Borderline Personality Disorder | BPD

[@suzieshiaman7291]

Please be sensitive to people who have survived this disorder with no family support!!! There are many who are self supporting professionals who have had to navigate this disorder all alone! Lucky to those who have loving families and support systems!!!

[@suzieshiaman7291]

@@glittergun thank you for understanding where most BPDs are in life and why it manifested!!! Why r these podcasters so tone deaf about the origins of this disorder???

[@Peigirl1985]

@glittergun 💯

[@muhdafiq780]

Yy

[@tuttim83]

Most likely some toxic families have started that disorder in them, in their children, living with narcissistic family members such as parents, siblings, ants grandparents, cousins etc.

[@dddeen477]

Million percent agree to this sub. I fit this category. I’m doing the work allll alone ; I have a huge family … they are the cause. I’m alone today - no one gives a toss . But I’m ok cause I know iv only got me and I’m doing the work .. the harrrd work alone and I’m loving me .. well getting to know me ❤ and I’m great 😊

[@1MacSara]

BPD and therapy for 13 years on and off, mental health issues or not, working on ourselves is life long!

[@jakeyjokes]

I went through a DBT program for a year and a half and did a lot better, but still have what I consider “relapses” (lashing out at people like crazy, irrational choices) but far less frequently and I am able to take responsibility for it. The shame about the bad behavior is the worst part.

[@deborahrootshort9182]

Thank you 😊

[@SharoFlores85]

I feel you.

[@shayrai4854]

Hell yes... Abou the shame it's awful.

[@Mayhem121]

Thanks ❤

[@RisperKiruma]

Saw a person in the chat say, "Yeah, shes's acting." I think she's masking. A person self aware, with BPD feels like they're crazy. So we overcompensate sometimes with people. Comes off wrong/fake, like an act. Like trying so hard to feel/act normal, it backfires, EVEN IF, we're really not as crazy as we think we are. My experience too.

[@user-fx8lr1gh7e]

💯

[@bernadettemcgreevy4771]

I think ADHD gets in the way of getting diagnosed also.

[@slippinthrumyfIngerz]

​@@bernadettemcgreevy4771 oof when you have both and the brain says "guess we'll die" in favour of emotionally regulating (what is that)

[@tessmoks3434]

My daughter has it. She's gone through lots of therapy and meds and she's lots better

[@Nikki-2007]

I've been struggling since about age 13 (I just turned 40 on the 23rd) and it has taken a long time to get diagnosed with things that finally make sense. The problem is it took so long to get correctly diagnosed that now it's even harder to try to change my ways of thinking and my bad coping mechanisms. Final diagnoses are BPD, cptsd, bipolar 1, panic disorder, gad, and health anxiety. I am low income in Florida so it is SO hard to find help at all let alone good help. I've finally listened to my doctor's and filed for disability 2 years ago and have SSI/disability court in a couple weeks so hopefully if I get approved I will have insurance to get better help bc I am losing hope in ever getting better at this rate 😩

[@deborahrootshort9182]

💝 I hope you find what your looking to heal. Someone said it starts in the mind. I believe this. I am my own worst critic, and I thought I was open, honest, willing. I actually find that I lie to myself and believe the lies, I question others without fault and often blame them, I look for good in people based on what I see as good and worthy, only to find no one I trust by my own standards, and i hate myself - how would i look for good in others if i cant dine good in me?. I say one thing while actually deep down, I think I believe something else. No one's story ever match my perception of any situation.... I am my own worst nightmare. I hope you are able to see the core values you truly believe and want to incorporate in you. DBT is maybe the route to go, just keep up your hard work always less you fall to those who will only make your fears more than they already are... good favor and potion fall on the good and the bad, but only the truly faithful remain grounded. 💜

[@Nikki-2007]

@@deborahrootshort9182 thank you🙂 my doctor's want to do intense DBT outpatient therapy 3x's a week on top of seeing me for one on one therapy once a week. I am hoping I am approved for disability so I will have the insurance to be able to attempt this. I am my own worst enemy too 😩 it's rough everyday and I was asked "what does a good day look like for me?" My answer, I don't have good days only good moments. I'm not giving up yet though 💜

[@Araphex]

I'm a 36 year old man who was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and Complex PTSD last year. The way I see BPD is like the opposite of Dissociative Identity Disorder. Instead of having multiple personalities that are always conscious of what's happening, I have split/fractured parts of my mind that are similar to DID, but not full blown personalities and when I switch between them, I forgot almost everything that the other part of my mind would have remembered. I've been told it's called having Schemas or Domains. I fluctuate a lot between what's called the Abandoned Child, Angry and Impulsive child, Punitive/Demanding Parent, Detached Protector, and Healthy adult. Just like DID, we fluctuate between these domains but we do it frequently... Minutes, hours, days. It's how we fluctuate through our intense emotions so fast and frequently as well as dissociate. The Child doesn't remember what the Parent remembers. However, my protector seems to remember everything, and is quite scary and defensive. The Protector only shows up when I'm in dire stress and there have been times other's have said I was a completely different person. But my name never changed. Just my demeanor and tone. And honestly, I don't remember it. I also want to say that I wish people would stop telling us to seek help. That alone will push us not to seek help. We'd rather have people show us love and support and guide us to help rather than just have people say we need help. Sometimes we just need a hug or someone to listen to us without judgement. Other times we just want people to love and accept us. Most of the time, it's both. I know I'll never get better even with therapy, but I can at least find a way to manage my life in a way where I don't want to end my life all the time. The emptiness I feel, lack of personality and who I want to be feels like I have a black hole deep inside of me and I can never get rid of it. I just need to learn how to live with it in a safe and effective way. And I wish people would just simply understand that. There are times I'm going to feel like I don't want to be here anymore. That is okay. Part of my process is to not reject or change my emotions but rather accept them and let myself feel them through that moment. And it's better when I can have someone hold me in the process. Unfortunately, I don't have that in my life and I have to live with it as best as I can. So I lay in bed and try to rest because it's better than harming myself. I just wish people would try to understand, and if they can't, just be there for us. Finally, nobody wants to ever play video games with me, whether on PC or console. Several of the games I play, nobody has even heard of. So I feel you and I love what the Uber driver said. Unfortunately, I can't find anyone that is like me that has BPD. I go to therapy, I tried group therapy through NAMI, I talked to friends, I don't talk to my family because they refuse to understand or love me for who I am, I really have no support system. But I'm doing the best I can. I just wish other people, especially healthier people, would do better. We can't do this on our own, I can't do this on my own and I'm tired of people thinking we have to do all the work when I'm already doing all this work just to stay alive which is exhausting.

[@SunkenSolace]

I see you friend. I’m a 46 year old man with BPD, PTSD and can totally relate to what you just said. You are not alone

[@alinapostolmihaela]

John, your comment describes so accurately how I feel. Thank you for being so clear and transparent with your process. I hope you meet good people. Don't give up

[@andromedacarina]

The point about being harsher on people who are closest to us: that really depends on the dynamic they have with us, our own set of filters and triggers. And within the same family, the dynamics between different members can vary so much. There's no general answer to this one, I say.

[@freespirit5234]

Yea I was going to say.....never accept a fate that comes out of anyone else's mouth but your own....only you can help yourself....xx

[@AZTigerMMA]

I commend anyone doing the hard self work. Love and respect

[@normatobin962]

Wowa! Cheers to you all for acknowledging something is wrong n wanting help!! Most mentally don't know!

[@lizcuero9065]

Wow! Congratulations to both. I'm amazed because I struggled with bi-polar and you both are able to have an awesome pod cast discussing a very difficult topic. I was put on Prozac and Seroquel which has helped very much but Bible helped the most. Much success to you both.

[@rosemarymartinez6709]

This is referencing the chat they had after the live stream. Jackie started talking about seeing good and bad doctors and then Kyle interrupted her and I felt like she was gonna say something valuable. I would like to see a video talking about when you should switch therapists if you feel you’re stagnant in your growth with one. How to tell if the therapist is a good fit or not. I had a great therapist who became a catalyst for my healing and change and then they stopped taking my insurance so I had to seek someone else cause I couldn’t afford it out of pocket. My new therapist is good and I like her but she is different and I feel like she isn’t as to the point or direct as my last one and I feel like that is keeping me in the same place longer. I also want to make sure this isn’t something I’m doing as a pattern. I have an anxious attachment style and that can play out in all my relationships. So this can be me feeling that “boredom” and wanting to replace her. I need some guidance. 27:30

[@80islandia]

That’s a really good idea for a topic. I can’t advise you on what to do because you know your situation best but I think it’s always good to listen to those signals that something or someone is not the best fit.

[@rosemarymartinez6709]

@@80islandia Thank you. I want to trust my intuition but I second guess it at time because I don’t yet know the difference between that and my trauma reacting. Being anxious it’s hard to differentiate between the two.

[@80islandia]

@@rosemarymartinez6709 I totally get that and respect whatever you decide!

[@Rimaali369]

I am diagnosed with BPD , and have with it PTSD that associated with frequent traumas . I understand all the requirements and to do the sessions I see psychiatrist and psychologist and do DBT The thing that not mentioned is the inner pain that captured me hard and it’s not physical, the foggy mind ; so for me I got overwhelmed with the too much treatment and no energy to do them We need more help to control symptoms with medication before going to treatment Doctor will always say be patient, and I find it so difficult over years waiting for solution and the pain increases

[@fisalnasser]

Mann she’s beautiful

[@MrWorf53]

For men admitting that they have mental problems is a lose lose situation. In my case, seeking help has done absolutely no good. I take three or four drugs for anxiety, which may help for a while until I get used to them. Do not expect your church or some family members to support you in any way. Mentioning you have mental problems turns most people off. "You are just a complainer." "You need to get this taken care of." "You take (rejection) too personally." Mom always said "Don't let them get your goat." How do you do that mom?

[@Alien_cancerian]

I have bpd and with treatment I got better but its very very hard.

[@Chamelionroses]

Some only get support from doctors if the can or themselves.Glad for survivors to make it. Mental health stigmas exist heavier some places on this planet more than others.

[@MrJerryStevenson]

I am not sure if I was distracted at the previous podcasts but I didn't catch who Jackie actually was. I thought she was a healthcare professional therapist as the other videos are for midcircle. Only looking at this video now is her role cleared up. This is a different dynamic.

[@deborahrootshort9182]

I've never been diagnosed. In my mind I can be scary cuz I won't speak up. If worked my whole life learning educating myself so I can be better for others. Now I'm falling deeper again, this time I don't know where I'll end up. Childhood Trauma, sexual, religious, single alcoholic parenting, never new the truth only to find my childhood jentir and fav aunt has bee using me as flying monkey to get back at my dad. Outburst come and go and yea ppl feel bad for me but I don't get the help they need because I can't trust anyone. My kids and fiance are feeling stressed and I can't see why... dbug'd in Michigan

[@deborahrootshort9182]

I need to trust...who?

[@user-fx8lr1gh7e]

I hear that. Remember everything starts in the mind. Make that as solid as possible, cut out any negativity and forget the past. Good luck n keep Ur head up.

[@GaryWilliams-xo9cx]

Why so few comments, bpd is such a dangerous diagnosis to live with , im still battling it and not winning, the monsters are out and there very angry 😢

[@brosephbroheim6428]

Thank you

[@MultiAsus2011]

Thanks for sharing, I thing I have this, where I should go for diagnosis? 😭 Is that GP?

[@BunderChowed]

Hello team, is it possible to have 'short' on a separate channel

[@thecontagiouscajun4795]

Where can I watch the full episode?

[@armentriahill5674]

Very Helpful

[@alexandrugheorghe5610]

2:05 nice message on the cup, haha

[@itzzzyouaclown899]

What do i do if i think i might have BPD bc i have all these signs but my psychiatrist says im too young at 18 to have it and wont do an evaluation on me

[@pastorjoesackett]

No expert here, but a veteran of a 7 year relationship with a pwbpd . And her experience with it began in early teens, so I'd have a better talk with that doctor.. the trauma that causes bpd et al.. starts way early in life

[@pastorjoesackett]

Maybe that's a legal thing where they won't diagnose you until you are a legal adult.. I don't know that.. just a possibility

[@janblackman6204]

Better explain what it is

[@405OKCShiningOn]

hi! hugs and joy to you all, was there in live chat, was nice to hang out. heres the resources i was memtioning; kzbin.info/www/bejne/o6qonGOtmtarZ7M

[@sumanpharswan3072]

It's really dramatic if someone is on medication.

[@1MacSara]

Also not listening to loved ones 😂😂😂😂