I spent a day with BORDERLINE PERSONALITIES (BPD / Emotion Regulation Disorder)

[@AnthonyPadilla]

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[@mayakeller2023]

omg wow thatscool

[@pudding3134]

Wow

[@kaylynno_kae7919]

Can you do one with epilepsy please! It would mean the world to me!! I have daily seizures and I want to see more epileptic representation! 💚

[@jillianwakeman1159]

Ooo I'm excited!

[@smugdute9416]

Your last video was made on my birthday.

[@kraftykris1041]

The most tragic thing about people BPD is their disorder usually pushes people around them to want to leave which is their biggest fear.

[@killuanatsume]

....Yeah, that's sad.

[@vivianleung2262]

I feel this😢

[@aqqaluolsvig1564]

I had a friend that I wouldn't ever want to lose, which I actively drove down the friendship to ruins just so I could "get it over with" quicker to process the pain faster of losing someone than try to mend it because I feared it, and felt like it's something that would happen anyway

[@kate8351]

💯

[@kadenwootan5090]

That’s what happens to everyone I love and anything I touch..

[@ShAk3nBaK317]

“your emotions are like a dance dance revolution game”

[@nicoleglaser6404]

As someone with BPD, this analogy is actually very accurate. 🤣✌

[@bkdcomics5579]

Its like being dealt the wrong cards as a child

[@kitchensinkchronicles3272]

that’s honestly one of the best descriptions i’ve seen

[@pestbarn]

I suck at DDR _and_ my BPD, so yeah!

[@Khritter]

hahaha, i play DDR competitively and struggle with my BPD, it all makes sense now :'))

[@notacommunistorganization5108]

I'm having flashbacks to the guy who asked, after someone said "BPD" "what police department is that" Followed by "I just googled it and I'm so sorry"

[@CaliforniaGirl49]

BAUAHA OOOPS

[@migsy1]

Yes

[@emmaolivera3018]

Omg I remember that 😂 😂

[@millamya]

Where can I find that? Lol

[@cspahn3221]

omg what a treasure

[@mallarieluvsgirls]

bpd is more than big feelings. it’s the worst pain you’ve ever felt times 100. it’s so painful and it causes people not to like us due to how emotional we are. it’s so excruciating. i don’t think i’ll ever be normal or have good relationships

[@jademolina6315]

yup.

[@kennedyr.7270]

Couldn’t have said it better myself

[@sadlad444]

Man I felt this to the core. :(

[@DetteBavid]

I feel you ❤

[@eden.stjames]

yeah. everything breaks my heart. i just want to be loved by my favorite person the way i love them.

[@mayochupenjoyer]

I met a girl with BPD during my stay at a psychiatric hospital and she was so so sweet and still my friend today

[@angrycactus158]

I hope you’re doing well after your stay :) I’ve been to a couple hospitals and I know they don’t always help the most so I really hope you’re doing well

[@aquaaack422]

Thank you for the positivity 🥰

[@svntn]

hope you’re doing well! haven’t had the best experiences with hospitals in the past, but i’ve met my bestfriend during a 4 weeks stay. couldn’t be happier that i finally found someone i could relate with.

[@wolfiejor7124]

I hope you're doing alright after your stay I have been to a few myself and and glad you are friends with her still I'm sure she really needed it :)

[@L0rdOfThePies]

Glad to know other people with BPD can have steady relationships! I can't manage it because my paranoia and anger takes over

[@amethyst867]

“When you don’t think you’re worth anything you tend to gravitate towards people who will treat you badly.” I felt that ...

[@holliberry144]

And towards people who are "broken"

[@MissesWitch]

ohhh.. 100%

[@WhitsWildWorld]

Oh my life makes sense now lol

[@robynw8223]

This makes sense. They also ruin relationships with good ppl as a self fulfilling prophecy

[@akashicskies3732]

Me too

[@hothamandcheesesandwich]

The psychologist that diagnosed me with mild BPD told me "Good luck finding a therapist to talk to, nobody wants to work with BPD people because you all are manipulative". Thanks dude lmao 11/5 update: I just spoke with a counselor who is referring me to an intensive outpatient DBT program. I’m super excited ❤️

[@fancydeer]

literally my first doctor (the one who diagnosed me when I was hospitalized) wouldn't put bpd in my file as a diagnosis b/c she said I wouldn't be able to find a doctor willing to work with me. she sat there and looked me in the face and said "i'm putting suspected personality disorder" (or something like that) "in your file but your diagnosis is Borderline Personality Disorder. I just want you to be able to find a doctor and not scare everyone off."

[@hothamandcheesesandwich]

@@fancydeer I’m so sorry you experienced that. We are not scary! The stigma needs to disappear.

[@pipperminty]

Shawna Keating Yep. Mine refused to even test me when I brought up the fact that I was having a worrying amount of symptoms (I still am). She said I couldn’t have it because I’m not horrible. 🙄

[@thandekavilana587]

I’m so so sorry❤️

[@aquaaack422]

You're not alone! 💕

[@demonoflight1393]

My wife has bpd. I think it's actually one of the reasons we work. I tend to have muted emotions, but her more intense emotions tend to help me and my less intense emotions seems to let her temper her emotions off of me. I think we balance each other. I love my wife and I don't think it is necessarily a bad thing in our relationship. It just is.

[@mattk2370]

Same, glad to see that it works for you. I usually can help keep her balanced, and she's able to help me actually feel something. We're just on opposite ends of the spectrum.

[@naylo994]

@@libragirl8078 Bruh??

[@isabellelindenfelser9569]

That comment literally made my day. Gut my diagnosis yesterday and there's so much awful comments about bpd and especially relationships with people with bpd

[@Tincanturtle]

I wish I had a wife with bpd

[@Tincanturtle]

Hm, never thought ab it this way. No wonder I’ve always had a sense of attraction towards females with that kind of tendency. I guess opposites attract and them having extreme emotions is great complement to something I lacked

[@pokelover02]

"When you don't think you're worth anything, you tend to gravitate toward people who will treat you badly." Never have I heard a truer statement.

[@54janete]

"We accept the love we think we deserve"

[@berries5340]

yeah..

[@dawndunn122]

So answers a lot of questions!😮

[@thereallifestarg1rl]

Anthony is the only interviewer I will ever trust.

[@konstantinosntontis1885]

Trueeee

[@vunga8195]

@@thaliakalli4207 who? Trisha?

[@KameroonEmperor]

I'd trust Eric andre too tbh

[@Anything.for.Salinaaas]

And Sean evans lol

[@knivesandp3ns]

what about nardwaur

[@onaelizabethwee1425]

I would love to see “I spent a day with people having Schizophrenia”

[@FairyLoe]

He’s working on it right now!

[@juels508]

oh geez, my grandmother is schizophrenic and it can be very not easy

[@onaelizabethwee1425]

Tae's Place i can only imagine... best of wishes to her

[@isabellamarrinnaa]

i second this

[@annhollander6704]

@@juels508 I understand, my mom suffers from this too

[@s0ypeach]

When Stacy said it’s shame, constant, constant shame. That shook me to my core because I’ve never heard a more perfect way of describing my bpd shortly.

[@idklogan3074]

Exactly, shame and guilt

[@s0ypeach]

@@idklogan3074 it makes you feel like you're the worst person on earth

[@megan1973]

it’s soo embarrassing. when i look back on what i did during my split im just so embarrassed and ashamed. the guilt is the worst part truly.

[@itsAuffy]

Fr

[@mikaela2331]

Dead ass can someone kindly explain… shame and guilt from what?

[@gabrielaxavier2395]

The fact that he admitted he did something wrong, was willing to manipulate someone... just wow... hes so strong and brave

[@Sekovatkain]

Absolutely. And the thing about BPD is that you feel immense shame and guilt over your behaviour, so admitting it to yourself is bad enough, let alone to everyone around you. But when I was coming to terms with my manipulative behaviour in past relationships, my therapist pointed out that the word "manipulate" has heavily negative associations and usually implies malicious intent, whereas people with BPD are usually driven by an overwhelming load of emotions and the mind is desperate to grab onto anything that can alleviate it. It's still damaging to the people around you and definitely not okay, but at least that helped me to deal with the guilt when coming to terms with it.

[@Sekovatkain]

@tackymoviesaboutlesbianwitches I fee like you may have missed the point of the comment. Of course it's not brave to manipulate, they were referring to the fact that he admitted doing wrong despite the stigma and shame. No one's trying to mitigate the experience of the victims here.

[@Sekovatkain]

@tackymoviesaboutlesbianwitches Ah, I see. I'm sorry you had to go through that. In that case you probably have no reason to empathise with people who have BPD, and I understand that. I know being the victim of abuse (emotional or otherwise) is traumatizing, I've had my share as well. All I can say is that recognizing your toxic behaviour is the first step for changing it, even if you can't take back the damage you've already done. And that can be hard too. Still, I'd rather we encouraged the will to change than stigmatized people forever.

[@wyattnicks2283]

@tackymoviesaboutlesbianwitches my abuser also had bpd but it feels a little bit innapropriate to say that someone should never ever be called brave for speaking up and changing just because they've done wrong. I'm sorry for what you went through but i see a disturbing pattern of people with bpd being demonized no matter what steps they make and I'm not sure how i feel about it.

[@Sekovatkain]

@tackymoviesaboutlesbianwitches I've only tried to communicate with you in an empathetic way, trying to understand your viewpoints and find common ground. I don't claim to understand your situation, all I said is that I know going through abuse can be traumatizing. Though I honestly don't understand why you're being so hostile right now. I didn't answer the other part of your comment because I didn't want to make you feel like I was invalidating your experience. Personally I don't think anything can be stated to be wrong "no matter the context" because the world doesn't work in absolutes. I think I'm done with this conversation now. I'm truly sorry you had that experience, but as someone with BPD who's done tons of work to make myself better, I also find it hurtful when people demonize us.

[@karma52387]

It would help so much to see a “I spent a day with ADHD people.” ADHD is so misunderstood to the point where people think only kids and males can have it. I could have got diagnosed so much earlier if there wasn’t such a stigma surrounding it! (edit: ALSO IT’S ADHD MONTH :))

[@Ja_cky7039..]

My teacher from last year has ADHD and some of my classmates took advantage of that she really struggles trying not to be distracted by the kids talking over her but knows how to manage her time

[@rafaelfilho5068]

no need to apologize for venting here, and your son couldn’t wish for a better parent, as long as you stick together, you got a family. a good one.

[@dominicrkent]

Wht is adhd? Please tell me..

[@EmmalovesLouis1D]

It’s also so different for everyone so each person would have a different answer for each question.

[@rafaelfilho5068]

emma rosalie so is autism, and he already made an episode with that. i think the dynamics can add more information, and even though there are very different symptoms, the core ones are mainly the same (inattention, executive function disorder, hyperactivity, and others [judging he would call combined patients, who have both inatention and hyperactivity])

[@formulacloth9971]

I’m surprised none of them talked about feeling empty, depersonalization, derealization, dissociating. I deal with those symptoms the most and it would’ve been nice to hear their experiences.

[@BlackxPegasus]

Because every borderliner is different and maybe they dont deal with this.

[@HiHi-lt1cb]

I feel all of this stuff too! Everyone's experience is difference, but its nice to hear that at least someone else feels these things too

[@Asmrrubylee]

Dude so bad I dissociate several Times a day for long period of times

[@aseeladel7096]

Came here to make the same comment. The feeling of emptiness is chronic and I feel it now more than other symptoms. Maybe because I learnt positive coping mechanism but again I guess every experience is different.

[@planetley]

I have BPD and I usually don’t discuss these symptoms because I feel ashamed about them. So I can understand why they may have decided not to share about this part.

[@arithenugget5569]

“I had a desire to manipulate someone to be with me “ is such an amazing self realization to have. It’s very hard to admit and even see yourself. @6:06

[@N0p3er5]

A doc tried to diagnose me with this, and I'm completely opposite. I mostly don't want the other humanoid apes anywhere near me. If they are near me, they must understand my need for space, AND watch Space Jam with me.

[@Nova777XP]

@@N0p3er5”humanoid apes” isn’t that what you are too? 💀

[@N0p3er5]

@@Nova777XP yes, and your point? At least I can think for my apey self (:

[@N0p3er5]

@@Nova777XP notice my language if you can read... "the other humanoid apes" .

[@ShakirahIbaad]

@@N0p3er5you might want to consider looking into an autism diagnosis. It’s often misdiagnosed as BPD as it has some of the same features.

[@spookyfirkser]

When I was in college, newly diagnosed with BPD, I was in a psych class taught by a licensed, practicing psychiatrist. When BPD came up, she went on a long tirade about how even mental hospitals shouldn't bother to try to treat these hyper-manipulative, evil, incurable women. I was lucky that incident made me angry at her instead of myself, because that could have been devastating. She was supposedly reprimanded, but as far as I know, she's still working.

[@poxytronpox]

Let's get her fired. Do the world some justice

[@storyworldofem]

That's absolutely horrible!! BPD is so misunderstood and just because they find it difficult to treat right now doesn't mean they shouldn't bother! We've gotten better at treating mental illness in the past few decades, at least if you compare it to how mentally ill people were treated just a hundred years ago, but it's still not good enough. All people deserve a chance at a good, happy life.

[@zaboomafooba]

Big big yikes. Horrible... just yikes.

[@CasLgbt]

I toke a psych class in highschool when I was at the height of my BPD and I'm very glad BPD never came up because I wasn't diagnosed yet and if that teacher (one of my favorite ones) talked about BPD and then shamed people who had it I would have been ruined because as soon as I know what BPD was I knew I had it just from how people described it and their experiences with it, some people suck I'm sorry you went through that

[@michielmitchy6601]

Next episode, on things that never happend

[@BirdieBurrito]

My sister has BPD and her whole life people has just labelled her as a “brat” or “looking for attention”, which makes me so angry. People genuinely don’t understand the disorder and categorize these people as overreacting.

[@kristen5998]

My sister also was recently diagnosed with bpd. It’s difficult to get out of that mindset but I’m slowly learning and trying to be more empathetic towards her

[@jimzle]

Thank you for this comment! A common theme in our lives is being invalidated this way. I'm glad your sister has you!

[@alvinscztro]

what if everyone that blurts out the labels also have bdp, since they couldn't control their frustration directed to your sister? or even just 1 person.

[@brandonbrandon3856]

I hate it because we are seen as people who chose to just be assholes and just ugh:(

[@BirdieBurrito]

Kristen i completely understand. It’s hard, and it took me into adulthood to accept her and actually love her, as horrible as it sounds. I love her so much now and try to help her in anyway that i can.

[@katiekrazie]

I would love to see you do a “I Spent a Day with Formerly Homeless People”. My boyfriend recently transitioned out of homelessness and I think a video with more people like him would inspire and make him feel less alone.

[@Yemmi]

I would love this!

[@L._._]

I would love this too! I'm a recovering heroin addict and was homeless for 3 years in a tent under the freeway begging for money w a cardboard sign. Being homeless is a traumatic experience and it stays with you. It's really hard to get out of it .

[@Sl1mch1ckens]

@@L._._ aye big congrats on beating your addiction!! From one fellow addict to another thats great.

[@theonionsystem7779]

@@L._._ well done from fighting it and coming out on top but I'm so sorry that you went through that, it must of felt like it would never end and that every moment felt like an eternity I'm so glad you're out of that

[@somethingelse1096]

YES! I've never seen this been done before!

[@gabisucksatgaming7907]

As someone who has BPD, I’ve had a healthcare professional tell me that I might be faking my depression (I suggested it while in a paranoid breakdown). When I suggested I might need to be hospitalised, she said that I should slit my wrists and go to the emergency room and then they’ll take me seriously. She was someone I considered a friend because I’d been seeing her for 2 years. It still hurts.

[@roxywyndham]

damn that hurts, sorry to hear that. I have BPD as well

[@childeofepickness]

I swear some therapists are so messed up, like I’m sorry but isn’t their job to *help* you and not make you feel *worse* about yourself?

[@paulettekacprzak2634]

Sorry you've met such a therapist. Hope you find a good enough one :D

[@nooooooooope3809]

I hope you reported her

[@JB-mh5xy]

My last one told me "I am going to refer you to someone else because I don't want to be yet another woman who rejects and abandons you." That was cool.

[@anniepalmerpercussion4050]

As someone who has BPD, this video made me cry. It seems like no one talks about it, and it’s so misunderstood. I was diagnosed last year by my psychiatrist, and even my dad who is an ER doctor did not believe that I have it. Even some medical professionals don’t totally understand it, and it’s so hard to get better when your own parent can’t get behind it. Thank you for this video. This gave me a lot of relief, truly.

[@pdx13]

Annie Palmer Percussion i’m so so sorry. you’re valid and we love you 💖

[@tarledamanley2832]

Did your dad actually tell you he didn't believe you? Just curious because I know someone that says others don't believe her because they encouraged her to be honest with her therapist so she decided be honest with your therapist was the same thing as we don't believe you need help. I'm not assuming that's your situation just offering another side of the situation and hoping it may help someone

[@anniepalmerpercussion4050]

Tarleda Manley he actually told me he didn’t believe me

[@tarledamanley2832]

@@anniepalmerpercussion4050 Aww I'm sorry to hear that but proud of you for getting the professional help you need. Even though I don't know you I know your freaking brave 💪

[@fatinaezreen52]

May I know how to diagnose one..

[@meganz020]

“Emotion Regulation Disorder” - dude, that’s a MUCH more accurate name!! I’ve been taught that BPD is on the same wavelength as sociopathy/psychopathy. This video is really eye opening.

[@YoSoFunnyx3]

It was originally seen as a border between neurotic/psychotic which has since been mostly ruled out

[@kolsoymoroboto]

This is much more accurate. I have BPD and am in college for Psychology research. When the topic of BPD came up, most students thought it was Sociopathy/Antisocial Personality. I heard a lot of negative comments about manipulation and craziness. It made me very uncomfortable

[@daylight1992]

@@kolsoymoroboto I am currently taking Psychology and the way a teacher spoke about people with BPD... warning students that we should decide if we can handle the "extreme" disorders before we ever end up in the field "for our own safety". Logging out of the lecture didn't quite have the same power of standing up and walking out though

[@kingj6677]

Nice bangs

[@annastclair5898]

as someone who has it, it kinda is on the same wave length. its in the cluster-B disorders along with: narcissism, anti-social presonality disorder(sociopathy and psychopathy, theyre both the same thing) and histronic personality disorder.

[@fateemazahra4406]

*I spent a day with Anthony Padilla* I would love to hear him out too if he's comfortable doing so💕

[@ignaciocesar9973]

OMG YES

[@asia9005]

YESYESYES

[@invyonyoutube6061]

I mean this in the nicest way possible, but the way that this was worded really threw me off. We don't *need* anything. Talking about your struggles, especially to such a huge audience, is hard and scary and really stressful. He will talk about his life and his struggles when and if hes ready to and nobody should tell him otherwise. Please try not to pressure him to do things like this, even tho I know you don't mean it that way.

[@msladygagafan981]

ella ! אלה I agree. The wording is a bit assertive... Because People shouldn’t ever feel obligated to talk about their personal struggles. Anthony would do anything for his fans, I feel like the implication could put pressure on him.

[@Cloudaddy220]

We don’t ✨need✨ him or anyone else to open up about anything. Please stop looking at these people like disciples of mental health, Anthony seems like a great guy but there’s a difference between a stranger venting about their personal life for 20 minutes in front of a camera and a real psychoanalytical breakdown of someone to better educate an audience

[@sarahrose8029]

I have BPD. Im constantly empty and I cannot accept love from others because in my mind, they have ulterior motives. I grew up with a narcissistic mother, who to this day, will not change. She triggers my BPD every day, and its always all about her. Thank goodness I have two wonderful therapists and a good, solid group of friends at my new recovery home. Plus, my cat doesnt think im so bad, either ❤️

[@Puppylove82-gv3gm]

I honestly believe being raised by a narcissist is how BPD is born. They literally get you to go through ALL of the emotions with their evil tactics.

[@neonblkhole]

pets are so great they accept all your eccentricities in stride😭😭💓

[@kayeldoubleyou3875]

I would love to see "I spent a day with EATING DISORDERS" or like recovered eating disorder

[@anachronismboy]

I love how theres no people just like "heyyyy anorexia what's poppin, binge eating hey itz been a bit. what is up my man"

[@kayeldoubleyou3875]

@@anachronismboy I know right

[@Amber-ev5ui]

....or maybe people who had it in the past ? I don't think that'd be very ... appropriate? for someone suffering from anorexia to just talk about how they didn't eat today

[@Destinyisforlosers24]

@@Amber-ev5ui true but similar to drug addicts, like I’m sober but I’m still an addict. someone who has recovered from anorexia, despite having recovered they still have the disease.

[@annashreve24]

this would be interesting.. but eating disorders are competitive so i wonder if it’ll trigger anyone

[@sophiap857]

Anthony should do "I spent a day with suicide prevention hotline dispatchers"

[@thatoneemoboy6621]

Y E S

[@ves5657]

I know he already did a 911 dispatcher one. Which I know isn't 100% the same thing, but in a similar ballpark.

[@sophiap857]

@@ves5657 yea I watched it but I think they would have completely different stories

[@bewitchingborderlines7466]

well they all kind of suck so.......

[@franknfurter5336]

honestly they do not help.

[@maddiehardisky]

I've never clicked so fast. I have BPD and it's SO hard to find good representation of our disorder. The stigma around BPD is horrible. Most of the books you find on it are about getting away from us, how we're awful and manipulative and abusive and it's honestly so heartbreaking. I'm about to watch the video, knowing that I will find an interview that is fair and treated with kindness and understanding. Thank you for these videos.

[@inesfelix9693]

YES

[@user-ri6yi8ms9m]

exactly, It makes me want to distance myself even more when i see what kind of representation we have. an ex friend of mine stopped being friends with me because i had bpd

[@NataliaOliveira-vs8hs]

YES YES YES!!!

[@vinnyisnotokay]

exactly

[@tffpcw9998]

me too, i heavily recommend watching dr fox’s videos of bpd, here on youtube, they have changed my life

[@Felix57732]

I might be perfectly fine one moment and then my friend will say something that I perceive as even remotely negative, and I start to distance myself often without even realizing. I am constantly overanalizing facial expressions and the tone of someone's voice for traces of anything other that happiness and if my brain thinks it's found it then it's game over. It leaves me with very few friends and no one to trust, because I always assume that they're mad at me or they don't care or they don't want me.

[@reasondubenion9750]

I can relate to this extremely! I never understood why until the diagnosis.

[@JoyBoy1122]

Same here always over analyzing people even if they say they aren't anything other than happy

[@taylorndean]

i was recently diagnosed with BPD and have felt simultaneously relieved to have an answer, and also very.. well, scared, to be judged as a person all based on it's stigma that some people carry towards it. I'm still learning the very basics about BPD, and feel really overwhelmed about all of it; so for me, this couldn't have come at a better time. I'm so happy to hear from these guests about all their individual experiences with borderline and to know that people who are watching get a chance to better understand BPD, including myself. Thank you for all the amazing awareness you bring to so many groups of people that are often misunderstood, and just the stories in general you give a platform to. I always love learning about all the different challenges the guests on your channel face, and all the unique ways they overcome them and persevere! Thank you for being such a good host and always handling every topic with kindness and respect 🤗

[@DIRTCLOWN]

ily and anthony both aw i miss u on here and look forward to when you come back! but also no rush, im so glad you spent this time for yourself after everything, you needed that personal time! anyways ily

[@sav-]

Love you, Taylor. Hope you’re doing well.

[@heathen8059]

I was just diagnosed with BPD a few weeks ago. I feel super overwhelmed as well because I'm trying to understand how to handle. And it doesn't seem like there are "triggers" so I still don't know what to do help. I go to therapy again in November. I feel so scared to how my family is going to react 😞 my husband is super supportive though. If you ever need to talk then I'm here for you. A support system is a big deal with an mental illness. ❤

[@clowndude672]

Hi taylor! hope your doing good :)

[@bonnienetley1969]

I was just binging your videos when I got this notification! I hope your doing well x

[@0ppor2nity]

When I google bpd to find other people's experiences with it, I only ever find articles about how to deal with family members who have it, and how to deal with "their manipulative ways" 🙃

[@allienixon8959]

Because most BPD sufferers don’t want to get help and their loved ones are the ones who pay the price.

[@dcgreens1877]

@@allienixon8959 Also it's very hard to find the right treatment for. If you can get treatment many times it's not from someone who actually has the knowledge to treat it. I remember it took nearly 10 years for me to find DBT and by that point I almost didn't do it because every psychiatrist and therapist I went to wasn't capable of making any sort of progress with me no matter how hard they tried. It takes someone with a very particular set of skills and knowledge to help with it. Also, for so long it was very hard to study scientifically because it was almost always misdiagnosed and nobody knew how to treat it when it was diagnosed. A major catalyst in treatments and understanding now actually came from someone who had it, logged everything down, and figured out the inner workings and treatment of it through their own trial and effort which is pretty incredible to me.

[@sourgreendolly7685]

@@allienixon8959 bullshit. most people with BPD desperately want help but professionals won’t help them because of the stigma.

[@ustanchy869]

@@sourgreendolly7685 This is true, but it doesn't make the impact some people with BPD have any less devastating... I just hope more research can be done to really help people with BPD, in turn, helping those around them.

[@enviisyk]

YEP same with the other cluster b disorders like npd, aspd, and hpd

[@delaneydimarco8076]

When she said “if I had to boil it down to two main things, it’s the rage and the shame” that hit me right in the chest

[@vinyl1208]

i started crying lol bc i've never been able to put it into that simple of a sentence. it was just an overhwhelming "finally" feeling that dropped fucking weight first on me

[@PGOuma]

So true and add embarrassment for me

[@ElyseofEndrion]

Yeah, that made me upset too

[@tarinvernon7007]

Im sick and tired of these internet “profesional psychologists” telling everyone how much they support people with mental illnesess them tell everyone that “anyone who is showing sadness or is difficult should be marked as toxic and left alone until they magically heal.” This stuff is so common on instagram and makes me so mad. Thanks for the video.

[@annoyingfandragon]

It’s always “support mentally ill people” until our suffering is inconvenient for them.

[@SeaBlue1976]

They teach people to feel compassion but they suggest to run away from a "difficult"person I am difficult but i meed support and love more than normal people,i have bpd for God's sake,if u don't show me love as you claim to be a normal human being who else is going to help me to survive each day😢?

[@tarinvernon7007]

@@SeaBlue1976 Take care. Hope you have those caring people in your life. :) Dont let the internet bring you down

[@skeletongrl4evr]

please do “I spent a day with severe phobia disorder” as someone who suffers from an extreme “irrational” phobia, it’s something that drastically impacts my daily life and I would love to see other people who can relate to this and bring awareness to it Edit: thank you so much for everyone who has shared their phobias❤️ reading these comments have made me feel so much less alone in the struggles I go through everyday. Anthony PLEASE do this episode it would mean so much

[@kayblinky]

Mmhmm. I have an emetophobia.

[@thomasbirtles8632]

What are you afraid of?

[@sweetdisposition8085]

Me with my fear of throwing up it makes me afraid to eat bc what if I get sick..

[@橙子-p5r]

@@kayblinky I also have emetophobia, one of the worst phobia i swear

[@justwillis]

Yes, that is a good video idea. I have Extreme Claustrophobia, I remember having nightmares of being stuck in a tight cave with no space to move around. Worst moment of my life

[@ashcrack97]

When Anthony talked about the self shame associated with depression, I felt validated. I often felt guilty for being depressed while living a very nice life. Like I was thinking about how people have it much worse than I do and it’s wrong for me to feel this way. Thank you, Anthony, for mentioning that.

[@leeleeb7413]

I ended up having a huge breakdown from telling myself to suck it up because I had “no reason to be so sad”, and that my life was so “great” that I should be ashamed of being suicidal. Depression is really a monster!

[@d3adm3mori3s9]

I'm not diagnosed with depression but I feel that so much, the guilt is so so strong that I want to kill myself. Then I feel wrong for feeling that way because I have a good life and I take it for granted

[@leeleeb7413]

@@d3adm3mori3s9 The best thing I learned is that you don’t need a reason to feel depressed. Sure, sometimes there can be one like if you lose a loved one that meant the world to you or something. But sometimes it’s just something else. It’s something bigger than just a reason. I can’t explain it, but sometimes you just need help. And it’s okay to get help. It’s crucial to get help!

[@kyle-ts4ik]

that's how i feel :( how ironic that i keep telling people that their feelings are valid but i cant even validate my own

[@Getout634]

That's what I tell my mom. There are people being murdered right now and I'm mentally unstable for almost no reason. I get triggered so easily and for what? People are literally dying and here I am having mental breakdowns because I try to get in the shower but the waters cold? It honestly baffles me sometimes.

[@Chiefskeet]

This is the most positive comment section I’ve ever seen

[@violetkihara2161]

The first time I came to this channel I was soo shocked,,I watched 4 videos just going through the comments,I was like WOW,,I just wish I found this channel earlier

[@annalina5398]

@@violetkihara2161 honestly same

[@phy1lis]

if only the world was that way

[@leongeds1397]

Something that didn't come up during this interview that is important to know is that not all people with BPD are acting out in a way that can be easily seen! There are also people with BPD where the pain and emotional turmoil is first and foremost directed inwards, and there are not as many emotional outbursts. That can make it even harder to get the correct diagnosis, because by many people (including psychiatrists) BPD is always seen as something that is centered around acting out a lot and something that can easily be seen. I've been told by a psychiatrist who met me for the first time that "she didn't think I had BPD" after only talking for a short while, which is a mind boggling thing to me.

[@MsSwthrt102]

Quiet Borderline isnt in the DSM itself but it's real af!

[@activestruggle4170]

Same!

[@victoriam2614]

this describes me perfectly and i haven't been able to get a diagnosis yet because the symptoms i do have aren't too outwardly projected so a lot of people don't think i could have it but i always have all of these feelings that they described trapped inside my head because things like my adhd make me mask most of my emotions for other people due to fear of rejection and abandonment. that's what is so difficult about these things, because i know what's going on in my head but other people dismiss it because i direct everything inwards which can even make things worse sometimes not to be able to let things out.

[@activestruggle4170]

@@victoriam2614 agree!

[@victoriam2614]

a lot of times i'd get written off as "sensitive" when certain things happened that made my emotions be expressed in a more extreme way than others, which also contributed to me hiding a lot of my emotions and watering down everything i feel. i also had an experience where i told my therapist recently after not seeing her for a while that i had related to all of the symptoms for bpd and wanted to look further into it even if it could end up being something else, and she immediately told me "there's nothing else besides the adhd you're already diagnosed with that i could see you getting a diagnosis for." which then made me feel more invalidated because i know something else is going on, whatever it is, and just because a lot of my emotions get filtered for others and they don't see it right away, they won't even consider it.

[@DoopieDoodles]

This made me want to cry. This is something I've struggled with for so long, so hearing others share their experiences too feels both painful but relieving at the same time. Thank you for spreading awareness on this debilitating disorder.

[@yours5396]

I've been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, borderline personality disorder, ADHD, depression and anxiety in 2014 when I was 14. I never had anyone in my life who actively understood me or even wanted to empathize and genuinely help me, so seeing other people who struggle the same as me is so relieving. It really helps me feel less shame, and less alone! Blessings to you and your recovery! I currently have a boyfriend of nearly 2 yrs who has seen me in all my glory and never abandoned me, so it does get better, and there ARE people out there who love us back ♡

[@yours5396]

@BPD World thank you, theres always a voice that tries to convince me hes faking it or hes going to leave me but he FIRMLY stops that voice every time when he tells me hes here because he loves me and never wants to leave. I've been told that before but with him I know it's TRUE ♡

[@Bbbarbie]

》LorenaaaHTX 《 I have the exact same list of diagnosis’s as you so I understand and empathize with u so much

[@yours5396]

@@Bbbarbie ❤🥺

[@kantiislzzpy]

Facts im so happy he did this

[@Jo36528]

My mom has BPD and ive been trying really hard to understand her side of things so thank you for helping me understand her a bit more

[@mikaelaseabourne4557]

Daniel fox has some great videos for family members and friends of borderline people, I strongly suggest you check him out 😊

[@glassofjuiceplzj2022]

My mom also had BPD so I understand the confusion but just remember she’s not trying to do some of the things she does and it’s nobodies fault. Stay positive ❤️

[@krisj5561]

This is NOT a good video for it. As someone with it. Very disappointed in this video.

[@mikaelaseabourne4557]

@@krisj5561 can I ask why you feel that way? I didn't mind it, but we're all different and I'd be interested why you didn't think it met the mark?

[@blazearcanum]

There is a great 5min animated video by Ofir Sasson titled just 'borderline personality disorder' that helps show more of the complexity of the disorder.

[@asweatymelvn]

Both I and my girlfriend have BPD and what helps us a lot is noticing and supporting each other when we are falling into a hole or feeling overwhelmed, sad, abandoned or angry. We talk it out and reaffirm to each other that we love each other and that we are not broken or unfixable. We need to support each others emotions more than a "regular" couple but we both agree that we have never been in a more stable and healthy relationship. I plan on proposing during our trip to Japan next summer. I know she'll say yes.

[@quinngurney]

Omg that's like my fuckin dream my guy, good luck! I wish you both the best!

[@gracedavid8306]

How did it go?!!🎉

[@nioo2375]

we need an update!!!

[@Stephania006]

Update? :)

[@nuhvaa4280]

How did it go???

[@evasmakeupdiary]

As someone with BPD, I am ALWAYS a little hesitant when I see media discussing us, since we're so often demonized and misunderstood, but let me tell you, my little overly emotional heart is filled with joy right now! Thank you for giving us a voice and taking the time to listen, it literally means the world!

[@kiararose8896]

I honestly heard of BPD, but never actually knew what it was. Im so glad I was able to learn about it! I’m sad it is so demonized, it is not that hard to understand.

[@wren9479]

💚💚💚

[@evasmakeupdiary]

@@Urrur Oh you know I ugly cried and laughed a lot, because well, BPD :P

[@Delicaterose1212]

I have BPD and I’ve wanted him to do this for so long and I’m literally crying

[@neurotictapeworm]

Good for you! (I know I sound sarcastic, I'm being serious)

[@jessicalansdowne2779]

Me too

[@Megan-ir3ze]

Same!

[@melissatorres8198]

Same💖

[@greenspark101]

he 💗😂

[@chrisbael9474]

My names Christian, and I am medically diagnosed with BPD. She's right in saying mental health professionals sometimes refuse to treat us. I recently went to a mental hospital off a suicide attempt, and the doctor released me immediately as soon as I revealed that I have BPD. She said "we can't help you, you're too manipulative". She barely even talked to me for 10 minutes lol wth

[@sweetlittlenothing7696]

Similar experience,had to go to five separate mental health professional because I kept getting dismissed and it would always be "we find that people like you don't actually want help" or straight up "BPD is hard for us to work with" bruh it's hard to live with too but ok ig. Got misdiagnosed twice too.

[@lastdays8500]

@@sweetlittlenothing7696 If no one is willing to be there for you, please take my advice and just go to God and his word. Jesus healed people from all sorts and can do the same for you through the Holy spirit.

[@user-mr4pm7jv5e]

I have it also and it’s honestly a superpower. We are incredibly intelligent people to the point we are over intelligent and over emotional.

[@nyx-nuri.08]

@@lastdays8500 don’t bring religion into this that is just very insensitive

[@Myri114]

This is crazyyyy

[@rivergaming2393]

I have BPD and while I'm in a stable relationship it is VERY hard on not just myself but my wife.... I can literally go from fine or happy to crying or screaming in anger.... I also have autism and ADHD while with autism meltdowns it can make my BPD look SO MUCH WORK

[@Szcza04]

I understand your pain so much. I always am regretful of letting my emotions get so intense. But I’ve never been diagnosed, but I’m pretty sure I have multiple issues as well.

[@sarahrose8029]

I'm autistic too. I'll keep that part lol. BPD SUCKS!!!

[@erin8969]

Could you do spending a day with people who have OCD? I think that would be cool and insightful! (I fixed my typo sorry about that...)

[@rubyhernandez4837]

Erin that would be interesting

[@aslamahmed3606]

Whats OCD ??

[@cuckoobrain7999]

@@aslamahmed3606 Obsessive compulsive disorder

[@theaopdal54]

Yes yes yes!

[@Ella-gh7qh]

YES I HAVE BEEN ASKING THIS TOOOOO

[@colorbar.s]

Can we please talk about how people with BPD are often the ones being abused in a relationship instead of the other way around because it's so easy for toxic people to take advantage of? They're not always the villains.

[@mariannev9869]

It’s really sad about how many people only associate bpd with manipulative and toxic behaviors. Bpd roots from childhood trauma whether emotional or physical and I think that people try to ignore that with a really narcissistic attitude.

[@mariannev9869]

@PAESH the amount of serotonin I got from this compliment and you calling me milady was very enjoyable

[@nameunknown7]

Except it's usually the other way around. And because of unique issues with BPD often people with BPD will walk away feeling like they were the ones who were abused when in reality it was the other way around. Because of black and white thinking and issues with shame and guilt, many with BPD will block put their own behaviors. Misremember them or not remember them at all. They will also wrongfully see other peoples normal behaviors as being abusive or controlling when in reality it was the exact other way around. They will literally create false memories to justify their own behaviors. It's a terrible disorder and I'm not saying people with BPD aren't ever abused but abuse and manipulation from people with BPD is almost inevitable. My ex wBPD once told me that her kid was pitching a fit and that she thought she might hurt her and wouldn't care at all. She told me that she spent thousands of dollars on her exes credit card and that he deserved it because he was mean to her. This was after admitting to me all the terrible things she had said to him that caused him to be mean to her. It's a terrible disorder and I do empathize with anyone who has to live with it. But I more so empathize with the people who have been victims of someone with BPD.

[@nameunknown7]

@@mariannev9869 nobody is trying to ignore that BPD is caused by trauma. The problem is that doesn't excuse terrible and abusive behavior that comes from people with BPD.

[@mariannev9869]

@@nameunknown7 but when you are out through such trauma at such a young age (when your brain is developing), you are out into a position where you think that this is how people behave and how love works from family which can cause you to treat others like that without even thinking about. Keep in mind, this is literally a mental disorder. It can excuse multiple behaviors because extreme anger is one of the main symptoms of bpd. People with bpd have extremely strong emotion and take everything 100x stronger than most people. The point is how so many people only label people with bpd as abusive which ruins the entire understanding of it. Once again, because of the intense emotion, when a pwBPD hears that this is what people think about them, it makes everything worse. It makes THEM feel like the problem that should be gotten rid of rather than their behavior. Because of the brain development that occurs during the physical/emotional trauma, that is how our minds are developed. It can put beliefs in a distorted view (more symptoms like unstable self-image, black and white thinking). People with BPD can’t just control and calm down the behaviors they have and in most cases don’t realize it until a lot later on.

[@vmoonbeam6571]

If it’s possible at all, I’d like to see you do Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD.) I notice that people demonize those that have this disorder too. We’re all humans, I’d like to see somebody talk about this without passing judgment

[@znackuma]

I genuinely hope this will happen! I wrote a dm to Anthony long ago about this but as expected he didn’t respond (which is understandable with the sea of inquiries he gets tbh). Thank you so much for suggesting this!

[@plutototoh]

NPD is something important to learn about, for everyone's safety especially those who suffer from dealing with it! From my understanding, it's self-hatred turned outward.

[@ladyaki7069]

Yessss

[@dorkchou7033]

I'd love to see an episode like this! I rarely hear anything about this disorder and would really like to learn more.

[@leeleeb7413]

Would anyone that actually has a diagnosis of NPD actually be interviewed, or would they just sit there any say “But there’s nothing wrong with me. Everyone else is the problem!”

[@skribsketti]

I watched this when it came out and thought I was very similar, but didn’t question it. Now two years later and I was diagnosed with bpd. Rewatching this really helped me come to terms and made me feel less alone. I’m so thankful Anthony does these videos

[@HeartThrobThePony]

In a similar boat, but I can’t get diagnosed because I’m 16! But apparently this is my third therapist to think this though

[@MelinEvie]

Exactly the same here...

[@reaganrabuck395]

I love that Anthony is so open minded and he actually treats everyone like they are valid and I love that Edit: sorry if my wording made it seem that I think people aren’t valid. I was more trying to make a point that Anthony is such a nice human being and also, if I made my wording unclear I just thought it was nice that he doesn’t care because he is such a nice person... sorry again

[@emiliem4533]

the schuyler sisters

[@pluto1056]

angelicaaa elizaaa (but yeah i agree, he really does its great to see that)

[@jxstjohnny]

Wtf u mean? They are valid either way

[@reaganrabuck395]

Jxst Johnny yeah you’re right, but some people treat other people differently and I like that he doesn’t do that, sorry if what I said was unclear or sounded rude I did not intend it to sound that way

[@vintrudism]

How everyone should

[@HeAtHeR3386]

I've struggled with trying to explain BPD to my friends and family. After showing this to my husband he finally said "I'm so sorry that I have not been able to understand what's going on" he's always been there for me but now it is comforting that he understands just a bit more. To anyone who needs to hear it: You are NOT your disorder it is a PART of you. You are a WONDERFUL person and deserve to be loved.

[@amy-rz5lf]

omg thank you for the little phrase, I teared up

[@SirBlackReeds]

So what are you thoughts on Cluster B?

[@packnetadaija]

Thank you 😢

[@PGOuma]

Thank you

[@mingsworld888]

Awww I love that!

[@madisons9184]

I would love to see “I spent a day with people with PTSD” it’s not always represented well

[@imid3440]

yess! and not just war veterans etc.

[@felucca]

Maybe split it up into two different videos, one for PTSD and one for C-PTSD. (Could even do a third one specifically for war veterans that doesn't have to be about PTSD at all, I'm sure those guys have other interesting things to talk about as well.)

[@JJamieGreyy]

I sent him an email saying I was available for interview and included ptsd as an option to call on me for :)

[@justsomegirl7274]

I second this, as someone with C-PTSD I'd love to see it represented properly

[@yesouioo]

After seeing these comments I didn’t even realize I had C-PTSD (never knew the term). I was wondering why the treatment I was given just wasn’t working. But for PTSD it’s usually a one-off while CPTSD is usually a reoccurring thing like kidnapping or neglect (sorry of this triggers anyone). It feels really comforting to see others who have experiences like me.

[@erikerikson876]

I absolutely love these interviews because he's not just relying on the interviewees vulnerability. he expresses his own vulnerability as a way to connect and empathise with the people he his interviewing and it just makes the whole interview more engaging and I'm sure makes the people he's interviewing more comfortable with the experience

[@meqmeow5478]

Aspiring therapist here and I am cringing over how y’all were treated. This video is fueling the flame for me though 🥺

[@ihatechemistryyy]

i need a therapist

[@toryheartsdepp]

My first therapist yelled at me and was mad because we were making art and I didn't want to finish the drawing I started. That was when I was 16 and didn't go back to therapy till I was 28. Really didn't want to trust another one.

[@RoKer13]

I’m getting my PLPC hours right now and have a borderline client. I want everyone to know that you are not the problem. Society has failed everyone in some way. People with mental disorders just have a different way of seeing the world. That’s it.

[@RoKer13]

Torii Gonzalez I’m so sorry that happened. Therapists should work with you, not against you. That is such a breach of trust.

[@noone9177]

I had to do therapy bc of how I was left after some relationships with people with BPD. Completely fucked me up to the point where I couldn't trust people and completely cut someone from my life at the slightest behavior of BPD. It is extremely important to have therapists who know how to deal with people with BPD and people with traumatic experiences with people with BPD. Unfortunately both sides are victims in this situations like the girlfriend that the guy threatened to kill himself if she broke up, she was the victim of a toxic abusive relationship and he was the bastard. However he was a bastard bc he has BPD. So in a way both of them are victims

[@Pixielocks]

YAY IT’S HERE 💖 Not surprised you handled this with such grace and respect, thank you for this huge chunk of positive representation for our heavily stigmatized group! 🌈🌼🍀 Especially in recommending people do further research and not self diagnose immediately from this video- personality disorders are serious life long conditions and there are a loooot of other disorders that commonly get misdiagnosed as BPD! (ASD, C-PTSD, Bi Polar and even DID to name a few 💜) Definitely helps to get a second opinion and do some digging!! I recommend Dr. Daniel Fox on KZbin to anyone with BPD looking for some self help at home along with therapy if possible. Lovely episode Anthony 🥰

[@TheToxicRacoon]

Pixie!!!!!!! I was wondering if you’d see this lmao

[@maltesedoglovercandy]

i clicked to see if you'd be in the video, love you

[@jinniejinchimm]

Omg hI pixielocks! I didnt know you had that :(

[@smugbugs7031]

Thank you with the recommendation for a self help channel for us with BPD

[@Mikabell]

[@gracemurray103]

as someone with bpd, this makes me so unbelievably happy

[@alydailey7870]

me too, it’s almost never talked about

[@ValgerurBjornsdottir]

What can also be mentioned about the gender gap are people being misdiagnosed. It is fairly common that women with ADHD are first misdiagnosed with BPD since there are quite many symptoms that overlap (impulsive behavior that can be risky or self destructive, emotional dysregulation, higher chance of substance abuse, rejection sensitivity, to name a few) . When I was diagnosed with BPD, the criteria almost felt like it was made for me, but as I got older and changed environments, I no longer fit the criteria. 6 years after my BPD diagnosis, I was diagnosed with inattentive ADHD (ADD). If I remember right, I also read that men are commonly misdiagnosed with ASPD or NPD before getting their BPD diagnosis. I would love more studies on this because I think it could change a lot in the medical world and how they look at mental health.

[@melaniegrace7707]

Funny enough it was the opposite for me I spent years thinking I had ADHD and after going through thorough evaluation they think it was really BPD the whole time

[@cyberdelya]

Spend a day with autistic women! Autism is very different in males and females, which is not a wide known fact. Women with autism are usually diagnosed very late in life (30yr+) or they may go their whole life undiagnosed (due to masking).

[@mehta.snail.ouroboros]

Yes! Please we need that interview happening!!! 💜

[@valentinavillota3348]

If I'm not wrong, he already had a vídeo with autistic people and they do touch those topics

[@radioinactivescarlet_3348]

I got diagnosed with autism when I was 16 and in my opinion it was too late... The sooner you get a diagnosis, the sooner you can get the help you need.

[@Tiara_Princess7]

He does have this video. It is what introduced me to his channel. :) To clarify, he had women and men and not just women, but I still was so happy to see the representation.

[@cyberdelya]

Radioinactive Scarlet _ I got diagnosed when I was 19 and it really helped me! I think it just depends on the individual. Now that I am officially diagnosed with autism I’m able to be a lot kinder and understanding towards myself instead of ruminating my odd existence over and over all day long.

[@jonniluvena14]

If you feel a similarity to a disorder, absolutely go to a therapist for a diagnosis. Do not diagnose yourself, without guidance from a professional.

[@katievlcek7490]

yes, i agree! but i really hope you don’t get mad at people when they do self diagnose because they are unable to go to a therapist

[@jonniluvena14]

@@katievlcek7490 Oh for sure. Seeing a therapist in itself is hard to do for multiple reasons. I wish mental health care was actually taken seriously, with equal opportunities for all. Self diagnosing can be harmful to a person, including elevated stress levels. People should educate themselves to the multitude of mental and physical disorders, etc, but diagnosing should be done with professional care. But always take care of yourselves no matter what! And please research the free or affordable health care tools that are available near you. They exist! They may not be the best, but they do their best!

[@erectustesticulus3191]

Ableist to those with extremely high functioning agoraphobia/anxiety/avoidant personality disorder.

[@hadeslovelanguage1966]

How do I do that If my parents refuse to acknowledge mental health as a problem I can’t control ?

[@jonniluvena14]

@@hadeslovelanguage1966 Im sorry they are not validating you. It is hard for people to acknowledge pain within others for many reasons, but it is real, and if you think you have a problem (which I would like to point out is different from a professional diagnosis) or think you may need help, do some local research. Im going to assume you are younger, so perhaps there is a school counselor you can go to and ask for additional help, or potentially there may be a local free "teen" clinic that you could look up and see if they offer mental health services. You are seen and you are valid and I hope you can find the help you seek

[@largechungus5203]

My wife and I had to separate because her BPD was completely out of control. She became physical with me. I hated watching her suffer so much. BPD affected her 24/7 but she refused to get actual help. I'll love her forever. I wish nothing but good things for everyone that deals with BPD.

[@notactuallywill3620]

Sounds like my mom with my dad

[@franknfurter5336]

@@notactuallywill3620 I'm so sorry, I know how you may feel :(

[@punktic]

Ah, I hope she is okay, and you too.

[@MsLoki88]

I think it’s coming to the same point with my partner and I unfortunately. I love him with my whole heart, I always will, and it hurts my heart so much even thinking it knowing what he goes through every single day. It’s just getting to the point where I don’t know what else to do but he constantly pushes me away and the lows are so much more than the highs. I no longer get to see the amazing person I fell in love with 💔😔

[@imbublikthedoggo3976]

Yep, I understand you. That's what happened with my parents, when I was around 6 years old. The only memories my brain kept with my mom were only ones a child should not experience, but I'm grateful for everything that happened. It took me a while to accept it and I had maaaany struggles with myself too over the years, but today I'm at the best state of mind I've ever been. I really feel peace in my heart, which is so cool😆 I haven't seen my biological mom in years, and now, at the age of 18 I decided that I am ready to meet her again(as soon as the pandemic is over...). I know her condition has regressed so much and that she has literally nobody by her side, but I will be there, because I forgive her!

[@somethingintheway151]

I used to have BPD. I’ve heard BPD used as an armchair diagnosis and insult, by the people around me, not knowing that I had BPD. I have tried my best to suppress this part of myself, because I knew that if I showed the people around me this “dark side”, they would all run away. The people that I have shown this side all have. It takes so much effort to just stay alive, to suppress these mental illnesses for the comfort of others. I used to think I would rather just die, existing in this pain was just too much. But with a lot of self awareness, reading a lot of self help books, visiting a psych, going for therapy, taking my meds every day, I have improved so much. I am no longer diagnosed with BPD. It’s not easy, it took me years. But I just want to let all the people who have suffered this same illness know that, there is hope. It is possible to come to appreciate this life and all the things in it, in spite of your illness. Sending love to all the people suffering out there, you can do it. I see your efforts, trying to stay alive. And I am proud of all of you. Keep on the good fight, and never doubt that you deserve as much love as any human on this planet, in spite of your illness.

[@cmdzdre]

❤

[@labelle7231]

Congratulations! Can I ask if now that you’re not diagnosed with it still take meds?

[@username-re9yk]

You CAN'T cure BPD, you still have it or you never had it, it's not something that goes away. You live with it forever, you just learn how to deal with it.

[@IzabellaMay-mh4do]

this means a lot :)

[@xragdoll5662]

There’s no such thing as “used to be” you’ve seen girl, interrupted too many times

[@maddyrasmussen8697]

I'm a "quiet" borderline. Which honestly just adds an extra layer of shame and guilt because I still experience all of the symptoms without having the "proof" of big emotional outbursts. I feel like I'm constantly trying to convice those around me who only see the high functioning parts. This video is incredibly validating, and it brings me so much comfort to know that the dialogue around BPD is becoming less stigmatized and more accepting. Thank you ❤

[@Lea1999888]

Thank you for this comment I’m struggling with this so much as well it’s horrible

[@docingraham]

Ditto. ❤

[@GhettoBaebee]

Honestly you're lucky .

[@svntn]

YES. THIS. I have quiet bpd too and people close to me still don’t believe me to this day. i wish i could reccord whats going on in my head and my heart and show them. i wish i didn’t have to prove it all the time...

[@HighAsHeckPriestess]

Me too!!! People dont know what happens to me when I'm by myself. One negative thought makes me so depressed I wanna die, or so angry I wanna kill, or just remove people from my life without giving it thought till it's too late

[@mr1727]

I would love to see a "i spent a day with a person with narcolepsy" its so underrepresented, misunderstood and even ignored in the medical community! It would mean so much to see some representation, accurate vs the Hollywood version, as a person with narcolepsy!

[@remi1983]

Do you know Jinkx Monsoon? The winner of RuPaul's Drag Race with nacrolepsy....

[@neverloseyourvoice5263]

AS SOMEONE WITH NARCOLEPSY YES YES YES YES YES

[@neverloseyourvoice5263]

Also other similar sleep disorders like KLS, idiopathic hypersomnia, ect

[@floralgirls6821]

Omg yes

[@uglykrybaby]

my sister suffers with this as well as an meth addiction to stay awake... its so hard.. hey

[@jjcmuffinc4565]

I dated a girl with BPD, and she was the most lovely person i have ever met, but eventually she pushed me away and switched to another person. She has been through a lot and I really wish i could be there for her still to help her Edit: Thank you all for the likes and kind words, I have met my soul mate since posting this comment almost two years ago now, and she is finally the one. Have a good day everyone!

[@johanliebert6859]

As i exprience this myself i can say yes we act as normal person most of the time its just like things like stress and emotional outburst triggers it and we go berserk with full of rage and i guess she use to push you away becuase she didn't wanted to harm or hurt you , she really cared about you i guess and thats sweet

[@mystix4317]

Please pray for her healing and happiness, if you’re spiritually inclined 💜

[@jjcmuffinc4565]

@@mystix4317 I do every day, trust me

[@kelly-sophiemekel5531]

My boyfriend has a hard time with me too from time to time, but the thing that helps the most for us is open communication. I have years of therapy on my hand, and i'll always stay close to what i am feeling and experiencing. He'll rty to understand and explain the facts of the issue may be. We've been together for 4,5 years now and still goin strong!

[@zotuosy]

i'm sorry that happened to you. she likely split on you, its an unfortunate situation to be in.

[@StrwbrrySmmr]

Having been treated for BPD for a couple years now, I can say that even after recovering a little bit and learning to manage symptoms and irrational thoughts, the *worst* part of BPD is the stigma behind it. The moment people learn you have it, they seem to confuse you to be a narcissist or psychopath... it's really upsetting. Other than that, it's always been the overwhelming fear that you'll never get any better and that everyone will leave you.

[@missrandom7145]

Or they assume that BPD is DID.

[@self-care_warrior]

Many psychologists don't agree with calling it BPD because it's a really poor representation. Emotional regulation disorder doesn't exactly sound great either but it's more fitting than "personality disorder" and "borderline" makes it sound as if we're always teetering on the border of crazy town and that everyone around us needs to sleep with one eye open.

[@N0p3er5]

BPD is the new "hysteria". It is not real.

[@self-care_warrior]

@@N0p3er5 What do you mean?

[@N0p3er5]

@@self-care_warrior look up "female hysteria" , this wasn't that long ago in history. Now look at BPD and the drugs and blame for your own trauma. Same shit.

[@mochimorgue]

I was diagnosed with BPD when i was was 16 and have never heard someone elses story or met someone who openly said they had it. This video made me feel less alone and thank you for giving a platform for people to talk about it ❤

[@LoveWarDeath]

MochiMo you have to be 18 or older to be diagnosed with that

[@mochimorgue]

@@LoveWarDeath interesting, its in my medical records. Im 21 now and it still says active and i go to therapy and my therapist hasnt said anything different. Weird.

[@mikaelaseabourne4557]

Hi Mochi! Reddit's r/BPD is a great community for feeling less alone and talking with people who have it and understand.

[@mikaelaseabourne4557]

@@LoveWarDeath while it's uncommon, people are diagnosed in mid to late adolescence. While the risks of early diagnosis being misdiagnosis are higher than when you're older, it is still legitimate and it still happens.

[@LoveWarDeath]

MochiMo well, some people are special cases. But I’m glad you are getting therapy! All the love and best things to you!!

[@lilypendray]

would looove to see “a day with social anxiety”, a lot of the time people can think we’re being rude and we dislike everyone but it’s not true!! it’s getting quite common now especially so i think it could open some eyes and maybe help some people to feel less alone! :)

[@eris1409]

Never met a person with social anxiety before. I'd love to see it too! Great idea, Lily 💕

[@monicaarcher885]

I'd love to see this :) I suffer with social anxiety as well

[@eris1409]

@kris m you said when you were young. This shit "ends"? I went to psychologist for 2 years; I can control it now, but sometimes it keeps holding me. This happened to you or it was just a "phase" in your life?

[@placebo_effect]

I suffer from super bad social anxiety, I would love to see people like me get interviewed, it would be so closing 🥺

[@ladybaabaa3294]

I'd like to see this too. I'd be interested to see the various ways social anxiety manifests in different people. Many people who don't know might assume those with SA might just sit quietly and meekly on the zoom screen, not talking due to the anxiety, whereas there may be people who become hyper-talkative, extra gregarious, irritable, or just "normal". (which doesn't exist anyway!)

[@Unicorn-uh8rb]

The only thing I feel that’s missing is the dissociation, that’s the part of BPD that is the most intrusive and affects my functioning the most.

[@JamesRED44444]

@Stella Luna oh, amen. Thats what I am dealing with at the moment. Reality is just fucking gone and my selfimage was piggybacking it, its gone aswell. I hoped for the depersonalisation and derealisation part.

[@НарминГасанлы]

exactly !

[@Delicaterose1212]

Unicorn εїз facts

[@chloeamelia1789]

YESSIR IT IS MY BIGGEST BPD PROBLEM ATM

[@Unicorn-uh8rb]

I know not all BPD people have it, but I just wish it was mentioned even for a second. My therapist literally asked me to consider being inpatient because the degree my dissociation has progressed

[@robynbundren8055]

A big danger with BPD as well is staying in toxic and/or narcissistic situation/relationships...knowing that toxicity will stay to repeatedly refuel itself having a willing host (being the person with BPD). Most toxic ppl fear abandonment just as much as those with BPD, so its rare to see either person leave the relationship to become healthier.

[@user-qe1el2xf3k]

I would really love to see a “I spend a day with people with selective mutism” episode. I have the condition and it’s very misunderstood, it would be cool to see you do a video on it!

[@kieraginette4241]

I have this as well, it was incredibly debilitating as a child. Although I'm not necessarily happy you have this, it's always nice to hear you're not alone. Hope you're doing well ❤❤

[@noahhaha5199]

I dont have this, and I would love to know more about it! I think it's a great idea for Anthony to make a video on it

[@marikarescigno2675]

I don't have it myself but my little 5-year-old cousin does and it would be really interesting and useful to me to learn about it from adults who have lived with it. I want to know what I can do to help her

[@ayooooyii]

Yeah that too. bad combo 🤯

[@asyhfarr]

Hey I've read your comment and just found out about selective mutism. If you don't mind, do you have other social media that i could reach out to? Cause i have a few questions about it and it would be really helpful to get the answer from a person with the condition itself❤️

[@vespiqueen1984]

Borderline mood: when you get in a relationship it's like you're doing the last thing in your life. You know you'll be happy for a while, then it'll all disappear and your inner self will be cut out of existence. I always get sooo close to suicide when I break up. I always tell myself "this is the last time I get in a relationship" because I'm always convinced I wouldn't survive another break-up. And really, this thought is not so far from reality. I feel like I'm alive just due to my good (or bad) luck.

[@vespiqueen1984]

@@henriette2446 Too late, my bad. I've been in a relationship for 1 year and a half, now :")

[@vespiqueen1984]

@@henriette2446 Yeah, it's strange that I'm talking about it as if I wasn't already doomed hahahaha

[@AnneQuiet]

That's my position as I type this. I'm still in the close to suici... Part.

[@bigtimefans100]

Ah, the Favorite Person. But then I just find someone new all the time:/

[@mari2918]

@@AnneQuiet i hope you are doing okay its been awhile since you wrote that... best wishes to you ❤

[@cameron8438]

Being someone who has BPD myself, I can't even explain how good it feels to see BPD properly represented. Almost everyone I tell about my BPD has no idea what it is because it's not well known, and very poorly stigmatized. It feels so great to see people talk about something I struggle with so much, so openly. Can't thank you enough Anthony

[@luciferhehe2915]

Ikr! I also have bpd and i diagnosed it myself..no one around me knew it.. even i felt like its just me being me...but then i realized its getting worse

[@BELLZLAUGHZ]

@@luciferhehe2915 Did a doctor diagnose your or...

[@luciferhehe2915]

@@BELLZLAUGHZ yes they did...but i can't afford the therapy further and as my family is not so educated in this medical conditions they wont let me either

[@luciferhehe2915]

@@BELLZLAUGHZ i diagnosed myself by writing down symptoms n went to the doc

[@emilywhittle1420]

I’ve never had a “Stable” relationship in my life. My father was/is a Narcissist and Sociopath caused by child abuse and my mother is the same diagnosis. I was an only child born into a cult marriage. I’m all kinds of messed up. I’ve had just about every diagnosis in the DSM batted at me over time since my first hospitalization at 10. I’m 32 and currently standing with 28 Hospitalization and on 16 pills a day (Most are multiple pills of one drug given throughout the day I don’t take them all at once) But it’s my BPD that causes me the most trouble. I have no one. Except my abuse ex I cling to because he’s all I have left other than my Cats. I’ve lost the will to live at this point. Not to survive. I don’t WANT to DIE I just have no motivation to go find a good life for myself. I’ve now been bed bound for 4 years and am desperately trying to claw my way out of this hole anyway I can. But when you’re being put down and screamed at all day it makes things worse. The worst thing is I know my ex could survive without me but I can’t without him so I have to humiliate myself by giving him money to help me because I have no one else who gives even cares. We had two kids together, my only two good decisions I’ve ever made was to give them up for adoption as babies to the same family so that they could at least have each other if I couldn’t be there and be well enough to care for them. BPD is a rollercoaster from hell with no seatbelt, you’re lucky if you survive at all and you’ll definitely be permanently injured by it at some part on the track of the roller coaster. Stay strong everyone. Don’t give up hope. Keep trying. I hope all sufferers don’t have to go thru what I do. Love and Light to All❤

[@elllikesmusic]

i hope things are better now for you . giving you a big virtual hug, you deserve so much better, you are strong, you're worth more than what you think. i think explaining your disorder to ppl around you may help them understand you better.

[@imymcginty]

"I'm an expert in destroying relationships, so let me tell you..." IF THAT ISN'T A WHOLE MOOD I DON'T KNOW WHAT IS. Edit: First of all - thanks for the likes. It's a subtle reminder i'm not the only one who feels this way. Secondly, for those who may be confused, i'm not glorifying the concept of destroying relationships, nor am i implying i (or anyone else) does it on purpose. To be called a 'demon' is a seemingly-now-deleted comment is a bit much. This is the stigmatizing that i was hoping videos like this with Anthony's non-judgmental approach would help alleviate.

[@alydailey7870]

me 😭😭

[@LuanaJantz]

Well one day you will have some one that actually supports you and that will be gentil, I hope only the best for you.

[@charlijoy1149]

i cackled at that bc it for real is one of my strongest abilities

[@LuanaJantz]

@@charlijoy1149 I am really happy for the part that you laughed.. At least a smile.

[@mikka9368]

me irl

[@alysaanderson5057]

I love seeing him talking about mental disorders that are typically seen as "bad" im so sick of the negative connotation of having bpd and its refreshing to see someone be completely respectful and genuinely curious about its ins and outs. Fantastic job Anthony ❤

[@luizahelena6231]

Hey, since you don't mind being curious abt bpd, can I ask if you've ever heard about "quiet bpd"? I found it out in some websites but it's just so little information I wish I knew more

[@alysaanderson5057]

@@luizahelena6231 absolutely! Typically in people with bpd, we direct our negative outbursts of emotions onto others that we care about. With quiet bpd, everything is the same except they dont take out their negative emotions on others, but rather themselves. An easy way to remember it would be that bpd "acts out", quiet bpd "acts in". From my understanding, quiet bpd takes the form of self injury, suicidal tendencies, and other ways to beat yourself up. The thing is, a lot of people with bpd have a mixture of both, which is why quiet bpd is lesser known. The bpd spectrum is very broad and its very unlikely that person A with bpd is experiencing the same thing as person B with bpd.

[@luizahelena6231]

@@alysaanderson5057 thank you so much for answering I really appreciate it! I wish we could talk more abt these less known portraits as well but bpd in general is still not well spoken and unfortunatelly so stigmatized, as far as I have seen :( if I may ask one more thing, is it true that only a psichiatrist and no other mental health professional (like psychologists) can diagnose bpd? Does it really take years for a professional to come up with the diagnosis?

[@alysaanderson5057]

@@luizahelena6231 yeah thats true, most therapists aren't licensed to make a diagnosis on someone, but some definitely are. I was diagnosed by a psychiatrist after my therapist told me she thinks I have bpd after almost a year of seeing her. Most of the time bpd just goes misdiagnosed which is why it seems like it takes years for a diagnoses, a psychiatrist who knows what they're doing or is familiarized in bpd can diagnose you within months. Most psychiatrists don't like to diagnose bpd though just because some of the old timers refuse to think its real which is why it almost always gets labeled bipolar or something else

[@breeze5926]

I was friends in highschool with a girl who had BPD. I had to break off our friendship for my mental health bc she became so toxic, calling me horrible things when I refused to do something. But I made sure she knew I wasnt mad at her when I broke off the friendship. Months later she sent me a text saying she was sorry, and I made sure I told her I had already forgiven her. I hope shes doing well nowdays.

[@Megzsy98]

I had a friend similar. I never stayed mad at her for how she was when we were friends because I also struggle with mental health and know how self-destructive and isolating it can be, but I had to stop being friends with her because it felt like a non-stop cycle. We never became friends again, but she seems to be doing a lot better now.

[@vinyl1208]

I hope she's doing well, too. i have bpd and it's nice to see people who have both set boundaries with our destructive behaviors without villianizing us bc mental illness is never a free card to hurt others, but it's often the reason and it should be met with help instead of punishment. i rlly hope that her and u both are doing well :)

[@breeze5926]

@@Megzsy98 Im glad she's doing better. I hope you're doing better aswell. Mental health stuff is difficult. You have my best wishes for you!

[@breeze5926]

@@vinyl1208 I definitely agree. When suffering from mental health issues, the last thing someone needs is to be villainized. Mental health is hard enough. We all need to stay compassionate with each other.

[@Frostfern94]

From someone with BPD: You're an amazing person for handling the situation like that. I really admire that, most people wouldn't.

[@Just-A-Guy-TV]

I've destroyed every relationship I've ever had. Either because I cannot believe someone truly cares about me and I drive them away, or because they truly didn't have my better interest in mind and my disbelief led to finding out the truth. I'm going to destroy my friendships by constantly verifying their validity or I confirm that they were invalid, dishonest, and malicious.

[@beccagrace5925]

I would love to see an "I spent a day with people with HARM OCD." It's a subcategory of OCD and I know a couple of people who suffer from it and it's not a widely known thing.

[@jasnamutavcic8416]

I suffer from harm ocd and i would love it if more people would talk about it ! We are not dangerous or 'crazy' - we are looked at weirdly because people associate ocd with being clean and having things in order. Ocd is more that that. And to anyone struggling with ocd- we got this ! our thoughts do not define us- we are more than that !! Have a nice day/night ⭐☀️

[@jasnamutavcic8416]

@@beccagrace5925 thank you for your kind words! 😁

[@kennapalmer2356]

jasna mutavcic so many people forget or never learn that ocd comes in many forms. i personally struggle with ocd and some of my symptoms align with the “clean freak” stereotype associated with ocd and some of my other experiences with ocd don’t at all. i’m wishing you well💛

[@rainbowtrash3428]

ocd is a terrifying disorder, I have bpd and ocd and I cannot imagine having harm ocd. It should be more spread.

[@ryndni]

If you wouldn’t mind, I would like to know about Harm OCD (if, of course, you are willing!) My sister has OCD, where she kind of fits into the “clean freak stereotype” but she doesn’t really talk about it much so honestly I wouldn’t know. If you could tell me more about OCD and Harm OCD, I would appreciate it greatly!

[@shreyatiwari9008]

I love how Anthony shared his personal experience of depression. It made it like more of a real conversation than an interview. Don't know if anyone else liked it but I surely did!

[@noahhaha5199]

Yes, me too!! sometimes interviews can be too stiff and Anthony sharing his personal experience made it feel a lot less scripted and it didn't take away from the video :)

[@shreyatiwari9008]

@@noahhaha5199 I agree!

[@TheHelenelama]

What about an episode with “ people with OCD” “Extreme hoarders “ “Scouts” “Paralympic athletes “ “Legally blind people”

[@theonionsystem7779]

What's scouts?

[@amayahampton8810]

He’s done ocd before

[@stardoll1995]

just to clarify extreme hoarding is in the OCD spectrum of problems you might have.

[@criticalkat3958]

I also want to know what scouts are

[@Tsarcheshme]

And depersonalization/derealization

[@PeterTheCatMan]

When this video came out it helped me get diagnosed with BPD and the years of treatment because of it has changed my life. Thank you, Anthony.

[@thetooldude939]

I am in a relationship with a girl who has BPD, and she is the most caring (or might I say, explosively caring) girl I have ever had in my life. We have been together for more than a year and I am still trying my best to learn about the disorder. The journey has definitely been extremely journey and I am actually starting to question my own state of mentality because being in such a relationship, does take a HUGE part of you. You need to understand that you have to be 100% committed into them. Any sense of abandonment will create some form of self-injury towards your partner. It's insane and it is extremely scary. However, with an open mind and with zero judgement, it is possible to take care of a partner who as BPD. It may seem toxic, like the way conflicts may be and all, but it isn't in my opinion. This video definitely made me learn a little more and confirm some things I had in mind for awhile. I am happy that I chose my partner and I am definitely not gonna give up on her.

[@ginelizpacheco4005]

awsome guy

[@cailynnturner8338]

She is very lucky to have you 😊 if your partner hasn’t done DBT therapy before it could be extremely helpful for both you and her. Especially her. I know how hard it is to not engage in self harming behaviours but this has helped me so much especially with other things. I know how incredibly painful bpd is to live with but i think it would be very helpful for her to learn the skills to manage those intense emotions and urges so that she isn’t injuring herself when she feels like she may be abandoned. People with BPD can be some of the most empathetic and loving people. I’m sure you are just as lucky to have her as she is to have you. As someone with BPD I think it’s important to always keep working on being better.

[@HannyDr00]

She's lucky to have you. I was diagnosed with BPD 6 years ago, and I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for nearly 5 years. The first 2 years were extremely difficult and I was horrible at times (I even ended up in a coma for 2 days after a suicide attempt from an argument), but my bf stuck by me and eventually we've come to where we are now, barely ever arguing (maybe once every couple months about tiny things like not putting the dishes away) and talking about marriage. Things are very stable and loving now, it is definitely possible to have a long-term relationship with BPD as long as your gf is helping herself, and with you by her side being supportive I'm sure you'll both be great. I wish you both luck!

[@tedijevtic6756]

this is so sweet! wishing u both all the best

[@thetooldude939]

@@ginelizpacheco4005

[@cursedgypsy3131]

When she said constant shame she hit it on the head. Imagine being aware that you know you are over feeling things but not knowing how to shut it off. You feel completely out of control and you’re aware but completely clueless how to stop it. You feel shame on top of shame on top of shame. Shame in the way you react to things shame for feeling over attached to another human but then you feel shame when they tell you you’re suffocating them. It’s just never ending. You have no happy medium with any feelings it’s either to much feelings or feeling nothing completely nothing. Then constant worry of losing things and others in your life. Worry constant worry about anything and everything. Needing to feel in control so that you don’t lose someone in your life. Then shame for being so controlling it’s just never stops. It’s to much of everything at one time. It’s like a tidal wave of feelings that make you feel completely out of control when it happens it’s so frightening that that fear turns into complete panic like insane panic and with that panic you cry out of fear then the anger from that comes and it’s not anger it’s rage horrific rage then your minds going a million miles a minute with a million different thoughts and feelings going through your mind and body. You can literally feel this to it affects you physically with sweating pacing fast heart beat gritting and grinding your teeth or cleanching your jaw not being able to sleep because your minds racing with thoughts and feelings that are overwhelming and going a million miles an hour in your brain your body constantly aches because your constantly tense it’s just never ending and when you do get a break all you want to do is sleep most the time if you can sleep. It ages you as well at least it has for me. It takes a toll on you physically and mentally and causes a lot of other health issue it affects my gut health my blood pressure I have headaches a lot from clenching my jaw which happens when my feelings are surging etc etc. I don’t wish this on anyone. I’d explain splitting differently then them. For me when I split I forget things I go from one extreme to another and when that feeling switches it’s like I check out for thirty seconds and switch to the next extreme this splitting is why some BPD’s get misdiagnosed with DID but if you get a good doctor they will know the difference in the types of splitting when it comes to BPD and DID and some people have BPD comorbid with DID. With BPD there is gaps of time where you forget things memory loss in a sense but short amounts of time not long gaps or days like with DID and with DID you have different identity’s where you don’t with BPD with BPD you just have no sense of self or who you are as a person or what makes you “you”. Also we get misdiagnosed with Bipolar too but yet you can have BPD and bipolar. You just have to hope you get a good doctor who can differentiate the disorders and diagnose you correctly. Also thank you for doing this video. You truly are amazing for bringing light to this and also being so cool about it. Respect! ✊🏼❤️

[@chill2535]

Wow you got it all there, have the exact same issues with my BPD..

[@kpediium]

Wow. Thank you for sharing this.

[@garden.project]

i’m not diagnosed, i’m looking for a therapist rn (because self diagnosing isn’t good), but this comment is so relatable it hurts, especially the feeling everything, million thoughts a second, jumping to absolutely nothing

[@spartangoat9337]

Thank you for taking the time to comment this, I've now been able to realize that I have been going through this exact same thing thinking it's normal or that I should just get over it and shrug it off

[@mindy9567]

this is so random but i also have bpd and never realized i clenched my jaw until right now when i read your comment and noticed i was doing it.

[@mackenzierivercasey6752]

My best friend of 17 years has BPD, I almost find her outbursts heart warming or make me want to chuckle. There's been a few evenings in the past where I've been blocked and deleted from her facebook...and the afternoon after we're crying on the phone and laughing about how crazy we both let things get. Then she will stay the night at my house for a weekend and we will watch a bunch of movies and get over it like it was just another day. As an artistic minded person, I've always found my friends ability to express fully and honestly one of the most admirable thigngs about her

[@rayvinbates671]

You’re an amazing friend 💕🙂

[@theSkin_of_a_Killer_Bella]

that seems like quite a nice way to view it imo😮

[@SpecialBlanket]

my partner has it and i find the outbursts adorable too because it's like a sad little kid. but obviously i don't say trivializing stuff to his face.

[@mackenzierivercasey6752]

@@SpecialBlanket You just know they are feeling something intensely and that you love them and have to trust that they will find a center ground and be able to come back to you with the right words to express how they are feeling!

[@zbeh4495]

Why does it make you chuckle?

[@BigBoris]

My girlfriend has BPD and we’re always talking about our problems to each other. My OCD and her BPD, the things that we’re going through and how we can manage it by helping each other. I’m always helping her whenever and however I can and she loves me for that, and I love her for having the courage to tell me these things because she feels like she can’t tell anyone else.

[@maddi3555]

Lol your relationshup is opposite to mine, I have the OCD and my boyfriend has BPD. Same in the aspect of supporting one another. Makes our lives easier when we don’t have to worry about our partner judging us for our differences. He doesn’t have to feel constant shame around me which helps to keep him from splitting.

[@ExtremeWeatherGroup]

So my girlfriend of 4 months just told me she has BPD. I went to reddit and have pretty much just been told "run" or "your fucked". How is your relationship going? I'm just worried by all the negative responses. It's an overwhelming amount.

[@idontwanttosaymynameonyout1486]

I have BPD and autism combined and when she said the thing about losing all your friends because people find you difficult to deal with, it made my whole heart hurt. It’s true. I don’t have any friends because they all hate dealing with me and my mental health 😭

[@_.WildMoonChild]

💜 You are loved!

[@emersoniscringe1005]

Ayyy me too :3 we deserve love

[@The_Tiny_Ocelot]

Come here, you get cupcakes and hugs :)

[@littlesimsfreak2931]

I would love to be you’re friend. You are such a strong person

[@cupnudeless]

Same man

[@meta1girl-l6m]

I'm sure this has been requested before, but please do an episode for people with ADHD! it's seen mainly as a childhood disorder and being unable to sit still but the daily experience (especially in adults) is so much more than that!

[@hannahaiken2321]

I completely agree! As someone who has struggled with it for many years, it's common to come across people who misunderstand the disorder as a whole. An episode about people diagnosed with ADHD/ADD would be very interesting.

[@herpearl5160]

yes pls!!!!!!! (i would love to be in that video)

[@missrelaxed3872]

Hannah Aiken true !!

[@Dougiewoof]

I would like to see that.

[@boinkboink8448]

I would love to see that, ADHD is so misunderstood. My classmates often use it as an insult for when anyone is just really excited or happy. It would be nice to see them understand that ADHD isn't funny or just a joke. Maybe they would shut up for once.

[@shyateverything5967]

My bestest friend has BPD, so seeing this is absolutely amazing She has had so many people misunderstand who she is as a person I've been there while she's depressed and suicidal and I have helped her through it all I love her with all my heart and hope that more and more people can learn about BPD, and those who have it can learn more about themselves I have been doing all I can from where I am to help her And while I'm not in her shoes I help with anyway I can

[@Moonlight-zx6ho]

Your amazing 😭❤️

[@dishaalva1557]

U are doing a very good job

[@annie-lt3fn]

You’re such a good friend 🥺

[@yblissp3270]

As someone with bpd that constantly feels like a burden to their best friend who keeps helping and showing love to them, This is a very reassuring coment Ty ♥️

[@mayusalgado4950]

Thank you for supporting your friend 💖

[@sadiemartin6309]

It was nice (as someone with BPD) to see how amazing Anthony is at giving an interview that is completely removed of stigma

[@loopdiditydoop1926]

I would love to see an episode about people with chronic pain (fibromyalgia, lupus, POTS, rheumatoid arthritis, chronic fatigue syndrome, multiple sclerosis, etc)

[@rsgirrl]

It’s sucks I have CFS fibromyalgia lupus Raynaud’s anxiety CPTSD however I’m thinking I have BPD legally separated from. Malignant Covert narcissist I married 34 yrs relationship 37 yrs . Abandonment, rejection, bleh 🤮

[@scarelle6793]

I, too, would love an episode on people with chronic pain. I have been diagnosed with fibromyalgia, chronic joint pain, migraine,cfs, and that's just the tip of the iceberg.

[@DarkkAcidd]

I have POTS and most people don’t understand it and I feel it would help so many people for it to be explained

[@NightmareCo666]

Yesyesyes! fibro, cfs, damaged spine and nervous system all from a Chiari malformation, The surgery to 'cure' it and near fatal meningitis after The surgery

[@solmas2111]

and EDS, honestly you would probably want to choose a topic. Like specifically autoimmune, or connective tissue, etc etc.

[@aliceescoffier9725]

I'm CRYING, the "I'm an expert in destroying relationships", I felt it in my core

[@ustanchy869]

I've known multiple people who've had their friendships and romantic relationships destroyed because of a single girl with untreated BPD, and now, my relationship with my best friend of 8 years has been destroyed for the same reason... It's devastating. She's definitely an expert.

[@Danny-wn1gn]

He should do I spent a day with North Koreans who left I think it would be interesting

[@Ankara_ratgirl]

He most probably doesn't want to be nuked

[@randomroadchhapreviews4396]

King jong un will be needing to know his location then

[@natrod8628]

*kim jung un wants to know your location*

[@nikittan.4863]

@@Ankara_ratgirl jesus christ man that's so not ok

[@curtislee4987]

I have BPD and it makes me feel bad when people around me leave. Thank you for talking to people like me about their lives. You helped me understand more about my disorder.

[@jessewells4984]

You need to do one on schizophrenia. Seriously, so misunderstood.

[@moonbunnygw8342]

I'm pretty sure he will release it soon

[@neurotictapeworm]

He was gonna.... guess not

[@allinepalupi6073]

He will.. In one of his comunity post. Maybe is in process?

[@divine6867]

he lmao he’s working on it jesus christ dude

[@junkedfood9584]

Guys, hes working on it. Hes working on a lot different ones right now. Hes not a machine, be patient.

[@bacon2274]

Could you make one with people that have bipolar disorder? Everyone “knows” about it, it’s mentioned a lot as an example of mental disorders, but I feel like very few people actually know jack shit about it

[@nicky3771]

Yes! Coming from someone with bipolar disorder, there is so much to unpack there. Anthony pls see this!

[@lunacouer]

Yeeesss. Especially because there's such a huge spectrum of symptoms, and most people don't know about Bipolar II. Almost none of it looks like what people think it does.

[@riverjuniper]

I had no idea what bipolar actually was until I had a manic episode and got diagnosed with it

[@trixielay9237]

I’d really love to see Anthony touch on bipolar and hopefully throw out the stigma of “oh isn’t that just mood swings?”

[@waterwraith1189]

My mom calls people BP all the time if she notices a change in mood or considers them "crazy" and confuses it with BPD which even if she used BPD, it would still be so stigmatizing and wrong. I want to talk to my therapist about BPD because I suspect I may have it, but hearing about so many therapists rejecting BPD patients, I'm nervous, especially since my relationship with him is already strained. Also super nervous because of how my mom talks about mental illness. So yeah, most people know "jack shit" about BP and other mental illnesses. :(

[@theooliver9935]

PLEASE DO GAD PLEASEEEEEEEEE (generalized anxiety disorder) PLEASE THERE IS NO ACCURATE INFORMATION OUT THERE

[@ppikach64]

People would take this more serious if you don't write it all in big letters :)

[@lemonboi487]

Solid Schnek bruh that’s not true

[@ppikach64]

@@lemonboi487 i would, so yes it is true. And many have a problem with that. But it was just an advice, it's up to him or her to listen or not :)

[@lemonboi487]

Solid Schnek she’s just excited or rly wants him to do it because there is no information na out it no one has a problem with it but ok

[@LeannahW]

YES THIS. It's so hard to describe this to anyone else, even my old primary care doctor

[@elizatrusiak]

I know that this is an older video, but I was recently diagnosed with BPD. This helped me further understand my diagnosis. I always thought I was just really sensitive, but this is very comforting to me

[@anushadanadamani284]

i got diagnosed few days back too! came here to understand it better

[@elizatrusiak]

@@anushadanadamani284 it's nice to know I'm not alone

[@victoriakathleen01]

Same!!

[@justadragonryu]

“Anxiety and depression can culminate unto BPD” “you can get it as an adult” Alright cheers boys.

[@nenitalunita2362]

Now ima panic about this

[@benjineo1542]

NenitaLunita my childhood anxiety and depression turned into BPD. I was diagnosed wrongly with depression (or so I thought) when I was 13. I'm 15 now and got diagnosed with anxiety, BPD and bipolar this year. I just wanted to say there's nothing to be scared of or freak out about. It's rare that it does turn into it and if it does it's a slow process. You won't wake up one day like a new person. :)

[@justadragonryu]

NenitaLunita that’s the anxiety way!

[@justadragonryu]

Benji Neo thanks. I really hope my comment didn’t come off as offensive to anyone suffering from BPD or anything else. I understand and empathize with anyone who may be sensitive to jokes like this and please know I meant no disrespect or harm.

[@benjineo1542]

teacupika oh no I wasn't upset or offended at all :) I just wanted to let people know that if it does happen it's not something to be afraid of

[@lilbunnyprincess]

Person with BPD & in a 3 year relationship: It comes down to actually knowing what your feeling and being able to communicate it to your partner. I use to get riled up then even more riled up if they asked why I was riled up. It's very true my brain works in only two dimensions: either my partner is the greatest human alive or the worst person I've ever met. there are no in betweens sometimes and its emotionally exhausting and frustrating at times. We cultivated a very healthy environment for talking out what happened and why it happened and it makes things alot easier to manage. Its absolutely true that my emotions are on a scale of Rage & Shame. I'm highly irritable on any given day and it's a constant battle to ground myself and not destroy everything around me because I dropped my fork on the ground. (

[@ina7084]

Lmao, I couldn't find something and I spent every 10 seconds sat on the bed doing my breathing.. I felt the rage fluctuation physically in my chest. Constant near meltdown. Thankfully, managed not to explode on myself by sectioning my searching mission and taking my sweet ass time. 😆

[@IrieRogue]

I can relate to this 100%. Mornings are the most difficult. I awake with rage and negativity. It takes a day of fighting myself to get to a place I would consider peaceful. It makes it difficult on my partners. We usually find that it is best to spend the morning apart until I have gotten myself in check.

[@necrotize]

in a beautiful relationship and i second this! also the sentiment in the video: finding the right person. my partner is so patient and openminded, which is key. you need to be with someone willing to listen, just as you need to be willing to talk things out in a controlled way, like you said!

[@nullvoidmedia]

lmao. so relieving to hear other people's stories. Here's mine: Mornings are the worst! I had a really nice electric kettle that I smashed to pieces last week because the blinds were closed and I couldn't find the rag I had been using. Yea. I miss that kettle. I should try and take some advice here and give my partner space in the am. I always wake up in a panic and start cleaning everything. We have been together for 7 years now. I have only just received a diagnosis of BPD officially, but we have researched it and they have been supporting me working on this stuff for years. I know I still have a lot to work on to minimize the harm my mood swings have on them, but usually they are the best person in the world. They are only the worst person in the world for like 10% of the time- when I am truly out of my mind with anger.

[@kayjackson2717]

I try with all my previous partners and friends and they never listen or understand 😭 and they will get mad at me and ignore which makes my Thought process worse 🙁

[@reidalamode]

as someone who struggles with BPD every day, this is so cool to see someone with a large following covering this. thank you anthony :)

[@moaninatmidnigh]

I have been diagnosed with ADHD but I know a lot of people with BPD and some symptoms I really empathise with - like the ‘shame’ part that the writer woman talks about. People with ADHD also always feel shame from loss of control and not being enough etc etc. Talking to my friends though I know the crossover isn’t that huge between BPD and ADHD, it’s such a shame that BPD has such a bad rep though, everyone I know who has it is so full of love and especially when they manage it and work on the behaviours that push people away.

[@Bimby-b]

The crossover can be more than you think: impulsivity, loss of interest, trouble coping etc etc

[@meltedmarshmellowpeep]

@@Bimby-b Yeah I agree, I have ADHD and not BPD but a lot of what overlaps really really stood out to me. It just makes me feel so much for people who are stigmatized by it.

[@SiriusDraconis]

I have both. So it happens

[@Icantchangemyhandlehelp]

I have adhd. My emotional regulation is pretty bad. Ive gotten better with it as i age but i used to hold grudges against the tiniest things people did for years. Getting called sensitive was so distressing, it feels so invalidating.