Black Women Breaking Barriers: Creating a New Definition of Financial Success

On this episode of The Table with Anthony ONeal, we are joined by the incredible ladies of The Iconic Podcast as they delve into the challenges and triumphs of being successful black women in today's society. From navigating the dating world to balancing single motherhood with career aspirations, these ladies share their personal stories and offer valuable insights on the journey to success. But that's not all! They also tackle the stigma surrounding plastic surgery and we discuss how men view it. With their raw honesty and no-holding-back approach, these ladies are sure to entertain, inspire, and educate you on a wide range of topics. Tune in and discover what it truly means to be an Iconic woman in today's world!
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[@FromwithinsheQueens888]

Everything we say is actually a affirmation..Saying things like black women aren’t protected is a affirmation that as a whole we should no longer say ..we should in fact speak what we want into existence. My daily affirmation I AM PROTECTED & GUIDED BY THE MOST HIGH . I AM LOVED I AM SUCCESS . The Queens who get it get it 😘

[@lovelybae4579]

I agree

[@FreeAsABird53]

This is true 🙏🏽

[@phobedavis7014]

I like this affirmation. I will use part of it to create my own.

[@JustEdmunda]

I want to support black business, but some of us have the worst customer service

[@Yukia76]

Yep

[@theplug3102]

That still doesn’t take away from other black owned businesses. This is the problem with black folks that think like you. Y’all will gladly shop with your SL4VE master & accept the beatings & disrespectful thing’s they do to make your ppl look as ghetto as possible, but don’t have the same energy for other black people that you can support & just don’t. The self h8 runs all up in through y’all blood & y’all find every excuse to NOT support your own ppl. Every business has rude customer service. It doesn’t have anything to do with being black. I’m sick of y’all.

[@Girlthatjustjb]

Facts

[@kenelescarment]

Preach

[@sheilauwakwe9321]

You’re so right

[@miamya8510]

She's correct! My X told me that I didn't need him...NOTE: HE TOLD ME that. I NEVER said that to him. And never acted that way. He finally admitted that he wanted someone 'Under' him... I was too smart Made too much Knew too much Too far ahead... OF HIM #WhatEver #Ontothenext #NotHusbandMaterial

[@jamarvistarver4982]

Wow I get the total opposite I would love to be with someone with them characteristics you can learn from each other and there's common sense you have to explain yes some men like me love smart women it's a shortage of yall😂

[@noliesbeingtold]

@@jamarvistarver4982onestly, women don’t want a man like you (I’m not trying to be rude). You sound soft. Your entire comment reeked of a need for approval from a woman and that’s not good. Women don’t like sensitive and soft men like you are portraying in your comment. Even women making money want a leader, a man who they can learn from, a man that makes more than them. You dont sound like that guy. I look at today’s landscape of men and we are becoming softer every single day. Its a tragedy.

[@jaybah836]

We gotta stop that narrative. I'm not intimidated by successful women

[@misunderstoodkj]

Yaaaaaassss king! True Alphas aren’t intimidated. We need more like you.

[@reemosama1]

I'm not either and it definitely needs to stop

[@askaboutcc]

But most men are. If your not that's good just pay it forward

[@Wolfman7870]

​@@askaboutcc men aren't "intimidated" by successful women. That's just a poor attempt at shaming. Like calling people who are uncomfortable around drag queens " homophobic." Men are put off by successful women who use that claim to success to be arrogant and treat others, especially men like crap, especially as a excuse to forgo any nurturing roles in a relationship.

[@jaydubya9265]

Facts. I love a strong woman.

[@kamikraroberts2085]

I really appreciate the sneak peek videos that give us a hint of what the actual content will be about. This was a very interesting subject. Really enjoyed it.

[@BLACKGIRLFINANCE]

I love the representation. We need more representation of these type of Black Women :)

[@tadonneneal8091]

I just came to the comments to say I absolutely ask for payment options from every doctor I encounter. In fact, my service providers are forthcoming with the payment options.

[@Fashionmix52]

These ladies spoke so much truth. Thank you because I share the same views.

[@raysmith5638]

Some men are intimidated but also a lot of women don’t let their guard down and the men feel they can’t be of service because your so independent so then they don’t feel needed. We as woman really have to take accountability. Doesn’t matter how successful you are you have flaws too

[@Glennsword.]

AO, I grew up in Southeast San Diego…….went to Morehouse, MBA,SIx Sigma, Author…….MEN ARE NEVER INTIMIDATED BY WOMEN ON ANY LEVEL. A “ Boy” may be intimidated but not MEN. One more thing MEN do not need EMOTIONS when we are grinding..When the stuff hits the fan I am the man who gets the call since I was 16….Has anyone ask the question?? How come more Black Men are not in the economy, blue collar, white collar …Entrepreneurial. The Kerner Commission Report & Gunnar Myrdal A National Dilemma…the current diaspora is not a mistake it is recipe by design. I crack the code.

[@roolyfe]

Facts 😊

[@QueensthatBudgets]

Y’all can say what you want to say, but it doesn’t discredit women’s experience with these men. Rather you want to call them boys, and not men …. at the end of the day, they are grown human beings, who act and feel some type of way with women who are in “higher positions“ And that’s just real

[@patriciavelez2053]

We all need to look at How Are We Showing Up? No matter how "successful" we are or not. How are we showing up? Because that could be the real issue and not supposed "intimidation."

[@DownHomeRealtor]

Personally I am about progress When someone is stagnate and ok with being at the same level they were or worst a yr ago..I can't

[@miamya8510]

Yes... "Give me something to Submit to" #Vision

[@Triplenet_Agent]

You can get a discount from any business but a black business. We do not know how to do business and are always looking for a quick dollar. Please people get training and see what your competitors are doing.

[@nastystew6942]

It's not intimidating but we are thought as men that we need to be the providers for everything so, when we meet a woman that got the bag It's a shock to us because it's nothing to build on!

[@tam6011]

However this is the narrative that men push and women accept it then they push it.

[@dianerclark4171]

Thank you! This discussion was 🔥

[@zero1188]

What it really is is alot of women get money and becomes arrogant, then when a man checks her, she claims he is intimidated instead of realizing her personality is off

[@mommieofdos]

There is a difference between needing someone in your life and being needy. And sometimes when it comes to dating relationships if it isn't intimidation, it's manipulation. I think that these types of men need to stop looking at income as something that defines a woman. In addition, the men that feel intimidated by a woman's success are often those who don't have anything else to over other than financial provision. Provision is so much more than money. So because men have been taught that women just look for sex and money, they believe that is all they have to offer. That's why when a woman already has the money, the man feels like all he has to do is have sex. This is not a generalization about all men.

[@miamya8510]

This is coming from a Black Business Owner... I definitely ASK for discounts from EVERYONE! Black, White & everything in between! YES, even Doctors (especially when I didn't have the best of Insurance) Because of all the services I provide; I Likewise give discounts! #helpingeachother #OldSchoolBarter #$inmycommunity #WorkingTogether

[@avah2598]

Men aren’t intimidated as often as y’all think. Chill out with that. We rootin for y’all 💯💯

[@tam6011]

You maybe rooting but you are not every man. Men will flat out say it word for word. It’s not a made up story or assumption. So it leaves you confused because you dont lead with money.

[@ezinneerhirhieneeukaogo1439]

I agree

[@sonyaphillips4634]

This is so good ❤I will not be doing black business like this anymore

[@lavieestbelle6068]

True Myles Monroe was a blessing. May his soul and the soul of his wife rest in peace😢

[@lashellecampbell3409]

Body and finances I am also a massage therapist and I also am natural haven't had any work done I work hard in the gym not where I want to be but I tell my clients if you're not willing to work out do not get it done

[@patriciahand2223]

Very interesting conversation. 🙏🏾exactly your final statement in reference to dashing your ex. Truth. It is a turn off. The key🔑 is communication. And guarding not only yours and his heart. One communicated to me straight out the gate. 🔴Do not heap the last, your passed relationship, experience encounter on them. Wow moment. 💎 to live by. I respected and honored that, they ID themselves. This was their introduction. Respectfully One come in with blinders called hurt. Meaning in some or most cases we inter in or move on before we heal. Some or most come in wounded needing occupational therapy. There's still evidence of the trauma, the hurt, brokenness, and pain. Others walk out of into another relationship still wounded and bleeding all over the new.

[@latoyahammond1491]

Great show!!! Loved the real conversation!

[@holywear26]

I built my savings up for my entire life from the age of twelve I’ve worked for myself and my end goal was to settle down and have a family by 25.. I met someone and I explained that I don’t work but I have a significant amount of money saved to help provide for the family I wanted but ultimately I want a man that is a provider.. well he hated that I didn’t have to get up and go to work and he tried to guilt me that he was working 12+ hours because of the job he chose and that I don’t have to work (I home school my son I’m a full time mother) and he said that my job as a mom just doesn’t count and he used the example of women working multiple jobs with kids and going to school etc.. what he doesn’t understand is I never had the opportunity to relax as I was growing up.. I used to work 3 jobs and home school my son I used to work 12 hour days and I had a goal that I reached and was ready for the next steps in life.. he feels because I’m taking a break now that I have no work ethic but in actuality I thought years ahead and I knew that as I got older the 2-3 job route just wasn’t what I wanted for myself.. well I am not sure how to get someone to understand that I understand the feeling of exhausting yourself but I knew when I was younger I would have the stamina for it he is almost 30 and he isn’t there.. he’s still killings himself everyday to work these hours and I don’t understand if it’s jealousy or what but what do I do? If anything is needed that he cannot provide I provide it.. I just don’t have to go to work to do that.. I don’t feel I’m wrong for the way I have set myself up but I also feel a immense amount of pressure to get up and go to work because of him.. I don’t know why I would have to do that when I pay myself from my savings weekly just like a job every Friday a direct deposit hits my account and I manage my money very well.. I am lost and I feel the right man wouldn’t be pressuring me to do something different.. I do love him though and I have financially helped him with thousands of dollars because he doesn’t manage his money well at all.. But he says if I was bringing in a check from a regular job it would benefit him somehow.. I told him it would only go into my savings I have no plans of giving him my check so why does it matter if I pay myself or if someone else pays me? Idk idk if someone takes the time to read this please any advice would be amazing..

[@Secretelover12]

First of all, I'm very proud of you. You have made some really good decisions. It honestly sounds like he's jealous that you don't have to work like he's working because you thought ahead and you thought ahead very well. He is jealous that you are not breaking your back like he is, and he is trying to break you down spiritually and it sounds like it is slowly working. He sounds like a liability, and if y'all aren't married I don't see the point in suffering with him. If you were married, I would recommend marriage counseling. He seems like a bad example for your son, as you don't want to show your son that it is okay to be jealous of their future woman. I think you should leave him, and this is coming from a black woman with no kids who has been married 6 years. Do you what you think is best though, as I don't know much more about the dynamics at play besides what you have disclosed.

[@lece809]

I agree with the other lady. He is not the right man for you. The right man will support you and even be excited about your well thought out plan. You are doing everything you want to do, living your life the way you planned it and the way you want to. Doing what you want, when you want. I homeschool my kids too. Do not allow someone else to come in and change the way you planned your life. He is jealous. And why does he need to benefit from you getting a job? No thanks. Run, don't walk, away.

[@FreeAsABird53]

The truth is many men are not worth the effort etc. It’s very rare to meet a man that is worthy of submission. That’s just the truth.

[@fatimahriamah2006]

I agree i watched my mum sacrifice so much to help “support “my father and she hasn’t had the same energy reciprocated to look after her … he’s drained her and it’s sad to watch they’re still together sigh

[@JIX9ISLER1986]

The man chooses who he marries

[@fatimahriamah2006]

@@FreeAsABird53 I am sorry for your loss. It’s really sad and frustrating it’s such a turn off. I also feel the same way. Hope you are healthy and living a life full of happiness!

[@ralegade7710]

This should be good. Let’s see which road Anthony takes…

[@willienunneryjrcwpropertysolut]

Yes 👍🏿 do a show about women getting their bodies done

[@miklosclarke]

Love it

[@ezinneerhirhieneeukaogo1439]

If you say men would be intimidated by you, you'd attract such men. There are a wide range of people in this world, one experience is not the TOTAL picture. If the men in your space are intimidated , change your tribe. "Our truth is NOT the whole truth" There are loads of happily married rich women ,they are busy so are not loud on social media

[@thelovelykimmi7920]

Maybe I missed it but I wish the ladies were introduced separately with their titles and individual pages because I was so confused on who they were until I Googled Iconic CLT. I loved this show!

[@dreaveal7672]

Excellent video 👑💚💚💚

[@tashabrown8301]

Wayment!! Queen City Charlotte at The Table!!

[@theplug3102]

I Just find it funny how it’s nothing but black folks tearing down other black folks. When y’all see your ppl doing something positive. Here come the self hating 🥷’s that got so much to say, yet don’t participate in anything to help build wealth in your culture. It’s always a self hating black man that has so much to say about a black woman that is elevating in life. You never see black men having this energy towards other race of women. Y’all don’t support black women the way you support these other race of women. Y’all attach struggle to black women & believe she doesn’t deserve anything more & if she dare to get more in life. All of a sudden she’s all these negative stereotypes. The worst enemies to black folks are other black folks. Y’all want black women to settle for less, while you go run off in the sunset with Becky & give her everything This is an ongoing problem & sadly will always be a problem. I’m glad black women are doing what they need to in order to get more in life. Because leaving it up to these self hating black men will get you empty pockets, bad credit, & becoming a single mother to go play father to another race of woman kids. I pray for the love black women deserve. Y’all don’t think black women should receive love. Especially if she dares to love herself & dares to be the greatest version of herself. We’re not here to be average. We’re here to be the best we can be in all of our rights of living on this earth. It’s so heartbreaking to see black men still doing this ignorant BS & wanting black women to struggle because they don’t see the value in themselves so can’t see the value in their own women.

[@blackgod9160]

Lol...Seek Counseling!!!

[@tyronelorenzovalentio3414]

Seek counselling

[@tyronelorenzovalentio3414]

Stop crying about

[@DescendantsofAbraham2659]

Good day, this should be an interesting topic , AO and Team. If you want the answer to this question in your spouse/partner, ask the person what was the relationship dynamics and communication skills practiced in their household growing up. If their current status (relationship dynamic, finances and communication skills) are aligned with their upcoming then that means that is what they value and desire to emulate it (good or bad), but if their current status (relationship dynamics, finances and communication skills) are the opposite then they desire the opposite (good or bad).

[@omozeidehenre239]

Women can do what ever they need with their body. That’s a beautiful thing (natural or unnatural). A lot of women who’ve had children can’t get their belly flat even with diet and exercise. Anthony, have this discussion with black surgeons who perform these procedures to get details.

[@user-co5iq8oj8x]

Women need to stop having children with unworthy men outside of marriage. It’s the single most important decision you can make as a woman. No sympathy

[@roolyfe]

Ding 🛎️! When you have a baby with Pookie! Why would a quality black man Tryrone want to be a step father?

[@QueensthatBudgets]

@@roolyfemost black men are pookies tho… they just know how to act like they are a good man

[@user-co5iq8oj8x]

Men are intimidated by their success. Successful women often do respect the man and his role the same and we want respect.

[@Z-by9su]

This stream in particular is straight cap 🎩 Dont even know where to start lol 😂

[@buetifulkay12]

Jessica Laine…look her up , you should try to interview her! Very successful black woman that trades forex.

[@qscloset]

That was a great one… something to think about don’t talk bad about your ex just say thank you next 😅😅😅

[@johnharris7860]

Great show

[@Selah_Soul]

I think it’s interesting that you talk about women who get BBL’s and questioning why they get it and to not get it for other people to look at them but you yourself have talked about liking women with curves. We are constantly being fed images and commentary on how we as women “should look”. You have to be strong to not succumb to it. While I personally do not like it, I understand women doing it. It’s not easy, and I try not to shame.

[@dominiquegordon8813]

I love your intro music AO

[@coressh5967]

Please do a show on body and finances

[@JIX9ISLER1986]

Men are NOT intimidated by successful women (they simply don't care) its not a metric of attraction Women are hypergamous meaning they date/marry up socioeconomically So if a woman decides to forego being traditional and CHOOSES to be modern (making money being independent) she ultimately prices herself out of the market - what percentage of men make 100k minimum per year ? That alone eliminates better than 80% of a "successful woman's options" that she would consider to marry

[@Z-by9su]

EXACTLY. Why don't people understand or accept this concept, beyond me..

[@IAmJaidaSteele]

Bingo!!

[@dw9054]

Why is it that women are making more money than men are? I’m curious as to what’s going on out here. Women shouldnt have to price out if men are hustling too. Men have the same access to the opportunities right?

[@keeppushin6725]

@@dw9054 what career fields are women mostly in? Somebody has to be the one to make sure the roads are good, plumbing is good…

[@JIX9ISLER1986]

@@dw9054 "Why is it that women are making more money than men are?" That a false statement - when almost 70% of the 1.7 trillion dollar student loan debt women hold the majority women hold the most credit card consumer debt so the overall net worth of men is higher than women "Women shouldnt have to price out if men are hustling too." That is their choice to be a modern woman and forego being a traditional woman again a woman who "hustles" to make money is NOT anymore attractive than a barista working at Starbucks Making minimum wage. men and women are NOT the same "Men have the same access to the opportunities right?" women are the number one statistical benefactors of affirmative action - which resulted in the workplace being flooded with women - which means by definition men who are looked at as the providers would be paid less Company A - 500 employees vs Company B - 5,000 employees Which company can afford to pay their employees a higher salary ? company A is the clear answer

[@LutherPittman]

I don't think men are intimidated by successful women. I think if the man doesn't make as much or more they don't think they would give him a chance. We've put a dollar amount on love and Love is unconditional!!!

[@jaydubya9265]

Love is conditional*

[@LutherPittman]

@@jaydubya9265 love is never conditional. When we do turn it into conditional it is no longer love. Love = "a choice, giving to others, sacrificing our time, energy, and resources for someone else without expecting anything in return" Lord Jesus Christ is Love. He is it and that is his definition.

[@lavieestbelle6068]

Intelligent, exquisite, successful ladies. Where is Andrea located in Charlotte?

[@byjameslewis]

0:45 there’s always a choice.

[@johnharris7860]

There's room.

[@imaginary281]

I feel like it’s also a reflection of also what the black community prioritizes. They’re more likely to spend money and not wonder the price for their appearance and not their health and the things that will take care of them long term

[@J.I.0]

People have forgotten common sense smh. You first need to determine what your #1 goal is and go from there. If your main goal is to have a family, then you need to prioritize having a HUSBAND and make career and everything else secondary. Money is a tool. Women who can successfully be with men who may make less money than them understand that the money is a tool to serve their family and without the man there can be no FAMILY, so the man is more important. But if you are a woman and your career is most important to you then go that path but understand that it comes at a cost.

[@tinker2217]

I'm curious, why are none of them married.

[@Wheelztotheworld]

💯

[@tinker2217]

ANTHONY-->> why were you Insecure when it came to your ex fiancé's income?

[@ChrissyAnn85]

It's a lot of men who don't like when a woman makes more than them. So ladies just lie about what you do and your income.😂😂😂😂

[@jirensentry7609]

This is one of the reasons why we can't mend issues and perceptions between Moorish men and women of African descent as United States citizens.

[@johnharris7860]

Stop asking for discounts. Drop the mic..

[@miamya8510]

Didn't think I was going to like this show... 'Vision without Manifestation' #Pearl

[@AC-ro6ib]

Let me fix the thumbnail title for you: 'WEAK men are intimidated by successful women.'

[@annagaddisnetwork]

Uh oh. Is this a fact or opinion? Lol

[@samsimmons2831]

Why do women always create new meanings to already established words?

[@MrDevinDove]

Are men intimidated by successful women ??

[@newguyguy2578]

There is health risks to these surgeries obl and other issues

[@misunderstoodkj]

Yep! But only the Betas are.

[@JIX9ISLER1986]

Men dont care about woman's ability to make money its not a metric for how men mate select

[@jirensentry7609]

It is the end of the world when females jump on this nonsense about alphas and betas. Real men aren't subjected to pack mentality. Only bullies and ego-neurotic narcissists live that way. Think about it - alphas a dogs who lead packs. And Betas are the alphas of the wolves that want to rule. So when Betas challenge the Alpha, the Alpha dog MUST buck and bark harder and fight more viciously to stay an Alpha dog. Real leading men DO NOT dare allow themselves to fall to such instincts. They often sway men seeking to challenge them by their skills of communication, intellect and many more keen traits. Let me live as a real man. They tend to kill alphamale dogs anyway.

[@johnharris7860]

Wow big on discount but not valued out own.

[@Eardialogue]

Fake hair, nails,tons of makeup

[@FertilityFreak]

I think the woman in the middle and AO need to get to know each other more ❤❤❤