BODY GOALS. How did we go from THIS.... to THIS...?! Toxic beauty standards.

[@stephanielange]

Seems that some people are misunderstanding the whole point of this video. I am not skinny shaming. I am skinny. I have been all of my life. I’ve also been shamed for it (as I said in the video). I was on medication when I was younger to help me gain weight which I’ve spoken about in other videos too. I would never shame anyone else’s body. Not skinny, not curvy. The whole point of this video is that beauty standards are constantly changing. How can we go from this... to this - in a few short decades? I am not saying one body type is preferable. Respect and adore your body no matter what the current standards are as we are all made differently. ⚡️

[@phoebsc5993]

Sterling work and much needed in today's society. A huge thanks and thumbs up)

[@kleinesalaska666]

Thank you for this Video.:)

[@Tara-._.-]

Amazing how standards change so quickly, yes! Love our bodies no matter what!

[@alisonleigh100]

There will always be people online who misunderstand the message or just want to argue or hate. Don’t worry! Great video!

[@bunnygirl-9480]

ITS OKAY STEPHANIE! WE GOT YOU! What's funny is that every human body is constantly fluctuating and changing. beauty standards give the impression that one must maintain and be at the same size forever when that is just not possible. open ya eyes people! people wanna sell all this "get fit quick" or "lose weight in 2 weeks" or "get a flat belly in 7 days with a supplement" shit just to profit from your insecurities!!!!!!! dont let the beauty standards fool you and make you lose yourself! youre all beautiful just the way that you are. the real beauty is in appreciating others beauty without dismissing your own. trust me, you are beautiful, whoever is reading this :)

[@lindahayman9150]

Norway just signed into law a requirement that all “influencers” mark any videos or photos that have any filters or have been retouched or readjusted in any way so as not to mislead people and most importantly to encourage body positivity among young people. I really hope this catches on in other countries!

[@Simplelivingslowliving]

Wow that's amazing. Imagine if the USA did that.

[@Someone-sl4zq]

Frickin awesome 👏🏻 I have friends looking at Kylie Jenner expecting to compare and I’m like 😠😑 after the 314th explanation about how much they edit that 💩

[@idk-gy1bk]

Oh I didn't even know that and I live in Norway

[@lily444]

Like they can acctually check up on that -__-. If you dont accept yourself dont go on social media where people use their bodys for work.

[@kevinjacob6318]

@@Someone-sl4zq My ex had an amazing hourglass figure. There are women with good genetics.

[@iampomegranates]

I remember being a kid when freckles were considered “ugly.” Then a few years later people were taking time out of their mornings just to paint little freckles on their faces. Same with curly hair, red hair and big butts. It’s ridiculous that we’re all shuffling our relationship with our bodies around because of a higher power who decides what’s beautiful and what isn’t.

[@michaelsperson4856]

Exactly 😭 sadly though I am bigger but have a tiny butt somehow and just small/average boobs and average everything just am bigger

[@cinthyamorales9605]

Omg i get What you mean. I didn't like my lips When i was younger because they were thicker than What was the beauty standard at the time (I don't know how to call them), and now people even get fillers to get them,which is crazy to think about, how something that Was your insecurity was now considered beautiful. 😃👍 Beauty standards suck

[@elool9435]

@@michaelsperson4856 same!! Thick eyebrows here.

[@tesstickle6462]

@@elool9435 I over plucked my beautiful thick brows to hell back in the day. My mom should have stopped me...but now to this day I can't grow my natural brows back to save my life. My daughter has the beautiful thick brows and I would never let her thin them out because of a trend while she's in middle school 🤣

[@elool9435]

@@tesstickle6462 yes,teach her to love what makes her unique no matter what anyone says💌🍂

[@Simplelivingslowliving]

The amount of harm the Kardashians have done to body image blows my mind

[@xxxmoonlightxxx4820]

So? Let them be

[@bunnylollie]

ikr- they are so unrealistic its beyond me

[@daddysponge4764]

@@xxxmoonlightxxx4820 it’s horrible how they made an appetite suppressing lollipop because it makes young girls think oh if i eat this i won’t be hungry so i’ll lose weight to look like the other girls. that is how an ed starts and as someone who struggled with anorexia and body dysmorphia it isn’t ok

[@aryasalunke6191]

@@daddysponge4764 i know sis

[@Jake-eh5zl]

There are genetically blessed women with hourglass bone structures and fat distributions.

[@ahuvaspiegel]

I have literally been saying this for years: Have you ever taken a second to think about the fact that our BODY PARTS go in and out of style?? Who decided that exactly? Bodies are not dresses, you can't just switch the skin your in. Us all being different is what makes the world beautiful

[@amirahelechi7113]

111😊

[@sueblack5794]

I think with most people being overweight now in America can't see the ultra skinny thing coming back anytime soon. Maybe with really young girls but not women. That ship has sailed. Trends also happen by what it actually happening in society.

[@isabellarose6514]

@The Antagonist no

[@DrJ-hx7wv]

No they don't.

[@x___3scap3r3ality___x6]

@@DrJ-hx7wv yes

[@walqqr1]

Back in Marilyn's time, girls that were too skinny and tall were considered unattractive. I come from a Latin American country where the beauty ideal is a more fit body with a big butt. I got made fun of growing up for being too skinny with a small butt. No matter our body shape, we can never win, there will always be people trying to bring us down.

[@Yadejameenpaz263]

Soy latinoamericana y si, como soy alta y delgada "sin tener de donde agarrar" me hicieron tremenda burla escolar

[@mariaangelicapadillajulio5884]

Ay exactamente lo mismo conmigo… y lo peor es que hasta la propia familia te dice que comas mas o hasta te obliga a comer😣

[@omao4938]

@@Yadejameenpaz263 Igual, que todos se jodan en serio.

[@lesliealeman9541]

same I still get judged for being skinny

[@hailchan]

so true :(

[@slk9862]

Body shapes are so individualistic that there shouldn't be any trends at all. It's simply not healthy to gain/lose weight just to fit a specific image. Most of the past trends were defined by men anyways and I think we can all agree that we've overcome those days.

[@stephanielange]

THIS 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌

[@flamingodahlia3703]

That's BS, most women judge each other and influence each other more than any men have. Men used to get off on seeing women's ankles, you think men were unhappy when women started showing more. It's always been women choosing, pushing and judging to change things. We need to stop trying to blame mens for our genders failings. How can you blame all this now on men, it women pushing diarrhea teas and corsets, men hate cake face makeup but women are still choosing to contour as though their lives depend on it.

[@lionnation2258]

@@flamingodahlia3703 that's facts ppl want to put too much blame on men and act like hating men is a good thing. Ur not raising women by doing that, ur hurting another person

[@sannalatif2742]

@@flamingodahlia3703 are you kidding me??? 1. Male gaze. Eg Victoria’s secret just to name one. Source: A TEST OF OBJECTIFICATION THEORY: THE EFFECT OF THE MALE GAZE ON APPEARANCE CONCERNS IN COLLEGE WOMEN Rachel M. Calogero States: “that the male gaze can have detrimental effects on women's self-esteem and self-objectification, leading to increased body shame and a worsened mental state” 2. Failing to take women’s stories seriously. i.e big pharma. It is well known and recorded that most drugs are only tested on male patients and there is very little data on how certain symptoms present in women and therefore misdiagnoses occur. Source: Unwell Women: A Journey Through Medicine And Myth in a Man-Made World by Elinor Cleghorn 3. Gender bias Studies have shown that 90% of people are biased against women. There are no countries in the world with gender equality. Gender roles still have a long way to come to push for more women to be consultant doctors, political leaders and have a fair pay wage to their male peers. Sources: Invisible Women: Exposing Data Bias in a World Designed for Men by Caroline Criado Perez In conclusion. I agree to some extent that women are pushed to get diet teas and other dumb shit. But that’s usually endorsed by celebrities and influencers. Social media is whole other side of the internet which was also concocted by men. But that’s a story for another day. Let women live for Christ sake. If they want to wear a corset, let them wear a corset. If they want to wear heavy make up, let them wear heavy make up. Do you speak for all men when you say they hate heavy make up? If not then go and actually read a book for once and get tf outta here with your BS.

[@flamingodahlia3703]

@@sannalatif2742 1. Honestly I'm tired of women complaining about men supposedly looking at them. There are plenty of women who like men attending for one thing. For another a lot of women these days are just acting deranged trying to blame men, just because he is looking in a general direction doesn't mean he is looking at you. Also don't act like women don't stare at men, it's why Chris Evan's, chris Hemsworth's and hugh Jackman have had shirtless scenes.

[@renegadetherapper]

When I was normal, I was called fat. So I lost weight. Then I was like, oh I finally look like how society wants! Yay! But then guys left and right called me too skinny. So then I gained weight, not intentionally. And now I'm unathletic and "could lose some weight" to look better. So the lesson here is people's opinions about your body differ from person to person and their opinion really doesn't mean 💩

[@stephanielange]

Exactly this!!! We’ll never win so may as well just appreciate our own individual assets! 🔥

[@girltalkwithdeedenise9571]

I have been there.Skinny, people talked.Slim, persons talked.Put on a bit more weight,I wear a size medium or 8,persons say that I am fat!SMH.Sometimes it was the very same person talking negative about whatever weight I went to trying so hard to please him.Here is another eye opener,he was dating a female that was bigger than any of my weights and he had something to say about her size as well.I came away from that experience with a deeper appreciation for my body and whatever size I decide to allow my body to be.When I date, the person can either appreciate me as I do my best or leave me alone.I LOVE MY BODY NO MATTER WHAT.I AM HOT, I AM BEAUTIFUL

[@giuliazumba158]

Who comments on you like that?? I am happy that literally no one ever says shit like that to me (except for my asshole dad whom I cut contact with). I would punch them in their faces to remind them to mind their own business and now they don’t look attractive either with the broken nose 😡

[@misschocoholic2126]

This! Now as an adult things like this I rarely care about and let people talk whatever they want as long that I'm healthy and happy.

[@heatherrniicole1552]

You just got to do what makes you happy mama. Screw everyone else.

[@alex-xw2ol]

my mom once said to me that "Every human was made with a perfect face and body" and that day when she said that i gained a lot of confidence shout out to you mom ily!!!!

[@EM-is9ti]

This is so beautiful. Your mom is awesome.

[@ichiigo-chan]

Your mom is amazing. I hope we can all learn to accept that.

[@seameology]

I grew up with a beautiful mom. Her beauty was unobtainable for me. Messed up my view for a while. Add to that, she was 20 when I was born so she was also young. I've never seen another woman give birth to nine children, then rock a bikini. Until my daughter, another story. When I was 30, I gave up make up and dying my hair. I do not look like I belong in my family. At least I can brush my teeth and go. Something none of my sisters can do. I feel free.

[@RED-my9hl]

Beauty was always toxic even back then. What changed was beauty standards, toxiciy stayed the same.

[@mochi_la_la_la7763]

It won't even change. Toxicity will remain the same 🙄

[@franz3810]

@@mochi_la_la_la7763 this

[@idontgiveafaboutyou]

Okay but there’s nothing wrong with beauty itself

[@RED-my9hl]

@@idontgiveafaboutyou if you can read you'll see that I said "beauty standard"

[@bliglum]

Beauty standards did not change. Audrey Hepburn was another very popular actress back then. But she was very slim...

[@yudelkapaniagua2692]

I find it crazy how human beings can do this to themselves. How they make their own bodies fashion trends as if they were a piece of clothing. Society is dehumanizing itself constantly and people don't realize how damaging it is. You're bodies are not pieces of cloth people! Don't treat it like one. Please love yourselves. Be kind to each other.

[@MeJustAimy]

100%

[@OlgaRykov]

Your comment wins my heart. Finally, somebody voices the real issue! It's the self deprecation, self loathing, self objectification and then projecting that onto others and essentially doing all those things with others too. It's the mentality, the soullesness of it all.

[@mhapriso]

I really hope you don't get restricted. It's such an interesting topic to discuss.

[@Ms10yearsafter]

Agreed 👍!♡

[@rutujaubale1931]

Agreee

[@emily_martinez]

it’s not, i’m under 18 and it’s working just fine :)

[@yeti6601]

yea it really is

[@b.wilder1663]

OK that KZbin crap is unacceptable. Get a petition going and we'll all sign it-- SRSLY! We need to push for these changes-- Girls under 18 DEFINITELY need to see your videos about these matters and KZbin is incorrect in that call.

[@stephanielange]

It honestly made me just want to quit KZbin 🤯 it’s just so ridiculous isn’t it!

[@samanthabrock9960]

Agree completely so count me in 💜

[@patriciaviera7819]

Count me in ❤️🤲 I support your content for beauty standards.. society need more body positivity. More people doing content like yours not restricting it.

[@cindypowell6358]

I agree 💯 so over all the FAKENESS & UNREALISTIC STEREOTYPES going on. It’s causing women/girls to have a major complex. I have even let it get to me sometimes. I often take social media breaks due to it all.

[@theraccoonqueen6513]

I would sign!

[@mixedviews3536]

KZbin has gotten soooo out of hand. And so has the body fakery. Normal bodies are great! Side note: corsets were for holding boobs before bras. A lot of anti corset prop was actually from men. The first modern bra was created in 1914 which meant corsets were no longer needed.

[@Yougaljuboja]

Bernadette & Karolina would be pride of you

[@ohifonlyx33]

honestly, I'm not gonna totally blame men for inventing bras when fashion was also changing and the zeitgeist of history is often more complex than "blame one gender/ethnicity/policy" and has many contributing factors. But like... it is TOTALLY a myth about corsets and it irks me when I see actresses talking about how evil they are. Girl I wear one, BY CHOICE and it feels great as long as I'm not tightlaced. And I don't even have one that fits me AS well as it COULD.

[@SaheeliRai]

Yes, corsets weren't as resticting as media tells us. Karolina Zebrovska, Bernadette Banner and Jill Bearup (sorry for butchering the names) prove this an a lot of videos

[@junebuglove34]

You do realize that Marilyn Monroe had a nose job and had lip fillers right????

[@carameldare]

I have a well fitted corset and as a large busted woman, i LOVE it. It's so much more comfortable.

[@emmahos2241]

As a previous ballet dancer with ED and BD I've been all sizes..overweight, skinny, and fit/muscular. No matter WHAT side I've been on there have ALWAYS been people that comment negatively and "positively" on my body. It truly doesn't matter what your weight is there's always gonna be someone out there that's gonna comment on it.

[@Wund3rstruck]

I’m skinny and can’t gain weight now, and all the talk about “having more weight on and being thick” (but not overweight and in the right areas 🙄) is honestly just as bad, if not worse, than when I was “chubby” and always being told to get fit or lose weight. It’s all so stupid 😭

[@morganhartwell1841]

Her: “Nothing happened in the 30s” The Great Depression: “Am I a joke to you”

[@fariha9262]

That was more of the early 40s.

[@laurencemt4501]

@@fariha9262 It started in October 1929 with the stock market crash.

[@camilaslauren]

@@fariha9262 uh, the great depression had ended by 1941. think you might be getting confused with WWII lol.

[@AnnaMaria-oy1fp]

@@fariha9262 More of 40s?

[@sueblack5794]

@@fariha9262 Great depression was in the late 20s early thirties? 1929-1933. You are very wrong on this one. Happened after the roaring 20s.

[@NikkiFCO]

Today’s beauty standard should just be a dollar sign, the standard is having enough money to alter yourself.

[@samanthapost606]

This is true for every beauty standard throughout history though. Pale skin used to be fashionable bc it showed you didn't have to work in the fields. Now tan skin shows you can afford leisure. If you notice when having more weight is popular, it's during hard times, and thin during times of access. This is true no matter where you are or when you are. Whatever is expensive or limited to the elite, is the beauty standard.

[@veronikakralj5879]

@@samanthapost606 Yes, there was a time (I think it was in China) when black teeth were fashionable because sugar was expensive.

[@misschocoholic2126]

@@samanthapost606 It also depends on each country. In Asia and Southeast Asia where I lived pale skin is a rage.

[@LMTaylor_]

Omfg this is so accurate!

[@AntjeCobbett]

Yes, this is so, BUT the health problems come later ...

[@shelbyjohnson1637]

Marilyn Monroe being a bigger girl is a myth. She was 115lbs at 5’5”. Sizing has changed a lot over the years along with the average woman. Marilyn had a 22-24 inch waist which actually is considered a 0 or 00 by today’s standards and is 12 inches smaller than the average modern woman’s waist. She was pretty petite. But I think it goes to show that even “skinny” bodies have lumps and curves about them and it’s not realistic to look flat and free of bloat 24/7.

[@bri827]

I saw her wax figure in Hollywood and your description is accurate. She was very tiny but had curves. She’s way smaller than the average sized woman today.

[@aewtx]

She wouldn't even fit a 00. I have a 25-inch waist and those fall off of me. Like, straight down, no stopping along the way. I think it's ridiculous how the fashion industry labels the clothes smaller to make people feel better about themselves. Don't get me started on 0 and 00. What are you, invisible?

[@kiera6326]

Personally, I think that regardless of what your waistline is, if you have a larger bust and thighs, you’ll always look like a “bigger” girl. There’s times where I catch my reflection in the mirror at school and go red at how “big” I look. When I got my school photo, which didn’t show below my chest, my mum threw it away cuz she said I looked like “Two-ton Tessie.”

[@NadezdaBeka]

Omg I was looking for this comment. She was pregnant in all of the pictures provided. I don't understand how there are hundreds of pictures of her body but people are still in denial and show only her pregnant pics as proof.

[@TheRubinator13]

It's because fat and muscle weigh very differently. It also depends on how you carry your weight I'm 5'5 and about 110-115lb sometimes up to (120 depending on the time of the month) and I have a body shape more like Kylie and people often wonder if im anorexic but im at a healthy weight for my height and all my vitals were fine last I had them checked

[@ZeldasMask]

Everyone uses Marylin as an example of curvy, she was skinny at the start of her career, she gained weight during her career due to alot of medications and alcohol because of her depression/anxiety. Near the end of her career she lost a lot of weight and became very skinny again as she was trying to make a come back in Hollywood.

[@marinavasquez8813]

Agree

[@Mod0308]

People say “she was a size 12” etc and I’m just like even if she was a 1950s 12 and a 2024 12 are very different, I sell vintage clothes so I know. But the thing is, she was never ANY standard size bc her curves were so exaggerated that her clothes had to be specially tailored for her. Her measurements were like 35-22-34 something like that. She was actually tiny

[@supremelymontgomeryclift3453]

People have eyes, they can see she was chubby.

[@hannahdrexler5228]

im glad that you mentioned skinny shaming cause no one really talks about it that much and it made me happy that i could relate to some people me being not able to gain weight or muscle no matter how hard i try

[@joanneelizabeth6824]

I remember when curly hair was not considered beautiful. I destroyed my natural curls to get it straight. Then comes the "curly girl" stage and suddenly my natural hair is beautiful. Its so heartbreaking that there was ever a stigma against curly hair ❤😶

[@Cathiina]

Probably the same with freckles😭

[@witmanekox2813]

Same, I used to straight my hair for almost ten years because I thought that curly hair are not beautiful

[@technobrain666]

this is so sad. i think curly hair is soooo beautiful, when i was a child or as a young teen i always wanted to have curly hair myself and never understood, why girls with curly hair would say me, that they want to have straight hair like me. i realized years later, that many curly girls where told, that their hair isn't beautiful and that they should straighten it etc.

[@kathydelarosa1286]

Yup this is why I stood my ground when I was younger and now it’s a trend lol always be true to yourself ! Eventually you’ll be a trend trust me . Even for my hs grad pic I wore my curly hair while many adults said it was best if I do straight since it was more “polished”

[@curlgirl4265]

Absolutely right! I remember getting haircuts and hair styles when I was younger and stylists had no idea what to do with my curly hair. I came out of those experiences feeling awful and I came to hate having my hair done, until one day I found one that loved my hair and changed the way l felt. Thank God for the curly girl movement now that teaches us to embrace our natural hair. Although, you look at Hollywood or Rich Girl hair and they all seem to straighten their curls to fit in. So, I guess we have a way to go.

[@pettyycrockerr]

I hate the unrealistic body expectations from today’s society!😩 Like all of us are great no matter how we look.☺️

[@MrAsianAxolotl]

Back then was just as unrealistic, even more I would argue.

[@bernie715]

Yes yes yes! We're all wonderful human beings ❤️😊

[@katitadeb]

Some previous decades were unrealistic as well, 20s for example, you had to be flat chested yet have some flesh (it wasn't about being skinny) Or the 50s, you have to have some weight and curves, but not too much, you still need to have a noticeable waist. None of these women are obese nor have a inverted triangle body shape, round or apple. They're always hourglass and pear shaped, and women's bodies are so much diverse than that

[@Peach-kv4ze]

being skinny isn’t unrealistic.

[@Germankilos]

@@katitadeb how is that unrealistic if real people had those bodies

[@GGLEEME]

Marilyn Monroe had issues with her Weight too. She used to diet. And alot of the actresses around were quite slim. So even back then slim was an ideal.

[@xcobmi]

Exactly. The ideal was to be curvy but still slim or what we'd consider slim thick today

[@Purplenpinkk]

Seriously, Jane Fonda talks about being bulimic. Have you seen clips of Natalie Wood and Ann Margaret back in the day? So tiny...skinny.

[@saturated3821]

And Bridget Jones... hasn't anyone read the books? Most of her diary entries begin with her recording down her weight because she was constantly trying to diet. She looks bomb in the movies but really she's not a very healthy character at all.

[@lisahannah3175]

They did wear corsets in the 20's. The corsets slimmed the breasts and hips. During the time of corsets the style would change and the corsets would change. Now we have plastic surgery. I think the corset sounds better.

[@shirlecheer]

I naturally have a hourglass figure. I remember in the late '90s to early 2000s that my body type was not in style at all. I was told that my hips were too big and I needed to lose weight, because hips were considered unattractive. Now, since hourglass types is in style now, people are saying I have a great body. This why I won't change my body for fashion, because fashion changes every 10 years or so. I don't want to regret changing myself for trends.

[@ReaReax210]

Same here and I was always called "thick" "fat" or "big boned" when in reality I wasn't I just had natural curves. I would wear oversized clothes to hide it and starved myself until my hair would fall out.

[@leldesaulite-rozite]

Same here 👍

[@NinaZ0mbie]

Same. Developed an eating disorder in early 2000s trying to starve away my actual bone structure, haha. (It’s not funny, be I have to laugh that I thought I could ever look like Mary Kate Olsen with kardashian hips. 🤪) I didn’t understand what was wrong with me that no matter how much weight I lost I couldn’t get that tiny androgynous look. Now I see people celebrating hips, but that old mindset is so ingrained in me that I still struggle to accept mine. These body standards are so damaging to young people, and you carry that damage way past when society is on to the next body goal.

[@kmr4360]

SAAAAAME I remember hating my butt because it stuck out so much. And big boobs were in at that time also! I hate these “trends” how about a trend of just being you and nobody judges for it.

[@ravenrose3730]

Remember when thunder thighs was an insult?. Strange how things like this change within a decade. I could only wish to have thunder thighs:) Not because it's "in," but because I have always wanted them since my teenage years many years ago.

[@xxprizefighterxx]

Remember when Hilary Duff lost all that weight to fit into that early aughts Low Rise jean era? I remember people being like, 'She's getting healthy.' BUT... She was healthy. Like, she was a very normal, healthy teen/young adult size.

[@roguemoonstone]

I believe she unfortunately suffered an eating disorder as well. If you watch Cheaper by the Dozen 2 you can physically see it, she looks unhealthily thin and she actually looks gray.

[@Miss-Fired]

I'm so glad she got out of that hellscape, she looks incredible now

[@TheBridget272]

Bless you for saying aughts.

[@LoKi-pm7nh]

I was also a teenager in the 2000s and oh boy did that hurt... it was impossible for me to reach those skinny goals, Ive always been a comfort eater, Id beat myself to be as skinny as the It Kid Cory Kennedy and all these girls, I had developed bulimia... ugh.. My mother was much skinnier than me and that for a teen is a big trauma. I guess that's why I have never really found myself that attractive, in my mind I'm still stuck in my teens, even though I was very fit and good looking in my mid twenties... Now in my 30s I feel ok, not gorgeous but also not like that poor, insecure teen. Just ok. All this Media crap is so harmful, it shapes your brain for the worse.

[@charlottesteed1026]

The crazy part is that for centuries, no one expected everyone to physically have the desired body shape. It was achieved through the undergarments. Different designs of corsets or stays helped shape and support the bust, while padding in garments helped smooth and accentuate the fashionable parts. For the most part, it didn't matter your size, as long as your dress created the fashionable shape.

[@EmeraldAshesAudio]

Exactly! It's one thing when the clothing silhouette changes, but it's a whole other when we're expected to starve and carve our bodies into the fashionable shape.

[@HereIAm247]

If you notice, the changes started as the undergarments changed, and as we started to wear less structured clothes, and show more skin.

[@LadyDragonbane]

Exactly! This whole thing about physically changing your body for the trends is a very recent idea.

[@helloitsme1158]

now they use plastic surgery instead of undergarments

[@ietsjeanders6122]

Yup to "Bratz doll" shape. I knew several women who'd eaten like birds, worked out only their waist to get it smaller, then had butt + boob implants and lifts to get as Jessica Rabbit a figure as possible. They built their entire lives around that shape and maintaining it. I just can't imagine....

[@katg9608]

It is all consuming to do that.

[@ultron374]

Its just unhealthy expectation

[@nio731]

What is the issue with that though? Thats other girls, not you

[@xinyilim6593]

The issue is that it’s almost expected for women to be like “those other girls” and invest the time and energy as needed into looking “presentable.” If not, we’re considered “lazy.” The issue is ~why~ do those women feel like they need to center their lives around fitting a beauty standard?

[@nio731]

@@xinyilim6593 Because its their lives and not yours. You can center your life around your health, education, family , etc but its not up to you to figure out or even understand someone else’s life. I understand that now a days its an “expectation” to look a certain way but maybe if you stopped looking at what is expected, you can be who you want to be without feeling the need to wonder about others. Men are “expected” to be many things but they arent and you know why? They do not care

[@StoryTarina]

I recommend watching videos about the history of corsets because they were not as horrible as media makes them seem. They were cozy in their own ways. Everyone wore them. I would rather wear the traditional corsets then bras.

[@deadinside8719]

True also they correct your posture My posture is so bad I wish I could but lots of corset to fix it

[@keelaleath4037]

It's so interesting how this is culturally soooo different. In the Black (Indian/Latin) culture curves have and are still the more desirable body type. Rail thin has not really caught on as body goals. In fact Kim K started her modeling career on the covers of urban men's mags because her body type was normal. Interesting....

[@caties1114]

You're idealising the past and presenting a very edited version of history. Women in the 1920s were often starving themselves to look as boyish as possible in their flapper dresses. Marilyn Monroe also did quite a lot of unhealhty to keep her waist slim while keeping her curvy figure. Furthermore, the way that a body ideal is formed is often by aiming at the more uncommon/ hard (to obtaining at the time (and therefore signaling high status): in 1800s it was being overweight, in post ww2 Europe it was a full figure, or how pale and tan skin goes in and out of shape throughout history (for caucasians primarily). In re to your bratz comments. The same comment was made about barbie and the women ideal back in the 90s and 00s.

[@Bea56601]

yes!

[@Original-Michiko]

Yup

[@legalisefreedom]

Thank you.

[@suzan-x3i]

✅

[@verybarebones]

The thing with the past is that image doctoring wasn't as common. Back in the day only movie stars were picture perfect. Now all my friends post edited pictures on IG with no pimples and pointed chins.

[@littledaisy832]

Yeah as someone who is skinny and has trouble gaining weight the beauty standards today being super curvy with a skinny waist is really crazy cause I am skinny but have no curves and in order to be curvy and skinny you’d have to either have a naturally curvy body shape or edit your body with photoshop

[@showerpwner]

To have hips and a skinny waist you have to eat a lot and weight train. Your waist will get fat but your butt will get big. Your diet to be on a deficit to lose fat and hope it comes off your stomach. To say it's not possible is a lie. You can build your shoulders and butt for a small waist. Don't make genetics excuses. Eat and build muscle and quit crying when your waist gets fat. You gotta diet later for that.

[@katg9608]

All true and it takes patience and hard work.

[@kunya16]

I'm naturally hourglass, but can't achieve that super skinny because then I wouldn't have the padding in the "right" places to be hourglass. Only photoshop gives you everything.

[@katg9608]

or spanx haha.

[@I_Might_Be_Tyler]

@@showerpwner that’s just not how it works

[@Donteverlook4videos]

I hate the misconception that Marilyn was a 12-16 in today's sizes. Her measurements are publicly available and as someone with similar measurements we would literally wear the same pant size and I'm a 00.....

[@amycaitlyn1120]

Yes, size vanity is soooo bad now. She is not large by any stretch of the imagination LOL

[@momb7791]

I think the point is that Marilyn had her curvy moments, like all of us one set of measurements reflects one day in the life.

[@trixi1608]

Marilyn actually fluctuated in weight a bit (as most women do) but certainly never was plus size as some people would like us to believe.

[@regineblanc3095]

@@momb7791 i saw somwhere that her highest weight was 140 lbs during her pregnancy

[@daytrippera]

She was very fit, the times when she was slightly overweight were due to various failed pregnancies, including the image she used as an example. In that photo shoot she was pregnant from her marriage with Arthur Miller. She kept a close control regarding the food she ate, and also went into extremes during awards season to lose weight, including subjecting herself to enemas. So no, not even in the 50's there was a healtly image. Monroe, Hepburn, Hayworth... they were all skinny.

[@makaila1177]

Something that never goes out of style is a smile.

[@tatianalockhart7806]

I personally feel like it's the opposite! "Thick" seems to be more "in" right now.

[@andrewcollet3717]

I agree, the slimthick hourglass look is what is considered ideal now.

[@obliviateliv]

I was looking for this comment because its true. Right now its the thick body trending

[@whatever3440]

No, it's not. It's the big hips yet flat stomach but with a tigh gap and big butt. That's not "thick". It's simply curvy with zero fat. That's what's in atm, that's why bbls are exploding

[@Yikkoofficial]

Not correct. It’s actually slim-thick that is trendy now. Big hips, super tiny waist, flat stomach, large breasts. At least in American culture. I can’t speak for other cultures .

[@Pink_pr1ncess]

@@Yikkoofficial Yeah it’s only the beauty standard in the Americas and in Africa. But in other continents like Europe and Asia they still praise super skinny and rectangular body shapes

[@harshitabhuyan8892]

The thing is normal female body can be any thing, from someone very skinny to someone plus sized. Shaming one group to lift another is just adding to the toxicity. One can only talk about body positivity if we include all shapes and sizes.

[@Someone-sl4zq]

Preach 💯

[@sweetadele74]

Goodness thank you !!!

[@bliglum]

No. Only FATNESS is acceptable. So says 'fat acceptance'... Shame on those horrible skinny people!

[@mackie911]

I agree with the idea of the video but the Marilyn Monroe part. That shoot on the beach actually was her at her heaviest and she hated the pictures. She was quite slim for most of her career and even starved herself a lot. Her „full body“ pictures have romanticised a version of her she herself didn’t like that much. There’s some good information out there about that. Other than that I really like the approach and what you’re trying to do with this :)

[@rosie1305]

Truth. Marilyn yo-yo dieted and was mostly trim and thin. The photos used are also between miscarriages. It wasn’t the “norm”. Food industry was different then as well compared to today.

[@ne1745]

The corset part wasn’t accurate either :(

[@8ri1]

@@ne1745 yea I thought that part wasn't correct. I remember someone who studied fashion of that era and I believe she said corsets weren't for just making your waistline thin they were a bra? correct me if I'm wrong lol 😅

[@sueblack5794]

@@8ri1 There are nude photos of Marilyn and she was a true hourglass no doubt but she was also tiny & small. a small hourglass shape.

[@SparklesNJazz]

i don’t think she’s claiming marilyn was some kind of body positivity representative who was happy with her body and never dieted. she was just showing the difference between the way marilyn looked and the “body trends”’of other eras. i’m sure people thought marilyn was ideal regardless of what marilyn thought of herself, just look at those adds telling women how to put on weight for example.

[@bequinhaize]

Body goals change depending on your culture/country as well. I am Brazilian and extremely skinny. Here, I get skinny shamed a lot. When I went to Canada, everybody thought that I was perfect, looked like a doll, my friends envied me. For the first time, I had boys looking at me. It's crazy.

[@TheBOG3]

The world seems to worship all the skinny supermodels from your country, yet they skinny shame you.

[@marilexismadriz7684]

I'm venezuelan and i understand You 👁️

[@yazminlopez3704]

That is what I love about Rihanna’s fashion shows. She uses woman and men of all shapes, weight, age and sex orientation in her shows. Letting everyone know that you are beautiful and sexy no matter who you are.

[@anikajoy5739]

Sex appeal, to me, is quiet confidence, regardless of size/shape etc

[@elisabethvalentin5404]

It's so funny how beauty standards have come full circle! The “wasp figure” was exactly what they called the tightly corseted and padded figure of the early 1900s!!! Isn't that crazy?!

[@saafiiiraa]

The biggest myth out there is that Marilyn Monroe was chubby. She really wasn't, and sizing was way different back then. My grandmother was born on the exact same day and year as her (June 1st 1926), and I remember her giving me an old (very stylish 40s) housecoat, and I could just squeeze into at 14-15 when I was super skinny. Marilyn Monroe as her 'chubby' self had a waist wayyy smaller than the average waist size today with her 22 inch waist (approximately 2-3 inches less than the average American woman in the 1950s and 12 inches less than average today); and 35 inch hips, with a bra size of 36D.

[@judgemental9237]

This is completely unrelated but this comment made me realize how me and Marilyn Monroe are almost the exact same measurements. (My waist is a 23, my hips are 34 and I’m a 36D.) Makes me feel bad for hating myself knowing she and I could probably share the same clothes..

[@meanieeheart4236]

yep, the only time she looked bigger was when she was pregnant

[@pinkbunny4388]

also wasn't Marilyn a short woman?

[@TheBOG3]

She was average height at 5'5 1/2"

[@daf1678]

@Silver & Cold Tall women cannot have an hourglass figure? They even have more chances to have a slim waist because their figure is elongated.

[@laurengriffin6551]

I have been thinking about this concept of beauty standards changing, what makes them change, etc. Thank you for this!! I love your content so very much. This is the kind of content we need 💞

[@stephanielange]

Imagine changing your body to fit a certain beauty standards, and then a few years pass and that standard is no longer the ideal! 🤯 another reason we should adore ourselves the way we are x

[@Cathiina]

I’m wondering how the Kardishians will cope if the standards change in the next decade.

[@hazeleyed8909]

@@Cathiina they will go through more surgeries😁

[@rocioguillen751]

@@hazeleyed8909 I was going to say the same thing. Lol I guess as long as you are rich enough, you will always be able to get the "ideal" body shape. My brother says there are no ugly women, just broke women :/

[@cryforthemoon]

@@stephanielange Right? Nature made our bodies to function not be fashion.

[@limbo576]

That famous beach pic of Marilyn Monroe in the white swimsuit was one of her heaviest weights she was at, maybe 140 lbs. Her weight did fluctuate (like how weight usually does for most people). She said she felt more comfortable at a lower size but it does show that she looked stunning no matter what size she was at. I love that photo ❤

[@nikistumme2482]

Yes! She was actually quite slim, but maintained a curvy figure. I wish people wouldn’t call her a plus size icon in these discussions, since she really wasn’t.

[@Mai-sx3yf]

140 is still slim though with just the right amount of meat

[@DMp-xp6mj]

@@nikistumme2482 I think she was actually pregnant when she took that photo, because she did unfortunately have multiple miscarriages and it would make sense that she wouldnt want to announce her pregnancy. I agree calling her a plus size icon is ridiculous, if you watch any movie of hers you can see that she was tiny. Also most actresses from the 50s were very thin, the only exceptions i can think of are Sophia Loren and maybe Jane Mansfield but even these two were not in any way overweight, they were average. Being curvy and being overweight are not one and the same.

[@samanthawong729]

She was actually PREGNANT in that picture. She is nowhere near “attainable figure” because she had a 22inch waist, bit maintaining curves even while that thin. I hate how people like to call her “plus size” cuz she’s not.

[@Cuteemogirl94]

What helped me loving my body was when I realised that most of the time women are the ones that judge other women. Most men aren't as picky as women.

[@Anne11ennA]

Dear Stephanie, You have really helped me on my journey to self acceptance. I have struggled with my body and EDs since I was 13 (now 33) and your encouraging words and honesty helped me a lot. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. You and your family are amazing. Lots of love!

[@FlowerThePot]

Im so saddened because body beauty standards today is practically synonymous with getting work done. For the average person, your body will not distribute fat like a Bratz doll. Most women won’t naturally have a 22 inch waist and DDD breasts. What are we teaching young girls with these expectations??

[@SMoya-bc6tw]

And every time someones comments on this, someone else will say "aCTuALly you can, you only have to exercise every day and eat healthier, do weight lifting and cardio etc etc" and it's like?? That doesn't assure you they will get that body. Genetics play a good part in the results someone will get by exercising. If you don't really have a waist (genetically speaking) no matter how many weight you lift, it won't give you a kardashian's small waist. That's why a lot of people get discouraged when they don't see the results they expect after a long time of exercising and quit. People should exercise to be healthier, not to fit into a standard

[@inspiredby624]

@@SMoya-bc6tw I'd love to see what exercise they'd recommend to grow bigger boobs lol

[@Bii940]

@@SMoya-bc6tw why would you want have THAT body

[@Daylesvk]

Not all …that how most African ladies are built, as curvy and slim thick…and it really hurts when we’re called “fake” for having it naturally

[@Bii940]

@@Daylesvk u got a point

[@alliefogarty8790]

I dont follow body beauty standards, I just try to look healthy and feel healthy the best I can because I'll never look like someone else's body type because I'm my own body type....🤦‍♀️✌

[@odn4502]

i think thats the best way

[@heatherrniicole1552]

👏👏 amen gf. You just got to do what makes yourself happy. Screw everyone else.

[@vainetuxx]

It's sad that skinny-shaming is still a huge problem. I'm naturally really skinny because I have fast metabolism. I was born and been skinny my whole life and oh boy, through how much skinny-shaming I had to go, even nowadays. The curvy girls that keeps spreading body positivity, it's more for them, because the same girls are body shaming skinny girls.

[@agnessmith9548]

True like like I'm kinda in between but bit people should be respectful of skinny bodies as well because even though they(skinny and fat shaming) aren't the same they relate to eachother on a certain level

[@depresedcroissant6307]

Facts!!!

[@Aurora-dq4lt]

Following some "body positive" channels I started feeling worse about my body, because they were actually celebrating only curvy bodies.

[@Raven-wh2pl]

@@Aurora-dq4lt Y E S

[@depresedcroissant6307]

@@Aurora-dq4lt body positivity has become an exclusive movement for women with curves,they love to exclude us

[@annagloria2332]

I appreciate the collection of beauty standards by decade. By summing up what is well documented, you make "the insanity of a body trend" crystal clear. I appreciate the message. 🖤👌👏👏👏 Our bodies should be our vessels to our personality. Especially because no matter how fine you are, time will take it away piece by piece anyway. So I rather collect memoriers, to tell stories from a futre wrinkled smiled grey face. 😊

[@Aoichi_]

Your content is so necessary. Thank you. I'm a 5ft 22yo woman who growned thinking my body should be lanky and slim when that is pretty much impossible with my size and body type, not curvy, but short with thick thighs. Eating disorders are my live since I was 6. Understanding that you SHOULD NEVER try to fit in any "body goals" is necessary. You body shouldn't make you suffer. It works perfectly and is beautiful in every single way.

[@bora8393]

Skinny girls needs to feel good about their bodies too, so please guys, dont always make it look fake or not beautiful…

[@lovanawh3858]

Exactly!!!

[@ethanjacob6456]

I like slimthick hourglass women, i cannot be attracted to skinny girls with smaller assets, at all (i tried), and that has 100% to do with mainstream media. I used to find skinny girls attractive, a few years back, now i just can't.

[@PennyWenny224]

@@ethanjacob6456 it doesn’t matter what you like, all bodies should be appreciated by the media. Nowadays it’s a trend to be thicc and slim people do get shamed as well.

[@semolinalibra]

Skinny women (or people in general) do NOT get abused, harassed, bullied like fat/bigger women (or people in general) do. Keep that in mind.

[@cheesewings15]

​@@semolinalibra hmm, yes they do. You shouldn't speak for all skinny and bigger people bc everyone has different life experiences.

[@rebekahyoung6624]

Actually…corsets or stays were not restrictive. How they are portrayed is not accurate. Check out Abby Cox - a dress historian. Lots of interesting info about them!

[@juliameyer10313]

Came here to say that. While there have been cases of tight lacing etc. those cases are really blown out of proportion. Corsets were mostly about chest support and keeping everything in place.

[@laurafalsetti7178]

And in the 1920s there were corsets, they were just shaped differently

[@danhurl1349]

Looking for this comment!! Thank you!!

[@marisa3483]

I was looking for this comment😂

[@mariaclaramajin9906]

Waz about to say it

[@Divineeyereadings]

Marilyn Monroe actually had a very narrow waist. The 50s preferred an hourglass figure. Bigger hips and breasts but waists were still cinched. Marilyn’s waist was a 22 inch. The average thin woman today has a waist between 24-28. The thing about Marilyn is that she actually had endometriosis so her belly would fluctuate. Her waist however remained narrow because she was very careful about her fitness and diet. Another example would be I Love Lucy. (Episode in season one called “The Diet”.) In this episode Lucy tries to lose weight to fit into the show girl’s costume. The models that lined up made fun of Lucy for being slightly “overweight”. Lucy even jokes earlier in the episode that she is still 114 (or was it 116? Don’t remember) pounds. She says it proudly and then cries when she finds out she gained weight

[@ne1745]

Thank youuuu! As someone who’s very into the vintage community I was actually fearing her covering the 50s because women in the 50s were TINY! I’m considered a modern size small/medium and it’s hard for me to find dresses from that era because authentic dresses from that time were made for petite women!

[@MJvdeos13]

This

[@EMunaBee]

Marilyn was also often photographed while others didn't realize she was in the early stages of pregnancy. Otherwise, she was conscientious of her diet and fitness and it showed. She also read, studied, practiced her craft more than most people knew, always hiding in the back of the actor's studio, studying with coaches for her roles, bringing them to set, and she was so, so talented and bright.

[@EMunaBee]

@@ne1745 this is so true! When I shop at vintage boutiques, the clothing is so tiny, and I'm thin and fit but a lot of outfits are too narrow for me, and my friends who are shorter and trim can maybe find t-shirts or something, but dresses are near impossible. Then again, the men of the 1970s were so small. I looked at Jim Morrison's pants and was shocked. A lot of men from that era, many still around, are just narrow and tiny (and talented and beautiful). I just have to wear my own clothes.

[@Purplenpinkk]

@@ne1745 I wonder if people have gotten bigger because of hormones and chemicals in our food, water, environment? Reason why young girls start menstruating earlier? I went to an exhibit that had clothing for Jim Morrison, George Harrison, Jimi Hendrix and Janis Joplin - as someone else mentioned - could not believe how small their clothing was. And, if I remember correctly, Jimi Hendrix and Jim Morrison were around 5'10" or 5"11"?

[@Irin-rz2ez]

4:23 I remember sawing this illustrations on pinterest. I literally felt in love with this character, her curves and chuby face are adorables and I love her outfits.

[@Sigalhodbh]

This is really insightful. A very important video. It's a shame that KZbin limit the age for watching that. I can't understand it. They should be promoting you for doing this for the best of the public.

[@jessieh9127]

I love when body types like Marilyn Monroe and Bridget Bardot were celebrated and okay to look that way. There is nothing wrong with being any size IMO

[@katitadeb]

However skinny women were shamed, even Audrey Hepburn was called flat-chest. And actually not all women had curves at the right places as those celebrities you mention. Yes, the beauty standard was different, and that includes shaming on the ones who didn't fit, so there's nothing to celebrate on any decade for being all toxic at the very end

[@jessieh9127]

@@katitadeb you obviously have no idea what I was saying

[@ninanim]

any size as long as it's healthy

[@chegu613]

Brigitte bardot was small even by today's standards, and marilyn wasn't very big either. What I like about their bodies is how natural they looked - not overly sculpted or muscular. They didn't spend several hours a day on their appearances, which makes them more attarctive imo.

[@infernalbunny]

Marilyn Monroe’s waist was 22 inches…she was celebrated because she was curvy, but not overweight.

[@satoruu..]

I literally have been waiting for this. You are so selfless for all the things you do for society. THANK YOU!

[@stephanielange]

Love you 😭❤️❤️❤️

[@alexa.5507]

I like your profile name 😭

[@Catherine-mu7ik]

I cannot even believe that the last KZbin video was age restricted. I’m just glad I was able to watch it before they blocked it off.

[@zarahi7876]

I was born and raised in the east Asia, where everything on social media is either filtered, photoshoped or even blurred to look "perfect". I remember back in my childhood when there weren't so much access to these technologies, women on TV all looked different but confident with how they look. And nowadays people hide themselves behind filters, heavy body makeups and see it as norm. I am around 5ft 6, and I weight around 120 pounds, which is actually within the health range and appear slightly thinner than how much I weight cuz I exercise a lot. But everytime I go back home my eating disorder would come back, thanks to the unhealthy influence from social media and filter, people now see skeletonly skinny bodies as the body standards. I hope your videos can reach my homies some day.🥲

[@LetsFocusOnChrist]

I sincerely appreciate your videos. I’ve been showing them to my 12 year old daughter and we discuss how ridiculous beauty trends are. I’m hoping that by recognizing that the traps are out there, she will be less likely to fall for them.

[@MistressDepp13]

Your idea for a catwalk full of Hilda & all different size body shapes.... absolutely GENIUS! & I for one would be first to watch! Wonder what it would take to see that as a reality? What an amazing idea!

[@tigerlily2373]

In the 1950s people were recovering from the Great Depression and rationing during WWII. So because of this, skinny bodies were associated with starvation and being deprived of something. Therefore curvy bodies became popular because it meant you were able to eat and be healthy. It’s interesting how history shapes our beauty standards.

[@dealsmarie]

Moral of the story: Beauty standards will always be changing, so embrace the shape you’ve got or want and love it. Then, find someone who loves you and your body for what it is as well!

[@helle9075]

Very well said!

[@lanagibbs1446]

Totally agree!!

[@bliglum]

There is no 'moral' in this 'story'.. Beauty standards are not changing, they are relatively constant. Proof of this is Audrey Hepburn. She was very popular during that same timeframe as Marilyn, yet she was even skinner than the "changed beauty standard" image on the right!!! Fact is, there have always been bigger, and skinner people throughout history, and a variety of people are attracted to a variety of types. Which is probably WHY we have such a variety in types! Not a bad take away though. Confident in your own skin, no matter what, is always a good thing!

[@thesevenkingswelove9554]

@@bliglum how to be skinny if no matter how much you excersize you are not losing belly fat

[@bliglum]

@@thesevenkingswelove9554 Yes. Belly fat is infamously stubborn. I personally have never even seen my abs! But it's not impossible.

[@katejenkins9925]

The body type that is most desirable is often also the most difficult to obtain. In the medieval era where food was scarce, it was considered attractive to be very plump. Now days where we have the temptation of fast food, it is attractive to be skinny. We all want what we can't have.

[@tespinosa89]

On my point, my thoughts exactly

[@jakonjhn]

Skinny isn't attractive nowadays tho. Now the standard is really thick in the right places, and really skinny in the right places.⏳

[@Damien773]

Wasn't skinny the ideal, like a decade back? Now all i see are thick women with tiny waists.

[@rosacastillo3524]

I love that you tell the hard truth that everyone is to scared to talk about

[@kasturimule9318]

I cry now when I look at myself in the mirror, always feeling less because I couldn't/can't look like a typical modern-day influencer. But, that wasn't how I used to feel... as I grew up, seeing all these tiny waisted models planted a seed of self-hatred into my mind which grew on to become a huge-ass tree. I am trying to get at a healthy size and weight and working towards cutting down The Tree of Self Hatred. Stephanie, watching your videos make me feel good about being in my own skin. Thank you for that. Much love

[@paradoxxed1760]

my eating disorder was worsening since the last week and after seeing this video I ate food without guilt. Thank you soo much.

[@tessi7035]

I’m so proud of you!!🌸

[@lesheawhite1870]

I'm happy for you

[@celycely219]

what you talk about is literally so so important for girls growing up to see, to see that we are all perfect as we are, how can youtube restrict it?! thats so messed up! you make people more confident in their skin, like, its messed up that youtube restrict that o.o

[@BrooklynMariposa1030]

KUDOS TO YOU!!! I am so proud of you and your adherence to filming encouraging, uplifing, inclusive videos. Keep speaking your truth!! It's just a shame that the young women who need it most won't be able to watch!!

[@caseyshumway720]

Everyone is beautiful I absolutely hate when someone calls someone else prettier than another because all of us are so different that there is no prettier or uglier i think everyone is gorgeous in there own unique way 💕✨🧡

[@wellnesswithrhi9396]

This is SO important, thank you for this. For someone who has suffered an eating disorder 10 min vids like this, really help. Thank you so so much. FYI, you are gorj!!!!!

[@Justnicolebrown]

I can see you and hear you! I’ve shared and talked to so many people including my brother to speak to his little daughters about body image. Keep posting please !

[@laurah3252]

I thought the 80s was the era of the supermodel. Cindy Crawford, Elle MacPherson, Linda Evangelista, Naomi Campbell, etc. Curvy but athletic. I think Bridget Jones could have been a good turning point but it definitely didn't help that Renee Zellweger came out saying she felt at her most unattractive at a size 12-14.

[@nancymassiattie3892]

I remember when Kyle J had plastic surgery from face to body and let me just say. That’s when I noticed a whole era of makeup and body changes to be unrealistically expected and ever since It’s become drastically hard and toxic on this mentality of body image.

[@anjanabenitha]

I'm was adopted from India and I live in Belgium. This is relevant because I was a teenager in the 00's as well and I was very much influenced by Lizzie MacGuire, Paris Hilton and all those Zoebots that made me feel ugly and fat. Which I wasn't. Add heavy bullying to that and you get a recipe for disaster. Now I'm in my 30's and very thankful for your channel and body neutrality. Thank you for your videos. They really make a difference.

[@KittyBeccrs]

I love this, but I just want to make some corrections. I read somewhere that eating disorders became more common in the 1920s because the look was skinny with no curves (a lot like the 90s/00s but not as extreme). Also I'm going to defend the Victorian body goals because it wasn't about your body, it was about the clothes. Every body fit the standard because instead of changing your body, you changed your clothes. The goal was a bust and hips 10-12 inches larger than your waist, and if that wasn't the case, you added padding, ruffles, and frills to make it seem that way. Corsets were not that restrictive because housemaids and working women did all of their physical labor in a corset. Corsets today are restrictive, but the ones in the 1800s were flexible and custom made.

[@mariezamora4354]

I have never really considered the history of body types over the past century. This video is so amazing! There is a decade or time in history for every body type!!! This is definitely the time to embrace all body types!!! When I pinch my belly, I can be grateful I carried two amazing humans. My thick, strong legs have carried me halfway around the world and support me in my daily responsibilities. It's about being healthy - physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Thanks for your videos, Stephanie!!

[@whytfdoihavetochooseanaliasnow]

Whenever I come across any "body positive" type videos I always get hit with dear marilyn monroe in her white beach outfit. Yes, she looks beautiful and there is absolutely nothing wrong with how she looks, but stop with making her the beginning of body positivity. When these pictures of her where taken, she actually was really unhappy with her body, since she always valued exercise and preferred a slimmer physique herself. Look at different pictures of her. She was always curvy but never chubby and by no means did she not care about her thighs touching. Please portray things the way they were, some girls like being skinny and there is as much wrong with that as there is with being curvy, as long as both are healthy.

[@semolinalibra]

“as long as it’s healthy” but y’all don’t care about being healthy. Being underweight/skinny isn’t healthy but you have the audacity to call fat/chubby people unhealthy. Maybe think about fat≠obese, understood?

[@soulmie519]

@@semolinalibra where, in what she said, did she say fat=obese? read over what she said and realize how stupid you look, she acknowledged both sides can be unhealthy

[@whytfdoihavetochooseanaliasnow]

@@soulmie519 Thanks for clearing things up :)

[@semolinalibra]

@@soulmie519 she said that there’s nothing wrong with being skinny or curvy but she implied that being fat is a bad thing.

[@whytfdoihavetochooseanaliasnow]

@@semolinalibra okay. How did I do so?

[@anonmous4468]

I have the size zero body type naturally and I embrace it , have no interest in becoming a bratz doll lol we need to embrace all different body shapes , we are all beautiful!

[@ruthb1940]

That part about bridget Jones, I completely agree with you! I love that movie! And I honestly think that bridget in the costume looks SO SEXY. It confused me as to why she thought she was fat or unattractive.

[@stephanielange]

Same!!! She’s actually such a babe!!! Personally and looks wise ⚡️

[@ruthb1940]

@@stephanielange yessss 😍 I love her in that movie

[@trillajenn]

Me too! The sad part is that Bridget Zones was the only movie as far as I know where it was okay for Hollywood that Rene Zellweger had this body type :(!

[@LaurinGuad]

But her character was always trying to lose weight. She wasn’t comfortable with her size and shape. That kind of messed with my head when I realized that I was the exact same weight as her. I still think about that.

[@xcobmi]

@@LaurinGuad they really tried to make us think she was fat. I remember believing it as a kid. When I rewatched it as an adult I was honestly shocked

[@Bebebarth808]

You are doing an amazing work, you are saving millions of girls and women from being ashamed of their body. Congratulations 🌸💖

[@samonelly4813]

You can tell a naturally skinny body from a malnourished skinny body even if they are the same size. Being healthy looks best on everyone, no matter your size!

[@michellestella7477]

Yes!! I absolutely love these. Have watched every single one 🤍

[@stephanielange]

that makes me so happy! xx

[@snatchedwig4251]

i wish a lot of men could reach your videos cause seriously many of them are bashing girls toward these toxic standers and many girls on the other hand are just insecure about their bodies and looks and have no idea that they are enough and beautiful the way they are ... much love for you and for all true ladies out there .. we are beautiful no matter what

[@Matt-kr9bo]

Men shouldn’t be bashing girls for not meeting certain beauty standards, but they aren’t the only ones doing that. Most men are very insecure because they aren’t 6’2”, they don’t have incredibly low/unhealthy body fat (to make their abs ultra defined), and they can’t build muscle easily. Women commonly list these traits and other unrealistic male beauty ideals as requirements for men. I agree with you, but I don’t think you should single out men as the perpetrators of toxic beauty standards when both men and women do it.

[@ashsparkle4283]

There are so many inappropriate videos that aren't age restricted....this is so unfair. You gave a good content that can help many girls with mental health

[@priscillasvedberg1033]

I love you! Please dont stop saying these things! Women need to hear this, and I love ur love and positivity! Love, love, love!!!

[@brittanylong5855]

Whatever body shape you have naturally that is HEALTHY is beautiful. You go girl for bringing light to this topic

[@samanthabrock9960]

These videos & this entire series of videos have been not only amazing but also very helpful for many of us! We love them & keep coming back for more 💜💜

[@emilie477]

This is amazing. I’m a size 6 most of the time 5’4. 57kilos which is healthy for my size. I’m naturally slim with curve and a flattish stomach. I love my body, I’m proud of my body

[@coiler001]

From all of us "real" women. Thank you so much for your candid videos of the absolute nonsense being thrown at us by the media.

[@coiler001]

@@slk9862 I believe that is exactly what I was saying.

[@yaysus]

"In the 30ies, nothing really happened" *cries in German*

[@miraculoustheories721]

*cries in American*

[@megansmallwood3409]

Can I just say I love her personality, she so sweet and has a calming attitude and overall I would love to be friends with her

[@andreachirinos9586]

I always love to watch this beautiful woman's videos! they make me feel like it's ok to have a normal body, and reminds me that stretch marks, cellulitis , scars ,etc are normal in human's physiognomy and though they're not comfortable (let's be realistic) this are still parts of normal human bodies. So with all my heart,thanks Stephanie for reminding me not to suffer for unrealisitic body types and just keep healthy embracing my normal self.

[@mcchilde2903]

How are they uncomfortable though?

[@andreachirinos9586]

@@mcchilde2903 well some days I embrace them and some days I just want my cellulities to just go away 😅

[@virgo_things]

I think the turn happened when the industry started calling average sized women fat. I read that Alicia Silverstone stopped mainstream acting after being cast as bat girl in the 90s and people started calling her "fat girl". And the movie industry casting women like Martine McCutcheon in 'fat girl' roles. Neither were fat at all!

[@jakonjhn]

You can be really thick in the right places, and really skinny in the right places, and no one would call you fat. It is the ideal figure now.

[@virgo_things]

@@jakonjhn What exactly is your point James? Do you think fatphobia doesn't exist or that women of any size aren't called fat

[@jakonjhn]

@@virgo_things No, i personally don't think women with small waists are called fat. I've only seen fat women being called fat (but then i might be wrong).

[@virgo_things]

@@jakonjhn You are wrong... I just gave two examples of regular women that were called fat.

[@laurianekayungu-n3605]

I don't want to be mean but the "waspy" beauty standard actually come from way back (it's never really left) the Hilda pin-ups is a "cherry picked" pinup from that era. Most pinups looked a lot more thin Hilda. (Just make a quick google search) Those pin-ups drawing girls perfection (long legs, slender body, large bosom) where already not achievable for everyone and photoshop wasn't invented, hence why they were drowned not real. But now we have surgeries | retouching etc, so we don't need our pin-ups to be just in the imagination, some women can be "turned" into those pin-ups.

[@MN-gg5qk]

There should be no body standards at all. Whether the standard was or is “ full” , “ size zero” or what it is now, they’re all wrong and should not even be a thing. No one should feel pressured to feel a certain way. Every woman should feel beautiful the way she is, because every woman IS beautiful. One body shape or type isn’t better than the other. Whether you struggle to gain weight because you actually are a size zero or you struggle to lose weight, the goal should be to feel and be healthy, not to look a certain way. I really hope this all changes and I really hope every woman no matter what body type, size or height realises and knows that that are beautiful the way they are. Trends are unrealistic. No one is more better looking than the other simply because we are all gorgeous in our own way, shape, height and size. Let’s normalise normal, not body shape.

[@444angelitaa]

i really genuinely do believe im on the bigger side and i get bullied for it at school but then with my family they will ask me if i even eat and im so confused. i had access to the internet at such a young age and compared myself to these “perfect” girls and i completely regret it and wished my parents didn’t neglect me and actually raised instead of just throwing an ipad at me and thinking i was gonna turn out okay. the sad thing is i don’t even live with them anymore and they kicked me out and i now live with my aunt and uncle who help me with my mental health and body dysphoria. please know uu are wonderful and perfectly imperfect!! stay hydrated, eat, take care of yourself, stay safe, and know uu are worth so much and somewhere out there, there is someone waiting for uu to enter their life so they can love uu for uu!! mwah sending much love ur way!!

[@OlyaOrton]

Wow, so many youtubers are commenting recently about being demonitized or censored for random stuff like that. KZbin a platform (in which case it must allow people to voice their thoughts per free speech) or a publisher that can dictate what stays and what goes?