Black Men and Non-Black Women - The Real Deal

[@DarronBrown88]

In college what I noticed is that women of other races would say hi to you as they walked by, even though they could be phony, but it’s an advantage. That hi opens the door. Most blk women I met on campus would walk right by you and actively try to ignore you. Not all but a lot would do this.

[@james11462]

I'm a black man and I can truly say I gravitate more towards white women because not only am I attracted to them but they treat me a lot better than black women they treat me like I deserve to be treated. Excellent video.

[@TheStraightShooter500]

I feel like this video was made just for me because it explains my situation to a T! I’m only 5’9 and about 180. I’ve never had swag, I don’t wear all that name brand bullshit, and I’m kinda nerdy (comics, anime, speak proper english). Most black women want nothing to do with me UNTIL......... they see me with a non black wife. But even when I was younger I was invisible until they saw me with a non black woman. The only black women who ever showed interest were already single mothers.

[@RomWills]

That's how it goes. All of a sudden they want you. It shouldn't take being with a non-Black woman to validate a Black man.

[@CCK1972]

Generally that's how it goes. But then I think some of us do the same thing. We see Black women with White men and that gets our attention but the same women were invisible when they were single or when they were with Black men. Then we have to ask ourselves exactly why do we want to talk to that woman. Because we didn't before. It's human nature. I think everyone knows who this woman is. There wasn't anything wrong with her and she may have even approached us first but then some other Black woman everyone wants talked to us and we just completely forgot about her. She was boring, externally. And we made the same dumb mistake we always do and now we hate Black women but we wouldn't have that problem if we went the other way. And now you can't talk to that Black woman because her mind is made up against Black men.

[@ashiahindigo9917]

The Straight Shooter I had the same problem as a black female.. I even listen to classical music growing up lol. Its just seems "not cool" for either sex. This is not a race thing its a social or generational reason. Immature men tend to over look "good girls" and immature girls do that to "good guys " To make it about anything less only breeds self hate.

[@memes_for_kings]

The Straight Shooter I can relate

[@skinfanjay]

It's ALL about competition with. Black. Women

[@michaelevans9521]

You speak the truth. When I was in high school black girls didn’t want me even though girls of other races thought I was fine. I was and still am muscular, played sports etc. I remember even being in the military I asked this beautiful real dark fine black woman on a date and she rejected me but my beautiful Puerto Rican sisters found me attractive and I love me some Puerto Rican women but I ended up marrying a white woman. She didn’t care if I had nothing but I was trying and became successful now that I own real estate rentals . I tell you I’ve tried to date black women but I wasn’t attractive enough or had swag or money but get in where you fit in

[@demetriusarmstrong5154]

Go do u bro I'm happy 4 u

[@doncalypso]

I can personally attest to nevet being Select with AMERICAN black women yet being seen as select by non-black women in my college days.

[@RomWills]

A common experience.

[@RomWills]

Brian Bellamy Your thoughts are on point.

[@artbunker]

I agree to this 100%. I am in no way in the select typpe of man. But I can tell you that most non American Black Woman trated me extremly well in college and afterwards. The opposite for American Black Women. I was like Qusimodo to them.

[@RomWills]

artbunker Go where you are celebrated.

[@Quincy82AAC]

I totally agree with you. As a black man with no kids we have the same problems with black women in the UK.

[@kamala80]

Being non-select is a trip. If you are a non-select Black man and you have Black female friends oftentimes if they ever fix you up or attempt to fix you up with a woman 9/10 the woman will have SERIOUS issues. But, this is to be expected because unfortunately your Black female friends don't think you deserve the best.

[@RomWills]

I've seen this several times. Makes you wonder what they really think of you.

[@tonysmith8071]

kamala80 females don't make good or honest friends not even to each other

[@mrjonathanjackson89]

nah foreal my guy

[@justinlumpkin1929]

that's the whole point that black women miss when it comes to dating interracial. Many black men like most men in general will gravitate towards the woman that's given him some attention, whether it's a black woman or a non black woman.

[@RomWills]

That's all I'm saying.

[@mrchairman1]

Thank you Justin, that's the bottom line!

[@Quincy82AAC]

I agree. The reason why I dated non black women all my life only because they gravitated towards me first and showed me love and femininty whereas black women were never interested in me because I didnt meet their dating critria and they hated me. I even had one black women told me that she will never date me because I am too short and skinny and not a bad boy.

[@nicekix3038]

Facts

[@demetriusarmstrong5154]

@@Quincy82AAC 💯💯💯💯

[@erictbrown1]

That is why I dated outside of my race when I was growing up.

[@KB-tn1dj]

But the issue might be this...Has anyone advised sistas on how to deal with brothas? It seems everyone has their high-school game for dating and uses that same lens for adulthood...and so no-one tells us or advises all of us about the values of life that are used to build societies and empires...hard work, family values, a good heart, courage, smartness, nerdiness (which is the obsession with a subject). I mean let's be real, can you really build a decent society or empire with only SWAG, METERIALISM, PETTINESS, SUPERFICIAL WAYS OF SELECTING MATES etc etc?SADLY THE ANSWER IS NO!!!!

[@shawnhazel8208]

"Many black men who are non-select with American black women are select with other races and cultures"; Very profound and very true

[@Crimsontears83]

i date outside my race because I always felt why would I stick with only one? It's like going to a buffet and getting chicken every time. While it's true when i was younger I dated more black women, once i was around a more varied situation i widened my selection. The issue, for me, isn't I can't get a black woman. Especially now. Since I've gotten older black women are more attracted to me than when i was younger. My issue is not too many black women are interested in things I'm interested in (nerdy stuff). They're attracted to me but we just don't have anything in common. When I find ones that do i go after them. It's just numbers for me. Lol, and white women and Hispanics got "badonks" too. The last white woman I dated had a bigger thighs booty and wider hips than a lot of black girls I know.

[@RomWills]

That's what's up.

[@joefromdc]

after lving in italy for five yrs (military) i had an extremely hard time adjusing back to dating black woman. i will admit being picked by beautiful white woman does change ur psyche. European women do to treat their man really good. a lot of brothers stayed. i was even surprised when my mother accepted her. my mother said, the reason why she accepted her was due to the way she treated me. like a king at all times. whats funny is that i had no intentions of every dating a white woman

[@RomWills]

Being treated right is a great feeling. In line with what I said about a man wanting peace.

[@g1grace]

Rom Wills was right on obsidian head wrap show the women did not want to talk about sex. The reason why you were approached was you were exotic and rare to the area it's a good dating strategy. Plus women in foreign countries are well aware of what makes a man a good man, they are not infected with thug culture like black women in the US. That happened to me in Curacao with a Hispanic girl at the airport even though I couldn't speak Spanish she tried damm hard to talk to me even gave me her number she was feeling me. Again I was unique and rare to the area .

[@skinfanjay]

Facts

[@sniper11n.d.34]

These days black men love latina women way more than black women. I only submit for one women and that's my mother(out of respect). We as black men don't need to go for race but for equality period! Like a always say men need to lead(like it's written in the bible) and women need to follow in a relationship. Another great video Brother Rom!

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@logicwins3492]

Very true. Latinas treat black men like kings.

[@sniper11n.d.34]

and they are beautiful...

[@Quincy82AAC]

I am a non select black man cos I m short at only 5ft6in tall. The only women I attract is turkish women,greek women,english women with brown eyes and indian women because they like and appreciate me and I am from London,UK

[@RomWills]

I've met some sexy Greek women.

[@Quincy82AAC]

yeah they are beautiful innit :)

[@sofiyanadurath2836]

What about Arab North African afghan persian and pakistani women?

[@sofiyanadurath2836]

I’m afghan pashtun and I love black men I have a black boyfriend.

[@Quincy82AAC]

@@sofiyanadurath2836 I don't really attract Persian and Arab women because I don't really come across them in my day to day life.

[@dexterspeightsii4456]

Good Black Men with Money are not going to wait for Black Women who reject them!

[@RomWills]

True.

[@johndoe-pk6tj]

money...or intelligence.

[@rockfresh1993]

@@clayton9119 they bag chasers

[@gabrielalele8603]

Great Discussion Brotha Rom'. As a Black Man who has dated Interracially quite frequently the Grass is not Always Greener on the other side. As Men we should Always ask ourselves why is this woman dealing with us regardless of her race.

[@RomWills]

Yeah once we get past the superficial it's still about compatibility.

[@kutzaudiolive979]

Which this begs the question.....why won't those certain sister just humble themselves and get some advice from the women of other races?..if they REALLY want to know what they doing wrong...........WHY NOT????

[@RomWills]

Ego fam.

[@kutzaudiolive979]

That's why I said humble themselves.....but yeah too much pride!

[@326ka8]

wow.you are probably the only guy who gets it.i've been saying this very same thing for years.what black women value in a black man is a lot of times different from what non black women value in a black man.a good example would be a black chick will date and procreate with a thug or a guy on the street corner but will look down on a black guy who is smart,educated and decent if he does not fit into her view of what a desirable black male is.you are spot on here.i myself do not fit into the black female selection criteria.the funny thing is I've been treated better by non black women.

[@RomWills]

Yeah that treatment thing.

[@mrchairman1]

DOCTOR!!!!!! Tell the fucking truth!!!! I'm damn near crying right now. You fucking get it. Thank you Rom. You understand. Where were you 25+ years ago with your words of comfort and understanding?! When brothas like me were trying to make a way out of no way? Laughed at, mocked, cussed, cursed, brushed off, thought of as less than, the least of these? Your words are wise, capable and insightful, counsel in time of need. Thank you Rom! I'm not a religious person but bless you Rom! You get it and understand! Thank you Rom!! You are a true Brother beyond the hour(s) of need. Thank you Rom..

[@RomWills]

You're welcome. I'm speaking up because it's time.

[@davidgrier403]

Hard to find black women with standards, without several kids, and without fake hair and tatts. So, I look elsewhere.

[@RomWills]

Do what you gotta do.

[@paleriedove3333]

david grier well go elsewhere like to the moon I'm sure the Martian women won't want you either! boy bye!!!

[@EzAlvin]

True...that's very common, my ideal black women is real hair and no tats. But Main stream black women have a tatt or two. African women from Africa may not have any. But still evaluate the women who has chosen you...if there is high-level of desire and attraction by her. She will do anything even tattoo removal and grow out her REAL HAIR

[@EzAlvin]

Valerie Dunn, well...the moon has an atmosphere, and Martian women are on Mars, well (inside Mars).

[@oyh1016]

Truth!!! Especially the standards n gang load of kids BS!!!!

[@missk3429]

No problem. I think it is selfish for black women to hate on black men they don't want for being with other types of women. What are these men suppose to do? Be lonely? Be thirty? Be sexless? UNFAIR! I also feel that those black men shouldn't dis black women because they are still black themselves.

[@RomWills]

You can see both sides. You're definitely a grown woman and Diamond Sista.

[@missk3429]

Thanx (blushing)

[@tonysmith8071]

Miss K you well make a.lot of sister mad '- for taking fair minded like that

[@tonysmith8071]

Miss K I think the 3 flags you got was from other females🎈

[@jmathtech]

In my experience, I have received better treatment from other races of women and a wider scope in the selection criteria. Actually, a Hispanic woman told me that I check all of the boxes physically and sexually. I just need to work on my career and get my money right. I said to her, “Aight bet, thanks for the heads up!” Hahaha!

[@FLCLimaxxx]

Black women were always attracted to me, too bad it was just physical though. The only women who ever wanted me for who i was were white, hispanic, asian, etc.

[@RomWills]

You make an interesting comment which many men have not experienced. I have coached many men who could be termed "very handsome" or "pretty boys" who got tired of women only checking for them for their looks. I would do a video on it but quite frankly many men can't relate.

[@iamlatwan1338]

@@RomWills did you make this video?

[@tymejefferson8515]

I here what ur saying Mr Rom. one of the things I like what you say is that women care about looks and more than people want to admit

[@RomWills]

WE need to be more honest about looks.

[@ahgtrell]

Regardless of "Race" Class Level will factor into Mating and Relationships. And, Most Sisters Will date down before up. Even if Dating up is Better.

[@alvinhollingeriii2562]

Good video. Way to tie in all these aspects about why all these dynamics are happening between all these men.

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@KingRichez]

Hey Rom, your videos are awesome man, you hit a point for me when you talked about not judging some brothers who cape for women for the reason that in their whole life they have been one of the select sort after males. I have been judging a certain popular lightskin dude (A.Ramirez) on youtube, because he has been known to talk the black woman is God rhetoric. I was thinking about making a video about him but listening to you has made me look at the dynamics more logically. To be honest the judging also comes from resentment/jealousy since I know he more than likely had it easy getting attractive women.

[@RomWills]

The thing is brothas who have been select for all of their lives have never felt what it's like to be non-select. They can only speak on what they know. They tend to think the rest of the world sees things the way they do. Rarely to they find out otherwise.

[@KingRichez]

Rom Wills True, I may still make a vid about this, but with more rationale

[@RomWills]

King Richez Do it bruh. You have some great and on point content. I'll do a video off of it and send some folks your way.

[@thatguyfromthe6eh649]

I've been with nice looking women of other races including bi-racial, never been with a Black Woman that is equal to the looks of these Women, I have always got the feeling that I don't measure up...But If they took out the weaves, eyelashes, makeup tattoo's, contacts and nails I bet we would 💯✊

[@RomWills]

Understood.

[@tonysmith8071]

ThatGuyfromThe6 eh how does that lady act

[@nephilion4444]

Kimberly Moreira you shouldn’t feel that way 💯there’s still plenty of black men that only date black women I’m one of them don’t let these guys in the comments fool you

[@tatanishachristina5751]

@Zhara Moreira I am with you completely

[@nicekix3038]

@Zhara Moreira Black women treating decent BM bad is the reason it's like this

[@busyrand]

My main request for my people as a whole is for Black Men to be heard on this issue. I've never felt heard on the issue by anyone other than like-minded Black Men. My mother hears me but will cut me off because it's too painful for her to hear. There's always a reason why it's not our turn when we're out competing for resources in America. There's always a reason why we're never enough for our Black American Women. I've been outstanding by definition for the entirety of my life, yet I've rarely not been lonely. My circumstances forced me to be open to other cultures of women, including non-American/UK Black Women, and have been received as well as a person could hope to by other cultures. I've prayed for solutions all my life, and refuse to reject happiness when it presents itself. Sistas had the unopposed right of 1st, 2nd, and 3rd refusal. Having been Select at certain points doesn't mean you're treated well within the relationship. Sometimes I/we want the girlfriend/wife I've earned. I get the message at this point....

[@fistoffries]

There are a few things about this video that I found interesting: The parallels a lot with what I heard from one of the guys in Obsidian's videos (can't remember who) but he said that most of the guys he went to college with didn't plan on dating white women. White women were actually plan 'z' on the scale of what they really wanted. Yet, after they started dating other women, black women were visibly annoyed with them. The VanZant topic where she spoke to black men that dated outside their race ALL (100%) had reasons based in the fact that black women didn't want them for one reason or another. Yet, when the show aired, black women were openly angry that the men were not dating black women. You discussed the same dynamic in this video. The women didn't/don't want these men, they were just angry that they were with someone else. IBS IMBOR uploaded a video last night on the female selection criteria and he discussed it the same as you. Basically, if you are not a 8, 9 or 10 then you are effectively invisible to black women. So men that aren't "select" as you put it, are basically living the lives of monks until black women need their services and even then, they don't really get the best that these women have to offer. That reminds me of the depressing video that Obsidian made about Community Eunuchs. Its chilling that so many people are having such consistent experiences when you consider that you span in different ages and geographic locations.

[@RomWills]

No one wants to talk about the female selection criteria. Even though I apply to the Black community in my videos it is a factors in other communities as well.

[@darktiger570]

BM and IR is seen by many BBBs as rejection and loss of insurance. Women in general cannot handle rejection and most BBBs see most BM as their backup plan. Most BBBs think they reserve the right to reject BM but they can't exist in a world where they are not seen by BM as their only option. The thinking black man has his selection criteria too...and it does not include the BBB.

[@Quincy82AAC]

i agree with everything you said cos Im in the same boat.

[@josiahcrew375]

If there’s one thing I can say about non black woman is that if ur in the struggle or ur building they r jus fine with that. Not all black women r like that and not even all women r Like that but for the most part I think other cultures as long ur building they will deal with black men

[@sali_salvator]

i swear i dont know how rom is doing it but he can really explain a very complicated situation clear and to the point. no homo. Excellent Rom Wills. Thank you.

[@damonkinc]

so true about the select and the non-select.

[@RomWills]

It's right there.

[@damonkinc]

Rom Wills actually Rom that is happening with me. i would be considered non-select with black ladies and the white women hit on me a lot... I don't know if that is select for them. but I may have to take that opportunity.

[@RomWills]

kin_dame That's how it is for many brothas.

[@damonkinc]

Rom Wills well it's been a year since I commented and yes the Becky's still coming in strong on a brotha. this video told the truth about select and non select.

[@busyrand]

You nailed it with this Good Brother. love constantly turned down high quality Hard 8-10s throughout my college years because they were not Black girls. After being scalded for a final time in my mid-twenties, I was forced to think back on how effortless the conversations and attractions were with women of other ethnicities. It's a difference that thick white girls may voice about feeling unattractive inside their culture, but treated as the ideal of another culture. Peace is my biggest thing. I couldn't deny the fact that although I often disagreed with female friends of other ethnicities, our exchanges were never argumentative. I haven't argued with a non-Black woman to this day because I usually don't speak about things unless I know I'm correct, and I do so as respectfully as possible with an allowance of descention. I'm to old to ignore life lessons. Plus I see women of other cultures in more places I go. The rare Black woman doesn't look me in the eyes. Yeah... I've had Latina, ethnic White (Jewish, Italian, Russian), Filipina women touch my face/chest/arms... They've offered to cook for me, complimented my voice and intellect, and been very clear about their attraction to me. Women of my culture more or less act like they're doing me a favor.... I'm just saying... It's nice to be appreciated by women who happen to value traditional femininity also.

[@missk3429]

Wow. I love everything you had to say in this video. Great job. ( Big hug and a :-*

[@RomWills]

Thank you sis.

[@Lovejoi222]

another great video...many truths here. I love that you said just be happy, no one has to put the other down just be happy with your choice! I agree.

[@RomWills]

Exactly.

[@dsetgetatme]

Just so happen to stumble across this video goin thru your video archives. You're absolutely right Rom...on the money!! As much as I love black women, I kinda wish more sistas were checkin for me. But at the same time it seem like some of the Filipino women, both younger and older white women and some of those Hispanic women be choosin heavy... And majority of the time I'm not even trying to holla at them.. So I just learned to deal with the ones who are feeling me for the most part

[@RomWills]

Do what you gotta do.

[@doggypup938]

Who still watching this in 2019!

[@theanimelibarian7881]

i love latin/Hispanic women since i watched the nair commercial but they come in all colors but i'll be straight up i like the typical light skin fair skin variant i love em but i get hate from other black women because im light skin/mixed lol i fit there expectation but i dont really care much about them

[@assaa5069]

I agree with this video. Black men with non black women need to just move on. Black men dating and marrying Black women have more of a right to constructively criticize Black women.

[@RomWills]

Yep.

[@walterwilliams2371]

Very good point sir.

[@tymejefferson8515]

I agree with that even though a womans personality is important as well

[@RomWills]

True statement.

[@kalilyl2604]

Great video bro! My Wo Man is a beautiful blonde (5’9) and no doubt an alpha female. She literally ran me down on the street in MY city( Detroit)!! Been with her 7 years... best thing that’s ever happened to me! Great vid! 💯💯

[@righteousmasculine]

Bro that’s real I have a blonde that’s 5,4 and I’m telling you she super solid she came after me as well and we been locked in a min gonna be married one day. And have a little one GOD bless fam

[@joefromdc]

Uncle Rom, another point u made, i was a paratrooper (jumped out of airplanes) combat arm solider ( infantry artillery). i would say that 90% of the black men i was stationed with dated white ( Italian/ german/ Spanish) woman (even the married ones (another story)). in that about 15% married them. funny thing was, we never talked about it, or compared them to black woman, we just did it. it was what we did

[@RomWills]

I'm not surprised. It is what it is.

[@tonysmith8071]

Joe from DC when I was in. Nam same thing- now I'm seeing younger brothers in the service getting women of color from other places- cultures & languages & white women from other places then U.S.A.

[@TheImplerazure]

This is a very honest and wise video that puts truth upfront. After years I have to say that Thinking Black Men really will have to consider women other than American women. This environment is just to toxic and combative. Plus American women and American Black Women in particular have a rising mania level that is so over the top and increasing that they are just to dangerous if you are not "Select". Great video as always and thank you.

[@RomWills]

The situation is reaching a boiling point. Thinking Black Men may need to explore other options.

[@Intelexual]

Can relate. BW find me physically attractive but once they get to know say I talk too proper or talk white or even had a few call me an "Oreo." Non-BW love me though, soo....

[@firemanfogo1087]

Very true brother Rom, I always have non black women approaching me straight up with all their soul, and they’re very submissive by the way ., I’m a living proof

[@RomWills]

I'm not surprised.

[@Quincy82AAC]

Hey Rom I am a big fan of your work and I have only been watching your you tube videos for the past month. All the things you said about the struggles of a decent black man is so true because I am going through it myself. All the problems you talk about in the black community is very true because its happening in London and all over the UK. There have always been problems for decent black men in the black community in the UK all my life and I am a 35 year old single black man with no kids or a criminal record as I was born in 1982 so I grew up in the 80s and 90s because myself and other good black men that I know personally have been through it as well because we dont match up to black womens criteria when it comes to love and relationships cos they only want the good bar,bad boys and thugs or any type of non black man and a lot of us good black men decided to date outside our race because they are the only women to accept us for us. At the same time these same black women who rejected us good black men get pissed off and upset that we went and dated outside our race but they didnt want us and didnt give us the time of day so we only went where the love is. The crazy thing is that black women want first right of refusal in that they dont us decent black men for a dating choice because they see us as lame,corney etc. They go out in the world give the best years of their life when they were young and pretty to date the bad boy thug loser,have multiple kids with him,he fucks her over when she hits the wall and gets ugly,fat and old and that is when she wants to marry a nice black man who has his shit together and doest have any kids and when he turns her down that is when the black women cries and says there is no good black men out there. FUCK THAT I will never be a step daddy and some clean up man for some women and her bastard crumb cruncher kids. SHE MADE HER BED AND THE POOR CHOICE IN THE MEN THAT SHE PICKED SO SHE SHOULD LIE IN IT.

[@RomWills]

Well said. Good Black men have to value themselves.

[@Quincy82AAC]

Thank you Rom. A lot of decent black men are waking up to the bullshit. I am so glad that black men like yourself are speaking up about the issues that decent black men have gone through during the last 50 years in the western world and giving us a voice because society wasnt listening to the decent black men needs and wants and hating on us because the news and female tv shows like oprah winfrey were bashing good black men for being corney,lame and not living up to the societal expectations of what black women want but at the same time these same black women are dating pookie,ray ray,desmond,shontavius and jamarquavious and making poor choices with them in general BUT tv shows and society mollycoddle these women and telling them its not their fault and they didnt know any better and they deserve a decent man and society treat these women like children because they dont take any responsibility for their fuck ups while a good black man cant afford to make any sort of mistake and we have to be near perfect because the whole world will bash us and will never give us a second chance because the media and society is brainwashed into believing that all black men are the same and it gives us all a bad name. Sad but true.

[@doreengartrell5428]

I kinda agree with this. Most guys I see with white women I wouldn't have given them a second look. They are usually bland and unpersonable if that's even a word. I don't get upset at interracial couples because like you say I wouldn't have dated the guy anyway. I have dated outside my race and the stares can be unnerving. Gotta really like the guy to put up with the hate others give you.

[@RomWills]

Seen.

[@tonysmith8071]

Doreen Gartrell I like you're at least honest

[@tonysmith8071]

Doreen Gartrell the 2 flags you got is from females?

[@tonysmith8071]

Doreen Gartrell. They don't like you being honest about the subject- it's like telling on some body?

[@Bronxguyanese]

Black women are difficult just like any other women. I think it depends on the environment where one lives, as well as income structure as well as physique. Example, one of my good friends is black, short, stubby, yet very rarely black women were not into him or hesitant to date him. Now he is married to an Asian woman. What rom Wills is saying is truth to a certain degree. Also, guys. One needs to check and see what women you attract. I'm a mixed man, and I rarely attract black African American, and to a certain degree afro Latina. Its possibly because of my build. I'm chubby looking NFL physique type of guy. Black women like full on muscle or slim. Or if she is educated, than its mainly white guys, light skin man with good hair is not enough. I do agree that black women from far north as Canada to far south, to far south as Uruguay prefer physical attraction to a certain compacity. In Guyana my parents country, black women there prefer lighter complexion men, same for the Dominican Republic. Colorism is real form of attraction.

[@FGAlele]

Benjamin Gibson Real Valid Comment. Gotta Observe and Pick out the Women that are checking for you.

[@RomWills]

I still have to address the colorism issue.

[@cd.cd.cd.cd-cd]

You speaking my language, I've been saying some of this for years whenever I hear sistas shame us for interracial dating....another great video

[@RomWills]

They are hypocrites.

[@demetriusarmstrong5154]

@@RomWills they shame us but at the same time wouldn't even give us the time of day!

[@righteousmasculine]

@@demetriusarmstrong5154some will give you the time of day they just don’t know how to treat you and that’s where they go wrong as well

[@Quincy82AAC]

I now this is gonna sound bad but I have never been attracted to black women and they have never been attracted to me and I am a single black man with no kids.

[@RomWills]

It is what it is.

[@Quincy82AAC]

thanks for understanding rom.

[@melinatedvessel6840]

YOU SPOKE TRUTH IN THIS. I see you one of the ones who actually pay attention. I have family members like this they can come off really awkward, and they ALL date interracially. I figured out that was where they would be treated better,because of the women's perception of that particular man. Girlfriend's of mine,would never give them any play,they aren't mean to them ,but they look at them as friends or family it's like their awkwardness deters the black women,but quite the contrary when dealing with non- black women. THESE men want to be looked like Mr Goodbar as you say by these women but they AREN'T. BLACK MEN and BLACK WOMEN ARE NOT listening. Not sure how much we can do about this,but I however do believe it would benefit the collective,if a lot of us change the way we view one another and think about dating and mating.

[@RomWills]

Change is in the air.

[@tokyo9766]

20 yr old experiencing this currently. I've noticed white women, and women of other ethnicities have taken a liking to me. Black women kinda hate me but idc lol. I think it has something to do with me reminding them of the guy they could've been with?😭 One thing i know for sure though, is that they like to treat you like you're expendable. It's a very strange experience. Most of the black women i've met have either rejected me if i approached, or just used me for something until i caught on, then acted like i was the villain for not wanting to do it anymore. White women will openly flirt with me, and hint towards getting straight to business😂😂😂 i've never once had a bad experience with any woman of a different race or ethnicity. If anything i need to start talking to more of them.

[@madelinecross6733]

a brother That dates outside of his own race does know how Special he is and how precious he is To a black Woman That Will appreciate him and respect ✊ him and let him Lead her a black Woman need To know That a man has headship Over her So he is The Leader in The relationship This is a righteous man I am Speaking of a man That Can be a good husband a good father and a good provider he treats his lady With Kindness and respect and She Shell do The Same always uplifting her man not tearing him down black man and black Woman need To know That a black man is a king To a black Woman queen you See My Beautiful black family in your natural State a black man is a king 👑 and a black Woman is a queen 👑 by a True bloodline Royal 👑 bloodline So you See a black Woman need a black man We need each other To be a Strong 💪🏽 nation We need black babies notmixed babies it is not a race Thing it is a nation hood Thing it’s Called Survival of are people. 💪🏽👑👑👑

[@jamid87]

"Brotha gotta go get some scrimp" LOLOLOL

[@RomWills]

I just been wanting scrimp lately. My body is like that sometimes.

[@JayGrinding]

Real shit! That glass of water analogy is perfect!

[@jeremiahgiles3593]

I'd definitely date a white Woman, but I like food with seasoning too much

[@sofiab9570]

You could prepare a meal together so she'd know what spices to use next time.. Women are suckers for that ... I am at least..

[@VenomLeon]

Dude, I'll tell you from experience.. When you're in the dating phase with a white woman, just consider a date to cook together at your place. They really love that because for some of them, a whole new culinary world opens up. It's fun too.

[@JayGrinding]

I’ve noticed it’s a lot of black men in the middle class that go through this as black women in the middle class want upper class+ men

[@italkshyt14]

I disagree on this one Rom. As a Black man this video isn’t true in my case. I attract Black women and white women all in the same. My problem is I legit have both insecure with their own skin color. 😂😂😂 By that I mean, I have white women thinking “I wonder if he even likes white girls” and I have black women thinking “He might only date white girls”. I don’t know, I guess I can code switch.

[@devinking6477]

Amazing video

[@edwardhunter3907]

black women are the best and most beautiful. Sisters just because you see me with a white girl don't think that she is my preference, I might not even like her or be banging. Sometimes its just company or friends. I never get serious with them but I'm a man and they are persistant. So Rom as a man who is and has always been select and prefer black women, what do you do when other races of women practically throw themselves at you. I don't approach them don't even flirt and they always asking me out or inviting me over for dinner and drinks. some I blow off but some are fine or are really cool.

[@RomWills]

It's part of the game. Just take it in stride.

[@blacksocrates4692]

Rom!!! You are singing my song!!!

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@dudewat212]

Went back to this one after the recent video.

[@oyh1016]

Bruh, I WISH I could've known all you've been saying in these videos 5, 10 or even 15yrs ago!!!!

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@andranikmargaryan6880]

That’s true men gravitate to women who respect them. So those 300 lbs women can steal a men from a stupid sexy drop dead gorgeous women

[@JayGrinding]

Real shit, leave them alone man

[@Leo_Vasileio]

Excellent analysis

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@kingcarlos2472]

A1 Quality Content

[@JayGrinding]

Real shit Rom!

[@JayGrinding]

Real shit, I only had one black girl in my class

[@ManafterYahsownheart]

I prefer Sisters. I’ve witnessed too many “others” show underlying and even overt racist tendencies while dating a Brotha. Your mileage may vary.

[@ebakindeji5941]

Well i'm certainly not gonna take being called "a nigga who ain't shit" by a so- called black woman, just because she's black either?.

[@MsundrstdKidd]

Pretty much.

[@Imakebeatsss]

100% gr8 video

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@freegamepodcast1]

🙏🏾 free game unc

[@grinder2924]

Game recognize game baby

[@SAMack-xd2fn]

Good game on this one

[@JayGrinding]

It happens to me all the time

[@RashaudMonroe]

Funny i commented & you just lmk in the first 2 minutes of this video ... the world view of black men start with the black women

[@danya8292]

I have to be honest. This topic seems to be a little one-sided. It gives the negatives about Black women. However, just as there's great black men out there. There's equally great black women out there too. If that man chooses to date outside of his race, more power to him. But let the reason be, because that's his preference... not because black women show lack of interest in them.

[@RomWills]

Unfortunately that's the biggest single reason. My Grandmother told me that when I young and I've interviewed brothas on the topic since the late Eighties. In most cases sistas simply didn't want the brothas. The biggest issue in Black relationships now is sistas rejecting the majority of brothas. Cause and effect.

[@danya8292]

Rom Wills It may be one of several reason. I married outside of my race and I've been married for 19 years. I didn't make an excuse, this was my choice. I met someone, dated him for several years. we married and raised a family. However, I could say that I dated outside of my race because most black men were in the streets, or they're arrogant and unapproachable. I could come up with countless excuses. But that would be unfair generalizations. I'm now single and I believe it's about being open to meeting someone compatible and sometimes that just means looking past the exterior. anyhow, have a great day!

[@RomWills]

Michelle O Well sister that's you and for some brothas. Y'all just met the right person for you who happened to be a another race. For many people it's rejection. Now my questions is do you say the same thing to the Swirlers and BWGTOW sistas?

[@danya8292]

Rom Wills BWGTOW? I'm not familiar with that abbreviation. Moreover, I can't speak for anyone other than myself. I honestly believe when it comes to selecting a potential partner, it various from person to person.

[@RomWills]

Michelle O I suggest you do a search on them.

[@CCK1972]

Is it just me or have White women treated me the same as Black women? White women may have been easier to talk to, but they never treated me better. A lot of them had issues with White men. A lot of them thought I was different from the Black men they were used to dealing with. Which, I don't think it was intended to be racist but always felt that way because it's like she's stereotyping Black men. A few even tried to play that whole thing well since I'm talking to them I no longer had to deal with whatever issues I had with Black women. What issues? I don't remember complaining about Black women to White women. I don't even complain about Black women to Black men. On some level I think women deep down want to think that they're a solution to a problem. That is rarely the case. Now that I'm older I realize that none of that was personal but it definitely offended me in my younger years. Now I just chalk it up to insecurities. Because unless you have a lot in common culturally with a White woman what are you really going to talk to her about? Honestly. And if her experience with Black men who just lusted for her she can say whatever he isn't really listening to her anyway. Nothing wrong with that it just wasn't for me. There's a difference when some of us just aren't coming across Black women that we have a lot in common with and end up dating the non Black women that are in our circle and a Black man that could get the Black woman he wants but just doesn't want to deal with her. I remember as a teenager guys that didn't want Black girls to know what they were doing because they felt that would limit their options with Black girls if they knew they were into White girls. Well that's just stupid Why would you want Black women that disapprove of your dating choices? That is part of your identity as a human being. If you did get with those Black women, and you started expressing your appreciation for non Black culture they might not feel you the same way. Those same men weren't unapologetic about who they were as Black men. But that's the ignorance of youth; I doubt any of them are like that now. Plus that was back in the eighties. Honestly it's not the White women. It's the culture. These days people are "woke" so you really question why you want to date outside of your race to begin with. White women that would choose and approach, 20 years ago, probably will not today because of White privilege and the shame that goes along with being a young person today Can you live with yourself as to what you're doing? Everything is overanalyzed. A dark skinned brother can't date a light skinned women or a woman of color that is non Black without considering colorism. Which sucks. Back in the eighties and nineties no one cared about the color of the woman you were with. They may have cared about the race, but the color, IDK. But then it was rare to come across someone that was biracial back then. I think we were making progress back then and we're going backwards in the 21st century. I am glad that dark skinned women are more vocal and aren't just sitting back and taking anything and everything from Black men but at the same time I think a lot of women are triggered easily by situations that really do not have anything to do with them. It isn't always about that. Not everyone has issues and hangups. This whole attitude of not dating dark skinned women is lame. It isn't a topic for conversation to me. You're limiting your options for a negative outcome that is a self fulfilling prophecy and you don't even realize it.

[@RomWills]

Very good commentary.

[@JayGrinding]

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