Boy Moms, Creepy Stepdads, and Feminist Rage

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Psychology In Seattle

Psychology In Seattle

Күн бұрын

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@shawnquery2937
@shawnquery2937 6 ай бұрын
Once I was having a pretty OK date with a person I met on one of the apps and it came crashing down when I mentioned that the women's bathroom had a sign that explained if you are on a date and feel uncomfortable or unsafe, the bar staff will help you get home. My comment was, "That's such a nice thing to offer and to remind people that they don't have to stay in a situation where they feel unsafe." When I tell you this man went off about how offensive that was to him and all men, he WENT OFF. He couldn't understand why that would be a thing women would need at all, let alone often. I tried to explain to him why feeling unsafe while on a date with a person you don't know well is actually pretty common, and he just would not accept that. The exchange got a little more heated and I ended up walking away and getting the bus home, leaving him with the bill for our beers. He proceeded to harass me via text from the number I had for him. I blocked that number. He came at me via another number to continue telling me why I was wrong. Bullet dodged on that one, but also his behavior was proving my exact point. And that was totally lost on him.
@janeenerbaneener
@janeenerbaneener 6 ай бұрын
In my early 50s and just learned I'm allowed to just walk away, no words, no explanation, no apologies, just walk away. I needed this 4 days ago! Haha
@PsychologyInSeattle
@PsychologyInSeattle 6 ай бұрын
Yes! To quote the Lord Humongous from Mad Max: "Just walk away."
@maddieo5505
@maddieo5505 6 ай бұрын
I relate to the feminist rage person. I have an amazing boyfriend and a handful of men in my life that are wonderful. I have to constantly remind myself that not all men are terrible. But it gets really really hard to remember sometimes.
@Skadivore
@Skadivore 6 ай бұрын
I feel the same way
@littlebruja7623
@littlebruja7623 6 ай бұрын
Love this episode! We struggled big time in my household during the pandemic. My daughter went through her early teenage years while remote schooling and I was working remotely from home. I’m a single mom and had always had a close loving relationship with my kid but it seemed like overnight everything changed and I felt like I was mourning the loss of a child. We both went to therapy, which seemed to help me more than it helped her… it helped me find ways to deal with the changes my daughter was going through and find ways to regulate my own feelings during the process and also just be reassured that the things she was going through were normal. Also- your Patreon helped me a lot Dr. Honda! There were some episodes I listened to during that time that were very appropriate and helpful. My daughter is 16 now and although she still has her struggles like every other teenager and she deals with very deep insecurities, things are much better than they were a few years ago. She’s come back around to hanging out with me more and our relationship has gotten much better! She still feels guilty sometimes about the things she said and did during that time and the “trauma” she says she put me through, but i continue to reassure her that that time was all a normal period of growth and it’s ok.
@MoonWomanStudios
@MoonWomanStudios 6 ай бұрын
I'm an atheist that grew up with religious trauma and I've had therapists that have said i need a "higher power". No thank you.
@maddiebonner4323
@maddiebonner4323 6 ай бұрын
I am so happy to hear Rebecca talk about nervous system dysregulation and co-regulation! I'm a long time listener and therapist and as I'm someone that uses a similar therapy as Rebecca I have always wondered Kirk's view on this. Would love him to speak more to poly vagal theory sometime!
@kendrabean2868
@kendrabean2868 6 ай бұрын
Please link rebeccas video and now I also want the one of you that you said you look at every few years!!
@HB-dd3yg
@HB-dd3yg 6 ай бұрын
yes, pleeeeaaase, if you feel comfortable.:-)
@Authentistic-ism
@Authentistic-ism 6 ай бұрын
i too need visual reference :)
@PsychologyInSeattle
@PsychologyInSeattle 6 ай бұрын
I'm not sure if it was a temporary IG story, but her IG is @rtext. Regarding the video, I must've misspoke -- I have LOOKED for it every few years but have never found it.
@kanareczka3612
@kanareczka3612 6 ай бұрын
Whenever I go out with my dad, either it's a dinner or swimming, people will look at us as a couple. As an older disgusting guy having a young girlfriend. It's adorable how people cannot mind their own business. Like - even if the age gap is a thing - it is legal, but maybe how about try to stick to the less disturbing picture if you have a problem with the second one. Just father - daughter relationship that I'm proud of. My dad is awesome 💜 My mom aswell💙
@edbrown5956
@edbrown5956 6 ай бұрын
That's great that you don't let it stop you! I know of a lesbian couple that both appear as fem not one feminine and one masculine. Even though they are similar in age they get mistook as mother and daughter.🤣 It's changing but the Midwest smaller town where I'm from you don't often see a lot of lesbian couples.
@FishareFriendsNotFood972
@FishareFriendsNotFood972 6 ай бұрын
3:20 What is the dance??? Insert a clip please, I am so intrigued! Does this style have a name??
@Discrete1998
@Discrete1998 6 ай бұрын
Good morning everyone ❤
@thatsnotgabi
@thatsnotgabi 4 ай бұрын
i love it when i’m like “i wonder what dr. honda would say about this” and then he comments on it. i watched that boy moms video (i rlly like funky frog bait’s content btw) and immediately wondered this lol
@Zwantceeto
@Zwantceeto Ай бұрын
22:55 it's not about the kiss on the lips, although that was weird. She reacted because he was already considered a very immature and passive guy and the mother marking her territory in such a blatant way showed how truly subdued he was and how difficult it would be for the wife to have a place and be accepted. It's not the same culture, women are very controling in his culture.
@sarahbennet7513
@sarahbennet7513 6 ай бұрын
I am a women and I’m not “okay with angry women”. Or men. Or anyone in between. 2. I would’ve talked to the crafts guy a little bit he might have just been trying to sell you something or wanted to speak about his product. He probably just thought you were rude. I know it would’ve zinged me if anyone acted like that at me. 😢 I don’t think it’s my conditioning as a women, I just try and be nice to people. 3. Thanks for defending Bob, Dr Honda. He’s s a credit to men and to human beings in general.
@MetalWoodpecker
@MetalWoodpecker 6 ай бұрын
6:46 omg!!! No one ever remembers when I talk about pinning my jeans!!!!!!
@Zullala
@Zullala 6 ай бұрын
Ya know what I don't get? Parents will be like, "Don't date! Focus on your school/job/finding a home! Don't you dare date!" Then later parents be like, "When are you getting married? When are you having children!? Are you gay!??? I never see you dating!" Also I love Frogfishbatr vids haha
@Zullala
@Zullala 2 ай бұрын
@@Meow4B no you don't understand, some parents will tell kids not to date till they finish collage, find a job and buy a house; Especially male children. Then go bonkers when their kid is 30 and doesn't have a wife and three children. Plus it's tough to date when you're older and have 0 dating skills.
@antionetteportillo1622
@antionetteportillo1622 6 ай бұрын
I think as someone who isn't very physically affectionate with friends and family having a partner who kisses their parent on the lips would weird me out. Happy if it works for some, but I'd be out, it's weird AF to me.
@charitydixon7828
@charitydixon7828 6 ай бұрын
I don't know, I think Berto might outshine Rebecca in the side gig department😹
@edbrown5956
@edbrown5956 6 ай бұрын
I personally relate a lot more to Berto. Berto is also much less assertive on points. It bugs me how Dr. K will occasionally undermine Berto though which he rarely possibly never does to Rebecca. I think Kirk feels inferior to Berto or something and that's why he makes a point at asking for the "lay" perspective or challenging the validity of his views because Dr. K has a degree. I like Dr. K, Rebecca and Berto still. They bring interesting perspectives. I'm just saying if it was a podcast led by Berto I'd definitely eagerly watch that one.
@charitydixon7828
@charitydixon7828 6 ай бұрын
I'm interested as to why my comment sparked this comment. I was merely making a joke about the fact that Rebecca mentioned she has a lot of side hustles (that she more than likely gets paid for), and comparing that to how Berto introduces himself with a new job title of some hilariously fake business at the top of every episode he's apart of. I don't condone any hate for any of these people and don't believe any of them are trying to "one up" any of the others. Each and every one of them has had a positive impact on me, changing the course of my entire life.
@janelwilliams9144
@janelwilliams9144 6 ай бұрын
Love funkyfrogbait!!! 😊
@dotthepenguin9348
@dotthepenguin9348 6 ай бұрын
Drop Rebecca’s 90s playlist link
@joshuapearce2721
@joshuapearce2721 6 ай бұрын
Link yourself dancing, please please please! It will be si wholesome :)
@Skadivore
@Skadivore 6 ай бұрын
Im wondering about that teenager stereotype, suddenly they are against their parents, run away, talk back, only in their room… is that when it was maybe very unbalanced before? Having to be the „sweet little kid“? Because I never had that teenage outburst, but then again i always already talked back and liked spending time in my room even as a kid
@edbrown5956
@edbrown5956 6 ай бұрын
Interesting idea? I know my older siblings were a handful so I did the exact opposite. I always tried to the easy going kid who tried to please. Made it weird later and I think having a rebellious streak would have greatly benefited me later on.
@Skadivore
@Skadivore 6 ай бұрын
@@edbrown5956 that makes sense, as each family member takes on „their“ role in a family system. i often hear that people pleasing leads to a lot of harbored anger?
@juleslynn476
@juleslynn476 6 ай бұрын
I LOVE Funky Frog Bait!!!!
@stephaniesilvan3526
@stephaniesilvan3526 6 ай бұрын
Rebecca: "I'm not sexist." Also Rebecca: "I wonder if children raised by lesbians do better because they were exposed to less toxic masculinity." :D Just kidding, I don't actually believe Rebecca is sexist or hates men. Just something I occasionally notice in her unfiltered (relatable!) way of talking what's on her mind. ;)
@trinerasmussen7099
@trinerasmussen7099 6 ай бұрын
Its so funny. I am not good at keeping up with Rebecca on IG, but exactly that video I have seen 😅
@susanmehalick4664
@susanmehalick4664 6 ай бұрын
What is her IG? I need to see this, lol.
@candicemcmillan720
@candicemcmillan720 6 ай бұрын
Omg my people
@RaymondJiang444
@RaymondJiang444 6 ай бұрын
I've personally heard of 'Boy Mom' mostly in the context of a reaction to the inverse 'Girl Dad' trend. The latter one I've encountered far more, although I'm certainly not surprised the 'Boy Mom' trend has much to do with the so-called 'Mama's Boys.' I think the whole 'Man or Bear' controversy points to a divide between the existential fears of men and women. For women, it's the fear of being killed or harmed by men, for men it's the fear of being ignored, invisible, or socially ostracized. And unfortunately, both play into each other where women may behave in ways that make them more distant or even hostile towards men, and then men in turn learn to avoid seeking out emotional closeness or seek it out in very atypical or toxic ways, which causes women to become even more distant or hostile towards them, and the vicious cycle continues. Of course one takeaway could be that men are relying too much on women for their emotional needs due to toxic masculinity, though if you were to ask men, many of them would share some of the same fears about other men as many women have. All of this points to how even justified anger and resentment over how men have treated women and other men as well can result in the collateral damage of men sometimes being automatically perceived as physical threats. I think a lot of times the answers that many men get when they ask how they can stop being perceived as such can be kind of unhelpful - "just be less threatening" or "just be less toxic." And I think this all ties into the first half of the episode pretty well. Lastly, I think there should be a longer episode on mansplaining. I see it much like 'gaslighting' or 'narcissist,' where it's often misused or misunderstood.
@jenyi545
@jenyi545 6 ай бұрын
As mother of a boy, I think how he sees my husband interact with me is more impactful on his future relationships with women. This whole trend is very heteronormative. Are queer parents out there doing this?
@tomburns5231
@tomburns5231 6 ай бұрын
Re ~50min, when did geeky dudes who can't pick up on social cues generally become sexism? Pretty sure they do their same non-stop speech to everyone who will listen, regardless of gender.
@jessk457
@jessk457 6 ай бұрын
Did Dr Honda mean The Cranberries who are Irish not Scottish?
@blondequijote
@blondequijote 6 ай бұрын
As a member of the Scots-Irish American community, where they're from doesn't matter. The difference is only important when its whether the whisky is is Scotch or Irish
@chequeplease
@chequeplease 6 ай бұрын
​@@blondequijotea bunch of the cranberries music is about the troubles and like the Easter rising which didn't happen is Scotland, and comes off the tail end of a genocide in Ireland. It is important - an Irish person living in Scotland
@blondequijote
@blondequijote 6 ай бұрын
@chequeplease the American part of my heritage involved getting out of whiskey Island before the trouble happened. Luckily they export that stuff to the Americas.
@dassijes5943
@dassijes5943 6 ай бұрын
Cocteau Twins! :)
@jessk457
@jessk457 6 ай бұрын
@dassijes5943 My younger age is showing, as I don't know this band. I will check them out :-). It's so cool to hear about Dr. Honda as a young adult in the epicentre of grunge. I wonder if his love of the music that has themes of discontentment, loneliness and angry is reflected in his positive attitude to his clients expressing these emotions
@Joe-Momma67
@Joe-Momma67 6 ай бұрын
Don't forfeit penny loafer shoes
@IndigoWhite
@IndigoWhite 6 ай бұрын
This lady is lowkey kinda in her own world. It’s the most straight woman interpretation of everything… so embarrassing lol
@dahliaholm3637
@dahliaholm3637 5 ай бұрын
that’s odd bc she’s not a straight woman
@bonnybabs392
@bonnybabs392 4 ай бұрын
I think Rebecca should reflect on how she judged the guy at the craft fair for talking too much and being a "basement dweller". At a booth intended to showcase a thing he was passionate about. She assumed A LOT about him, giving him toxic traits he might now have. Maybe he's awkward. Or has ASD and doesn't get social cues well. Maybe he's just really excited to me there, because is IS a "basement dweller" and she just gave him more reason to disengage from others. She have no compassion for how he as a man MAY have been enculturated, and ONLY compassion for women's experiences. Men also need some space and compassion to unlearn what they've been taught too, if we are to have any hope of squashing toxic masculinity. It would have been smarter to give him space to course correct. Maybe, "can you just give me the 1 minute pitch?". Instead she just rolled here eyes and walked away, taking her assumptions with her, further adding to the ever building US vs THEM gap between the two (most common) genders. It's not helping.
@thechannelofultimatedestiny
@thechannelofultimatedestiny 4 ай бұрын
Big contrast with how her co host gently redirected the conversation to address the question more directly after she has a couple minutes to vent her frustrations
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