"Bonenkai" How the modern world is making us depressed.

[@elainaworsley470]

Your correct IMHO. You make a lot of sense. You have just put into words what I've been feeling & thinking for a long time. So for me, I grow a few veg in my back garden. Also, I bake my own bread. I knead it myself with my arthritic hands, but it's an achievement and full filling. Also I bake . I enjoy the 40s 50s era. This helps with my sense of being unfulfilled and stagnant. Even house work can be a workout if done the 40s 50s way. Just a thought. ❤

[@aussiejubes]

You're touching on so many huge topics! People write theses on each thing you're talking about. I did several assignments for my communications degree on how the Web has changed society. Specifically I did one on friendships irl vs online. My suggestion to people who would like to be part of a community but struggle to make friends, is to help solve another problem modern society has created. Volunteers for committees, local charities & events have dwindled to the point that little towns have to give up & die. I lived in one. The hospital committee ended up with two members, trying to organise the annual fete by themselves. The townspeople want the fete but won't chip in. Meals on Wheels struggles for volunteers. If everyone who wanted to spend time socialising but couldn't make friends gave a few hours per week or fortnight to a local committee or organisation, they'd be helping to build & maintain community. It decreases loneliness, increases fulfilment, leads to making other connections & served their community. We've all become so self focussed, & complain we don't have connections, but our willingness to connect in any way that isn't entirely self serving is at zero. Huge conversations you've touched on! Great episode. First one I've listened to ❤

[@rubylace9963]

This is such a good podcast! My sister and I talk about this a lot, how when we were children we didn't have cable so we watched the same VHS tapes over and over and didn't have money for video games or CDs or all the cool things our friends had. Now I can watch anything at any time, have games and VR, online shopping, etc and have the budget as you said, for any type of entertainment I desire yet I don't think I'm that much happier. Child me would have loved all of this but really I just miss the friendships and connections with people where we didn't have distractions.

[@GeekyC.]

Exactly how i feel at 30... hitting me more the older i get people think im mental with missing the way we had it when i was younger .. id trade all of this in a heartbeat it just makes me feel hollow and seeking more despite having everything

[@livvymcglone8046]

This is such an interesting topic! I have Lupus and Arthritis and I cannot find much about women in history with these illnesses. I do find it a really interesting subject to look at now. I personally cannot eat meat or highly processed sugary food because it causes a flair up and I can't always move as much as I would like. But I love making things from scratch and doing hobbies like sewing and jigsaws. However, as you touched on, when I have a flair up I drive to the shops, by convenience foods, put the heating on and sit infront of the TV until I feel better. Trying to get the best out of both worlds, but whats really interesting is how easy it is to get sucked into the convenience of modern life, even though I know it's super bad for my self esteem and mental health!

[@thoughtful8543]

We are generally such all or nothing beings, so I appreciate your acknowledging that some people--people with disabilities, the elderly--really need modern conveniences. For others, though, it's perhaps not so good to have everything at their fingertips. As you say, the pride that comes from doing things--making one's own clothing or growing one's own food, for example--is real and very pleasant to experience! I think many folks no longer know what "enough" is, so they are always after more money and more stuff, just in case, though I doubt they could say in case of what. Modern advertising and modern financial expectations contribute to this, convincing people they need a huge amount of money to retire and live the lives they want to life or, on the other side of life, to have a family and be able to provide for it. Rather than creating a simple but fulfilling life, it seems to me many people are chasing a life they are being told by advertisers they need to have in order to be happy.

[@armsamelia]

Just recently started following you on instagram and came across this video! I am a 21 yr old college student and ever since I stumbled across a random video where they put old movie clips together, I have become interested in vintage. But over the past two years, I have also become infatuated with the 70s 80s and 90s when we had in my opinion, the perfect amount of technology and no technology. Unfortunately, that has made me very depressed, and my best friend pointed out that even after the civil rights movement passed, other minorities still had it pretty bad and I was being silly for wanting to be born in the 60’s. She was right of course, and I realized I had become in such a rut that I had become just like the “karens” I used to make fun of with saying things like “kids these days” even though we all have our own path. I have started to take steps and measures to make my personal life more fulfilling and reject modern society will also still appreciating some of the beauty that we actually have from the 21st century

[@StephanieHall-n6m]

Another excellent podcast ❤

[@joleneharwood8493]

I agree with your thoughts on Japan, I wish I could visit again ❤️ it’s a magical place and so polite

[@Motherhubbard170]

not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another-and all the more as you see the Day approaching. ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’[c] There is no commandment greater than these.” But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, Enjoy God's Creation: Spend time outdoors, appreciating the beauty of nature as a form of rest. Psalm 19:1 declares, "The heavens declare the glory of God, and the sky above proclaims his handiwork

[@Motherhubbard170]

and only one Saviour John 3;16

[@GeorgieCora]

Yes! I second your opinion that Fruits Baskets is one of the best manga/ anime. It’s certainly my favourite 😅 love your content, I’ve been binging it these last few days, you’re such a breath of fresh air.

[@SkintLivingUK]

People keep talking about the male loneliness epidemic but many women are too, its modern society in general that is making ALL people lonely. Social media just makes it worse

[@sayhello5377]

I think a lot of people tend to romanticize the past. I am one of those people. I love to get lost in antique stores. I collect vintage Pyrex. I enjoy a good period drama with accurate costuming. I think it’s interesting to look at old advertisements and magazines. But I think it can be easy to look at all that and imagine that the past was such a wonderful place when it was actually full of hardships for most people. My Papaw was born in 1943 in Bell County, Kentucky. When he was a baby, his dad walked out and his mom was left to try to take care of four children on her own with a first grade education in an extremely rural mountain town where there was no work. This poor woman had also lost 4 babies as infants and that grief drove her just about crazy. They lived in a two room shack until the early 1950s, when the United States government came in and eminent domained them out of their home and turned that area into what is now Cumberland Gap National Park. My Granny grew up in the same town as the youngest of 9 kids. They lived in a 2 room shack with no indoor plumbing. When she was growing up during the late 40s, the 50s, and the early 60s, they had to carry up water buckets from the creek and warm them over the stove so that they could bathe. The first time in her life she ever had indoor Plumbing was when she got married in 1964. A lot of people talk about how wonderful it was back then, and how glamorous, the clothing and makeup were, and how these people were just so happy and full of love, because they were unburdened by the world. They absolutely had lots of burdens in their lives. Millions and millions of people Did not have the luxury of being from middle class and upper class households where men provided well financially, and their wives got to have Avon parties and play bridge and gossip with their girlfriends all day. A lot of people struggle to put food on the table for their kids and lost babies in early childhood, andhad to go through life without electricity or plumbing, even at a time when it was prevalent in all of the bigger cities. I just think that a lot of people tend to romanticize the past and completely paint over all of the things that don’t fit their ideal imagery.

[@ZeldasMask]

I’ve dreamed for years as long as I can remember moving away from the inner city. All my family live in the suburbs of the city, I feel like if I told them I wanted to move away they’d think I’m crazy, there’s less jobs I’ll be on my own etc etc. but I’ve lived my whole life here I’m 30 now and it’s gotten worse and worse over the years everything is dreary and miserable. I want a new life a slower paced life 😢 it’s just so hard I feel like people think I’m so odd for that

[@GeekyC.]

Im 30 and feel the same way as you here in the UK .. my dream was to move from the city here in England to my grandads families home in Ireland in the middle of nowhere next to a tiny village .. been a dream of mine for years but the ownership was passed onto his brother and he sold the land .. i was devastated i hate living here its as you say miserable and dreary and there is no sense of community anymore which was the only reason i could get over it in the past. Now people look at you weird if you smile at them and say hello with their heads stuck in their phone .. its like we have become selfish and paranoid and depressed and it shows when your out and about .. completly different vibe in the area of my grandads old home

[@ZeldasMask]

@@GeekyC. omg I know exactly how you feel! It’s literally so sad. I’ve just come back from a trip in ireland and omg the atmosphere is so different people just chat to you! People don’t care as much about how you look what money you make etc, I’m sure there’s as many struggles over there as there are here but… being in and around a city in England is just so miserable, sure it’s has its ok days but in general it’s so miserable and everything looks dreary. Im hoping you can still move to Ireland even if it’s somewhere else there or your dream place one day 🙏🏻 and we can live the life’s we dream of 😭🤞🏻🤞🏻

[@susandamico3184]

Thank you for this.

[@annasc5007]

I just discovered you a few minutes ago your home is lovely, and this podcast is so interesting....you mentioned how much you love Japanese culture...have you read a little book by Beth Kempton called Wabi Sabi - I'm sure you'd love it, very thought provoking!

[@joanmatchett8100]

The modern world is inhumane IMHO, and it's devisive .

[@AugustD_777]

Do you even know what inhumane means?

[@joanmatchett8100]

@@AugustD_777 Without compassion, cruel, heartless.

[@SylviaLaidlow-Petersen]

I agree with you.

[@lisaautolitano5517]

You seem young. I am probably closer to your Mom's age. I am 56 . I remember the milk man, postman and other people who would come to your house. Even nieghbors would come and visit for a bit. We alawayss had coffee and something to either eat or snack on for guest. Often had people over for dinner or a dinner party and play games afterwards. I have heard younger people say I do not want people to come over . And other than ones my age group we love to talk to neighbors and invite them for coffee and or tea. And I have worked long hours but still made time for socializing. My husband and I have gone out for special dinners and notice the younger people on their phones not talking to one another. So even when they are out they are still working or atleast not paying attention to the other one. Me and my husband have been told by who we had worked for that we need to be more easily accessible. I told my boss I get paid my work hours .I am not salary I work at those hours and you can ask me work questions then. On my days and hours off it is my family's time not theirs. Was told I would not be there long and would not be moving up in the company. My response was OK that is fine with me. Was there for another 13 yrs. Same position and that was fine for me. Not everything is about money. I too think about the past. My husband is gone now and I have moved to Leaslie,Michigan with my Daughter and her family and I have to say it is almost how it was when I was a little person. Nieghbors who talk to you invite you to come over and will help you out when you need it. Of course no milk men that stopped before I was even in school. But they are excited we plan on growing our own garden cook at home . I was called old fashioned for not using premade food. Everything I cook is from scratch. No already made frozen things. I love to cook and bake. We do eat out from time to time but it is a treat . Just like soda. Growing up soda was a treat not an everyday thing. We drank milk ,water,sweet tea and lemonade. Soda was for parties and cookouts. Not enough social connections. I mean even at Mc Donald's you order on a machine. Not to a person.

[@Lucille-u5e]

How can someone become your guest?