BMI Charts in Doctors Offices Caused Her Trauma | TIKTOK Tales

[@rall-ellen7150]

I feel offended that words like "trauma" "abuse" are a joke today. I feel sad for anyone that had to deal with real trauma or abuse 😕 😔.

[@maggienewton8518]

no kidding. I was married to a violent man who was physically, emotionally, and psychologically abusive...for 16 years, tack on another three years of trying to keep my kids and myself safe from him after we left. All good now, though, but there was trauma and we never whined about it, we learned to recognize it, face it, and find healthy ways to come to terms with it. So these people who claim trauma because of hurt feelings or insecurities they refuse to deal with...offensive and undermines people with real trauma. And they still won't own it but expect the world to step lightly around them and change their diapers.

[@rall-ellen7150]

@@maggienewton8518 I am so sorry that you had to deal with so much. Happy that you are doing better. And yes, been struggling with depression most of my life, which let to body dysmorphia, I have a lot of things that triggers it but i try to deal with my triggers not complain and expect the world to change just to fit my needs.

[@woxy6532]

so true

[@yellow8980]

Really, the word 'trauma', 'abuse', 'depressed', 'triggers' or 'mental health issue used' so casually just to justify their laziness or their lack of self discipline really do concern me as a Gen Z, there are plenty of people around me who DO have the problems and going to psychologist while consume some pills just to survive their day, and then for someone who have perfectly healthy mental state and just lazy said that so casually... I just can't... What if people stop believing those words is real and having heft to it, not just an excuses for someone lazy? What will happens to the real people who really diagnose with those associated word? When I was in school, often I used those words also, but now that I am diagnose with some of that, and I knew how it feels like, I just... really want to punch myself in the past

[@cc-terfay]

Exactly!!! Trauma rewires the brain!! It completely fucks with the central nervous system! As someone with C-PTSD it’s infuriating to see people minimize the meaning of the words abuse and trauma.

[@emilyeverson661]

I’m a recovered anorexic. Being weighed at the doctor’s office used to bring me to tears. Going to the doctor in general would give me huge anxiety. But I always recognized that this was my own issue and I didn’t spend my time on social media complaining about it. I used it as a sign that I needed to get help and get better.

[@whylife8980]

Yeah I feel the same exact way. It’s something you can let your doc know personally or change doctors. I wouldn’t cry on TikTok about it, there’s just some things you should keep to yourself 😂

[@swissarmyknight4306]

Glad that you are making progress.

[@balesplace]

Fellow recovered anorexic here :} I’m so glad ur getting better! I remember the last time I went to the office (a while ago) where they showed us a graph of my weight/height over the years and it was steady until there was a sudden dip around 2 years ago. Getting weighed only fueled and furthered my sickness. I wish u and all those struggling with eds the best

[@ghostratsarah]

Similar, though my relationship to the scale fluctuates. Sometimes I'm scared of it, sometimes it satisfies me to see when it would drop. But when I was anxious about it, which is my current relationship, I keep in mind that it's a very important thing for monitoring my health. Some of my health conditions are directly tied to my body fat in various ways. And that it reflects the muscle that I've put on recently. I have a smart scale that gives me my rough body composition, which I use weekly, and that helps minimize my anxiety. All I pay attention to is the fat percentages, as long as those are in the lower healthy range, I ignore my weight. I have to keep it on the lower end or my endometriosis flares up.

[@emilyfrerichs9853]

yes I am in the same boat. i'm about a year in my recovery. i used to cry trying to eat a year ago but now its pretty easy. i know the feeling girl.

[@jisoochoi21]

As someone who studies biomedical engineering, I can confidently tell you that BMI is still used in health care because it applies to 92% of the populations. That goes for any weight limits on chairs, amusement park rides, to any medical devices.

[@J21822]

Exactly! Even if it has flaws or is inaccurate for some, it is still a good indicator of body size for most. Why do I need to get rid of something that works for me just because you don’t “like” it.

[@ZaBuZaMoMoChi86]

I'm part of that 8% if you don't look like me,just accept that your BMI is too high.

[@meeepjeep7112]

I was thinking while watching this how accurate it is with my body. I have a flat stomach due to my build (very bottom heavy), but I am still 15 pounds overweight. My body fat is percentage correlates to the chart(too high). I used to think I was rare when speaking to friends or watching social media that claims it's outdated/wrong.

[@esmee6308]

Even for the absolute behemoths that are 'obese' through sheer muscle mass, will feel the negative consequences of their weight. Overweight can be argued depending on muscle mass.

[@snowpanther7076]

I am one of those people with muscle (my abs are starting to show again, yay) who always gets put in the overweight category despite not being fat. I don't particularly care for the BMI. I don't need a chart to tell me when I'm getting fat. My knees communicate that well enough. Though, and this is important, I have learned that no matter how the weight is made up, the knees will protest. 150lbs of fat and 150lbs of muscle made my knees ache the same way. What is my point? I can't remember. I just think that people who think the BMI is God and the ones who think it's the Devil sound stupid. It's a statistic, meaning that there are outliers but the average person is still average

[@strawberryj3lly]

God the fact she can even go to a doctor is literally so privileged; I can’t step foot into a doctor’s office for ACTUALLY medical attention bc I’m so afraid of the bill. Her complaining abt a CHART just screams entitlement and 1st world problems.

[@kristelbrok998]

Or the system in place where you live is a joke I had a stroke two years ago. I paid exactly 0$ for all the tests, specialist-appointments and doctor-appointments I paid roughly 300$ for my meds, and got 80% of that money back through my insurance (altho most of the upfront cost was already covered by the government)

[@atyourservicedog]

Seriously. Eighty percent of my cash goes to meds every month. I could spend that on so many better things.😑

[@helianabanes4875]

I am sorry, that is horrible.

[@sweariefaerie9621]

I hate this for you and the millions in your position.

[@stevenyoung9738]

@@kristelbrok998 yeah it is. tf you want them to do about it, they dont have the money to pay medical bills, how do you expect them to move?

[@nastjaangelova3671]

As someone who suffers from PTSD I hate that people are throwing around words like "trauma" and "trigger" totally stripping them off their actual meaning

[@ollylevesque3404]

This generation has removed any seriousness in words like trauma, racism, bigotry, phobia….. when does it stop 🤦🏿‍♂️

[@kazzuo32]

Agree

[@jaya.d-gauthier1644]

Say it louder for the belugas in the back

[@Nick-cw1og]

And added offended and eternal victim.

[@BobsB0ners]

victimization is my whole generations thing. it’s actually mentally deficient

[@CajunGators]

@@BobsB0ners well you have a good head on your shoulders Grayson. Props to you for not falling victim

[@Stephvmp]

At my heaviest I was 250lbs and had a literal wake up call when my husband woke me in the middle of the night to inform me that I had stopped breathing in my sleep. Now I'm down to 177lbs and still going. I had high blood pressure and was developing sleep apnea. I can't stand it when anyone tries to discourage someone from making better choices for themselves. Its not about being pretty its about health and quality of life.

[@hellprincess7640]

Queen! I work in a hospital and most common modifiable risk factors for diseases are obesity, smoking, and or drinking.

[@poorninarayanan4833]

That’s amazing! So proud of you 😊

[@walsh9354]

Sleep apnea Severe

[@kellyprobst3533]

Good on you !!!

[@danielhess5778]

That's awesome! Congrats on a huge accomplishment!

[@johnnygaster2224]

If she actually gets triggered (aka gets a panic attack or anxiety attack) by a BMI chart, she needs to meet a doctor, just a different kind. Furthermore, why do people feel the need to flaunt their mental health issues online? What happened to "never share your private details in the internet"?

[@maylhinem1077]

Because they want attention, and also because it's a way to "get an identity". That's why we have a wave of people screaming their (real or made up) mental illness to the whole world. They are often nothing outside the labels they give themselves, it's their only way to exist. And they're also looking for people to validate what they're saying. If a lot of people validate what you're feeling, then it's ok and you don't have to work on yourself.

[@annaliese9453]

@@maylhinem1077 well put

[@annaliese9453]

@esma lmao exactly what I was thinking!

[@Eriennexton]

...but....but then they can't get attenti-- I mean virtue signa-- I mean elicit sympathy--- I mean...then they can't....educate us!

[@syliic934]

destigmatize mental illness.

[@Artasticly]

A dissociative disorder is actually different than DID. I call it "space cadet", from stress and past traumas I dissociate from my body. I don't become someone else - I just lose touch with reality and feel like I'm outside myself sometime to the point of fainting. It's a maladaptive coping mechanism. I just wanted to put it out there because I wouldn't conflate the two.

[@awetistic5295]

As someone who had a very traumatizing cancer scare and has a family history of breast cancer, I'm sure I'm way more triggered by breast cancer awareness posters than she is by a BMI chart. Doesn't mean they should be forbidden, it's important to raise awareness for serious illnesses.

[@malepv]

As a person who lives in a 3rd world country, i find these problems hilarious. Not invalidating anything, but everyone would laugh at her complaining. Other realities are really fascinating lol. Information at a doctors office? Like I’m just happy to have access to health care 🤣

[@maggienewton8518]

excellent!

[@artemisa1523]

Same, is so weird and funny.

[@juliacabral4781]

Same!

[@laurarincon9802]

So true!

[@NataliaHerrera-ul4gq]

Same.

[@ruckusbeblack]

Trauma these days is synonymous with drama

[@chelseapthib36]

Oh definitely. This is laughable... oh no! Not a scale and a BMI chart in a DR office! The depravity!!!! 😒🤦🏽‍♀️

[@PatricenotPatrick]

@@chelseapthib36 lmao!!! They always try to disprove it with muscle mass knowing well that don’t apply to them

[@chelseapthib36]

@@PatricenotPatrick they really go for it. "I dont think people realize the effects these types of rhetoric can have on our bodies" 🤣 I can't with these people... imagine if they actually had anxiety, real anxiety, or real triggers from actual trauma, they could not deal with life.

[@chefssaltybawlz]

@@chelseapthib36 lmao preach

[@chelseapthib36]

I feel like Regina George in "Mean Girls" when the candidates for Spring Fling Queen are being announced and she says "What is happening with the world!" 😫

[@HaleyJo1992]

My mom is triggered by doctor's offices from having her autoimmune issues ignored for years until it almost killed her last month. THAT is trauma. And why don't they ever mention the too skinny side of the BMI chart? Very interesting.

[@FranciscanGypsy]

Omigosh, yes. It took me approximately 4 years to get diagnosed with a dysautonomia (a problem with the autonomic nervous system that can affect multiple systems in the body), partially because everyone assumed I had anxiety when they couldn't immediately figure out was wrong with me. It was very frustrating not to be listened to and eventually began to question if I actually was anxious like everyone seemed to think and wonder if I was a hypochondriac causing my own problems. To this day, I have to work very hard not to get snappy and defensive with ER docs (or anyone really) when they imply or try to get me to admit that my symptoms are related to anxiety. For a long time I *would* get anxious seeing a new doctor because I wasn't sure they would believe me... and if they didn't, maybe they were right and everything was all my head (part of it ended up literally being so... I ended up having an instability in my cervical spine that needed to be fused, so hah!). Even now, 5 years after getting diagnosed with several medical conditions that I never learned about in nursing school, I still catch myself questioning if I'm a hypochondriac if I don't have symptoms 100% of the time (even though my medical conditions thrive on being unpredictable). I wasn't nearly killed by the experience like your Mom (it's so terrible it took *that* for someone to finally listen to her) and wouldn't say I have been traumatized. But I will say that the experience has definitely effected the way I think; I find myself feeling like I constantly needing to "prove" to myself and others that I am sick. So I do get "triggered" if someone asks if I'm anxious or suggests that I might be able to push my body more than I do. But I know it's a me thing and that it's my job to control how I react when I feel a knee-jerk reaction coming on. I hope that your Mom is doing better now that she has a diagnosis and people are finally listening to her now. I agree that it is interesting that no one talks about the skinny end of the bmi chart. I wonder how people who struggle with putting on weight or who are anorexic feel about that part of the chart?

[@alemunnoz]

@@FranciscanGypsy I think I can answer that last question, I had some underweight friends in my life. One of them only gets lightheaded sometimes, but she's overall fine cause she eats fine, also, she's pretty and she knows it. She gets told to eat like any underweight person, sure, but she knows she does so... Another one is self conscious bc no curves, at all, just skinny. She goes to the gym so she can at least have some sort of shape. When we were younger (and dumber) she would eat so much se would puke, but she was just frustrated bc any weight she gained just wouldn't stick around. The las one is serious about his meals cause his low weight makes him feel weak constantly, he tries to get as many vitamins as he can cause calories are not enough. If he eats too much he'll feel sick and probably lose weight instead of gaining. So, none of them gets triggered, they KNOW their weight can be a problem, but they try to stay healthy, kinda? The pretty one doesn't lol she's livin' her best life or something.

[@sandy_carpetsthesecond5013]

I mean, if she gets nervous or angry, I wouldn't really call that being triggered. I'd call it justified, doctors can be a pain in the ass

[@ticiat5832]

@@alemunnoz being underweight for long periods of time is extremely damaging to many systems in the body. Maybe you don’t see it on your friends but they definitely have more negative symptoms that they don’t mention to you

[@ruckusbeblack]

@@alemunnoz They say that to my cousin she’s a double 0. Like if she wants to be easily cold and tired lol. Uses a wheelchair on days it’s intense. Funny thing is she’s ALWAYS with a bag of chips so it’s like bruh 🤦🏿‍♂️ she’s eating.

[@catherinemydear]

For clarification: someone saying that they dissociate does not mean they are saying they have dissociative identity disorder, they are saying that they had an experience where they were not able to mentally stay in the present situation they are in. Dissociative disorders are a spectrum and generally stem from PTSD. Actually, everyone dissociates: we usually just call it zoning out or day dreaming. It’s only when it hinders everyday life to the criteria of the DSM that it is considered a dissociative disorder.

[@lunam9022]

thank you!! that really frustrated me 😓

[@peachy_lili]

appreciated, I've been called a liar for mentioning the occasional panic-attack related dissociation I deal with as a consequence of CPTSD. like dang there's a spectrum

[@chainlocker305]

I'm a couple years late, but I'm glad there are people in the comments talking about this 😭

[@ettaetta439]

Literally! And even within dissociative disorders, it's a spectrum. It's not all just DID with clearly defined alters, switching, and time loss. Alters can only exist for one purpose, or there can literally only be one instead of multiple, switching may be limited or impossible, memory loss may not even occur, etc. It also is created by intense childhood trauma, and cannot occur in adults or kids older than a certain age (it's debated, but 8-10 is generally defined as the cutoff for developing DID or OSDD) as far as I know of. I won't go into plurality (the presence of more than one identity) in general since we are discussing dissociative disorders, and the presence of plurality isn't always a sign of trauma nor is it always harmful. Many dissociative disorders involve plurality, plurality doesn't always involve disorder, and so on. Furthermore, final fusion is a possibility, and some people (like me) may have had a dissociative disorder but ended up as one whole person eventually. Because of this I no longer have a dissociative disorder, and although I have mixed feelings about it in the end our life has greatly benefited. In some cases after final fusion, another occurrence of trauma can shatter someone's identity back to pieces all over again, to put it metaphorically. Obviously we're kind of outliers, but it really shows that DID is a spectrum that people stand on the edges of, and also can fall out of. Not every case is so clearly defined.

[@buckyyyb]

@@ettaetta439”did” is CPTSD

[@TheLinguistable]

One time, I was at Whataburger with my boyfriend and somehow we got on the topic of a rather uneventful (and in no way traumatic) experience at the hospital and that they had changed a med dosage or whatever. Then this girl asked me not to talk about hospitals or meds cause it was triggering for her. I'm thinking, "We're not talking about it loudly, I wasn't even talking to you, and we're not even at the same table." 😳

[@cocoa3519]

Dang she’s entitled

[@forsakenjones4695]

You should have told her to sit her ass at another able and to not evesdrop.

[@atyourservicedog]

Omg. I can’t imagine telling someone else to talk about something else because my eavesdropping heard something I didn’t like?! She would’ve heard me reading online medical statistics loudly after that.😂

[@TheLinguistable]

@@atyourservicedog right?? 😂

[@elalogar7340]

If she didn't want to listen to it, then she should stop eavesdropping.

[@lorescien4148]

Side note: dissociation is different than disassociation. It's nothing connected to DID (as far as I'm aware) and is something I've done in high stress situations and severe depression episodes. It's like watching myself exist doing things, but from the outside... or at least that's most of mine. So yeah. Completely different than disassociative identity disorder and way more common especially for people with other mental health issues. And don't worry. You're not the first one to make the mistake and not the first one to say it doesn't exist. My husband doesn't believe that I have those experiences either because he's never gotten them lol. But yeah. Just wanted to pop in here to say that.

[@petrosinella]

You did a great job providing information without being patronizing or overly critical, which we don't see very often on the internet. Kudos! 🙂

[@starr2shine738]

Question because this kinda thing has happened to me a few times...should I go get a diagnosis or does it need to be a constant thing like depression symptoms?

[@atxmic25]

Definitely, ive had an issue with dissociation my whole life cos im trans. It happens in DID, but just like a cough is a symptom of lung cancer and a cold. Its a symptom of many different things

[@_namasteshay]

@@starr2shine738 I think you could still still get a diagnosis with it, it’s not just diagnosed with depression, it can also be related to anxiety and OCD and just also being under a lot of stress. I would def bring it up to your doctor and see what they say.

[@chinchilla0708]

Yes, dissociation is a common trauma response, not a big deal UNLESS it impacts your life in negative ways in which case you should go see a psychiatrist.

[@odduckOasis]

The only time I've had a 'problem' with the BMI chart was when I was 12 and they tested everyone in my grade during gym class to see where we were with our weight and all that. The problem I had with it, was not the chart, but the fact that they just basically told me I was overweight for my age and height and then did nothing else to help me figure out what to do about it. I would've appreciated more education on how to be healthier- exercises, food, ect. At least there's more info out there and easy accessible than when I was young.

[@Maja-vo4yb]

Oh that‘s sad. Here in Switzerland we learn about healthy food in kindergarten. Also sugar is basically ‚forbidden‘ in the school snacks in kindergarten except for birthdays. Of course fruit is not included in that rule (except for bananas at some places). Parents are supposed to pack healthy snacks for their children and the children are getting educated about it as well. Mostly by the teeth-brushing-lady that visits a few times per year. It‘s mostly about keeping the childrens teeth healthy but at the same time they just learn about healthy food without it being about weight.

[@odduckOasis]

@@Maja-vo4yb They would give us very generic information, like 'here's the food pyramid' and then as a child, we're supposed to figure it out? I didn't have the resources back then... now it's just a matter of discipline. I'm sure some places and parents are better at teaching their kids healthier eating, but it wasn't really there for me, not that my parents were bad or didn't care, but I certainly was singled out in the family, even tho one of my brothers and dad were overweight too.

[@vrianawashington2599]

Yeah same but my pediatrician was great and was able to work with my mom so that we didn’t get too unhealthy. My mom always cooked for all 8 of her children but she made us all eat the same amount of food causing her younger kids (me included) to gain too much weight. She decreased our portion sizes and we were fine. None of us were overweight growing up, we only got overweight when we were old enough to make our own choices about food.

[@immunityvi6968]

We were weighed and had to calculate our own bmi in elementary… then they fed us vegetable meals, soup, (which i hated) for free as part of a feeding program. The skinny kids had an extra banana to teach them to eat more/healthy

[@TheCynicalDude_]

I think my addition to the BMI test should be standard! Thanks for the mention! Love your channel!

[@skinny_pumpkin_lady890]

Pin it! 📌

[@dawnsmith1871]

So cool dude!

[@SamS-bx7ed]

Omg when my anti-fat acceptance universes interact!

[@venomg5799]

Love your stuff, dude.

[@aurathecat1237]

Yall are both amazing!

[@kellybushbich4685]

As someone with a lot of trauma and who suffers from PTSD, it’s NO ONES JOB TO WALK AROUND TRIGGERS. The whole point of healing through trauma is needing to work through it on your own SO YOU CAN FUNCTION DAY TO DAY. 🙄

[@A.x3]

Just to let you know Michelle, you can "dissociate" without having D.I.D. I have agoraphobia and I tend to dissociate when I'm forced to leave my house. As a matter of fact, alot of people do and can dissociate. For example, have you ever been driving and suddenly realize you don't know how you got to a certain area? Or maybe you're walking in the grocery store and find yourself at the soup aisle when your intention was to go to the dairy aisle? It doesn't mean you have the extreme diagnosis of D.I.D. That's like saying someone has alcoholism just because they drink on the weekends.

[@forsakenjones4695]

usually child sexual abuse victims.

[@Cec9e13]

Yeah, that's my only critique here, is disassociation by itself is actually a thing.

[@atyourservicedog]

That’s true. I have autonomic nervous system issues and don’t know where I am half the time. 😂

[@jorilysmatos69]

As someone with C-PTSD, there's a few mental disorders that have it as a symptom.

[@totokoackermann8994]

Was looking for this comment, because I wasn’t sure if someone had already said this.

[@jabc4748]

As someone who has been in recovery for anorexia for 15 years, you need to really work on triggers. You will NEVER recover if you are a slave to external triggers. Triggers are real and valid- BUT you CANNOT EVER control external triggers- you need to not frigging worry about controlling other people's opinions and words...and charts...you need to process it yourself. Not everybody has an ED, gets 'triggered', etc. honestly- they need to stop! ( PS- that guy's channel is annoying AF...you do this sort of commentary with actual research and substance, just sayin)

[@J21822]

So true, these triggered-at-everything Tik Tok people want to eliminate all triggers in the world instead of realizing you’re supposed to work on not letting triggers control or affect you. It’s impossible to get rid of all triggers when all things trigger these people. We live in reality where there will always be something that offends someone. But obviously these individuals don’t want to put in the work to fix from within and just want to take the easy route, complain on Tik Tok.

[@jabc4748]

@@J21822 YES!! IMO, it's the only way toward *true* ED recovery.

[@coffeebean4141]

@@J21822 I'm waiting for one of my customers to get triggered by the shopping cart outside because it's "Staring" at them. I was working late one night, watching self checkout and I apologized for my tone since it might have sounded bitchy and the lady (Probably around her 40-50's) Started calling me a bitch and saying I was bitchy and asked for the manager and corporate number.. She even came back AFTER grabbing at my nametag (I am female I have my breast under there) Multiple times when I told her NOT to touch me. I gave her my name peacefully. (I was also crying at this point since I shake and cry whenever someone goes off on me) SHE CAME BACK the NEXT day to try to get someone to tell her my name AGAIN even though she wrote it down.. Said she couldn't find it in the system. Like what kind of person.. I found out that she wasn't mad about my tone that I apologized for she was made I said Bitchy to describe it...

[@jabc4748]

@@elambedo This is amazing! You rock! It is really hard work to get to this place and you should be proud.

[@artemisa1523]

@@coffeebean4141 the problem is you guys are too nice. In any other country people would say to the lady something like "just watch to the other side if the cart annoys you". You are being too nice with stupid people.

[@TheRubinator13]

Something that blew my mind was a body builder/weightlifter who weighed about 300lbs, but all of it muscle, he was saying it doesn't matter if it's 300lbs of muscle or 300lbs of fat, it is still super hard on your heart and body to be "overweight" and have a high BMI After hearing that I have seen the world so differently Edit: I still think it's better to be fit/muscular rather than fat and flabby, but I just found that so interesting and such a good point that even if it's muscles, being extremely overweight is never really a good thing

[@oliviasommerville4733]

yeah! I think even Michelle said on one of her videos she had to cut back on her muscle because her 5ft2 self felt weighed down haha

[@TheRubinator13]

@@oliviasommerville4733 that would totally make sense! I know she has said that bodybuilding isn't the healthiest thing and that she had to stop because it was too much and making her not feel very good

[@elgilbro]

100% Athleticism doesn't always equate to healthy.

[@Xoulrath_]

I lost a massive amount of weight after my now ex-wife and I separated all the way back in 2012. I got down to 203. I'm 6'2". The BMI chart still classified me as overweight at 26.1. The problem with that is that I was a skeleton. I couldn't have safely lost any less weight. Being too heavy is definitely not a good thing. But when you're over 6' tall and are athletic and have actual muscle mass, it can be hard to not be over 200 lbs. I'd rather be the 250 and muscular that I currently am over the 203 skeleton that I was back then.

[@mmmmmmmmaria]

@@Xoulrath_ you must have some exceptionally dense bones. like i'm trying to picture a man (i'm assuming) of those numbers and no matter how i try it's not skinny in the slightest

[@Sharpe1502]

As someone who’s been triggered, you know what I do? Nothing. I take a breath and sit there until the feeling passes and then I’m fine and the next time I see or hear that thing, it’s not as disturbing. 🙄 The world isn’t a happy, safe place. It’s not up to everyone else to make people feel comfortable.

[@yesterdayitrained]

I love your comment. I could not have said it better myself!

[@maggienewton8518]

right on! Take control. I call it "overwriting" as in writing a new experience over the trigger until it is so diluted by other memories or feelings it has little impact. Love your comment!

[@snowpanther7076]

I leave, compose myself and then return. Most people can't tell that I just had to calm my heartrate because it's none of their business

[@chanimeryl1246]

I love your comment, these people seem to forget that “triggers” are a medical thing often associated with trauma. These people are such idiots 😂 Just because you want to eat yourself to death it doesn’t mean that science needs to lie and pretend like you’re not impacting your body. I agree with you completely, anyway, I hope you have a lovely day and avoid your triggers!

[@oliviasommerville4733]

EXACTLY! I would not say I have trauma, but I went through a rough time in 2020, and even a certain song that I listened to from that time will remind me of it and may cause me to get upset. Does that mean we should ban Adele songs and put trigger warnings every time an Adele song is played?! NO!! It just means I need to keep working through my experiences from that time.

[@liwashere8653]

Hi Michelle, great video! But dissociating doesn't mean you have DID. It's basically a very extreme form of zoning out, or like suddenly being in third-person mode in a video game. And it can happen to anyone when they're under a lot of stress or in any bad situation. It's a very common trauma response. Also, there are quite a lot of dissociative disorders one can have besides DID. I dissociate because of Depersonalization Disorder, and I definitely don't have any other personalities!

[@gravyz2cute4u]

Out of all the things that could have "triggered" her at the doctor, I'm surprised it was simply the BMI chart. I would have thought it would have been the graphic photos of what cancer or STDs do to you, or those little models of clogged arteries and things.

[@mitski9638]

not to long ago i was dangerously close to entering the body positive community and accepting the way my body was but your channel served as a wake up call and i’m currently on the rode to weight-loss! i wanted to say thank you for you might of actually saved my life :)

[@latinafortruth430]

So glad to hear that! You can do anything. 💕

[@bebeleil9481]

amazing!! keep on going

[@ameliab324]

I just wanna say, you can accept yourself and your body *and* improve your health! Getting skinnier by self-hate is harder than getting skinnier with self-love.

[@petitponey697]

Just wanted to say, me too! I had always a problem with binge eating, it's wasn't a big problem when I was still growing up because I was doing a lot of sport. But then I stopped doing sports and stopped growing up, and was floating around fat acceptance movement. Until I just started to be overweight, now I have a 22 bmi, I still would like to lose but happy with what I already have now :) thank you everyone that are still saying that losing weight is not impossible, that you can love your body but love your body even more and wanting it to be healthy :)

[@kaluahmon]

Best wishes on your journey!

[@DANIxDANGER]

Not defending the girl, but i just wana clear up that DID isn't the same as general dissociation. If you dissociate you might have symptoms of not feeling connected to your own body. DID is developing different identities during those episodes. Dissociation basically affects the way you think and you can have the symptoms of dissociation without having a dissociative disorder. I dissociate when I have panic attacks, but it lasts anywhere between 30 seconds to a couple of minutes. It's like having the feeling if "I'm here but i don't feel here" and like it's an out of body experience. IF she was having a panic or anxiety attack which caused her to feel this way, I'm very much assuming the doctor, nurse or at least the receptionist would've seen it happen and provided her with grounding exercises. I do fall in the camp that she's probably just using buzz words that she doesn't fully understand the meaning of because she was very calm talking about the entire ordeal

[@linashoes]

Was looking for this comment. Hope she sees it

[@TovaHolmberger]

Yeah, you could also consider daydreaming or "working on autopilot" as a mild, non-pathological form of dissociation, though I don't think that's what she means cos that's not really a trauma response...

[@tarynriver]

Was looking for this cause if it wasn’t said I was gonna lol I have bad anxiety like to the point I can’t breath and im choking while trying sometimes it feels dramatic even tho I know I can’t help it lmao and I have never dissociated but I know that is possible but I agree with you she’s using buzz words I love how you worded this

[@summeryoung1026]

This should be the top comment.

[@BethChadwick]

Came to the comments to say this too, you put it much better than I could! All people with DID dissociate, but not everyone who dissociates has DID.

[@degrassiglee2]

"Dissociation is a mental process of disconnecting from one's thoughts, feelings, memories or sense of identity." Anyone can feel this feeling. It does not inherently mean that you have DID. That would be a dissociative identity issue. I am on the autism spectrum and I dissociate a lot as a coping mechanism when I'm in stressful situations. It feels like I'm on autopilot and my head feels like a tumbleweed going through the desert. It doesn't last long but it is a real feeling that many people feel.

[@peachrenard2320]

I can't figure out where she got DID from in this.

[@vickyoli]

The only inaccuracy my BMI chart happened ONCE: the computer told me “this patient is overweight!” But I saw him and he was a bodybuilder to be. No, I didn’t have to undress him, it was obvious. So yes, if you have a flab, probably it does apply to you. My own boss is a professional weightlifter, and of course her BMI is high. She is pure muscle but still it’s not healthy for her body but she is aware.

[@risssa2253]

I’m 4’10 and when I decided to start losing weight at 165, I was having a hard time. I knew nothing about what bmi even meant so I looked it up thinking my weight wasn’t that bad, well I found out I was clinically obese. I’m 125 today knowing I always have to manage what I eat an pay attention to my weight and calories. At first I was upset and thought it had to be wrong for me since I’m short. You gotta get over the excuses and face the issues to change them.

[@jaredwilliams4794]

I’m glad ppl are aware of mental health and can acknowledge how important it is; however, people went from one extreme to another. We went from hardly talking about it to blaming everything for our mental health problems and thinking everything will only affect mental health. These people preach accountable for other ppl but never for themselves.

[@DarkAquaVII]

Aye, it's ridiculous these days...

[@vgsuckfest1508]

Mental health issues turned into a simple excuse

[@ronister6528]

Love you Michelle! Just an FYI disassociation isn’t DID and having dissociative episodes or experiencing disassociation can fall from having various disorders or specific traumatic experiences (not this obviously lmaoo)

[@kaymillerfromTX]

Shoutout to Michelle for giving us Ronald cosplay despite dealing with this ridiculous victim mentality that is Gen Z. You killing it sis

[@pancakepop680]

It's always existed, but it's far easier to vocalise it now with social media.

[@KingAtheist]

It's not just gen z. It's millennials as well

[@zubbys]

I have seen all sorts of ages act this way. Does a disservice to pretend it's just one.

[@JACKSCHITT83]

*RONALDA...

[@andree-annetrudel3949]

​@@KingAtheist Older millennials (like me) are pushing 40, but hey, I remember the Emo/Scene era on My Space. Same shit, different decade lol

[@marisawojcikiewicz8148]

Whats interesting to me is I never see straight sized people complaining about the BMI chart. I am a size 10-12 but my BMI is 33 (5’5”; 200lbs). I’ve always been heavier than I look because I have a lot of muscle, but I definitely could stand to lose some weight because I don’t feel or look how I want to. I know I’ll never be in the “healthy” BMI range, as I was even technically overweight as a teen athlete, but seeing my BMI is now in the obese range motivated me to start making changes. I’m down 6lbs :)

[@ascent8487]

Congratulations on improving your health!

[@astridmaack4516]

Oh yeah, bmi can only do so much. I’m glad you’re working on improving yourself, but please never stick to just the bmi chart. BMI can be a guide, but that’s all it is

[@Banana34598]

To all my friends in the comments who also have CPTSD- i SEE you and I’m SO proud of you! Facing your trauma and choosing to put in the daunting, difficult work is incredibly courageous. Choosing to face the fear, the hurt and the pain is so strong. I believe in you; and know you will continue to make waves as you build yourself back up into the beautiful, loved, valid person you were always destined to be!

[@viol3tsparrow]

Disassociation is also known as "spacing out" or "zoning out" to the extreme. It is like you are no longer present on this world and have gone elsewhere. Many people with anxiety and PTSD experience it and it's scary and awful. Things don't feel real, it's confusing and weird. DID sufferers experience it to a much more severe degree but it is still pretty awful for many others. THIS chick though... She's an actual snowflake. If you are triggered by information about your health saying negative things about... Your health... That says you have a serious problem.

[@Cec9e13]

Okay, so like say you're driving and all of a sudden the car is disproportionately big around you, everything outside is two dimensional, and it feels like you're trying to steer inside of an arcade driving game. Does disassociation fit that? Because I've read so many descriptions and have never been exactly certain, because there's also depersonalization, derealization... And I don't understand any of them. But four long blocks of city driving with that going on was terrifying.

[@Giruga905]

@@Cec9e13 yes that could definitely fit. Some people might also just say you’re zoning out. I think a differentiator between the zone out and the dissociation is the latter usually happens in a higher stress situation or to a person that already has a another disorder like anxiety, depression or ptsd etc. as a form of a coping mechanism. I’m not sure if you’re describing your experience in the comment but I would say zoning out for that long would no longer be just that but a bit of dissociation. Try to remember if there were any stressors or other circumstances in that situation that might’ve triggered it

[@bmck-8400]

This is like being triggered by a blood pressure chart. Even an eye chart or any other general informational chart can be triggering. I actually need that information. It triggers me to be more aware.

[@Verethill18]

I do get triggered by eye charts actually 🤔

[@Lim0n41k]

​@@Verethill18 It doesn't trigger you if you don't see it

[@Verethill18]

@@Lim0n41k Genius 🤣

[@strawberryj3lly]

I freaking hate the eye chart and that stupid house!

[@corym.m.3084]

I need a trigger warning for these people. It obviously wasn’t that triggering if she was more than willing to look at it again and make a video about it. As someone who literally lost family to breast cancer, how can you sit there and compare your fat to cancer.

[@yesterdayitrained]

Oh my, I am so sorry. And yes, everything is constantly being so blown out of proportion, and labeled- words have no meaning anymore. It’s offensive, uncaring, and exhausting. Sending you and your family love.

[@briannac2231]

You’re right, that was so ignorant and selfish of her. I’m sorry for your loss

[@livyann2143]

It's incredibly infuriating for me to see this stuff honestly (no not "triggering"). I've got a terminal illness and am disabled. These people who otherwise would be decently healthy (in general, obviously some fat people have serious illnesses unrelated to weight) are eating themselves into death, disability, illness and chronic pain. IF ONLY my disease could be cured by the methods available to help weight loss these days, I would be cured. If all it took was sticking to a diet supported by other things, I'd be fucking cured! Not to mention, they place an incredibly unfair burden on ALL healthcare systems, especially those who refuse to manage their chronic issues properly (think T2D constantly in the hospital for unmanaged blood sugar or complications from it like open wounds). I've had to share a hospital room with a woman who was easily 400lbs. She would scream at the nurses to get her more food, she was on a controlled diet there because of T2D that she wouldn't control at home. Made my life and the nurses lives hell. I've forced to go sit in a chair in the hall instead of staying in the ER bed/room I was in because one of these patients couldn't fit/sit in a chair and had to be transferred straight onto a hospital bed. Wasn't more acute than me, I overheard it all. Symptoms were "knee pain". I had a bad kidney infection and was hooked up to antibiotic drops in the hallway until I got admitted an hour and a half later. These peoples choices DO impact others. There's just SO MUCH out there these days to help weight loss and make it sustainable. There's plenty of new medications that based on the literature are actually very sustainable and surprisingly effective. There's surgery and non invasive procedures like the balloon, again very effective and are pretty sustainable when followed up with proper care. There's therapy to change your mindset and stop emotional eating (which it seems like most of these people already are in therapy, they'd just have to let the therapist actually work with them on this) and also help solidify habits. Not to mention exercise and just simply figuring out how many calories it takes to be in deficit and then sticking with it!

[@rokdenzic4923]

Your scream when your character got afraid of seeing the bmi chart really made me laugh hard. Thank you for that!

[@kaybriannejohnson8134]

Michelle disassociateing isn't just part of DID. The definition is the disconnection or separation of something from something else or the state of being disconnected. Meaning that your body may be present but your mind could be on something else and not present in the situation almost the same thing as "zoning out" literally anyone can "dissociate" from a situation. Love your videos ❤

[@MichelineLeoxo]

7:57 actually Michelle my husband is a RN and his dad is a doctor. They are taught now to not even mention weight loss unless someone brings it up. My own doctor didn’t mention anything about my weight until I mentioned I wanted to lose weight then the flood gates of weight loss information and how I’m fucking up came out of his mouth which I appreciated. But I was also like god damn why didn’t he say this before. My point is doctors are being taught to not say things about weight or a lot of other things these days just in case it triggers you. Wild!

[@MichelineLeoxo]

@Bella that’s absolutely insane. My issue is I have any the same energy for both. Wow I’m sorry you went through that it sounds like torture

[@snowpanther7076]

My dad is a doctor (not American). Doctors here don't care and will tell you to lose weight, and they'll even suggest medicine to induce appetite if necessary (I've have to use that before). My dad says he couldn't do his degree over because of all this nonsense

[@ceci1202]

That's crazy! I'm a RN and I still discuss weight loss with patients. I focus more on using terminology that addresses health maintenance and try to find teaching moments as much as I can. When I do that, patients are more inclined to listen to my suggestions.

[@briannemarie9214]

@@MichelineLeoxo that just be in his hospital/area. Definitely not the case in the hospitals here

[@MichelineLeoxo]

@@briannemarie9214 we’re in Oregon so this makes sense

[@cosmicbreath]

As someone who used to be on the high end of "Overweight" on the BMI chart, it was really helpful figuring how much I had to lose and what my ideal range should be!

[@tellmedelmy]

Not a fan of clowns but I am a fan of you clowning people who act like clowns, so here I am!!

[@NataliaHerrera-ul4gq]

It’s been hard for me to watch the video. I look away while she’s on screen and just listen. 😅

[@EctoBabble]

Im so tired of people who just dissociate saying they have DID, and it has been so trendy to have DID on tiktok lately. Its true triggers can be just about anything, but triggers arent just when you feel 'uncomfortable' either. It took me years to get help and years of therapy and it makes me angry to see everything on tiktok trivialized

[@andrewgray5275]

It’s crazy how people can be so willing to know they have this or that mental disorder but aren’t willing to accept they have an eating disorder. They really do appropriate real mental health disorders to shield themselves like a cloak from any form of criticism.

[@Blueell]

There are dissociative disorders other than DID that do not involve having other personalities and dissociation can be a symptom of PTSD or an acute reaction to a traumatic event (this is the most common timing for it to occur during). However, the word dissociation is DRASTICALLY overused and said as if it means something that it actually doesn’t and I am not convinced that this woman legitimately dissociated at the doctors office either.

[@Noname99903]

That’s because words don’t mean anything anymore. They simultaneously mean everything else that don’t even any correlation with the original word. Like take woman for example, they said we HAVE TO say person who can menstruate …but not all women do so they had to come up with something else, then that didn’t work either because the further they went the more exclusive they became and we all know that we cannot exclude anyone …we are at “cis woman” at the moment. Same thing with PTSD… it literally means everything but what it was originally meant to mean. And round we go …😤😤😤😤😤😤😤😤

[@Blueell]

@@Noname99903 Yeah, I feel bad for people who do have PTSD who have a hard time being believed or taken seriously because of it. DID as well. It’s rare but some people really do suffer from it and now when they go to get help therapists are automatically suspicious because of the amount of people who come in pretending to have it. I’ve been frustrated lately that nearly all of my friends claim to dissociate and what most of them mean is they experience some level emotional numbness sometimes or they’re like….literally having a normal reaction to stress. But when I try to tell them that’s not what that means I’m the bad guy. Bro, I thought letting you know that this is normal and you aren’t actually dissociating would be good news!

[@OfWomenAndFiction]

to add to your point dissociation is also something that isn't necessarily indicative of any mental illness! People forget that dissociation happens to all of us in our everyday lives (e.g., forgetting how you got home, if you locked the door, turned off the stove) just live being anxious or sad sometimes. People are indeed very quick to claim normal human experiences as evidence for mental illness :(.

[@JulietteKernDiamond]

Ten years ago I couldn't find any info online about My condition now everyone's got it. no one except my partner and closest friends even knows because I'm not making it my identity.

[@coffeebean4141]

@@Blueell My friend is exactly like this.. Diagnosed HERSELF with borderline Personality disorder, depression, anxiety, ED.. Etc.. I don't use words like this when I explain how I feel. I do go numb for days, no emotions, barely recognize that I'm actually at work, but I refuse to name it since I haven't had it diagnosed. I break down whenever I go into a social situation (Like walking to the store I start shaking uncontrollably and my legs start shaking) But I DO NOT diagnose myself with anything. I don't even say I feel anxious because people will drop to their knees and try to help? It really brings attention away from those truly suffering with these..

[@Mariposam_]

I had a gastric sleeve done yesterday and watching your videos while I recuperate has been exactly the fun and motivational content I need while starting the new journey - Love you Michelle!!

[@jenniferdaulby5519]

Hope your recovery is uneventful Sam. I'm sure your journey will be successful & you'll love it when you get to your target weight. Best wishes from Australia 🇦🇺 ❤

[@veravida24]

Bless you Sam, hope your dreams for a healthier body come true! ❤️😊

[@miro554]

i agree with everything in this video. only about the dissociation thing; i suffer from both anxiety and ptsd (all diagnosed by a doctor as an outcome of years of therapy). i also suffer from dissociation due to anxiety. its not the same as DID, which is dissociative disorder whereas dissociation is usually linked to anxiety disorders and/or trauma (edit: correcting my dumbass)

[@mygenderisdje]

DID is not a personality disorder. It’s a dissociative disorder.

[@miro554]

@@mygenderisdje thank you for the correction!!

[@lesleeparker5828]

I feel like people with actual mental disorders don't openly use them as an excuse or clout. I hide my mental disorders a lot except with my husband. My husband is the only person that knows me and understands me on a level that he's able to cope with me and I him. Trauma is a real thing that cases real life problems long term, everything that happened to me happened when I was young. I'm obese and things like this have never been triggering. I'm heavy because I ate away my problems and I'm trying to deal with them the best I can now and have successfully lost 24 lbs. Everything is an excuse now. There are no real excuses, even people missing limbs manage to exercise.

[@andydogdad4349]

the narcissistic mindset of these people thinking they are soooooo much smarter than a literal DOCTOR is mind boggling

[@littlekitten8690]

I think sometimes I’m so disconnected from to US after living in a different country for so long, I kinda drop my jaw at times. Compared to US doctors, German doctors are so straight forward and tell you what you need to to do ( in a nice but direct way). You feel bad for a couple of minutes but once they call out what they see, reflect and you honestly can’t argue with them anymore. Also, I haven’t since BMI charts in rooms (maybe that’s just my doctors office) but I guess that’s because the health care here is awesome and is unneeded if your doctor is going to be straight up with you. If any posters, it’s posters that get you thinking and want to go home, research and think about it

[@xxxmelissatacionxxx]

They probably dont have posters like that around in the doctors office because they don't have as much of a national issue with weight?

[@TheMissileHappy]

They definitely are very straight forward here, but sadly I now some very insecure German people who are offended by that. An obese friend of mine got pregnant and her gyn told her it would be healthier for her and the baby to lose weight. She complained about that comment to me forever 🙄 I just said: well, it's true.

[@dpaono13]

Enjoyed the video and i agree with you on everything except your point about "dissociation." When someone says that they've dissociated it usually doesn't have anything to do with DID (Dissociative Identity Disorder). People with Anxiety Disorders can experience dissociation as a symptom, specifically depersonilization and derealization. I have social anxiety and in very stressfull situations i'll usually have a panic attack but sometimes i've dissociated. It usually happens to me when a stressfull event presents itself suddenly, whereas with a panic attack it's from a gradual increase in anxiety until it reaches a tipping point. Instead of the shaking, heart racing and sweating from a panic attack, dissociating feels like a numb floating feeling, almost like you've disconnected from your own body. You should look into the connection between dissociation and anxiety if you want to learn more about it.

[@CxDubxU]

I weighed close to 180 in December last year and my BMI was overweight. I bought a home gym and started working out. I'm down to 155 and my BMI is in normal. Looks like it works pretty well to me

[@slimeyolo]

What’s ur height

[@CxDubxU]

@@slimeyolo I'm tall enough to where at 180 pounds I'm overweight but at 155 I'm normal. Hope that answers your question

[@shopece8807]

I'm 164 and still overweight at my height wearing a size 8. Even if I lost another 20 I'd still be at the highest end of the normal weight if I super strictly followed the BMI chart. It's a great guide tho. It's taken almost 3 yrs going from just shy of 300 to where I am now which it probably why it bothers me when people like that TikToker say it doesn't matter at all. It's not gospel but it's hardly worthless.

[@marybean2231]

I'm 5'8, at the same. Working down to 150, wish me luck

[@CanopusLux]

@@marybean2231 good luck, I'm 175, started from 220. 150 is my goal as well

[@canopusdincarena]

Hey, Michelle! I love your content, your lucidity and the way you articulate your thoughts and your discourse. I just wanted to add the asterisk that dissociation is a phenomenon that can occur in many mental disorders and even without a specific mental disorder. DID (dissociative identity disorder) refers to what before was called Multiple Personality Disorder (like in the movie "Split" or the alleged case of the criminal Bill Milligan). As time went by, psychiatry focused more on the aspect of dissociation than that of multiple personalities, so that is why that disorder has the current name. So when someone refers to dissociation, it does not imply that they have DID. Thank you for all your content, this is the first time that I ever commented on any of your videos cause I'm not the type, I hope it's not weird. 🤗🙃

[@SalymStreams]

I love your channel. I'm obese with health issues (much SHOCK right?) and you've helped educate me on how to have a real discussion with my doctor on binge eating and how to change my life and get healthy while I'm still young. Thank you!

[@hannixn]

good luck 💗

[@annamaul4062]

If you're tryingnto lose weight and can't, absolutely tell your doctor b/c it happened to me and it turns out i had/have thyroid cancer which was messing with my hormones. DID and disassociating are 2 diff things though. I think people misuse it too often though.

[@nicholnunn8074]

Hope you have recovered from your cancer and are doing well!

[@annamaul4062]

@@nicholnunn8074 thanks, it's ongoing. Just had another biopsy and expect a third surgery sometime this year.

[@captainchaosxx3866]

My doctor treated me like a dipshit, former powerlifter and personal trainer here.

[@majorkatesuragi1582]

Michelle I like your content, but I will say that anxiety definitely can affect your heart rate. I’m not obese, and my heart rate usually is around 60-70. But when I’m at the doctors, I get so damn anxious that it goes up to 100-110. Not because of trauma, just because I get anxious in general. I’m diagnosed with anxiety and this is one of the most common symptoms I get.

[@spacetypo]

guys, i think Michelle figured out that dissociating isn't necessarily related to DID 💀 you can stop commenting now. cool contacts btw! they really complete the look.

[@BlessedEternally1]

I think the first sentiment out of her mouth…”just got out of the psych ward,” says EVERYTHING. Do not take advice from mentally unwell people.

[@noah1502]

people wanna get rid of things that personally hurt their feelings, even if those things keep others safe.

[@amberwolf2613]

14:23. Hey! Just wanna let you know, when you have a panic attack, sometimes you do disassociate. You do not need to have DID or multiple personality disorder! I have PTSD from emotional abuse and when I get triggered and stressed from memories, I disosoctiate. For me I can't remember where I am and recognize people's names. My brain goes full auto pilot. I do not have DID. Just wanted to let you know. Love your channel girl. And that clown cosplay slayssssss. 😊💜

[@freekjedenturk5866]

I have been trying to lose weight. My BMI went from 34,2 and now 28,7. It took me a year with hypothyroidism. It's hard but I feel a good difference between overweight and obese.

[@TheCaznut]

Sitting here dreading having to get up and work out for 45min.. and then this video gives me the kick up the bum I needed. Thank you Michelle!

[@kattycat193]

as someone with severe PTSD it PISSES me off that people use "triggers" as something they are just personally not comfortable with and also treat it as something that if it "triggers' you, that thing needs to go away. My PTSD can be triggered by anything, words, locations, sounds, ect. you dont see me going around telling people that it needs to go away or be removed for everyone else. I remove myself from the situation and try to calm down. Also just because something upsets you personally doesnt mean it is doing actual harm or damage. A chart explaining if you are overweight or not isnt harmful or damaging, now making fun of someone simply because they are overweight is, but thats not what the chart said. Theres a difference between fact and harmful.

[@JanJanKnows]

What I learned, is that the only people who get ofended by diets, exercise, BMI or weight loss, even other people losing weight or the truth, are the people who are the most unhealthy by choice that scream the opposite. Like, my dad said, “nena, lose weight you look fat” and everyone was like 👁👄👁 My reaction was like, “he is damn right” and now I’m losing weight.

[@snowwonder9814]

2500 calories is a lot! I was super active 5’4” 125 pound woman in college (biked everywhere, often on hilly terrain, and often at a speedy pace due to a busy schedule) and my average for my last year of college was about 2500 daily! My lazy days during this time had me burning about 1800-1900 calories and my busy days I reached low 3000. If women smaller than me and much more sedentary than me are being told 2500 is maintenance, no wonder they are gaining weight! People have become so disconnected from what normal and healthy should be!

[@xdani_thethinkingneko]

I was told in high school and middle school, that 2500 calories was a maintenance calorie amount for an adult women. which is so wild too me. I live a pretty sedentary lifestyle because I work from home and struggle with chronic illnesses. So I eat around 1500-1800 calories to stay around 125-130 lbs @ 5'3". No wonder why when I eat more, I literally start to blow up to 140(which is very noticeable on my height) everyone always tells me I don't eat enough, but I'm glad that now I know I am.

[@atruthseeker79]

I didn't hear her say she has D.I.D. I heard her say she dissociated, which is very common. It happened to me maybe twice in my life when I was depressed in middle school and I didn't have D.I.D. I was also completely aware of the experience and no "identity" took over. I just felt separated from body. I think this can happen in conjunction with many different mental health conditions or disorders. Not sure but a person definitely doesn't need to have D.I.D to dissociate. I think if she really did dissociate as a result of this she needs help.

[@atruthseeker79]

@Professeuse Chaos ​ true. They think they know though, and are either unintentionally perpetuating misinformation, or making themselves look silly to people who know better. I'm sure they always get called out though.

[@djkb125]

I’m 9 months pregnant and this is literally the first time in my life the BMI chart hasn’t applied to me. I honestly can’t wait for it to apply to me again!!

[@girlboss6654]

girl i love u so much 🙏🙏finally someone who makes videos ending the fatties and isn’t also a bigot

[@perkysnood]

I'm 5'1 (5'2 on a good day) and my body type i look best at around 130-140. a couple years ago i got up to 180 from a very sedentary lifestyle while working on my masters and just couldn't get rid of the weight. Last year, I began watching my calories (1200 a day) and worked out 5 times a week and got down to 150 in around 6 months. I'm now down to 140 today and feel so much better both mentally and physically. sure the BMI thing isn't the best for all body types but it definitely helps know how much you need to work on.

[@jenniferdaulby5519]

If she found the BMI chart triggering, I sincerely hope she never requires any knee or hip surgery (her knees are probably screaming anyway). My Orthopaedic Surgeon requires you to be a certain BMI & 80kgs (for me) or under or he just won't operate because the success of knee surgery, in particular, is increased being at these parameters.

[@meganhoward7093]

As another 5’2 hobbit sized woman thank you. People are always comparing my maintenance calories amount to a toddlers and trying to say it’s not enough that I should be eating up to 2100 when they themselves are far from what their weight should be. At 127 pounds I do not look underweight

[@noni4315]

"The bmi chart means nothing" I'm sure Eugenia Cooney feels the same way.

[@chefssaltybawlz]

Eeeeeeeeee 💀💀💀💀💀💀 lmfao

[@CajunGators]

Jesusssssss 😂😂😂😂😂

[@AliciaTheTroonSlayer]

I just choked on my mcchicken lmfao

[@CynthiaNotG]

Outta pocket 😭😭😭😭

[@ky4864]

That poor girl and her poor followers. So sad to watch!

[@insanityismynormalcy]

Love your videos! I popped in to say that people with DID are not the only people who dissociate. In fact, it can happen to neurotypical mentally healthy people as well, a lot of people describe dissociation as having an "out of body experience." I have PTSD and dissociate after panic attacks frequently. All of this being said, your triggers are your own issue and if you can't handle a BMI chart on the wall that's your own problem, not society's.

[@kayleyrandall7542]

My BMI is 26 so I'm overweight. I have gained weight because of frequent small snacks rather than huge meals. Im working on eating less snacks throughout the day and I've lost some weight so far. It feels good but it is hard. Watching these types of videos make me motivated more than anything else,!! So thank you!! It literally makes my stomach hurt to watch mukbangs and such because I can't imagine eating so much at once and it makes me sad to see people blissfully unaware about their weight.

[@jillgarittagoatgirl-expose2759]

Huge meals are not good...You should be eating frequent small meals instead..

[@queenseabee8113]

I hear the "BMI isn't even accurate..." from even my family. *eye roll* when will people learn that it's one of many tools?

[@catgirl6803]

I hear it from my doctor. My BMI is obese and I was going crazy trying to lose weight and nothing was working unless I brought my calories down to 700 a day and exercised every day. Then I would get lightheaded. And my doctor was like you’re not overweight. Ignore the BMI. I was 178 when BMI says I should be 140. Now I’m 195 trying to get back to 178.

[@queenseabee8113]

@@catgirl6803 yeah. The BMI is just one of many tools. It shouldn't be the focus. Just like hight/weight measurements, blood pressure, etc. That's why every knowledgeable person says consult your primary doctor for help.

[@mamaj4002]

Michelle, this is one of my faves!👏👏👏 I agree with pretty much everything you said in this video.. So many of these people in the body positivity community live in their own little toxic reality. Instead of them complaining and attempting to have doctors take down the BMI charts, maybe they can read a book to distract themselves from their urge to look at the chart at doctor's appointments. That way the people who want to lose weight can still benefit from the damn chart! Those charts have helped save countless lives. I love how you say it how it is Michelle!😈

[@chantelleyvonne1648]

As a person with mental health issues. She pisses me off. Her pulse was 100 lmao. I have a fear of doc offices and Actual fear! My pulse is like 130 sometimes above. They almost sent me to the er once bc my bp was so high. I can’t stand when people abuse mental health. K rent over 😘😘

[@eliaspittman]

That bmi chart started at 18.5% for underweight and also for normal weight??? !!!! 18.5% !!! That’s f*****g crazy !!!!

[@afeministandafangirl928]

9:28 Lmao, that was so freaking random, the way it made me CACKLE 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@missbola1997]

When I was in the army I was considered overweights because of the BMI chart. But I passed taping. Now I’m actually overweight and I can tell the difference. I went from being very slender and fits to having a lot of excess fat all around my stomach. I don’t know why people get triggered by the BMI chart because it can be very helpful. And if you think that the BMI chart is an in accurate representation of your Health you can always tape yourself.

[@Youkodoll19]

The only thing the BPM is consistent in is not taking accountability for their own habits. Notice how in every single video there is alway something that triggered them or upset them or cause them an ED or it was this person's fault or society has to cater to their needs

[@jordannea]

I kind of get it when it comes to BMI/ height to weight charts. When I was a senior in high school, the health class teacher took everyone's weight and height from 6 classes, and then posted them next to what BMI / height weight ratio you fell under. For all 300 high school students to see. At 5'2 and 130 lbs I was deemed "grossly obese". The fact that I was solid muscle and had less then 9% body fat was completely lost on ruthless high school students. All they saw was that I was put next to "grossly obese", and boy did they make my life an even bigger hell than they had already made it the previous 4 years. As a kid, what your peers say about you can matter just as much as what you can physically see in the mirror. And let's face it, junior high and high school aged kids are dicks. So I think that sometimes showing a BMI / height to weight chart can be unhealthy. But in a Dr's office, no that is where they should most definitely be.

[@jorilysmatos69]

But for 5'2" 130lbs isn't that high. If you were an inch taller you'd be at a healthy weight.

[@savage.4.24]

I was 'obese' at 5'3" being able to lift 400 lbs. I only weighed 180. With hair past my ass. And i am a woman with large boobs. The doctor laughed and pulled out ways to calculate athlete bmi.....

[@annalieff-saxby568]

That's the fault of the teacher, not the chart.

[@cordeliawl]

If your teacher took your 5'2" height and 130lbs weight and labeled it "grossly obese" they were very bad at math.... You would have had a BM! of 23.8 which is within the healthy range (18.5-25). I guess they could have been using some other height weight chart than the BMI, but I can't imagine any that would make that "grossly obese."

[@LAutobusbus]

(just fyi you can dissociate without having did) (but nowadays ppl use it as an umbrella term for "i was feeling faint/uncomfortable/i zoned out/ect) (i liked the video btw)

[@avres13]

A year ago I started PD dialysis because my immune system attacked my kidneys. I’m on a list for transplant and one of the requirements is to keep a healthy weight. The reason being is because when they give you a new kidney they put it behind your right rib. The more excess weight you have the higher the risk of fatal infection. They keep bmi charts along with other kidney/dialysis charts up in the office. I also learned while being trained to do home dialysis that most patients have type two diabetes and they have show they can not only control there weight but their blood sugar levels to qualify for transplant.

[@Blueashes67]

….a real triggering experience was me as a college age student being told I weighed slightly too much, at 5’2 and 113lbs (at a doctors office…specifically a gyno office that was heavy on pushing aesthetic services so that should’ve been a red flag). Cue like a decade of body dysmorphia 🙃

[@v0miiitt]

That’s horrible! I’m so sorry. It’s insane cause I’m 5’2 and 120lbs. My BMI is around 21 which is considered normal. You weren’t overweight at all!

[@slimeyolo]

113lbs?!?!?! Bro ur so thin the audacity to call u obese tho

[@sparkle0859]

I'm so confused, how is 5'2 113 lbs even close to overweight?? That gyno sucks and has no idea what they're talking about.

[@charlottesmom]

That sucks! I was 107 lbs @5'3" up until I got pregnant at 26 my doctor kept telling me to "put on a few" so there is no frigging way you were anywhere near "slightly too much" 😩

[@Statutum]

I think intentionally developing a trigger out of hatred for what it represents is a disservice to everyone else with non-intentional triggers. A BMI chart trigger is nothing compared to a PTSD response based on actual trauma in their lives.

[@paulbuschman]

Just this morning my brother texted me about seeing a BMI chart in his doctors office and his surprise that his 15 year old son who runs the 110 hurdles and has a 6 pack was considered overweight. Great timing.

[@rachelmbokane5789]

There is a video of a man she included here that says if your tummy is flat (pregnant women excluded), then BMI doesn't apply to you... and also, muscles are heavier than fat..

[@CanopusLux]

You also have to include fat and muscle mass, not just the weight in general

[@cyber_cober6679]

These videos make me want to be even more healthier than before and maintain my current weight and do more exercise because i dont ever want to end up in a situation where i'd be triggered about such things like bmi charts. I've been fat before and I was miserable and i'm still overweight but even after the 15kg weight loss partly due to depression made me feel much better physically. Even when i was fat i never made any excuses or demanded to remove things that would make me feel bad. I knew myself that I can do something about my weight and never made any excuses, if i wanted to lose weight, then I could do so. Your directness and pure honesty in your videos is admirable.

[@tmden4020]

The point of recognizing triggers is so you can self reflect about how and why that happened. To better react in the future and know what issues you need to unpack. There are some things that are better to avoid (gore, representations of trama and abuse) but she needs to reflect on why she cares so much about something she doesn't believe in.

[@JosieGrace]

As a fat person trying to lose weight the BMI chart is absolutely a thing I need to look at. It is a measurement of where I am, along with talking to my doctor. These people need to get over themselves or they will die. Maybe it is natural selection 🤔

[@cheekofeather6310]

I'm on the overweight category for BMI- despite having 36GG boobs on a 5ft2 frame, work out everyday and only eat good food when I'm hungry. I'm not triggered, it's standardised for the standard person. I am not standard. I know if I didn't have a significant muscle mass, short stature and huge boobs I'd be in the 'normal' category. It's a piece of paper at the end of the day. I swear people fight to be 'traumatised' by anything these days xxxxx

[@paulinap7112]

If you have 36' underbust on such a short frame you are overweight for sure

[@K3ROKO]

I agree. BMI is useful in some cases. I have one bad experience with BMI. For background, I have always been quite lean, active and somewhat fit and never been overweight. But one time when I was just before my teens, a school health care worker said I was overweight, even though it was only slightest chubbiness in my stomach that all kids have, I know for a fact I was not overweight and I was a healthy kid and it was fully visible. After that puberty hit me and I had growth spurt. Right after I was skinny ofc because of the sudden growth, then my health care worker said I was too skinny and really underweight. That really messed me up, I was really young and the health care worker just looked at the numbers and did not explain or even understand herself that the fluctuating weight is normal when you enter your puberty. My parents were also really mad about how the health care worker just looked into the BMI numbers and not about the reality and facts and how I looked. Gladly my parents knew better and they explained to me how teenage bodies work and it was perfectly normal to be a bit softer when pre-teen and super skinny after puberty growth spurt.

[@carolinelueken2521]

Dissociation doesn't necessarily mean becoming another personality. It can also be defined as feeling like you're not in reality or you're in a dream. It is not just DID. It can just be an anxiety thing. I know I get it! Especially when I'm scared for an exam. But great video you're awesome!

[@xdani_thethinkingneko]

Glad someone else caught that lol A lot of people just must not understand what dissociation is, and that it isn't always related to DID.😢

[@sb-tb1oh]

I LOVE that the McDonald's female clown is Back !!! I loved "clown week"! And also, my favorite, when Malificent made an appearance 💞

[@neuroticgurl0295]

“after i got out of the psych ward” is a great sentence prefix for me to not believe you about anything health related ❤❤

[@markalexander3659]

While the BMI chart doesn't accurately reflect EVERYONE - Michelle herself is a good example, she's said that the BMI chart puts her as overweight, but obviously she just had more MUSCLE than most people and not any excess body fat - it does apply to 90%+ of the population. If you are very muscular, or either extremely tall or extremely short, it won't work for you, but for the vast majority of people it does.

[@Sina-aka-potatosupreme]

I totally agree. When you are in a certain "normal" hight and muscle mass spectrum then BMI applies to you. I hate that so many think their are the exception when they are not.

[@sparkle0859]

Curious, what do you mean by extremely tall/short? I'm 5'0, does that put me under "extremely short"?

[@markalexander3659]

@@sparkle0859 No. I meant clinically, which I think is classified as under 4"9.

[@becchoffie]

That's true, once when I had lost some weight I thought it was something good but then I noticed afterwards that I had gained some fat instead and lost some muscle weight. Someone who is like Michelle is obviously very healthy.

[@Cec9e13]

I saw the BMI chart fail once - though I don't blame the chart, but the WIC nurse who was fixated on it and apparently hadn't heard a word I said. If a mom says, "I'm concerned my toddler isn't eating enough - I can count his ribs and vertebrae," and you look at the BMI chart and it looks like he's maaaaaybe overweight - well, maaaaaybe look at the kid in front of you. Had a toddler who was ALL. MUSCLE.

[@QManagerin]

people (especially a real medical doctor) can tell even without the BMI chart if you are obese. That's just to translate it into numbers for better understanding how severe the issue is. Do these fat positive individuals think we are blind? 🙈

[@nicholnunn8074]

😂😂😂

[@Q-Lady]

When my doc told me I was in the morbidly obese section of the list I took that as a sign to get healthy..... I don't understand today's generation.....