Body Language Analyst REACTS to Harry & Meghan, Netflix Documentary. What AREN'T They Saying?

[@TheBehavioralArts]

Hey everyone! Hope you’re enjoying this analysis 😊. Here’s an extra note that I filmed but then cut out to make the video briefer. There’s a lot of speculation in the comments as to why Meghan’s mannerisms and cadence are the way they are. I think acting plays a big part of it but much more than that, in episode 2 we see her mother being interviewed and then going back to the city they lived in and it’s plain to see that that is EXACTLY where she gets her mannerisms. It’s the exact same. Her mom is very animated with her face and when talking about their phone call when Meghan told her about Harry, she starts whispering, at some point they both even make a comment about their old yard at the same time the exact same way. The resemblance in mannerisms is uncanny. I’ll also add that there is nothing inherently wrong with these mannerisms. They simply rub certain people the wrong way (as many of you commented). It’s totally possible that some people are perfectly fine with it or even find it engaging but for whatever reason some people intuitively respond negatively to it, this is why we avoid it on stage. as mentioned in the video, I know this is a very polarizing topic for a lot of people (I explain why in the video) but let's try and keep the discussions polite and respectful please. Everybody's personal opinion is valid and I would love the conversations in the comments to reflect the open minded attitude that we value in this community. Thanks ❤

[@anonview]

This is the most objective, straightforward video I've seen on the documentary, and I love it! 👍 I can't speak for others, but the reason I'm uncomfortable listening to her more exaggerated stories is because she seems to exude "exclusivity." She doesn't often use sentences that invite listeners to experience what she did. When she was talking about the elephant stuff, I didn't feel as if she was wishing the audience was with her when that happened. Instead, I felt as if she was saying that she was sorry something like that had never happened to her audience. I think this feeling of being excluded from the topic of conversation is what puts many people off.

[@anonymouscoder7791]

I was waiting for ur analysis, 44:59 So true about ur analysis, I didn't pick up on(contempt) it first, When i saw this scene, i felt something was out place, like why isn't he saying anything, or joking about it like saying "yeah, that was awkward". Rather he sat there with little to no expression or trying to at least. It feels like maybe she is making this up, and it didn't actually happen, and its her way to show us how Naive she was, and her naiveness is so funny and adorable, again trying to relate to masses, but it didn't land well.

[@tjbrat44]

THANK YOU for using your methods consistently for everone. Whenever there's question with drama channels, I come here! I want info on the Idaho murderer please!

[@missliss2581able]

I really wish you had left it in. It seems very important to understanding her mannerisms and may have helped some of the more … uncharitable commenters. Her mother is a social worker, she’s probably used to having to explain things to adults in a way she feels they can understand and also talking to kids during difficult situations. I feel like some of that could explain the way Meghan explains things

[@TheBehavioralArts]

@@missliss2581able unfortunately I have to make a lot of difficult decisions in editing because if I didn’t these videos would be 4 hours long. Maybe I can do a video eventually with some important cut outs like that one

[@christapenman4240]

I live in Scotland, Princess Anne had an official visit to my place of work. Those that were meeting her were briefed by a royal staffer on etiquette. Curtsy, greeting etc. If that’s what is done for Princess Anne, I don’t for a moment believe Megan didn’t get briefed on how and what to do.

[@phillipaclemons7261]

Countries have traditions. The Japanese bow as a greeting

[@l.b.5892]

Thank you for pointing that out. I did not know that happened, I like it. I think in the case of the dinner though, there wouldn't be that though as she would have been briefed before, so she should have known that, but the situation was intimate and 'informal' - but still. In that situation I think she wanted to play the 'American actress sweetheart' bit, and how cool and trendy she thinks she is; when in fact she is just rude and uncouth. How sad. I would never wear ripped Jeans and barefoot during any dinner date with friends nor family. I may do so however, after a tiring or shopping day with a close friend and go home for a quick/rushed casual bite. That was not the case here. Total ego and preemptive projection. She really thought she was going to be loved and adored, but that wasn't the case 🤦‍♀️ No wonder William, if that is the case, thought she was rude, difficult and abrasive. I agree with him!

[@DanaG1970]

She was definitely briefed on the etiquette for the royal family, she just chose to ignore it.

[@sandrasutherland1756]

She was given a 30 page dossier on all things Royal. Guess they forgot to mention that.

[@cl3140]

That’s not true, the press criticized Hugo Chavez for almost stretching out his hands to Queen Elizabeth and he was a President of a country. So someone didn’t brief him on greeting the queen. This may have been the case with MM.

[@mitrajordan]

I’ve met the queen, in the context of a private garden party at a historic site. I was one of the servers, wearing costume, we were all vetted and prepared beforehand. If I was prepared, I find it unbelievable that someone who was auditioning to join the family wouldn’t have been given an entire dossier!

[@jola3047]

She wasn't a servent nor an invited in advance guest

[@charlieann456]

@Jola If she wasn't invited, how did she get past the queen's security? I saw a video of them, talking about meeting the queen Harry had asked if she knew how to curtsey. Megan was shocked that she would have to curtsey to Harry's grandmother.

[@elizabethhopkins7582]

Exactly

[@wendyodonnell5363]

I thought it was over dramatic.

[@jennebaram9881]

@@charlieann456 Well... to get into my mom's house as a casual friend of the family, you need to be invited and/or accompanied by an immediate family member. If not, you need to ask and get the formal reply of "Yes- come over." If you don't know her, you need to ring the doorbell, explain yourself and get express permission (which she probably won't give you because she doesn't trust strangers). Different levels of familiarity equate to different levels of introduction.

[@karendepommereau9487]

I am ABSOLUTELY CERTAIN that she was prepped before meeting the Queen! My cousins met the Queen multiple times as they are Godparents to her niece’s son. Each time they were prepped AND reminded on how to greet her and how to refer to her for the rest of the time they were in her company! So moaning Meg having no idea - has to be a bare faced lie - right there! This was a fascinating watch - thank you!

[@annettecarter7890]

I agree, but from what I understand, they had not expected to see the Queen that day, so probably no time for staff to prepare her, she would have arrived with Harry and gone straight in. The fact that in the interview, Harry says he asked her "You know how to curtsey?" shows that he had not discussed how she should behave.

[@karenholland215]

Who cares! That woman was a human being just like everybody else. So what she didn’t do it right. It’s f’ed up that she would have to do it at all

[@sandyCP]

​@karenholland215 Royal family is human beings too. We all have ways to greet elders in our cultures. It's nothing extraordinary. She could just ask Harry. Even a simple handshake would have been OK than this. On the top of that, she acts like it's perfectly alright, but makes a huge deal out of Catherine being uncomfortable about been hugged. That's pretty hypocritical.

[@andree-annblais9221]

Totally agree, I recived a medal from the Canadian Governor and I had a protocol training a month before and a rehasal the day before. So yes there is both theory and practical training. It was very protocolar so when she saied that no one prepared her fo meeting the queen or the Britannic National Anthem I laughed out loud. She also lack of accountabality. She should have ask questions, she should have done her homeworks. This is just being a responsible adult...

[@karenholland215]

@@TaylorVacthe whole thought of having to treat human beings as though they are higher than others is such b.s. “Royals” I’m disgusted by this whole concept.

[@lynn6221]

Mm wears $100,000 worth of clothes and jewelry to read a book to poor kids. BUT wears ripped jeans to meet the FUTURE KING & QUEEN.

[@mabear9238]

So true, just shows her obvious lack of common sense, class, respect and integrity and its become worse.

[@graciegolding9508]

I find that insulting, really! I can't take these 2 anymore. Meg did tons of research before she met Harry. Pulease!

[@uptonogood1893]

I wonder if it's deliberate. She likes making people uncomfortable. Around poor people she flaunts her wealth. Around rich people she dresses like a slob. Invades their personal space. With Katherine she wanted to borrow her personal lipgloss. She likes to throw people off with discomfort. I would go further to say I think she likes to provoke a reaction.

[@MacaRGlez258]

@@graciegolding9508 shes a big narcissist!

[@graciegolding9508]

@@MacaRGlez258 I am very much aware of that. She lies a lot as well. 43% Nigerian. Honestly? Did she screw up 23 and Me?

[@maggiebeth5442]

Don't get me wrong, I spend all day in my pyjamas when I can get away with it! I hate dressing up for events. I'm also a hugger (I'm British so she was wrong with that generalisation imo) and I'm middle class as we're told Meghan was raised. However, if I was meeting my boyfriend's family and was serious about the relationship, I would not be in ripped jeans and bare feet and I certainly wouldn't force myself on them physically. Not all people are comfortable with physical contact. If she has reached her 30s and still doesn't recognise that then it's either because she doesn't pay attention to other people or because she doesn't care about their needs.

[@magdasmith1421]

Liar.

[@labeaxyz]

Exactly my thoughts! Wouldn't you make an effort for your guests? Or hosts? Besides them being Royals! I'm Italian but I don't go kissing people I'm introduced to for the very first time.

[@AngieLea]

💯

[@valansley]

All squeals and false smiles false hugs = Most people see right through it

[@Peace-xu8ps]

Seemingly she cares about her own needs and throws anyone else under the bus that doesn’t ride with her.

[@labeaxyz]

I have worked on a cruise ship where HRH have come for few days or few hours and all staff have been thoroughly explained how to address/behave, I therefore find it utterly impossible that nobody said a word to her. Maybe she was not listening....

[@roselee4445]

She thought she knew better, was better, and would change the royals because surely she is better, knows better, and that surely they are miserable using etiquette.

[@BuntyMcB]

She was given a large dossier as a guide and had the Queen’s most experienced people asked to support her. She said she didn’t need them - she had Harry. Basically I think she struggles with deferring to anybody.

[@niklet9246]

I know it's an isolated incident, but my mind goes to the video of Meghan and Harry expecting to attend an event that I suspect they knew they weren't invited to. Charles tells them not to come in the room and they inch forward clearly intending to ignore him. Meghan starts to go in front of Charles and both Harry and Charles don't let that happen. She then pushes in front of Harry to walk in after Charles. It's very difficult for me to believe that Meghan just didn't know better. I think she needs to own (realize) that she has a personality that is MORE than just headstrong. Same with Harry but in different ways.

[@elizabethanthony3916]

@@niklet9246 👍👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@mayumimabini2630]

@Jo Ralu they’re not the same thing but don’t you think they will attempt to give MORE briefing to a Prince’s girlfriend/fiancée?

[@Marlene521]

She did an Oprah interview, while Prince Phillip was on his deathbed, telling the world the RF was racist in their dealings with her. She disrespected the late Queen, who is probably one of history's greatest women and promoted women's rights in a man's world. QEII also promoted positive race relations. She formed the modern Commonwealth, which is voluntary and the benefit is good trade deals and helping young people. And they had the utter gall to call it Empire 2.0, which was so untrue and insulting to all the countries that voluntarily joined. Her life's work, tarnished by lies. That is unforgivable and can never be undone. That fake exaggerated bow will haunt her for her lifetime. She lied multiple times, is a bully and keeps on lying about the RF. Nope. I dont like her or her behaviour and I am angry about that. I dont hate people, but I dont have to like them or their behaviour.

[@GingerMT-o4m]

The other thing that I thought really bizarre aside from the fact that the points that you made she was pregnant she was an Oprah‘s chicken coop. I grew up on a farm I know for a fact when you’re pregnant the doctors tell you not to go in the chicken coop because it’s dangerous to your unborn child I find that very frustrating I don’t know what word I’m looking for, but she should’ve known better and I know obis would’ve told her to not do that. It’s like we’re not supposed to clean the litter box either when we’re pregnant

[@diane9247]

@@GingerMT-o4m Yes! Birds carry mites, e.coli and chlamydia. These would be in heavy concentrations in a chicken coop. Dog and cat feces also have e.coli.

[@Monica-yq8hk]

​@@GingerMT-o4m she was not pregnant, she faked it, bot Times. And you Arena right :-)

[@Valelacerte]

I learned an awful lot, about the many truly beneficial international roles that The Royal Family does and has played in the world and the racial diversity that already exists within the family, from Lady Colin Campbell. I was already starting to dislike Meghan after the woke wedding. Whether the RF were trying to respect and/or appease Meghan’s racial chip on her shoulder, or were performing the now obligatory white apology for all sins across all time, I resented the fact that one individual was joining the British Royal Family and its entire culture and yet it was the latter who had to adapt, accommodate and virtue signal. The black pastor, black gospel choir, black musicians, and a whole entourage of black celebrities whom Meghan didn’t know personally; all of it smacked of race activism and a clear announcement that, _”I don’t respect your family. In fact, I hate it. My role is to help Harry escape it and make a public statement that I will not bend or compromise one inch to your white, racist, archaic, colonialist institution.”_ If someone told me that this was an operation to undermine the royal family, I wouldn’t dismiss it. Of all the royals, Harry has clear vulnerabilities that can be, and arguably were exploited.

[@maryshanley329]

@@Marlene521 That bow was vile. All you want to know about this human is revealed forever.

[@remyruff]

The south park episode of H&M is a MUST watch. Puts everything into context.

[@haz1013]

She doesn't know who is harry before they become close that a LAUGH 😂😂😂. But she knows who is princess diana.... That ironic.

[@amy4lulu]

One thing I've never understood about H&M's story is how they always emphasise how unprepared M was when meeting members of the Royal Family. Not just because they are the Royal Family but as an interracial couple from completely different backgrounds. As a white woman with a black husband, my husband and I had NUMEROUS conversations about meeting opposite sides of the family and what might be expected, things not to do or say etc... Not to mention in getting to know him & the way he grew up, I had gotten a sense of what his parents were like and what was expected. Seems to me that ultimately, H was the first member of the Royal Family to let her down and set her up for failure

[@Adina201]

That’s the narrative they want you to believe. It’s not like they are being truthful..

[@juliemcleod1119]

No, she was offered help, she said no. She thought she could bully and blackmail her way through. After all she is Not the first outsider let into the Rf, they are given help as much as is needed. After all many take years to get use the the family any family, she demanded every thing now!!!

[@lynnfinly]

Its a story they spin but she was well aware of what she was getting in to. she had all the info necessary to thrive within the RF she just didn't want to comply to the rules. At the end of the day, she was working in a job that she thought was below her and she didn't want to play the game. they were given 1 year to make a decision, came her to Canada, then decided to move to USA. they tried to negotiate within the business and was turned down which then fueled them to make up lies to try and destroy the RF image.

[@e.starling141]

@@lynnfinly Yeah exactly. I mean we could accept their story that she was just oblivious and the very protective Harry did absolutely nothing to prepare her or to keep her from making mistakes, (they DO love to play victim) or we could think logically and realize that Harry is VERY protective of her and would have done everything possible to make sure she didn't embarass herself. And as we know she was offered her own aide to help her acclimate to their customs and she refused the help. (Which proves she just didn't care to respect their traditions.) I also find it really suspect when they were talking about how Meghan kept "accidentally" breaking the royal rules/traditions such as wearing her hair in a bun in public, as well as not wearing panty hose. There's a reason that never happened with Kate or any other woman who's married into the family. And that's that they're all aware of the rules. For Meghan to pretend she didn't know once again defies belief. Even HARRY would know these things. And knowing she likely had disdain for tradition and any "rule" that dictated what women could wear (especially knowing shes a vocal liberal feminist) it seems much more likely the rule breaking was very purposeful. That's just my take anyway.

[@LK-lz6lk]

@@lynnfinly Wonder why they didn't stay in Canada? Not enough publicity, attn & spotlight for Meg?🤷🏼‍♀️ Idk how they compare re: that but I wish they would've stayed.

[@Curry_Tales2107]

When my Italian friends were planning to visit my country, they asked so many questions in detail about how to greet someone, what is appropriate to say and what's not,what to wear etc. They did all the research beforehand. Even though coming from totally different culture, norms, and habits, they managed to not offend a single person, they were liked by everyone.

[@hc7873]

@@RenataKleinRK , you're assuming this person is American 😉

[@tiffanygirardi2341]

That is a good point. When I travel abroad, I research the customs and traditions and such as well and I'm not even meeting anyone!

[@OnceUponaTimeline]

Or in a pinch, just hang back a bit to the back of the pack, see what others in front of you are doing, and copy it as best you can. This stuff varies greatly even from one family to another in the same country. When you are in new territory it's natural and normal to look at others for clues on the protocol. Are people introducing themselves or just waving and saying hi, do they wait for everyone and pray before dinner or just dig in once the first plate it down, etc.

[@sillysod33]

That’s because your Italian friends did not have a plan to blackmail you and your family.

[@pamelavarilone2614]

Your relatives set upon this assignment with much RESPECT. That is the difference. She, as a Narcissist, is completely unaware of this concept, and only moves in ways that serve to increase her “supply.”

[@SharonCurtis7]

Grace Kelly navigated both worlds seamlessly. With elegance and grace. It can be done. Americans are not all crass. I lived in England, and asked friends constantly for behavioral tips so as not to offend. As an American, I wanted to represent our country with honor.

[@leighannhunt1970]

Very nicely said 😊 and so true!

[@t.wlivingstone6769]

First if you read Grace Kelly’s autobiography, you’ll see that she didn’t have an easy entrance into the Monaco Royal family. It was something she had to Work at. She even gave Princess Diana if you read that autobiography some tips on how to navigate the royal world. Secondly, we must first and foremost understand that for Megan it was totally different. She’s a woman of color whether she wants to admit it or not and I think she got a taste of that. She finally saw herself as a black woman in America. I’m a Jewish black woman and my mother always told me the world would look at my skin color first before they looked at my character. Megan did not realize that people would look at her skin color first before they look at her character that they would assign a character based on her skin color. I think that a lot of the things said because I read them I’m Canadian and I read a lot of the things being harsh at her and as a Jewish black woman in Canada/America , I’m gonna tell you right now there was a lot of racist comments towards her so much so tell if it was me and her position I would’ve broke. I would’ve wanted to get the hell out of there so think before you speak because sometimes you need to walk a mile and somebody’s shoes in order to see their point. And if you can go back way back to one of Oprah‘s interviews, where a young boy read John Griffin’s book black like me And decided to try that experiment he did not last one week. He told Oprah that Black people must be really strong because he couldn’t last a week and he explained why find the interview.

[@maryshanley329]

Nutmeg is a professional victim.

[@maryshanley329]

@@t.wlivingstone6769 Many people didn’t even know she was black. They thought she was Italian. She is a classic narcissist. She has thrown all of the people in her life under the. Her “ Suits” actors no longer have her phone number.

[@maryshanley329]

@@t.wlivingstone6769 That was 50 years ago. Today, there is a thriving middle class of black Americans. The Democrats never mention this.

[@lovepoohet]

My husband and I are different race, come from different country, and very different culture background. The first time meeting eachother’s family, we both asked “is there anything we should do, what to wear, certain way to behave”, and with all the tips, we both made mistakes which caused not-so-great first impression. So I thought, at the first meeting with W&K, she probably did prepare but still did make mistakes. That can be excused. But then she went on saying things like “i am always a hugger”, and make fun of the British culture and Royal protocols, that to me sound like she is aware that she made mistakes and she didnt care. She didnt want to change herself at all for marrying into a Royal Family.

[@maried3717]

Absolutely true! She let them know it from the beginning!

[@annicecooper8105]

Exactly ! We are in a similar position and we both screwed up in the early meetings but both families understood and graciously appreciated the effort each had put onto trying to be respectful. It's a learning process over time but it seems she wasn't prepared to learn and put the effort in.

[@MissTi23]

The thing is… i can totally see not caring to indulge the practices of this monarchy that places blood over character…especially having grown up in America. I’d curtesy to M or B Obama if that’s what was expected, but I’m not bowing to Kate or Will. What have they done in life?

[@annicecooper8105]

@@MissTi23 No-one is compelled to agree with a particular ideal in a culture - not sure I could live with some of the expectations in a Jewish or Muslim culture, but then I wouldn't choose to marry someone if I had serious issues with their culture that meant I had to do something I hated / disrespected on a regular basis.

[@christynorman7288]

Huggers are sometimes false, a person who is too friendly like hugging in first meeting and it means nothing. One has to earn the friendship and the familiarity. It's not a badge of honour. My grandad said beware the overly gushing person. It's like walking on quicksand. So she is false in that respect too. She will not bend if it's not her way - it's no way!?? Peace ☮️ out SW England 🇬🇧

[@yoshi4691]

My family bloodline is directly connected to HRH, and many Royal customs and procedures have overlapped in our behaviours. This includes directives on how to greet others, what to wear, and frankly - any and all types of considerations in place in any given moment. That being said, we are still far removed from that world. Thus, it is extremely difficult for me to believe that Prince Harry (nor his team) did not brief Meghan on protocol for a visit. Everything has to be meticulously organized, right down to the silverware or angle of a serving tray. I did not watch this documentary, nor do I have an opinion of her, but my gut says that a lot of this is fabricated, or swept up in a self victimization narrative. As others have said, the mockery and contempt for family traditions is.. off-putting 🚩. I think every person entering into marriage has to make concessions and efforts to preserve some consistency in tradition (toxicity aside). Being a good host, is about making others feel comfortable, particularly when you have little authority in a situation that could make or break your union, or make for a strained relationship with said guests in the future. It feels like Harry has taken a codependent stance and reframed it as "diplomacy" in his marriage, while Meghan attempts to reframe her obstinacy as being innocent or naive, and this is what irked me the most. Meghan is trying to co-opt the role of Diana by taking on her early life narrative of "not knowing". I believe she is mirroring this to Harry and this is why he is hooked. It is emotionally manipulative at best.

[@karenans696]

Yep, you nailed it!

[@barrymaxwell3487]

I guess all of this took the pressure and eyes off Prince Andrew lol. I don't care for the royal family at all as a British person but this mad world Harry and Meghan live in is just plain sad.

[@ginastone5423]

So no offence but does autism run in your family as for some reason I have noticed all the leadership factions are autistic

[@mvalenzuela6739]

Well put

[@nikkis7375]

I’ve seen it all and I feel they are telling the truth. I don’t feel like anything is fabricated

[@Bornintoclusterb]

Who exposes their neck for a prolonged period of time while saying they are uncomfortable? That definitely stood out.

[@TheBehavioralArts]

I absolutely agree. It’s very inconsistent.

[@shanicelasha8495]

i understand this analysis, but i do this when i’m extremely stressed and feel like i have to cry. i’ll just throw my head back and avoid the tears falling. I don’t think she’s uncomfortable in the environment, but i think the subject matter is what’s most uncomfortable for her

[@mymai5859]

Yes OP ...her exposing her neck while throwing her head back is a sign she is very, very comfortable. It is a power move while addressing a subordinate to show they're in control. She's loving it & attacking the RF, while belittling her husband, makes her feel more powerful than them all.

[@katreynolds3193]

As far as telling if someone is lying, at least to me and I can tell 1) they can not look at me when I ask then. 2) they turn flushed3) they can not come out with a straight answer that makes ANY sense at all and lastly my gut feeling 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@lisecreed6749]

there's a difference between "safe" and "comfortable".

[@bluegrassgirl2972]

I think one of the most difficult things for me to try to grasp, why would she be disrespectful to her husband, his heritage, culture and to everyone else? Life is not only about one's self. It's this kind of behavior that makes the, "oh, she's American" explanation not complementary to us.

[@merrywalsh2809]

It’s devaluing behavior. After a narcissist has painted someone black, the devaluing starts.

[@keep_it_real_1]

Because she's a narcassist

[@cagirl2220]

To bring him down so she looks better.

[@MadCatLady28]

1. The "oh, she's American" comment is most definitely never a compliment. 2. The last couple of comments from Spidey actually hits this topic quite hard, it made me think she believes she's married into her own reality TV show. What could possibly be a better way to ensure you get longevity in front of the camera than marrying into royalty who live their entire lives in front of them?

[@jlseagull2.060]

Bluegrassgirl Well said!

[@danakaragianis2776]

The curtsy was totally disrespectful that Meghan mocked. It showed total disrespect to Harry and to the Royal family!

[@mabear9238]

And Harry did nothing to stop it, he's weak and just as bad as her.

[@annhughes5238]

She did it deliberately with no respect whatsoever!! She should be ashamed along with her shameless husband who didn't have the guts to shut her up!!

[@platoscave855]

Adapting our behaviour to different social situations does not mean that we're fake, simply that we are not socially inept. We adapt because the world does not revolve ariund us.

[@donnapotts2238]

This is exactly true we all behave differently in different situations we see that there are boundaries or rules and adapt to those, like being at work in a corporate setting you would behave differently to being in a bar with friends. It doesn't mean people are fake it just shows understanding of different social settings

[@KarensOpinionsMayDiffer]

Extremely well written!

[@reneep.1978]

@@KarensOpinionsMayDiffer All the above is true, but even when you behave differently in various situations you are still yourself. Megan Markle doesn't necessarily come across that way, many of her expressions and mannerisms come across as artificial/fake like she's acting a role instead of just being herself and that's why people think she's fake and/or a liar.

[@maggiem.1539]

I’ve lived in 3 other countries than my own, which is the UK. The first thing you do is be polite to the cultures you find yourself in! You are then accepted, and my goodness you learn so much more about people and backgrounds of the country you are in. Priceless!

[@elinebrock5660]

@@reneep.1978 people also think she's a liar because she's been caught saying so many demonstrably false things like, "We were actually married 3 days before in our garden, just us and the Archbishop of Canterbury!", a lie which the AB of C actually came out and refuted in a public statement!

[@TheBehavioralArts]

Hey everyone! I JUST uploaded the video so for the early birds please excuse the lack of 4k and subtitles, they shall kick in shortly. Also, as mentioned in the video, I know this is a very polarizing topic for a lot of people (I explain why in the video) but let's try and keep the discussions polite and respectful please. Everybody's personal opinion is valid and I would love the conversations in the comments to reflect the open minded attitude that we value in this community. Thanks ❤

[@keriduncan5764]

💗💗💗💗

[@kirencja1]

I just wanted to ask for closed caption 🙂 thanks for being ahead of us xx

[@TheBehavioralArts]

@@kirencja1 yeah, sorry. I normally upload well in advance so that by the time you see it the subtitles are ready. But because i really got it ready at the last minute and uploaded immediately they're not there yet. Thanks for your patience :)

[@sammedpatil4465]

Hey spidy please tell us how to be a mentalist I want to learn something about psychology stuff and body language i learnt a lot about body language from you but I wanna learn about psychology and mentalist

[@nicolegroves6880]

@TheBehavioralArts I just wanted to say, as a person who is hard of hearing, the subtitles are SO incredibly appreciated!!! KZbin's auto-generated subtitles are not always available and are less than reliable when they are, so the extra work you put in to create the captions is a really big deal for people like me. Your channel is one of my favorites, I find it so fascinating! The fact that I don't have to guess what you're saying makes it even better, LOL!

[@nousernamesarevalid]

When he said that she’s animated and gestures as if she’s performing for children, all I could think is that’s what attracted Harry. His inner child desires that.

[@kellymoore6353]

That is exactly what I was thinking, she's absolutely played on that part

[@mandymckeown8625]

Narsissits are very animated as it’s all a performance to get fuel ⛽️ and attention . That’s what attracted him to her he hasn’t grown up 😮

[@ohheyykristina]

They say that people stop maturing emotionally at the age they experienced trauma and are stuck at that age emotionally into adulthood. It makes a lot of sense that he would seek out someone who brings out his inner child but he also seems to be subconsciously seeking someone to fill that mother wound he has. Unfortunately, women like Meghan have a habit of finding men like this and taking advantage of their weaknesses.

[@emshizzelbaby]

@@ohheyykristinaI have never heard that!!! Thank u that was interesting to learn🩶

[@dawnb567]

I'm American and her behavior is disgusting and so disrespectful. This is her stage she could have been prepped and still chose to do it her way and blame it on not knowing if it didn't go well! Like ad-libbing! That's the feel I get for this interview can't wait to see part 2 now!!! You are so dead on with the behavior and I'm learning so much just watching you! Also love the Canadian accent?! Have relatives in Maine and Canada and I just love listening to you ❤❤❤❤❤God bless you Spidey

[@ivanabonacicdoric8537]

She did not have to change, only respect a bit

[@strawbricketteshortcake5460]

Yes she thought that she was so charming and awesome that there was no way the royals wouldn’t make exceptions for her! Once she found out that they run a tight ship and she wasn’t the Captain her Princess fantasy crashed and she took it personally. She is gross

[@yourconnection9303]

I don't hear an accent in Spidey as a Canadian. He sounds like a lot of Americans do.

[@sandyCP]

​@therealz360z7 Being a prisoner and being married to a royal family are very different things. Royal life is more like a life of a diplomat, not a prisoner. If it's normal life that they wanted they could just be non-working royals. Look how Prince Edward and his wife Sophie lived until they decided to become working royals. They did normal jobs and lived like normal people. So, I very much doubt it is "finding freedom" that H&M actually wanted

[@mssdn8976]

I don’t think she has the capability of being embarrassed

[@havlong]

I first started watching your channel when the Johnny Depp & Amber Heard trial was going on. I watched a few other behavior analysts but kept coming back to you primarily because of your objectivity. It’s apparent to me that your goal is to educate your audience without forcing your own viewpoints and opinions. I feel like I’ve learned a lot about body language and behavior by watching your videos. Thank you for your hard work in being a content creator as well as sharing the wealth of your expertise.

[@giovannirsazak7239]

My thoughts as well.

[@rachaelleann9847]

Me too

[@sossoft]

Objectivity lol

[@MsBahbii]

I agree. He is excellent.

[@trumansmom5848]

Get over it. The thought of bowing to another person is ridiculous!

[@animula6908]

Why does she always assume we haven’t gotten any sense of who they are? They talk about themselves nonstop, so if we haven’t got a sense of who they want us to think they are from them telling us what we are obligated to think of them for all these years, telling us again is not going to makes think what they want us to think of them either. She needs to never use that justification for talking about herself again.

[@Roszalief]

Because how they have been portrayed in the media. Lots of lies have been told about them while they are not allowed to respond.

[@mecca1395]

@@Roszalief don't you think - an Oprah interview, Netflix 2 part documentaries, 4-5 independent interviews, a memoir - has been enough coz all they do is talk and the only people NOT doing the talking is the RF.... Weird you don't see it.....and they have been portrayed in the media as per their behavior.... I believe you absolutely accept people throwing their families under the bus to play not only victim but earn millions from it....

[@zeldagoblin]

Which lies were those, specifically?

[@SylD0611]

100 million $ is the real reason, come on Megan. Yes they talk about themselves nonstop, they love to be on camera and the attention. It's their "job". If it's just to say who you really are, you could do it for FREE 😅

[@ashleydurham7397]

Yeah. I think we all get it at this point.

[@nomiddlenamenmn427]

I love Diana’s soft, but strong voice. She was polite, but made her point. I believe there won’t be another Diana in this lifetime. Thank you. ❤

[@rs5570]

In no lifetime will there ever be another Diana. I know I will see her on the next plane. I plan to ask her some questions and express my great love for her.

[@reysquadron7820]

She blew me away with that paparazzi. Such class and grace, and skills in trying to win people over.

[@IrenaDeacon]

I agree. True protector and lovely mother and person

[@eh-i1841]

@@IrenaDeacon it’s a pity one of her sons is so full of hate.She’d send him to his room,to think about his behaviour.

[@abigaelwhite2383]

It almost seems to me like she wanted to become the new Di and got pissed and left when she didn’t land right.

[@angelabrown8458]

They absolutely 100% prepped her for meeting all of them. No question about it.

[@mabear9238]

So true, she has lied all the way through and still lying. Utrocious woman and a habitual liar, how Harry can stomach her lies says alot about his integrity, lack of it obviously.

[@chrishough692]

After what happened with Princess Diana, they have changed a lot of their protocols. I don’t believe a word she says and never have. They are toxic.

[@Paul_Lane]

As a prior director of protocol dealing with world leaders and heads of state, there is absolutely no way she would not have been prepared to meet the Queen. That’s very difficult for me to believe. Great video.

[@rachaelleann9847]

That's just commons knowledge lol

[@hobbesthecat6868]

I truly think this moment will be the crack that no longer holds back the water in the dam for Harry. I feel he knows she is absolutely acting in this moment and being disrespectful for effect in order to benefit herself. It was clear to me he did not appreciate the act. For God's sake, even The Crown outlined protocol given to everyone interacting with the Queen and they love nothing more than throwing the Royal Family under the bus to dramatic effect. As an American I respect the traditions of other countries and wouldn't dream of not researching how to properly behave. Would she approach bowing in Eastern cultures with the same contempt? Also, I have always asked those I have cared about how I should behave with their family. It is a sign of respect. I realy feel this relationship was rushed and I honestly don't believe it is good for either of them. It is a shame. 😔

[@reenougle]

Absolutely. She will have been thoroughly briefed on how to act before meeting the Queen. Earth to Meg…

[@CGH250]

She took classes in London on Royal etiquette after meeting H. These classes would have prepared her for how to curtsy, take tea, cross her legs, etc. A local reporter went to said school and spoke with an instructor there. M lies so much, she loses tracks of her lies.

[@jola3047]

Where you with them during all private moments?

[@mismag822]

44:44 “Go high five the queen” 😂😂 That bow was so disrespectful and I believe Harry was showing contempt. I learn so much from you every video. Thanks! 👍

[@TheBehavioralArts]

Thanks so much for your continued support and kind words 😊 ❤️ ✋🏼 👸 😂

[@mismag822]

@@TheBehavioralArts I’m beginning to think that part of the reason Harry married Megan was because she resents his family.

[@cafreria_en_pote]

2023 and we’re still judging people on curtsies *face palm*

[@mioara8169]

@@mismag822 Maybe , but this sooner will kick back to him , wait and watch.

[@EmiliaJay]

@@cafreria_en_pote make sure you do it really really hard…

[@moonchild6307]

The way you compared her way of speaking to somebody who talks to a child is brilliant. I couldn’t put my finger on it.

[@annemccarron2281]

Yes, she comes across as very condescending!

[@lilhimer3361]

This example of how irritating it is when someone speaks to you as if you were five is why people of almost every persuasion dislike Kamala Harris. Employment as a mediocre preschool teacher is a perfect match for her skill set. Same with Meghan.

[@dawns.6022]

The fact you mentioned about the exaggerated gestures of kid magicians and the way Meghan told her story was so interesting. I did find it cringy but I didn't know why I felt so

[@phlutegirl]

Same! I appreciated the explanation for this reason!

[@tabatha7888]

Her podcast is about stereotyping women, but she always stereotypes people. She says this is how brits are, or this is how Americans are. She and Harry always contradict themselves. That’s what I find so frustrating about them. Love your channel!!

[@florac6906]

She claims she is a feminist but said Kate had a baby brain 🙄

[@ting1084]

good point!

[@SilverSixpence888]

It's about "archetyping" women 🤣

[@baylorsailor]

My thoughts exactly.

[@pinkette]

Projection

[@lisecreed6749]

I have a different theory on the shaking of the head no when he is talking about protecting his family. As a trauma survivor, I have noticed a tendency to shake my head when discussing/thinking about the traumatic situation, almost like trying to clear a mental Etch-a-Sketch of the image. It's a sign to me that the subject needs to move on before I get caught up in it and get emotional.

[@lisecreed6749]

In general, the obsession with trying to make them look like everything about them is a lie is getting old. It's become obvious that both you and the Behavior Panel have some serious hate for them (Meghan especially) and it's ugly. Of course they are two-faced. We ALL are. Everyone has a public face and a private one and y'all are acting like they should be some sort of exception. "OOOH OOOH! HE'S WITHHOLDING SOMETHING! HE'S PURSING HIS LIPS!" Of course they are going to withhold information. They don't owe us every little truth they have, and so much of the analysis I've seen all of you do has been sketchy at best and has made for clickbait. Great for your subscriptions, but I think you do a great disservice not only to Harry and Meghan, but to your profession trying not to detect deception, but invent it.

[@VLynnie]

Good point. I like the Etch-a-sketch image. Makes sense.

[@zeldagoblin]

When bad stuff comes to my mind, I say or sing random words out loud. Don't know why, probably distraction.

[@vaderladyl]

Kinda like telling yourself "No! Don't go there!"

[@CatalinaFOIA]

Excellent analogy 👏 shaking an etch a sketch! It's so perfect, couldn't have stated that any better.

[@MA1-BEE]

Can you imagine if MM were mocking the deep bow that Japanese children give their elders? If you were being introduced to ANYONE important to your spouse, you would make an effort to dress appropriately and if you presented in the opposite way, this appears intentionally manipulative. That she intentionally wore ripped jeans etc…sounds like she intended to show them that she is either innocent of everything they represent (unlikely) or wanted to show that she is unphased by their higher status. That she thought so much about this in the first place, but then reiterated this situation to the camera (to the world) shows a level of manipulative behaviour that is so beyond and it is this It is degree of manipulative behaviour that is annoying.

[@EEmB]

Yes!!!

[@Raelven]

It is plain old disrespectful, also.

[@Kika33000]

Yes my husband is Japanese and I would never mock his families traditions to my friends let alone for the entire world to see. Others traditions and culture is not something funny that you go around and laugh about. I was shocked especially since she had a whole podcast about stereotypes!!!

[@yatiejabs6684]

Respecting other cultures is very important to preserve harmony. I love Japanese culture and I like the way they show respect to others. Many regions in South East Asia, we kiss the hands of our elders and always let our elders go first. When we meet our in laws or future in laws, we always welcome them with respect. Hugging is a no-no if one doesn't know the other. We keep our distance first until we feel that person is a genuine person. This woman called Meghan made history by being disrespectful and mocking other people's tradition, worst part, her own husband's family. This man whose name is Harry, seems like a wierdo, comes from a highly respectable family - British Monarchy. By accepting this woman who walks all over his culture and tradition is beyond anyone's comprehension. I hope the Monarchy shows that they are a respectable institution, rather than being a laughing stock.

[@valansley]

Very childish like a difficult teenager

[@sallywood7636]

I was born in England. I lived there until I was 12 and then moved to the US. I understand the differences of the two nations. I don’t understand how someone can go to England and not learn and be respectful. Surely Megan wouldn’t have slippers and ripped jeans if she invited the president to dinner? She seems very anxious to be portray a poor innocent person, but she’s a savvy actor. Also, somebody with integrity would say I really blew it for that dinner with Harry’s brother, so I certainly learned to be more respectful and appropriate after that. She doesn’t seem to have any insight into her inappropriate behavior. And yet she is a trained actor?

[@mabear9238]

I think you hit the nail on the head, she is a trained actor, she's always acting, there's nothing genuine about her.

[@maritzanoriega]

Omg!! I’ve been for ages trying to understand why she irritated me soooo much! And you just literally gave the explanation. TOTALLY on point with the fact that she talks like we are kids, completely exaggerated and feels completely fake! She rubs me completely rubs me the wrong way

[@paatee8831]

She even changed the way she speaks after marriage

[@sandyno1089]

@@paatee8831 So did Hasbeans, it's horrible.

[@Misbehavedcollection]

I agree and snarky like she's better than others.

[@lorrainearmstrong7587]

@@paatee8831 I'm sure she changed after EACH of her 3 previous marriages. Divorce WILL do that to ya

[@jodyrebeljohnsoncacciatore4791]

If we take on board that she talks like we are children, I wonder how actual children react to her?

[@pensierostupendo]

The fact that you stay objectiv is why I really enjoy yours analysis. You are just great 🥰

[@TheBehavioralArts]

Thank you so much. 🤗

[@pensierostupendo]

@@TheBehavioralArts thank you Spidey.. I'm italian and as a latin person I gesture a lot... is this bad 😅😅?

[@vaderladyl]

@@pensierostupendo Not at all. We Latin are expressive even with our hands. Can't help ourselves!😃

[@emshizzelbaby]

⁠@@pensierostupendoI’m not familiar w/ all gestures but I have learned that talking wi/ur hands is associated w/honesty. A lot of times when ppl are being deceptive they don’t wanna be seen. So they try to be as still as possible & there shoulders shrink down which also shows lack of confidence . Part of the freeze fight or flee response if I’m not mistaken

[@SG-wu8eh]

“He’s found a woman he can protect the way he couldn’t protect his mother.” 🤯 WOW. He’s probably not even aware of that and here comes Spidy and reads him like a book in two seconds 👏

[@maxinewarnest894]

If Harry wants to protect anyone in the way that he ultimately couldn't protect his mother, then he should promote the use of seat belts. But he never speaks of seat belts or how very important seat belts are.

[@SG-wu8eh]

@@maxinewarnest894 can’t really blame him for blaming the paps instead of his mother who was being chased.

[@ДолговаНаталья-г1ц]

The whole world reads it. And we also read that Meghan uses this poor boy because of his need to protect his mother. As a mother of two boys I'm so sorry for him.

[@sharieannpryce9127]

@@ДолговаНаталья-г1ц Exactly what she's doing.

[@Valen_Wolf]

@Maxine Warnest ❤️‍🩹 Actually.. yes, Harry did speak of seatbelts in his book. At least twice so far in the beginning of "Spare".

[@katpleroux7756]

"Look at us, we are so cool and relatable and cute..Not like those stuffy ol' Royals" What an ACT!

[@ThatRedhedd]

She is nothing like the stuffy old royals though. That's not an act.

[@mabear9238]

​​@@ThatRedhedd But shes happy to take and cling on to those stuffy titles given by those stuffy royals though isn't she, not giving those back is she, I'm such a fraud is what she said", shes never said a truer word." One big fake alright. Btw she's acting like a crazy person, I know which one I'd would rather be and its not the fake crazy one.

[@realnaveen]

There is an expiry date on blaming your parents for steering you in the wrong direction. The moment you are old enough to take the wheel, responsibility lies with you. - J K Rowling

[@TheHAM1980]

❤

[@tidalwaves8761]

the delaying tactics also work to help the viewer forget the actual question - especially if the answer is a non answer and we try to follow what she is saying. it's helpful on video to really review what was said and how she said it.

[@SylD0611]

Why did you want do make this documentary? MM : "mmmmh 100 million $ seems a good reason. It's the kind of money I'll never get as an actress" If it's just to say who you really are, you could do it for free + they love to be on camera and doing interview talking about THEMSELVES.😅

[@amandadoh2875]

I do that in interviews when I don't know the answer...

[@KEMBARACHANNEL]

@@SylD0611 🤣🤣 exactly.

[@paulchristian7693]

MM is an actress always playing her part. 🎭

[@Stormiray3]

You were spot on. I couldn’t put my finger on why I felt kinda disgusted or icky when listening to Megan tell her elephant story. It had me even want to look away from the screen when she was talking and I didn’t know why. And then it reminded me of how I felt when watching amber heard tell a story….just idk icky. And then I felt bad like I must have preconceived notions of these 2 women or something and wondering why I feel this way so strongly when I don’t even know them! Knowing other people feel the same way as me and not knowing why was very interesting and insightful! Thank you for explaining this!

[@stardresser1]

The first time I met my husband's parents, it was Thanksgiving dinner. I knew they were academics who had taught and been in administration, I knew where they were from, and that they were older (my guy and I were in our late 30s/early 40s). I was a boho kinda chaotic artistic designer for rock stars...nd I still new to dress well, be on time, be respectful, cordial, but not too familiar, and not to make it all about ME. I was at a family holiday, with a man I loved and hoped to be with. It was so easy to get myself in the right frame of mind. It was the LEAST I could do! She'd also already decided to marry him, it would also have been the LEAST Meghan could have done. It would not have been that hard. PUH LEASE girl. It was lazy and narcissistic of her.

[@ThatRedhedd]

People who are huggers always hug me when we first meet. I don't like it. You know what I DON'T do? I don't call them lazy and narcissistic for not asking ahead of time if I was a hugger.

[@catharinecarrington2705]

She loves the camera she was an actress called she's going to love the camera cos she was on front of a camera at 24 hours a day make a Mark was a TV actress on suits in filmed in Toronto so she would know that Meghan Markle Camera Never Lies with Meghan Markle the camera never lies in the camera never lies with Meghan Markle because she wants to be the centre of attention

[@nikitajanei102]

I'm British and I would just like to say thank you for your impartial coverage on this. In the interests of full disclosure I have to say that when they first got together I was 100% team Meghan. I genuinely thought that (as much as I love our RF), she was the breath of fresh air that it needed to bring it up-to-date. I was overjoyed when they both initially teamed up with Catherine and William to become what we then called the new ''fab 4''. When they made the break from the U.K I was sad but I thought, 'hey, I'm going to give them the benefit of the doubt'. I was disappointed but could see how they may want their privacy and just be a private family unit together, especially seeing as though they said that was what they both craved so badly, *privacy*. I guess when the tables started to really turn for me was the Oprah interview. Having always been a people watcher. I watched that interview over and over again and I felt the beginnings of a pit inside my stomach. Something was very ''off' about the whole interview. I'm sad to say that my opinion of them both has only gotten worse as time has gone on. I'm not sure what their end game is, their master plan so-to-speak but one thing I feel almost certain of, Harry has absolutely burned every last bridge of hope that existed between himself and his family and that is extremely sad. King Charles loves him dearly - as does Prince William, but they are not fools. There is one thing that I keep hearing in my head is when King Charles called Meghan tungsten and he's right, she's exactly that.

[@barrymaxwell3487]

King Charles is a fool, he cheated on Dianna, letting his brother Andrew back into the royal family. Meghan and Harry are messed up but I'm far from fond of the royals.

[@louesparza8003]

Nikitajane, from this Texan - you are absolutely right in what you explain. The Brits gave her every chance until she revealed her real self and her real intentions.

[@kristinmartin2899]

I’m with you! I was never exactly a huge fan of Megan. I had this thing in my gut about her from the start that something was off. Then I saw the press honestly was hounding her and I was like “poor thing they’re actually being mean now. If they keep this up they’ll both walk”. So I wasn’t I was like “yep” when they went to the US . Then the Oprah interview happened and i lost respect for them. All of a sudden they were doing to Harry’s family exactly what her family did to her.

[@weistired]

@@kristinmartin2899 ....except her family did nothing to her to cause the chaos that ensued before/during/after the wedding. I am with you to that point. SHE is the one causing the friction. SHE is the one doing the damage and crying WOLF. Harry had always been my fav member of the RF. Now? I don't believe a word that issues from his mouth - and certainly not one from Meagain!

[@cherylmc9]

OMG, I busted a gut when I read you say" King Charles loves him dearly". A dad doesn't tell his son, whom he is suppose to love, that he didn't think that son was his child!! I'll just leave it at that.

[@artj2657]

Really enjoyed your analysis here, thank you. She had over six months training. She was allocated two of the Queens most senior ladies in waiting to help her, especially with royal protocols. One of the ladies in waiting actually delayed her retirement just to stay on to help her out, but she didn’t want to know. She wanted to do it her way. In her own words she “wanted to hit the ground running”. Also one of the senior people provided her with a file containing over 30 pages of information, together with the mobile numbers of people she could call for help and advice at any time! Come on guys do you REALLY believe that they would just “throw her in at the deep end” 🤣 She purposely broke every protocol she could. Why? She didn’t want to learn or respect our traditions because she had no intention of hanging around. It was a smash and grab of titles and a dash off to the USA to merch! Read Tom Bower’s book, it connects all the dots!

[@maggsbufton1969]

Could. It agree with you more. This woman wanted the titles, status and privileges with NONE of the responsibilities.

[@enideckert3964]

@@maggsbufton1969 and don’t forget money

[@charlielew2933]

@@enideckert3964 I mean…she was already a moderately successful actress. She was set for life from just Suits alone. So I don’t really think she wanted money per se. But I do think she was into the titles and prestige of being in the RF.

[@charlielew2933]

I’m from the US, but am also very knowledgeable about UK culture, lingo, customs, etc. In Meghan’s defense, even I would have a hard time learning all the Royal protocols and such. But I do agree with you that she could’ve at least made more of an effort. Like, the Queen is a world leader, Wills is literally the future king. It’s not like Meghan would’ve worn ripped jeans and no shoes if she had President Biden coming over.

[@enideckert3964]

@@charlielew2933 you could be right but Suits could be canceled anytime and her estimated wealth was $five million, hardly enough to live on until retirement with her fashion needs alone!

[@caitlinphillips1821]

I just have to say, Princess Diana's "as a parent comment" absolutely got me. The calm, cool, powerful but respectful way she handled that, wonderful.

[@kathygarciac]

a real princess right there!

[@shambhala3090]

There's not much to say about the son. He has none of his mother's attributes. Only Will is like his mother in many ways. I have never liked Harry.

[@Kate98755]

to google has become an action statement

[@rschindler9965]

She’s a real gem. I don’t know how he can stand her.

[@Duchess-of-Camelot]

same

[@gretapenco-w7u]

A gem or a germ?

[@tiffanyshockley8469]

I’m so happy you addressed the hate being in the middle receives from the extremes on both sides of any argument. You being able to play devils advocate and be objective is one of my favorite parts of you and about your channel. I always trust more easily when I feel like the person I’m talking to or listening to is able to refute the opposition no matter their personal stance. In other words, you da best, Spidey.

[@TheBehavioralArts]

Thanks so much. It’s hard to stand that ground on KZbin in this day and age and get decimated from both sides but Im so thankful you appreciate the effort 🤗

[@penelopefp]

@@TheBehavioralArts I used to feel wishy-washy that I didn't take sides. But now, I see it as a strength to be able to stand in the middle and see the best of both and the challenge of both sides. "Blessed are the peacemakers."

[@selfthinker]

Apparently the BBC often gets attacked from the left for being too far to the right and from the right for being too far to the left. That's what you get when you're trying to be politically neutral. I'm not a very political person but I engage with friends in political subjects. I then try to be as neutral and fair as possible. That often means that left leaning friends accuse me of being a conservative and right leaning friends accuse me of being a liberal. But I'm neither.

[@fionamcfadden5772]

@@TheBehavioralArtsgreat job Spidey!..v interesting..thankyou Xx

[@chloe2264]

Amen

[@Aquarius7771]

I also believe the reason she speaks, as you say, like she’s speaking to children, is because it’s part of her dramatization of the story she is playing her role in. She knew EXACTLY what role she was going to play with Harry. I think oftentimes Harry sees that it is a role, but his need to be the protector is so great, he hasn’t yet been able to surrender his own role.

[@phoenixrises5169]

Agreed

[@ctlilbit]

As an American who respected the Queen, a very special person full of dignity and deserved complete respect. If Meghan truly loved Harry, she would have never made fun of his grandmother.

[@aa.4639]

Not to mention the woman was 93 years old at the time of her passing. How do you turn your back on your fraile grandmother at her last moments??

[@vooroojaak]

The Queen served her country 70 years! One should be lucky to live that long! The Queen never publicly made her feelings known! Megan wants to justify her actions ! And she made this deal with Netflix snd has the audacity to make fun of a family she married to! If she didnt like his family like she doesnt like her own family! She shouldnt have married him! She had no problem not speaking to her own family and divorce her first husband! But she saw a Prince and thought! Aha thats the TV show i can have for life! But didn’t realize she has to work for it!

[@lizzylane2839]

@@aa.4639 96.

[@aa.4639]

@@lizzylane2839 Omg.. 😵

[@eileenhuss7566]

Exactly 💯 💯 💯 💯 💯

[@MAGAChickenMomma]

Not only was MM briefed on royal protocol, she was given a written 30-point dossier on the subject, had a team of 14 ladies in waiting and the ear of H’s personal assistant, ELF. MM, herself, has said that Sarah Ferguson taught her how to curtsey before meeting the Queen, AND she had curtsied on Suits, many years before. Not only that, but she could have googled “How to curtsey” at any point in time & got step-by-step instructions or even a video. If you’re meeting your new boyfriend’s family for the 1st time, any normal person would at least try to make a good impression… put something nice on & maybe ask him if you look ok, let alone if your new boyfriend is a prince & you’re meeting the royal family. All this acting like she didn’t know anything, couldn’t find out, & everything was such an awful surprise is not a good look. Nobody is that stupid.

[@catherinebrame3145]

Thank you!!

[@pameladigaetano8119]

She is so disrespectful to the Royal family. Even the Queen!!! She actually thought she was more experienced than the QUEEN 👸! The nerve and outrageous behavior is APPALLING. 😮😮😮😮

[@laurensalviani6484]

Spot on!!

[@tayyymonet]

YOUR OBJECTIVITY IS THE #1 REASON I WATCH YOU AS MY PREFERRED ANALYST! Please never stop! Thank you!!

[@lilybrown5898]

Oh my goodness you're so right! I always wondered why there was something that just made me not like her very much, and it wasn't that I wasn't empathetic to what she had gone through but there was always this feeling of being uncomfortable or irked whenever she spoke to the camera. And I think its exactly what you said about her speaking to the audience like we're children because I remember she had done an interview with 'Variety' and they had asked her a simple question which was "what is your favourite television show" or something along those lines and it was so long and drawn out that it took two minutes for her to actually answer the question. To me, she uses too many descriptions for no reason and when people do that I feel like they're speaking to me like I can't comprehend what they're saying unless they dumb it down, or like I am a child. So thank you for people into words why that is because I felt like I was never able to properly explain that feeling. Sorry this was so long lol

[@thomasrios3913]

Yeah this was mind blowing. 😮. He nailed it

[@zeldagoblin]

Amber Heard did that too. The whole...we get the idea of free speech from the Greeks....very condescending and unlikable.

[@stephenmcdonagh2795]

Both sociopathic and narcissistic traits. Sociopaths tend to mimic behaviour due to them lacking normal human emotions- empathy being their major problem. Her narcissistic side sees herself as cleverer than she actually is, she's probably never met anyone she'd see as superior to herself, in her mind, she'll always be the cleverest person in the room, whereas in reality, this is only true when there's just Me-again and Harry in the room.

[@phillipaclemons7261]

I think she is charming, but also feel she is manipulating and contrived

[@niklet9246]

Yes, she's not able to gauge how to talk to people as if they're on the same level.

[@kimcoulter8352]

I met Prince Andrew back in 2000 on the island of Anguilla. My ex and I were invited to a cocktail part at the Governor's House in honour of his visit. We were definitely given a written protocol and what to do and what not to do when meeting a royal. If I were dating and meeting my partner's family for the first time, I wouldn't be walking around barefoot wearing ripped jeans, whether they were royal or not.

[@lilhimer3361]

I'm not buying most of whatever she's trying to sell. She wore ripped jeans and was barefoot when she met Prince William and Princess Kate? She's lying, or she has a rather blatant way of showing utter contempt toward her future husband's family, the customs that are important to them, just everything. I personally think it's a lie. It never happened. Prince Harry knows this very well but has bought into her lies. She repeats them. She believes that everyone agrees that their customs are ridiculous. Whether that is true or not really isn't the point. If I were dating a garbage man, I would have had more respect for his family than to be dressed the way she was. Did they show up three hours early before she was able to get dressed? It never happened.

[@Allannah_Of_Rome]

If you were an Australian like me that's exactly what we would do except we'd be wearing thongs instead! 😂

[@brandyjoiner9575]

Exactly! I'm an american, and I admit that I don't know much about the etiquette of how to interact with a royal. But, even in non-royal interactions, I wanna put my best foot forward, so I find it difficult to believe that Meghan didn't know... whether she was told beforehand or asked herself. I was so nervous about meeting my husband's family that I asked before meeting them because I KNEW that my family was more "relaxed" than his. If MM didn't ask, that's completely on her! And even if she didn't ask the first time, you better believe she'd have asked immediately afterward and tailored her behavior accordingly. I mean, we're talking about friggin royalty for goodness sake! SMDH

[@thewraith3366]

For Andrew?? lol

[@tearsong8744]

@@thewraith3366 I'm assuming that was before his current legal troubles. Meeting any member of a royal family is usually a big deal despite how far down the line of succession.

[@KimikoMaui]

I didnt think princess di was all that until i rewatched her interviews, saw her photos and watched how sweet she was. I admire her now

[@angelmorningstarr9504]

Delaying tactics are also for dramatics. Something which this young lady is very fond of.

[@jennihj]

She’s not young she’s almost mid 40s

[@mymai5859]

She is an immature, middle aged, lying woman who is very thick, yet thinks she's the saviour of the world .

[@vaderladyl]

@@jennihj Yes she is still young. 30's and 40's is not old.

[@e.sergeeva]

@@jennihj I believe 'young lady' was used sarcastically here))

[@jennihj]

@@vaderladyl I’m 44 so I know it’s not old but it’s not Young!! It’s almost middle age.

[@janicerespres359]

All I know that as an African American female, if I started dating a man that I know has family ties with Royalty such as Harry. I would find out everything I could to know what to expect, what I should wear, how I should act, how to talk, when to talk. I would do absolutely everything possible to show respect to his family. Especially, if I'm going to be his wife someday. To me that's just common sense. She was a fool to come there with her own agenda, and present herself as the "IT" girl, and do like she wants, when they are Royalty for Pete's sake. Now, that doesn't make me dislike her at all. I truly believe that they love each other, and I'm happy for them. Yet when she went to his family from the very beginning and wasn't accepted as she thought she should, it was her dam fault. So, her next move was to get Harry as far away from his family as possible, making him believe that she was the victim in all of that. Now Harry is estranged from his family, not that he was as close as he would have wanted to be, but he dam sure ain't close now. He cannot and will not choose between his wife and children and his Father and brother.

[@laurenletsche1134]

she would have had a great life doing royal duties and she blew it

[@wearetheworld6962]

There is just something that isn't right about that woman. She has no forgiveness, no tolerance, no sympathy! She can off anybody if she can off her own family! Who is Harry's family to her? Nothing obviously, I just find that she is the selfish one here. She has no problems removing those who don't agree with her agenda or her period! Just not a good person tbh

[@reenougle]

I agree with you Janicerespres… If you are marrying into a culture different to yours it is just common courtesy to learn about it and be respectful to their customs. If you don’t feel comfortable with that culture don’t marry into it!!!! She is a very silly woman.

[@idneilkell]

From as far as I've gotten in his book this was going to happen for him with someone. He has such hurt and disgust for the life he has been forced to live. The pain of losing his mother and all of the manipulations that kind of life brings.

[@janicerespres359]

@@idneilkell That is my sentiments exactly. I'm half way through his book now, and I said long long ago after Princess Diana (rip), died her children will suffer greatly, especially Harry. And to be thought of as a 'Spare' is truly low down. And he has been living that in his mind his whole life. And has never truly understood nor mourned his "Mommy's" death. And Meagan used his being vulnerable to her advantage.

[@Sara_H114]

I love how you explain and educate us on behavioral patterns. I also love that you are trying to be the middle of the road and let us decide for ourselves how we interpret the behaviors.

[@Justsobyjan]

Spot on

[@koryryon4177]

Agree 100%

[@maggiecronje4796]

Eny news onn princess Catherine ❤

[@iSeeStars153]

Yeah, I have a really hard time Believing that it didn’t even cross her mind to ask Harry, “Ok, what do I need to do when I meet the queen?” Like, no. Anyone anywhere meeting their significant other’s family for the first time, would have some nervous questions. That’s normal human behavior. And if I am to believe that she just didn’t ask questions about how to act in advance, that just reeks of rudeness and is some of the strangest and most nonsensical behavior I have ever heard of.

[@SMRT79]

A 2017 article discussed an inside source saying how hard Megsy worked to “memorize” all the protocol required For just a “5 min meeting w the queen”…so she is a liar and the proof is in black and white! Lol!

[@ThatRedhedd]

The royal family wasn't elected. They didn't win a popularity contest. Just like the Kardashians, they didn't do anything to earn a sense of superiority. They're not superior to us. They're not owed any more respect than you or I. We're all humans with equal value & worth.

[@amanda_beaumont]

Hi spidey- re: the scene where archie is touching princess diana’s photo - you mention you wish they hadn’t cut away - missing Harry’s expressions. It was still very telling that the choice of showing a “fairy tale princess” portrait instead of a happy, candid real life shot of her - his mum - his mum with him and his brother playing… hugging. That’s what most families would have. They think they are pulling at our heart strings - but to me they are pushing a very cold/distant Hollywood narrative.

[@stephanipeloquin4631]

I agree 💯

[@shanie7192]

Amanda, my thoughts exactly. I do not understand why in a family home they wouldn't have a family photo of Diana, it's very strange. Then again MM was always supposed to be obsessed with princesses.

[@paulchristian7693]

MM grow up around fake Hollywood people. She is knows how to deal with the media and PR.

[@clairemoncollin5422]

I did not think of that! Very good point!

[@loristoneking5671]

I agree. Also harry & meghan are making a lot of people unfortunately rethink the giod feelings they had about Diana. Nkt saying harry is all her fault, but Diana's way of turning around in her car seat to see if the boogeyman papps are chasing after her. Then meghan pulled that on harry getting him to twist around I. His seat. Diana and harry are more the romance novel storybook fantasy types. So self obsessed and paranoid.

[@nancywenn1093]

I cannot believe she wasn't 'groomed' for the protocols of royalty. And for Harry to say 'she didn't know what to expect '? You didn't tell her?! Bs!! I don't believe a word. And to ridicule his family, the queen, with the curtsey, how uncouth!!!!!

[@TheOriginalCFA1979]

She didn’t know how to curtsy, but had to on the show she “acted” in. Nothing she says is true, she’s not the girl who cried wolf she’s the girl who stood up and proudly said the wolf ate her yesterday. I wouldn’t even believe anyone she purports to be related to her are even vaguely her biological family without a DNA test. Except H.H. Holmes. Double M definitely inherited Triple H’s morality and empathy, no issues believing there’s a relation there.

[@mecca1395]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/e5qmeo2no6yaoqM You can find all their lies above....

[@cafreria_en_pote]

Imagine a grandson actually letting the woman he loves not act like a robot in front of his grandmother after his mom was forced to do so and ended up dead because of it and openly stating he didn’t want history to repeat itself. Imagine people accepting people without ridiculous expectations of behavior which serve zero purpose.

[@mecca1395]

@@cafreria_en_pote Well imagine a grandson throwing a major tantrum and throwing his family under the bus when he does not get his way .....Imagine being bred to perform royal duties all his life, but he wanted to be a CELEBRITY, but that was something not acceptable, and when mutually agreed to part ways, he shows his true colors, what a spoilt rotten peice of work he is and then sell his family for millions..... ah...role model

[@ginger6936]

@@cafreria_en_pote What are you talking about! He himself had to bow to the Queen first of all, like he should do now with his father. If you can't understand others traditions doesn't means that are invalid. P.s. I'm unbiased, I'm not Brit nor American 🤷‍♀️

[@Curry_Tales2107]

I have seen people dress well even when they have guests who belong to middle class family. When someone comes over to our house uninvited and without calling first, someone in the family who is not dressed well will go and change clothes while other family members greet the guests. People do it for me and I do it for them. It's not compulsary but it feels like a good gesture

[@libbybeliveau7506]

I mean, it's courtesy to learn basic respect, greetings, and customs just *visiting* another country... And not only was she meeting the *royal family* she was meeting future in-laws! Middle schoolers prep more for book report speeches than it seems she has before this monumental event in her life. I think you nailed it, Spidey: she acts a certain way when performing. I hear Greg Hartley say all the time, "the organism does what made the organism sucessful." I'm wondering if she intuitively put on the "charming performance everyone always loves," thinking the royal family would love her too. She's still doing it with that awkward bowing story at the end- which is so hard to watch. He compresses his lips when she compares meeting the royals to Medieval Times and I wonder how many times he's had to hear her make this disrespectful comparison. Then it cuts to her ridiculous bow. 🙈 (I've made that *exact* face Harry makes when watching a significant other do something you are completely cringed out by, but are trying to hide. There's eye roll suppressing and you're "smiling," but it just looks like you're smelling bad cheese...and then you can't even watch anymore so you look at your knees.)

[@ThatRedhedd]

People who are huggers always hug me when we first meet. I don't like it. You know what I DON'T do? I don't call them disrespectful a-holes for not asking ahead of time if I was a hugger.

[@VeliProduction]

Very professional, non biased, super insightful and interesting. Cheers for not taking a stance and staying neutral. More people like you are needed in society-be8ng objective, not just hating or adoring for no reason. Looking forward to your next videos!

[@halfdaynz]

Couldn't have said it better!

[@deeptruthss]

non-biased? really… we didn’t see the same vid.

[@debasbill]

I’m with you on her characterization of her attire when meeting W and K for first time. My 17-y/o son just came to me to talk about what he should wear to his interview for a job at a coffee shop, so it’s not that hard to prepare appropriately to meet your bf’s brother and sister-in-law for the first time, let alone the second in line for the throne of England.

[@tostamixtabifana97]

She was trying to make it Their honor to meet her. Grok.🤮

[@sueharrison9115]

Meeting your in-laws should be like a job interview? She was being herself warm and welcoming but was met with coldness So what they are in line to the throne they are only people who shit out of the same hole !!

[@tarabooartarmy3654]

I have to wonder if maybe Meghan was similar to how I would be in a situation like meeting the royal family (from her standpoint, not just from a random meeting). I don’t think I would want to prepare much, because I would want the meeting to be genuine, and I feel like if I “prepared” for it (aside from some very basic “what NOT to do” kind of stuff) I would be fake. I would want to be able to be myself when meeting my potental future in-laws. I understand the royals think they are “different”, but from my perspective (and perhaps from hers) they are just people.

[@honey3202]

@@sueharrison9115 you’re missing the fact that unfortunately it IS protocol to behave a certain way. She married into this by choice.

[@beekeepermariadelgado6806]

@@tarabooartarmy3654 yup they all use the toilet like everyone else.

[@kateashby3066]

41:54 I was yelling out loud “you’d want everything to be perfect if you were meeting his REGULAR family for the first time let alone the future KING” (it’s too funny that you said the same thing seconds after I went there) 😂 so I totally agree that the ignorance that she is trying to play off as naivety is either showing how self centered she is or these stories are made up. Like, I wouldn’t even be barefoot for my new boyfriends FRIENDS coming over. No one wants to see that 😂. And the ONLY way that would happen is if I felt out the mood and we all decided to watch a comedy on Netflix and hang out after having a nice dinner or whatever. But you dont START the first meet off like that 🤷🏻‍♀️. I have a hard time believing she is THIS clueless and has ZERO etiquette at ALL. Americans may be relaxed but good lord we do have SOME manners and standards 😂 she’s making it seem like we are all lacking in to common sense dept.

[@rs5570]

That was a stunt to impress upon them that she will not recognize their status, then or ever. She knew she was outclassed in the entire situation and would never, unless hell freezed over, be able to fit in from her her ugly, vulgar beginnings. THIS is why she cooked up a plan to leave. It’s very obvious in my view. 🇺🇸

[@a.m.9474]

@@rs5570 I mean yes but let's not stoop to calling the royal family "classy". They do some really shady sh** to remain likable to their "subjects" and expect "regular folks" to keep paying for their high-off-the-hog upkeep

[@natalieflanagan175]

I’m a native born Irish woman and even I would never have disrespected the late queen, Never mind the grandmother of my future husband . It says a lot about MM character… Say no more 🇮🇪☘️

[@Mirandajane84]

My biggest struggle with their whole story is that they are trying to make her out to be like Dianna. Dianna didn’t have a husband like Harry. She was alone. But Meghan has Harry on her side…so the story that she was so unprepared for protocol and stuff either means Harry sabotaged her to make her more like Dianna or it just isn’t true. Why didn’t he teach her the national anthem? Or get her aids to teach her protocol? Or whatever…. It doesn’t make sense… They would make a better story if she was the rescuer and Harry the victim. But Harry needs to save his mother so that doesn’t work…

[@anonview]

Their separate narratives do clash in many instances. As for palace aides, Meghan was presented with tutors and even a manual/dossier on proper etiquette and protocol. She declined lessons from the tutors. I don't know what she did with the dossier.

[@BrainSturgeon]

interesting point

[@danamcclelland1538]

This is just me wondering - where any of his previous girlfriends American? If they weren’t, maybe Harry didn’t realize that Americans don’t ‘just know’ some of the things about the royal family that his former girlfriends knew. (Like if all his other girlfriends new how to bow to his grandmother, giving Megan a lesson on it probably would want on his mind.)

[@Mirandajane84]

@@danamcclelland1538 at some point wouldn’t he have caught on? She fumbled so many situations and was crying about it.

[@Miastrong930]

I love your videos and watch them regularly. Just want to share a little of my experience in working with the Brits as an American. Aside from the cultural differences, body language and gesturing, the biggest surprise to me is that we don't speak the same language. We speak American they speak English. It took me a long time to realize it and then to learn English enough so that when I left the room I had a fair amount of confidence that we both came away with the same understanding of what was said and what was intended. I didn't know that there was a significant difference until I started to facilitate meetings between people from my company and people from British companies. I found that I had started to translate what was being said during these meetings. It was a learning process for me, and it took time to understand what was happening. When I analyzed it, I realized that I did it when I felt uncomfortable in the meeting. Further, after I translated everyone relaxed including me. It was a strange process because I was interrupting. But I noticed that in time, the interruptions were welcomed. When I interrupted people relaxed even before I said anything. There are a multitude of differences and subtleties most of which I was and am not aware of. This was all self-taught. There was no one to teach me; and there was no Internet tondonresearch. There are many things I would love to say, including why Meghan may have walked in with no coaching on how to behave. Out of all of them, the most important and key factor is that we literally do not speak the same language. The minute we walk into the same room, peer to peer, we are not on the same page. The killer is that because so many things are the same, we underestimate the size of the rift.

[@vallee3140]

The only problem with that is, she was given a team to help her, but she decided she wanted to do things her way. Plus she had studied the RF for years, even though she says different.

[@WheneverCarlieSays]

Your objectivity, maturity, and grace is so refreshing! Thanks for all your hard work to share this content in a respectful, fun, informative way.

[@villagegirl247]

Reminds me of one of your other video, where you mention how pathological liars build their own reality according to what suits them and invariably ends up almost believing their own lies.

[@loretta3203]

When I first met my husband’s family, I tried to be on my best behavior because I wanted to make a good impression. I really liked this guy and I wanted his family to like me too. I can’t imagine how I would have prepared if my guy was royal. That part just seems like a lie. Especially the curtsying part!

[@rhyty7184]

Exactly... And we are just a normal people.. Even the simple invitation of our neighbors we somehow do some preparation.... Not to mention meeting "The Royal Family" Duhhhhhhhh!

[@ThatRedhedd]

When I'm inviting my boyfriend's brother and his girlfriend over for a home-cooked meal, I am going to dress how I feel comfortable. In my twenties....inviting over people in my peer group. That's normal for 20-somethings to wear jeans and be barefoot at home. The royal family wasn't elected. They didn't win a popularity contest. Just like the Kardashians, they didn't do anything to earn a sense of superiority. They're not superior to us. They're not owed any more respect than you or I.

[@PTSD_is_my_protest]

Spidey I asked my boyfriend what I should wear the first time I met his sisters, and we are all just ordinary people! Totally agree with your analysis. And I love how kind and respectful for you. Thank you!

[@Barthenn]

Maybe it's more an North American thing, I don't know really. But I feel like unless you are trying to impress someone that doing this is not or more appropriately should not be expected. It's a nice gesture and show that you care a lot which is good. But on the other side. If it was expected of you to act this way then in my mind it's wrong. You went above and beyond. This isn't or shouldn't be what is the normal state of things. I mean there can be exceptions, I would say. If you happen to be of a certain trend very edgy. Punk, Emo, Goth whatever something that most the less-open-minded or very traditional family may find offense to. then it shows a great sense of empathy, awareness, etiquette and decorum for you to take the additional steps of appearing or making an effort to conform to their image of what is acceptable I guess. But why would it be expected that she can't be a bit more dramatic when she is in front of cameras. Most people I know are slightly different if they are at work, or with their significant other, with family or friends. ANd her things about being overly dramatic and eccentric with this feeling we have of her trying to give us the impression that she is relatable. Well there isn't really anything more human than that. Most of us seek companionship and a sense of community. Most of us feel an urge to feel wanted, appreciated and want to belong. As long as she isn't commiting any crime, why do people care so much about Meghan Markle. As long as they are happy together it should be the only thing that people care about.

[@ThatRedhedd]

When I'm inviting my boyfriend's brother and his girlfriend over for a home-cooked meal, I am going to dress how I feel comfortable. In my twenties....inviting over people in my peer group. That's normal for 20-somethings to wear jeans and be barefoot at home. The royal family wasn't elected. They didn't win a popularity contest. Just like the Kardashians, they didn't do anything to earn a sense of superiority. They're not superior to us. They're not owed any more respect than you or I.

[@kalo7203]

When I saw her the first time in the engagement interview, I wanted to like her but thought there was something off. I doubted myself. Then the Oprah interview flipped the switch for me when there were so many contradictions and her mannerisms really bugged me. My mom is a diagnosed narcissist, and I was married to one as well (figuring out my mommy issues). After therapy and divorce I have doubted myself for a while and watching H and M I’m able to draw parallels to identify toxic behavior which has given me my confidence back among other things. What I picked up in this video is listen to your gut, don’t doubt it. If you think someone is lying or being fake or deceptive they probably are. Thank you

[@sallys9632]

It really is remarkable how you just have a sixth sense when you grow up with/around narcissists. Your "Spidey" sense is really sensitive to it and it's hard to deny.

[@elizabethanthony3916]

👍👏👏👏👏

[@indiaromeo3546]

I felt the very same way about the engagement interview 🤯

[@saschafarnell7717]

Great comment. She’s a wrong-un and I feel it at a cellular level. I know a girl exactly like this. I have to mirror her experience back to her. It’s hard work and emotionally draining. If I give any feedback about her latest “problem” , and it goes against her perception of herself (or moreover, how she needs to be “seen”), she really becomes difficult. Almost attacking me. It’s very uncomfortable energy to be near. Trust thy gut indeed.

[@Amelia-h6m8m]

Odd. She wore ripped jeans and no shoes yet, wears thousands to a homeless shelter etc 🤔🤦.

[@ThatRedhedd]

When I'm inviting my boyfriend's brother and his girlfriend over for a home-cooked meal, I am going to dress how I feel comfortable. In my twenties....inviting over people in my peer group. That's normal for 20-somethings to wear jeans and be barefoot at home.

[@mabear9238]

​@@ThatRedheddShe was meeting his family for the first time and royalty, no respect then and she's just the same now. No manners, no integrity no good.

[@lal12]

I think you are exactly right. My first thought was MMs behavior feels like overacting, like a lot of superficial persons act in "public" situations.

[@justamom3]

I think they misjudged what the documentary would do. I always thought most articles were one sided, and exaggerated, and I never judged them by those accounts. However, the documentary does not put them in a good light at all, and sort of backs up the media's previous accounts. It actually makes me dislike them, her as she comes off as really phoney, and him for playing along with it. The main reason is her insistence that she was not prepared for the royal meetings. That just doesn't make sense that Harry would do that. I look forward to the next videos.

[@rsent4026]

I think one of the issues I have, which Spidey addressed, is that when most of us met the family of our SO for the first time, we wanted to make a good impression, to dress correctly and greet appropriately- regardless of their social status. And if it's a different culture, you would try to be sensitive to that especially. The fact that she never gave that a thought and that Harry didn't bother to help her just seems bizarre even BEFORE you add royalty to it. Even with casual friends from different parts of the US in college, you'd get a warning "Oh, she's a hugger" so you could be prepared. Harry could have warned his brother even. It's like Harry set them all up for failure.

[@crystal6368]

Ok but if she was meeting anyone else then nothing she did was rude. He is just her boyfriend to her at the time, so when his brother & sister in law come over for dinner at their place of course she’s going to be in whatever clothes she’s comfortable in. She said she was cooking right? If you went over to your brothers house and his girl was in jeans barefoot cooking it would just be sweet or cute or at least just normal. I don’t see how it’s a big deal lol.

[@abeautifulcountry9353]

I'm not a fan of Meghan but I think she was trying to be casual - as she had been with Harry. She probably thought very famous people prefer to be treated like everyone else so she acted accordingly, thinking they would find her natural, down to earth and refreshing.

[@overwatchking8842]

@@crystal6368h cmon. No way. Sorry not in my books. If my girlfriend’s family was coming to my house for the first time I would 100% put myself together and try to make a great first impression. Cooking or not, it’s common courtesy. I get that it might be different for some but it’s not just about her. It’s also about what’s right by Harry, and that isn’t it.

[@brattygamer8939]

@@overwatchking8842 but if you were ROYALTY or any form of celebrity, wouldn’t you eventually get tired of everything being a performance? Always having to look a certain way and having people be awkward around you- I could see where someone would be like “nah, imma be down to earth”. Plus if you came to my house for dinner we’d all be barefoot cause I don’t allow shoes to be worn in the house so…

[@FernGullyVibe]

@@crystal6368 lol, wouldn't it be easier to copy and paste your response in ALL the comment threads. Y'all be good now.

[@MAGAChickenMomma]

I think she starts with “I’m not going to say I’m comfortable…” because she wants everyone to know she’s the victim here. This being a princess lark wasn’t all it was cracked up to be in her head. She probably thought it was all hanging out with friends, drinking champagne, eating caviar on tiny toast triangles & getting her glam on. Then it turned out there was work involved that she didn’t want to do, she didn’t want to confine herself to royal protocol & she wasn’t really allowed to talk about whatever leftie nonsense popped into her head (because the royal family is supposed to be non-partisan), which she thought was mean & convinced H of that, too. So now she HAS to do this documentary even though it’s going to hurt her (even though, in reality, the victimhood is all in her head). She has to act the victim ALL the time. She’s like a child who discovers reality isn’t the same as the imagined version & acts all butt-hurt because of it.

[@ThatRedhedd]

LOTS of big ASSumptions there...

[@raggar77gaming40]

100% spot on - you just helped me realise why this woman rubs me the wrong way.

[@bettinaschewe7641]

Thank you, Spidey, for your honest and unbiased analysis. Having been gaslighted myself, I keep seeing these attitudes in H. I am having difficulties to read M and really appreciate your objective views. I see H telling "half truths" as I used to do (for example: "he bought me a car" because he chose it, but I paid for it). Shaking your head in this context, makes perfect sense. Men that are gaslighted are often told that they need to protect their family, and using his mother as a parallel gives me chills...

[@Artemisss1]

I very much agree with you that Meghan definitely does like the attention and I have a feeling - based on nothing in particular - that Harry knows she does. I think Meghan likes the idea of becoming a princess, because it would in some ways be a lifelong show that would be well watched. And when she figured out that being a British princess is mostly staying in the shadows and not drawing attention to yourself in favour of the institution's image and the head of state, she was disappointed. It wasn't as much about her as she had hoped. And then she started finding ways to make it about her again. But I say this more from a psychological perspective than a behavioural analysis perspective and it's more of a hunch than a real theory. I would bet some money on it, though...

[@essenseflame6097]

I have so much respect for you for simply being objective. If there were more people like you, there would be a lot less hate in this world. …It’s also much more pleasant to watch your videos than those that are fulled by emotion. ..Awesome stuff!

[@NicolaMaxwell]

Spidey!🤗🤗🤗 Turns out you were right on Andrew Tate!👍 you felt you were biased, you weren't. That was gut instinct. Thank you for teaching me these skills I use in day to day life♥️💜♥️

[@TheBehavioralArts]

my pleasure! Thanks for being here 😃

[@NicolaMaxwell]

@@TheBehavioralArts I'm always here for your uploads!!🤗💎💜♥️

[@thomasrios3913]

Me : why does Meghan’s elephant story sound like a segment on Sesame Street? it’s annoying. Spidey: some people get annoyed without knowing why because Meghan talks to adults the way we talk to kids Me: 🤯🤯🤯🤯 Amazing analysis! So many great points. Thank you

[@TheBehavioralArts]

Loooollllll 😂 😂 💀. Thanks for watching. And a good laugh!

[@rediris347]

Yes!!! Nailed it.

[@cafreria_en_pote]

I enjoy storytelling. Having the ability to explain details and set you in a story is a rare talent. Goodness knows most adults are boring and dry. My partner tells really good stories and that’s just one of the things what I love about him in this pompous world.

[@moonchild6307]

Most of her stories sound like scenes from the movies. And the curtsy one is taken from “The princess diaries” with Ann Hathaway;)

[@PJ-Sparkles]

My sister-in-law is also a narcissist and she talks to everyone like children. She still babytalks to her teen boys, and it makes me cringe every time.

[@emiliatorrellas9729]

Let's take a minute to appreciate the fact that Spidey went through the agony of actually watching this pain in the ass of a show to show us what they're really up to

[@susanmetz9892]

Well, he’s making KZbin money off of them, so I’m sure he’s enjoyed the agony.

[@elainehargreaves9183]

Wait until you get the body language results from his interviews after that betrayal of a book... Especially the Tom Bradby interview for ITV where he flat out denies they ever called the Royal family racists! Tom Bradby's face is a picture ( he's been a friend of Harry's for over 20 years btw)

[@gwynluv5447]

Oh please, he's doing it for the money.

[@windywednesday4166]

I agree, Emilia. He gave me some really interesting insights, and I appreciate it.

[@detectivefiction3701]

Gwynluv5447. Sure, but there are far more enjoyable shows you could watch to earn money.

[@yvetteshadrick8894]

Just have to say that as a person with a psych major, sociology minor and an educator I’ve looked at behavior a lot and do a lot of observations, and I am just loving the content on your videos. I find it all fascinating!

[@thatsmyjam6065]

I love that you stay in the middle. It allows me to make up my own mind rather than feeling like I'm being told what to think.

[@windywednesday4166]

I feel the same way. I love it that an expert is giving me their insights. But I also like having the space to see what I see and make up my own mind.

[@MoschinoAmore]

Wow, you nailed it! I think this was the missing puzzle piece for me in trying to understand how Meghan comes across. Particularly when you talked about how her exaggerated form of communication and expression is similar to how people talk to kids. I know someone who is very animated in her expression. She is a kindergarten teacher and embodies joie de vivre, but it lands very differently. She has a natural openness and curiosity to her and she naturally utilizes it in how she Interacts with the world but most of all, she uses it to make connections with other people and put them at ease. There is also a vulnerability in how she puts herself out there. Her body language is loose and carefree. Also of these things add up to her behavior coming across as warm and genuine. Whereas for Meghan, her behavior comes across as calculated and self-serving. Despite her animation, she’s actually very stiff. Not loose and fun like she wants to portray when she talks about ripped jeans, being barefoot, and giving out hugs. She has given every indication that if she does not like something you’ve said or done that she will judge you for it and make her displeasure known to you. She’s not using her animated behaviors to connect with others. She doesn’t bring people together, she assumes the worst in people, scolds them, writes them off, and causes division. She is also not in this animated, talking to kids mode all the time. She leans into this solely when she’s making excuses for herself. And she shows no vulnerability in doing so in part because she never admits she did anything wrong or could have done anything better. She doesn’t suggest that perhaps she contributed to the awkward encounter by being presumptuous and boundary-crossing while meeting William and Kate. No, instead she casts herself as genuine and natural and them as stiff, cold, and the ones who are performing. She doesn’t show that she learned from the experience and tried to make a better connection next time. Furthermore, her communication style when she’s not trying to do self-repair and make excuses for herself is very haughty and self-important. Like she thinks everything she says is of the utmost important and ground-breaking and that people should hang on every word even when she’s saying something basic, obvious, trite, or surface level. She doesn’t seem to realize that she doesn’t actually have a deep grasp on the issues she tries to talk about and that her interest and command of the subject matter are superficial. As you said, it gives the impression that she loves the attention and thinks it should always be focused on her, but doesn’t want to own this. I really appreciate your objective analysis and the balance you are striking. With Meghan, the blind hate about inconsequential things can be just as annoying as the supplication.

[@ruckusrevolution9475]

I think ironically there is a lot of judgement in your comment actually 🤔 In order 6o be object you have to not have an emotional response to a person, and use empathy. This is what makes Spidy so good 😉

[@msmulligan]

@@ruckusrevolution9475 IDK, I think it sounded pretty spot on, most likely.

[@rebeccajones4stories]

@@ruckusrevolution9475 I didn't get judgement, but rather, astute observations.

[@sharalhall5911]

Please get help. Disliking someone who’s changing the world & goes to other countries to help them & u write paragraphs abt her. Very weird

[@detectivefiction3701]

Sharalhall5911. Doing charity work doesn't mean that a person is beyond all criticism. Ted Bundy worked on a suicide hotline. Does that cancel all the bad things he did?

[@Stephanieeg22]

I struggled with her and I didn't know why until you said it at 29:00. It all makes sense to me now! Awesome work, thanks for sharing your knowledge with everyone!

[@msmiami212]

It is the most spot-on explanation of her insincerity i've ever heard. Sending to all family who argue with me about Meghan, because I've never had the words to say why she feels so... slimy. contrived. It's also the exact reason that those who can't sense it are so desperately enchanted by her. She doesn't allow any observer to come to our own conclusions about her or her motivations ever, it's emotional kneading all the way. People with nothing to hide can just tell a story straight.

[@AvocadoBanshee]

That bow was incredibly disrespectful and the mockery was gross! So entitled and the way she looks up after bowing to see if she gets a reaction of glowing eyes and laughter really irks me. She's so childish in her mannerisms and seems like she purposefully wants to rock the boat with his family and piss them off. Of course he's feeling contempt there.

[@Dani_Y]

Yessss! I was so hoping you'd do a series on this Netflix series. As a psychologist, I absolutely love watching your videos. You are so knowledgeable and passionate within your field, and I truly appreciate your openness and objectivity. Can't wait to see more :) Thank you!

[@erikaquiceno3852]

I truly appreciate your effort and commitment for being neutral while doing your job. Love your content

[@v-crazy9314]

One possible idea based off one point in your analysis: This whole fiasco feels like a long TV show, like she said she once wanted. In episode one they got married, episode two they got into media scandals, episode three they moved to the USA, four - Oprah interview, five- started a family, six- this Netflix show. New episodes of the Meghan markle show come out with every news report and who knows what will happen in the next one. She wanted a long running TV show. That idea evolved as you said. Her life is now one big soap, and she has the starring role Awesome analysis again Spidey! Can’t wait for the next one!

[@khensani_m2282]

Which is why I have always felt like she is in character, from the way she answers questions to her behavior in public, it's as if she is playing a role in a movie. Meghan is very calculated. Harry is no victim either seems like he already Harboured ill feelings towards his brother and family and he just happened to open himself up to someone who saw an opportunity to exploit that to advance her social status in hollywood

[@suecooke7284]

Episode 7 - the separation of HM, caused by stresses inflicted by the British press oppression.

[@suecooke7284]

... added to wrong comment. Sorry, I'm new to KZbin and commenting. Was relating to docuseries next episode.

[@windywednesday4166]

That's really interesting. It would explain a lot!

[@susiefoxy8130]

Can’t wait for the final episode tbh

[@kathleenbarnes4224]

She was taking the piss out of the queen

[@dancebrigitte]

I haven't watched the docuseries yet. The clip of the elephant story made me cringe when I watched your analysis, but I didn't need to hear the explanation to know why. I teach 13 children's dance classes a week and I immediately recognized this as a way people talk to a group of children in an entertainment setting. Also as a 5 foot tall woman, many adults talk to me this way and have my whole life. It is so disrespectful. I'm 41 years old and I hate being spoken to this way.

[@elizabethanthony3916]

👍👏👏👏👏👏

[@AmbiCahira]

I'm from Sweden and living in the US so not only did I grow up in a country with a monarchy but I've spoken about our royalty and stuff with Americans and I've found that very many that I've spoken to can't relate to the deep feelings we have for the long tradition of having a royal family and seeing the same faces for so many decades of our lives since in the US presidents come and go every 4-8 years so the attachment isn't relatable. Some I've spoken to have almost seen the idea of a royal family as kind of a caricature of what they see in movies and she does give that vibe like she 1. Doesn't understand the deep feelings and attachments the British general public has and 2. Treat it with theatrics, not respect. She doesn't irk me as much as she would have if I hadn't met similar people many times on this topic but I do wish she would feel more respectful to the culture difference and less like an American tourist geeking out at something she saw on TV which is the vibe I get. Because Sweden and UK are so close to each other I grew up with the royal family being on TV a lot and I remember grieving when Di died because I loved her so much even though I was only 11 at the time and I along with many feel very protective over the brothers. Imagine in comparison that it was Jackie instead of JFK that died that day and those children kept growing up in the spotlight without their mother that everybody loved. People would be protective over Jackies children. That being said I agree with Harry and I don't want her life to be at risk from gawking or bullying either and I do want their kids to grow up more safely. As much as I wish she could come off as more respectful to the culture and tradition I don't fault her either for not knowing and feeling awkward and out of place. I just hope she is a good wife and mother behind closed doors.

[@sylviasolder7389]

But she studied international relations, or is that another lie too so to be in a good book with Harry??

[@lizroberts1569]

I would agree with you if we were discussing a younger person but we’re talking about someone in their 40’s and I don’t see either of them protecting the children, or caring in any respect for their families

[@rpk1519]

@@sylviasolder7389 She was also living in Canada, and the Queen is on our money! We are members of the commonwealth. She is a liar.

[@crystal6368]

Thank you! You are absolutely correct. I’m a 30 year old American girl and I don’t get the hype at all. I don’t think she did anything intentionally disrespectful. & I really don’t get the royalty stuff. It just seems so silly to me. I just think she didn’t take it all so seriously. To her, she was just meeting her boyfriend’s family. I wouldn’t want to meet my boyfriends family with all kinds of pressure, procedure, protocols etc lol. That’s wild to me. I would have just been authentically myself as well so I feel for her. I don’t think she’s done anything wrong.

[@maureenrhysjones4643]

@@lizroberts1569 absolutely!

[@christinepeterson8097]

Your analysis is so fun and entertaining! My big takeaway was if Harry is so worried about protecting his family then why is he writing books and doing Netflix documentaries? Staying in the spotlight, not getting out of it. He is not the spare anymore.

[@susied.3376]

You are so right about the dinner. Princess Catherine and Prince William took the time and trouble to dress and get a babysitter to come and meet M. M being empty headed didn’t bother. Sadly M dropped the ball and embarrassed everyone being in awful pajama type clothes! Shame on her.

[@ablamires4760]

I really appreciate your objectivity in all of your videos. People tend to have very polarizing feelings about celebrities (either loving or hating them), but I have the belief that most people (celebrities included) are just people ... neither all good nor all bad. We all have our own strengths and weaknesses. So having someone look trying to look at human behavior objectively is refreshing.

[@LeMonstreTarot]

She’s an absolute construct. Nothing about her is as extraordinary as she would have people believe. The prevalent issue she has with everyone is just how unimpressed most of us are with her, and how incredulous she finds that.

[@KandiceC]

This is the most spot on take I've heard!

[@paulamiller6109]

Total agree with your assessment of MM. She's a legend...in her own mind. To the rest of us, she's mediocre at best.

[@sandyno1089]

Great comment. She's a narcissist who wears a permanent fake facade.

[@ashleynagy3617]

@@paulamiller6109 she literally will be a legend. She is the very first mixed race woman to have stepped into the monarchy also the very first to bring mixed race to the bloodline. Whether it be in line to the thrown or not aside, it's still a first in the entire British monarchy history. All this shit will be in history books in 100 years. Im no fan of the woman just as much as the next person, I'm just saying. She kinda IS a legend tho lol

[@legaleagle6111]

@@ashleynagy3617 As it happens Meghan is not the first mixed race woman to marry into the UK monarchy. Queen Charlotte, Portuguese wife to King George III, had black relatives on both sides of her family. On the question of origins, perhaps you're Hungarian, Ms Nagy?

[@cagirl2220]

The story of her meeting the Queen and the Wales family is completely different in the book Spare. It is written that Fergi showed her how to curtsy right before meeting the Queen and did a perfect curtsy. And the first time they went to Wales place and she just met William and not Kate. So basically revision of history as it fits.

[@IssyKew]

In the Oprah interview she said Fergie showed her as well - more like the Spare version - and that they all congratulated her afterwards on how well she did it.

[@sallys9632]

So Harry's face was just like "omg you idiot, did you forget this was different in the book/interview?!". I'm surprised they kept that bit in there honestly. I bet it's because she thought it was really "cute" 🙄

[@pamelac.5600]

@@sallys9632 Yeah, I was surprised they left it in. I just thought it was disrespectful cuz H had a close relationship with his grandma.

[@ginamorris8412]

I believe here she was saying that William and Kate came to her place for dinner and that was the first time she met Kate.