I'm in my mid 30s with a decade of bjj. I'm confident in my abilities, but even now I'm afraid of confrontation. Ive been in fights in my 20s too, but I still have this feeling. Not sure how to overcome this. It's not as bad as it used to be at least..

I almost got DQed for doing it and I had no idea what I did wrong, neither did my competitor. It was in gi, he gave me 2 points and stood us up. I was very confused because he made it seem like the match ended, and had us stand at attention before telling us to fight.

I think sometimes you just want to do the best you can be with the time you have. I think it's as simple as that for many people. Why not maximize your efforts?

As a wrestler this was a good video of the differences.

You're the man! I made the decision to get into martial arts because of trauma from bullying when i was younger. I'm 38 now, diagnosed with PTSD and a year ago i lost my grandfather. It consumed me but 3 months ago i got back into martial arts , taking up bjj and it's been the best, I'm the happiest I've been in years.

Wow! Great respect for you man

If it wasn’t for Esential Jiu Jitsu and my teammates in this gym. I probably would of committed murder right now. The combo of this art and those who practice this art go hand and hand. Thank you for sharing Chewy you help me feel better about my self 🫡

I don't usually comment but just wanted to say, great video. I appreciate your perspective and sharing your experiences that a lot of other people go through. Thank you!

Thank you for being so open with us Chewy. I actually started to trian BJJ because I was jumped and taken to the ground on my way to school (and only knew striking). But now I train because I made many friends in my gym and to stay fit.

Thank you for sharing such an important message. I’d say for most men this topic is scarier to talk about than stepping into a cage.

Coach Chewy, Thank you for posting. Every video you release helps tons of people. God bless. Nikolas

I think the guy might be referencing the “false reap” and misspoke by saying “fake reap”

I picked up bjj because I wanted to gain the confidence & self worth that I unfortunately allowed others to tear down then keep down. My goal with it, aside from regain these things, is to prove that I didn't need those people in my life

Been watching you for years @chewjitsu. This is one of your best and most important videos and messages. We all have to endure some degree of crap. Some of us have much bigger demons to slay. The question is, are we going to let it define us or are we going to overcome it? There is only one path. So then the next question is how? I think some combination of healing the mind can be done via therapy (and even that is even easier nowadays with AI chat bots who can offer advice on your situation). Secondly there is the healing to the soul and the body. That can take time. Jujitsu and some kinda of physical exertion can help rebuild confidence and focus the aggression in a good way. Good luck to you all. Don’t let anyone else define who you are.

I started training bjj because I was dealing with a breakup. It was shattering and chewy is right about how challenging things help build up your confidence

Just realizing when I got jumped walking home from a bar and waking up with frozen blood on the sidewalk with an insane concussion. I started jiu jitsu shortly after. Always scanning the rooms, ccw now always, lifting weights. Guess it was one of the worst and best things that ever happened to me. Woke me up to the real world.

Thanks for sharing this with us 🙏

My goal is greatest grappler in the world and I base my self worth off my progress it’s not been great and mistakes hopefully I can fix my mental health

Great video! Didn't understand it when watched years ago for a 1st time.

Thank you! ❤

im struggling with demons from a kid, sexualy abused by my dad at 11, beaten until 16 by him, im trying bjj to help me deal with it, im 43 and still struggle, sad i should be able to deal with it at my age but its so hard some times, cant tell my wife cause id feel weak, one day i hope to get over it and i hope no one has to deal with the s**t i did

Ho acceso questo video a una festa e ora anche tutti i miei amici stanno ridendo. Un ottimo modo per fare nuove amicizie💕

5’10 and 270? This dude needs to have his badge pulled, the only thing he is chasing down is a donut 🤦🏻‍♂️

As a blue belt I’m fine with big strong white belts and can usually control them pretty handedly. Same goes with most spazzy smaller white belts, however, big strong and spazzy I stay tf away from lol.

Adam.

Thank you I needed this vid

5:49

45 this year. I train 2x a week, but I also do strength training at the gym 3x.a week and 1-2 sessions of pilates/gyrotonic...my goal is just be healthier and fitter over time...and my strategy is to go for exercise/training while sending my daughters to classes and waiting for them to finish...just take it slow/steady and you win with the passage of time....if you want to compete of course this frequency is not enough...

I was a white belt when this video came out. I remember watching it when it came out, Now I’m a fresh brown belt. Wonder what happened to this guy.

Hey Chewy, I'm a blue belt and I like to think of myself as a relaxed roller who matches intensity, but lately I've been hurting the white belts. Not intentionally. I apply the submission slowly and they don't know when to tap, or I'll hit a sweep and they twist wrong. If I go too slow / relaxed though they smash the hell out of me. How do I get white belts to chill so we can roll safely?

I heard its a cultural thing from the soccer in brazil. Getting one over on the refs is part of how they play and they brought it over to the jj tourneys. If you're not cheating you're not trying i guess.

intent to injure makes it a dick move. Orlando intended not once, but twice to injure Sean. Dick move.

Very simple adjustment, so I simply say Thank you, Sir.

Blue. Being out of shape sucks

Reaping should be legal in nogi from white belt up, its about time we start changing the rules, i could see MAYBE holding off reaping in gi jiu jitsu until purple belt for the sake of the extra friction but its still really dumb

Self defense is being a nice calm person cuz anybody can have a gun or knife

Not exactly a "let's go light" but when I'm rolling I usually ask my partner during the session if they're alright cuz I know as a rather big strong white belt (currently) I know things could happen but I'm usually rolling with blue & purple belts (cuz they're usually the ones matching me in size) I let them set the pace so we can go slow, fast or intermediate speed with one rule "tap when you feel pressure not pain"

I'm fine with my professor, coach & partner being a hardass, but there's a difference between that & an asshole

1. Professor's assistant 2. Assistant coach 3. Belt pride 4. Ego washout 5. "You can't do that" player 6. Cringe crybaby combatant 7. Expert novice 8. Wasteful wrangler 9. Commanding con 10. Know nothing know it all

The BJJ Flop.

Hey Chewy, got a question about asking a question. Do you email us back letting us know you’re answering it, or will it randomly pop up in a video or podcast? I’m not sure where I need to lookout for an email I sent ya.

will adam be willing to share a video of his passing? Thanks!

Start blaming the refs who are watching it happen. Then maybe that shit will stop.

Keep in mind I'm a significantly smaller, older guy compared to most who train BJJ. When I first started BJJ I also started some basic "Starting Strength" lifting. After about 3 months I realized I could not sustain doing both. I do think it helped me a established an improved base level of core strength. At my school we did some partner drill I think had good core strength benefits. One was doing sit-ups while holding closed guard around a standing partner. The other was practicing standing up inside partners closed guard and lifting them off the ground while holding onto their belt or gi lapels. I think these had strength benefits for both people on either side of these partner drills. I admire the younger beasts who can train BJJ multiple times, do competitions, and also do consistent lifting and some even also train and run marathons, I'm not one of those guys.

Fake reap not to be confused with false reap. LOL bjj terminology so confusing!

Chewy, great video. Thanks. How often will you see refs give a warning first before going to the DQ? Are warnings used more often at white belt level?

how about false reap positions? different than "fake reap."

Also depends on the size of the class, less oxygen means less training, it’s not a mental thing if you literally can’t breath

This video probably needed to include the false reap Craig Jones and Jacob Couch use and what makes it legal

I would rather lose than cheat a win like that lol