SINISTER: Match Made In Hell | Cynthia Coffman

[@yammabamma]

This is one of those episodes where you feel so, so, so angry *for* the child they once were, but simultaneously so angry *at* the adult they are now.

[@YamiFudo]

That's your humanity showing 👍👍👍

[@elia4530]

Yes

[@LilRedWitch]

I’m so glad she kept reminding us to neutralize our empathy caps because that really helped me not get emotional during parts of the video. This one was, at least for me, particularly more emotional than usual. I think because the out of left field turns to “oh now this WILD UNHINGED PSYCHOTIC stuff starts happening” had me flabbergasted a few times ngl What an actually WILD story 🫣

[@sophlemuth]

“tantrums” and “disobey” are my least favorite words. i feel like they were used so much to describe my anxiety breakdowns when i was a kid. it wasn’t that i wasn’t getting what i wanted, i was just overstimulated and overwhelmed.

[@kato12435]

Or ADHD, Autism, Dyslexia, and other actual real problems that could have been helped if people listened to

[@zack-lk8if]

me too, I would throw violent "tantrums" where i would need to be pinned down to stop hurting myself, before I was even 10. yet I was never put into therapy or given real help. acting out as a kid has a cause

[@soultreebeadingco8648]

Yes same now imagine dealing with this and having a PTSD/ADHD father who doesn't know why you are acting sooo rude. And a mom whom Just doesn't get why I'm so overwhelmed when I'm trying to explain myself

[@OkiSmokey]

@@zack-lk8ifI grew up in a house that fostered and the amount of times I heard about those kids being held down or medicated to “calm them down” is disgusting :c if a kid is acting out there’s a reason, ACTUAL tantrums are easy to deal with but if a kid is harming others, themselves, items or legitimately distressed then you’re meant to find out why and fix something, so many people don’t get that

[@brionnadavis2937]

Yesi so agree even though with me I didn't help because I hated being misunderstood which turned it in to an actual attitude because I told you twice I didn't have one and now you wanna be mad ill give you something to be mad about 😂😅

[@princestuttery5167]

"She seduced her own son and started a relationship." WE ARE LESS THAN FIVE MINUTES IN!!!! I HAVEN'T EVEN FINISHED MAKING MY SNACK!!

[@bozevstheworld]

Bro I was screaming through the entire case when I first dove in

[@rackel8195]

FRRRR That intro had me SCREAMING😭😭

[@Liv._.2434]

@@bozevstheworldthat intro was scary bro 😭 I did not realize it would be that kinda episode today

[@Jadeddoxy]

FR , MY FACE DROPPED QUICK ASF

[@saranaila5905]

Right?! Thou I think it's more like "she groomed her own son and started abusing him"

[@burdy471]

Who knew having someone remind me where to adjust my empathy cap would actually be the most helpful thing ever

[@jamabo0]

These ineffably horrid criminal backgrounds are so hard to hear. I feel so painfully sorry for child James. To describe the severity of his situation and others alike is honestly impossible.

[@Needanewcar]

I think it’s so scary that mothers can do this to their kids and people don’t view it the same way as fathers sexually abusing their kids. When mothers do it, it’s scary how many people just call it an odd attachment rather than abuse. I feel like mothers “really comfortable” around their sons/daughters are not seen as abusive. It’s absolutely insane to me and I just want to scream at people to wake up!

[@SplooTheAlien]

I totally agree! A s*xual mother son relationship is seen as highly inappropriate at best to some people but never scrutinized to the same extent as a father ab*sing their kids (with the father being labeled a monster, rightly so, and the ab*use being described as highly disturbing). I personally feel disturbed when any parent takes advantage of their kid and both types of ab*se need to extremely demonized!

[@Nicole-zh7pl]

No. They do. It's horrifying. It's disgusting and it is absolutely not accepted..It just doesn't happen nearly as often.

[@jenellenelson4447]

So true!

[@e_i_e_i_bro]

I've not once seen this behaviour viewed as simply ODD. No. People are viscerally disgusted by such. unless they have something weird going on in their head it is generally viewed as abuse.

[@mallarieluvsgirls]

the consequences of misogyny. it affects men too. especially victims

[@spillwithsarah9387]

I had an ex who cut my hair. I’ve never told anyone or talked about it before. I thought it was something I would end up taking to the grave bc I internalized all the shame and my hair was like my shield and my comfort blanket in a way. I am only sharing now bc I truly didn’t know it’s a common thing abusers do and I hope it’s a thing that goes away bc it’s awful.

[@antix527]

i'm sorry that happened, i hope you find true happiness and love

[@spillwithsarah9387]

@@antix527 thank you so much, I wish the same for you and everyone on here. I almost deleted my comment after I read it the next day out of embarrassment bc I really haven’t shared it with anyone before but through all these videos I have learned there is power in speaking out. I’m taking back my power. Hearing that it’s common, made me realize I fell for his gaslighting yet again bc he gave multiple excuses after saying he did it to “help me” and “knew I would be beautiful no matter what and didn’t think it mattered” along with a host of other bull so when I heard boze say that I was like okkkkayyy cool another bs lie I fell for.

[@michelle7455]

@@spillwithsarah9387I’m so sorry that happened! Please don’t feel embarrassed. Even though that guy didn’t treat you right, you are still truly valuable and worthy of love and respect💜

[@n.c.pictures]

​@@spillwithsarah9387 proud of you for posting the comment and keeping it up. You might just have given countless people even just a tony bit more confidence and courage

[@kirbysthiccthighs]

i’m so sorry- what a horrible person. i’m so glad you’re out of there and (hopefully) safe now. so much love and support to you💜 i’m glad you were able to overcome the shame you felt, because there is nothing to be ashamed of. you are a SURVIVOR!!!💜💜

[@GioInvestigatesFrogs]

I really appreciate Boze apologizing about her last video. This is why I truly appreciate Boze! Also Boze puts so much effort in her videos and it shows! 💛🫶 Thank you Boze and her production team!

[@itsnotuitsbre9619]

Wait what happened?

[@bozevstheworld]

@@itsnotuitsbre9619girl its so early in the vid 😭😭😭

[@sorayam3ndez614]

@@bozevstheworld You’re the reason why I got into True Crime thank you

[@bozevstheworld]

@@sorayam3ndez614thank u for watching!!

[@itsnotuitsbre9619]

@@bozevstheworld I'm sorry Boze 😭 my toddler started crying right when I started then I saw the comment and got nosy then I started watching again and I was like...... oh 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ 😆 Buuuut loving the video and we're eating chicken nuggets 😋 You're the best ❤ 😆

[@Zaddy-Lu]

I grew up touch starved, only being touched by my parents with slaps, punches, and kicks. I never had any physical contact from extended family. I was parentified at age 9 and was also loaned out often as a babysitter starting at 11. Taking care of babies & small children was the only physical contact I got. When I was 16, some really horrible life events happened, so I didn't see my friends for 4-ish months (I was homeschooled & we went to a 4 hour co-op homeschooling group 1 day a week.) When I saw them again, one of them ran up & hugged me. It was such a confusing feeling, shock, peace, calm, and strange, but it made me feel less anxious. So I started hugging all my friends hi & bye, and they started hugging each other 😊 my main love languages are physical touch & quality time.

[@Im_here411]

It’s weird for me because I had similar experiences in my childhood, yet I hate affection. It makes me feel uncomfortable. I don’t even date because I have trouble with it. When my best friend went away to college, I shook his hand before he left. Am I the only one who had the complete opposite reaction to this upbringing?

[@steffz777]

I relate as well. Single mother only touched me with physical abuse, and in public tried to hug me and show she was a "good mother". We both felt the awkwardness. I was made to also babysit and not enjoy my childhood (or whatever was left of it). Although, i cant relate to having friends back then who cared, i know how now I try to make it a thing between friends and family. P.s I also did not have contact with extended family.

[@JoeMama-kz4sx]

@@steffz777im sorry my love. I hope you’re doing well now. Are you still in contact with your mother? Because I know how hard it is to distance yourself from parents.

[@steffz777]

@@JoeMama-kz4sx not at all, its been on and off but this time it’s the last time. I moved states, changed number, and no idea if she knows where I moved.

[@agape471]

The build up to the intro was insane, I got chills

[@runesolis]

RIGHT? 🤯 had me on the edge of my seat fr.

[@TheBellWitch18]

Yes!! I agree that was a top-tier intro right there

[@RhyanNicole]

Yessss! KILLER INTRO! (more ways than one 😂)

[@bullshaw1015]

"She injected her son with drugs then secuded him and started a sexual relationship" No hello? How are you? I just sat down, who starts a conversation like that!?

[@zack-lk8if]

eh I'd say it's a pretty good ice breaker, might try that next time I go out to dinner

[@kekebean6596]

This is sinister. Are we really surprised?

[@EdenHG]

If you want a conversation go find a therapist 😂 this is KZbin, get over it

[@BlueAlien2]

Normal just means you are experiencing what you are used to. James’ mother taught him the only skills she had.

[@mrbigweld1618]

the family guy reference knocked me clean 😂

[@m3rcyy]

“attitudes” was how my family described how i was acting any time i was upset as a child. incredibly dismissive and not helpful at all for the person whos upset. when i told my family didnt want them saying that word to me anymore they fought me on it 😭😭 they were like “you are having an attitude though, how else should i say it?”

[@tamyakatamy]

I feel you. It hurt too when they can't seem to understand that they are hurting you with these words and the fact they don't care what it is about and to help you resolve why you are upset is the worst..

[@m3rcyy]

@@tamyakatamyexactly! they never care about why or whats making you upset, it feels like they’re just blaming for being upset. i feel like its really hurt my ability to feel like my emotions are valid, but im trying to work through that lol

[@tamyakatamy]

@@m3rcyy they are valid! You got this! :)

[@teafox8]

My family still does this

[@tamyakatamy]

@@teafox8 Im sorry to hear this! There is probably not a lot I can do for you but I hope you take to heart that you don't deserve this treatment and your feelings are very much valid! If you feel a certain way there is always a reason for that!

[@Medjed_online]

You know it’s a good day when Sinister gets posted

[@keith9129]

Also helps Boze is easy on the eyes with a matching voice

[@TheyCantC]

We get it u want likes so you're regurgitating a top comment on every other video ever made

[@libertyHawks]

Especially when you just started cleaning and can't find anything else to listen to 🧹

[@libertyHawks]

​@@TheyCantC don't hate the hustle

[@Liv._.2434]

You know it’s a good day when Boze blesses us with an hour long episode

[@tamyakatamy]

I sadly had a really similar childhood as Cynthia had. My parents never hugged me, even as a child. I remember a friend talking to me about how her dad would tickle her, and for me, that was out of this world. It is extremely hard when parents never show affection or affirmation; my feelings were always invalidated, and to this day I struggle with this. I'm very glad that I have a boyfriend who is super sweet, and he helped me learn how to love and show love. So if you are out there and go through this or something similar, I want you to know: You are loved! Never give up finding love, and never be embarrassed about your feelings; they are valid! ❤

[@harleynovak3297]

I grew up touch starved, too. My parents only hugged me when they had guests over. As soon as they were gone I was ignored. My mother took every opportunity to punch, slap, pinch, kick, or trip me. I hug my son,18, whenever he lets me. When my dad visited a few years ago, he said it was inappropriate for us to be so close. "It was cute when he was little but now it just makes everyone around uncomfortable." 🙄

[@rue...whenwasthis]

Fuck your dad! Keep hugging your son!

[@oobiedoobie1204]

"Just a little bit of meth on the side" is a crazy line 😂

[@jessickalush3305]

Sounds like part of my Denny's order

[@bozevstheworld]

@@jessickalush3305Jessica

[@jessickalush3305]

@@bozevstheworld 😅

[@noufmansor3854]

Boze I love this channel, can ask you please a small request 🥹 “Can you please put photos while talking about one of people involved in the story as ling as your talking please?”🙏🏽 my ADHD makes me lose focus on the names involved 🥹🙏🏽 much much love from K.S.A 💚

[@toes3286]

Seconded

[@MadeOfConfusion]

Third-ed! I have such a struggle with keeping people in my brain during any storytelling.

[@shewhowas201]

I LOVE how you break down narcissist methods etc. There would be so much value in having you break down videos of abusive family members. Im vlawing my way out of a emotional and mentally abusive marriage. The way you break things down has been so helpful to me.

[@1ndiasmusic]

She has a couple of those videos and they are super helpful

[@The.Mawnster]

I always feel bad for the poor kids who go through the abuse, but the moment they do something so immoral as PULLING A GUN ON SOMEONE or MURDER, all empathy is gone. They were victims, but when they became the abusers thats when it's no longer valid.

[@jenna739]

Cases like these really make me wonder how differently things would have turned out if they had healthy childhoods. Nature vs. nurture

[@BeeLZBeeb]

I was wondering what kinda life each would have had if born the opposite sex. But the same crappy parents

[@alexparadise91]

"We just cope with it by deciding that we are however they made us feel" DAMN

[@Toasted.Pencils]

Hurts lol

[@natalielawyerchick]

BOZE!!! That intro was EVERYTHING. You go girl!

[@RARITYLUVZ]

Boze this is why you’re my favorite true crime channel because you acknowledge that people can show empathy for these people but also remind people they had a choice whether to go down that path or not 👏👏

[@hallwaytv3708]

I would love to see a Sinister episode on Leticia Stauch. I can’t even comprehend her level of craziness and it would be interesting to hear your thoughts on her.

[@Camey71073]

Please don't use Stauch. Her ex husband asked that she never be allowed to use his name anymore.

[@hallwaytv3708]

@@Camey71073I get that. I definitely would want the same .

[@clairesanightmare]

YES. She’s evil and I’d love to hear Bose’s perspective on her.

[@mallarieluvsgirls]

for those wondering, her maiden name is Hardin

[@styxjunkii]

I really wish people understood how bad KZbin censorship is … instead of blaming you they should be blaming KZbin. Love you Boze!

[@TolentinoBT]

Hey Boze, I’m starting college soon and I wanted you to know that you’re one of the reasons I’m so passionate about my major (psychology) in hope to later become a criminal psychologist. Your videos give me something to look forward to and I get excited every time you post. You might not realize it, but I wanted to thank you for the role you play in my life

[@macbunnymuffin6768]

The apology and accountability at the start of the video really took me by surprise. Highly rate that from you Boze. You're one of the only creators I still watch regularly because I can tell you actually care about what you're creating and about us watching. So many 'influencers' nowadays only care about themselves and making quick cash. Thanks for being an amazing human being and for always trying your best

[@deswheezy]

i found your channel about a week ago, and i’ve been OBSESSED ever since. i LOVE your take on true crime. the psychology behind the cases makes my heart so happy. i want to thank you for shining light on issues that aren’t spoke about as much as they should be! :)) glad to be here🖤

[@SummerAlleriaWindrunner]

'Usually in relationships y'know there's this big build and this excitement and then it kind of starts to level out and it plateaus and, you accept that. Right? You say okay! This is what we have now. We have love, we have consistency. Like it's not as intense as it first was, but this is what real love is. It's not always exciting.' That was beautiful. Well put. But very close to home for me. Gonna write it down and put it on my art wall so I'm typing it here to save it.

[@meggreen4058]

I appreciate the apology Boze, and I respect you for having the humility to do it. I’ll admit I got a little frustrated with Gina Grant episode, due to my own experiences, but I didn’t take it personally, you’ve established yourself as a victims advocate, and i consider you to be fair to everyone.

[@rileyh7234]

Same here, I'm glad she apologized

[@glu3dd]

so sensitive grow up

[@meggreen4058]

Find something better to do with your time than being a troll, it’s sad and embarrassing.

[@ChaiLatte64]

​@@glu3dd it's ok to be sensitive. No hate pls

[@glu3dd]

@@ChaiLatte64 no its not, its not someones else responsibility for YOUR feelings

[@ca_llio_pe]

Me sitting smiling, waiting for the day sinister gets picked up by a streaming platform and it is turned into a full blown TV show. The attention to detail and the genuine care for the job Boze does is so refreshing and I love to see it every Monday.

[@saintlorax3973]

My boy your intros are getting better and better I’m so proud of your growth with this show

[@samgoga1528]

I‘m so addicted to sinister, LETS HAVE ANOTHER DOSE🎉🎉

[@rockettcassia]

Are we addicts 😮😂

[@mallarieluvsgirls]

@@rockettcassia😐🤨 no. lmao unless you can’t stop taking drugs

[@rockettcassia]

@@mallarieluvsgirls I’m talking about to boze girl lmao

[@monetsgarden444]

One of my favorite things about Boze is that she always discusses the conditions that foster these kinds of behaviors and where they come from within ourselves. Systemic conditions like poverty give a person a much lower chance of being exposed to an environment that allows them to be a "good" person. Morality is a privelage.

[@AllyssaGinther]

Hi Boze! Chiming in at 9:44 to add my two cents as a mother who had a Nicu baby and PPD and struggled with bonding. I believe you are correct with the holding part, I had no problem with that BUUUUT Mothers with PPS and PPD tend to struggle with bonding with their infants. It is extremely hard to overcome. If you are a new mother and feel you are struggling with bonding with your child or PPD or even PPS PLEASE reach out for help from professionals. I had to my ppd was awful. They truly care if you can open up and they will help you. Do not sacrifice these precious moments with your baby because you feel overwhelmed and confused. I promise it gets better if you just ask for help. I had to. It was so hard. But over a year later we are closer than close can be. Love you all mamas ❤️ you're doing great, just communicate

[@nat4593]

Boze you have made me feel more heard in my experiences than anyone else on KZbin in general. I also didn't understand narcissistic traits and how those effected others before you explained it all so casually. What you've helped me learn has given me the tools to work through my own personal traumas. Please don't let anyone discourage you for what you do here in any way! You help more of us than you know. And getting our daily dose of boze boosts my moral!!!

[@Totallymexoxo]

Girl i just gotta give props, i love this series, but this video??? That opener??? The lines leading up to the title sequence and the music??? I got CHILLS this is so good you're a master at delivery i love it 👨‍🍳💋 ❤❤

[@cmtmemeuou3465]

As a Cynthia, I do not condone this behaviour 😡

[@ugxigiyiydeydtde]

Same here 😢

[@rackel8195]

Can FINALLY watch Sinister before I have to work😭😭

[@Rosealia33]

Very real 😂❤

[@vanillafire2652]

Oh Yeah!!! SINISTER INTRO is sooooo good! It put me focus in the beath of the case.

[@erinjean9971]

Boze, You're awesome... I have never "met" someone that experiences cringe like me, it's like your my little sister helping me cope with uncomfortable footage and showing empathy to all. But one thing you do so much better is being REAL. You are so sage for your age by being so intuitive and wise. Thanks for your content.

[@alymayz928]

Holy hell that set up, that fade out, that theme music, the editing 👏👏👏👏👏 IMMACULATE!!!

[@reiwrites578]

I am obsessed with this intro!!! I’m so intrigued! Great job uncle!

[@SushieeSlushy]

My mans currently an inmate... he would NEVER send a "inmate friend" to me

[@funnysweetshay3154]

Sinister is my favorite thing about a Monday. I absolutely love the dedication and the hard work that goes into your videos. Thank you!

[@Vivqian]

It's actually heartbreaking to know that some people grow up so unfortunately, and so sadly. All humans deserve to have a chance at life, even as people grow older; we still deserve love and support. But love and support like James got is just sad. Cynthia didn't deserve that either. Not all Parents deserve kids, but all kids deserve parents.

[@MeganBecker]

Boze...I love how deeply you dive into who the criminals were before they turned their page for the worst. 💜

[@pmays3646]

I really respect your integrity and the empathy you show towards others

[@unicorgirl5652]

I LOVE THE ENERGY OF THIS EPISODE!!!!!!

[@AnimeOrigami]

boze, you're one of the only youtubers that i don't skip over advertisements because your voice is so nice

[@JOSIE828333]

I am in complete awe of this editing and story telling!!!!! I am sat up with my snacks ready to grub and watch sinister 😆

[@honeysunsets]

Completely forgot the title, I was listening to the video as a background. Just the intro had me thinking it was only going to be about James 😅 5:49

[@obliviousthorne]

ok this is so menial but i always get so hyped when the intro song/graphic is included i love it (also surely i cant be the only one that has made the sinist*her* connection)

[@dancesmokesmile344]

The intro this time was edited so well!! The build up and everything!

[@AshleyNieves-l9o]

Aside from literally watching nearly every video (mostly while I cook haha) your voice is literally the most soothing thing to hear despite the cases being discussed lol. Im completing a few assignments with you in the background and i am just realizing I haven't felt this calm and stress free completing my project.

[@Spartanfoundfootage]

Hi boze! I’ve been watching your channel for more than a year now and this is probably my first comment. I think you do a great job gathering information and talking about stories perfectly, the wording is amazing. Never stop what you’re doing 😊

[@lilsproutbb]

Mother is MOTHERINGGGGG thank you so much for your frequent & scheduled postings, you just dont know how much i look forward to them. Thanks for being the realest ❤️❤️ love you

[@arthurfloriano5445]

Yo, I'm not gonna lie I was on the fence about your content at first, but you've won me over. Great job with what you're doing and opening up different conversations + standing on your own perspectives/opinions

[@LimpingforJesus]

Love watching your episodes! You handle true crime cases and your audience with so much love and care. Thanks for all you do!

[@Astr0_Man]

as someone w mommy issues, its a struggle to be near other women of authority. it certainly doesnt help that some of these women of authority had unattainable standards(one of which solely for me for some reason) so Cynthia's hatred of women could stem from her own mother, perhaps her mom was v beautiful and young lookin and she channeled that hatred into her and Marlows victims

[@kymccool3909]

I was really scared for Cynthia’s safety until I remembered it’s sinister

[@danielle8924]

I absolutely love Sinister! I haven't missed not one I look forward to them every Monday! Also love all ur content- your story telling us top notch 😊

[@kyramorgan8702]

I started watching you a few months ago Boze and you are by far my favorite KZbinr. Thank you for covering so many cases so well. And giving me a laugh with the body cam videos. I am so lucky I found you. Thank you for making my day every time you post!!

[@NickieFireUp]

I absolutely love this show so much! I never knew of most of these women! The information and opportunities for deep dives!!

[@Rosquilliam2]

Always a great moment when new content hits. Watching now 💪🏾💪🏾

[@Erika-pl1pr]

BOZE theres a case I would love to see you cover! I think it would suite your new sinister series very well. It's about a girl named Sarah who developed DID after she was r-worded at four years old by her neighbor. When she was seventeen her boss offered to have her move in to "help her out" he was in his 50s. He had made her completely reliant on him, and had SA'd her multiple times. She killed him, and used his blood to write freedom of the walls. Stephanie Soo covered this case, but I think it would be interesting to see your take on it perhaps with more videos from the trial and interrogation.

[@deswheezy]

I WOULD ALSO LOVE TO SEE BOZE COVER THIS CASE

[@kyleenheather9879]

8:27 bruh this is a better youtube apology than any ive seen yet...like wha? Good job fr.

[@nyrea8163]

Colleen needs to sit down and take some notes. On the apology not the murder lol

[@rhia_code]

Every Tuesday morning I get to watch the new Sinister episode and then, around lunch, Bozw usually streams and I get to watch that at work too. Tuesdays have become my favorite day of the week

[@misssnobooty]

Having a tough anxiety morning, so happy to see a boze upload.

[@LilRedWitch]

When she said “that’s the intro for context” I KNEW this was gonna get wild and even I had my jaw drop a few times because it went Mach 5 into “WHAT THE - H U H?” Territory several times. Holy shit. Thank you research, editing, and storyline team! Brilliant as always, and, obviously thank you BOZE, for giving us great, researched content as usual 💖💜

[@julesharris6383]

I just want to say I really admire your addressing some of the critical comments in the Gina grant video. I didn’t necessarily share their views, despite being a victim of gross neglect by both parents, but I understood their viewpoints. I had a horrible childhood. But it really does show how much you truly care and you don’t often get that sense of realness on other channels. I noticed. I love watching your videos and I admire you even more now. And your tshirts are always so dope! LOVE the Type-O shirts! Hope everyone has a great week!

[@jourdyngroman]

ugh the intro music is just SO GOOD

[@JsChanel580]

Wow! The quality of your vids keep getting better and better ❤❤❤

[@rozzypozzy8906]

the intro is so good! the songs a banger

[@tisanidiot]

got the spotify notification at midnight and got so hyped for the vid to drop

[@amandamantz]

Side note: Your editing is 🔥 The build-up to the intro gave me goosebumps.

[@thepaintedpoppies1010]

I like starting my week off with new videos. Itakes Mondays much more bearable.Thank you!

[@blueberrybabe4192]

Oh my gosh, Boze. The amount of information you explain like the whole children having these big emotions yet not fully understanding them. Growing up, the concept of time was not something I was aware of until about 10 or 11. And it’s around that age that I started picking up on stuff from my family- especially my mother. The emotional incest, internally taking in how my mother treated me as a representation of me. You perfectly explained it, and it sucks because it’s like damn I was 10 trying to rationalize why I got kicked in the ribs or purposely embarrassed in public by my mother. Like who threatens to throw a glass of water at their child at Denny’s because they don’t know what book they’re going to choose for a book report?! Then her copying the clothes I wore as I hit puberty. As I look back..a lot of stuff was strange. 90% sure mothers don’t still bathe with their children once they’re past puberty or trauma dump on them. Absolutely love the work you do, it’s helped me understand narcissists and I’m working on moving in with my sister ❤

[@obie.dav1111]

thank you boze for being so cognizant of the power your words have - i appreciate you listening to your audience and responding with kindness and understanding

[@Xuromikuromi]

Uncle Boze keeps us so well fed I'm about to do laundry just so I can watch this with no interrupting 😂❤

[@harpior]

Was reloading KZbin to find something to watch and lo and behold I got blessed. Love you, Boze! ❤🎉

[@444-l6s]

thank you for the mention of the harvard case you’re so amazing

[@PrincessJax268]

I'd love to hear you talk about the Pauline Parker and Juliet Hulme case from New Zealand. And also the Francine Hughes case aka The Burning Bed case.

[@onlycheeseplease]

The intro to sinister is such a banger dude

[@daddysangeljetta]

I’m so over adults using their child trauma for pity or defending their disgusting monstrous actions I had an unthinkable, unspeakable, unimaginable traumatic horrific childhood and not once have I ever even fathomed wanting to be the one responsible for such pain and trauma an another so this song and dance is getting old, tiring and inexcusable if anything should have made them not want to be a product of their environment

[@adrineline]

Boze, I highly recommend you look into Erikson's Stages of Development. It's a child development concept that basically dives into what you were talking about with babies needing comfort and touch, and goes further into what concepts are developing or not developing in a child. The first stage is trust vs. mistrust, basically "will my needs be met?" if the answer is no, it can have a huge impact on a child's social-emotional development longterm. I think you wouldbreally find the stages interesting and the information useful for these videos!

[@Livedreams9]

Which Rabbit Junk song is in the intro? It was a PERFECT way to start this episode! Also, I appreciate you so much Boze! I can be having the worst time and I turn you on and you never fail to make me laugh and take my mind off of the bad shit. Even though sometimes we are diving deep in bad shit, but you know what I mean lol. I love how you tell the stories and keep us engaged!! Never a dull moment and my favorite person to binge watch! Thank youuuuuu!! 🫶🏼🖤💚

[@josephvoskuhl878]

Oh thank God, this video is about to get me through the rest of this workday.

[@thekrayers]

Duuude, I grew up like Cynthia. My mom was the same as hers! Only difference in was I didn’t turn outward. I didn’t go out and party and do drugs, I did drugs and stayed home. My mom is a narcissist pick me theater kid. Nope. I’m surprised I turned out pretty ok. In my opinion.

[@ominousghost5880]

Boze this is the longest back story and I love it! Not anything what I would’ve imagined, them empathy caps!!!

[@PaigeGatchell]

anytime you post I'm like WOOOOOOOOOOOO BACKGROUND CCRRRRIMMEEEEEEEE and your reactions are just. Mwha, chefs kiss.

[@FOXZENA]

Omg the opening is so amazing!

[@heyyfirefly]

I had an awful day, but my dinner is ready and boze uploaded, I feel blessed 😇

[@claralombardi3862]

Always waiting for this on my Mondays ❤

[@coffeetime89]

Battered woman syndrome my ass. Cynthia knew what strings to pull. Not that Marlowe wasn’t an abusive punk but seems to me he was often trying to get Cynthia what his mother had taught him women wanted. Money, drugs, and sex. No one messes with Cynthia who had no issues pulling a gun on someone before Marlowe there. I’m thinking they more fed off each other on a weird kind of power struggle. Marlowe starts getting out of turn and Cynthia puts him in it by screwing with his need to possess and makes him feel he’s in charge. Seen abusive women do it often enough to be terrifying.

[@uelsam4774]

Boze this production value is crazy, that intro was insane😭😭😭

[@elliesrubies]

Boze, you're spoiling us with all these uploads ❤

[@Ava-KimLee]

It’s been a good couple weeks because mother Boze posted a 10 hour video and sinister 🙏🏼😋😋

[@deborahkizer4664]

Sending prayers. Great job you do. Thank you. . Nobody really truly knows what goes on in somebody else's life no matter what is said you have to walk in their shoes to actually truly understand. A mouth can say anything. 😢

[@deborahkizer4664]

🙏😔💛

[@heatherrick1918]

OMG BUT THAT INTRO!!!! My jaw said hi w the floor🔥