3 Words You MUST NEVER Say to Your EX after NO CONTACT | Communicating with Your EX after a Breakup

[@liamjohnson3247]

#1. Sign no contact is working for you: you lose interest.

[@adelante3938]

Yes

[@sushisam3010]

Oh, the magic happens: you start to see everything clearly and, sign #2 NC is working for you is that you start to think WTF?!

[@joev7014]

I’m losing interest and I feel way better

[@39utopiaman]

Bro i woke up and im noticing the feelings are lost for this women like I really starting to not care and it feels good tbh

[@NAKitty-j5b]

Yes 😂 🙌 let’s not mention he contacted me and I didn’t care 😅 I’m done lol

[@Jonesybabie]

Just to give some of yall hope... I had an ex come back after like 2 years, with some crusty breadcrumbs 😮‍💨... saying I'm their soulmate blah blah blah. All the words I had PRAYED and CRIED and BEGGED to hear... but by then, not only had I moved tf on and was happy I did, but they had a new person as well (who I felt bad for... if only they knew 🙄). I still remember the pain I felt... to this day I remember it, but more like an "observer" and not from that place I was in at the time. The pain is real... but so is the healing 🤗 #stayfocused #stayblessed #lovejonezin

[@Ericgodisgood]

This person block u on everything

[@Jonesybabie]

@@Ericgodisgood I wasn't blocked. Just ignored heavy. Then once I stopped trying, they came back apologizing.

[@Ericgodisgood]

@@Jonesybabie yeah man she moved on in I mess up I’m blocked on everything she wants nothing to do with me

[@Babe18-vr1os]

@@Ericgodisgoodsame here. I'm blocked from Facebook, messenger and he even changed his phone number. Since March. I even broke NC twice, been around the block. I'm in 52 days NC now. I did not know he was a DA. Until I saw these kinds of videos when I was at my lowest low. And it helped me a lot. I'm in a better place right now compared three months ago. I even made 15 pages of letters for him. Good thing I did not send it to him.

[@Jonesybabie]

Update: A 4yr ghost popped up this summer with an excuse... and I was like "whate made you call me, of all people?" 🤨 He said he been wanted to reach out... then he proceeded to overshare another excuse but declare he wanted to see me (he was magically in town) I was too busy living my best life in another country 😝 And wouldn't have made time even if I wasn't 😌🤣 Moral of the story... leave ghosts in the graveyard 🙃

[@willemhanse762]

Guy's the whole math behind no contact is to get ready for yourself incase they don't come back you not actually even have to count days counting means you not focusing on yourself and rather waiting...

[@rophnaicadesruisseaux8950]

They don’t come back

[@Zombie101]

Wrong. If you are doing NC "incase" they come back then you're doing it wrong. You are still in a hopeful state.

[@BlackNella]

Why would you want someone back who at any point thought you weren’t good enough for them

[@warpig2255]

Because ppl can change.

[@kevintriplett394]

At some point did you ever think they weren’t good enough for you? Some people are worth it no matter what the comments say

[@igchannel2174]

Because in life there are nuances. Some people are good, but they might lack some experiences/insights for some things and do bad decitions because of that.

[@I.E.I.E.]

"Can we talk?" Wish i had known not to ask this hours ago!

[@dceufan]

Sorry dude!

[@Weismant81]

I can’t wait to respond with “ Who’s this?

[@zenfire2003]

Thank you for the laugh. After a year, when she reached out, I asked her the same thing. 😊

[@Weismant81]

@@zenfire2003 lol what was her response?

[@stanmoney8470]

This must be for single folks who haven't had any children. No contact is almost impossible with children in the picture.

[@dierenoppasservice]

You got to have a No Contact Attitude. Even better, they get to see you doing great and looking fine without you wanting to see them, you're just dropping off the kids. Been there done that

[@robinholt4288]

I chased my ex for two months before finding these videos. I implemented no contact after her blocking me. I changed my number etc and have been working on my self. It's rough. I'm changing career etc. After a 6 weeks of me implementing no contact. I did reach out to her. I sent a simple and polite text regarding my stuff. She replied instantly. She then engaged in a joke back and forth. And acknowledged that I had applied for a job in new career. That's where it stops for now but I wanted to let everyone know that there is hope.

[@Darkchylde50]

It's been 2 months since you're comment. What's new? Are you guys courting each other? Moved on?

[@joev7014]

@@Darkchylde50I did the exact same thing but it didn’t work out in my case… but this time I realize that she’s no good for me and I deserve way better

[@Theman-ug6zy]

Wow your story is just like Milne right now

[@robinholt4288]

We are still in no contact, but her sister reached out to me the other day... also way to many coincidental meetings. I haven't moved on. I am well and happy but still miss her terribly. She is on her way back to me. We needed this time apart for sure. I believe there is still another chapter in our story. But in the meantime I am growing and being awesome.

[@charzanboo9940]

@@robinholt4288 *"After a 6 weeks of me implementing no contact. I did reach out to her."* You didn't follow NC...you're playing yourself. If she dumped you, she needs to win you back. In the meanwhile, you're improving yourself and dating other women...If she reaches out or not, it doesn't matter because you've worked on yourself enough to be fine either way...If you dumped her, only then do you reach out and apologize.

[@rosiechic5590]

Nah , I'm done with his games . I'm moving on . I'm starting to date again . I'm tired of waiting around ...

[@mr.hispanic301]

I don’t know how but I saw your videos out of nowhere when I was at my lowest, it’s still been rough but when I start to feel low I watch your videos especially when it come to working on your self, you are seriously saving my life man.

[@Jonesybabie]

Facts. These vids really were recommended at the perfect time for me. Praying for your speedy recovery señor Hispanic 🙏🏾 There is always hope 🤎

[@adelante3938]

Honestly

[@rue.eudoxie]

Jesus saves lifes

[@sarahwalker5231]

I hope you feel better soon man, keep going

[@ifirit8659]

You're on the right track Joneybarbie it gets easier over time, I hope that the last few months have been progressing for you in the right direction.

[@bernieoconnell5515]

I agree totally . If you think your going to hear something substantial via text or phone after a long gap think again. No one is going to put themselves out there like that. As coach says you have to wait for the buildup.

[@runout1013]

How long do we have to wait 3 weeks already seems too long

[@ChandlerBinh]

Part of me feels as though you're still dealing with the residual pain and heartache with your previous lover(s). It's okay to use this channel as much self therapy as It is a forum/lecture of information , insight and education. We appreciate your traumas and we empathize/love you, breh.

[@rambojohnj.6117]

If you need breakup advice, listen to this guy. For guys out there, women’s feelings change like the friggin’ wind. They are nuts. Don’t EVER chase a woman. If you aren’t good enough for her, Vaffanculo. There are a million other fish in the sea.

[@elwinjohnson4004]

Straight up

[@dire9619]

Awful advice. Do chase women, in general. Those millions of other fish in the sea will just be the hundred scraps left if you don’t chase them, because women with value need effort to get. But don’t chase someone after you broke up. Because you should just move on, or otherwise give the impression you have.

[@queengreat5922]

I came here just right in time, and I always love your videos Your focus is never to be solving the relationship issues, but to be creating new, fun memories, enjoying the moment.

[@ifirit8659]

Exactly well said.

[@josenaranjo8564]

I Booked a session with coach Blac . I can tell everyone that it was worth it. I did not feel rushed and gave me advice that has carried me thru. Thank you coach!!!!

[@hopeallen5404]

My husband left me for someone else, doesn't reach out to me at all, and it's been 8 months. I think it's safe to say my marriage is over. Although I wasn't aware that I was making major mistakes in attempting to communicate when I should have been in no contact, I haven't been in contact for almost 4 months.

[@leratoseretsi5603]

Was the marriage a happy one

[@joev7014]

You’ll be fine. Breaking no contact isn’t everything. Remember no contact is for you to heal. If it’s just to get him back your doing it wrong. If this man could leave while married he’ll do it again. You deserve way better. He’ll always play games doesn’t matter with who

[@Gbb93]

Keep going. Those 4 months are now 6. They will eventually be 12 months and 18 months. Men usually can’t stand the silence, so whatever the reason is, he will reach out at some point. Don’t give in first

[@ScissorN]

Girl if you no longer want him back you better file for divorce first before he does make sure you collect proof that he is with another woman so you can have a better settlement

[@xoxotiffanyj4001]

@@ScissorNhe did this to me before we ever signed anything, he cheated for sure but put the blame on me, I can not do anything about it since we technically were not married this is the second time this happened

[@barnetthejosh]

Never make yourself high value, just be you and attract someone for you.

[@shynebayarea510]

Ok bum

[@jordansalerno3366]

Coach Black. I’m just saying you are so dope dude. And everything you say is so spot on. Thanks for sharing the knowledge king 😭🥰

[@mrf4308]

My ex reached out after about 3 weeks of NC. I never expected her too, I truly believed we were finished. However, I hadn't seen this advice, so ran straight back, told her how much I'd missed her, how I love her. I started trying to fix old issues, basically too much too soon. After 3 weeks back together, and only seeing each other for two weekends, both of which were happy, fun and really nice, she just got weird, and told me she didnt know why, but she doesn't feel the same. I'm heartbroken, so so sad. NC does work, but not sure on the 3rd time of splitting 😢

[@cod_richgaming5076]

omg wer the same. she just told me that we need to focus ourselves for growth but she already had a bf. but now im in day 3 of nc. theirs a part of me that im still hoping that she'll reach out bcs she always do contact me when i don't chase her anymore but know i think it's different maybe she really moving on to someone else. i always encourage myself to focus on NC and work myself for growth.

[@mrf4308]

I'm realising it's all one big game. Since I commented, she's reached out casually, I've kept it cool, and she's now almost needy, told me she's wondering if I'm okay, said how she's gone to call but then thought she shouldn't etc. I just said I'm doing okay, call me if you want, or dont, I'm easy! She then went on saying how I've clearly not thought about messaging her etc. Then yesterday she sent my daughter and I Xmas gifts! I don't feel it's right to accept them, so I'm sending them back, I feel its just her easing her own guilt at breaking up! Last night she then called, but I was out, and she messaged, saying how she might have to go into hospital and I'm down as her next of kin! Wow, It's like constant mind games. I've just told her that her that ad she's still married her husband will be her NOK, not me, or her parents or kids! Perhaps in this case it's est I just move on 😮

[@BlackNella]

@@mrf4308please don’t sent those gifts back. That will be very hurtful to her. Trust me.

[@alchemicalsoul]

​@@mrf4308She sounds like an avoidant. Unless she gets therapy, she will repeat the cycle. Protect your energy.

[@babydii3487]

Straight up flip flop. Just let her go. You deserve someone who is sure about loving you.

[@murlthegirl1446]

I am so happy that I found your videos. I'm presently going through a tough situation right now.....this really helps.

[@prettywknowledgepwk5805]

I’m so glad I found him early on honestly one I detach I’m done ain’t no coming back 😭

[@sandraegan6975]

It's 2 weeks but he didn't actually break up with me. He let me go on vacation alone as we had an argument before hand. I haven't heard from him since only a random text about sending me money he owed me. I am in no contact and staying strong. He is expecting me to chase. It's hard

[@RickySpanish12344]

Stay strong.

[@discipleofhermes563]

Women are naturally supposed to chase, he probably thinks you don't care and likely that you played away, whilst you were, well, away. He sent you that money and made a point of letting you know, despite knowing your bank will have let you know. He isn't going to chase, he's given you the opportunity to show him that you care by chasing him, which is THE NATURAL ORDER. Men only understand primitive and natural behaviors, and he's giving you the chance to be his woman. But money is investment, and he's sent your investment into him, back to you. I'd recommend cutting off the no contact and just being honest about how you feel, and try to understand the relationship from HIS perspective as well as your own, by asking him what his thoughts are on the situation. However, I would say that based on the stage of his tantrum, and how long the issue has been ongoing, he's probably well on his way to creating a big, thick stone wall around the image he has of you in his mind.

[@RickySpanish12344]

@@discipleofhermes563 LOL what a bunch of nonsense

[@tukshaare4575]

Man's has paid his debt and released you back to the streets😅😂

[@serwaahdorcas9369]

​​@@tukshaare4575😅😅😅😅mine blocked me 5days ago..cause he stated I made him feel like a kid anytime I helped him out..I meant no harm actually..I also blocked him yesterday 😂

[@melvenlabitad6233]

My ex opened up to me after no contact and told me that she missed me and literally spelled her guts out. Also opened up to her about how I felt and what I went through during no contact by telling her I’ve also missed her company and what we both fvcked up on. Any advice on what I should’ve and shouldn’t have said/done in the conversation? Just thought honesty and reciprocating her intentions was the best way to bring hate out of my heart and get her to come close to me. We held hands as we were discussing memories and our flaws.

[@elycetaylor2880]

I can't believe this is common... where tf did all these avoidants come from!? I just had my first and hopefully my only experience with one

[@dceufan]

“Can we talk..” OK Coach I got it. Luckily I haven’t said that during my attempt to reconnect with the ex-girlfriend after some years.

[@sjtanman]

In my case she went back to her X and she was just killing time with me for 4.5 months. But she never told me that. I figured it out. Not a word in 4.5 weeks. She has the distraction of the X who she is back with.

[@OGTrollTroll8]

Walk away son

[@mrquick6775]

@@OGTrollTroll8 Run 🏃

[@sushisam3010]

Search for Rebound relationships on KZbin. That's probably what she did to you.

[@nbhage2178]

Dodge the bullet brother

[@geraldiner5455]

I went out with an narcissist he didn't like me working or doing things for me

[@JEEPBABYB]

😢so weak😢😢😢and I’m trying ok today is the RESTART of no contact 😢it’s been a year since beakup and 8 months since he has talked to me at all 😢I have messaged and acted rediculious 😢 honestly I’m ready to move on and I feel like he was never interested 😢

[@elscrilla]

take your time responding to them also. if they picked to leave your life they are no longer priority. my ex gf would txt me i wouldn’t respond till days later lol she caught the hint eventually.

[@adaptercrash]

That's the mistake, responding,cut them off right away. Open door, rite of passage, not really. Out of lunch.

[@RickySpanish12344]

@@adaptercrash Only if you don't want them back.

[@elscrilla]

@@adaptercrash ngl i initially wanted her back but over time realized i did not. that’s when i stopped talk to her fr

[@adaptercrash]

@@elscrilla post structural idealism of the experience that defies any development of a reiteration? That's how to think about it? When it comes out, They wouldn't leave it unless there's something the matter with them, its affecting character, and it'll be triggered by them with the audacity to release the tension on to you. That means they were selling your talents within a relationship short, making your life difficult. You don't need that in your life but your being hospitable, in a sense they are taking you hostage. If it's a whole new experience for you, it can be a challenge you never wanted anyway.

[@mrquick6775]

@@adaptercrash What the actual fyck did you just type son? You are over complicating this thing. And the over complicating is what landed you here.. It’s simple she is either interested or not. If not you don’t placate her, you simply move on to greener pastures! And then when she tries to come back you should be(if you don’t it right) already talking to better options.. and no need to take her back!

[@Luvagirl1971]

Good Morning Coach.. Great Advice As Always!!!! Thank You ❤💙💚

[@Any66134]

I did text him after 9 months , and his response was positive . We both kind of rejected eachother !

[@babydii3487]

I'm giving these ninjas 2-3 months to act right all together. Dating+ NC

[@Gratitude3612]

Thank you for your wisdom! 🙏🏾 When my special person reaches out, I will be sure to apply this valuable knowledge!😊

[@kagamitaiga9167]

update?

[@blacademic]

Thanks for watching the video. If you would like to book a coaching call to talk about your situation, click here: calendly.com/breakupcoachtj

[@nevlee5921]

I wish to God i watched this video and knew about this way before I did all that BS you just said, lesson learned now am way more relaxed

[@mythoughtsarenothisthoughts]

Just discovered you and you present good feedback! Preciate the new perspective. Thanks!

[@milkystrawbae]

Can I just say you healed me during these times

[@patrykjasnowski6374]

5 months no contact, think its done and dusted

[@EJayyDreadHead]

Nahh it ain’t over I went 3 years in no contact and my ex reached out to me on instagram so there is still hope

[@71dark]

me and my girlfriend broke up after two years. I really messed up and recently a week ago after two months of break up we started talking again. Things sometimes go well but then we bring up something about our relationship and she feels like she can’t be with me. She’s scared i didn’t change and that our relationship will get in her way. She also says she doesn’t love herself so she can’t love me as much as she can. I just want to mend things but what can i do.

[@AsuyaAriyoshi]

Thanks for the video, thumbs up! Secured which I already knew :)

[@spectrumcityfx]

I have been doing no Contact for almost 30day,I broke up with my ex a month ago yes I did the begging at first after I watched your videos I went no contact for 30days I noticed that my ex started stalking all my social media platforms and I never did anything now she has finally reached out and she said she "iam really sorry to say this but I miss you " I told her find time to see me did I do the right thing ?

[@harryocallaghan8082]

Yes you did the right thing. You set a boundary which they need to respect. It’s up to them now to make an effort and communicate with you properly. If they can’t do that then they are just taking advantage of you and your kindness. It seems like she’s just playing a game and isn’t fully ready to commit to you. In that case, it is not up to you to change her. She has to want it herself and then you guys can move forward.

[@loewe7]

Thx I need this she asked 4 weeks ago for a break …. We had a relationship of 6 years… last 2 years it went down… basically because of my lazy behavior examples are not working on my self esteem not focusing on having goals in life beside my 9-5 job sitting on the sofa … complaining about little things in life … not cherish the day you wake up etc … she could not take it anymore… while she was and is the opposite… works from 9-5 having her side hustle going to dance classes etc … she lost attraction she said … it’s hard and I’m bettering my self with these flaws … but she can not tell me how long this break will take from her part … so I’m doubting if she will come back …. Especially because she says that she doesn’t know how long she needs

[@Casca1997Berserk]

Any updates after 1 year?

[@jamieemery-bp7jg]

Cheers mate.

[@cynthiaugwoh7916]

But you dont interact with your followers, by maybe commenting a comment that interest you or liking it. That would help your channel also. And encourage followers to comment

[@thierryngoyi3188]

Tevin Campbell was sooo damn wrong 😅 Only real ones would get the reference... 🎶

[@Astrology_Witch_DJ_Lifestyle]

✨ this is gold ✨

[@cindyLalaDiaries]

Keep up the good work coach🎉

[@aJoeStamps]

very good...really good stuff. I needed this. My x reached out recently ...kind of...and it caught me flat footed. She has not tried again lately but I need to be prepared for the next time. Good stuff.

[@marieskolodouska8760]

Ex contacted after a day of no contact HAHAHAHAHAH still haven't replied tho

[@SuperMIKEMIZZLE]

You should teach man how to move on from an ex instead of going back that’s not healthy. Great content tho keep up the good work!!

[@CrissBaybay]

Thank you for this video. So good and thorough. I love how you acknowledge respects for both parties. A breath of fresh air. Man you are so good. Reinventing things for everyone that only sees womens as the top prize. Seeing if the job is good enough for you is just as important as your seeking a job. Reevaluate your habitual thinking that doesn't serve you and you can have it all

[@חניאהרון]

❤❤❤ thank you 😊

[@LK-fn1nk]

Can you make videos about ghosting? And how to move on?

[@michellebenetier6986]

Ghosting is rough and brings up lots of abandonment issues. Speaks volumes.. ghost back! Boo 👻

[@katlegomazibuko5194]

Guys don’t be mean to people 💔God gave you hearts to love yes it hurts but you didn’t die it’s either a lesson or they learnt their lesson that people like you are actually rare ❤️people have problems just like you so be kind and love like Christ loves you

[@gladadrian8528]

But I don't want to give him that spaces coz whenever I remember what he did I do cry

[@lucerorodriguez6842]

Im just doing no contact to heal and move on from him being a jerk and breaking my heart 😂 i hate that he messages me randomly on my bday or the holidays when hes the one that fucked up.

[@clawry0]

@blacademic what if you are long-distance and can't meet face to face? Are voice or video calls a good alternative?

[@Weismant81]

I’m previous videos, he had said Facetime is the equivalent

[@Vermapri]

Its been 40 days of no contact and he didn’t reach out. Gradually i am loosing hope😢

[@roothelegend182]

40days mine reached out after 4months lol you have to give it time and please don’t reach out to them let them reach out to you

[@cayk9444]

They still might. But if they don’t, that’s the answer, they aren’t the right fit for you. The bare minimum for someone to be the right person is that they want to be with you.

[@nimeshdeo3214]

Mine is 150 days still she doesn't have contact ❤or msg I'm in no contact situation. Last 5 months

[@cvargas6209]

Tomorrow will be 3 months for me. But it's ok 💛

[@theinfamous47]

Its been over a year for me.I still have hope....Hang in there tiger.

[@MarvaSukhu]

my experience is weird ....i am a female and i am the dumpee...im watching how to get my ex back.. but weird he is the dumper following these step u mention

[@vatsal2189]

I guess, I messed up. My last interaction with my ex, I made things awkward and now I don't think they will reach out until I reach out.

[@joev7014]

That’s the worst… I feel I did the same but they seem to lose interest anyways… no contact is the only way to do it. More healing for yourself and better results in the end

[@TheOriginalChina-s7y]

I thought the 3 words not to say were "I love you." 😅 But yes, if you ask to talk that will push him or her further away. Sadly

[@dawnartrey6001]

Good Shit!!!!

[@danis8406]

It's really hard to have no contact when he's a colleague 😂🤦‍♀️ I know, I know, they say that you should never "screw with the crew" ... but you cannot help who you fall for! What's worse for me though, is that he's been trying to act like things are normal and that we're platonic again 😢😅

[@Kerriwalther]

Me too. I see him every day but I don’t speak to him at all. It’s really hard

[@joev7014]

Same, it was hard at first but it’s better now

[@mogdadalhammad7500]

I love my ex I broke up with her she never gave me a chance to talk to her. Even though she loved me so much I tried talking to her back she keeps blocking me everywhere I haven’t texted her since one year.

[@josenaranjo8564]

i feel for you @ danis8406. I am currently going thru the same thing. Coach Blac has helped me tremendously though

[@KendraWalker-z4t]

Its hard to not do no contract because we have a 7month old together but only time i call him unless the baby need things or watch her i have things to take care of

[@annabylina]

Too bad I've seen this video after doing this mistake. It's been 8 month and frankly i don't see how anything could suddenly change.

[@NewyJon7787]

It's a game of tennis, you put the ball back into their court and you leave it there until they come back again.

[@mr.g2211]

Focus on self, it’s obvious that they’re an ex for a reason

[@BastanTheMan]

Thx for another awesome video man! any ideas on how to handle breaking up having kids ? she rebounded after 9 years. she acted cold and rude at first. now she keeps me updated when she has the kids and how much fun they have.. i'm working on myself, but it's still hard. (she left me for this guy 7 months ago)

[@remyd1984]

What’s your update mate? I’m going through the same thing. She’s moving so fast and it’s just a matter of time before she want him to meet our boy! Thing is tho this bloke is a ex crackhead and absolutely nothing going for him apart from is snake mouth!

[@BastanTheMan]

@@remyd1984 she's still with this new guy, but she still calls me for silly reasons and even asked if i wanted to come to the park with her and hang out with our kids (wich i did not do). She's very friendly and maybe she regrets it or feels guilt. I don't even bother anymore.. time heals wounds, and i'm moving on. Doing fitness, picked up kickboxing again, and it really motivates me to see results and just feeling more confident about myself. Yesterday my ex saw this new girl i was dating when i came up to pickup the kids. My ex looked over to the car every now and then to check out this new girl i was with while she was talking to me. Same story when i brought the kids back. I parked a little further away so they didn't need to see eachother, but still my ex had an excuse to talk to me over by the car and again kept checking out the girl i was with that was sitting in the car. She was feeling it man, you can tell after being with somebody for 9years. The thing is, nobody can replace YOU. This new guy has his negative sides that she will discover and realise that the grass isn't greener. Take this time to convert your sadness into something positive. Take the energy and improve yourself. Get fit, improve your clothing style, make sure you always smell fresh, look fresh and people will notice you're not letting this breakup get to you. This guy is not better than you, he is just new. Having something new will become normal. She will do the same thing to this dude. By the time she misses you, your mind and body moved to the next level. Stay strong and don't take her back.

[@Bleuscalemedspa]

@@BastanTheMan Well said keep going!! Kids or not life goes on be the best you!

[@joev7014]

Damn I hate these situations…. Girls like this will usually will leave again or cheat again when their emotions are gone if you slip up somehow. It’s kind of a bummer because you really wish it could work but than she just ends up breaking your heart. That’s my situation anyways… I did love this girl but I know her emotions are everywhere. Now I just kinda miss her. I can feel my interest fading

[@joev7014]

@@BastanTheManhappy for you bro

[@shellb5189]

I need to hear this thank you

[@gladadrian8528]

It is now nine months of no contact with my ex ....he started texting me saying that however much I'm hurt life has to go on . And he wants me back as his friend

[@daisyreyes3450]

Don’t do it get yourself better and real friends

[@harryocallaghan8082]

Don’t contact him. He’s trying to manipulate & control you. Stop texting him. I know you care about him but he doesn’t fully care about you. Don’t be blindsided by that though. Set boundaries for yourself and tell him where you stand with him. Be strong!

[@mlj1309]

​@@harryocallaghan8082 same things has happened to me. How do you explain this is manipulation ? I said no to his friend request.

[@harryocallaghan8082]

@@mlj1309 Because he knows that she still likes him but only wants to be friends. It’s suiting him to keep her close probably for emotional and controlling reasons and it’s a selfish thing to do when you know someone likes you. He’s trying to manipulate the situation by being friends with her. By doing that she will probably chase him and compliment him, which will make him feel loved & validated but at the same time not be complicity in a loyal and faithful relationship with her. He’s just taking advantage of her. If you like someone and they want to be friends with you then you need to just let them go and set boundaries for yourself. You need to have more respect for yourself. Don’t chase people if they don’t want you.

[@mrquick6775]

Lol 😂

[@jbougger]

All no contact did for me was make it easier for her to leave. I feel like if we would have kept talking we could have worked things out.

[@lankstonpeterson8641]

I’m scared of this as well. I broke up with her and I regret it deeply. She decided no contact and once she broke it, I gave in and did this too. I’m going to try to do better from now on and hope that it can work.

[@jbougger]

@@lankstonpeterson8641 Trust me, you'll be better off if you leave her behind. I thought that girl was "the one" but after extended no-contact, I found out who she really was (a liar and a cheater) and I'm in a much better place without her.

[@quickscoperxmw3xftw]

Bs, if she messed up she needs to come back, otherwise you’re just being a simp

[@sleepinggiant575]

I fucked up again she left with my son again ....

[@uzuriaholmes]

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[@johnguzman8637]

Great advice, my ex girlfriend was initially my friend for 12 years before we were together for 3 years, then i slowly got put back into friend zone. She now lives far away but still texts me everyday but believe she started talking to somebody else. Ive started taking a day or two to respond to her. Its very difficult to just be her friend

[@mandolaa]

How can u be friend with your ex? I mean is it really possible?

[@kinglee270]

Yeah, but my situation ended badly

[@sleepinggiant575]

Mine too i fucked up again

[@cloverwalker3203]

Mine sent me a photo and unblock me. So I texted him and ask why he sent me this. He went on a rampant and telling me abt the women he’s seeing and we had a huge argument. He still texting.

[@BlessedtheMostHigh3338]

What happens if you’ve already said this and lost your chance. Is there a way for a second chance? Does no contact work twice?! Would love a video on this!!

[@Joe-x7w]

Im going through a breakup now. We have been together for over 2 years and she would break up with me out of nowhere. And of course i would message her saying how much i loved her and missed her. And we would get back together. We have been doing good for a year almost and she just broke up with me again for no reason. She messaged me saying that she didn't want to be with me anymore. And she doesn't want a lifetime with me. So i messaged back and said I'm not going to beg for her to be with me anymore. Then she messaged me back said thats not what she wants she just don't want me in her life. Sorry. And i messaged back and said. Ok. And haven't messaged or called her since. That was 2 days ago. Wish me luck. Lol. As much as all i want to do is message her. But I'm doing my best not to. Please wish me luck. Lol.

[@JM-bv2mo]

How does it work if it’s a long distance relationship? Face to face is kinda tough

[@dannycolwell8028]

If I ignore my ex I will 100% not hear from her again, she’s fuckin terrifying

[@yolenda_loves_to_sing]

To me, the three words would be "I will wait..."

[@wiggers2]

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[@Karll541]

oh shit that’s creepy

[@Ranglin1975]

What about if my ex is calling me a lot,but has someone?

[@gloriarobinson6820]

Mine teach out and say I am going to surprise you and come see you.Then a I miss you and still need you .Then I still love you .. now what ?

[@ScissorN]

Ex: Hi Me: Fuck off Am i wrong?

[@crystalclimenhage7159]

Wait...what if they are just teating to see if they still have access to you? If they are interested they wilk reach out again and their anxiety will increase

[@tamaraburpee]

So my ex wanted to be friends I told him know. We went out a few times after break up I thought we was working on things. for me to learn he's talking to other women so I went no contact after that and when I give keys back he asked could we have sex with no strings attached I said no and it been 2 months no contact but it's like he's going on with his life not sure if I should even believe he will come back.. he's in my thoughts all the time truly gave him the best of me.

[@christophergranados2682]

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[@marioaldejr1628]

how

[@christophergranados2682]

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[@watsfordmoneyfarm4194]

Yes I need her badly

[@ForBrooke-qq3kf]

Plz help

[@juliaryan8001]

How can I distinguish if they only want friendship or more without actually having to ask? What behaviours shall I look out for?

[@terijordan6354]

Thank you 😊

[@DeemMeBeautiful]

He didn’t really ask to see me but we are LDR and he suggested that we figure out a date that works best to meet. I told him to let me know but he hasn’t and that was about 3-4 weeks ago. I messed up a couple weeks ago I guess by asking could we talk on the phone 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@hjot483]

Why don't you suggest a date to meet since he asked about that. . . then he should reply. All the best

[@tiisetsomaseela8308]

Does viewing their stories on Social Media mean I'm breaking No Contact?😟😟

[@dr.davenport9941]

I broke contact after “no contact” for 30 days. I reached out to him and he seems nonchalant although he says he still love me, I feel a disconnect. His birthday is tomorrow and is hanging with family. I’ve initiated all contact and although he responds, it seems as though he wants to be chased, I’m going back into no contact. Did I play myself? Any thoughts?

[@wiggers2]

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[@GreyHeir]

My ex came back apologizing for everything and saying she took me for granted. She said I don't even know if it would work if we try again. The next day she wanted to go out with me, but I was out with friends country dancing, and she says she wishes she was with me right now, but I wasn't sure of her yet after some things she has done. I didn't invite her out, and the next day I asked her if we could talk, and she said she didn't want to be with me just wanted to be friends, but sounded upset. Said I didn't want to be friends and she got all mad and blocked me. So how bad did I mess up? lol

[@tlourensentl]

how long before she reached out btw? you didnt messed up brother sounds like shes an avoidant you put up a boundary and she breadcrumbs you its sad to see... im going through it right now for the first time....

[@GreyHeir]

@@tlourensentl She came back every 2 weeks when she was down and realized what I did for her. The first time she came back she was with someone else but missed me and wanted to meet me, but I said no. The next time is the one I said after she broke up with that guy. I'm devastated right now.

[@tlourensentl]

@@GreyHeir i feel you man, youve setted up your boundaries thats a good thing but serious if you watched it from a different point of vieuw instead of the vieuw whit your feelings attached. do you want to be the second option? Like always? cuz apparently she cant make up her mind, id say walk away and dont get yourself even more heartbroken over her i know its difficult in the beginning but its like an addiction you crave but you ll get over it, shes breadcrumbing you and using you, what if you guys are together a couple years and she gets the same feeling whit someone else shes whit you but thinking of someone else wouldnt that fcking break your heart?? If you still want to say aomething to her Tell her shes playing games and that your no child you dont want to be a second option and playing mindgames thats why your upset right now…

[@rsuyro]

It's 2 weeks now and my ex and i have fallen to those pitfalls e.g. after we broke up i called her to apologize and asked for forgiveness; we talked about on how to fix our relationship and lastly me picking up the phone everytime whenever she would call. Also there is this pressure because we're supposed go on vacation with her family in 2 months. I offered to cancel my tickets just because but she's having a hard time to come to terms with it.

[@Handleisnotavailable1]

What ended up happening?

[@rsuyro]

@@Handleisnotavailable1 A week after the time of this writing, she called me one last time and things got heated. She wanted the "let's have a talk" convo, and we ended up fighting. She lowkey hoped that i would still make the trip despite the breakup and all, but I felt disrespected, gaslighted and angry. So i decided to cancel my trip for good and meet her and her parents afterward face to face to clear the air. I apologized to her parents for our situation, my mistakes, and we had a good long conversation about it. (7 year relationship) Her parents were very understanding and supportive of my decision, but she felt otherwise. We haven't spoken since. Fast forward to now, i got a call from her saying that she's sorry. That she couldn't reciprocate what i said that we needed to work on ourselves first, to respect one another in order to love again. She said that she misses me and reassured me that she trust me now and asked if we could meet up again before she's away for 1 1/2 month. Knowing that now from her side gives me the courage i desperately needed. Now i got no excuse, i need to add value to myself and grow as a man. Before i was simply lost and worried that she would hold this breakup against me. Things are looking up, man and i appreciate Coach Blac for your videos. Thank you, G! God Bless!

[@georgecarrera18]

hey me and mine been broken up 2 months some change she left the state but recently we started talking I got offered meeting up and bonding

[@misst3116]

I went no contact and he’s calling me like crazy like why 🤯 did it take me to go no contact for him to show me some attention or interest by calling me.

[@mrquick6775]

Well, you’re not bad looking 👀 so maybe it’s your personality 🤷 Give me your number and I’ll give you more detail!

[@Candy3192]

I don't think I can actually build it

[@Jay_Safe]

She finally picked up after 4months of no contact.. noting much was said.. she said she’ll talk to me later.. I don’t know what to say if we do

[@Sharon-jg9ls]

Help! I screwed up. Went no contact for a month and he reached out, was flirty and asked if I’d like to go out that evening. I went and it was fun. Very affectionate and touchy like nothing happened (no sex). He texted me after to thank me for spending the evening with him but now a couple days later, silence. Probably wanted validation that is cared. I should have made him work harder. 😩I had a weak moment.

[@Sharon-jg9ls]

Sorry @jg9Is I don’t know it tagged you.

[@BelovedGodsArmy]

🙏 thank you

[@kevinchikwira5619]

It works!

[@badymo1644]

So she text hey and I responded by calling her name with a smiley . She then never responded lol some relationship are better left a side

[@yaasy77smart1]

don't answer phone calls leave it on deliver simple give them few weeks see if he/she call back if not bye bye thats the trick u test them since they want to test u not contacting you

[@JaccQueen23]

What background music is this! Omg!