Black Women Are "Embarrassing" | The CONSTANT Negative Portrayal of Black Women in Media

[@ToniBryanneTV]

If I see one more comment saying my argument is irrelevant because I CHOSE (once again I edit my own content) to be truthful to MY audience and state I was a fan of her music in the past I will scream. The issue is you guys expect perfection in everyone when that will never be the case nor will I ever display that. Yes, I create commentary content but I look at the full picture of every situation hence why you will NEVER see me bash any individual on this here internet. As I soon enter my 24th year of life I have chosen to cut out a lot of secular music so no I don’t listen to her any longer nor a lot of female rappers. However, this is a JOURNEY so they aren’t cut out cold turkey. I listen in moderation and have opened my mind to different music genres. Regardless, we all are learning and growing everyday and that’s the beauty of the human experience. I did listen to Sexyy Redd when I would go out with friends, etc. Her music is catchy and considered “going out” music so it is completely unrealistic for me to claim I’ve never listened to or danced to the music. The point of the video was not to bash any black woman, but to mention we should see all kinds of black women besides just one stereotype because once again black women are NOT a monolith. So yall can sit here and bash black women all day, but that’s not what I’m about to do. Be blessed.

[@Huhn-Bruh]

@@ToniBryanneTV IF ONLY y'all would give more of y'all attention to "other types of Black women" then we would see more of other types of Black women BUT so many Black women CHOOSE to give their attention to the Sexy Red type that it will only produce more Sexy Red types and the machine will only promote that Sexy Red type because they make such great profits off of it because so many Black women (and others) give their attention to it.

[@DanialTarki]

I’m also in favor of monoracial dating. Emphasis on also.

[@John-cd9ji]

This video's subject doesn't affect me. But you saying you used to be a fan spiked my interest and I watched the whole thing. Too many people bash other people's work or interests from an outsider perspective. There is little insight to be gained from that because humans have strong group think and will find "reasons" to trash every group they are not a part of. You being critical from the "inside" perspective brings true value to the conversation.

[@John-cd9ji]

It's a real problem that the youth nowadays will directly jump to shame someone for something as minute as ever listening to the wrong music when you acknowledge in which ways this music should be criticized. It leaves no room for rational discourse.

[@CellsAgent420]

@@Huhn-Bruh THIS!!! Black women avoid accountability, like deadbeat dads avoid child support Lol

[@JanelleMac]

I would rather have no representation than bad representation. Let's bring back moving in silence, self-respect, and class. ❤

[@hellzbelle229]

Yes! I’m over begging for representation, because too often, the representation we get is one-dimensional garbage.

[@sigmasiren7]

1000% agreed! I don't see how she even has a platform.

[@Oarabile__M]

And also let's bring back shame👍🏻👍🏻 There are some things that the internet doesn't need to know

[@ThakaneBereng]

This 👏🏽👏🏽

[@neutraliserjanine]

Except women like that always existed but proper ladies like you didn't run to find out what they were doing and not doing.

[@CoilyCode]

Black girls, stay focused. Ignore the media.

[@mukaniwatkins2598]

And BW need to boycott the media when they negatively representing them.

[@sigmasiren7]

​@@mukaniwatkins2598 Exactly. Was just about to say this.

[@mukaniwatkins2598]

@sigmasiren777 I actually do this too. I don't watch any TV shows or support anything that harm our image.

[@sigmasiren7]

@@mukaniwatkins2598 I dont either.

[@aleruchiì]

We can ignore the media but other people aren’t ignoring it

[@1tg0r1]

im a white girl (18) in highschool who goes to a mainly black school (over 80% of students are black.) and anytime i show my body off in any way boys at my school will say "why are you trynna act black?" . it really shows how black men think of black woman.

[@bugsbunni4200]

It’s crazy how people fetishize their own kids. A normal couple would think about who the child would favor more, not their skin tone. They would be worried about their health, not their hair texture.

[@YounhaMizuki]

Yeah, it’s really sad. I once heard a lady say that her niece would be more pretty if she had lighter skin! 🫠

[@Phantom_Magician]

@@YounhaMizukiI heard that said to my cousin ,by her aunt (my mom ) and her sister (my aunt her mom) co signed 🤯

[@Thatcaramelchic]

Omg I am currently experiencing this my baby is 7 weeks and multiple family members have commented on his skin color…

[@GraduateJLN]

@@Phantom_MagicianI heard my mom whisper that about me to my Grandmother, while looking at a picture of my much lighter skinned cousin (Luckily my grandma checked her immediately!). Keep in mind, I would be considered light skin (I’m Beyoncé’s complexion) but I come from a mixed-up family with a very fair mother. So even if you’re not Dark skin it’s like people just want you to be lighter and lighter and lighter. Last I checked 2+2=4, So I don’t know why my mom and many other light skin women re-produce with Dark skin men if they want a fair skin babies🤔…..the world will never know🤦🏽‍♀️.

[@Phantom_Magician]

@@GraduateJLN ugh I’m East African and I swear colorism is reallllll in the African diaspora 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@Tgill122]

Please stop listening to sexyy red and any other "artists" like her. Can't say you are tired of this representation and then go listen to it in your spare time. There are millions of other artists and songs to listen to that don't degrade us as black women.

[@katkammy9478]

Yeah that’s an unpopular opinion I probably have on this. On one hand adults can do what they want but on the other hand, children aren’t the majority of her fanbase so how do we complain about the things we consume when we can consume other things instead of what we complain about. So I definitely see your side to this and it’s what I’ve been wrestling with when it comes to this stuff.

[@amyah.t4526]

Listening to sexy red dose not degrade you. You are ur own individual person. The only person making themself look bad is SEXYRED. However I do enjoy her music because it’s catchy and I put it on sometimes. But that dosent mean I partake in any activity’s she mentions in her songs. You don’t have to relate to a song to listen to it.

[@Tgill122]

​@@amyah.t4526 I agree with you that we are our own individual people. By degrading I mean the representation of our image in society. Let's look at degrading in the dictionary. Degrading: to lower in grade, rank, or status, demote, to strip of rank or honors, to lower to an inferior or less effective level, to scale down in desirability. Let's be honest, are the lyrics of pound town raising our rank and status? Increasing effectiveness? Bringing honor? Whether we want to admit it or not, people are attributing "blackness" with what they see in media. It affects how we are portrayed in society. So I stand by my statement that it does degrade our image in society.

[@Circee11]

​@@amyah.t4526Your views, your likes, your coins help fuel this. You can't complain then go out and support it too. These trash artists don't get one view or dime from me. I only know about them through content creators. I haven't heard one sexy red song or ice spice song and I don't want to. I've only heard meg stallions music from watching award shows.

[@amyah.t4526]

@@Circee11 I never complained. I listen to her music because it’s catchy. It’s not like she’s making a billion dollars because I viewed her song.

[@nochoice3132]

As an African woman, i don't have social media accounts. I know nothing about these female rappers. I am very particular about what i watch.

[@jwana7440]

I feel like this is more about American black woman and their culture because you don’t really see this in other countries

[@aniyahperkins5668]

@@jwana7440 and this is the problem there is an agenda being pushed on black women in America

[@deby5983]

I so agree!!

[@purrfitazitgetz3365]

This is about American black women not Africans

[@Achanloki]

@@jwana7440 but we African women are also in America

[@EmpoweredVoice1]

We as black people have got to stop watching and listening to this type of music. This explicit, hypersexualized music is NOT black culture. Stop letting the media lie to you. We have to get back to a desire for class and excellence like we had in the 70s, 80s, and early 90s. The change begins with each individual saying, "No, I will not listen to this" and keeping that standard. We want to be respected as a race, but we are allowing this tasteless music into our cars, homes, schools, stores, restaurants, and environments to influence us and the next generation of young people. Enough is enough, turn it off.

[@Spokentruths725]

👏🏾

[@harunatsu6756]

Better just change the songs' subject matter

[@GrimsinMingzhi]

I don't think listening to the music itself is what's harming us. For instance, I listen to Doe Boe but neeeeever in my life would I try to emulate what he raps about, and that's the main problem right there: emulation. Parents and children both need to learn how to seperate their appreciation with an artform from their real lives.

[@RicardoCray]

That part‼️

[@Niqua10023]

It's not just about the music it's about the artist too. And you as a person. You are the blame to not pay no mind to these idiots singers today. You don't have to care. If you listen don't pay no mind. Don't mind you have to follow. Teach the young. Be a leader not a follower. Yes. They pick the crappy so called rappers more now. It is sad. The rappers are ok with it to make a fool out themselves. It doesn't have to be you. You don't have to be. Be you. They sold themselves.

[@iloveLmorethanyou]

I’m a middle school teacher and if you watching this video think this isn’t affecting our youth you are absolutely mistaken. This is a serious issue. Please if you’re a parent monitor what your children are consuming on the internet.

[@ebonih7138]

My man just left education. He was tired, he taught 5th grade art, “if this kid acts up, it’s because she can’t read so be mindful with certain tasks.” YOU SHOULD NOT BE IN 5th grade if you can’t read. They are just passing kids along and it’s frustrating for the kids when they don’t understand wtf is going on. Then teachers suffer with classrooms full of these problems.

[@iloveLmorethanyou]

@@ebonih7138 this is unfortunately so true! The illiterate rate of graduates would shock people.

[@Chillikilli]

@@ebonih7138yes It’s sad I’ve been in education for 4 years now and it’s tiring. We spend more time “redirecting” bad behavior than actually teaching.

[@540naja3]

@@ebonih7138 it also has a lot to do with the environment children are raised in! I teach at multiple schools around my city and the kids act so different when they live in higher income areas than how they act in lower income areas. I’ve been teaching for almost ten years but my dad has been a teacher for thirty plus years and we talk about the difference in behaviors of the children from different backgrounds

[@ebonih7138]

@@540naja3 omg same for his father! He teaches in a middle class Cali area though, but has been since he started his career. I think my fiancé will be more open once he finds a placement that feels more supportive for new teachers. He gave it a year but will be working in sales until we relocate from Philly. I work in college admissions and the differences become very apparent when reading applications, but my work doesn’t capture students who don’t even apply to college. Upward mobility is nearly impossible because the disparities start EARLY. It’s easy to feel sad asf about the system.

[@benitajones9115]

The main issue is we, collectively, as black women support them. Don’t download the music, don’t watch the shows, don’t buy the products. Protest at the concerts

[@JayCasinoOfficial]

Yeah that’s never gonna happen

[@anamantics]

I've never once supported them

[@cameronstevens2053]

Protest at the concerts is crazy 😭 just don’t support them

[@The11Jade]

Plenty of black women prefer other types of music and don’t know anything about these artists other than how embarrassing they are.

[@cozylee1811]

I’m a black straight man with a dark skin girlfriend who is Nigerian and I gotta agree on a lot of this. It’s unfortunate some man say black women have an attitude but with other races it’s ok and considered “spicy”.

[@sagba947]

Thank you finally someone sees it!!!!

[@ihateyouall9940]

i don't often see ßlàçk american cishet males finding dark skinned African ßlàçk women attractive.🤔

[@RicardoCray]

They call bw spicy too especially in New York. I don’t want an attitude from any race of woman

[@busymike]

*”It’s refreshing to see a black man regurgitating our lies”* No black man has ever called a non-black woman “spicy” for rudeness. It’s black women who constantly repeat this lie to justify their bad behavior.

[@MagicGrow_]

Exactly that’s because they undercover gay. Attitudes that’s just a female trait. Just ignore it duh. My wife always got something to say. It doesn’t mean I feed into it. By the way she’s a great wife. Just like to talk but all women do

[@Thesilentvoice...]

It's hard when you see only one side to black women being presented in the media. You never see the black girls who like other things (sports, anime, art, playing instruments, being into tech, chess or anything different). It's only when a black girl takes off her clothes, is sexy, or has a certain aesthetic that they get noticed/attention. And that's more so for lighter black people or biracial girls/women. Not darker skin black women and girls. It's very damaging.

[@dinkyboss]

I think something that gets overlooked in these conversations is the fact that the majority of black women are what could be considered “ghetto” (not saying good or bad). If the majority of black women are closer to a Sexy Red than a Corretta Scott King then of course the representation would match. I don’t think we want to be honest about that fact. I hear everyday black women complaining that they can’t be ghetto in peace to the point that it turned into the anti respectability movement. Every time something ratchet is questioned who is in the comments justifying it? The call is coming from inside the house.

[@yungnonsense69]

I think thats what we focus on because there was a lot of positive black female representation during the olympics but yall hate to see black women you dont like in the media

[@neutraliserjanine]

Stop consuming that stuff. Stop watching it. Stop going to where they are and Yo u wouldn't see that. How are Yo u proper ladies like this content creator seeking out trash just to make money and throw stone? 🤔 Yo u are only as pure as what Yo u choose to watch and listen to. You listen eagerly about strippers with microphones because Yo u want to.

[@NinaNeko4]

@@dinkyboss I don’t know about that though. Black women are not immune to programming just like everybody else. Black women are also seeing how the stereotypical black girls are some of the only ones that get any attention period. That stereotype is also emulated and mimicked by other races of people as well. When black women go against the grain in terms of aesthetic or behavior, etc. they are often told they want to be white or don’t like being black. Or be accused on wanting to be better than people. It’s very ostracizing and you can even lose family members and friends if you’re different. So idk. It might be a chicken vs. the egg situation.

[@NinaNeko4]

@@dinkybossalso… this whole video is calling out the things in your comment. If you keep showingblack girls a certain image and that’s all they can/should be or are perceived as, they’re going to imitate that. That’s why we need more diverse representation and ppl are calling the propaganda out…

[@JennHayden]

I don't listen to sexxy redd. I don't watch any of the shows mentioned. You can't listen to the music and watch the shows and complain.

[@Kadiatuuu]

Thank you 👏🏿

[@jentealwaves]

Yes!!! Thank you for speaking common sense!

[@Mia-Elemental]

I feel embarrassed every time I see or hear about her.

[@lordodinfatheroftheazier699]

Stop the 🧢 🧢 🧢

[@lordodinfatheroftheazier699]

Black women sexualize themselves if black woman didn't have the power to sexualize themselves men would have the power to control the way they dress and the way they look that way you will never be sexualized again I don't want my wife to be looked at by other men I don't want my wife to dress sexually for other men but you can't tell a black woman what to do with her body

[@face2faceboy]

Blaming the white people is getting old we need to take full accountability

[@Love-Fashion-Makeup]

This!

[@true4585]

Thank you! It’s old.

[@DavidKitchen-SoWhat]

They control the 📺.

[@ERICAEPPSREALTOR]

Who decides what artists get signed? Who controls what's promoted? There are so many talented artists who won't get signed.

[@MsTKO-le7us]

Facts black women have the power to cancel black men who date non-black or don’t uplift black women! And can easily cancel women like sexy red and Cardi B they would definitely stop coming out with that shenanigans if they don’t have black womens support 💯

[@leesahm2718]

I thought I was the only one noticing this. Every show about black people is either about struggle, negativity, or fighting (baddies, bad girls club, love and hip hop) . It’s really bad.

[@leesahm2718]

@@ScorpioMoonYT exactly , I hate it !

[@MelanatedHomesteadher]

Right

[@sumayyahadetunmbi4347]

fr, it is sad

[@AyriannaRefour]

As a black woman (19 y.o) I feel like it's hard for me (at least in my family) to "be good". Or nice the way a white girl may be (Im not one of those kinds of black people I just don't know how to word it). I don't mean I'm trying to be like a white girl, I just mean if we do the same thing. Like a white girl can go, "Oops! Hehe, sorry about that." But if I do people just get mad that I laughed at my mistake. I can't be nice because people are sometimes hostile towards me, especially other black people or they don't believe me. But the white girls seen as an angel. And they can say, "Sorry, we're all out." And it's fine but if I do I get yelled at.

[@AyriannaRefour]

People get mad at me when I don't wanna drink. Don't wanna smoke. Ask if I'm a child. Also white girls preferences seem to be respected more from what I've seen.

[@outsidethematrix593]

You got Simon Biles being a positive representation and it is BW themselves leading the hate brigade against her smh

[@yepisaidit1507]

So true!! Smh

[@NaNa-oe9ke]

The self-hate is real and then they have the audacity to show envy of white women getting more positive attention globally....when the part of the reason is that they practice TRIBALISM by even going as far as supporting mediocrisy in their communities (Taylor Swift,Alix Earle= 0 talent while Biles is a true talent😮

[@devinreis5811]

Simone Biles does her best to be a good influence for girls of all races and ethnicities from around the world. She presents herself in a way that's positive. The amount of grace she has is surprising. Example: When Kamila Valieva was accused of doping for taking medications that keep her alive because she has angina, Simone Biles started the Wear Red For Kamila Challenge to show her support for her throughout the month of January; red is the support color for heart conditions. I even participated in it because my cousin and two of my close friends have Mitral Valve Prolapse, which is a heart condition. Kamila Valieva showed her appreciation for the support she got from someone she probably wouldn't have expected. Simone Biles wore red leotards and red ribbons in her hair throughout the month of January. The goddaughter of one of the most powerful people in the world, Kseniya Sobchak, was a very active participant and she showed her appreciation for the gesture on social media. The ridicule that Simone Biles got for being an example and the ridicule she gets for presenting herself in a positive way is embarrassing.

[@Susan-id5xj]

When did anyone attack Simone? Weird.

[@aswilled1]

@@Susan-id5xjsince she has been known black women have been tearing her down. Google it

[@staaravian]

I think rap went from "having something to say" to "wanting to be famous"

[@moonglare5885]

Yes

[@aminazebra]

Yes!! My thoughts exactly

[@ygkr6437]

It changed when the joos took over. Research it. They offered the bm a check to sell out his own people/women.

[@anisahs2110]

That’s just the music industry in general to be fair…

[@Crazy4jrj]

Soooo much self hatred in our community it’s really sad at this point.

[@ScorpioMoonYT]

No fr. I always got shunned for being quirky and not ratchet smfh

[@Crazy4jrj]

@@ScorpioMoonYT same!! we need to start our own little community of non ratchet black girls lol

[@cygnetlake8017]

it might as well be a deadly disease atp just running rampant throughout the community

[@PrincessYonna1]

@@Crazy4jrjblack girl luxury community promoted the opposite of ratchet.

[@07Haley]

I got made fun of at SIXTEEEN for not wanting to twerk...by adults...i didnt even know what to say.

[@sfilms2963]

You kinda lost me when you said you listen to SexyyRed when you just said black women are hypersexualized in music. I don’t understand supporting that in general despite your previous indictments.

[@gabbyperkins1274]

Literally my thoughts

[@lala1980k]

That’s exactly what I said. She want to have her cake and eat it! You can’t like what you hate!

[@gabbyperkins1274]

@ yeah it’s kinda hypocritical bc your preaching against it but supporting it but I think she said she doesn’t listen anymore idk

[@Professoryu]

There’s an obvious shift happening when it comes to Black women. They see we are improving ourselves in every aspect of our lives so they have no choice but to push these characters of us to the masses.

[@asiamwithraenetteleepodcast]

Facts

[@leena5875]

exactly more bw getting degrees and becoming high achievers in their fields than ever yet all we get pushed to see now is raunchy bbl baddies

[@Brandi-xd7sb]

Yall remember that year black women won all the major pageant titles. Zozi, cheslie, tony Singh, and others… I really think during that time black women were really starting to get corrective promotion… but apparently that can’t happen so they’re going hard promoting the ratchet stereotype nowadays.

[@pink_magical_girl]

Exactly 💯

[@zarieeeeeeeeeeee]

Yes!!

[@lasha4585]

It’s OK to BOYCOTT any product your don’t agree with, black producers or not!!! They do this dumb stuff for money, SO DONT GIVE THEM YOUR MONEY!!!

[@evaphillips2102]

Donald Glover

[@iH3artKitties]

@@evaphillips2102why??

[@bigblue4579]

Exactly! I don't watch any of this mess but all these other people are tuned in every week and then complain smh.

[@robertmugabe2905]

its in your DNA at this point. Say your prayers.

[@Huhn-Bruh]

If you find Sexy Red type portrayal of Black women a problem but you are a fan then you my lady are the problem

[@cece8494]

Absolutely

[@Olive_and_Pistachio]

​@@cece8494maybe she changed?!

[@BahjaShow]

Sexy redd is not a portrayal of black Women all black women dont brag about having stds being a thot and talk about the color of there private parts

[@Sheena_Thunderpants90999]

Exactly. Every bit of SR’s image is meant to degrade women and shock people for attention.

[@kitty-yg1bg]

That clip of the dark skin man being terrified of his child coming out dark skin was truly heartbreaking...

[@robertwright4220]

I'm in my forties and I saw on multiple occasions black women being colorist. A lot of the colorism in our so called community came from black women. Most likely these black males feel this way because of their mothers.

[@jdagreat4595]

This how dark skin black women feel this why they always get pregnant by white men , mixed men and light skin men

[@humanbeing4021]

I see that more with the women.

[@Ray03595]

Just one individual. He speaks only for himself. You can find clips of any random person saying any crazy things on these kind of podcasts.

[@humanbeing4021]

@@Ray03595 She didn't show a clip she just projected how BW feel on to BM as usual.

[@sanjanat1085]

As a South Asian girl, I always wondered why Kamala never brought on a successful black woman to talk at her rally. I get what she was trying to do, but I doubt there's a severe dearth of black women in STEM, law, medicine, architecture, aviation, literally anything, just to show young people (her target demographic) that education, demurity and career success can take you further than self-sexualisation and help fight these negative stereotypes. Why are those above qualities anti-liberalism to her? Megan Thee Stallion is also a very well educated woman, why couldn't she be asked to talk about her degree or field or educational experience instead of twerking? Makes me think it's all just a big shock value PR stunt.

[@jenbunny1984]

I concur!!! I would love to see more BW from that demographic because they’re demographic that represents me!! I’m Dr. PhD! I get excited seeing successful BW!! 😁☺️

[@lipstickandbooks.]

🎯

[@cygnetlake8017]

Kamala is a dishonest politician who to this day is lying about her racial background to get ahead in life? What more can you expect from someone who only knows pandering and cosplaying?

[@keoni_6375]

I can't take this administration seriously anymore

[@tiftyme]

She brought MTS on because both of them are huge fans and gigantic supporters of that one place the starts with a P and ends with a D. Two letter word

[@Mikel-l4d]

To blame “records labels” and the “white man” for the music and type of songs is crazy. All of them have a choice on how they want to portray themselves and there talent they chose to sing that type of music and show themselves the way they are

[@cococock2418]

That’s correct - at the end of the day they chose to take the money over all else

[@SeanWalker15]

That’s all black women do, blame the white man. That’s why I don’t understand why some of us date and even marry these women.

[@LeeLee_Diamond]

@trainheartnet4586 dude get off this channel like for real. White men and white women r embarrassing. That's all white folks do is be in blk folks business 😒

[@LeeLee_Diamond]

@Mikel-l4d why r yall on this page

[@LeeLee_Diamond]

@cococock2418 like yall choose to be racist 🙄 and be in blk folks business 🙄

[@jessicajanene2001]

wheww this subject was long overdue for a discussion, and thankfully Toni girl you came on perfect timing!!!!!! i was VERY disgusted about Sexyy red’s names for the lip gloss line, and out of all the millions words she could’ve named them she chose those is crazy work😟

[@jade9596]

People said she was trolling

[@XOXO_AY]

It really is disgusting to see as a young black girl

[@TURTLE001E]

@@jade9596but she isn't, since it's real. Sexyy red with always talk abt sex, or something similar to that area

[@RageE4Evry1]

​@@jade9596doesn't matter. It's nasty and a terrible excuse.

[@OCDandme123]

@@RageE4Evry1 Period I don't like sexy red though anyway she's ignorant when she insulted her own hair calling it carpet hair and glorifying it being bone straight and her supporting Trump

[@maryodindo5616]

We as black women need to stop enabling this disrespect and degradation. We need to hold our self in high esteem and set standards. This way we can set good examples for the younger generation. God bless everyone 💜💜

[@EmpoweredVoice1]

Agreed.

[@TheBreezy703]

Y'all won't thats another prob with bw all y'all no action

[@qui-anteshkiceanderson9768]

@@TheBreezy703This is very illogical, inaccurate and deceptive. If this were true then black CIS - men such as yourself would be frozen 🥶, because you all literally never act. Do not spew lies about Black Women and I will not reveal the truth about Black Men.

[@sumayyahadetunmbi4347]

exactly

[@Fuckaroundfindout-b3r]

And this energy and additude is why most bm like to date outside.

[@rockinPRETTY5L]

i get so ashamed being black sometimes. its sad but it's true, im still a minor but i hate back all these expectations and portrayals being tied to me because of my skin color. like its so exhausting having to explain to people that im not a hypersexual, i don't wanna jump from relationship to relationship, im not comfortable with having ALL my skin out in tiny pieces of fabric, i refuse to be quiet and just take ish from men and be held as just an object, ive watched the women in my family go through this over and over and im not feeling it. the saddest thing is when i explain those things, my own people do not want me and im referred to as "white washed". i lowkey hate it. it hurts and irks my soul and i cannot stand these people oml

[@Olive_and_Pistachio]

While I'm not black I also belong to a minority whose women were objectived. Amd because I'm older I did exactly what you are doing. Explaining nicely. Don't do that. People either don't or won't understand. Just live your life as you wish. Find a circle/community with similar values and interests. Sometimes just even answer and go away. Because the problem with discussions is that it keeps you busy and you can't work on your goals

[@purrfitazitgetz3365]

@@Olive_and_Pistachiowhy do have a need to insert yourself in this conversation about “ black women tho? I your comment is the reason I hate KZbin specifically because too many people not in black culture have a need to insert themselves in black folks business 🤦🏾‍♂️ as someone who lives in the south and attended a black urban highschool that was %98 black and also a attended a suburban HS that didn’t have a big pop of “ other minorities “ and the few we did have they always tried desperately blending in with the clear population and I mean Asians , Hispanics and Latinos ! They didn’t associate with black folks one bit and steered clear of black folks so I when all yall others always pulling up on black conversations it rubs me the wrong one cause I have yet to see other minorities standing side by side with us like that unless it’s beneficial to yall but yall problems ain’t our problems

[@theanonymous9965]

​@@purrfitazitgetz3365 comments and behaviours like this is what stirs other minorities and black people so further from each other. the person isn't inserting themselves into black people business they are simply relating to a situation that they have too gone through, as a black young person I completely relate and understand the initial comment's experience. its better to learn about the things you like and what type of person your comfortable representing yourself before having discussion with people who aren't bothered to reason cause you might lose yourself in the process.

[@purrfitazitgetz3365]

@ 🌫️ opinions and comments aren’t needed or relevant when it comes to discussion about the black community and they have this weird obsession with the black community as it is and i remember years ago i was in a black group group on social media that didn’t allow them access because why? They can’t speak on a community they aren’t in and nothing about black and 🌫️people are the same from our hair bodies , eat to our upbringing , they think because they watch a few “ KZbin “ videos about black culture they can speak on our community NO and it’s dangerous because it feeds into stereotypes they believe about us and especially from 🌫️ females and I noticed how they use us to benefit for their gain unless it’s monetary or to considered “ cool” I remember in the 90s when 🌫️ females shamed big azzes but now they pumping their azzes up and geling their hair down and same wid the goofy males because in real life we are still mainly separated and it’s not a bad thing it’s just people mainly associate and relate to people who look like them and when you go into da DOC it’s very segregated by race and I can you use a 🌫️ female hair brush ? The only 🌫️ people in da hood his PWT and watch them flip on you

[@kriztoppa]

All black people are not the same.

[@aleruchiì]

You know- I didn’t really used to care about how the media portrayed black women. Until I started working with Korean women and I was liking them to characters from my favorite Korean drama series - boys over flowers Thinking all of them would be soft and sweet - and it hit me that I thought that way because of the media I was consuming It’s very important we have diverse portrayals of black women showing us in different lights.

[@neutraliserjanine]

Women like this content creator could be mqking the same things about black women but she choose to watch and report on strippers with microphones and call all black women resposnbile for the trash that she watch to make money talking about. God got some words foe this bible thumping hypocrit.

[@robertmugabe2905]

sad that it took Korean interaction for your brain to turn on.

[@patrice6139]

There is nothing cute or sexy about gonorrhea or yellow discharge. The fact that Sexyy Red thinks it's genius to name makeup products after these things is disgusting and disturbing on so many levels. Our community is so lost and so unserious. 😫

[@caid733]

I wouldnt say our community but look at the people in power who give her access to the public.

[@evaphillips2102]

It’s a literal comic strip from the 90s. Not even funny at this point.

[@sabrinastars1284]

Y’all even the thought of putting the lip gloss on makes me feel sick 🤢🤢

[@karenrichardson595]

No one will buy this nonsense, no one e that I know !

[@babygirla5717]

@@caid733Wrong it’s the community let’s start taking accountability because if it wasn’t for the black community she wouldn’t even be famous.

[@Saint.questions]

I hate that there aren't more black "alt" people in media like grace jones and such.

[@jenbunny1984]

Yesssssss!!!!

[@dinkyboss]

Because black folks don’t support them and will call them demonic or whatever else stupidity they say

[@waterlilly611]

Doechii, Flyana Boss, Lay Bankz, Coi Leray, and Aliyah’s Interlude

[@imjustateenagerizzlerbaby]

rico nasty, little simz, nd im sure theres more im forgetting

[@wildonez3076]

Grace Jones is classy? She's is not a good example of Black woman. Did you see boomerang.? Her part was disgusting. It's hard for me to watch even 20 + years later!!

[@Chicekcn3475]

This is why it is important for black women to stay off social media and live life 😊

[@invisiblerevolution]

But that's just like covering your eyes 👀.... and pretending everything is ok.

[@tias.6675]

Not going to change anything. Some people are just unpleasant by nature.

[@Imani_alee]

Exactly 💯

[@Imani_alee]

Staying off social media will do a lot of good for one's mental health.

[@eulabell4871]

The thing with exploitation is that it involves searching for something to exploit. If we can acknowledge that as humans everyone makes mistakes and deserves another chance in an opportunity, The Weeknd also acknowledged that black people are just like everyone else who deserves the same treatment. But we live in a world where black people are overly exploited for the smallest things they do. Where micromanage over everything! I've been told to calm down whenever someone ASSUMES that I'm going to be angry about something. Why is that? Exploitation! Black women like to argue and have sudden outbursts. Because that is the only type of black woman that is shown to the world. This makes everyone in the world assume that the majority of black women act the same. And what is the most egregious insults comes from black men. They are well aware that most black women don't behave like this. They are well aware of the environment that they put black women in and how it affects a woman's behavior in outlook on life. They are well aware of everything! But they go out into the world siding what everyone else throwing black women under the bus! Furthermore, they join in with the insults! I think that our black men are getting more pathetic each day. And I thank God that we have a good amount of black men that are beginning to understand that.

[@error401q8]

Thank you for having the courage to speak on this. You know whats saddens me?? Being told that I’m “white-washed”, “tamer”, or safer” bc I act normally and not how a lot of black women are portrayed in media. We don’t have the privilege to not be seen as a monolith

[@bows_stars]

as a lightskin black girl black men/boys who dont wanna date dark skin women so they can have “fair skin” and “tame hair” make me mad because all black women are beautiful and deserve the same amount of love

[@BlackMist123]

Only bw talk about colorism, and it's always one-sided. Talk about the mothers teaching young boys colorism.

[@RicardoCray]

@@BlackMist123exactly this is a very deep rooted issue on both sides. I remember when my daughter was a toddler I bought her Barbie of every shade. It starts at home

[@Ms.pee12]

Omg this. I told my current bf and he’s not black that it’s so disheartening to be talking to a black guy and you see his interest drop or face drop once you say you’re not mixed. Like only black men have hounded me and made it important to ask me if I’m mixed just because I’m light skin! Like you’d literally see their face drop it make you really start to hate them. That’s why I don’t date black men no more.

[@libfuzzy4629]

That’s because those kind of men don’t like the way they look tbh

[@exoticalrants]

Men can have a preference but just don’t spew hate.

[@theonlytashab]

I agree that the image of a black woman is being tainted but there has to be some responsibility for what a person decides to consume. There are other characters that black women portray that we don’t pay attention to. Consumers have all the control.

[@WhatIShayyy]

I agree, I feel like black woman creators need to stop making content about Sexxy Red or influencers like her ie; Ekane, that girl with the rapper from YMG label, etc, etc. You can bring awareness to bad behavior but once we’re aware I don’t need to keep seeing it. Let their “fans” post about them b/c it’s Free promotion for them atp😱🤦🏾‍♀️

[@bbgirl800]

Exactly BW complain but BW (like the woman in the video) consume it

[@evaphillips2102]

That is a fascist lie. We are programmed from a young age to be a specific kind of consumer, why do you think no one outside of those who grew up with pop tarts can stomach them? (Those would be an American frosted cardboard breakfast, idk where you all are from.) They overwork parents so they can’t choose what their kids influences are and then go to work on that kids brain. They can control their whole life if that kid doesn’t wake up at some point.

[@emismith4655]

@@WhatIShayyyexactly!!! I see a million videos about how awful the portrayal of black women is… but you never seen any positive recommendations.

[@itsvori]

@@emismith4655and what’s the point in speaking out if you still lowkey support them? Idk it’s disheartening. Appreciate them spreading awareness though.

[@jaelleouapou4578]

There are MANY Black women in the industry (moreso actresses) that are alt, nerdy, shy, ackward, and everything else ppl dont commonly associate with us but at the end of the day theyre just not getting the same amount of attention.

[@thetruesoulofanaquarius9302]

The difference between BW images from back in the day to current it was a balance. You had the ratchet entertainers but also had the classy entertainers. Now it is all just trash and ratchet. The few BW who have a postive image dont get push as hard or at all. It is really sad and to be honest it is going to get worse before better.

[@d1gitalsonder]

i love that you mention a balance in representation

[@neutraliserjanine]

No. That is just what you consume. God is always fair but you people consume trash and think other people want to hear about the trash that you consume. You unfairly judge all black women just because you enjoy hearing about what trash people are doing and not doing. That change that youre talking about start with yourself. This content read a bible verse before proceeding to throw wild stones just like those people that Jesus had to put a stop to. You and this content creator should think about your own behavior. I don't know who a sxy red is. Why? Because I dont consume trash in my free time nor to make money talking about trash.

[@OCDandme123]

I used to watch Chloe and Halle but Chloe wasn't getting push until she sold sex THEN she gained followers although her music hasn't gotten much more support

[@schokococoa575]

Yup, although they had their own issues, we had Whitney Houston, Aretha Franklin, etc making hit after hit, we don’t promote singers like them in terms of singing ability and outward presentation anymore.

[@emismith4655]

@@OCDandme123Chloe and Halle themselves didn’t even get their first hit until they sang about going to the club… I miss their alternative pop rnb days

[@connor8458]

As a black male myself seeing those black men be so brazenly colorist just makes me hold my head down in shame 😭 that “preferences” bullshit is such a cop out I wish people would stand 10 toes on their colorism and anti blackness in their dating choices.

[@robertmugabe2905]

Simp.

[@purenitefall]

@@robertmugabe2905You’re such a loser.

[@erosnectar5481]

@@robertmugabe2905it’s always the low value and low quality black men calling another men a simp! Meanwhile you will cyber slurp a men online. 😒

[@toidIllorTAmI]

​@@robertmugabe2905toxicccccc

[@robertmugabe2905]

@@toidIllorTAmI BW calling BM toxic is hilarious. That's yall's rep.

[@lifeisbeautiful7452]

This is why individuality needs to be embraced. I represent myself and only myself. It’s not my responsibility to be a role model to anyone else.

[@taralomax8558]

It's crazy because my 12 year was playing roblox and they have a Baddies edition..I was shocked and told her she can't play that.

[@sofialovesmonkeys]

Does that mean Zeus Network really is trying to market to children?

[@Afrogirrl]

@@taralomax8558 why is this so hilarious to LMAO. 😂😭 roblox baddies? What are they even gonna argue about

[@Nominaze]

It’s extremely toxic and ghetto

[@Willie-v1u2x]

What the hell 😂😂😂

[@kmariee822]

👏🏾👏🏾teach her while she's young!❤❤

[@Ohsnapitzann]

Some people contribute to negative stereotypes and complain about the outcome.

[@neutraliserjanine]

Like this content creator. Why should decent proper ladies care about what strippers with microphones are doing and be unfairly ostracized just because this content creator choose to watch what trash people are doing? That's what I want to know.

[@thealchemist5653]

Real

[@oyayemayafaro7307]

There it is!! Pisses people off when I say this

[@mimia.4810]

This! They act like it’s some external force that forces black women to do this. It’s black women doing it to themselves. We need more black women speaking against it and promoting wholesome content.

[@briamari9035]

That's basically a victim mentality

[@556m4]

All I seeing and hearing is “they” are doing this to “us”. How about “we” take some accountability for “ourselves” ? That’s where it begins and ends ladies. Stop being a victim and stand up for yourself and take some accountability for yourself.

[@oceanlights6431]

😭 taking accountability for someone else’s actions is a crazy thing to say

[@556m4]

@@oceanlights6431 Your comprehension of this world and my statement leaves a lot to be desired.

[@oceanlights6431]

@@556m4 it seems you don’t understand when someone says ‘us’ linguistically they could be referring to a group they are apart of but just like if you were in a group of people with the same hair color say “people think people with our hair color are mean” that doesn’t mean they’re all the same because they’re in the same group it just means they’re grouping themselves together based on a phenotype. I hope this clears it up

[@556m4]

@@oceanlights6431 What does your statement have anything to do with my comment ? The point of my comment is to make people stop trying to act to like this is something being done to us. It’s not. We are doing this to ourselves. There’s no evil group of record executives conspiring to tear down black females. It’s artists that are doing what they think is popular and what will sell that are making these records and putting them out.

[@oceanlights6431]

@@556m4 since you don’t understand the music industry I’ll let you rock out, once you finally understand it and the decision making processes to push/shelve artists you’ll get it

[@keepitsimpleplease9039]

The BET Awards has been awful for the past two or three years. The way black women are only given attention and deals for being sexually provocative is extremely problematic.

[@purpleelixir]

@@keepitsimpleplease9039 And here I thought BET was to represent black excellence, family appropriate musical artistry, especially since they censor their curse words performing. 😮‍💨 We have a long way to go.

[@Trippy2525]

@@purpleelixircan’t blame it all on BET, at the end of the day those women accepted to be used that like, we as a community have to not give them the attention. Can’t blame it on entertainment when we are giving them money. The US at the end of the day is a capitalist.

[@robertmugabe2905]

Best comment in this feed.

[@SecretMagician]

Aaron McGruder was right on the money about his thoughts on BET in the Boondocks.

[@toidIllorTAmI]

​@@SecretMagicianwe desperately need another show like Boondocks.

[@bbgirl800]

Yall are lying saying her trash is catchy. Definite eye brow raise when you said that.

[@Divine_dialogues2]

I was surprised when she said that too😅

[@invisiblerevolution]

That LOW VIBRATION music is catchy..... *that's how it is intentionally made.*

[@ClassyGyal]

That just means she's easily influenced. Idk any of sexyreds music, never listened but I bet the hooks are catchy. We always have a choice on what we listen to and who we go around. There's nobody I associate with that listens to her, I'm not in the clubs so I haven't even heard her music by force. Lol

[@ninam.1560]

It just shows you're easily manipulated if you fall for shit like sexxy red

[@johnserosanguineous1886]

That was wild. smh

[@summerm9493]

Black sisters remember you are pure magic despite what society says. Promote each other and continue to make God smile.

[@Darioday]

As a black man, watching the clips where those black men just blatantly display self hatred makes me so sad. Yet black woman handle the disrespect so gracefully. Even how you explained the situation objectively shows class and I see a lot of black woman following suit. If I weren’t same sex attracted I would make it one of my life’s mission to be with an amazing black woman. Who knows , God might touch my heart one day. God bless black woman and I hope you find your happiness ✨

[@Sarah_321]

This is such a sweet comment! But from what you said, black women will take the disrespect easier because since we arrived on this planet, everyday we are reminded of how unattractive we are, how ghetto and ratchet we are, on how we do not fit the standards... which truly ends up building character I would say😂. So the more we grow up, the more we gain confidence through our own validation and therapy. Something that a lot of black men have been avoiding to dismiss that self hate.

[@OCDandme123]

Thanks luv it's hard out here I go lower sometimes 😭😭😭😭

[@Twistandshoutpodcast]

Bro, you can literally never come back! Can't dig in a man, then come back to a woman! EVER! That's evil!

[@christinamagatti6314]

Thank you. You’re amazing. 💗

[@chiknosis]

@@Sarah_321negro just take the damn compliment

[@tarynbee]

The Love Island conversation needed to happen. I’ve spent more of my lifetime (34 years old) around white people than any other race. When my people (black) started moving into the city I grew up in, they treated me worse than any white friend or person I ever had. Black boys would say I was too dark to wear a white bathing suit. They would physically abuse me. Tell me I’m an Oreo, black on the outside white on the inside. Too many negative things. I’d only dated black guys and a few Asians as well, never white until now. Now my children’s father (who is biracial) told me after I had our son that I was disgusting and he would never take me around his friends(because I got bad acne after birth) and calls me a sellout now. I can be a lot of things but not any different from any of my other white, Middle Eastern, Hispanic, or Asian female friends-it’s always only been the black guys and even women who have put me down and degraded me. Or left me because their mother said they should be with a white woman..so it does come from black women too now.

[@MoreCoffeePlease.]

You literally grew a child. I’m sorry your husband said that to you; IMO, it’s cruel AF. Congratulations on your baby, mama. 🫶🏻

[@leashines9937]

I am so sorry that you had to go through that. My heart goes out to you dear. Praying for healing ❤️‍🩹

[@90swannabe56]

It’s terrible that you experienced this at all

[@Dr.GD4]

Sorry to hear about your experiences. Hopefully you’re doing better since then. As a black, 29 year old Anesthesiologist, I was too called an oreo by the women of my race and this scarred me growing up, so much that I haven’t dated a black woman since high school. I ended up playing a D1 sport and attended medical school, and the same black women who are baby mommas now, have sent countless friend/follow requests. There is no chance I would consider them and honestly find it hilarious. Also, my current fiancé is biracial (white/black) and she has supported and been there for me since beginning medical school.

[@anastasiajennings1831]

this is horrible, i’m so sorry…you are loved and important ⭐️🤍

[@WildIndianRadio]

I stop listening to that garbage. It damages your soul. If we stop listening to it we stop giving it life. We can’t be hypocrites just bc the beat is good and the lyrics are catchy

[@The_authentic_queen_]

Cognitive dissonance. When you express a dislike for something but still support it.

[@DaniellePalomado]

Yep

[@BrandonStokes]

👆🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@SapphireAbdullah-o3s]

That part!

[@nikofoto]

I was into this video until she said that. Still listening, but yeah… Sexy Red is grown at 26 so it’s fine if she makes sexually charged music, and then she criticizes a 25 year old Latto for arguably tamer lyrics and behavior.

[@TheAkdzyn]

Why not just denounce

[@Thtbrwngene7]

This topic was very interesting. Someone was discussing the other day how the only thing Black women like to do is make only fans content. Someone corrected and fact checked them and stated that Black women don’t even make up half for the OF & adult content. It’s 80% white women. But I realized the media is definitely playing a role in how Black women are being portrayed.

[@Ihopmic]

Why would someone pay to see something that’s out in the open in your local government housing center

[@Thtbrwngene7]

@@Ihopmic you know it’s not good to project right? Why are you projecting where I guess you obviously come from onto me? .. because how did “local housing” even come to your mind. What? The thought of local housing or someone living in local housing never crosses my mind. But I guess it doesn’t when you come from the suburbs of PG County like myself. God bless you.

[@itsjustkani7181]

Exactly majority of the sex industry is made up of white and Asian women yet you don’t see anyone walking around calling them hoes 24/7.

[@theburrowrises8549]

I work in an inner city high school. They idolize these entertainers, and want to be like them, and emulate their behaviors and language, not understanding that is a character, and not a path to success.

[@daphne0123]

I wonder what MLK and others who have sacrificed their lives for us to be respected in this life would say. I know there are probably people typing right now who would say that our parents and grandparents and such sacrificed so that we can have freedom to do whatever we want, but I have to believe they would be sorely disappointed in many of the black people in the public eye today

[@octbaby88]

Sadly, if MLK and Malcolm X were alive today, they would be canceled by the community...smh

[@aquariansagetarot]

Mlk was a plant. Just like sexxy used for an agenda

[@neutraliserjanine]

Who cares what he'd think. He S.A. women behind closed doors of hotel rooms.

[@Spokentruths725]

@@octbaby88 exactly but its because of them that can even do that in the first place.

[@PrincessYonna1]

He cheated on his black wife with yt women. He is just like the fake pro blk men today

[@alexandrabelloso2176]

I think this is a very important conversation to have. I'm latin and is the same for us, only having a specific type of representation. Y'all have no idea how much I've heard from my American and even European guy friends mention at some point the whole "latinas are crazy, but they fuck good" thing. It's incredibly dehumanizing.

[@kandlekatt]

I’m so sorry that’s awful

[@alexandrabelloso2176]

@@kandlekatt Thank you

[@Sarah_321]

Omgg :( that's so disgusting ... being reduced to a sex object is so gross and inhumane

[@JaNaeSmith-vk7uk]

Wow, that's awful

[@BritneyRamirez22]

Same thing for asians ive heard “freaky and easy to control” like they really just see us as sex objects

[@justswaves]

love black women. 29 married mine in 2020 & paying for her to go through nursing. we definitely have a lot of work to do on both ends. just know you are wanted & loved

[@Professoryu]

I honestly do think there are forces behind sexy red. They are pushing her to the forefront. When I look at her eyes, I see sadness. I don’t think that sexy herself wants to be portrayed and seen this way. She’s getting paid for this and the higher ups are trying to apply this caricature to black women.

[@maaanuervin]

I completely agree with every point here!

[@KodexKat]

You know I always say to get into this industry you either give up blood or booty and not saying she dug herself in this hole she should’ve went about her career better. Hopefully she can get out alive and not “crazy”

[@KingCamo90]

You say this as if she was some church going conservative girl who was chosen by some evil man in an alley somewhere who offered a deal she couldn’t refuse. She made the music she wanted to make that got her where she is and continues to do so. She got money now she could stop. Go start a trucking business or real estate, the list goes on but she continues to do what she chooses to do At some point culture has to be addressed because continually blaming outside forces is clearly not working

[@Professoryu]

@@KingCamo90 I never claimed she was a holier than thou church girl. My whole point is, deep down she doesn’t want to do this at all. She hates this lifestyle and she doesn’t take this music stuff literally. There are people controlling her image, and it’s an attempt at pushing this negative narrative of black women. That’s my whole point.

[@Professoryu]

@@KingCamo90 there is a level of accountability that one has to take yes I agree, but there’s absolutely no way sexy red has gained this level of fame all by being vulgar, rapping about her ass and being overly sexual.(she isn’t that talented) SOMEONE that has influence in the industry is behind her.

[@3rdrailrising640]

Women who criticize Sexy Red and her like, and then support them and listen to their music, you may be the problem. Make it make sense.

[@ToniBryanneTV]

@@3rdrailrising640 so criticizing a makeup line means I couldn’t of possibly liked her music before?😂 girl please get out my comments with your nonsense

[@Ihopmic]

@@ToniBryanneTV you are supporting ratchetry in the black community. Same with supporting male rappers who rap about KILLING PEOPLE which is why 13/50 exists. And then black people be like “wHy dOnT pEoPlE lIkE us” while blaming Dwight Mann.

[@laisphinto6372]

Her music IS the Same degrading disgusting Trash and No Just because they Woman degrades herself doesnt make it any better. These Types of people dont Respect themselves and you Like that , you cannot Go Back and cry why Nobody respects that

[@nicolen3146]

Her lipgloss line is just an extension of the trash, low vibrational music she makes. There’s literally no difference. You help put her where she is by supporting & listening. You didn’t even say “before” in the video, you just said that you like her music. “Once again, I listen to her music, I like her EP that she just released” that’s what you said. It is what it is. Take some personal accountability.

[@Lilah_D]

@3rd i agree

[@toidIllorTAmI]

I haven't listen to the radio in 7 years. You have the control.

[@LeeLee_Diamond]

@toidIllorTAmI why r your kind always in blk folks business or be on pages that's for blk wm. Yall r obsessed

[@brandoniswhoiam]

I can’t imagine any professional makeup artist with years of experience saying: “I’m gonna put ‘Pussy Hole Pink’ on your lips to complete this look.” Additionally, I can’t think of any Sephora or Ulta branch on this planet putting this set on their shelves! The packaging alone looks like something that I’ll find at my WINNERS - which is the Canadian version of TJ/TK Maxx. I could literally see it being displayed in the queue line… in the kids’ section no less! If I saw ONE copy while working, I’d question their buyers. With her starting with lip gloss, I (once again) can’t think of what she’ll call her next makeup products.

[@pink_magical_girl]

Sorry 😂😂😂 I had to laugh at your first sentence

[@kiki13451]

LOOOOOL but seriously. I feel like the one that’s not that bad is sex on my period because I feel like there are already lines that reference sex (not THAT bad, as bad as others, but still eh) but GONORRhEA? YELLOW DISCHARGE ?

[@d1gitalsonder]

fr it’s really crazy that’s on public family radio too. in the 90’s they didn’t even want the og’s on the radio which is nothing compared to that😭 i feel like it’s deliberate to make us look stupid and target our community & sheeple.

[@khadyadjisall5708]

@@kiki13451 that is still very bad...

[@nostalgia1267]

not even the kids section, i know for sure the parents don't even want to think about touching it.

[@Sickzerrrt]

Any man who tells me I'm not usually his type or vision of a black woman & the main reason why they wanna talk to me is cause I'm "different"... i run. Very fast. They are too deep to save. I'm a dark dark black woman with locs. I hate how the perception of black women has trickled down so much that they feel like I'm a rarity of some sort... i get very offended cause I'm happy to be a black woman with a very black background, we aren't and shouldn't be seen as all the same, we're all individuals but i love all black ppl... and we shouldn't degrade or give back handed compliments to one another because of social media brain rot. It's weird. Weird ash.

[@BigFly-r2t]

Yep run fast when they say stuff like that. Dont die on that hill.

[@RuthM-l5l]

They said this to me all my life and I RUNNNNNNNNNNNN

[@kennethletterlou3451]

💯💯💯💯

[@menspurpose]

Why do we ignore the last 30 years of black women bashing black men on the day time talk shows that were nationally syndicated (Opraha). What about the Color Purple and all of the other negative movies that portray black men to be bad. We get a little podcast that's not nationally syndicated and all of the sudden we are talking so bad about black women. In my opinion we could never pay black women back enough for being so disrespectful to us to the entire world and verbally abusing us the last 30 years.

[@kingiconthefirst]

Talk to em💯☝️

[@TamaraJohnson-is5uc]

I can’t get with the idea of being a fan of this type of music while also saying that this “artistry” is perpetuating negative stereotypes about black women. You can’t be on both sides of the fence. Pick a side and if you are serious about changing this culture, don’t support the music! As much as I love R& music and some rap, I’ve stopped listening to it because of my beliefs. I picked a side.

[@laisphinto6372]

True some Rap IS good because the Lyrics are real and Not all about degeneracy, violence and Sex but you cannot complain about degeneracy meanwhile Supporting it

[@CGK0196]

I don’t understand y’all the actions of some white women doesn’t represent all white women but black women it DOES?

[@TheNaphisa03]

Duh. We are a minority, that's why. White women are the majority.

[@ToniBryanneTV]

Unfortunately that is the case when we’re not widely represented.

[@CGK0196]

@@ToniBryanneTV that’s the case when you choose to care about other women actions , y’all want to be liked so bad bc if someone believes all black women behave like that that’s their problem,THE MEDIA is the image that sell the most AND GUESS WHO BUYS IT? BW, the community accuses bw who are different whitewashed..

[@ToniBryanneTV]

No, don’t care to be liked, just care to be respected. Self respect is more valuable than you think and for you to argue that down is an insane take.

[@jenbunny1984]

This!!!!? Make it make sense!! 👏🏾👏🏾

[@aquasol333]

Never saw black women how the media describes them. Never subscribed to racist tropes or stereotypes for anyone. Black women are healing their generational trauma and growing. The personas that celebrities curate is not who y'all are. I am glad to see confident, eloquent, educated women speaking against this and recognizing this issue. There is so much power in hip hop and music. It is so much more than what is portrayed in the media.

[@theamazingdoubleA]

I’m sorry @ 27 and seeking Gods face…..I refuse to engage with ANYTHING she makes….its ridiculous now. When we support the wrong thing it encourages them to take it further. They are encouraged by our support. Simple. We don’t want it to continue stop supporting it. And the same goes for the men talking about murder and drugs. Be a part of the solution or stop speaking on the problem.

[@ToniBryanneTV]

I’m glad that’s you on your journey. Shaming others to not be in the same place as you is a bit odd. I’m trying to x out secular music more and more everyday, but unfortunately living in a predominantly Black area, it’s hard to escape. Going through my own spiritual journey and breaking through temptations. I’m glad at 27 you are now figuring out the things that don’t align with you spiritually. You have 4 years on me lol. Give grace as we are all on our own journeys.

[@theamazingdoubleA]

@@ToniBryanneTVoh I definitely wasn’t shaming you…..not by a long shot. I’d have been did that seeing as I watch your content regularly and listened to that type of music myself up until recently. I just want us to be mindful. That’s all. I’ll say this in giving you grace….allow yourself to be tired. Allow conviction in. Sometimes we feel it in us but ignore it to keep ourselves somewhat comfortable in certain environments. I genuinely enjoy your work and think you are worth hearing from or I wouldn’t be here but we DO have to do our part. It’s OUR image at the end of the day. Who gone protect it if not us?

[@jsworldx]

Not me agreeing with Candace Owen’s lmao

[@kiim0]

Candace Owens is just a vessel for information. At the end of the day, she is just another black woman, doing what she thinks is right. And to be honest, she is a lingering resemblance of the conservatism that used to permeate throughout black communities and culture. Go back about 40-50 years, and she WAS every other black woman's inner thoughts

[@ToniBryanneTV]

Not the biggest fan, but she does speak some gems at times lol

[@mlamarana]

@@ToniBryanneTV so true

[@jenbunny1984]

Exactly! She makes good points here and there but majority of her rhetoric is trash 🗑️ lol 😂

[@californianebula]

A broken clock is right twice a day

[@skai1727]

I think that we need to stop blaming the “white man” for this. That’s taking accountability from these artist that put themselves in this position. This was their “art” and our community is hailing these artists as representatives of our community. Also there are black executives as well. Hold us accountable!

[@thegoddess369]

As a black woman I'm tired of these terrible depictions

[@edwardcalloway2661]

I say this as a gay black male it's incredibly disheartening to see what fellow black women go through in the media and in life in general. I have gone and will continue to go to war for black women because they do the same for me even against their own safety. I will never forget the looks and surprise when I step in to defend or say something men in our community mostly act shocked even a few white men too. It goes to show how unprotected black women are. This doesn't mean that I'm trying to be some upstanding black pickme guy to say I'm different I just notice it and rather than just say I'm sad I act and do something. I'm not perfect by any means but the women in any community are a reflection of the men as they give birth to us so seeing them disrespected should make you feel the same.

[@lisafranklin9089]

🩷🤎🫶🏼

[@Kimberly0Kendell]

ga-ye and black 😭😭

[@Hasinification]

I dont give af what anyone says. I agree with a lot of what Candace Owens has to say. I appreciate the fact that she has the guts, and the intelligence to say what she needs to. I wish our people would hear her out, and respond with intelligence instead of out of feelings.

[@Seekwhatwillbefound]

That lady around 5:42 was correct….

[@mgkellz5630]

Yess!

[@itsjustani324]

i was already gonna share the video but she def made me

[@757CitiesReppa]

Just because you’re an adult and CAN listen to Sexy Red music still doesn’t answer WHY do want to. Folks need more self control, including over their own mind

[@theakannibeauty]

This...

[@T.H-v4h]

Because it’s a catchy beat and people have been conditioned since rap music came out talking about bitches and hoes to like a catchy beat. For example when did you start listening to rap music ?

[@catherineking2751]

This includes the marker of this video. You recognize the music is garbage and it's effects, but you still listen to it? That doesn't make sense.

[@757CitiesReppa]

@@T.H-v4h rap is about more than a “catchy beat”…and “bitches and hoes” wtf?smh. It doesn’t matter if it’s TV or Radio PROGRAMMING. If you are WEAK minded and digest any and everything people give you, what does that say about you?

[@757CitiesReppa]

@@catherineking2751 🎯

[@jada5229]

Let’s also talk about how when a latina women is being angry or sassy that makes her “spicy” but it’s the opposite for a black woman smh

[@purrfitazitgetz3365]

They embraced that stereotype but I’m keep it real it goes back to “ skin complexion “ and how they have lighter skin and “ good hair” and that’s all it is but I’ll leave it @ dat but it’s not about Latino women today

[@sargewilliepete2174]

Latinas don't try to grab the steering wheel while going down the highway at 80 mph. Filing complaints with your mouth is one thing, acting on what you think you're capable of in that moment is another.

[@Jadalanaii]

The way all the stuff ur preaching just gon fly over their heads 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@paulamugabi7320]

It's ok at the end of the day she did her part.😊😊😊

[@mermaiiiidddd3121]

As a black woman it’s very sad to see the self hatred in our community. It is so deep rooted that majority of the community seems brainwashed with self hating views and absolute ignorance.

[@CraigBarrettEsquire]

I would like to believe there are more of our sisters who embody the positivity you project Sis. Keep up the good work you are inspiring.

[@brii0595]

I did a research study in undergrad and grad school titled “the portrayal of African American women in reality television” all of this in your vid is still sooo true, only little changes have been made.

[@neutraliserjanine]

That change starts with yourself. Sxy red didnt come looking for you proper ladies. You proper ladies went looking for her and what she is doing to talk about her. Think about your own actions first. You are no different than sxy red by watching everything she do to talk about it for money.

[@humanbeing4021]

Is it a portrayal though? Maybe we should pretending like there isn't a serious mental problem with most BW and their dysfunctional children.

[@Berth407]

Thank you sista! Because a lot of us are saying the same thing but we’re called pick me’s…

[@neutraliserjanine]

That's not the reason you're called pick me's You voluntarily seek out negative things and trash people to watch and consume with your time just to paint all black women with a brush you should paint yourself for watching what trash is doing.

[@Spokentruths725]

Exactly!

[@sandradavis4101]

You forgot some real Queen Rappers,…..like MC Lyte,….Queen Latifa,…..Salt and Pepper,……also Patra,…Hugh Jamaican Rapper,…..all these Queens were Rapping decades before Nikki Minaj,….

[@Cocoiland]

Not to be that person but as long as you guys support their music and listen to it , the cycle will continue so let’s not be apart of the that problem you’re complaining about…

[@tiredofit1968]

Artistry?? Sexyy Red's music is artistry? Come on, now. There is no one on the planet that thinks her lyrics are artistry. They're gross.

[@Tampontimothy]

Dont blame the white man for this anymore. Its easier than ever to be an independent artist these days

[@salihahwilliams1453]

. I personally do not think there's anything all the way wrong with interracial relationships, marriages etc., as long as the intentions are that you and that individual love each other. The issue with mainly black men that I am always witnessing like the last guy who said he has always been with white women is in order to excuse your "preference" you bring down or degrade black women. I am not saying we do not speak on it as well, but I do not see us speaking on black men "being ain't ish or they do this that's why I'm with Chad or Brad" as often as I see black men always bringing up black women in the most negative light. They usually only do this due to self-hatred, issues with their mother or other women in their family, or they probably didn't find a meaningful relationship with one or two black women and now we all have to pay. It's honestly crazy to me because, I know so many black women who no matter what a black man does wrong we gon stick beside them, but we aren't given that same grace. Then the moment a major social issue pertaining to a black man occurs they expect us to dust off our capes and protect them but where's our protection, where's our respect? And yes, I understand that as what most of us see in the media many Black Women are portrayed disrespectfully but if we all aren't one monolith and i believe many black men know this (also from the black women in their lives) then why still treat as such?

[@LeeLee_Diamond]

Nothing but facts it's like blk wm r never shown grace but blk wm r expected to show grace to every one else including folks who bash and disrespect them and that shit is sad 😔.

[@So-what692]

Yesss!! I was having this same conversation with a friend. You even hear blk men say well I don’t know or have any blk women around that act like that. Yet they will still denigrate blk women as a whole. Even if that’s not their personal experience. When blk men date outside their race. Most of them tend to be very rude and disrespectful. They don’t need to know you to act this way towards you. It’s weird and quite frankly disgusting behavior. Idk how women of other races think they have a one up on blk women. If your only valued by your “man” when he is disrespecting blk women. It should be a red flag because it’s a character flaw.

[@humanbeing4021]

Seek therapy quick.

[@humanbeing4021]

​@@LeeLee_DiamondBS, straight lies

[@Boytoycowboy]

one glaring black female artists you forgot to mention was Ms.Lauryn Hill. yes nicki minaj paved the way and is a legend in her own right, but you just glossed over the 5 time grammy winning artists. oh and also miss elliot, and queen latifah for not fitting the typical beauty standards and still creating timeless music 🤎

[@bovinearrogance]

Nikki was Lyrical, even when talking about her ass, Redd and Ice Spice are just... reading out smut in a musical format. its disgusting

[@beth7935]

Missy Elliott, yes! 🥰

[@Aquilalexie]

She did mention Lauryn Hill…

[@RonaldBoyd-q5d]

As a black man who loves black women i don't understand. Black women put themselves in that position. It's not just in entertainment. In everyday life black women feel they have to be naked to be respected. I promise it's not respect

[@LibWmnRdestroyingAmerica]

FACTS!

[@HUYI1]

It's hilarious to see the double standards of black men and their hatred when it comes to the topic of black women 🙄 we don't want you either with your constant chip on your shoulder, the hood is this way 👉🏾👉🏾 now let me go back to my Italian sicilian husband, have a great evening 😎

[@baddiezone]

My friend and I recently discussed this topic, and although I was initially reluctant to create a video about it, I've decided to proceed because it's crucial for people to be informed about these issues. Don't allow the DEVIL to win y’all !!!!!

[@d1gitalsonder]

crazy we even have to be careful to not offend people with our opinions on this. as black women. cultural propaganda working time to nip ts in the bud

[@alaerelifestyle]

I highly encourage my Black American sisters to incorporate some Nollywood films and shows (Nigerian media) into their media consumption. I'm Nigerian and that's what I grew up on. It's mostly the complete opposite of the derogatory representations pushed in Western media and I think you will feel better represented and more uplifted. 💗

[@ohkay1976]

We have it here too though, especially growing up, we had the Cosby show, Martin, sister sister, the Parker’s, my wife & kids, fresh prince etc. literally soo many.

[@taylardotson8100]

I love watching Nollywood movies!!!! The black women in the movies are so well educated and smart. I will always support Nollywood, I love the way they represent black women. ❤

[@tonijackson3421]

Girl bye they get cheated and beat while barefoot - I’ll stick to Oprah and Olivia Pope

[@LeroyBruyning]

It doesn't sexualize black women As America. but it is equally problematic. It often shows men as the prize of society . Women must to submit to their husbands and support their behaviors at all cost. Natural hair is viewed as not pretty or luxurious. And let me not begin about the skin bleaching , bbl , classism, black magic. So far is good for entertainment purposes.

[@gold9ja]

I agree, I’m a Nigerian American women myself and the majority of black movies and shows I watch are Nollywood movies. They are a breath of fresh air from the stuff I see from black Hollywood.

[@flop5409]

It's even worse because children are literally watching baddies like 9 year olds are watching baddies..

[@rachael7160]

That reality show clip was crazy, so much hypocrisy coming from the men. He brought some other girl back to the house and then when she gets rightfully upset they start saying she's not acting wifely. Well is bringing another girl around as a second option husband material? Weak.

[@Trippy2525]

I think we have to focus on just stereotypes in general, the lady in the video said we have to work twice and sometimes three times as hard to prove ourselves to somethings and while it sucks that just reality for stereotypes.

[@humanbeing4021]

​@@Trippy2525BS, y'all are dui hiring.

[@Ray03595]

she was behaving exactly like the stereotype she claims she isn't. I dont know how else she expected them to view her.

[@humanbeing4021]

@@Trippy2525 Lies

[@doubbleyou]

I am so happy you are discussing this. Sometimes when none black Americans try to discuss this we are viewed as though we have prejudices and unqualified to have the discussion.As an African/Muslim/woman living in Europe, I know firsthand how mainstream stereotypes and representation influence how people view things and taint understanding. At some point, I realised that unconsciously, my view of the female black American community has definitely been influenced by these types of narratives. I had to consciously see things from the perspective of how I have been judged so many times to break out of it. I had to stop watching even real housewives of atlanta. Characters like Olivia Pope (even though morally flawed) were a massive success because it simply potray a powerful black woman with a wicked work ethic who was good at her job, which is the majority in reality I believe.

[@So-what692]

When we try to make these same points. we get gaslighted, dismissed,minimized, ignored and are blamed….

[@jellyfish_bubbles]

To the women saying that religion is not ALSO being used to control us😂😂. No, it's both. 2 things (multiple things, really) can be used to control black people. Think smart not harder❤

[@brianawaters2852]

“I’m a sexy red fan.” You said that proud and shameless AND THAT IS EXACTLY THE PROBLEM. Lolol byeeeee.

[@ToniBryanneTV]

Byeeeee😘❤️ sure did listen to her music, what’s next? I’m not listening anymore so what are you even talking about 😂

[@itisdidi]

@@ToniBryanneTV doesn’t matter, the fact that you even mentioned that you listened to her just makes ur overall argument comical.

[@ToniBryanneTV]

@@itisdidi girl you commenting is comical. You don’t have a job to go to or something??

[@itisdidi]

@@ToniBryanneTV ?..didn’t know having 2 minutes to type a reply meant i don’t got a whole job 🤔

[@Alltimehottie]

@@itisdidiher channel is odd black women will make vidoes like this and the minute they’re challenged they go to instantly degrading and insulting you in the comment section,some black women don’t care about change it’s about clicks and content.

[@Aman-fn5hz]

0:14 thank you so much for touching on this, lots of people ignore what's going on

[@dietmntdew]

As a Christian why would you ever feel comfortable listening to sexy red or anyone who makes music that goes against what God tells us to do.

[@Bumbiii987]

There are many black female rappers who aren't overtly sexual but you guys don't buy their music or support them so what do you expect? you can blame the industry but the consumers also play a role in how things play out. Unfortunately, sex sells and these women want to make some money.

[@ToniBryanneTV]

And those artists are unfortunately not promoted or advertised as much for us to discover. Most people support who they know which are the individuals that are pushed to the forefront.

[@WhittttBzzzz]

@@ToniBryanneTVthey are promoted and folks still don’t want to listen to them. Reiterating the op it’s on the consumers, take the personal responsibility and let’s stop using the lame excuse that they aren’t promoted/advertised to you. Just like how we can never find the less hyper sexual songs by Nicki and Meg 🤔 I’ve found plenty lol

[@ToniBryanneTV]

So why don’t you take the time to share some names😂. It’s not a lame excuse if you’re not someone who is into music to that level. People have enough going on in today’s world. Do your part if it’s so important to you

[@WhittttBzzzz]

@@ToniBryanneTV I’m happy to, here I’ll give you five (hope I get brownie points “since it’s sooo important for me 😂😂”: -Noname -Rapsody - Little Simz - Tierra Whack - Snow tha Product You don’t have to be this music geek head to find music and whatever excuse you have. All I’m saying we have a collective have to take responsibility and go out on our own. Just because all I hear is the radio is hypersexualized rap doesn’t mean I’m only subjected to it, so I took it upon myself to find other artists. If other people can’t do that, so be it.

[@ToniBryanneTV]

@@WhittttBzzzz thank you for sharing! If you took that as shade, that was never the intent. My point was to tell you to do your part in helping to change that narrative. I listen to plenty of artists that aren’t hypersexualized, but they’re not mainstream artists. However, when I get the opportunity to, I share those artists. That’s why I suggested you share, but thank you. Will check out a few of them. I’ve heard of Tierra and Rhapsody before

[@shereelorraine1]

They're sitting there talking about not liking a dark skin woman but they can barely speak 😂😂😂 but ok sir carryon smh

[@DJ-cr9nb]

ill never forget when nicki minajs anaconda music video came out when i was a kid/preteen and i feel like that was a major turning point in the industry. i remember it made me nauseous bc like duh im a kid and its like wtf did i just watch but all the guys were like holyyy shiiittt and like the video got views it made money sex sells and then they just ran with that now were here and its soooo unnecessarily extremeee😭

[@ChoedeaAnnie]

You know as a black young woman I like interracial relationships but never think about how my baby is going to look like for the world. We should all have respect for each other, jump start maturity, and help get that true black culture back!

[@um-hf3oq]

Serena setting boundaries for kordell and them seeing it as her not being into him it’s crazy. It’s actually insane how we live in the world where if you’re not throwing yourself unto a guy that you do like, and want to build a genuine relationship with superfast then it means that you’re not into them.

[@professortiki]

They have been objectified? By "them"? They objectify themselves.

[@yayatheunicorn]

Nobody can set me back, I'm good.

[@nellywilliams2776]

🍪🍪🍪🍪

[@yayatheunicorn]

@@nellywilliams2776 awww, you must let all black women represent you. 🤩

[@yourcousinduchessrowena]

Factsssss We need to start taking accountability for ourselves, people will judge regardless!!! Realistically a BW’s promiscuous attitude or violent behaviour does not affect every other BW, yes there are stereotypes and racism but that would happen anyway. There are plenty examples of black excellence which proves we are not being set back, it’s almost as if we can use the excuse that another BW’s inappropriate behaviour affects our successes and failures. It does not!

[@yayatheunicorn]

@@yourcousinduchessrowena exactly!! I’m so proud of the black women in my life! Home owners, master degrees, business owners, PhD’s, CDL’s, raising amazing children, traveling the world. I’m not about to let Sexy Redd, a woman I have never met in my life, define me or set me back.

[@lauraaniakor9815]

The reality of our situation is that people do see black women as a monolith and it does affect us in some way or form in professional and social environments. These negative portrayals are harmful regardless of whether you believe it sets you back or not. Why do you think we have to work ten times harder than most?