Black Men In Therapy Ft. Iyanla Vanzant

[@Thtmusic5]

His body language from the beginning says she brought out his inner child. She is a marvelous woman

[@conspiracyjen85]

Nick is sapiosexual. He is turned on by Iylana. Respectfully.😳☕

[@Fudge_Fantasy]

It's his first episode but I'm not doubting you

[@unavez1548]

Most black men are like this with elder black women, we view most of them like we would an aunt or granny

[@Tee-kc3pn]

No it's not...​@@Fudge_Fantasy

[@carolwilliams6715]

😅Nick is a master at what he does. He gives respect to whom it is due.

[@nneoma6106]

"Once you clean yourself up, you're not going back to a dirty space." Baby, if that aint the truth! 👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽

[@chillnaturalvibes8158]

Nick has offered us a seat in his therapy session. It’s a great honor. If I had never heard of Nick Cannon, and I was offered the opportunity to sit in on someone’s therapy session I would take it. Because at my core, I want to understand. This platform is a gift. Thank you Sir❤

[@cj10109]

One thing about Nick is he’s gonna keep a show and a bag 😂👏🏾 Love Iyanla. She’s a wise woman and I love hearing her talk!

[@taniellebrownBossMOMCEO]

Since the pandemic, more men are embracing therapy. As a mental health therapist, I am so happy to support men healing and learning ways to support their family embracing therapy, too.

[@DaniD-zy2rl]

I THINK THE BOOMER generation my dad specifically needs this. It hard for that generation of blk men to take ibto accountability to say there choices in life has caused this effect. Which going back to his generation & before they didn't go counseling or therapy.

[@OneWheelStreetKing]

I'm a black man, that has taking some Counseling. I must say I have matured and developed a appetite for discipline, and SELF EVALUATION.

[@Ms.Tee65]

I applaud you

[@OneWheelStreetKing]

@@Ms.Tee65 Gratitude, means a lot

[@Kattkiteyez]

Way to go, good for you!!

[@nneoma6106]

👏🏽 love it!

[@DaniD-zy2rl]

I'm proud of u for that!!! 👏👏👏👏

[@dyontaydial8727]

🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽THANK YOU THANK YOU! I am a 4th-year medical student and sometimes society and the black community doesn't support my mental health!

[@jaheimRakim]

Our community has a ton of toxic behaviors but where waking up to the important of our mental health

[@Dontgiveup7813]

Praying for you and supporting you in love young king!!! My hearts' desire is that black men would somehow know overall, how much they 'Are Loved' and valued and understood and set-apart even when you don't feel "alright"!!! ♥🙏👑 1♥

[@absoluteharmony44]

You are loved and appreciated. Good luck in your studies. ✨🩵 🏥✨

[@MsExit_]

“We give people’s opinion to much power.”

[@dakotac180]

EVERYONE NEEDS MS. VANZANT Her story is powerful, her soul is anointed and so generous with passing on true gems.

[@RR-ur4kz]

Most def!

[@CoachKhara]

I can testify that she is the absolute TRUTH.

[@worktime1143]

No one needs Ms. Vanzant. Everyone needs Jesus!

[@pj-ge8er]

She's a hypocrite. Lotsof grace for him dating outside his race, but there so much contempt for Ebony not wanting to date a bus driver

[@GardensFlowers-f7k]

lies

[@allthingsndiazion]

“NOT ON MY WATCH” definitely went viral aunty!

[@Mysasser1]

My favorite was when she said, "Guttersnipe!" 😂

[@wqross]

The other part when she was like “I’m going to clear the table off”. 💀

[@TamaraC840]

Yes that's a classic lol

[@CarrieFinley-g1m]

@@Mysasser1mine too! I had to look it up…Netty is probably still hurt to this day!😂😂

[@cb4664]

Ok! 😂

[@anitraross-haywood7286]

Whew “ Keeps you from being alone in your head without adult supervision.” 😮 I LOVE THIS!

[@kimberlywright4988]

Reading the Bible helps keep me from being in my head alone without Father God. He is most important!

[@TabRucker-he1pe]

I’m from Kannapolis, NC. I love to see Mother Cannon come to the Y early morning, smiling bright as a diamond. Her posture speaks volume. You come from a lineage of power, respect, care, family. I’m proud of you, Nick! Your growth, transparency, accountability, self awareness. Keep sharing because YOU are a light. Our culture celebrates YOU, I celebrate YOU!

[@inesspanni]

"When you're alone in your head without adult supervision..." TEACH Ms Vanzant!!!❤ WOW!!!!!!

[@MarioPlater]

Iyanla is the best in my opinion in the business. Nick is talking and he needs to tell his story. So, he can deal, heal, and acknowledge.

[@nancymosby7369]

Agreed

[@dixontee6150]

I love therapy. Best decision I have made in my life. It has given me so much insight on MYSELF. Love the man I am Today because of it.

[@Kattkiteyez]

Good for you, BRAVO.

[@ChessMandingo]

From one black man to another, thank you, Mr. Nick Cannon for creating a necessary platform for our people. Continue doing your thing, bro. Peace.

[@OMGPOWPOWGREEN]

OMG I THOUGHT THIS WAS HER SHOW I WAS SO EXCITED SHE NEEDS TO GET HER OWN SHOW AGAIN 😞🫵🏻👑💯✅⚫

[@1LadyTee]

She has her podcasts.

[@nikkic8411]

Iyanla podcast is called “The R Spot” on all podcast streaming companies.

[@cb4664]

No we said SHOW!

[@psalms91eva]

I thought this was her show as well.

[@lexqbeanable]

​@@MicheleEwing-hv4jddo u know how much it is?? She is worth it... Ive missed her!

[@dmarino831]

So many people being critical of the technique, and doing the very thing they talked about in this episode. Nick isnt a professional talk show host, he created this out of love and concern. Can't we just be supportive? I love it!!

[@kimberleyshanks-duff7389]

❤❤❤100%

[@lilliansmith1]

I have been a supporter and student of Iyanla Vanzant since her book Acts of Faith. 26 years ago

[@melviniksimmonslcsw8026]

Me too!!!! That book changed my life.

[@DrStemBeEncouraged]

As a therapist I must say it is very encouraging and exciting to see more black men coming in for their own therapy and selfcare. The challenges are becoming more and more overwhelming because society, values are not conducive for them to be the head of their household and let alone feel manly when all else appears to be falling apart at times. The support and ability to process each step and issue we give is definately a great release that instills confidence again. Great conversation 🙏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙏🏽

[@whatsakingtoagod5583]

Appreciate those words. I’ve been in therapy for over a year now. It’s helped me tremendously to the point where I’m over 200 days sober from alcohol!! It really works IF you put in the work!!

[@darryljones6781]

I’ve been in therapy for probably seven years now and it’s been pretty extraordinary. It’s changed my life on many levels. Thank you for putting out a show such as this for us as the community obviously all people will be watching it, but having a black host talking his therapy journey will really change the thought process around therapy especially with masculine men so thank you Nick for putting this out. It’s so needed right now. Much love to you brother.

[@lomiejoysj]

Damn....this is why I have love for Nick. He's gonna talk about it...I don't always agree with it, but i definitely respect it.

[@lisalove4183]

I love this conversation, because as black people we don't need to be afraid to seek help for your mental health. Therapy really helps me and journaling also helps your mind heal.

[@malachicharles6387]

One thing mama iyanla gonner do is listen. I love how she listens to what nick had to say then responded....❤

[@autumnsmom1117]

Yes

[@eKlecticSoul4445]

I am a Woman, and I thoroughly enjoyed this episode. I know that it is geared towards our Men, but thank you both for giving us Women a chance to learn how "we" can be of help to our Men💜

[@CocoChanelle-1]

The successful BM doesn’t want the BW. They want another race, for the most part and a side chick. Love who loves you.

[@chinaarlene7035]

😂😂😂

[@michaelburton665]

As a black man, this is so needed. Nick, I applaud your courage to speak candidly. And of course, Iyanla ca do no wrong in my book. ✊🏾❤️💪🏾

[@TamaraC840]

I wish for us as a society we could press a button and just have a do over. This conversation made me see things from such a different perspective regarding black men. They need a safe space to talk and heal as well. I wish that for all our kings to realize the lion that's within. The king that's within. It's truly time to heal as a community.

[@86CHOSENONE]

❤

[@lungikubheka7528]

Arrgghhh anything with mama Vanzant I will definitely watch

[@RR-ur4kz]

Me too☺

[@Luceeeeeeeeeeeeee]

One thing! Dr. Vanzant will always SLAY ! 😍🤩

[@enicolehoward3544]

Im sooooo tickled by this comment. I have a friend and all types of important convos are going on and she's talking about what people had on or the makeup or hair 😂😂😂 but i love it and yes Iyanla definitely is giving ❤❤

[@shambramulder4082]

I appreciate the show and love this for Nick Cannon. I am a licensed psychologist and love Iyanla Vanzant. I hope he brings on more trained counselors/therapists. I want to add that we also have to hold environments accountable to cause less trauma. We need to deal with the Social/Political Determinants of Health (Mental Health).

[@BrittJ.]

The level of mutual respect in this conversation is what I love to see. It's clear that Nick has a lot to say & Ms. Iyanla allowed him to take up space, with love. His demeanor absolutely changed as the conversation progressed. ❤❤❤ #TakeUpSpaceKings&Queens #HoldSpaceKings&Queens

[@omarusenshi]

Back in March last year I’ve lost my job, my car, and my confidence. My family were dysfunctional and I was out of a job for 6 months door dashing to support my income and still manage to pay my rent and utilities. Receiving therapy right now is the best decision you’re going to make as a black man.

[@munchdogg9361]

The short story about her son talking about the lion made so much sense omg

[@Kattkiteyez]

I know a lot of black men like this.

[@ronaldogomez6799]

Really appreciate this kind of content…keep up the good work ✊🏽

[@keondawashington]

Thank you, Nick, for having Queen Mother! What an amazing and needed conversation! We love you, Black Man! #HealBlackMan 🌻

[@blessing-b8p]

After listening to this I must say I am proud of Nick Canon and my level of respect for him has increased big up boy. And of course thank you Dr. Iyanla been a pleasure the work and knowledge you bring to life..

[@tiosongs]

Awesome, Beautiful and Necessary. This was a refreshing surprise today. My wife and I had just had a conversation about the ills of "The Culture" this morning. I was complaining about what we have now come to accept as "culture" and how damaging it can be. However, as it relates to men, is an even more urgent conversation. As a father of two young black men 12 years apart in age, I often compare the differences of how we relate and "be" in the world around us from my experience at 55, my eldest at 35, and my youngest at 22. I'll be tuning in for the next episodes for sure. WE NEED YOU GUYS ! ! !

[@jahquehill8854]

This is very healing for me personally. My oldest son & I are on a healing journey & I've done my work, now guiding him to do his. Thank you for this platform to share with him! God's plan.

[@tenishajohnson9302]

I love that you're doing this! This is so needed for our community. The Lion analogy was so on point because as CARBON people we have forgotten WHO WE ARE, and if we could just get back to that, the world would shift in big way!!!!! I'm looking forward to the next episode

[@jeromehester9]

A-B-S-O-L-U-T-E-L-Y!

[@marcusjdahling3703]

Nick Cannon. If no one told you today. Marcus Dahling want to tell you. Your doing something very Right. I love you for that.

[@veen0610]

He was in a therapy session of his own❤! Love me some Iyanla!!

[@kmeeks92987]

This has me in tears!!! The point about the lion in the cage is something that I’ve seen all my life. I look at some of the beautiful Black men in my life and sometimes I just think “If you saw yourself the way I see you, you would move differently.” A conversation that I had to have with myself a FEW times.

[@neommutle8033]

Yes sister 👏 🙌 😍

[@CCKATL]

He forgot he was a Lion! That gave me chills, I played it back and got them again. Thank you for creating this space!

[@cb4664]

Girl I just had to stop. And just process it…still SMH. Lord help us.

[@hizway4ne]

Ditto!

[@erikajones6405]

LOVE the conversation!!!❤ Yes, REMEMBER who you are!!!

[@SheLivesNmiLap]

Your vulnerability is appreciated Nick, thank you for creating this safe space for yourself and others. Thank you for following your hearts work and keep going❤

[@mekasmith6703]

C'mon Queen n King..exactly what Mo'Nique was saying..Accountability is Key..The truth is the truth..u can't run frm it or chase a Lie..this is needed 4 our culture..Praise God 4 finding this❤

[@prophetdarlakimbro3125]

This is so good. Thank you for having these conversations.

[@lacakes87b49]

Great Interview and Postive Energy! Having Dr. Vanzant on is Awesome!

[@judyseals7070]

Awesome truly grateful for this incredible conversation. Thank U.

[@WiseKings131]

Knowledge of Self was a powerful statement. Society/culture training has a greater impact and responsibility than the household due to advancement of technology.

[@adrienedorsey-tynes]

Excellent show,well needed.

[@michep8904]

Powerful! So glad I viewed, listened and heard this very enlightening conversation ❤

[@theamerican_insider]

Great conversation. As a black man working in mental health for the last 5 years, I can tell you we need this. I am dedicating my life to help men with mental health.

[@robertajackson9752]

I’m waiting for the second half. This was a powerful interview and I can’t wait to see more.

[@autumnsmom1117]

Six days late, (02/15/2024) when this episode came on my feed. I truly needed to hear, listen, and get a better understanding as well as change bad habits I have imbraced. "Don't swat the bee," the Lion aka King.". .Black/AA men aren't to be feared but heard, imbraced so they can heel. Deep! Knowledge is power and understanding is enlightening. Thanks Nick Cannon and Iylanya Vanzant for this candid conversation.

[@cececoleman2412]

As a women, I got a lot of this conversation. Excited for the others to come

[@WLS444]

Absolutely love this! Keep them coming, @NickCannon!!!!

[@TheoGilbertJamison]

I absolutely LOVE this episode and look forward to hearing more from Ms. Vanzant and Mr. Cannon! May God bless both of them greatly for bringing this wonderful and insightful message to feed our spirit and soul. 💕💕💕💕

[@fredaofei4099]

This man is really intelligent

[@owd1314]

Always a pleasure to see and hear Iyanla unleash and so, Iyanla, may I insert this to ponder… Nicks introspection is coming from deep within regarding his question on why so many men don’t choose Black queens for their life journey. Aside from what we already see happening within the sisterhood that propels men away, this choosing of non black queens became publicly acceptable with the Belafontes, Poitiers, Jones’ and is now front n center with Sports players and public figures the like. His question as to how can black men support the black community if their women aren’t black…well the answer is they haven’t. If your children don’t identify as black because they’re biracial, they tend to not have the black community on their conscience. The result is a generation of children who are too distanced and removed from overarching black community. If you look at those that give back, they usually have black wives (small percentage) that understand and support the need to give back. Our men have long left the home (for a multitude of reasons), and their sons are lost, stumbling, without the guidance of their black fathers for too long. Both genders are aching for their black father guidance, but it hits hard for the men raised without a dad. Remember, Indigenous cultures had and still have a boy-man rights of passage ceremony which is pivotal for black boys. In modern society the military often serves the same purpose. Void of either rights of initiation or military training, men are being lead and raised by women. So, Iyanla, if you dare to tread this in an episode, why is it Black- American men are predominantly the ONLY race that eagerly intermarries (mostly to whites) comparatively to Asians, Indians, Latinos, while black man don’t typically even seek other black ethnic groups (Afro-Latinos, Africans, Afro-Brazilians). Not referencing the exceptions, which are the minority. Is it possible this is a spillover from when black men were breeders? I consider myself fortunate, since my dad was devoted to us til his death with no alternate families created. Apologies if this seems more suitable for a University platform than sm.

[@toyatalkspodcast2464]

Thank you so much for your response because I thought I was the only one that questioned her response to him on this matter.

[@t.lunaimhotepmdiv135]

Yeye Iyanla is my greatest womentor. I look forward to meeting her one day! Thank you for this honest nonjudgmental conversation.

[@Dariam_M71]

This is the collaboration that I didn’t know that i needed. I am here for the advice, antics, and accountability.

[@icandytv4169]

WHEW, Iyanla ended it so well! “Wounded Little Boys” a mouthful. This was good. 💯👏🏾❤️

[@Iamlisabe]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙏🏾

[@lilliansmith1]

this type of discussion and interview is so important for our growth as a people

[@GardensFlowers-f7k]

#1 cause of death_harm_abuse&_s8xual_assualt for Black women and girls is Black males

[@chinaarlene7035]

Bye 😂

[@Kattkiteyez]

Right on.

[@shantehawkins8337]

This is so good , Great Conversation to have. Praying for healing for the Black Man Soul.

[@perosauce6321]

Great content & impactful conversation between two brilliant individuals 👏🏼 black power ✊🏼💯🔥

[@ghanaempressajourneyhome4266]

He has COURAGE! I respect this

[@thelmaparks2975]

Everyone can benefit from this counseling program.

[@adawnlaw3460]

GREAT STUFF... Woman who are responsible for raising sons need to tune in

[@nasirasheartofgold]

I know black do not intentionally seek out to degrade or diminish a black man. However, in terms of interracial dating, whatever your choice be content with that and do not belittle and degrade a black woman as the reason you are dating outside of your race. I also believe the root cause needs to be examined for black women who are suffering physically and emotionally at the hands of a black man. How can a woman lift up a man who is abusive? Those are some topics I would like to see discussed.

[@conspiracyjen85]

I always learn from the honorable Iylana Vanzant. It is such a breath a fresh air to learn even when if you don't completely agree with different perspectives. There is something so, calming and spiritual to be heard, and to hear a clear pov from someone who is loving and genuine all of the time. What a blessing to watch her work and have access to her legacy of self-improvement.❤😇

[@C4PW]

This was a great conversation. I didnt even realize I had made it to the end.

[@tracyleesmith781]

Feeling inadequacy is excatly how i feel for men, women & me. Yes indeed im bawling my tears out. Good lawd this is too much!

[@marleenjones1877]

Mama Iya has been my teacher & mentor since 1996 when I wrote her a letter & she responded… several workshops later & resent Abundance workshop & Spirit Spa Sanctuary……..To see this conversation with Nick whom I’m also a fan of is powerful especially now.. I’m looking forward to this continued conversation because this conversation is necessary for not just black men & women but 4 the world…. Smart move on the one Nick for creating this platform 🙌🏾💕😊

[@youngjizzle2526]

Man this was well needed! Very dope!

[@jocelineheight9169]

I have never heard of Nick saying anything negative or disparaging about Black women as a whole. It’s those Black men who put down Black women that gives me pause. I think that is a deeper issue.

[@d-squared8628]

Right! Date/Marry who you want, love, or your preference. However, do not demean, devalue, and dehumanize all black women while doing it. Instead of pointing the finger, accept accountability and point the finger back at yourself for a little bit of self-reflection.

[@DrUmarJohnson1]

@@d-squared8628 A Black spouse indicates consciousness, pride, strength, and a high self-image

[@DrUmarJohnson1]

@@d-squared8628 A non-Black spouse indicates isolation, shame, weakness, and a poor self-image

[@vmlksm9]

Yes he has. He just had/ hosted a light skin women vs dark skin women contest at one of his events.

[@ReeceLongTime]

@@DrUmarJohnson1Absolutely. Unmatched partnership

[@Phynessme10]

I would love to see Iyanla and Dr. Umar engage on the "culture"!

[@stacyelliott8195]

This is needed, the perspective of what “Black Men” go through! So many feel less than because of Society’s chains. This is the era where more and more black fathers weren’t available, so you have men trying to figure out what the true “MANS ROLE” is. The black culture needs to see these types of conversations and see front and center what healing looks & feels like. We are not the algorithms they place on us, you deserve peace and a safe space. This is normalizing therapy and deep rooted conversations. This is how we grow and do different for the generations behind us, this is healing through love and no judgement.

[@Beautyroom300]

What black men go thru is self inflicted and they inflict trauma on everyone around them, especially black women who try to help them. I’m so tired of the pacification of these hypersexual, anti relationship, breaking every home, abusive, neglectful, predator a** Black men. Black women are going through it all, with the whole world against us including these black men that we coddle. They don’t want help the want sex and destruction.

[@aquarius-woman5364]

That's when you mammies step in and save them

[@colebeezz8134]

Dr. Vanzant perfect for this season

[@mercedesdelzie3303]

I love what Nick Cannon is doing with Iyanla. It’s about healing… and the people who bring their opinions and judgements watching this episode may not understand the process of healing. It was wonderful and I’ll definitely be following this 💜💜💜

[@safespacewithshay9324]

Great episode 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@garystallings3077]

This is great! Very Potent conversation. I hope there is a part 2 and 3

[@counselcultureshow]

Stay Tuned!

[@ouranoswealthgroup7042]

I’d like to hear more self accountability than about hindrances by the men. Dig in Dr. Iyanla!!

[@harlemny1881]

This is good keeping this going on black men therapy , managing and coping. I’m in therapy as well.

[@Thejagodfada1233]

This podcast give a natural presence ❤

[@Maimuna_joy]

I love Iyanla Vanzant 🥰 I’m waiting for Umar Johnson he’ll be here soon 🎉

[@iammeallday]

This was awesome!!! When Nick is in a space to talk through issued and dig deep he is absolutely in a zone!

[@pinkpetalmagik]

Love this so much! Congrats 🎉👏🏾🙏🏾

[@Scentsational-Vdo]

Great show Nick! Keep it coming. And thank Momma Vanzant for her nurturing wisdom and comforting counsel! Love you both!

[@QueenCityWoman]

This was truly a great introduction for what's to come in conversation. Thank you Nick and Ms. Iyanla. We needed this. ❤

[@tturner2657]

THANK YOU MS IYANA FOR YOUR APPEARANCE AND MR CANNON SEEMS TO BE A GREAT FATHER ❤

[@hozaybabyoquendo3839]

Nick Cannon is very intelligent and well spoken

[@7fifty7]

Respect to Nick for having this conversation

[@mmxw2294]

Really hard to care for anyone that’s handing out abuse. That shuts everything down. Then you’re in self preservation mode.

[@Beautyroom300]

Exactly. Black men’s trauma is self inflicted. They don’t want help they are agents of chaos and destruction. That man on the couch is deliberately leaving more broken homes and welfare and the yt man has nothing to do with his behavior. They don’t want help, they pretend to want help then destroy everyone who helps them.

[@katherinekamaria]

Thank you two for sharing openly. 🙏🏽 I love the topic.

[@yaisa111]

People always want to project and they also love to idolize. The lack of emotional intelligence and maturity is apparent you can say you’re willing to be accountable but Mr Cannons accountability for his choices won’t come until his children are grown. You can have all the money but your time is invaluable having a Father in the home daily is invaluable. That’s the real accountability. He can choose whomever to be with he can do all that and influence culture be about the culture etc…but until we all seriously understand this is deeper than the surface and actually go deeper than the surface no real change is occurring. No real love can happen. No real connections are made.

[@candidlycrystal]

🙌🏾

[@syntychiahintsin-tee-shaks2256]

This right here!

[@RR-ur4kz]

One does have to practice what they preachin!💯😏

[@IDontCape4Nabs]

I'm just confused because it's like what is this man doing or what really has he done that was so profound for the blk community? I mean yeah he perpetrated blk men making women of any race a baby mamma but I mean really what are folks talking about this man is no prize. Weird.

[@trishwilson5202]

I appreciate this platform (Counsel Culture) and the vulnerable courage it took Nick to have this conversation with one of the G.O.A.T's. I hope these conversation's will continue as we learn and have a greater understanding of how to support our beautiful black men on a deeper level.

[@Conover113]

U should talk to Jason Wilson founder of Cave of Adullum & author of Cry like a Man & Battle Cry. His life's work is to help boys become men & men who haven't shifted from being boys❤

[@Afro-Funk-withFroKatai.-ld8ti]

I agree. He is an amazing man. Formerly a Gospel hiphop producer. We used to call him Maji.

[@kimberleyshanks-duff7389]

THANK YOU NICK CANNON FOR BRINGING THIS TO LIGHT “COUNSEL”

[@StrangePrettyThings]

She knows why people say what the sat about him..its like she doesn't want to speak on it...usually she would ask how can he give the time needed for all the kids he has..

[@aquarius-woman5364]

She's a mammy. Horrible to her daughter

[@MzKayR]

@@aquarius-woman5364who hurt you? Maybe you can benefit from therapy. Take care and be gentle with people.

[@aquarius-woman5364]

@@MzKayR Another mammy!

[@happyheavenly4200]

telling the truth about this mammy means someone is hurt? stfu @@MzKayR

[@IDontCape4Nabs]

​@@aquarius-woman5364Let the women like Iyanla try as they may to save them, these women are being used as buffers for women whom are getting far away from this mindset unharmed & unscathed, be grateful❤