Boys Without Father Figures

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[@amerikadayasam9340]

My 12 years old son lost his dad 4 months ago. Then he found you in KZbin. I think he gave you his father’s place in his heart and mind. Every day he just talks about you, listening your advices and even make me watch your videos.

[@fivestarsingh]

W son

[@nagyaron3143]

Sorry for your loss! I wish you and your young prince a wonderful life!

[@_Valentine_]

That's sweet to know, sorry for your lost. I'm 14 years old, I have advice for your child who I assume is on self improvement. I'ved been on self improvement for a year by now. Make a routine, you should do the most difficult things first in your routine, for example, cleaning your room and cleaning the house. Yes I understand parents want their kids to clean after themselves, I understand the situation of going to work and having to go home to a messy house where kids don't listen to you. I recommend adding gratitude journaling and meditiation after starting your day doing the most difficult tasks of the day. After all of this, they can decide what else they want to add to their routine, but I heavily recommend something that doesn't require you being on the internet(The internet can be very addictive). I do personally recommend things like, exercising, mewing, chewing hard gums(sugar free) and studying philosophy. If your child is going to do any of this, I recommend to be safe and careful with it, for example if you chew too much your jaw can become injuried, or if you mew wrong. That's all I have for your child, remember, "Do the hard work, espically when you don't feel like it" - Hamza.

[@briayne2660]

W son w mum

[@villagerjj]

Support your sons adventures, and don't be afraid to let him get a bit ruffled. Men grow from discomfort.

[@RealNoobMaster69]

I had tears in my eyes when you told me attaboy. You did a lot for me Hamza, I am grateful I got to know you, and now grow like you. You may today be one of the closet thing I have to a father.

[@mu2137]

Same,my father died before I met him 🥲

[@void769]

i teared up when i heard him say attaboy

[@osas1032]

cringe ngl

[@youwont9965]

@@osas1032 cringe as hell

[@lol-sp4rv]

Your all kings and even though y’all don’t have fathers you will be a father for your son your all KINGS 👑

[@wimagency]

top 5 reasons why everyone should be on self-improvement: -it makes you happy -it makes you calm -it makes you socialized -it brings peace -it supports all other areas of life

[@PugrillaEggy54321]

bro why you comment 50 times a video

[@erenjeager5290]

@@PugrillaEggy54321 he wants his name out there.

[@sarah8638]

I want to start self-improvement but I'm not sure how to start

[@user-dv7zb4qf4m]

@@sarah8638all you need is gym, clean eating, meditation, journalling and reading, growth mindset.

[@sarah8638]

@@user-dv7zb4qf4m Thanks for your response, I'll try doing those stuff today since I've still got time

[@straightupES]

Hello. I am a fatherless 14 year old boy. I look at you as a father figure. I have been watching your videos, since 13 years old. I do home workouts: -Monday, the "Abs and Back day": abs training, back training with dumbbells. -Wednesday, the "Arms day": biceps, forearms, shoulders training with dumbbells. -Friday, the "Legs day": legs training with dumbbells, bonus: neck training. I only have 2 dumbbells, each is 3 kg. But still, I'm really grateful for it. Also, I do warm-up before each workout: 35 push-ups, 20 squats. I meditate and pray to God everyday. I read books everyday. I learn Python programming everyday. I go to czech courses 2 days in a week. I have a dream of knowing more languages. Currently, I know russian, kazakh, english, czech(learning). After czech, I wanna learn turkish, norwegian, arabic, french, german. Because, I love learning languages. I go to swimming at weekend. Everything that i mentioned above was my schedule for each day. My summer was at a peak of my self-improvement journey. Now that the school started, I think I won't be able to do it as I did in summer. But, I promised to myself, that I won't stop doing any of these. Because, men are built through struggle, hard times. All I want to say to you is - "thank you". I'm grateful that you exist, sir Hamza. If I wouldn't find your content, then I'd continue being a fat, severely depressed, really egoistical boy..Thanks to Allah, in first place!

[@breatheeasily4013]

Allah is a false god. Repent and believe in Jesus Christ.

[@Chris-eq6jb]

What a chad

[@eseeayen]

This is great!

[@Chubermensch]

I would say it's better to focus on one language at a time, learn it to a level where you can communicate with native speakers efficiently, and then switch to another language. Keep up chad ☝

[@LibShitted]

Your a legend mate 👏

[@Declan.]

I lost my Father to a 2 year fight with ALS (a terminal Illness). I’m 17 he was basically physically disabled for my teenage years. The point in my life when I needed a strong father. He loved me till the end even when he couldn’t do anything for me. I miss him so much. He was a man of strong virtue and character. I’ve felt a little lost without him. You’ve given me strength Hamza Thank you 🙏

[@harshadadagale4253]

When I read the word fight I visualised your dad was a MMA fighter/Any Wrestler but the later part changed the whole visualization

[@Declan.]

An un winnable fight but he stayed strong till the day I saw him die

[@zafiruzoma6234]

You are blessed that he was able to love you

[@zafiruzoma6234]

You are blessed that he was able to love you

[@johnjohnson2455]

Lost my dad at 11. It is really important to have a father figure especially during teenage years which is when you really start to develop. I’m 17 now too and I’m a bit lost still. Shit happens.

[@CaptainAdmiralMango]

My parents were both relatively old, my father was about 50 when he had me. And you describing the "platonic household dynamics" rang so very true to me, I've never been good with girls, the only thing I've known is how to be platonic with them. I've always been well liked by people, but never have had much success in dating. My parents were together, and there wasn't any problems in that sense, but I suppose the dynamics of the parents does really have an effect huh.

[@richard38618]

samr

[@trenediX]

Exactly same

[@badarj2673]

I have the exact same experience

[@ChristisKing229]

My dad was 53 when he had me

[@Witnessmoo]

Don’t blame your parents for not being good with girls bro, just work on your game

[@SirRizzthethird]

My dad died because of cancer, only thing I learned is that if I stay weak it'll pull me and my mother down. So I developed all type of masculine attributes to replace the role of my father within our family

[@s1l3nce75]

I respect that, god bless you and your family

[@SirRizzthethird]

@@s1l3nce75 God bless your family and you too bro, thank you so much

[@tanush5072]

i feel you brother my father passed away on january 8 2022 stay strong my blessing\ are with you

[@SirRizzthethird]

@@tanush5072 You too bro, sorry for your loss. Hope all of you stay safe

[@tanush5072]

@@SirRizzthethird Thanks brother btw how old are you)

[@rikkert69_5]

I've not had a constant father figure since I was four years old. Meaning I was raised in a feminine household. I was the way I was raised (feminine) for about 10 years. However, being forced to be the man of the house also activates the masculine instinct to look after your family. That is luckily what happened to me the day I started self improvement and wanting to be more masculine. Thanks to people like Hamza. I'm writing a book about this exact principle, therefore I hope to make the best of absent fathers. (The fact I have to make the best of it is fucking pathetic, be a better dad than your own)

[@markminheere3592]

i feel you man, i am in the same boat

[@USA_Tesla-S]

Def feel you brother, I’m here wishing I had a father figure.

[@biz117]

same.

[@rikkert69_5]

@Default0r thanks, fixed it

[@mrcleanthebaguette1422]

@@ishan.b21 Same bro, my mom and dad divorced when I was about 5 years old, and I didn’t , and currently still barely ever see my father. Usually I’d see him for a few days every few months. What sucks even more, is that I’m not the man of the house- my stepdad is. I don’t have that responsibility and purpose to look after my family. My stepdad just gets drunk and fights with my mom, so I’m trying to solve be the mediator between the two while he’s yelling at me, while I have to deal with my own personal shit. Ever since I’ve been on self improvement, my personal life has gotten much better though :) Sorry for rambling, love to all reading.

[@KingKobra49]

Hey! Who ever sees this…Switch your mentality from "I'm lazy and helpless" to "I'm growing and healing" and watch how your life changes for the better. 💪🏽🔥

[@The_G_Edits]

It's all growing pains 💯

[@tomio8072]

Gratitude journal, and change "today I have to..." to "today I get to..."

[@crypticutopia7228]

It has changed for the better. Since getting on self-improvement a month and a half ago I've lost 8kg and started gaining muscle too. I'm feeling so much happier and healthier already

[@mihirmalik5222]

@@crypticutopia7228 Litterally same, I’ve never felt happier or healthier in my life.

[@tomio8072]

@@crypticutopia7228 congrats man! :)

[@ageroagn1068]

Few things to say here : I'm 28, lived my 18th first years in a house where my dad refused to be the man and refused to connect with my or my sisters. Parents litteraly slept in different rooms, he was broken by a very rough childhood and that's the reason why i never met my grandfather from his side. My other grandfather died when i was six. I learned later he was a war hero. I never had a father figure. It's a lot of pain, to see that man in his chair, to feel his own embarassement, coldness, and believe it's directed toward you. I've grown man, it took me quite some years, instinctively i putted myself in risky situations to learn, to feel, to grow, and i did. I still have many flaws, but i recently came back to the family house and i can't help but feel exasperation toward him. While my mother is doing both masculine and feminine roles, and she is a very insecure person, he's just still here, still passive, still clueless. I learned crafts, and he's here now, trying to bond, trying to teach me, and tbh i don't want to refuse him that despite the anger i had and still have for him. But i just can't help being resentful to see he knows less than me, has unpractical ideas, judges things through a very defiant and pessimistic lens. He never provided on affection, i was one of those kids waiting litteral hours after school because he'd forget to pick me up. And today i'm seeing him for what he his. A sad wounded man, and i sometime wonder if it wouldn't have been better to not know him at all as i have to cope with my expectations for love as his child, the man's role and almost the father figure toward him. This brings a lot of tension, i tell you that but hey. Things are the way they are. Took me eight years to leave the house, fail because i was trying to wrong things on his behalf, fail because i was trying things for myself, and finaly make tiny steps in the direction of who i am. Starting to understand that urge to flee from home, to build oneself. And i'm still very into that process. So yeah man, on a finale note you're a source of inspiration, not a father figure but a brother in arms and someone i could have a friendly rivalry with. You're full of positivity and i've not been very consistent since i discovered that channel but i'm slowly getting into it, even at 28. Bed is made. Organisation building up. Lastly, i've experienced through your channel how important to have someone like you that speaks chaotic words from under our skin that we struggle to understand, and how much important it'll be in the grim and dark times ahead. I'll try to be one as well. Not easy, to be generous, to be kind when you're so full of tension but if i'm not the strong and kind one, no one will. I have the wisdom, i have the will, i have the strenght, i need to find my peace. Likely meditation. Long comment, and i rarely do any. don't stop your work, for you made me start mine.

[@jordanz4264]

Extremely similar story to mine. I’m 27. My father had a horrible upbringing - my grandpa was a Nazi who just passed away last year so you get the idea of what my father was raised by. My father and mother also slept in different rooms. My dad and I never said I love you to each other till I was 18 and I was the first one to say it, it felt weird. Just like you, I’ve had to teach myself how to be a man. Thank god I had a beautiful mom who sadly passed away 3 years ago, but she taught me so much. Be happy that your parents still have each-other no matter how messed their dynamic is. It hurts watching my dad now without my mom, because he realizes how much he fucked up when she was around. I love the man, as I’m sure you love your father, but I can 100% relate to you that they’re lumps. The only thing we can do brother is become real men and make sure our sons have a true masculine role model and teach them everything we wish our fathers taught us so the cycle doesn’t repeat. Cheers bro, hopefully you become the man you set out to be.

[@ageroagn1068]

@@jordanz4264 Thanks for sharing mate, it's just a few words but it often goes a long way when you're not used to discuss that or share those experiences at all. Knowing you're not alone is somehow relieving. In this dark era, i believe the worst and the best of mankind will be exacerbated and people like hamza are really important to lead the way out of the decay, to each one of us to do the same, at our scale. I hope you're reaching out for whatever goal you have and find peace and serenity.

[@jordanz4264]

@@ageroagn1068 that was a poetic way of putting it I fully agree with you - the internet is a double-edged sword. On one hand, you have the weak minded individuals who let it consume them, filling their brain with nonsensical content and ideas. On the other hand you have people like us, who are using it as a weapon to craft ourselves into respectable men where as others wise we never would’ve had access to quality information such as as this. I use to be the former, now I’m the ladder. The internet is polarizing society in such a way where the successful, intelligent individuals are becoming more successful and intelligent and then the same with the plebs / lower status individuals, the internet is sucking their life force from them and making them stupider and lazier. Internet’s a dangerous tool but extremely powerful in the right hands. God speed brother. Thank you for sharing as well

[@TXNY69420]

being 15 and fatherless, I think it turns you from a boy to a MAN... it spawns a fireplace in your heart, and when lit properly with stuff like motivation, self-improvement videos, advice and brotherhood, burns an extreme flame in you giving you infinite ambition, the world is nothing to fear, no match to my burning desire, because what do they know anyway? I'll take over the world, I'LL DO IT MYSELF...

[@runwaytapes]

Hey I’m 15 and fatherless (boy) and i find it hard to go up to girls I like and ask them out or just have a typical convo with them any tips?

[@TXNY69420]

@astrogm428 are u where u wanna be yet? I struggle with that too but make sure ur good enough so when u actually do talk to them u don't get discouraged, it's fine to have periods of solitude working on urself, after enough time ull feel confident enough to talk to girls, after talking to them enough ull have feelings for one and that's when u have to take the leap of faith and ask them out, u got this... YOU'RE A MAN...

[@runwaytapes]

@@TXNY69420 thankyou you bro this comment touched my heart I will fulfill this goal 💚

[@Yan_Yan209]

​@Be-Better101 work on yourself. Dont even think of fapping. Remember no one is there for you except for yourself. Well for me as a fatherless teen, Allah forever there for me.

[@4khdquality295]

As a guy who was risen up in a feminine environment for 17 years, I can claim it's really hard to understand and find joy in things that men around me do daily. I hope that as the time goes on, Your guidance and masculine chores will become habits, and habits will become a purpose fulfilling lifestyle.

[@apicemphysique]

I was raised without a father my whole life, now at 24 I'm really starting to see the effects of it. When I was young I honestly thought it was normal to beat bullies up in order for them to stop bullying, as an adult I would never engage in a fight unless my life is on the line. Being raised without a father really affects you more than you think, I recently started going to therapy to learn more about myself.

[@thanosfarmer8304]

I was also raised without a father. In the school environment, anyone who would try to bully me would instantly get a punch in the face and then i became a bully. A kid once teased me with my dead father and i broke his nose and gave him a blue eye which lead to me being transferred to a special school for kids with behavior problems.

[@micaiahwelcome5907]

Hello hamza I am a 13 year old and I've never really had a father figure and I've ben putting in the hard work, meditating, journaling and just hearing those words "atta boy" made me burst out of tears. Thank you Hamza for everything you have done for us and will continue to do.

[@nikovasi3230]

stay strong kid, you doin great 💪🏻

[@micaiahwelcome5907]

@@DAYSHIVANSH he is in jail... he left me when i was 3 years old. the man is a coward.. even when he came out of jail he didnt even call me to find out how im going

[@micaiahwelcome5907]

@@nikovasi3230 thank you so much for the support.. man i just love this community

[@francescos7361]

Read book , ok be strong and do gym !!! Ever. Be strong.

[@-Abduuu]

@@micaiahwelcome5907 it’s sad to hear man. But there are many men out there you can see them as Father Figures and they definetely can change your life for the best! Good luck.

[@memenjoyer2624]

“oughta boy” i already have a dad but after what you said of me and basically every young man who is doing self improvement, working out, meditating, journaling, reading, etc. it really hit me hard. i know this man could never see this comment but damn, it hit me so hard just to do self improvement after a guy on the internet with such amazing speeches telling us all to become more masculine and he is proud of all of us. thank you for your amazing work. my life has gotten so much better even if it has just been 3 months since i found your channel.

[@Eggsec]

I never met my dad, I feel the worst part of my life is hostory now, I learned to be independent and rely only on me. If I fell, I needed to catch myself. I told myself. This is it, "I got me" I am 28 now, and I still feel empty, a feeling of missing the emotion of a father's hug. I have found thar giving love to animals, especially abandoned dogs, has filled the emptiness. I have rescued and given love to innocent dogs that once were abandoned. Now, I have a son, and we have the best time of our lives, hikes, ice cream, and play fighting. I am the father I never had to my son. Overall, I am not mad at the world for not having a dad, but I am appreciative of the life learnings it taught me, which has made me who I am. Anyone younger than me takes it as a life lesson, and don't be mad or let you hold back. Life is about you.

[@yolo2237]

I was born with no father. He left my mom for his cringe ass company and we never spoke. I'm 17 now. I started watching your videos a few months ago because of my best friend. Before, I thought it's not such a big deal having no father. I was scared to do any masculine stuff like climbing a tree, I was running away from dogs instead of scaring them off, I was shy, my confidence was extremly low, I was talking to no girls and no girls were talking to me. The only guy that was there for me was my best friend. I owe him everything. Before, I hated kids that were adventurous and naughty. Now, every time I see a kid yell or do anything masculine, which I was raised to believe is stupid and bad, it puts a smile on my face, knowing that kid most likely has a strong father who pushes him into being a man. You helped me realise what it takes to be a man, to improve myself to the point that girls who I had crushes on but I never even talked to approach me first and they compliment me. I feel so good with myself now. I'm trying to make other guys get into self improvement, because I'd love for everyone to feel good with themselves. I love this path so much and all I can say is thank you!

[@katlegonhlapo4040]

❤️

[@maz2483]

Climbing a tree isn't masculine

[@yolo2237]

@@maz2483 ok sokka pfp

[@YdotLT]

from someone who grew up without a father, i want to personally thank you, hamza, for being a good subsitute and teaching me the things that he couldnt.🤲🏼

[@Kevzult]

I never have a masculine father figure as well. Parents divorced so it was up to me to turn myself into the person I aspired to be. Started learning and reading lots of books and weight training

[@jenilcaptain6295]

Thanks Hamza🙂 for reaching out to me by your efforts in your previous video, and thanks to all my fellas for showing such a support to me . Glad to be a part of this cult !! Thanks Hamza , we are gonna make it for sure 👍🏻

[@pakistanichad8739]

Bro you will make it all the way to masculine powerful man Do the Hardwork especially when you don't feel like it

[@hamisgoingham]

DUDE DID YOU TALK TO HAMZA

[@sonnylistenimaliwithnofigh2451]

Great..... 🔥🔥🔥🔥 Glad to see Hamza helped you. My Respect for Hamza Increased.

[@mehdineverquits]

As someone who had a verbally abusive dad, it took years (and is still taking time) to not only truly discover the differences between masculinity and femininity, but also exploring what it means to be a good, strong person as well. I am grateful for this upbringing though, as it forced me to have a level of self-efficacy in regards of self-improvement, doing what it takes to become physically, mentally, financially better, and to be in control of my own destiny. It sucks not having a father figure, but perhaps we can be the father figures that instead turn problems into our opportunities for our sons and daughters.

[@wimagency]

You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough. -Mae West

[@Jzc2slick]

I never realized how blessed I am to have a strong masculine father in my life, his influence has shaped me into a strong masculine young man, and ofc the youtube self improvement and combat training videos, it’s all shaping me into a strong masculine, discipline 14 yr old, all the habits I’ve developed have changed me in looks, mindset, and physique, I don’t know how but I’m told I don’t look 14, probably because my jawline and in progress physique, I never realized how important father figures were until a few months ago, having a strong masculine father figure who provides for his family is extremely important, i will strive to be that strong masculine father figure for my future family, especially so my influence can shape my son(s) into a strong masculine man, I will try to influence as many young men as i can now and in the future, right now i will do my best to be a role model/influence for young men my ages and older, “conquer,accomplish,achieve, that is the purpose of life”(my own quote)

[@kevisdifferent414]

Coming from someone who never had a father around, you taught me a lot. You pushed me to go outside of my comfort zone. I’ve never had a problem with girls but I’ve had a problem with trauma and attachment issues in my long term relationships. You’ve pushed me to be my best self which has boosted my confidence and has practically deleted the relationship problems I used to deal with in the past. So thank you for inspiring me and so many other young men.

[@TheREALHugo4]

True story: For me, this subject is really personal, and when i think about my dad, i think about someone who wanted to see me for years, who wanted to live as a family but never got the chance because in my dad's country, any child born from a woman that wasn't married by law would be condemmed. During my whole young period, i never got a father to tell me what i should do (i don't care about trolls who's gonna say "you're fatherless lol!"). I learned on my own without him but sometimes i wasn't tough. Now as a young adult, i'm pretty much the head of the family but i'm not truly independent, at least not right now. For those who lived without a father figure, learn from this and live your life knowing that your father wherever he is, could be proud of you.

[@isakcelep1329]

Dont worry man No one here is going to put you down and laugh at you

[@richard38618]

no one will laugh at you here man, hope you can heal from that

[@taleseylad1249]

fun fact: no one can truly be independent. . . you rely on someone or a force of nature to keep things they way they are either way props to you

[@Moe12_3]

Watching you made me realise how much of shi lifestyle I've been living, thank you mun for opening my eyes and it's because of you I'm starting to take care and improve myself

[@jovajoestar]

As the son of an one-eyed autistic man (who grew up without a father himself), while my father "was" in my life, he never was there mentally so this video hits deep. My dad only focused on his work, hobbies and video games. Nothing I ever did was worth his praise. When I won sports competitions, national debate competitions or national art competitions, most he said was "Oh that's nice." I only remember him praising me once through my whole life and it was when I earned 35k in a few months when I was 20. He didn't even know I started university. The only thing he knew to do was punishment and putting everyone down. Mom was also not in my life a lot since she was always working or living abroad but since she did praise me, I was quite feminine and shy as a teenager, despite being naturally more muscular and imposing than most of my peers were. No one bullied me, but instead I was just ignored no matter how hard I tried to stand out.

[@lohhi]

Since I was 3 years old I was raised by 2 mothers and I just realize how it ruined my childhood . I was literally born into a Jeffrey mindset , I spent all my weekends playing videogames and watching KZbin videos while others childrens were playing soccer and were always fighting . Now It's really difficult for me to know what is masculine and what is feminine but 2 months ago , I discovered you by your video about men's purpose and you literally opened my eyes . I started working out and it feels incredible , now I will start meditating , journaling and stopping my addictions to destroy the big Jeffrey in my brain . After high school I will go one year to the french army . I'm on my way to become Adonis ; it will be a long and difficult journey but I will fu*king do it ! Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤️🇲🇫

[@taleoftwowolves74]

Do you hate your mothers or something now?

[@nhenderson704]

A couple months ago, I even realized that I was feminine and questioned myself if I was too feminine. My now ex said no but deep down I knew it was a yes from her yet I did nothing to change it. It took my heart to break to change my ways and I’ve noticed a huge change in myself. Heartbreak, being sick of my depression, and all these masculine role models online (including you Hamza) have definitely changed me. I’m 16 years old and I have been to the gym for five weeks and I am doing MMA training once a week. I am becoming my own version of Adonis.

[@jordanz4264]

Heart break is the best motivation/ fuel for the fire. I’m 26 and I wish I started MMA / boxing at your age. Craft yourself into a warrior. Good luck bro

[@sk71ful]

I lost my father when I was 16, tbh that "atta boi" you said in the end made me really tear up, emotions that I haven't remembered/felt in what seems like ages ago. thank you.

[@Writer7396]

I teared up. I'm grateful for the praise. I will keep doing the hardwork especially when I don't like it. Thank you.

[@averagefemboyhater5133]

that "attaboy" went straight to my heart. Thank you Hamza.

[@vfx_kira]

"The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience."

[@gelodaddy310]

I literally see you more than my father it’s sad but u been there for me more than my father bro

[@jean_sh0rts32]

I’m 17 years old and I have a father but he’s no father. He’s an alcoholic lazy and doesn’t care for his family at all and it hurt me from a young age having a father that doesn’t teach him anything and I’ve been on self improvement for the past few weeks so when you said ata boy it truly felt special especially coming from you so thank you

[@IPHONE15PROMAX]

my father have died a year ago from coivd and self improvment really helped me with the grief he was a man fo character and providing i am trying to make him proud from above.

[@UsernameTaken.]

Bro you remember the comment you pinned in the previous video? Please if you do a call next time,please save it because it'd extremely help people who are in the same situation and who feel the same like this boy. Thanks bro!

[@viscerface]

as a fatherless man i can say it was hard. Noone tought me how to be a masculine, I was lost, depressed and even in some really dark and jeffry shit, but then hamza showed up and changed me from a boy to a man

[@halffruit9245]

I really did not grow up with a strong father figure. When I was growing up it really fucked with me. I grew up more feminine and incredibly emotional. It was only just recently that I let it stop affecting me and trying to be more masculine. And hamza has definitely helped me with that.

[@roge5901]

damn i head some tears in my eye at the last few sentences.

[@acrez3260]

My dad left me when I was 13. He moved to Australia. My mum had to work a full time job to provide for me and my sister as well as cook for us after work, my dad provided nothing. That along with getting bullied in school made me turn to anime, video games and porn to escape my shitty reality. To this day I am still an effeminate bitch, yeah I’ve made some progress in self improvement but I still have a narcissistic personality due to past trauma and I think I need at least a year of therapy to fix this. I inherited my dads narcissistic personality and have the same attitude towards my mother as he did. Trauma really makes or breaks your life, and it can be really hard to reconstruct a healthy life if your childhood was broken (I literally can barely remember anything from my childhood). I hope I can redeem myself as a man and learn to feel empathy for other people.

[@MrField2005]

The end bit of this video made me cry fam, I’m a Irish South African kid born in Toronto Ontario, moved to Brampton, and I’ll skip my life story but I never had a father figure and still actively don’t. Im 17 years old, I literally CRIED fam, at the attaboy shit you did at the end, and I don’t cry like that. You have no idea how much you affect people Hamza, thank you man, peace be to you. I’ve always told my brother if I meet you I’d probably cry and kiss your feet, and that’s a joke and all, but I would 100% cry.

[@cory4062]

I've never had a consistent father figure in my life, and I hadn't realised for so long how much its affected my character. Only just started to recognise its affects by going to therapy.

[@xx_amaro__xx8102]

Some people don't realize how impactful a father figure can be. my real dad left before I was born and when I was a kid I was afraid of everything and a complete loser. (I was bullied too but that's another story) but when I was 12 my mom had a boyfriend that became my father figure, he unfortunately died the next year but he gave me the mental strength to stop being a complete loser, now I'm just kind of awkward but I'm slowly getting better. so I lived both sides and I gotta say that the impact it can have is ridiculous

[@Kaxinhoxd]

My dad left me for the 3rd time last week, having family both in Brazil/Germany has been very rough.. I'm in shambles right now, but I respect my father for having tried to live in Germany without english/german language knowledge.

[@ColdBlunts]

the pauses are really felt when it hits home

[@arielmagno8280]

You just got me right there starting from 1:52 and i can say that that is exactly what goes on my mind. I lost my father when I was just 4 yo and I really don't know much about that paternity thing, like a relationship "dad and son", and being raised by my mom makes me feel like i just learned half of the things that i actually should've known and that "deep alpha male learning slot" will always be empty (i don't know if you can understand what I mean). Fortunately I'm living closer to my uncle and I started realizing step by step what I missed in the past, but at the same time I'm so damn grateful to my mom for taking me in the right way, I'm such a climbing/calisthenics lover (even tho I'm still a beginner) and that's all i feel like saying. I'll keep grinding trying to become some kind of Adonis myself. Thank you.

[@user-qm5sz6ev5c]

We grow into men that are self destructive. Some choose better methods, such as burying myself in work. Never proud of myself even though I know I’m doing very well. The Desire to be a father is unreal, also my biggest fear that I’ll never get to fix what I didn’t have.

[@bubztheboss9271]

I am 13 years old. I have two mothers, I was basically raised from age 1-12 to be feminine. You summed it up perfectly. There is a lot of loneliness, confusion, and anger or sadness in not having that father figure. You also get less moments in your life where you know truly how to be a man you dont have those experiences like playing catch with yor dad. I remember last year I had a father identity crisis. Something like that. But I was looking to my uncles, teachers, friends for that masculine energy that a father has. I realize that this is a race against all men and everyone my age is at the starting line. And at that moment I was behind because I was not raised to compete in this race. I studied I read And I watched your videos. It's Modernity Vs Masculinity. It's so hard to reach the youth. We are brainwashed from a young age to embrace the distractions. Like tick tok and Instagram. It's that subversion it's happening as we speak. Notice how much things have changed. The youth of the usa is weak. The culprits of this crisis are Mark Zuckerberg and China.

[@TheSideDude]

Swear every time a watch a hamza video I get sage of six paths vibes, shout-out to you brother for dropping another dope vid, these are gems.

[@Chouchou-n3i]

This video makes me feeling worst

[@browniebrat7361]

My dad died when I was 8 and everything you said hit the target in my non masculine life you have helped me motivate me mentally thank you

[@MetoNextDoor]

The effect of a boy not having a father figure is tremendous. I had to experience it by myself. My parent divorced when I was 7/8 and till then I lived in a house with my grandma and my dad. The house was owned by my grandma so she was the “man” in the house. Was she capable of that? Of course no. My dad didn’t have to pay a rent and had no responsibilities or a mission in his life. He basically worked - went to his room - sleept/watched movies-ate and again (day by day). He didn’t care about our relationship and never showed interest in me or supported me or even taught my something. For example I was a pretty talented soccer player but because of my age I had to leave the club. After that my father didn’t do anything. Even when I was still playing he brought me to my training/ matches but I always felt that he is unhappy and doesn’t really wants to be there. So I ended up as a 13 year old boy without his most important Hobby. My teenage time was still like that. I always looked for some guidance in life but I didn’t get it. In this time I began to stop even talkin to him. He was like a roommate in a hotel of my grandma for me. We had no real conversations for years.(my grandma was also really a control freak so my father was still attached to her in the age of 50). I felt like I was alone against those both. And even thought like I’m not a part of the family. The years passed away and I finished High School (Abitur in Germany)and ended up having a gap year and no purpose and also a toxic relationship with a fatherless/psycho girl. We just fcked and smoked weed all day long. Last year I ended up having a bad depression. The worst thing was I could talk about my problems with anyone because I had no deep relationship to my dad/grandma. So I ended up crying in my bed and desperately lookin for a therapist. After 1 month I found one and my life changed. I worked on my self everyday. It wasn’t easy I had weed relapses, got back to the relationship but after 9 months now I can say that it was the time in my life that changed everything. I was too comfortable also. I’m proud to say that I did it completely by myself. Reading, therapy, working out, meditation etc. Now I can say I’m grateful for that time cause it showed my how the world in my head was fake (matrix kinda) Long story short I wanted to say that fatherlessness is the biggest problem in our modern time not only for boys. I hope and wish that everyone who is in a similar situation will keep up the work and never give up. Take the life as a challenge to and grow with it. One day you will look at that time back and say: This was probably the most inspirational and most important time of my life that changed everything. Thank you if read this I hope you’re doing well. May god be with you my brother

[@poppinoff1648]

I’m one of those boys and when you’re growing up it results in confidence issue’s, anger, feeling fucked up and abandoned. Even my mom was not in the picture and let me tell you it was challenging. Everyone around you having a healthy functioning family and you not having that makes you feel so fucking lonely and lowers your self worth. But luckily I grew up, realising I did it without them when I was growing up and don’t need them. Altough it was one of my biggest wishes for years to experience loving supporting parents. But fuck that, it made me strong and independent. I’m mentally tougher then most of the people my age and now i’m thankful for my way of growing up. To all the kids and people living through the same shit as I did. YOU’RE GONNA BE SUCH A FUCKING ROLE MODEL INSTANTLY GETTING RESPECTED WHEN PEOPLE HEAR YOUR STORY. YOU ARE WORTH SO MUCH MORE THEN YOU THINK, YOU’RE SO MUCH STRONGER THEN YOU KNOW!

[@falakisthebest]

I lost my dad when I was very young, and honestly it's a huge gap in my life. Today at the age of 30 I am learning about things my dad would have taught me when I was 21. But honestly, I've become my own man, I've dealt with hardships and come out of the other side. Though i have a lot to improve on and have a few bad habits that I'm going to get out of my life for good, I can say for everyone who lost or doesn't have their dad, that it's possible to control your life. Just put in the work and become your own man. I hope i can be the strong father figure to my kids one day and give them what I didn't get to experience. Love to all the single moms who have raised their kids and done their best 😎

[@FLHerbologistLaura]

I’m a single mother with a fatherless son and I had to yell at my son (14) for dropping my plant he was holding… because a fucken ANT got on him. Now I grew up working manual labor on a ranch….so. I don’t know how to be dad and mom. It breaks my heart, it’s impacted him so greatly. Sometimes I wish I could rent a dad.

[@GurtGobain]

Thanks for reminding me of something important that I need to provide to my 1-year-old son as he grows up.

[@cosmoticking7012]

Yeah my life is completely screwed at the moment, every time I visit my dad, everything gets harder. I'm so feminine deep down that I can't meet his expectations, and every single time, even though I understand what he is saying is true, it still upsets me and then I'm left to hold in tears because I know how pathetic they are. I get extremely tired talking to people, like to the point where if I socialise for a week, I'll need 2 weeks to recharge, im not sure if that is being "introverted" or just lack of development. I'm stuck on a chair every single day, and the only times i go outside is if there is money to be made or my friends (who are also addicted to videogames) decide to go out or accept an invitation by me. I think extremely slow at thinking. I was able to consistently medidate and take hourly breaks from videogames to sort of begin breaking the chain, then something with my dad happened which I already stated and now doing those things are impossible. I have 0 energy left in me, and I can't even force it to jumpstart the day anymore, it just remains. I get good sleep, and the more I push myself to do these things, the harder it gets. I'm not sure what to do. I want to dedicate but the further I go, the harder it becomes.

[@monkey-bananas2890]

I hope you figure it out man

[@okn3297]

What’s your diet like ? Also the recharge thing is just introversion I think, after socializing I also need time for reflection etc.

[@osas1032]

man tf up and hit the gym

[@seanyt4570]

Me too

[@snorm456]

My father left when I was 2 months old. I've seen him like 2 times in my life when I was 13 or 14. He seemed quite disappointed with how I turned out and I was quite underwhelmed that this man was my father, especially because everyone who knew my dad always told me he was a great man, and so I never did see him as a father figure. My mother could barely be home because she had to work her ass off for a stable income so i was sent to boarding school for 70% of my life. Here I am, 20 years old. I am now supposed to be an adult but I have no clue how I should move forward in life.

[@officialneverfar]

that's really sad man. my father left when i was born because of my mothers poor education.

[@ihatehearts]

same boat bro. im 21 and my dads been in and out of jail in another state since i was an infant. im also the only child. whenever im around my friends and see how happy and functional their family is, i always get teary eyed. it doesnt help that every family member i know has a big immediate family of their own. all i have is my mom. its so painful witnessing firsthand what could have been.

[@mikhaillulla8805]

You are our father figure

[@wimagency]

FACTS

[@zero._.9]

This is the exact situation that I was put in. I was born in 2006 and in 2012 my parents got divorced so I was 6 and have primarily lived with my mum since. This was the same time that I received a tablet from my grandparents as a gift which made me indulge in instant gratifications like video games, social media, and porn at a very young age. I was entering my first year school and I only saw my dad every other weekend. This was the equation for bad things but I have since become a changed person. I started hitting the gym several times a month a couple years back because I was fat and unhappy with myself. I didn’t know much about it but it taught me discipline and how to not break my back while squatting. One year ago I also found you and I started taking life and myself seriously. I joined some clubs like track&field and American football and started to really learn brotherhood and discipline in my school. I have started to surround myself with the right people but there is so much I can still learn. I would love to talk to you someday and I will once I become great but in the meantime I will work on myself. You have taught me so much about how to fill the role of the man I will become. Love you Hamza thanks for the advice king 👑 Will never forget you

[@davidgabrian5087]

In my house honestly, my father was all the time there but he was totally absent. This thing caused me to act like a f*cking doormat for everyone and traumatised me in a way that I can't describe, it gave me a lot of fears when it comes to exposing my opinion and many other things. But since I've discovered your channel Hamza I just realized how feminine I actually was, and it fucked me up to the point that my girlfriend left me. I hope everyone here will find their way out and struggle every f*cking day to improve themselves, because real me are needed l.

[@tryanything5473]

Same man same

[@shubhk33]

The attaboy at the end really felt amazing. Thanks Hamza

[@victothetop865]

The weak men of our past have breeded a generation of fatherless men and women as well as countless angry and bitter women who have now turned to the misled variations of toxic feminism that we see today. Everything good in life stems from strong men and strong fathers.

[@user-ho2ov7gw2i]

No-fault divorce laws have greatly increased divorce rates in the United States.

[@user-ho2ov7gw2i]

The reason why the United States is now ruined by political correctness, neo-feminism, and sexual revolution is because many Christians were deceived by the Scofield Bible created by Rockefeller and reaped what they sowed.

[@Paywand.T]

My father was a really masculine man. He wasn't just strong, he was wise, loving, and protecting. I always looked up to him and he would always give me advise. Unfortunately he was diagnosed with terminal prostate cancer stage four. This meant he was really unlikely to survive he knew it but it didn't break his spirit he still was strong maybe not as strong physically but his mentality was still there. On the 6th of October 2018 my father passed I was gonna turn 13 on the 31st. This broke me the man i looked up to is gone... I cried for 5 hours then I fell asleep. My father appeared in my dream and told me to stay strong and that is my duty to support and help everyone. I did feel better and I believe that he is still here. However, I didn't do as he asked I became addicted to video games, junk food, p0rn and was really anti social. But then I discovered self improvement through one of my friends. Almost 2 years ago I started my journey and now I train everyday to become a boxer and also train my mind so my kids will have a father figure as masculine as my father was. All I know is if your a young man who lost your father figure or never had one then it is your duty to be the father figure. Your pain will be gone overtime just let it hurt for now but don't forget to let it go. Stay strong and know I'm proud of you.

[@db2ez]

I grew up without a father, but I don’t really mind. all the things I had to go through made me mature faster and forced me to become a leader sooner than most

[@maxhawke6769]

My father has been abusive/ absent for the past couple years in my life and finding hamza’s videos was a massive help. Thankyou hamza

[@ironsyndicate4628]

"It's easier to raise strong boys, than to fix broken men" Having a strong father figure is crucial. Also, I responded to one of Hamza's recent videos: kzbin.info/www/bejne/qKe1mZKsntJsoMk

[@gunnerbadass6218]

#promo

[@jozsefcsanyi-mayer1330]

I had a father, he bet my mom, abused her, then when they got a divorce still harrassed us, until we moved away to Germany in 2020. He committed suicide the same year. We could argue, that I didn't have a father figure, but I had one. He showed me what I shouldn't become, he showed exactly what I shouldn't do with my genetics and habbits. Instead of cigaretts, alcohol, porn and laying around all day I do everything I can not to become the man he was. I still love you dad. Maybe another time things will work out in a better way for you.

[@jordanz4264]

All we can do is teach our sons everything we weren’t lucky enough to be taught. Here’s to breaking the cycle, cheers

[@Nathan-ok1gq]

Andrew Tate once said that a man has two father figuires: His biological father, and his spiritual father. A spiritual father teaches lessons, and gives life advice. A spiritual father is your mentor, trainer, teacher, a sibling. A youtuber. You are our spiritual father, Hamza.

[@KD400_]

Strange I never heard Andrew say this even though I've seen everything related to Andrew

[@davidrybkiewicz3386]

Hamza you've had such an impact on me and made me develop such a trust with you, that whenever i see your content I always make sure to watch the whole entire video to help the algorithm bc i want other men to experience what i have experienced.

[@dxnyy5348]

Hamza ive been watching you for about a year now and youve helped me so much its insane im truly grateful for the impact youve many on my life

[@n0name]

18 years without my biology farther. Never needed him to show me what a real man is. I taught myself.

[@ghst_dnce]

It’s hard to take someone seriously when they try and explain their opinions on what it's like growing up without a father. Especially when it comes from someone who had a father. Unless you experienced the absence of a parent, you don't know what you’re talking about. You’re like someone who’s always had good eyesight telling a blind person what it’s like to not see. The psychological effects from household to household will always vary drastically whether or not a father is present. Is the father abusive? Is the father a deadbeat alcoholic? One of my closest friends who became a drug addict had both of his parents, and the family was upper middle class. But he had an emotionally unavailable father, and that took a toll on him. Having both parents doesn't mean you are automatically better off, and missing a parent or father figure doesn't automatically mean you are worse off. At the end of the day, regardless of circumstances outside of your control, you have to do what humans do best, adapt and adjust to make the most of your situation. Things fall into place when you have grit. And grit doesn't have to be demonstrated to be learned. Hamza, your popularity has gone to your head. This video only shines a light on your own ignorance, and is condescending to people in adverse conditions. Your best bet is to just shut up.

[@subtxrlem]

I truly needed this video im a person who grew up in a very complicated house hold and now im currently improving myself and taking care of myself.

[@ashuashuu4952]

Everything would be difference if i ever had a father 🙃

[@szugar16]

Submissivness and lack of discipline are in my opinion the worst results of fatherlles growing up - those really touched me

[@sxfyy]

Unfortunately the father is disrespected by mainstream media openly, it’s shit when you’re told you ain’t needed, but they’re needed more than ever strive to be a great

[@AldersinStoneHeart]

as the eldest of 5 siblings ive never rly had someone other than my parents to look up to, and after this video i realized hamza is kinda like the older brother ive never had. 19 years old now, living on my own and doing self improvement, its great

[@Shootstarboy12]

U put a smile in my face when you said attaboy

[@carterowen1734]

my father killed himself three years ago, when i was eleven, and i miss him awfully. i hate that my younger siblings will grow up without a strong, masculine figure, so i’ve been trying really hard to get my brother in the gym and reinforcing good habits and stuff. taking him to the gym for the second time in about an hour, i hope i can help him

[@pary710]

Talked to my dad for the first time in months today, this is a new life trajectory for me.

[@aLaMil]

The great thing about this space of KZbin (hamza, 1stman, tate, etc etc) is that it gives young men who didn’t have a masculine father figure the opportunity to learn about masculinity which wouldn’t have otherwise been taught to them

[@janitorjosiah9664]

When i was 7 years old my dad died of cancer, ever since than ive just been raised by my mom. i know it might sound dumb because of how long ago it was for me, but when i was in second grade and i still had my father i was completely fine just walking up to girls, and groups of people and adding myself into the group. but ever since my dad died ive never had the confidence to talk to anybody that isnt already one of my friends. also after my dad died, my mom started gaining alot of weight, and not talking me out of the house often. for years i was just sitting at home, eating orded fast food and just playing video games all day. i ended up just getting fat, and my self esteem, and confidence have been very low for years. in the past 3 and a half months i have been trying to improve myself, and i have lost over 20 pounds and gained muscle. my confidence is still very low but, im starting to use all your techniques like meditation, and nofap. hopefully following your lead can build my self esteem back before im done with highschool. (im a freshman btw)

[@Gematria142]

33 years old and I still miss my father... His voice drives me to be the best I can be

[@santiagomorales8340]

I know most of you don’t care but anyway im gonna tell you the story of my life. When i was 6 months my father left me, my sister and my mom, my mom had to raise my sister and i all by herself. Even though she did her best to raise me and my sister, i always felt that something was missing that i had a hole in my life but i didn’t know what was it. she had to work everyday so i basically grew up with my grandmas, so i became i quiet kid and insecure of myself at such a young age, i did not have confidence in myself, but that wasn’t my only problem i had develop anger issues. I was angry all the time, kids knew i was insecure so they used to bully me all the time and i never did anything cause i was raised by all women so i always grew with this mentality of being feminine and not standing up for myself. So my life was like this until i turned 11 and my mom met a guy and they got together and had my little brother, at that time my uncle was living in the US so he told my mom to move ro the US for better education. For me and my brother and because we would have more opportunities there, so she sold everything we had and in just 3 months we were on that airplane going to the US. When i got there my mom settled in NJ where i am now, my uncle became that father that masculine figure i never had in life, he helped me a lot to become who i am now,after summer ended i had to go back to school, the very first day in fifth grade some kid tried to bully and he pushed me i didn’t hesitate to stand up for myself from that moment on i never let anyone bully me again, two years later 2020 my grandpa dies from covid, i couldn’t go to his funeral i had no see him in years and i never said good bay, i got depressed i started eating to try to make myself feel better and i couldn’t stop eating until got 8th grade, all my friends started to have girlfriends and use to go out all the time and the only thing i did was play video games and eat, until one day i looked myself at the mirror and i knew it was time to change, so started doing two hours of exercise everyday, i also stopped eating like crazy and in just three months i passed from being obese to being normal, but i didn’t want to stop there do i joined a gym and stated working out in the gym, i stopped playing video games but instead i started watching motivational videos and gym videos and that how i came across Hamza’s youtube channel, his videos helped me a lot, i stopped chasing girls because i know loved myself and knew i was the prize not them, i am now in high school, i been going to the gym every day for 5 month to best the best version of myself and overall i will never regret taking the decision to take control of my life, i am way happier y have a beautiful girlfriend a lot of friends, i am not shy anymore, y love what i see in the mirror, and overall just trying to improve everyday, for those who actually read all of this thank you. And Hamza if you read this thanks for all the motivation, you are helping a lot of people never stop inspiring others.🤘🏻

[@mylo9753]

My parents split when I was seven and before that I basically never saw him so it for sure fucked me up, just thanks man for making this video cause it helps

[@TheRealJohnnyWonder]

A few days ago, I was getting help from an older guy while fixing my lawn mower over the phone, and even though I was struggling, he helped me work out all the issues. Once I got it working, I rode it around for a bit, and once I told him I fixed it, he sent me a text saying 'atta boy'. I was so happy.

[@soup7446]

I lost my father recently just when I felt that I was getting closer to him

[@trumpetman420]

My father doesn't talk to me (he'll probably leave soon) so ig I fall under this category... my advice to the fatherless young men out there: get your fathers from podcasts. It sounds sad, but just take it as a test from god and keep moving forward. Best of luck to you, brother.

[@jakebramlett8446]

Hamza, I've never had so much respect for someone before. I found you at the perfect time, and now I have 3 other friends on this journey. It is such a relief to know that it's not over yet.

[@fenzergamermendoza4506]

I don't even need to imagine it, i already am living like this and i'm still trying to learn about all of this, stay strong, if you have the love of both your parents, please appreciate it and be grateful for them, you probably already are but if you are with them, go give them a hug.

[@yoboigummy9414]

I am 18 now, and my parents got separated when I was 10 years old. I never thought about it, but needing a fatherly figure is really needed.

[@tomio8072]

I've been reading a book by Erich Fromm called the art of loving, and it goes over the functions which mother's and father's have in providing love to their children. To simplify to a large degree (it's worth reading yourself) what he argues is that a father's love is conditional, as the father is the authority figure, who is patient and who provides guidance in how to navigate the world in front of them the norms and customs of that society etc, and a mother's love is unconditional and comforting, there to fully accept the child. And so when a child grows old enough, and has grown up in a household which has had both of these present in a healthy degree, the child will then have in them both unconditional love for themselves, AND also conditional respect for themselves. That way, they know they have to carry out actions in order to give themselves respect (masculine love) and they also perceive themselves as someone who can do this, and who is loved by others for being them (feminine love). I haven't finished it yet, so I am interested to look if he will talk about the consequences of lacking motherly love or fatherly love. What do others think?

[@rhinks6405]

I had a genuine smile on my face when you said that last sentence 😃😃

[@rishikhandelwal331]

Ur voice has become so much more peaceful

[@Nate-ej5os]

Had a father but he was around maybe an hour a week in my childhood. I can say it genuinely messed me up. I’m 21 and now getting my life together, but it took much more work to get to where I am now

[@maimannchowdhuryratul1668]

My father passed away when I was 2 years old and fast forward all these years, the two most important drawbacks would be not being brave and to not being able to differentiate right from wrong in a morally ideal manner.

[@markghatas8630]

My dad left us when I was 11. I saw that there was a stark contrast in how everyone behaved when it was just my mum raising me and my siblings. Everyone become more emotional and undisciplined. There was no longer a sense of stability. Even though he wasn’t the best father, he was vital in keeping everyone mentally healthy. I wish he never left.

[@tayIorswif]

Everyone becoming emotional is not necessarily a bad thing

[@markghatas8630]

@@tayIorswif what I meant was, everyone’s behaviour was a result of the emotions they were feeling. The emotions were fear, anxiety, insecurity and anger. So the behaviours matched this and severely affected my family

[@whodfqstolemyart]

Thank you hamza bro , I've starting watching ur videos like 2month ago , I was an 84 klg walking ball of fat , stress , anxiety and low self esteem , I've taken ur advice and I deleted social media stopped fap and I'm hitting the gym consistently, stopped smoking cigarettes and Marijuana, finished like 3 books which I never even dreamt of doing , I'm learning smmm new things everyday and I lost about 8 klg and getting closer to my goal , I am so grateful for coming across this channel man.

[@Kunson]

W