 weeks after NC while in a rebound relationship. She wanted to call. She ended up basically asking to see if i was still waiting on her. Of course i said no i was not waiting. And said ive just been working on myself. But then i fell into the trap of talking about her rebound and then our relationship..She regretted the call afterwards. I think i pushed her into his arms. Been a month now and never heard from her again. Praying with time and a failed relationship with this loser that she forgets about the call. I apologized 2 days later. She wished me the best again and that was it.
@Croy617
@Croy617 5 ай бұрын
I tried to ask you this on a different video, what category do I put her in when we have a 6 month old baby together? And she calls me and we were best friends before we got married. But she calls me to vent, because she knows I give it to her straight. But what should I do?
@deborahwright7503
@deborahwright7503 6 ай бұрын
Coach I was in a 15 year relationship and my ex can't keep his ex wife out of his mouth. He constantly talks about her cheating on him I. He have done the same to me. What advice do you have.
@sholomobenyosef9659
@sholomobenyosef9659 6 ай бұрын
What if we live together with children???
@tonnypacker.1
@tonnypacker.1 6 ай бұрын
What if she is pregnant and u are the father, but she decide to lie to u and give the new guy the responsibility What does it mean coach
@SusSs-ih8ug
@SusSs-ih8ug 6 ай бұрын
Coach there is one problem when my girlfriend wants to broke up with me she says i didn't get her the spark that we always having but i don't understand what she meant by sparks 😢
@Samantha-bc2uu
@Samantha-bc2uu 6 ай бұрын
Can someone help me make sense of this, my ex is in a rebound relationship...around August and September it seemed that the relationship was really flourishing they were posting on sm nd seemed happy ( but also around September he came to see me twice, and told me how he loved me and how he still has feelings for me, but also said he will now not reach out to me again) on the month of Oct their relationship took a pause...I think he felt lonely again and went back in November.. the girl has started posting him again...during their Lil break up she deleted everything. My ex doesn't post her(only did once and stopped)
@Erin_Kat
@Erin_Kat 6 ай бұрын
My ex moved out 7 months ago. Little breadcrumbs but nothing substantial for the past 2 months. Still with his monkey branch from all I can guess. I still have a good amount of his things and have wondered if I should just tell him one day that I'm bringing his stuff to his place. I've been taking the route of waiting for him to mention getting them. I don't know what is the right thing to do. I figure, he left me, if he wants his stuff back then he can come and get them. If he had MY things I would get my things and go no contact. Let him feel the full loss of me. I feel like I'm stuck in limbo because I still have his stuff, but I'm doing no contact. They're expensive things, too, which I know he will want back. So I feel like he can never really feel the full loss of me if I'm hanging onto them. I don't know what to do. Any advice?
@CatwalkPurz
@CatwalkPurz 3 ай бұрын
He has to put for the effort to come and get them. You aren’t technically hanging onto them if he left them behind. You could put them in a storage unit
@cristianandronache3536
@cristianandronache3536 6 ай бұрын
Hello Coach, my gf broke up with me on 19 Nov, after 3 years, she blocked me on SM, my number ... She told me that she will call me after Christmas and check on me how i am, the breakup was mostly my fault bcs my inmaturity, i still love her and want to fix the relation. When she calls me, should i answer her call and say that i dont want her friendship, i want the romance or just ignore and let her try and call again in other moments?
@cristianandronache3536
@cristianandronache3536 6 ай бұрын
​@Fhcxfhv How can it even be possible to go to a "love shaman" to fix a romantic relationship, it doesn't make sense. If that worked I would have at least tried it, but I don't believe in that stuff.
@JamayaOnEdge
@JamayaOnEdge 5 ай бұрын
At this point I just wanna date bc u get it 😁
@Zayn913
@Zayn913 5 ай бұрын
Should I take back my ex if she wants to return to the relationship after she broke up with me and got with a mutual friend who had a crush on her? We have a child together and this is one of the main reasons I’m considering.
@user-lp5nd2zc9n
@user-lp5nd2zc9n 6 ай бұрын
my ex is nothing like u described its the opposite so for everyone its differenent my ex is an avoidant
@sujatastha255
@sujatastha255 6 ай бұрын
Brother, he can't come back to me. I lost all hope. He is in another country and broke up with me by telling me we can't meet in the future. He said he is not sure about his future.
@Kfir123
@Kfir123 5 ай бұрын
And if we both working togther??
@saniatahir1248
@saniatahir1248 6 ай бұрын
He is getting married, and I am here dead.
@pris_pris
@pris_pris 4 ай бұрын
😞😞😞😞😞😞
@LorenaBerrenbaum
@LorenaBerrenbaum 4 ай бұрын
😢😢😢 sending love❤️❤️❤️
@alicem3489
@alicem3489 6 ай бұрын
Should I archive the only photo I have posted of us on Instagram?
@siphumelelezibi4487
@siphumelelezibi4487 3 ай бұрын
Just a question. My ex came back n crying. I managed to convince her towards the problem bt we do talk however the conversation mostly m the one who initiates it. Sometimes she answers only with short text after we had long video calls
@user-li3rc4rp8j
@user-li3rc4rp8j 3 ай бұрын
What can I do if they have clothing by me and I need to return it but not want to contact or see them?
@trishfarber7313
@trishfarber7313 Ай бұрын
This is gd question? What did u do?
@user-jh1kj8bk3m
@user-jh1kj8bk3m 4 ай бұрын
It's so hard to just walk away after over 12 years but only married for little over 2years what do you do or how you act when she's still heer at our place for a month n acts like nothings wrong but yet she's still leaveing and said well im not getting divorce papers right away but then can't n wount be civil when I ask her what I'm supposed to do when my life is leaveing me and taking our ten year old to even thoe my daughter n I want her to stay where she was going up don't understand how to turn feelings off n act like nothing is wrong
@JossyDax-ts7pq
@JossyDax-ts7pq 5 ай бұрын
7:00 friendship 15:30 car
@Juice1990s
@Juice1990s 3 ай бұрын
What happened if you live with your ex
@JustAguywholikesmotos
@JustAguywholikesmotos Ай бұрын
My story with her is the following so if anyone has anything to say about it , tell me. She came to study for some months in my country ( she is from America and I'm in Europe ), and we met and started hanging out. After 2-3 dates , she decided, after talking with her friends of course, that she shouldn't get closer with me since she is leaving in two months and because her friends told her that she should be single since she got out of a long year relationship. We stop for some days and we talk again after i texted and went out again. I had started feeling things for her too but i knew it would have to stop after she had to leave. In that date , she told me that she kissed with someone when we werent talking and although we didn't have a relationship, I didn't like it . She started crying saying she was sorry and everything but I couldn't say anything either because like I said we weren't in a relationship. So i told her that we could continue hooking up and shit but nothing more I guess. After 2 days she decides AGAIN that we have to stop this because again her friends say that we shouldnt continue either and because she told them i made her cry and they said i was an asshole ( although it wasnt my fault really). I say fuck this , and we stop talking again. Buut, i texted her after a week and again she agreed to go out. After that , she said she didn't want to keep her self back and that she wants to be with me only since she has feelings..or so i thought. After 2 weeks, hanging almost everyday together and doing all kinds of things, we get in a relationship. We said that we wanted to keep it evn though if she left , and that i would come in America to work and be with her after some months. She agreed that she wanted to try this because she didn't want to lose me. Her crying almost every time thinking that she would have to leave me and everything made me believe that she wanted this . Aand after 4 days after she left , she decided that she wasn't ready for a relationship and that she wasn't sure of she loved me back , although she was saying it, and that she needed more time to say it and be more meaningful. So..we break up and we haven't talked since..i haven't sent anything and disappeared .. although i havent deleted her from Instagram. Im still thinking about her after a month now, and although i feel better than i was at the beginning, I still miss her and cant move on. Im still going to America but in a different state because i have family there . Any thoughts on this?
@geraldinesanon5493
@geraldinesanon5493 4 ай бұрын
Can a man’s zodiac sign determine how he will react to NC?
@user-zl9hp6uc2b
@user-zl9hp6uc2b 6 ай бұрын
Something tells me that he’s only checking to see something/ first of he use to lie about coming by to see the kids so I stop answering cause he never come so.,,,
@angelicdazzle
@angelicdazzle 6 ай бұрын
What is confusing I will go to these relationship website and you do a quiz to determine if your ex will come back and one of the questions is if your ex contacted since the break up… and mine hasn’t it’s been 3 weeks and based on these quizzes it’s like a low chance of my ex coming back but I thought the whole point of no contact was neither you or ur ex will communicate for a while and this can be months.. and it’s for your ex to reach out first… so that has been confusing and low key distress to me
@user-dt6kj7wi2f
@user-dt6kj7wi2f 6 ай бұрын
So coach if she reaches out I must lead in the start not her? Cause 4 days ago she reached out with a stupid excuse we had a mini conversation 5 minutes I think I asked her how her life goes she asked me the same and cause she didn't said anything more I told her i had something to do to go outside and I said happy to hear from you goodnight and I close the phone on her first did I made a mistake? I was talking to her casual but politely and I didn't show to her that I want her back showed indifferent for the first time did I screw up?
@blacademic
@blacademic 6 ай бұрын
Not bad. Next time suggest hanging out. Indifference is good, but ultimately you are responsible for moving things forward
@user-yo1dv3cu3y
@user-yo1dv3cu3y 6 ай бұрын
Going NC a month ago. Luckily or unlucky me and my ex have the same birthday and it's this month,so what if she text and wished me.. Should i wish her back.? Coach plz answer
@upsndownes
@upsndownes 6 ай бұрын
I have the same bday in January as my ex who dumped me back in October! Dealing with the same question brother, told myself if she doesn’t reach out to wish me a happy bday, then it’s time i gotta fully move on. If she does text, just gotta say thanks you too, and maybe start a convo.
@user-yo1dv3cu3y
@user-yo1dv3cu3y 6 ай бұрын
@@upsndownes us bro us.. We both got dump on the same month.. Same birthdays will always remind us on this specific day even though we moved on in life.
@G45and47
@G45and47 6 ай бұрын
Same gym together, time to switch gyms, no?
@juanitagonzalez8333
@juanitagonzalez8333 6 ай бұрын
Absolutely Not! Let him see you win! Focus on you!!!treat him.like a ghost!
@CatwalkPurz
@CatwalkPurz 3 ай бұрын
It gives you a chance to be indifferent. Don’t ignore him, because that looks petty. He is just a person you used to know. 🤷🏻‍♀️🙌
@jerlincaraballo
@jerlincaraballo 6 ай бұрын
I don’t think my husband is coming back, at least not for now, i do have faith that Heavenly Father can change his heart again 😢
@jerlincaraballo
@jerlincaraballo 6 ай бұрын
I’m so sad, don’t know how to not cry everyday 😓
@wutdeycallme4188
@wutdeycallme4188 6 ай бұрын
Time heals. God is good. I know its hard because im currently going through it. Stay strong.
@jerlincaraballo
@jerlincaraballo 6 ай бұрын
@@wutdeycallme4188 same for you, thank you!🙏🏻
@angeliquebrown6100
@angeliquebrown6100 6 ай бұрын
Follow Tiphanie Montgomery. She’s doing a marriage fast. It will help to restore your marriage
@jerlincaraballo
@jerlincaraballo 6 ай бұрын
@@angeliquebrown6100 thank you, going to go there 🙏🏻 thanks you!💚
@user-lf4cj8nn3e
@user-lf4cj8nn3e 6 ай бұрын
( HELP ME ! ) My ex came back after two weeks of no contact tell me she can’t let me go and truly loves me over the phone so we went out to the movies n she was acting so weird she didn’t want to give me a hug or anything but I act like I didn’t care she’s doing everything to make me angry, I Asked her what does she want from me and she said friends i said no we got into another argument, that made me say some hurtful things to her and now I’m sad that I did, she blocked me again..WHAT SHOULD I DO NOW????
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