Boyfriend Started A HUGE FIGHT Over Me Messaging My Ex-Boyfriend r/Relationships

[@carlrood4457]

"I want to stay married because we've been together for 10 years and she's all I know." Not great reasons

[@rora9553]

Animal abuse story: She may be your world, OP, but you are not her world. You are a source of entertainment.

[@SquishedFaeries]

Exactly!

[@Tevikolady]

Let's take this from the perspective that this started happening over the last 3 years. OP mentions at the beginning of his post that something traumatic happened to him at the beginning of the post. EVERYONE IS IGNORING THAT, but he also noticed that everything started roughly around that time, which is why it's mentioned. But let's assume, that as a responsible person, he got therapy. ANd his Therapist recommended either anti-depressants, or Anti-psychotics, or even both. And this prescription and dosage is for a man. WHat would happen to a woman who took them? Anti-depressants, if its too heavy of a dose, can make you depressed. Anti-psychotics, if its too heavy of a dose, can make you psychotic. And OPs wife started becoming pyschotic shortly after his traumatic event. Let's put 2 and 2 together. She's taking his drugs.

[@randalthor741]

The wife in story 3 is a sociopath. An actual, legitimate sociopath. She is not "a good person otherwise." Nothing about her is good. She is evil, through and through. She has learned to mostly mask her sociopathic behaviour so that she can exist in society without being shunned, but she is extremely dangerous. She will most likely kill someone, if she hasn't already.

[@ImaNerdANDaGeek]

That someone might end up being OP

[@icecreamnoodles3742]

This. All of it. 100% I am absolutely horrified by story 3.

[@bobfg3130]

Most sociopaths don't kill people.

[@DaBaseBallZ]

Story 3:OP says his wife's a good person otherwise,But that's like saying a serial killer is a good person if we put aside their kills UpdateLook on the bright side,OP. She threw away anything you had to feel bad about kicking to the curb by cheating on you. So do what you must,OP

[@kateemma22]

My wife is a good person... anyway, here's some stories about how she verbally attacks animals, plays mind games, throws things at me, laughs at pain, appears to lack any emotion at all, and kills birds for fun. But hey, she's so good, I'm sure she isn't going to murder me.'

[@LovestarVGC]

OP refused to sleep with his wife but then acts surprised when she cheated on him? They both clearly have issues to work on before being in a relationship again

[@RobDaCajun]

@@LovestarVGC yes, this. They are both two messed up individuals that got together. They should have separated a long time ago. Is he really Ace or was he just so brow beaten he didn’t want sex anymore. On her part why didn’t she leave a sexless marriage as opposed to starting an affair with an even more toxic individual. Whatever crack she’s been smoking is frying what is left of her brain.

[@rexgw147]

​@@LovestarVGCthat wasn't his fault tho. The affair was her choice, not his. Once the lack of sex became an issue, she had the choice to talk to op and discuss options. She instead decided to have an affair and string him along and pretend there wasn't issue at all. This all might have been somewhat okay and a learning opportunity when they were 15. But they're In their late 30s and so far op was the one who used his big boy words. She didn't use hers until he started.

[@eldeano9964]

Stb Serial killer ex-wife: It's not gonna work out with the affair partner, and she'll be back. And some people can't accept 'no' at the best of times, let alone when they're unhinged... Change the locks/upgrade windows and doors, get cameras, DO NOT GET A DOG. Move...

[@carlrood4457]

The biggest red flag is the boyfriend is 27 and is still partying at nearly 4am for a house warming. He's still in college mode.

[@bradleymartinez185]

Genuine question, how is it a red flag to stay up and hang out with old friends? His disrespect aside of course

[@TwiggyHetfield27]

See the two biggest red flags for me are; 1) they didn't greet her. Manners 101, you always say hello to the hosts. 2) the bf putting his friends accommodations over OP who's running on 2 hours of sleep & he knows this.

[@marshawargo7238]

He didn't even go get supplies and set some things up, so that she could have gotten more than two hours of sleep😢!!! OP did everything to make it a great party but got Zero respect from neither guests nor her partner😢!!! Bet he was with them in the bathroom too, that's why he didn't care about the time or OP's comfort!

[@aduckofsomesort]

Do you think humans have life stages like eels? Like we have to behave completely differently as soon as we turn a certain age?

[@blix_xo]

​@aduckofsomesort Lots tend to think we do. Look at any age gap story, and God forbid folks have a good time but oh no, they are few years apart! It's manipulation! Folks need to get over themselves, you're of age, it shouldn't matter anymore.

[@MimosaRose]

Story 1- seems to me that she was seeking validation and received a big shock.

[@fandomfan2800]

cry about it

[@TheVeggiekat]

Story 1 I think OP buried the lead. She made a quick mention that her boyfriend keeps in touch with his ex’s. So she gets a message from her ex and decides to message and meet up as friends. Wanna bet all that with her ex was her playing a game of “let’s see how you like it.” He didn’t. Now she gets to play the “I didn’t think you’d care since you do the same with your ex’s” or she has to come out and admit him being friends with his ex’s bothered her and she used her ex to teach bf a lesson. Notice she said she showed boyfriend the Reddit post even though the comments totally thought she was the AH. Usually people only show their partner the Reddit post when Reddit agrees with them.

[@noonespecial7730]

That sounds about right though I wouldn't be surprised if, "He still keeps in touch with some of his ex's," is actually, "he still talks to 2 of them and one was a close friend he tried dating for a week before they both decided they felt more like siblings and the other he broke up with on good terms and now they are coworkers who only talk to each other about work stuff." Also, sometimes people do show the post to whoever they "wronged" even if they are voted the AH but that's when they genuinely want to know and except that they were in the wrong.

[@TheKingOfRuckus]

"We planned to meet up" is turned into "I might meet up with my ex" because she absolutely wanted to go and didn't want to sound too excited. I'm so glad people called that bs out.

[@WhitneyDahlin]

Exactly! It wasn't the fact she was seeing her ex it was the fact she lied and was deceitful about it. And then when he got mad (rightly) about her being deceitful she turned it around to him being insecure and she doesn't have a problem with him talking to his ex's. It's not about who she was talking to or who she was meeting up with. It was about the fact she purposely lied about it. I would have a problem with my partner lying about meeting up with ANYONE even if it was their mother. Because it's the deceit the lack of respect the flat-out gaslighting. Making her boyfriend think he's the crazy one I suspect she lied about it because she was hoping something would happen between her and her ex and he shot her down or just clearly wasn't interested. And then she got home and just played it off as they were just meeting up to catch up. I definitely believe she was hoping something would happen between her and her ex. She's clearly a bad person and I hope that guy gets out of this relationship. liars are the worst people especially because they are always the best at lying to themselves.. They decieve themselves into believing they are good people and it's not that big a deal.

[@hm5468]

Yeah, that’s on her side, on his side, he still talks to his exes so… what’s his problem

[@katebarker-ld5hi]

Story 3. The wife is a terrible person and is in need of in patient help. However, OP is one of the most drippy people I've heard/read a post from. Is she doing these horrific things to animals just to get an extreme reaction from OP? OP needs to leave asap, before he becomes a statistic.

[@CatsOverBrats]

Story 3: My cousin started tormenting animals at a young age too. As a teenager he moved on to beating his girlfriend. We're now 43 and his name sometimes appears in the news paper when he's done something criminal again and is going back to prison. These types of people never change.

[@KadeStringer2.0]

These types of people can change

[@jam2727]

⁠@@KadeStringer2.0They have to want to, though

[@SCP01986]

@@KadeStringer2.0 Yeah, but you've got better odds of encountering Shiny Pokemon irl than that happening.

[@shadowkissed2370]

@@KadeStringer2.0 no, they cant. They can wear a great mask, but they dont actually change.

[@judyjohnson9610]

I love the suggestion "Oh, thank you so much for staying for the cleanup!" I'm not likely to need that but I am tucking that one away.

[@MikeWeathers-fo1vs]

S1: they broke up, guaranteed. She’s lying.

[@jrod1591]

Yea her pride wouldn’t let people on the internet get the, “I told you so.”

[@candiebarr6745]

Story 3 sounds like something from the show 'Evil Lives Here'... like, exactly... 'here are all these signs she was a killer, but how could I know she was a serial killer? She was so good most of the time!'

[@ladymorrigan5950]

Story 2: he didn’t care about the friends doing coke in the bathroom because he’s doing it too. Maybe even bankrolling that part of the party. I’m sure op is expected to do all of the cleanup also.

[@marshawargo7238]

Well he didn't go get supplies or setup so that OP could get more than two hours of sleep beforehand! And I'm sure he was "hanging out" in the bathroom too, indicated by his lack of concern for OP's obvious need for the party to end😢!!! He was raring to go, thinking that OP can't be That tired, because of his partake of the bathroom stimulant!

[@ladymorrigan5950]

@@marshawargo7238 exactly.👍

[@MrJpaynebb]

I have yet to find a host or co-host who is cool with party members using hard drugs in their home unless they are also using themselves. It's also common for those type of parties to roll into late night/early morning aka 3am to 5am sometimes. I am not calling him an addict but I am saying if one partner likes to "party hard" and the other clearly doesn't then that relationship will not last.

[@SugarFreeZaddy]

The felony charge in story 2 is a very real possibility. If someone overdoses in your home on cocaine, you as the home owner (in America at least) will be held liable for them

[@jake8748]

Not to mention if they see the cops come for a noise complaint you know they be stashing the baggies. If they don't own up possession can fall to the occupants of the house. Not too mention in some places just being in knowledge of that stuff can label you an accessory. Residue could be left behind as they are doing it in the bathroom, so imagine if OP ingests some too. We had no drugs rule in our house. A friend and my brother still brought weed and utensils into the house. We were showing someone around one day who was visiting and stumbled upon it. We had to try and explain to other family that it wasn't us etc. Said family member was an aunty and grandad was a former police officer who was high ranking and very by the book and aunty was also relatively straight laced. But imagine if it was our landlord instead? Or someone's kids. We didn't care if they wanted to use. The rule was don't bring it into the house/property.

[@AleksandarBradaric]

Story 1: Why do people have a NEED to meet with ex?

[@HeliosX28]

Let's see the cliché excuses... - We need "closure" 🙄 - They're in a bad place right now and I'm all they have... - We're just catching up

[@nyxspiritsong5557]

They need their egos stroked

[@sivasankar2784]

Because there is no real consequence for doing so

[@paulinejackson5861]

I'm still friends with all my exs. If anything happens to my current guy, its nice knowing that theres someone I can go back to quickly

[@greenapetranslord4870]

Hence why you always be a garden tool. ​@@paulinejackson5861

[@jakeking3859]

Story 2: The absolute red line for me would be the cocaine. Everyone out or I'm calling the cops, and I don't care *who* gets arrested.

[@PaintSplashProductions]

Story 3: RED FLAGS, RED FLAGS EVERYWHERE! I've never had a fight or flight response to a reddit post before but OP describing how the wife intentionally stepped on that egg and laughed about killing that poor chick is just..... WTF?!

[@KCohere33]

Story 3: How many red flags does this guy need to know his wife is a psycho? What does he love so much about her? Sheesh! Also, all the people he is telling about it brushing it off as nothing? That’s why so many serial killers get away with it.

[@icecreamnoodles3742]

True. But sadly psychos like her are extremely good at learning to hide their psycho opinions and behaviors in front of other to a degree. Like a spider in a net, they set everything up so their victims are trapped and no one will believe them even when they finally break their mental prison and tell others about their psycho partner. It's an act. But a dang good one. That's why it's so hard to deal with psycho-/& sociopaths. They learn to adapt & mask fast.

[@Tapped-o9k]

Yeah shes messed up. Until the diary i thought she might just have adhd/autism or some stuff but damn why would she run over geese? They are big enaught to damage the car i assume

[@DaBaseBallZ]

Story 2:Yo,This party went on for wayyy too long,NTA Update:OP,You missed a kick,Please land it

[@tiffanym1108]

Story 3: if they are in the US it's illegal AF to run over geese.

[@michaelalanbaker7339]

OP in 3 is, frankly, as fxcked up as wife but in different ways. His wife is a complete sociopath. Neither should be married to each other, let alone be in a relationship.

[@LadyBern]

Battered spouse syndrome mixed with sunk cost fallacy is messed up. The op needs therapy and to GTFO years ago.

[@sam2x13]

Story 3 I have very little Sympathy for the op. He knows he's in a damaging relationship but refuses to do anything about it.

[@izba5747]

Story 3. A girlfriend with knives finally got married, a sequel.

[@HydraKitt]

Markee and Connor reading some of the same stories is one of the best changes of 2024. Love hearing their different takes

[@Krystalized_Python]

I'm trying to be mature like this. My silly little brain finds it annoying when they repeat stories. I'll try to adopt this mentality

[@WyntheRogue]

Yeah,while various redditors have similar tastes in stories,it's interesting hear their points of view on them.

[@jodieg6318]

Story 1: I'm really thinking this is ragebait because Reddit tends to act like anyone over the age of 18 not going out wearing a chastity belt means they are intending to cheat on their partner.

[@icecreamnoodles3742]

Honestly I kinda agree. I hate it when people scream fake in the comments like they can't wrap their head around the fact that some people are simply nuts. But this update... frankly it feels made up. I could totally see the original post be real, but this update feels like the OP's imaginary headcanon instead of what actually happened. If this is real I am willing to bet real money on the boyfriend being a lot less happy than the OP made it out in the update and things are nowhere near as resolved either. At the cery least OP is being sketchy af.

[@jodieg6318]

@@icecreamnoodles3742 What seemed the most fake to me is that anyone would come onto Reddit and not expect something like this to blow up with unhinged comments when Reddit is notorious for baying for blood when any mention of an ex, co-worker, or opposite gender friend is mentioned followed by all the 'cels giving their "advice". If people had to follow that standards that some of the more unhinged Redditors think of the human species would go extinct in a few generations because people would barely be able to look at each other without an accusation of infidelity.

[@jodieg6318]

​@@icecreamnoodles3742 What seems the most fake to me is how someone would come to Reddit with a story like this and not expect it to blow up with more unhinged comments when Reddit is notorious for howling for blo*d when an ex, co-worker, or opposite gender friend is mentioned followed by all the 'cels giving their "advice". If people had to follow some of the more extreme Redditors humans would go extinct in a few generation because people wouldn't be allowed to so much as look at each other without an accusation of infidelity.

[@jake8748]

Update definitely doesn't seem true. Originally it was omitting the conversation and lying that she has already made plans. Then having an argument. Then magically it's all 'but he still talks to his ex and he read this and everything is fine and we are masters of communication despite the fact I literally lied to him because I didn't know his reaction etc.

[@jodieg6318]

@@icecreamnoodles3742 What screamed ragebait to be was anyone coming to Reddit, that notorious for going feral when any kind of infidelity or more so the suspicion of it is in a post, and thinking it won't blow up with the more unhinged comments and all the different flavors of 'cels offering their "advice". If Reddit had its way the human species would be gone in a few generations because no one would be able to so much as look at each other without an accusation of infidelity which would carry punishments usually reserved for the worst offenders.

[@MoonWomanStudios]

Learning how to kick people out is top tier adulting

[@breannashell3799]

I cry when a bird flies in front of my car and I can't miss it... I cry when I see a dead deer on the side of the road.... How can anyone get excitement of any kind from hurting living things from animal to plant even human? It's mind boggling.

[@Roadent1241]

I mean evil people are fine, there's a reason, the need to protect the innocent. You do not hurt the innocent.

[@MH-ku5kn]

Story 2… to be fair, it’s not just a felony. If she works overnights, she probably has a job that involves a clear background check. So it’s the felony AND her job.

[@fallingawayfromthenorm]

Story 3 - NTA OP please run for your life! There’s no amount of years I could know and love someone that could get me to overlook them admitting to purposefully running over some animal(s), combined with everything else I’d be concerned for my own safety and my dog’s safety. There is something extremely wrong with the wife. It is always better to be single or divorced, but I know the sink cost fallacy and people’s own insecurities about being single can really warp their ability to understand this is not a relationship that should be salvaged.

[@CanonSkyrissian]

story 1: pls be ragebait pls be ragebait

[@juliearmfield2634]

The last story is the one I really hope and pray is Rage bait

[@KadeStringer2.0]

I seriously doubt it

[@John-oo8dn]

Nah, a lot of woman are like this. Of course if their dude did it, they’d flip out.

[@fallingawayfromthenorm]

The emoji usages makes me suspect it’s fake, although I know some people who do use them when they’re bitter and in the wrong.

[@Tustin2121]

The first story is clearly rage bait for people like everyone on Reddit and this comments section, who are apparently so fragile that they can’t even conceive of people remaining friends after a breakup. Y’all need to touch grass. OP is actually normal for once.

[@CrystalRuizEnriquez]

"who's going to call the police?"....the neighbors that are also porbably pissed that their new neighbors are having a party at 3am

[@denelva]

Story 3: People like Anna aren't capable of love, they can't be changed and in counseling they will use the things they learn about their partner as ammunition to make sure they remain in control. I work with horses and when I or someone else accidently hurt them even in the smallest manner, the first thing I do, is to make sure the horse feels safe and can be calmed down and looked after as soon as possible. If I even suspected someone hurting them intentionally in any way, shape or form, all hell would break lose. I don't own these animals, I'm hired to look after them and still, the thought of anyone hurting them and LAUGH? There's nothing to understand except OP's wife is deeply disturbed and should be kept away from all living beings.

[@Swamp_Queen]

I find it a little weird that not even one comment was talking about how its weird the switch up her boyfriend did? When she got home Saturday the first thing he did was ask how it went, so he obviously knew for SURE she was going to meet with him. It still doesn't make sense to me, the reasoning that he gave her? That he was moatly upset about their texting throughout the week. Because if she wasnt as honest about them texting all week like he said then he didnt know about it until he demanded to see her phone then he was even more mad that he didnt find anything? In any other story, reddit and everyone else would be saying hes projecting because hes cheating, which is what i think, but because it had to do with seeing an ex, something that everyone hates, you breeze past that. The only part anyone gave a crap about was her saying that she might see her ex. Which i get could be seen as manipulative wording or it could be seen as her trying to word it in a way that shows him he actually has a choice. If she said, "im going to go see my ex this saturday" he could see it as her telling him rather than asking. But her wording it as, "hey i might go see my ex this saturday if youre okay with it?" Makes it seem less like shes telling him its happening. People are putting their own biases into the story again. If i ask my partner something and he says its okay, then the day comes and he is okay with it until it happens then flips out on me, thats something wrong with my partner, not me???? How is this even a question, im so confused???

[@anyjen]

Right? I was thinking about that. His reaction seems off to me, like he suspected her of deleting messages or having secret messages on a hidden app, or something. Why is it ok for him to keep in contact with his exes, but her seeing her ex once and not immediately telling him about every single message prior to the meeting unacceptable? Either dude is cheating or has cheated with one or more of his exes and cannot fathom meeting an ex for purely platonic reasons, or he's a hypocrite with jealousy issues.

[@mandyj2809]

I was thinking exactly this, about the switch up, as well as OP’s wording to her boyfriend. And no one seemed to pick up on the fact that OP said her ex has contact with his exes, yet when she sees one ex, he loses it. I feel like she was villainised pretty quickly for very little.

[@gremlininblue2601]

Honestly I think the update wasnt real and she's just trying to save face

[@Kay-Rayzie]

So glad that OP kicked her ex and his rude mates out of her home. The way that they wouldn't even acknowledge her existence told me all I needed to know about them.

[@Twila5836]

Omg the animal thing is absolutely horrible, but then i was like, "Don't have kids with her" and then i was like she couldn't possibly torment the kids. I was so naive then.

[@benbraden9133]

I take issue with her being so high and mighty about the reactions to her first post in her update. She was, at best, presenting the early signs of an emotional affair and her boyfriend reacted accordingly. And she was told this by Reddit, whom she then condescendingly says ‘touch grass’ to when clearer communication with him wins the day. Maybe I’m just pretending the unhinged comments weren’t there because they weren’t included in the video

[@dorianleakey]

She wasn't though, it's dishonest of everyone who thinks that, I really mean this, I am in total disagreement with everyone. You are all changing what happened. Altering it beyond comprehension.

[@benbraden9133]

@@dorianleakey just to be clear I’m not saying she was trying to enter an emotional affair, only that her actions were presenting as that. A 1-1 meeting with an ex should be clearly communicated no matter how much trust there is in a relationship; even if completely innocent, which I believe in this instance was probably the case, he cannot come across information regarding them meeting 1-1 any other way than a conversation where she asks if that would bother him. And that conversation shouldn’t be had AFTER any attempts to plan this has taken place, or the opportunity for it to happen by accident is close by.

[@comajuice]

So talking to someone and hanging out with them is now an emotional affair? All whilst communicating this with your partner?

[@benbraden9133]

@@comajuice read the above comment I’ve already addressed this

[@Obiwantuan]

@@dorianleakey She forgot to tell him about talking to her Ex at first, she then told him she "might meet up" with her EX, there was no might, she 100% made plans. She and EX agree to keep in touch as you know friends. I personally, find it hard to believe her EX decided to just randomly contact her after 7 years of no contact and asked to meet up and just be friends.

[@EluneAnzu]

Story 3: "We are horror fans" okay then OP, let's put this in horror movie terms, you're at the part of the movie where the audience is yelling "run dummy, run!!!", also even after the update where they're divorcing I really hope OP is going to keep as distant as possible from her, she's either a future serial killer *or* the drugs she got from her affair partner that she says have been causing the change is going to make her worse before she gets better. OP better brace for the horror sequel because the ex is going to come back eventually like Jason from Friday the 13th.

[@MariaPlacido-b7s]

Good Sunday Morning Markee and Fans. Its 6:00AM in Toronto Ontario Canada 🇨🇦, have a good day all 😊

[@bridgetdebourgh5698]

Good morning! It's 5:09 AM in Louisiana 🐊 Have an amazing day 👋🤗

[@brianbarber5401]

Story 1: the reactions were insane. And the boyfriend’s decision that OP is hiding things because he didn’t find anything in her messages was insane also.

[@Tustin2121]

Agreed. Markee’s reaction was insane too.

[@astrovalleyzone7140]

​@Tustin2121 he came off sort of "mean girl" with his sarcasm too

[@errantwinds-up8uu]

Yeah I completely disagree regarding story 1. I know some people feel extremely about exes, but it really depends on the type of breakup etc. You can absolutely have respectful conversation with some exes, and I don't think OP did anything wrong.

[@trillionbones89]

She "forgot" to tell him and said she "might" meet up with the ex. How is this not extremely disingenuous?

[@ElizaBetsy_]

Oh crap! Saw Markee had posted and realized it was like 3am on my coast. Happy to be here early though!

[@bricksloth6920]

Drugs don't turn you into an animal abuser. Being a sadist, mixed with being el bonzo seco, makes you an animal abuser. Glad OP is getting out of there

[@Ayimii]

"One time when I got home late from work, I notived my wife was already in a bad mood. While cooking her dinner I accidentally dropped the knife and my wife picked it up and threw it into my eye. I wasn't mad at her because we all have accidents, but I was devastated that I lost my eyesight." OP in a few years, probably.

[@twentyfiveyears5010]

Story 2, I was visiting older relatives in a time zone several hours earlier than my own. About 10pm their time (7pm my time), the dad excused himself from the living room, came back with his pajamas and robe on, and said, "now what were we talking about?" I got the hint.

[@juliearmfield2634]

Story 2. Nta. Those weren't guests those were squatters. She's lucky she dodged that nuke early on.

[@reneenoriega4524]

While I don't like OP's general attitude, because it feels like low hanging ragebait (which seems to have worked really well, because they managed to upset me lmao) I don't understand commenters in S1. I'm friends with my two only ex's (maybe it's a side effect of being queer on a small city? idk) so hearing people being like "you can't neeeeverr talk or worry for your exs because it means you still want to be with theeeeem" sounds alien to me. Unless all of you people are having explosive break ups, I don't know what to say S3 final comments: reddit's obsession with making everything a disorder kind of pisses me off. Sometimes, bad people are just bad, you don't need a diagnosis to see it, not every bad person is a sociopath or a psychopath, or has "sinester personality" or whatever. More in this case, because it sounds like OP's ex-wife is doing drugs, which contrary of what some people may thing, can make her act out of pocket depending on what she may be taking

[@jodieg6318]

Story one screams ragebait to me as well given that Reddit is notorious for going feral when cheating, or more so the suspicion of, is in the post. Posts like this will always get the more unhinged comments because if Reddit has it's way no one would venture outside, have friends or even co-workers without an accusation of infidelity or planning to be unfaithful, or having an emotional affair. I think Reddit is unhinged when it comes to cheating because its very populated with under 25's whose worst life experience thus far is a partner cheating and all the terminally online people looking for a reason to be angry.

[@Oldtimeypistolero]

In the animal abuse story OP found a woman who needed a weak partner and who has worked hard to keep OP weak and fragile

[@trillionbones89]

Story 3: it is so hard for me to not victim blame here. He is an idiot for staying with such a psychopath. He loves horror movies but is the idiot in the first scene who is too dumb to run away from the obvious murderer

[@jamiehorne1173]

Insecurities and jealousy is going to destroy your relationship it shows you you don't trust the person that you're with and it will destroy your relationship no matter what you do because if you can't trust somebody you shouldn't be in a relationship. You can still be friends with your ex the other person is that destroying that relationship so if you can't trust the person that you're with you shouldn't be in a relationship with that person and you still have to buy by the laws even in a relationship that means you cannot Snoop without facing jail time

[@suitov]

OP, call the police pretending to be a neighbour and say they're having a loud party and taking drugs.

[@Roadent1241]

Why would you have to pretend to be next door?

[@suitov]

@@Roadent1241 In case police blab about who called in the complaint and her coked-up boyfriend gets nasty.

[@Roadent1241]

@@suitov She'd be out of the place before making the call then?

[@suitov]

@@Roadent1241 I'll leave the logistics as an exercise for the reader.

[@Roadent1241]

@@suitov Called planning ahead I assumed. How would the neighbour know anything past the party unless they're doing a lot of snooping? XP

[@timothytakeuchi540]

Story 1: Ok so for me, I'm gonna say everybody sucks. it's interesting that she didn't say anything while she spent the whole week rubbing elbows with her ex, nah she should have opened her mouth. But he isn't innocent in this either, if he had a problem with it, then he should have opened his mouth. Ain't nobody Raven Baxter up in here, we can't read your mind. So yes, I feel like nobody didn't their part in this story

[@astrovalleyzone7140]

Markee's agressive "mean girl" tone and the rest of the comments on the first story make me feel like I'm crazy. I thought Op's clarification that her boyfriend was also friends with his ex would signal a double standard and clear hypocrisy on the boyfriend's part. Op probably figured that her boyfriend's non chalant friendship with HIS ex's would make him more understanding about her's.

[@benjie128]

When OP was talking about a former classmate who'd died, reminded me of when I was watching the night news and they reported a shooting at a local bowling alley. Someone's ex had followed them and shot up the place. My high school's valedictorian was killed as a bystander. I sometimes think about what she could've have accomplished. Reminds me of my own mortality. Even if I wasn't super close to her, it still was sad to hear of her passing. That's a normal response.

[@colleens1107]

Story 3: sociopath or psychopath. Her treatment of animals is classic for antisocial behavior disorder

[@michealwatts7469]

Story 1 was weird wtf? "My boyfriend doesn't trust me anymore" to "We're all good" I mean it can happen but something was sus it felt very off.

[@hagnat]

2nd story... OP's husband is a massiva AH what kind of host lets their guests do cocaine in the bathroom ? it's so unsanitary! Be a better host, and get a glass dish for them to do it in the living room!

[@GrillinPiratePete]

Friends with ex - tells your partner - you aren’t theirs, just their turn

[@loganjoh1]

Story 1: Reddit sniffing out how shady OP is instantly. I hope that was rage bait because come on

[@fallingawayfromthenorm]

Story 2 - NTA. Honestly I’d be beyond pissed if people started using any kind of drugs without getting both host’s permission, that’s extremely disrespectful. I don’t personally feel safe around people using coke because the few people I knew who did were extremely aggressive when they used. And that’s not even touching on the other ways the guests were rude. The ex needs to stay an ex after this, even if he tries coming back and pleading and crying.

[@RoseSpirit25]

Story 3: I accidentally ran over a bunny when I was turning onto the freeway. It ran out in front of me as I was already speeding up. I felt horrible about it and almost started crying. I don’t understand how people can hurt innocent animals for literally no reason.

[@IzzyPR2010]

Story 2 BF totally disrespected you. You asked for his friends to leave and his response was to get more party supplies to make the party go longer. If this is your home, time to show him the door. He'll go whining to his friends and they will all be calling her a B behind her back because that's what bros always do when a GF calls one of them out. At the very least no more parties at her place.

[@FallenAngel8199]

With the coke at a housewarming, I'm not gonna chance someone overdosing at my new place, they can gtfo lmao

[@surrealistgirlx]

OP - how can you watch your wife gleefully kill a bird and not throw her ass out? Her actions rise to the level of psychotic behavior. Killing and harming animals is a precusor to performing the same acts with people. The FBI tracks these cases. It is animal cruelty. It is a crime. Sooner or later she will be arrested. The names and charges are published in the local paper. If you are still with her people may assume that you harm animals too.

[@breannashell3799]

Doing coke in the bathroom? How is everything fine from doing coke in the bathroom? That stuff lingers, and thank God there were no kids involved.

[@Number-vt1fl]

Seeing an ex isn't really the issue. Being sneaky about seeing an ex is the issue. If nothing was really going on, then why hide details from your boyfriend?

[@madcatlady]

I doubt she knew it was a foetus instead of a yolk, I made that mistake once with an old egg on a farm but it was a rotten foetus and OMG the smell, the abuse she did afterwards though🙀

[@KCohere33]

That’s part is understandable but her laughing afterwards is serial killer behavior

[@bryn1063]

I was 100 on the boyfriends side until op mentioned he also talks to his exes. I agree she shouldnt have said maybe but you can easily see why she thought it was fine to meet with her ex when he literally does the same..

[@Roadent1241]

Everybody who's friends does though? That's what friends do? As limited experience as I might have...

[@KariGrafton]

I love the phrase "Standard deviations from sane"

[@jimmyjohnjuan]

S1) i dont believe the update lol, these thing happen. Op ask a qeustion, doesn't like the feedback or criticism and update a good update for them.

[@DominosAndHearts]

As a dv survivor thank you fir highlighting these stories that contain dv

[@bobfg3130]

Story 1: Ever heard of boundaries? She should have known her boyfriend's boundaries.

[@nondisclosure3920]

Story about the wife who stomped an egg, I've commented on this story before that it could be frontal cortex damage. This is assuming OP doesn't find more red flags that he hasn't noticed when looking back. If she hasn't had a head injury, it could have been an infection or an unnoticed minor stroke. Might be worth op taking an opportunity when she's out of the house for a while, to see if he can find journals that go back prior to the past 3 year's

[@keishaizawesome2836]

"Now he's saying he doesnt trust me anymore" she says this after she wants to meet up with her ex😂🤦🏿‍♀️🙄

[@crawdaddy2004]

I have never had the desire to speak or see any of my exes. Why? Because they’re my exes.

[@Darlin_86]

We are hearing one side of a story where he has cut off all physical contact but will not allow divorce, how much of what he is saying is really happening and how much is her lying to get him to leave.

[@jjr9792]

S1 - my bet is she deleted her account so her BF wouldn't see all of these follow up comments about the "maybe", and pointing out that shes lied and seems manipulative

[@kateajurors8640]

In the second story with the people doing cocaine in the bathroom, I would have just been quiet and called the cops acted as if I was kind of trapped at my house. And that I was terrified of my boyfriend, who was using cocaine and had his friends over and that I didn't know at first and they think I'm overreacting blah blah blah. Just totally lay it on thick. Then when the cop showed up and arrested everybody, I would be able to sleep.I'm sure the cops would have everybody arrested and out of thearound two thirty😂😂😂

[@jeff6732]

Story with the lady that went to see her x Why does everybody hate a happy ending so much?

[@NathanielTavington]

Story 3: Op's gonna end up on a milk carton

[@bridgetdebourgh5698]

Hey Markee 👍 Hope you're having a great weekend and enjoy your Sunday 👋🤗 Have a great day/night everyone 👋🤗

[@alexfunniman5335]

Story 3 This guy is kinda a loser tbh, wife clearly not a good person but he is really not helping anyone

[@KeitieKalopsia]

The wife in the Story 3 is how murder mysteries start. The husband is in real and palpable danger here; he just can’t see it. It’s not just husbands and boyfriends that can turn out to be serial killers. On the rare occasion, it can be the wife or the girlfriend, too. This is one such instance where the chance of her killing someday or already is high.

[@keepdancingmaria]

I"m planning to see my ex. It's all set up, time, place, everything. I've had multiple messages with my ex about this. But I tell my current that I MIGHT see my ex, just in passing, by accident if you will, even though I haven't seen my ex in passing, by accident, in 7 years. And I don't know why my current says he can't trust me now after he sees how intentional our meet-up was.

[@ChristineKrannich]

Many people thought Ted Bundy was a great guy until the truth was exposed. Anna of story 3 can get better but the amount of self-work and compliance to her treatment plan will be tremendous. For most mental illnesses that are frightening to others, the person suffering must remain compliant or the illness progresses. There is a school of thought that the illness will continue to grow even though treatment typically will alter behavior. If treatment is discontinued, the illness does not appear at the pre-treatment level. It manifests at the level it would be at if never treated. That is why GPs, Psychiatrists, and therapists all check on compliance at every visit. Some also think alcoholism behaves similarly though alcohol tolerance does decrease for the vast majority of those who go more than two years without drinking. I have seen alcoholics who have not had a drink in 5+ years struggle to “feel good” (drunk) yet their behavior showed signs of inebriation after their third drink in an hour.

[@SunBeeSmoked]

I think everyone is a bit overreactive to being friends with exes. Ops wording has some red flags but ultimately i dont think anything that serious happened.

[@cesaravegah3787]

Cheater

[@SunBeeSmoked]

@@cesaravegah3787 thank you for proving my point weirdo

[@jodieg6318]

Reddit is rather a cesspool when it comes to anything involving cheating. Commenters will put up standards like if you so much as associated with someone that was unfaith in a middle school relationship it's means you condone cheating and are a cheating yourself and should have a big red A pinned to all your clothes.

[@KadeStringer2.0]

Exactly

[@randomusername3873]

I think that because of the number of cheating episodes related to stuff like this it's necessary to be particularly transparent about this

[@SillyTeaSeal]

Hello markee, no tea rn but ill def do later and listen other video u posted this weekend!

[@lalvarez5151]

Story 1-there is nothing weirder than people who stay friends with their exs (unless they have kids) What happened to respecitng your current partner? That op sounds like a cheater

[@juandavid03]

Story 1: it’s not a happy ending, your BF proved to be a SIMP with no self respect, that’s sad.

[@ZombieSazza]

Story 3: OPs wide is a legitimate sociopath, he’s willing to put up with all of this horrific behaviour because he’s scared of being by himself and single. OP, you need to run or you WILL end up being her victim, you need therapy to deal with everything that’s happened because your idea of normality is beyond messed up, and you need protection from this actually insane psycho!

[@Tevikolady]

S3: The OP described that he had a traumatic experience. I assume he got therapy and some anti-depressants or anti-psychotics. Or both. Anyways, if her behaviour started right after his traumatic event, then I'm going to assume that she got into his meds, and this is what flipped her behaviour. I'm going to also assume that he is much larger than her, so his dose is meant to manage him, and too large a dose of anti-psychotics actually MAKE you psychotic. OPs wife needs to be committed and cleansed off the drugs.

[@IanFox-k7h]

Story 3: evacuate get out of there run

[@sherylsnell-massie3801]

Marlee - in the US somebody could call a felon on you on that if the neighbors decide that this party has gone on too long if it’s too loud and the cops come for a noise complaint, they may very well I think you were way too dismissive

[@jodieg6318]

And that's not including all the crazy stuff the police can do if anything involving a class a drug is even suspected. The War on D*rug means that the police could have come with a whole SWAT team without a warrant just on suspicion of possession or intent to distribute even if you have a prescription.

[@lorianabanana6066]

I don't think there is anything wrong with seeing your ex's in social settings and remaining on friendly terms. Two of my ex's including my exfiance are in my childhood friend group so I sometimes see them at parties or gatherings. Even the occasional happy birthday text is fine. However constant texting and solo hangouts are just weird. If it was so innocent why not invite her current partner? Or hangout as a friend group? Seems suss to me. I wouldn't apperciate the constant texting or one on one hangouts.

[@IFAMILYIH]

HE SHOULD HAVE LEFT HER STRAIGHT AWAY SHE TALKED TO EX FOR A WEEK LOL 😂

[@catsncrows]

House party nope! If there is a noise complaint and illegal substances? Been through this, I grew up around hippies. Bye everyone! Leave!

[@LynnMcbeth-hp4tb]

WAIT!!! In 2023 Henderson NV near cornerstone Park a black pickup truck deliberately drove through a flock of geese killing several. The community has been trying to find the person who did this. The act was described by witnesses as deliberate and callus. The community was heart broken over this. A 5k reward was issued leading to an arrest. This post sent chills down my spine. If this is in anyway connected I hope someone turns her in. They are a protected species. In any case this person needs to be stopped before they become a serial killer.

[@comajuice]

Ngl yall are being a bit extra on story 1, or well, on being friends wirh exes in general. Hell, im still friends with my ex. My partner is now closer friends with my ex than i am lol. Shits not black and white.

[@kiwifreund]

Regarding the 37 m considering leaving his wife: don't stay with your wife just because you think no one will want to be with you. I agree with the psycopath/narcissist call. My assumption is that if she has "witnessed" low points in the OP's life, she is likely the cause of most of those low points - obviously he has listed some of them for us.