BPD CODED Fictional Characters (An Analysis)

[@selfsabotagingbanana0451]

Powder from the show Arcane. You could literally have a checklist with the diagnostic criteria nearby and go through them from top to bottom: Severe abandonment issues: check, Unstable sense of self: check, Mood shifts: check, Difficulty controlling anger: check, psychotic-like symptoms (paranoid ideas, hallucinations) under stress and dissociation: check, splitting: check, impulsitivity: check, suicidal behaviour: check...

[@inferiorinferno8859]

No, Powder feels more like someone who is suffering from a psychotic depression after a hugely traumatic event. She didn't killed Caitlyn and made beheading her a joke, that shows planning and that she is able to control her anger to a certain degree unless she gets actively triggered. She doesn't have an unstable identity either as things like her hobbies didn't change at all. She's fighting with her inner child, not a different sense of self.

[@TravellerZasha]

Hey just to let you know you kinda got some of the criteria wrong and missed some, mood shifts and splitting arent in the official criteria but yes BPD people like me have it sometimes. BPD's are also impulsive in a self destructive way that isn't suicidal or self harm. BPD's don't have to be suicidal they can also just be self harming/self destructive. You also missed they have an unstable relationship history/pattern, and chronic feelings of emptiness.

[@christiancroom3386]

Powder is more psychosis similar to senua from hell blade

[@Fairygoblet]

Anakin is a cautionary Tale on what happens when people are not able to access the help they need. Becoming a dictator is an extreme example, but the Jedi Temple did not have the tools to help anakin, because despite embodying a lot of DBT and mindfulness principles, they preached the dismissal and suppression of human emotions. They could not help Anakin because they were out of balance themselves.

[@ManicMonster713]

I think jinx from arcane, Harley Quinn, and spinel from Steven universe are good examples. Jinx and Harley might have schizophrenia as well though

[@ManicMonster713]

With jinx her favorite person, vi, and then later became silko, she expresses fear of abandonment, splitting and emotional outbursts, and an unstable sense of self. She can’t decide whether she’s powder or jinx.

[@ManicMonster713]

I think Harley, Quinn and the joker are good example of how people with Bpd often end up in relationships with narcissists

[@ManicMonster713]

And I think spinel is pretty self-explanatory she thought pink diamond was the greatest person to ever exist, and then she found out that pink diamond abandoned her and now suddenly pink diamond is the worst person to ever exist so she goes down to earth to kill everybody that she loves however, she becomes friends with her son And then frantically switches back-and-forth between loving and hating him.

[@lavenderhaze1311]

harley has been psychoanalyzed a lot and she leans more towards HPD

[@bluefood6850]

@@ManicMonster713 as someone with bpd I think that steven is also bpd, although it is more apparent on steven universe future, whne he is older

[@alfieshanks6555]

I was the fp of an amazing BPD girl but we live in different countries and she left me out of fear of abandonment. 😢 I miss her so much and want her back

[@notsogenericstud4660]

Aaah you don't know how happy it makes me to hear that there are people who actually appreciate ppl with bpd. Sorry that she left you out of fear though.

[@alfieshanks6555]

@@notsogenericstud4660 she’s awesome, but she struggles a lot and I don’t know if me really getting to see who she was scared her because she maybe tries to mask those traits of hers in the early stages. I really love her tho but she withdrew two months ago and she has had me blocked for a month now. I noticed she unblocked me today but as soon as I clicked on her profile before I got the chance to look back a few hours later… I was blocked again. I’ll go fly over and see her in a few months to see how she’s keeping. It’s hard because I’m left researching trying to understand how she feels because she’s not communicating with me

[@androjinusxia8826]

Hey I have a similar situation but in the opposite role of your story, I have BPD and also an fp who lives in another country rn, I like him so much but I'm so scared he'd get bored of me or leave me, that's why when I'm in my devaluation phase I just wanna leave him so I wouldn't feel hurt, but I love him at the same time, but then he's boring, so imagine he's boring and cheating on me at the same time. I don't want it anymore (BUT I LOVE HIM) yeah that's how my brain goes like, unlesss maybe I'd feel fully secure that we are in a stable relationship then the symptoms disappear, but its a situationship sadly. I really need help 🥺 + not all bpds could communicate clearly, many are passive aggresive

[@goofball2228]

@@notsogenericstud4660 I have a close friend with BPD. She’s the sweetest, most empathetic person I’ve ever met. She always checks on me and makes sure I’m ok. She’s a great listener and she even gives me little gifts. Sure she can be angry and impulsive at times and ik she struggles a lot internally but she’s genuinely an amazing person.

[@WynneL]

@@notsogenericstud4660 There very much are. It's the same with me, but he left after his grandfather died because we couldn't find a way to make international laws work in our favor. I could never forgive him for dropping out of my life entirely when I most needed a friend, but I still have a soft spot for people with BPD. I've got AvPD myself. CPTSD seems to be the root for all of us, so there's overlap with all PDs to an extent, but AvPD seems very similar to BPD in terms of emotional sensitivity. The difference is that we turn all those negative feelings inward with a laser focus on ourselves; it's the opposite of narcissism. So I relate a lot.

[@elyseenger-fq8ye]

Another BPD coded character would be Catra from She-Ra and the Princesses of Power. She has unstable relationships, emotional splitting, a distorted sense of identity, and paranoia. Her fear of abandonment arose when Adora chose to defect to the Resistance and she became impulsive and even suicidal. She was used as a scapegoat by Shadow Weaver when things went wrong and it contributed to the development of her BPD.

[@virkots]

Thank you for choosing male BPD characters. We exist too, haha. I feel like BPD is mostly represented by the "crazy BPD girlfriend" trope

[@Namasteavlreal]

There's a show called Crazy Ex Girlfriend which shows one of the characters (won't spoil who) as having BPD but also has a positive outcome for the person diagnosed with BPD.

[@Casper-TheMaineCoon22]

OMG THANK YOU FOR MENTIONING IT 😭😭😭😭

[@RobertoGutierrez-ih2pm]

I love that show

[@davidsommerville2213]

As a person with pretty severe BPD, I truly appreciate this funny and insightful video. I see myself massively in these characters. As the child of a severe BPD/narcissist who passed the genes, created a self-destructive monster, and imprinted this vile behavior on me from day one, I clearly identify. Gotta check out the BoJack. Thanks for this great video.

[@trickstersenses]

I believe that Loki Laufeyson (MCU) is very BPD coded. He fits all of the 9 criteria points to be diagnosed. Most notably, his fear of abandonment (he didn’t want to be alone but also self-sabotaged a lot due to that fear, testing boundaries to test if those would leave him or abandon him) Constant shift with identity (rightful king of asgard to monster, weak to strong, hero to villain, depends on those around him to maintain a sense of identity) Explosive rage (directed towards Odin, Thor, Frigga, Heimdall, Midgard, Natasha, Tony and Malekith and Kurse) Fast and sudden quick changing emotional swings Unstable relationships (Odin, Frigga and Thor most notably) Splitting (mostly seen with his family and friends- goes from seeing the best in them and loving them to seeing the worst in them and loathing them) I could go on, but there’s my take.

[@avadakedevra2895]

I second this

[@caitlinkerr4150]

so what i have learnt is that DiCaprio plays ppl who are bpd coded

[@oratilemokgosi611]

Yes😂

[@Luv2sing836]

I have a neighbor and once friend who is a bit of a Bojack Horseman in the way she behaves. I say “once” because she repeatedly cuts me out of her life only to come crawling back in a week or so and we’re on an off period now. I’m trying to be sympathetic because I know it’s a mental illness and I want her to get better but she has a violent temper and goes from being super nice to me to being verbally abusive in seconds over trivial stuff and it’s well and truly scary. She hasn’t hit me yet, but she’s come close. I’m considering changing dorms in order to establish some distance and I don’t know how to break it to her or how she’ll react.

[@nineinchthread]

I think you should protect yourself I have a mom with BPD and I suspect I could have it maybe my aunt does but I don't know but it's really not good to act that way not really excusable though you can be understanding without excusing or staying with said person you could try to talk to her in a call state I recommend message maybe see if your able to stay at another place for a few days when you decide to message her about it so you feel safe.

[@flask223]

Physical violence is a no go. Same goes with the threat of it

[@mari_3kyu]

I know it's been a year and all but probably someone else will come across this. There's a certain border that can't be crossed with things like this. It is hard dealing with bpd and I also totally get that you're trying to be empathetic and a good friend and I love you for that. But once it starts crossing that abuse border and the person isn't actively working on it - which, of course, I don't know. I don't know your neighbour and what she's doing - but hurting you repeatedly over a long period isn't good or fair or right or justified. It can happen, it does happen, but it shouldn't be a constant over a long time. You can't live with bpd without dealing with it. First it'll take up most your time, you have to be very aware for most of it but the longer you go, the less it becomes a highly impactful thing in your life. (And when I say long, I mean long, I've been learning for 12+ years, literally half my life.) At one point you gotta learn to deal with it. There's only so man short term copes you can do, so many friendships you're gonna lose. Tl;Dr: From what it sounds like, you should get out of there on your terms - at least for a little while. There's no use in you walking on eggshells because you're afraid all the time. If not both in the friendship are happy, there is no mutual respect and support in it. Doesn't mean there can't ever be, but right now it's not good and it's not your responsibility. I hope you're both in a better, happier situation now.

[@Luv2sing836]

@@mari_3kyu Thank you, this is so well said, and I hope it helps somebody else. Unfortunately, in my case, things got way worse. She claimed she was trying to "work on herself" by seeing a therapist, but somehow that just resulted in her developing a huge victim complex, absolutely refusing to believe that she'd ever done anything harmful to other people, and becoming possessive. I started dating a guy, and that resulted in constant castigations and slut shaming (which I later found out was common behavior for her - she'd only had one short, disastrous relationship many years prior, and it really irked her when other women dated, especially if they were actually happy), and eventually she started throwing things at me and pounding on my door at night so I couldn't sleep. I wound up changing dorms and, after she received a warning because others had complained about her, she left (screaming that she hadn't done anything wrong, of course,) and I haven't seen her since. I regret not talking it out with her before leaving, but by then I was scared for my safety, and I don't think it would have made a difference. If you told me she had NPD and not BPD, I'd believe you, but I'm just glad she's gone. I'm glad that you're doing better, though, and I wish you the best.

[@shadowstakenxx8463]

Another BPD coded character (I haven’t been diagnosed but I’m 99% sure I have BPD, yes I’ve done research) is Nikolai Gogol from Bungo Stray Dogs, who I actually relate to a lot. I’m not going to do a whole character analysis but he’s a really interesting character that’s definitely BPD coded.

[@Prince-uo3mi]

Cassie from euphoria

[@jeff_koli]

I felt it too

[@emigrant1510]

Hi, Sky. I subscribed some time ago thanks to this video, which was recommended to me around a time I was rewatching Bojack Horseman and also learning a bit about BPD due to a character I was involved with in a play. Not only was this video quite insightful to the condition, but also pretty revealing for myself. As I shared more traits than I anticipated with BPD, and now, having resumed therapy during the past month after a long time, I've been diagnosed with the condition itself by a psychiatrist today. For the longest time I had been frustrated due to feeling like there was always something I couldn't put my finger on about me since grade school. I knew there was just something off about how intense my emotions felt and with how I reacted to most friendships. Now that I've been diagnosed, I've felt a huge weight lifted off of my shoulders, as I now understand myself better and can finally begin treating myself properly, after years of not knowing what was wrong with me. I just wanted to thank you again for this video, which in one way or the other, put me in a path to self-improvement I've desperately needed for a long time.

[@Yyyram]

I have bpd got diagnosed last week and I’m crying over the fact that it is simultaneously the most painful and the most stigmatized. Meaning I can feel the stigma even more than normal😢😭

[@EclecticallyEccentric]

I'm going to add I think DC's Jason Todd, aka Red Hood might have it. Granted, he absolutely also has PTSD, but I feel like the unstable sense of identity, complicated personal relationships, anger, craving for intimacy while at times trying not to get close to people due to fear, all line up with BPD.

[@chrisfilms8674]

Was thinking this!

[@emigrant1510]

I was unaware of what a "favorite person" was under the context of BPD. I've learned quite a bit with this video. Thank you for making it.

[@ImBoredAsAMoFo]

What you said about favorite person is so on point. As someone diagnosed with BPD earlier this year; yeah, your whole world does revolve solely around them when they are in your life.

[@grosshipgirl9511]

Very interesting video, I think I'll be looking for BPD characters in every movie/show/book that I consume now

[@cryptoknight4746]

Your production is exceptional, keep making videos you're going to do well. I didn't realize that this channel was relatively new until the end of the video

[@rockleeofthesand]

As someone with BPD I've always related to Adachi from Persona 4, especially the way his background was explored more in the Golden anime

[@Iceclaw77]

Akechi from Persona 5 strikes me as someone who might also have it too

[@GeekInSequins]

When it comes to Romeo, I armchair diagnose him with Being A Teenager. The Mad Hatter is Mercury Poisoning coded. The others I can totally see as BPD coded though, especially Bojack! Bojack is practically textbook.

[@Wendy-je9zf]

i've seen an analysis that diane is also bpd coded, and it has fundamentally changed how i view the show

[@arsenalx7]

As someone who has quiet BPD, I've always thought she is coded as having quiet BPD. Quiet subtype is less talkes about because it's not as typical in presentation, but diane painfully resonates with me Also, I'd really appreciate if you could share the link to that analysis video, thank you!

[@meyveliuzum]

also love ur lamp on the back

[@BBWahoo]

Here's a few characters I am 99% certain are BPD coded, each reflect their own pain in different ways but with their own unique severities because as we are well aware, people with BPD tend to express themselves in their own way. Spinel from Steven Universe is a textbook BPD, "Splitting" on Steven after getting her memories back, it happens after she is done singing 'Drift Away', having Pink Diamond be her favorite person has her idealizing her, while devaluing Steven during the movie, she is very much hurt, and very toxic, which was touched upon by Rebecca Sugar, the creator of SU. I highly reccomend you give Steven Universe: The Movie a watch. Text does not do it justice, there is so much depth to her. Scarlemange from Kipo and the Age of Wonderbeasts is another one, this guy isolates himself but also devalues people and tries turning them like him, he has some Narc traits which is interesting seeing as it's also stigmatized next to BPD. Maligula from Psychonauts 2 has psychopathic traits with her BPD, this character is easily the most dangerous of the bunch, because her mind was altered to have antisocial personality disorder next to it. So she will hold nothing back when trying to hurt (and even murder) people. Surge from Sonic IDW Comics is a recent one, she is a victim of intense psychological and physical scarring abuse by Dr. Starlight, essentially being his test subject for various experiments, she becomes extremely aggresive and paranoid near the end of her latest arc (which hasn't finished) using various powers that are hinted to be a sort of stand-in for drugs in order to numb and try to escape from her own sense of peril and danger. Lookup "Sonic Speed Reading" if you want more info about it, it's a really good read all things considered. All of them have some sort of abandonment trauma and are pretty unstable all things considered, please give them all a shot.

[@bbenny_complex]

As someone who was recently diagnosed with bpd, struggling to feel okay with myself after this diagnosis, knowing there are characters that are even somewhat like me whether it be intentional or unintentional with their writing brings me great comfort

[@The_alchemistress]

I would also say that the mad hatter has traits of schizotypal personality disorder. He’s very eccentric and has strange mannerisms. So it’s also possible they could have co-morbid BPD & STPD

[@leedesrosiers3958]

The mad hatter, is based on hat makers being regularly exposed to chemicals that caused a sort of dementia/madness. It was quite common for people in the trade.

[@TravellerZasha]

BPD can often be misdiagnosed as schizophrenia, I personally was.

[@feralgraves]

Damn. That's why I love the Mad Hatter in almost every Alice in Wonderland adaptation / inspired story. Finding out I have BPD just explains so much, even the little things

[@sunshine-dz6xj]

4:46 I remember when my boyfriend hung up without explaining why because he suddenly needed to do some work stuff or someone from work called him or something like that. I cried for like half an hour and literally had to fight the urge to hurt myself and my LIFE was ruined until he called back later and explained what happened :')

[@JTMUSICCHANNEL]

I have bi polar bpd and adhd and I can say I relate to Anikan

[@bluefood6850]

as someone that always related to the mad hatter it made sense to find out we both have bpd and adhd lol

[@purpleporygon]

Just ordered the Great Gatsby book. Can't believe I haven't read it before since I loved the movie. And great video even though I'm late to the party!

[@ASmartCake]

does ken (barbie) have bpd?

[@lucy_of_the_stars]

I don’t have bpd but I’ve seen some headcanons that Kinga Forrester from MST3K has bpd, and I think I agree; she has the backstory for it (abandoned by grandmother multiple times, tries to get her attention in season 11), and if I remember correctly they did an interview with her actress who said something along the lines of ‘she doesn’t really know what she wants’ which could be a sign of identity disturbance, also maybe if you count that she’s literally continuing her family’s legacy project that she probably has nothing to base an identity off of anyways. Maybe leaning towards NPD comorbidity since she’s more of the greedy micromanaging boss lady that steals other people’s ideas and claims them as her own I’ve also seen people speculate if JD from Heathers has it, although the musical version of JD shows more bpd traits imo And if you want a semi-canon example, I believe Roman Roy from Succession has described himself as ‘borderline’ in one episode though I haven’t seen it I just really like Kieran Culkin (the actor who plays him) Sorry for rambling

[@Bigmommycool]

Okay I forgive you for being a Joe Goldberg apologist because I am a Love Quinn apologist

[@vannesteaude]

hi, i loved this video it was really interesting. i just want to give a tip! the music in the background could be a bit quieter, it was a bit distracting from what you were saying. please don't take this as hate btw, i loved the video i am just autistic!! :(

[@skytalksbooks8920]

Thank you for the comment and the tip! I will definitely pay more attention to the music future 😊

[@giannacherry1698]

The first thing i automatically said when seeing bojack in the thumbnail all i could say is,"damnit not him too 😭" i cant lie,when him descibing to Princess Carolyn's boufriend "I feel like all the goodness in me just leaks out. And theres nothing left," is how ive felt or YEARS.

[@Horsewoman-pt2ku]

One cannot say it is the most emotionally painful disorder one can have unless you’ve had them all. You cannot compare emotional pain

[@jadedrawz]

Another BPD coded character imo (as someone with BPD) is definitely Mondo Owada from Danganronpa. I feel like he at least exhibits 5 of the behaviors BPD folks have including his impulsive decision to kill Chihiro, which he regrets immediately afterwards.

[@JuniperClouds-ps1it]

I write a character that has many of the traits of BPD with out realizing it. I want to not put stigma on the illness, but the behaviors are a big part of what influences the story. Taking out the traits would drastically impact everything that happens. So I'm hoping to write it, but not romanticize it.

[@williamharper6625]

I think Blitzo from from Hell of a Boss may have this disorder.

[@Yasmine._.326]

Bpd when they fall in love its the most terrifying thing

[@user-mm7jn6bh6l]

I’ve always thought that bojack has npd not bpd

[@nineinchthread]

He could have both he definitely seems to have bpd I wonder if Mr peanut butter has something like that ,an disability or depending on someone

[@user-mm7jn6bh6l]

@@nineinchthread i don't see bpd traits in bojack except for recless behaviour but narcissists also engage in dangerous activities because of the emptiness inside or boredom. All his other traits are 100% narcissistic for me.

[@sydphinfan]

I’m only in season one, so I could be totally wrong. But I think the fear of abandonment is such a huge element in Bojack. I think the reason he is so obsessive over Horsin’ Around is because he had a family in Horsin’ Around moreso than the fame and wealth it gave him. I think we see a really unhealthy relationship with Sarah Lynn because of the attachment between them rather than purely sexual reasons because we don’t see that really with other young/successful characters that elevate his status. He also does a lot of things out of triggering moments, I think, that may affect his status negatively. And I could be wrong, but idk if that is as fitting with npd. But I’m interested to discuss it for sure :)

[@JExclamation]

@@user-mm7jn6bh6lBojack is the closest thing to a representation of BPD that I’ve experienced. It comes off as narcissism, but it’s not. It’s manipulativeness because he’s scared of being abandoned (by Todd, by the world, like he was by his family). He feels that he needs to stay relevant at all times and he does terrible things to do so. He keeps Todd down so he doesn’t leave him. His feelings about other characters change from idealization to hatred on a hair switch. A big plot point is that other characters seem to think he’s a narcissist, but the show does a great job at showing that he’s not. Bojack cares about other people immensely and he feels bad when he snaps out of episodes. He bounces back and forth from being destructive to himself and others to trying to give the world to people he feels he wronged. The show also ties everything back to his parents and a feeling of inadequacy, loneliness, and fear of abandonment (textbook BPD).

[@jamesdeek7039]

I have BPD, and they left. Its a pain i cant even describe. I identify with gatsby so much with how he feels about daisy.....

[@skytalksbooks8920]

@@jamesdeek7039 I’m so sorry to hear that. The pain of someone leaving really is soul crushing

[@jamesdeek7039]

@@skytalksbooks8920 it's funny because it's a big parallel to Gatsby's situation. It was around 5 years ago, my life for the longest time was modeled after getting her back in delusional ways, I built up a impressive persona to try and win backwhat was in the meanwhile she's moved on with a new partner and life.

[@skytalksbooks8920]

@@jamesdeek7039 God I’m so sorry… I know it feels impossible right now, but there is someone out there for you and you will find love again

[@jamesdeek7039]

@@skytalksbooks8920 i really appreciate it, I wish more awareness and representation of BPD was out there, I really enjoyed the video. Best wishes

[@TravellerZasha]

I have BPD, all 9 in the criteria, and i found out thanks to the BPD coded character is Catra and I have mixed feelings on coded BPD characters. I can relate to these characters but they rarely show the good or the hope for these characters, they just become usually tragic characters or signmatized as "evil". BPD people also usually come from childhood abuse/trauma usually abandonment. I just would like more BPD coded characters to have a happy ending cause BPD can be treatable as I'm working on myself :)

[@xandercrew6088]

That’s just it though…most BPD people never experience a happy ending…

[@JTMUSICCHANNEL]

Please do an Anime charecters with BPD

[@laurenmungaray3912]

I think Blitz from Helluva Boss is bpd coded.

[@bryanbarton]

I think prince John from Disney's Robinhood has BPD... 👑🦁

[@icecoldbeauty]

I see a lot in the comments, but Jinx 100% lul I would love to see an anime version of coded bpd characters!

[@alphadog3384]

I'm guessing your accent is from the U.K. (Ireland). Lovely to listen too. How did you get involved speaking about BPD? Not a movie buff so this was interesting to listen to.

[@skytalksbooks8920]

I’m Irish 😀 thank you! I was diagnosed with bpd in my 20s so it’s something i have experience with!

[@alphadog3384]

@@skytalksbooks8920 Family in Ireland as well. When l was in my 20s l had no idea why my life was falling apart got my diagnosis much later. Still dealing with the fallout at times. Triggers, Communication. Sometimes it's hour by hour. I'm sure you understand.

[@alext4663]

I NEEEEDD ONE ON ANIMATED CHARACTERS OR ANIME

[@lensenstark9819]

Bojack’s symptoms would align far better with npd than with bpd or any other mental illness for that matter. I don’t know why he would be an icon for people with this illness. Bpd and npd just overlap in some aspects.

[@D.M.S.]

That lamp though.

[@starscreamthecruel8026]

I think G Girl from my Super EX Girlfriend has BPD and her arch nemesis has something very similar.

[@inferiorinferno8859]

I feel like part of why BPD is so stigmatized, is that people aren't really properly informed about it either. Just take a look at the number of comments talking about Jinx- she's in a psychosis induced battle with her inner child, her actual sense of self isn't unstable at all. An unstable self often can create fluctuating interests, Jinx hobbies' remained the same. She is able to think of and carry out plans and control her anger to a certain degree. She only has outbursts when she is triggered. That's not having BPD, that's being a teenager who has developped a psychosis due to untreated severe PTSD.

[@TravellerZasha]

BPD usually stems from childhood abuse/trauma. Your points actually make Jinx BPD at least from my experience having BPD. Unstable sense of self actually means identity issues which can mean different things to different people but that battle with your inner child especially in a psychosis level counts as I have that. Outbursts when triggered also is a part of BPD which I have too. Also I was diagnosed with unexplained psychosis and untreated PTSD as a teen so technically it's more Jinx would grow up to develop BPD at adulthood.

[@wendi2819]

All dramatic movies has one or several mental/emotional disorders....movies would be boring without that drama/tension. TBH, a very old movie IMO is the best study, Who's AFRAID OF VIRGINIA WOOLF is the best study. George Segal is such a narcissist. Martha is a 10 BPD with alcoholism. REAL HOUSEWIVES and 90Day Finance' have many many BPD, NPD, and ASD real life people! None of their behaviors are normal or solid and mature. And not all of that is an act either. Many have been arrested and jailed in real life.

[@mariebrassart9868]

Great video! :D

[@skytalksbooks8920]

Glad you liked it! Thanks !

[@jackk724]

Invest in a mic stand, then you don't have to hold it. And a pop filter, will decrease the plosives.

[@aooa25259]

do more on bpd coded pls

[@SoloEmpireOfficial]

Let’s get a part 2

[@CoCoLaFousFous]

Great video, but seriously why don't KZbinrs buy mic stands?

[@RaysDad]

Maybe Harley Quinn is a coded bpd. I should know since I attract bpd ladies like a magnet. They're like "Please be my favorite person so I can make your life a living hell because I love you so much that you fill me with rage!"

[@loquez_133dg5]

Great video very informative

[@SkyFlower-hn5wg]

I have BPD and ADHD, so the Mad Hatter is literally just me lol

[@fairenwanders]

I love ur bacterial contamination pfp omg (Also same LMAO-)

[@rileyrobinson4259]

I would like to add that lady from baby reindeer, sadly

[@rotomwash0355]

I suppose if one misunderstands a character enough, one could shoehorn anything into or onto anything. Reality is not required and neither is being correct. Well done illustrating the fantasy.

[@Lastplace_27]

part 2 ?

[@beyourself9162]

Right it’s stigmatized but some people with BPD play the victim role so perfect that they at least deserve to be told that they are responsible for their part of the game called life. You can’t act like a three year old girl … as soon people want to hold you responsible for your actions… sorry it’s my BPD… yes people run as fast as you can from a malignant BPD person because it’s absolutely draining … do I have compassion yes but not limitless…

[@EclecticallyEccentric]

Of course some people with BPD play the victim role and refuse to accept responsibility for their actions. And no one with it gets an excuse to hurt others because they're in pain. However, the stigma that surrounds it is a big part of why so many people with it refuse treatment or never seek getting a diagnosis. If people believe that most people with BPD are abusive monsters, or that they can't be victims (some people with it are much more likely to wind up abuse victims than perpetrators), and that people with it are incapable of change, it does much more harm than good.

[@beyourself9162]

@@EclecticallyEccentric … we go in cycles… it’s not important what others believe it’s important what the person with BPD beliefs. The main problem is people with BPD watch out for validation in other humans. Than there is that believe it doesn’t work out anyway. How can you know if you never tried if DBT works. We have DBT Videos here on YT there the self help DBT book by M.L. For me the point wit Traumatic experiences is. The first step is not to listen to your feelings anymore and to make a conscious decision to break the cycle. And it’s not the other people or society. Nobody can judge you except yourself. It’s just taking care for yourself and asking for help. It’s not easy with or without BPD everybody suffers in one ore multiple ways. Life is suffering stop thinking that you are a special case in suffering- you are not. It’s not easy but Selflove starts with your own first step. Many therapists told me that my trauma is not treatable because I was there years old. But I did not gave up and now I am in body based trauma therapy. Best thing ever. I have to say Ialso meditate up to 2 hours a day. Meditation is a big healer. Before anyone of those “I want to stay in my victim bubble “ women writes that if doesn’t work. Write me back when you did it for at least 12 month every f. day. It’s possible to heal your wounds your inner child your pain body. But it won’t happen sitting in the corner waiting for the prince saving you. This is more of your same old behavior. Growing is taking responsibility that good things will happen. You only live once get your ass up and do the work…

[@EclecticallyEccentric]

​@@beyourself9162I'm currently in DBT and working on myself, so your advice about getting off my ass and not wallowing in pain is unhelpful at best.

[@dante72k]

What is a sociopath ? Successfull

[@katiefitz79]

well done 👏

[@SniperJade71]

Trevor Philips from GTA 5.

[@taylord4284]

where is dennis reynolds

[@RoronoaZoro-uy7zj]

HOME LANDER

[@ShannonsChannel]

My comment disappeared before I hit comment :- Okay so I have read a lot about BPD over the years and this was interesting. I don't see Gatsby as BPD but definitely Joe Goldberg!!! I would say his is comorbid with Anti-Social Personality Disorder, but it could also be NPD like you said. Interesting stuff. Now that I know you love Joe like I do, I have to find a video url to put in the comments for you... ;)

[@sydphinfan]

I think this video does a really good job of explaining Joe’s behaviors that resemble BPD. It definitely convinces me a bit. But I think this is a really big distinction between book Joe Goldberg and tv show Joe Goldberg. Book Joe Goldberg does not truly care for anyone. There is no Paco character, there is no Ellie. There are no characters he is truly empathetic or protective of. He completely lacks empathy in the books, further than just impulsivity and anger. I’d be interested to discuss this and how you may agree/disagree because I LOVE the you series (books and show) and just named my new kittens Love and Forty Quinn :)

[@ShannonsChannel]

@@sydphinfan Hmmm... interesting, Sydney. I don't feel the character is so different from the book Joe, but it's been a few years since I read the 1st one and the 2nd as well - the TV series has most likely replaced my mental image of book Joe. The 1st book is one of my alltime favorite books though. I LOVED the narrator's voice SO MUCH! I found the series voice overs quite a bit like his internal dialogue in the book.

[@sydphinfan]

@@ShannonsChannel it’s also a disadvantage to try to compare book Joe to tv Joe because so much of Joe’s emotion in the show comes through nonverbal language rather than what he explicitly states. In the book I believe we don’t see much emotion, certainly rage more than anything, which makes me think they’re different. The book doesn’t explicitly state very often if Joe is crying whereas we do get to see that in the show. Guess we’ll have to ask Caroline Kepnes! :)

[@Yyyram]

I think some more positive characters would have helped. Bc I was just diagnosed and I’m crying that ppl think I’m darth Vader or bojack. :(

[@BellaLaree]

:( sending hugs. I too wish there was more positive BPD representation in media. BPD doesn't automatically make you a bad person, it literally just means your brain functions differently and you have to work a bit harder to function in society.

[@thehoopmagician2672]

My ex called me anakin a lot and I just found out I have this disorder

[@SoloEmpireOfficial]

Becker definitely feels like a Borderline

[@A_n_y_t_i_m_e]

Move aside - there's no better female character than Mimi in Roman Polanski's Bitter Moon. Period.

[@aliencatmeow]

Yes Jinx

[@TheKnightOfZ0]

Lelouch does it the best

[@ykaromarques6383]

BoJack is NPD, not BPD.

[@jelly3050]

I think bojack fits both npd and bpd, I think he probably has comorbid bpd and npd, or just npd

[@jelly3050]

Especiallt when it comes to inside experiences lime a extreme fear of rejection and abandonment, a feel of being numb and not knowing who u are, a need for validation/reassurance, changing yourself to fit what someone wants from u for love, lovebombing

[@jelly3050]

Oh, and a fluctuating of their opinion on themselves

[@jm-_-4753]

4:18 aren't all ppl like this?????

[@Unfortunatelyidiotic]

Nope

[@sperk01]

its also the disorder that makes people go through psychopathic self states (when splitting), of emotional manipulation, pathological lying, ethical short-sightedness, spoiled behaviour, and the disorder that ues real or imagined victimhood as a cart blanche for emotionally leaching off of people. i know you have all the cliche answers prepared but let me save you the trouble and tell you ive read them all, agree with them all yet still insist that theres not much responsibility and owning up to from at least the ones that have already admitted they have a problem. it still magically somehow keeps being all about them. i pray to jesus and every other imagined magical being one day someone will offer a balanced approach that doesnt invalidate either them or their victims. balanced is the key-word you will ignore while reading all this. you will ofcourse focus on the fact that i had the nerve to point out the negatives. and theres no better example for me to prove my point that you doing exactly that. so please prove me wrong.

[@reqorium8664]

You seem mad and aggressive, why? This was noted in the video in the commodity of BPD and NPD, seems like your comments are focusing on NPD due to the 'no responsibility and not owning up to it' section. But let us not forget about nuance and exceptions for everything. I'm not sure what you are looking for in an answer.

[@TravellerZasha]

if you read them all then surely you would've known that it is possible to be treated for BPD right? And no it's not balance the most common one is DBT therapy.

[@sperk01]

@@TravellerZashathe second sentence is incoherent but yes. its treatable, even if hard to do so. i still think one should include owning up to the negatives of BPD if they trully want to change the stigma. pretending these are traits that only people with NPD have is misleading and does more harm to the purpose than good.

[@kaliyadiggs]

Jay Gatsby is NPD 1000000%

[@wormwoodcocktail]

The most emotionally painful? _Really?_

[@TravellerZasha]

Fun fact alot of BPD's are also INFP's and usually come from abusive childhoods. Try living with constant emptiness, urges to kill yourself or harm yourself, constant fear you'll be abandoned no matter what by everyone you ever loved, feeling like you are possessed when angry, struggling with reality and identity, constantly failing your relationships and having all the heartbreak and shame of it, the shame from being stigmatized, constant mood extremes and impulsivity and every emotion you ever feel is 10x stronger than an average person on a daily basis and see if that's not emotionally painful.

[@wormwoodcocktail]

@@TravellerZasha Yeah I think being psychotic is a little worse

[@Pvppy_dr3amz]

@@wormwoodcocktailI think like 50% of pw bpd experience psychotic symptoms. It's one of the diagnostic criteria. In terms of emotional pain I think people consider BPD to be the most painful emotionally is because the disorder is centered around extreme moods,lack of a self or self image and unstable relationships whereas Psychotic disorders are based on delusions, hallucinations, and disordered thinking and can be effectively treated my medication. BPD has no medication treatment and therapy has a below average success rate and can take years. If not the most painful it's definitely the #1 hardest disorder to treat

[@meyveliuzum]

slayed

[@skytalksbooks8920]

You’re so sweet, thank you ❤

[@meyveliuzum]

@@skytalksbooks8920 :p no thank u

[@Nopenonameok]

Ugh why all male characters?

[@hibaanabtawi470]

Haha u are funny

[@fuadhasan3839]

I have been trying to understand my Ex who has undiagnosed BPD after he dumped me. But the more I tried to understand him the more angry I am to him. It makes me feel like BPD is just bunch of people who makes a lot of excuses to be selfish and hurting others.

[@CatsbyMorningstar]

Hi, person with diagnosed BPD here. I know this is a shitty explanation but most of the time, people with BPD can’t control their actions or reactions, no matter how much they rationalise the situation or place logic on it. It’s just something we physically can’t control even though we’re aware of it.

[@kzbernabeu3674]

I know it's painful....and I wish it hadn't been such a bad experience for you, But Please Don't assume an entire group of people are a certain way based off your experience with just ONE person. That's remarkably bad logic and extremely stigmatizing.

[@SwampyTackitt-pm7sq]

I totally understand where you are coming from. I'm ngl, a lot of people with bpd tend to do awful things sometimes. I've screamed at people in public over personal matters purely bc I just genuinely didn't have control. In front of everyone in our social circles without thinking. Keep in mind I have adhd aswell which also causes impulsivity. Anyways, BPD anger and our mood swings are incredibly strong, causing it to be really hard for us to hold back. That said, that DOES NOT make the bad actions we make ok. I understand your veiw %100 bc some people with bpd do use their condition to excuse their actions, but that's not all of us. In any case, if your ex did make excuses for his shitty actions, that's on him and I'm sorry you weren't treated right. You deserve someone who is healthy and makes you happy. (For reference, I'm a teen with a ton of BPD traits, but I've also been in therapy to help myself be more aware of my issues.)

[@LilacSreya]

It’s no more “making excuses” than people afflicted with Alzheimer’s being forgetful. It’s just an illness like any other. The more non-judgemental, non-stigmatic, awareness is spread, the more treatment would be available to help everyone.

[@TravellerZasha]

Another person with BPD here. I know it's hard to understand especially when they dumped you our logic thens to be illogical sometimes. We aren't trying to hurt others if we are that's not BPD, we just have been hurt/abused and/or abandoned in the past sometimes multiple times that all we know is pain, wee also tend to feel a lot and were never taught how to express it. We both love and are afraid of love and this gets too intense sometimes and we're scare our trauma gets repeated so we jump to our emotions than logic. We also don't know ourselves and sometimes don't view ourselves as good people. If you chose to understand BPD remember to separate your ex and the BPD. What your ex did doesn't 100% apply to every BPD and BPD can explain but not excuse your ex's behaviors also BPD is possibly treatable with a ton of specific therapy

[@erika2m16]

This needs to stop 😑😑😑

[@RRed04]

What is "this"? . _.

[@homocide2625]

My gf has bpd and is the best person ive ever met

[@bleedingbellybutton9403]

Punpun from oyasumi punpun and Aiko are a textbook covert narc and BPD couple

[@bara-9136]

Who Is the bpd?

[@panopolee]

Aiko