Black Self / White World - lessons on internalized racism | Jabari Lyles | TEDxTysonsSalon

[@k.t.7507]

i have to say that the most heartbreaking time is when you come to the realization of how prevalant racism is in the world. You think you can just love people, but as time goes on you soon begin to realize that it's seems as a never-ending battle that you seem like you can never win.

[@stefanroche3052]

From my perspective at least, it will span centuries. If slavery was allowed to go down for millennia, not just centuries, then every ism we share will last as long unless we all exponentially raise our consciousness and act against every micro or macro aggression. That may involve a huge democratization of resources and perceived status. I know some solutions but this is a world issue obviously.

[@merrytunes8697]

This is exactly where I am at right now. It is awful

[@curtislowe195]

Yeah it's crazy how there are no blonde or redheaded leaders in Africa Asia and the middle east....and now the racists are trying to remove them from America and Europe

[@rebeccakamara5853]

Can I just say how powerful and eye opening this is. This has put words and language to a lot of issues in my life. To say am grateful would be an understatement.

[@PersingerJim]

Jabari is one to watch - the entire United States will soon know this rising star. Great passion, authoritative voice, keen intellect and authenticity. We sorely miss those things in most public discourse.

[@bradhamilton9038]

Jim Persinger Hahahahahaha...You are Joking...RIGHT???

[@veinteduece6625]

Acho Puñeta!!!!!

[@cyrhow5096]

@Jack Percy How does one rebut a subjective opinion of a person? If Jim thinks that, Jim thinks that. Brad, obviously doesn't have the same opinion. It's subjective and didn't worth arguing. Now the merits of the speaker's claims and argument can more effectively be discussed on an objective standard.

[@deeznutz8320]

White guilt having boomers are the worst

[@GoddessAlkebulan]

Live in your greatness. Don't let anyone silence you. Go.Teach.LoveYourSelf

[@davethedave4060]

I thought this week we blacks were supposed to cry-baby about being the original/real Chinese....I can'ts keep up. Who are we blacks pretending to be next week? The Hebrews again or are we going back to claiming to be the real Arabs again?

[@xman9190]

@@davethedave4060 Racism is real. You just proved it.

[@mrhump6132]

Unless your deaf

[@woowoo5853]

Excellent explanation of "internalized" racism.

[@7Tiffany]

The micro aggressions will definitely drain you eventually.

[@JerseySlayer]

Then you're weak, you're probably in favor of censoring speech, you don't know the history of "micro-aggressions", and you're promoting intersectionality. Real racism is over, and the people in this victimhood society are making a mockery of real racism that people had to face in the past.

[@Myegoisdead]

Definitely

[@warmhum5918]

Or a diet

[@beribee2701]

I can feel the drain but, I feel I've still along way's to go before I will be drained.

[@chantalyahysrael1560]

@@JerseySlayer stop. It never went away! Wake up! Racism never went away

[@JulianNguyen-d9p]

Excellently stated!. Wow.. Very touching!Thank you for sharing your experience.

[@mimeePS]

In quarantine i will educate myself x

[@theythrive2521]

Hey, I have a video coming out about my internalized racism experience today if you want to know more.

[@anako1976]

Me too

[@AshleighJessicaTaylor]

That's great, and once you feel like you have a bit more education, then I would suggest you turn that awareness into action.

[@deeznutz8320]

Read Dr Tony Martin and read the website 'we thought they were white' .com

[@curtislowe195]

Educate yourself on why there are no blonde or redheaded leaders in Africa Asia and the middle east...then ask yourself who the racists and supremacists are

[@honeypunch8927]

Many hugs to you

[@marimusic3411]

WE ARE THE WORLD ✊🏻✊🏼✊🏽✊🏾✊🏿✊🏾

[@BadEconomyOfficial]

Love the fists

[@deeznutz8320]

A joke*

[@modo1896]

We are the children...

[@marimusic3411]

modo We are the ones who make a brighter day, so let's start giving

[@marimusic3411]

J7JoYoPro Studios 😊thanks

[@RosettaDeBerardinis]

Everyone needs the lesson here....regardless of race or gender this is one the best presentations on the subject.....BRAVO!!!

[@youknowversecityknewsdonmw4577]

I admire your courage and or confidence continue peel the paint off of the walls of racism

[@JerseySlayer]

Until we're picking up the paint chips taste-testing them for leaden racism that may or may not exist on the superposition, quantum level the oppression. Way to expose mild inconveniences I could've shared about being a white male picking up Hispanic co-workers from the block and being prejudiced and profiled as a drug addict. Or the fact that I'm prejudiced against for being 32 but only 5'7 with a young face so I constantly get second-guessed as young and inexperienced or not commanding or intimidating. How about the oppression I face for coming up on food-stamps and being looked at by these intersectionality-lovers as "privileged" even though my family was 5-10 years behind every other middle-class family in America until 2014? Ridiculous. Prejudice isn't racism. Life oppresses everyone. We're raising a bunch of babies who feel entitled even though they live in the freest, most accepting, most multi-culturally diverse, most ethical county in the world. And the real crime is that this nonsense is resulting in real racism, real bigotry, explicit bigotry against white men. Look up postmodernism. Look up intersectionality. Look up the Sokal Squared Hoax, and see what they exposed about what was being taught in colleges. This fake compassion-driven racism is unbelievable, and you people just eat it up because you think with your heart and you don't look at the big picture or think with your head. Absolutely amazing. 🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑

[@robinsss]

trying to get blacks to assimilate into white culture is not racism …………….……………………………………………………………………….it's rewarding those who assimilate into the mainstream culture of the country

[@MM-gp9mb]

@@JerseySlayer Ur seriously privileged if u think not being able to get foodstamps is oppression.

[@ElJefeNLA]

I was born and raised in Baltimore and the goal was to be a college graduate and move to either Randallstown or Owings Mills. I move to Owings Mills and then fled to California.

[@ltmarkwart]

Jabari has inspired so many...he is having a huge impact on his local community, and now the world!

[@RB-oy3vx]

Wow.. Very touching! Thank you for sharing your experience

[@lovebunnykaz]

This was brilliant ! I can relate and unfortunately I learned the same way he did at 27 years old. It's embarrassing,

[@missshannon9790]

I find him embarrassing.

[@christherien8976]

@@missshannon9790 I find you judgemental.

[@mrblackalchemist]

infiniteuniversalthinking that there is racism?

[@lowerthevolumeup3713]

This is a powerful message. Thanks for sharing this Jabari.

[@stephynuts3924]

I feel his story so much man...

[@AlexzandriaL]

My best friend is a Mexican with internalized racism against Mexicans. I'm white, but my boyfriend is Mexican and she doesn't understand his struggles at all. She was whitewashed as a kid. We talk about racism with opposite views, I think it's real and a problem needing to be fixed. She thinks it ended a long time ago and that colored people are just being whiny and asking for handouts. Its insane because when people overhear us they assume we would have switched view points. I think a big part of this was the kind of churches she grew up in. I grew up in similar ones but rejected the views after my family left. I'm an atheist.

[@itstonua311]

THIS was amazing. Thank you Jabari!!

[@lulapaloozah]

This is still one of the most impactful, enlightening Ted talks I've ever heard. I've watched it countless times and wish there was more

[@QueenDivineLove]

I really like this speech more than the others. Great job and you seem very authentic.

[@tesa1376]

Jabari you did well

[@timoonwright9752]

I relate to this so much

[@brandonfakenamejohnston8105]

Power to the people

[@javajive01]

Loved this talk! Excellent!

[@lulapaloozah]

Yassssss i criedddd this was BEAUTIFUL

[@JerseySlayer]

lulapaloozah it's dangerous

[@lulapaloozah]

@@JerseySlayer oh sooo dangerous

[@misslula1209]

So factual

[@fatdictator5314]

As an Asian I feel the same racism in America by whites, thank you for sharing.

[@mrman5566]

*some whites

[@raikhovalencia3835]

but you do makr more on average, that’s why they dont compare the “wage gap” to you

[@fatdictator5314]

@Justice Hayes comparing to the pale white Asians are colored

[@lFrenzied]

The same? I wasn't aware that so many Asians were shot and killed by the police... ?

[@sophiebell4758]

@@lFrenzied maybe not exact the same, but there are no two people that will go through the same racism. And u will always find someone who has to go through more racism than u.

[@billsay123]

Thanks for this inspiring talk!

[@johannamoore8058]

Thank you for your story Jabari, you’re beautiful and inspiring 🙌🏼

[@_tiaa_5594]

The biggest applause for a powerful speech ✊🏽✊🏽👏👏👏

[@midnightcat6116]

Thanks for sharing your life and story

[@Spencer-kh1hf]

So much respect dude, great job

[@NoFlyZone01]

Well done sir. 👏👏👏

[@youginkim9729]

Respect from Korea!

[@JacksonStricksOn]

Love this! Thank you for sharing!!

[@stevenhillshow]

Thank you for sharing your story!

[@skipthechip8492]

"I didn't see the racism until I realised I could profit off its existence." Powerful

[@louisacaldwell9951]

Excellently stated!

[@akeemrollins2327]

Loved meeting you at the BioMed conference!

[@lrowe272]

High school I faced racism in high-school my nineth grade year.

[@robertjenkins941]

My ancestors fled the horrors of rural Southern life for the less dangerous cities of the South-in the mid-Twentieth Century, my mother and her siblings boarded buses and found other ways to flee the problems of segregated life in the urban South, for the segregated ghettos of the North, and eventually life in the then predominately white ethnic, but, changing 'burbs. I fled the middle class 'burbs for college, and post-graduate life in upwardly mobile burbs, then I fled upwardly mobile 'burbs for urban gentrification-unfortunately, the "One-Drop" rule will probably dominate life in these United States of America until the "land of the brave and home of the free" as we know it no longer exists.

[@nt9389]

Thank you.

[@M3ta1]

Feel the same way no matter what your race is.

[@MackMainSupreme]

This is America.

[@whitneyforte4223]

MackMainSupreme's Down Souf Muzik this is the land of the AmerIndians so what’s your excuse?

[@adellaadella3044]

God,I looove his personality,he is such a positive person🤩

[@meanscene914]

The laughter...

[@London_miss234]

Great presentation.

[@PorscheAbraham]

Go Jabari!

[@giltgirl1]

Great work... amazing message

[@anayeakazmi4153]

Waowwww! I have to say you are great man👍

[@MtlRedAtheist]

This was great, but I want more. Where can I hear more of this man?

[@ibrahimgassama8362]

Great soul .

[@533rocio]

Jabari you’re so awesome man. Loved everything you said. 🥰👍

[@waelsynlomotey7660]

Thanks for sharing

[@marlenasien8793]

If a woman wears a suit, is she internalizing sexism? Why can't she wear a dress and be strong? MAYBE SHE JUST WANTS TO BE COMFORTABLE.

[@tonybradley8771]

I think u Sir,,, well said !!

[@kimc5390]

Excellent

[@azzym9081]

This is key. 🔥

[@RealStarStorm]

I had that happen to me trying to volunteer to feed the hungry.... smh. haven't volunteered since.

[@hollydowns2279]

So sorry .

[@Paaka]

Nova Knows you good?

[@RealStarStorm]

BossCaveman Always! I was actually the smartest because I didn’t try to belittle them and I found out exactly what kind of people they were so I did what I went to do and left.... It sucked but I was much more grateful that people like them weren’t around me everyday! ❤️

[@JerseySlayer]

Your country loves you. Your country wants you to succeed. Your society embraces you. Don't take it to heart. Don't let it define you, and don't become bitter, indifferent, resentful, or feel like a victim. We've made too much progress in this country to have intersectionality derail us and send us in a reverse-racism tailspin, and that's what I and many others see coming out of people who speak on these topics. God bless you for helping others, I'm sorry that you felt slighted, but remember to stay positive.

[@meiasabine4517]

Please please don’t let that stop you from pouring out your love to others! It breaks my heart that you stopped volunteering for this reason. ❤️❤️

[@ottogreenjr.7857]

Excellent!!!

[@Mr_Reb3llion]

Yesterday i realised i have internalised rascism and that has really kept my self esteem low for a number of years. I needed my friend to tell me that rascist people are the problem not my skin colour...

[@humanbeing5566]

I have never saw such a video.......🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌

[@OutlawCaliber13]

Folks treat you below your level of self-respect, you gotta demand your respect. Correct them. Teach them. If they try to treat you like the help, you gotta remind them you're not. Ain't even gotta be rude about it, most times. Most people are soft. If you're stern, and to the point, they back down. What I find most telling about this story is you're telling it about folks that are supposed to be inclusive on varying levels. That's just sad.

[@unggrabb]

A wonderful man

[@johngibson9098]

So this man grew up with a nice, supportive family in a privileged neighborhood then went to university and then applied for a job he desired and was hired and is now doing something rewarding for himself and for others. But he is oppressed and marginalized by racists in the United States that enabled all of his success to occur. OK, got it. He's a victim.

[@elizabeth_mcgregor]

My thoughts exactly. Although I almost feel bad for him because it seems that he was taught by others to have this victim hood mentality and to see white people by their race and not by their personality. Real shame.

[@ofimportance5458]

@@elizabeth_mcgregor Ok McGregor

[@libelulal6258]

It is a fact that abuse, mental or physical, causes draining emotional trauma. He wasn’t a victim until he was.

[@lee6076]

Y’all all white I just know it

[@erikbridge7740]

Oh, the irony of these comments. Exactly what he was talking about in the video.

[@dmc9527]

Amazing.

[@dammagrilla]

7:49 unfortunately I think we all already know the answer to that question...

[@HappinessTheBrand]

Beautiful talk 🌺

[@courtneyhenley681]

I disagree with this concept of us being "rewarded" for adopting certain habits. It's not true. We are always being discriminated against even if we grow up in privilege or white neighborhoods.

[@ascooby]

So goooood! ❤️

[@DistortedV12]

This is my same story. More white people need to hear this.

[@missshannon9790]

Why? Why do you feel caucazoids need to hear this?

[@deeznutz8320]

@@missshannon9790 Indeed. Negroes are gonna cry anyway. Just stay away from them and let them be.

[@akwaabab8504]

Excellent!

[@WillRucker]

This was amazing!!!

[@pola0614]

The life is good so let it good

[@minneymcdollas1629]

Andddd when THEY REVELOUTION WILL BE TELEVISED, They ain’t never lied KKKKAY ✊🏽💕

[@busterbiloxi3833]

Good guy. Testify!

[@nieshatelemacque4507]

Replace the system of racism with one of Truth and justice!

[@beribee2701]

Indeed. One way is to remove the words that separate of people into groups. I recognise there is no one simple solution.

[@nieshatelemacque4507]

@The Genius there's not less racism. It's just a lot more subtle!

[@beribee2701]

@The Genius I disagree totally. The amount of racism remains the same. But, I'm guessing maybe it our definitions of racism which might be causing my disagreement? What is your definition of racism?

[@pierretoussaint8426]

@@nieshatelemacque4507 yep they just took the signs down colored and white social media has brought it back to the light

[@sophiebell4758]

@@beribee2701 i agree with him, but i have to say i am from germany and in europe is much less racism than in the usa to start with. But i see that especially in the bigger Cities racism become less ^^

[@itsallfunandgames723]

So basically he started as an intelligent young man who understood how the world works, and with enough indoctrination discovered the power of labeling humanity's imperfect behavior, that everyone deals with, as "racism" made him get to be special. And that "acting white" is bad, or "acting normally" as Americans of Asian, Hispanic, and Middle Eastern descent refer to it. Why not just do Ted Talks of people wrecking cars, kicking over sand castles, and setting valuable things on fire?

[@flytrapYTP]

I don't think you understood any of what he said, because that's certainly not the vibe I got from him.

[@keldrickdunn6430]

Your feelings sound hurt lmao

[@deeznutz8320]

Two ad hominem attacks what a suprise.

[@deeznutz8320]

@@flytrapYTP White guilt is what you heard right?

[@flytrapYTP]

@@deeznutz8320 what?

[@bigdeweyj]

no amount of rare steak can protect you from racism....I laughed so hard

[@Ngasii]

🔥🔥🔥

[@MizDynasty]

I also created a video talking about my own internalized oppression

[@flytrapYTP]

@Michael Thank you Michael, your insight is valuable and based on facts.

[@flytrapYTP]

@Tony G it's weird that you always assume that these people don't have a job. Why wouldn't they, what makes them so unemployable? Are you the owner of a company? Or are you just an employee like most people?

[@adrienpolo2255]

❤❤❤✊ respect

[@mondemazinyo6398]

Why we don't learn this at school?

[@swellyinmybelly1362]

@Michael Bruh did you even listen to the DAMN Ted talk??? Like JESOOS

[@thomasboland540]

Imagine allowing this racism, ted

[@oscargreat]

The only oppression I see is him oppressing the logic from reaching his mind.

[@thetoddperspective]

Racism is like God. It is everywhere, but you have to believe in it to see it.

[@naturalbadazz8343]

Wonderful way of explaining it

[@curtislowe195]

FATTEST oppressed people in world history

[@kashbusby]

I voted for Bill Clinton twice and Obama twice, my wife voted for Hillary in 2016 while I sat it out. My small business had at least 8% annual growth until Obama got in office and I watched the life get sucked out of my customer base and my business under his watch. My small business went from 8% annual growth to 30% annual loss. That's nearly a 40% differential negative swing. I went from 17 employees, to just 3 in 8 years. Eventually in 2016, I had to sell the business I had owned since 1993 which did not cover all of my debt, so I had to file bankruptcy. Me and my wife were both life-long Democrats, but never again.

[@ard1805]

Obama got in office in 2008. Bankers and traders did that.

[@TheMisslauren1234]

yas

[@johnkeithrobinson7399]

good job brother keep up the good work

[@thetoddperspective]

Recap: I thought whites and blacks got along fine until I went to college and learned racism.

[@thedialogue9545]

Allen Landis Until he experienced racism first hand and overtly.

[@nyembsafric1]

Honestly...he was talking! It wasn't a book or in code...are you that thick?

[@cait-o]

8:47 he forgot dangerous

[@commenttroll6933]

Shutup

[@KimberlyVanDuijkeren]

yes yes yes

[@meme8458]

Yes honey I learned something from this also

[@johnathanshore9335]

When I was indoctrinated in college the repressed memories come back LOL

[@JerseySlayer]

What do you mean?

[@fartboy1975]

Jabari indoctrinated into another foot solider for gender studies...

[@JerseySlayer]

HuskerfanMargarita that's the only kind of indoctrination that even happens at colleges today. It's the only ideology that's allowed to fester inside of a "liberal" institution. Nothing liberal about postmodernism.

[@ayodeler39]

JerseySlayer ??? Simplify

[@KERBROES]

@@ayodeler39 Well so many teachers i have push the same political agenda. They try so hard its insane. I need to watch this video for one of my class. This man's speech is a joke.

[@angelaalmorefirst2432]

You said, " racism WAS rea l" No Sir, " racism IS real. Great speech though.

[@taekwondomaster4609]

Microaggressions are real yet, unintentional.

[@piricarmen]

MAPS MARTIAL ARTS PHILOSOPHY STATION Not always, genius!

[@libertasadvitam4538]

Summary: “I experienced a thing so now all things are that thing. I have been provided with an excuse that is socially acceptable in all things”.

[@esaudiarabia4676]

"Immigrants have the power to change the outcome of elections & to change the face of pale, male, stale leadership." TEDx

[@Jim90117]

Identity politics again brilliant, I love categorising entire groups of people by generic traits just like actual racists do. How about we start seeing individuals instead of group think and perhaps maybe our political, societal and economic conversations will actually bring us together instead of dividing us.

[@daftmell5237]

>ignore the racial vote >ignore divergent evolution naah