Understanding Behavior Changes with TBI

[@ChooseCompassion]

I just sent this to my new psychiatrist and all of my neurologists ( because I had two TBIs within five years). I’ve never heard anyone explain it so concisely. Thank you to everyone out there who is finally discussing this. I totally feel you and I’m starting TMS treatments at the end of the year. To everyone’s who’s up here because they or they have someone in their life please show some empathy and compassion. Half the time I hate living in my own skin.

[@amandalynngibson8332]

100%. 3 years living like this. I don't want to be selfish but I am so alone and losing hope that I will be better.

[@ChooseCompassion]

@@amandalynngibson8332 sending you love, light & strength. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@amandalynngibson8332]

@@ChooseCompassion Thank you. I appreciate your reply. 🥰💐❤️ I am feeding my brain positivity. I affirm this body can heal. From a TBI? Yes!

[@GBONESLY]

Dude I feel the same way I've had a lot of TBIs and NTBIs that I feel like everytime I've gone it's been appointment after appointment with no help in sight. So why even get help. I'm still skeptical. They just want our money it seems.

[@clareweber6215]

This is my husband. Thankyou for your videos, advice & help. TBI due to a car accident. Zero management from his medical team & neurologist. Angry at the smallest, silliest things. It,s tough

[@cityslickerchickens5835]

My son's father had a head injury from a bad car accident too. He will be normal one second, then he will be jealous over me writing a comment on KZbin. U wish the normal him would stay, but, the Mr. Hyde is coming out more and more. I am in the "acceptance" stage of this, but the last 9 years I've been in the denial stage. It's getting too ridiculous and too draining to keep living on egg shells like this.

[@jjakfamily]

Hormone replacement therapy helps tremendously

[@captainobvious4051]

I am currently 41yrs old. When I was 3 ½ years old (was 6months from turning 4yrs old) the car I was in was hit by a drunk driver, drivers side to drivers side killing my dad on impact, my mom went through the windshield breaking her jaw, injuring her shoulder & back. The impact was like hitting a brick wall at 90mph.The sunroof caved in and sliced my head open causing a skull fracture & brain bleed in/to my left frontal lobe (not sure if it impacted other areas in the brain?). I was pronounced clinically dead ans was revived sometime after 5-7mins. I have 60 cross stitches (120 total) in my head to close my scalp. I was in a coma for a week, not expected to live. My mom said once I regained consciousness, that I was different & described me as a "fiery little thing." I do have motor skills deficients, tho they are not noticeable to others unless pointed out. Math is like a foreign language to me, I have tried, even with tutoring & still can't grasp things beyond basic math/algebra. Organization skills - what's that? I don't even know how to be organized & it drives my husband crazy, as wel as myself. I do have memory problems, but my biggest problem is my emotions. I have battled depression on/off since I can remember. Medications only work for a short time. My moods can vary throughout the day. My anger gets the best of me and I get mad over the slightest things. I also suffer from Aggression when I get really upset, I just want to break something or throw something. I speak before I think, which can be a big problem, too. And everything feels like it's the end of the world & I feel as if things won't get resolved. I've tried counseling, but I have yet to find anyone who can really help me. They have treated me just as a normal person without a brain injury. I wish more than anything I could be "normal" - which I know everyone is not the same, but to be without a TBI & dealing with the issues from it would be absolutely wonderful. I have found the older I have gotten, the WORSE things are getting. Idk if there's been studies done or whatever, but I'd love to participate in one. I just want help so I can function normally, but no idea how to go about doing it.

[@MilesCobbett]

I too found my temper fuse has shortened when I am around workplace bullies. To avoid harming them and me going to jail I usually quit the job n move on..

[@lucimessenger1337]

I have frontal lobe damage same issues maths is hard now, organisation um no, far too emotional and just randomly cry over frustration,right side motor minor issues,mine was the result of a bike accident

[@lucimessenger1337]

And my non filter between thought and speech causes a big issue

[@AdriAna-sr8yb]

I'm very sorry for your struggles dealing with TBI. It's very difficult, painful. Dangerous situation to me, to deal with the anger aggression unpredictability of my husband mood's. I'm his 3rd wife and traumatized by him since the 2nd week of our marriage 7 years ago. It's like I'm his prey and punch bag for his abuse. He can be so mean. He lies, he is manipulative, he drinks, he is very aggressive. I am a very passive and extremely introverted person. Embarrassed and ashamed of my neighbors because of the scenes he constantly makes when something triggers his anger. He threatening me by saying to "watch my back" and I live in fear and feel like nobody understands what is to live with someone with TBI..by trying to help and love them but being treated so badly. My father was diagnosed bipolar in my early teen years. I understand how tough is to live with mental illness and loving ones mood swings. Very traumatic to all involved. I'm in a point in my life at 60 years old to leave my husband as my health is deteriorating because of the constant mental abuse, injustices and accusations he puts me through. I went to PTSD trauma counseling during this marriage because it's just too much to deal with and the gaslighting is constant. I went to support groups and prayers groups all by myself because he doesn't want any help. He pretends everything is normal and everything is my or other's people fault. He doesn't take responsibility for his own actions. I'm not able to put my being in this marriage situation any longer.

[@captainobvious4051]

@Adri Ana I am so sorry you have been going through what you have. What you have described sounds like more than a TBI. One can battle depression, anger, sadness, frustration, forgetfulness, problems with memory, etc., but what you described, in my opinion, sounds a bit more on the narcissistic side & if you say drinks, it might be more like an alcoholic acting out. He is using the TBI as catch all for what he does. I finally got medication working well. I've been on Wellbutrin for 3yrs now. Added an afternoon dose. It's the only antidepressant that I have tried out of all the classes that works & continues to work. If I don't take it, you can tell & I can tell myself by my mood. I also starting taking ADHD medication. It has helped slow me down & focus better. I still have all the problems I've mentioned in my previous post, but the medications have helped me tremendously. I believe that a person who denies they need help & doesn't seek help, in the form of counseling or medication, are the ones that truly need help. My brother for example, was a bad alcoholic for 15 years or so & a few years ago became a really bad diabetic. It was either work on himself, including stop drinking or die. He hit rock bottom. He has come along ways & is doing so well now. He will tell you that nobody can change you until you want to change yourself. Please be careful & take care of yourself. You don't deserve to be put through abuse, nobody dose.

[@catalino9819]

I wish I could talk to you. No one understands

[@faisalbi1330]

Hi

[@Noooo985]

Yup

[@debblackmore7460]

Here if need me

[@faisalbi1330]

@@debblackmore7460 hi have you had brain injury?

[@debblackmore7460]

@@faisalbi1330 yeah hypoxia lol I died 26minutes lol you had one?

[@fc2106]

This video increased my understanding of TBI and its behavioral effects, thank you!

[@faisalbi1330]

Hi how are you now?

[@faisalbi1330]

Any improvement?

[@faisalbi1330]

Please reply me

[@BeautifulSoul801]

I wish I had seen this video a few months ago. Someone I met had a TBI and PTSD. They were extremely hard on their self and kept saying they were a terrible person. I honestly had no clue how to approach the situation, but I did (still do) care about them. I wanted to understand and they just didn’t have the words to explain it to me the way I needed to hear it so they pushed me away. I wish more people knew about this. I can’t begin to imagine how hard it must be constantly being misunderstood for something you had no say in.

[@jpwester56]

I found most people don’t understand brain injuries. I had 4 TBI’s from 2000 - 2015. My family are the worst judge of me. They don’t understand the anger that comes with it. My cognitive behavioral test was not good. I am still feeling effects from it now.

[@amyhebert5481]

When I was 20 years old I was in a car wreck. The first 2 years I laughed at everything. I couldn’t take anything seriously. Always smiling and laughing. We just hit 4 years, now I get angry very easy. I get so mad , it makes me sad. I am so lucky my fiancé understands.

[@delmarsutton8771]

Thank you for the information. My suffered a TBI. This helps me understand some of the personality changes and mood swings that she experiences. She is currently being treated buy a neurologist and is scheduled to visit a neurosurgeon in two days.

[@faisalbi1330]

Hi how r u nw please reply me

[@amandalynngibson8332]

This is the BEST 6 minutes about TBI

[@rmiller6721]

TBI - "The Hidden Agenda" in society. Each TBI is different and as a result; as a TBI Survivor I experience several frustrations regarding this issue. Unfortunately, a TBI is not "Viewed as a Disability"?

[@mimiturbano]

I get told I’m over reacting. I’m not. I’m reacting differently then before the accident. It’s not over reaction it’s how my emotions feel at the time. But after I feel upset because it’s not how I would have reacted before the car accident. I used to be relaxed and patient and now 8 get so angry about stupid stuff. I cry a lot but not depressed. I can’t control my emotions like I used to. My emotions feel bigger I dint like it. I needed help for the first year just to recognise how I sounded. My emotions from my mouth didn’t match my feelings inside.

[@Jos-y1r]

I’ll Pray with all my heart to find a doctor Genius scientist and absolutely spotted on…,thank you very much

[@iamthebatman21]

I have a TBI and am just angry all the time I need help but don't know where to start I'm losing my family and no matter how hard I try I can't control it. please please please someone help me

Research Dr. Mark Gordon

[@spike16965]

Same here

[@catalino9819]

Yes. No one understands. I feel very alone.

Ilir Cami - I’ve researched him for several months up until that post..he’s onto something big with the repercussions of Head Injuries/Trauma. I went thru all the steps to start his regiment, but during that time I switched up my diet..changed the type of water that I drink..and snapped back into my ‘good, ol happy self’ once again..but it’s tee’d up if I feel the need to go thru his program. If ya wanna know more: hit me up, brother! [e-mail]

[@dreamznaspiratons7064]

Therapy for you and your fam. Patience and compassion, how are you doing now?..

[@RB902050]

I'm really hoping I can some day very soon have an answer to why I have always been different and have had difficulty making friends my entire life. I'm hoping this is the man who will give the answer and can help lead me to a path and life worth living.

[@LuckyLucky-xp2sz]

Awww so sorry to hear that. I am here for you, I will be one off your new friends ok. Please take heart, you will be fine.

[@Supermankev2001]

Thank You I have a TBI from a car crash this was helpful

[@Vitriol-Divergent]

People who were close to me before the injury accused me of having "impulsive" anger, but I've never had a moment where I felt my anger was out of whack with how I actually felt. And it was never a sudden burst of emotion, it was always triggered the same way it was before. I feel like this happens more because it's a realistic reaction to every day life living with a T.B.I. The tragedy of this is that people who don't have to live this way don't understand/care about what you're going through, they just want you to "fix" it because they think you're broken. So all they offer to you is "Get help" and then wash their hands of you. And they wonder why we get angry all the time 🙄🖕

[@heatherfergusonsneed8656]

Hi, my name is Heather, & I so get what you mean. I acquired my TBI in 2001, & I didn't even know I could get so violent.

[@Vitriol-Divergent]

@@heatherfergusonsneed8656 Yeah Heather, I don't think I ever knew how angry I could get ...until I was put in an incredibly frustrating, infuriating situation the likes of which I'd never seen. Nothing I've endured up to this point even comes close. I had mine in 2019, and I'm still having fallouts with friends who can't accept me the way I am now AND make it my problem.

[@amandalynngibson8332]

@@Vitriol-Divergent same here. No one understands this. I am bloody tired of trying to be understood. "OH. Your still dealing with that? " ARGH! No. I am making it up. I just love feeling pukey, clumsy, tired head hurts, spinning, can't drive often. Living alone in the woods has good and bad aspects. Lonely. But quiet and calm. I get despondent sometimes, but strive to stay hopeful. Happy New Year BTW.

[@Vitriol-Divergent]

@@amandalynngibson8332 Yup "oh you're not better yet?!" Nope ...and I'm not going to be. Not for you motherfuckers. Got better things to do with my time.

[@amandalynngibson8332]

@@Vitriol-Divergent If the anger would inspire me, or give me the juice to overcome the fatigue! The absence of Adderall , which I was on BEFORE the TBI, takes my mood and energy so Far Down. Thx for reply. Most people suck.

[@debblackmore7460]

Never give up keep going doing amazing things keep positive all in good time good luck we are survivors sending love luck from headway Nottingham UK takecare wise true words it does get better x

[@amandalynngibson8332]

I hope your right. Thx for encouragement. It's a wasteland in rural FL. My neurologist says I need rehab. But doesn't have any suggestions. I went to a place far away that I Found Got some help. But it didn't last.

[@debblackmore7460]

@@amandalynngibson8332 bless sending hugs luck prayers most of all love keep going keep positive keep strong x

[@amandalynngibson8332]

@@debblackmore7460 thank you so much. Music helps me. But your rapid reply feels like love and care in action. Bless you.

[@lopsidedlori]

You lose everything, then you go through chemotherapy, and get hormones involved and I am alone. No family or friends. And I was a Mental Health Professional with my own private practice. Life changes does create anger. As does family and friends who desert you.

[@danielprose5878]

Thats so sad . My life crumbles down after a mild concussion im sports.

[@Grateful4life4time]

This is so helpful, thank you so much 🙏

[@Kareneeb]

I wish he was my husband's doctor! He gets it!

[@raymondparnell439]

Fear increased empathy increased anger increased . Confusion. Anyond else have these symptoms. I took lots of hits to the hesd in my teens. At 16 i got amnesia after latest hit. So 30 yrs later. It changed me .

[@spike16965]

TBI sucks and hard to get people to understand

[@kw.5778]

💯 very true statement .

[@spike16965]

@@kw.5778 doctors said I didn't have it after my wreck but its been 3 years since and my memory along with personality have changed dramatically to were they know I have TBI by evaluation

[@jax3065]

I'm learning and understanding more and more

[@respl78n82]

@@spike16965 Dr are Idiots sometimes. Probably only one in a 100 doctors actually knows what hes doing

[@apetey]

Dr Judd is the man!

[@mikirAttt]

How long can Injury effect the act?

[@danhughes3626]

How do you know what's wrong with me I want to change this

[@amandalynngibson8332]

Today is rough. My granddaughter is visiting. She wants me to do stuff with her. I am exhausted. I'm so tired of being tired. Irony of my TBI caused by carelessness r/t heroin. My childhood adversely affected by father being heroin addict. I was so resilient and overcame. And now? I live like a heroin addict. Sick. Tired. Hurting in my soul and scared that I may not have enough stamina. I am ready to cash out.

[@brainline]

Thank you for commenting. We know what you mean and we hear you. You may always call 988 for free if you are ever overwhelmed. There are even more resources for specific needs listed here: www.brainline.org/article/crisis-hotlines-warm-lines-and-mental-health-resources-triggering-or-traumatic-events Maybe you can ask your granddaughter to think of a gentler way to spend time together, like a quiet craft? Don't be too hard on yourself. Rest is self-care and you are worth it!

[@amandalynngibson8332]

@@brainline big thank you for replying. That is such a complete list of resources. I will call. I will not give up even in these dark times ❤

[@brainline]

@@amandalynngibson8332 Thank you, and thank you for being a part of this community.

[@prasanth451]

After my TBI due to my anger i accidentally raised a bad word towards my wife's father. Afterwards that my wife is living separatly.

[@bhargavcs9686]

Hi Sir. How are you Now

[@bhargavcs9686]

Did your Anger controlled now What is your head injury like Mild, or moderate or severe how did TbI happened to u

[@lgb4788]

Whacky shit, WHAT DO YOU DO TO HELP SOMEONE, GOOD GOD.

[@tarunarachmad3976]

2:13

[@GBONESLY]

This guy and Jordan Peterson in a room? 😮

[@hardluckhenry]

Dude Your talking in circles not making any sense.