Blue Belt Lost His Best Training Partner & Struggling with BJJ

[@t-roy13]

The ironic thing about BJJ, actually a lot of things in life, is it really is an individual journey surrounded by people helping each other.

[@oisinvg]

Losing gym bros is no joke😢

[@tededo]

...and imagine, I've been grappling since early 2000s, I saw some many great partners leave, its something.

[@chrisboyne5791]

Chewey I don't do jj, but I find your attitude and the way you express yourself inspirational anyway. I am currdntly training to run group exercise classes, just a couple hours a week. You are the kind of trainer I aim to be. Cheers mate.

[@randomcommenterphd893]

Have you tried a free class since? Curious to know.

[@chrisboyne5791]

@randomcommenterphd893 still haven't done JJ but I'm running my group exercise classes 3 times a week. I think if there was a school locally I'd give it a go, but honestly I might not have room for a new passtime!

[@nathanieltillman2355]

I had the same problem. Went through white together. Got our blues around the same time. He is fitter than me and slightly better. He left Shanghai for Germany. It was weird going to training. My wife laughed at me and told me acting a love struck idiot. It took me awhile........ about a month to realise that I was actually being held back by my situation. After, I was training with other people, great judokas who made my stand up better, people who wrestled and had a different approach. I grew again after I lost my friend. I needed his help in the beginning, but I also needed other peoples help in order to get better. Not knowing who my training partner was going to be in each class added another level to my approach to my training.

[@kryptek829]

Maybe its time for him to be the inspiration to someone. Sometimes you learn more by bringing people to your level.

[@NoBody-ro3xj]

To me this is the best comment I have read

[@gosecondmile]

Underrated comment here!

[@WittedSword]

Can already tell this will be one I come back to for years

[@israeltilk11]

Some guys at my gym record their rolls on their phones. Maybe he can do that and then do zoom meetings with his buddy to go over them and get the kind of feedback he finds constructive.

[@todd2324]

But what if his friend decides to quit BJJ one day (which is possible)? He may quit too if he's not really passionate about it. Ultimately, he's gotta make sure he's doing it for himself and not his friend.

[@discofoot6443]

Chewy, you've helped me keep faith in growing my beard.

[@strength4863]

Well said, much respect from Australia 🇦🇺

[@michaelbexarthomas652]

Another form of personal growth in the martial arts world is being happy for others. And realizing the impact you made when it comes to their next endeavors. 🤙🏼🥋

[@knky98bouba82]

Now he has to become the leader or be the inspiration for someone else...just like his friend was instrumental in keeping him in the game , he now has to give that to someone else . I think that would be very therapeutic as well.

[@badgoat666]

This is a cool take on the situation 👌

[@shanemeely5959]

Thats was some inspirational shit right there, phones on autoplay and was not expecting that

[@patfetes]

Chewy on the heroes journey

[@M_Emery99]

Rocky has all of the motifs.

[@AndyMyers94]

I’m sad for the day we loose chewy and his channel as one of our favorite KZbin coaches. Hopefully a long long way off.

[@tas2461873]

I found this with my coach. He moved away at the beginning of the year and class is *not* the same without him teaching it. I'm working through the process of dealing with this but it's hard man. The spark, the desire, the drive...just isn't there yet and I don't know If it ever will be in the same fashion again. I still force myself to attend class regularly, but the thrill and fun are gone now.

[@johnmcdonagh374]

Maybe this is just the lesson you needed to develop your own intrinsic self motivation. Until now your inner drive and passion were dependent on someone else. This was always going to happen as he was never really going to be your coach forever. Did you just feel passion before because he convinced you to do so? Do you actually love BJJ? Or were you just inspired by an individual?

[@knky98bouba82]

How long have you been training? Because this is what BJJ is man... not only dealing with the learning part but also the mental aspect. This is only the start man, it's a tiny obstacle u can easily overcome if your love of the sport is there.

[@merkins87]

It does happen mate & sometimes it may take a few different places before you find a place you vibe with. You may lose the initial spark/intensity, but just keep plugging along & you'll meet the right people again. It's not easy, but it's all worth it.

[@rickt9569]

Half the reason i go to the classes i go to (day classes) is the social aspect of the training partners there

[@gladiumcaeli]

To be fair a great training partner does make a huge difference, in the same sense that a great coach does.

[@Daniel_Cooley]

This video is great advice! I've definitely gone through this in the past

[@reflex6907]

I've been out of jiu jitzu for almost 2 months because of an athletes foot infection I've been dealing with and I'm a 6 month white belt it's been really rough but having people inspiring you asking when you're coming back is huge because I'm struggling mentally not being there getting better

[@chrisreid2113]

Go to class and be present

[@reflex6907]

@@chrisreid2113 I really should but my shit is contagious if it was anything else I wouldn't be typing this because I'd be in the damn gym

[@chrisreid2113]

@@reflex6907 yeh I hear ya, currently have gastroenteritis

[@ksonss]

Thanks Chewy

[@moonsdonut5188]

Hi I have a question I'm almost 40 and unfit and have knee problems I'm to old or weak to start this I also have social anxiety witch makes it even more difficult.

[@kryptek829]

I started at 39 with bad knees and bad feet. Its doable you just have to push yourself through it. Started at 235lbs at 6 ft. I'm now holding at 200 my knees fell much better, they don't buckle on me anymore.

[@Schwartzbruder1]

Just push through it. Your body will adjust in a matter of months. Maintain a consistent training schedule and get plenty of rest. And drink water

[@bmstylee]

Do it man. I started about 18 months ago. I was a 41 year old 6'2" 290 lb washed up p powerlifter looking for a new challenge. Definitely not the healthiest guy. 4 knee surgeries from sports. I'm now 235lbs and way healthier. Now I was uneasy when I started because everything was uncomfortable From strage movements to the pajamas we call a gi. It took time to get comfortable with people trying to choke you or bend your joints the wrong way. Definitely a trust curve for everyone. But I got over it and I'm glad I started. Maybe one day I won't suck at it and get to be something higher than a white belt.

[@jessehandel8662]

What's your question? Just sounds like a bunch of excuses to me.

[@jessehandel8662]

Quit Asking strangers for help on KZbin it you want to do it do it.

[@bartniem9]

Somebody send it to Gordon Ryan, he says that he's going to retire as soon as Danaher retires or dies.

[@jayleggett2261]

Always love the contenet

[@scottbelanger9531]

Mike Tyson, Cus D'Amato. We all watched Mike fall apart once Cus died.

[@blondequijote]

Mike replaced Cus with all the wrong ppl and they even convinced him to get rid of his cornerman Kevin Rooney.

[@JayIsABoss07501]

Did you see the ufc fight pass video of that 16 year old just ripped that guys kneee in one swing with no time to even tap , would love a video on this

[@geraldfriend256]

Yeah the Geico caveman lookin m0fO? Another good reason it should be 18 and up.

[@adamequihua8702]

Happens in kung fu panda

[@JesusGonzalez-tu2nr]

Find a cool white belt and help that person.

[@todd2324]

Bottom line is this, do you love BJJ? If you do then that passion should be what motivates you to train. But if you love your friend more than BJJ, then you won't last. There are plenty of good guys to train with at many gyms so it shouldn't matter. No one should be put on a pedestal like this.

[@BJJStrategist]

Dude you're living proof those Elliott Hulse seminars work! It you 6 years but you've the Hulse thing down to a tee! 🤣🤣🤣🤣😅🤣🤣

[@CrisTheFist]

Way better than Joe Rogan lmao.

[@CrisTheFist]

Imagine if Rogan did stuff like this instead of spreading all the hate and platforming all the wack jobs he does.

[@mightymikethebear]

Good teachers are hard to find because not many people can or want to teach.

[@kiara-kh7nh]

@@CrisTheFist hate sells 🤷🏽

[@geraldfriend256]

@@CrisTheFist Yeah just watch Lex. Rogan is a good interviewer but yeah buncha Alex Jones strength nutso z.

[@bartniem9]

​@@CrisTheFist he spreads zero hate

[@jeffreydamonte67]

Not very helpful, so he just shifts his mindset and poof? He doesn’t look for another similar set of circumstances with great coaches and training partners to take him to the next level. The problem isn’t you talk so much Chewy it’s that you don’t say very much with all those words.

[@Bluis5445]

Maybe he should quit and get serious. There’s always a Sambo gym near you.

[@josephryan4]

Sometimes white belts don't know you are going soft. They are happy because they are still in it. They don't know every time you are playing. But sometimes you must show them they are just meat.