Creepy teacher, borderline couples, and grumpy boomers

[@charlize9341]

Thank you for giving such strong clear advice to this letter writer with the creeper! I hope she connects with people in her life who can advise her and help look out for her going forward.

[@Alayhoo]

I second that!

[@judyjudy158]

"Especially, this F'er!" Lol, Dr. Honda!❤ it! 😂

[@katewright4414]

I literally laughed out loud. Love these two.

[@LearnEnglishWithJess]

Yea, I just LOL'd

[@donnapayton9137]

Regarding your colonoscopy, we use room air to distend the walls of the colon to look for polyps. The air is suctioned out as the scope is withdrawn on the way out. General anesthesia is not generally used, unless there are special circumstances- a pediatric patient, someone who can't cooperate, etc due to the increased risk. Midazolam (Versed) with Fentanyl or Meperadine is used for conscious sedation and pain control. Alternatively, Propofol is used to achieve deeper sedation. Midazolam and Propofol create amnesia, so the procedure isn't remembered.

[@arlett6477]

Ugh I am so triggered by the teacher story I feel dizzy... This is how I spent my life conditioned to be an obedient people pleaser to groomers and have been coerced and stalked a million times as a woman even if I felt uncomfortable I was still nice cause I felt like I had to be.. The only thing they had to do is ask me once- I said no thank u, - and then ask me again and the second or third time I said ok..... Cause they overpowered my decision with making me feel guilty or whatever type or grooming coercion etc. It's only gonna stop when your age will visibly show on your face and these groomers realize u are smarter and they won't even bother to try cause they know u know better, but this will go on til u are probably age 60. I had a similar situation with a less pushy but equally creepy teacher too, but if not a teacher then a neightbour, and so on and on, so no matter where u go these types of people will find you cause it's your naivety and agreeableness is something they can smell. I am 47 now and still when I am walking along the street sometimes I get random cars stop and people expecting me to get in, because I am petite and look young from afar I guess... Face-to-face guys don't dare to come up to me and do this like before... There were times in my youth when I got in, and have been in some weird situations that I consider myself lucky to get out of.. Thank god it was in Europe and not America otherwise I would be dead. See she feels guilty to say no and that's how I was made felt and I felt guilty too... There was no one to tell these things and no one to protect me from it. Had to learn it the hard way and these stories changed me so I can only hope she doesn't engage. It should be taught at schools that these types of manipulation tactics and people are dangerous and it's ok to say fck 0ff

[@sofya6553]

Yes it should be taught as school!!! How can we get these things taught in schools? Glad you’re doing better now, I’ve had a similarish experience, was always frightened of aging because I was often valued for my youth. Once I did start to age I felt more free!

[@alisonhammond]

Yeah I’ve had some awful experiences from not wanting to be disliked by people too. I was mostly in the US and I’m also lucky and grateful to still be here and learning more through these podcasts. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@haileyoslund]

1:00:19 ahhh I’m so happy that you pointed this out because it happens all the time for me too. 💜

[@Alayhoo]

Hearing your guidance about the creeper-teacher was really validating. Ive been in so many situations where my friends and family downplay red flag behavior (I was raised Mormon and LDS women are notorious ppl pleasers) or say I’m being overly judgmental. I’ve been in many situations with men where I didn’t feel like I could decline or say no out of fear of retaliation, even in public settings. I usually dissociate in those moments and depersonalize because I just freeze up and feel like I’m in shock almost. Like I can’t believe it’s 2024, I’m 35 and still get harassed. Older men in particular are the worst in my experience. They’ll be creeps as their wife stands 10 feet away or feel entitled to your time and attention whether your at work or sitting alone at a coffee shop with giant headphones on reading a book. It’s exhausting and so much easier to just stay home.

[@leigha2814]

Is borderline the internet's new narcissism (which dethroned OCD)? Only time will tell.

[@s.melonita4454]

Bob is hilarious for the white 🐘 present 🤣

[@elizaline7571]

"Infrared" 😂

[@mishylove]

7:15 When my ex had his colonoscopy he was very groggy after. The medical professionals had him sit up and propped up on a pillow with his knees bent so that he could pass gass. And pass gass he did. He was farting on and off for a good half hour. He remembers none of that.

[@PsychologyInSeattle]

Ha! Interesting. Maybe my docs vacuumed it up before I woke up?

[@helen.k]

I absolutely did not see how the student-teacher plot escalated 😮.

[@helen.k]

Bob, how do you respond to people asking for money on the streets? When l was younger and poorer, l always gave money. When l got older and learned that it involved organized crime and people were trafficked to Western Europe to do that, l didn't want to contribute to the problem. Sidenote we have a solid social care system in my country, but l always feel quilt when l walk past.

[@Wolfskye96]

I am unsure which Y you were speaking of in Swedish. Im Swedish and I was very confused. Perhaps you are referring to the Danish and Norwegian Ö with looks like Ø. Its not used in Swedish. Perhaps you're referring to just a hand writing style of lower case Y, I could see some people putting a line across the lower tail of Y to just be extra clear its a Y. Our alphabet have 3 extra letters and that is Å Ä and Ö

[@morhy5501]

It would be interesting to see some studies about corelation between age and complaining. Both my grandmas became very negative last few years too. I remember times that I was going to their houses and having nice long conversations, and now it is basicaly impossible. Maybe it really is connected with the higher rate of depression. I can also see my parents becoming progresivly more negative, though is not the same level as my grandmas yet.

[@morhy5501]

And from the side of my husband grandparents is the same. They used to be interesting people to be around, but more or less since covid speaking with them is very depressing.

[@chasehedges6775]

Something is wrong with people today.

[@VerySelena]

Lol! Bob and the white elephant colonoscopy photos. I love Bob & Kirk's sense of humor💖

[@RaymondJiang444]

24:01 And sadly, even many men might still give in in a similar situation because of the notion that still prevades in some circles that any man that dares reject the advances of a woman especially if she's perceived as 'hot' is gay or just not 'man enough.' Obviously, this pales in comparison to the possible repercussions a lot of women potentially face in the same situation, but this notion comes from the very same attitude that explains why a lot of men like this guy can't take 'no' for an answer.

[@RaymondJiang444]

Do you find either type of ageism to be more prevalent than the other? I could be biased as a younger adult, but it seems like much of the ageism towards older people is a continuing pushback to the old cultural notion where kids and young people are expected to 'be seen but not heard' and where the rule of respecting one's elders was more I guess, dogmatic? Not saying it's wrong to value the wisdom and experiences of elders or that suppressing young peoples' voices excuses ageism towards old people, but I wonder if there might be some undifferentiated anger going on here with a lot of it.

[@helen.k]

My thoughts exactly what you said about Michael Jackson

[@stuartp2006]

I guess hotter would be like... White hot?