Doctor Gabor Mate: The Shocking Link Between Kindness & Illness!

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

Probably one of the most fascinating experts I’ve ever had the honour of speaking to is back in today’s episode - safe to say my mind was blown once again. If you enjoyed this conversation could you do us a favour and HIT that like button on the video! Helps us a lot ❤ share your favourite part of the convo below 👇🏾

[@soulsearchermusicsavedmyli3860]

Hey Steven I send you love. Iam a highly senstive female. I love gabor mate. Thanks for having gabor mate on the show again I love your podcast. I do have a question for you Steven did you delete the KZbin video of your Podcast with Russell brand I can't find the full video of your Podcast with Russell brand anywhere. I do love how honest and vulnerable gabor mate is.

[@soulsearchermusicsavedmyli3860]

@@LauraG1 hello Laura I send you love I am from Australia.iam a Senstive person I don't really care for the royal family that sounds Disgusting to me that people had to buy Prince Harry's book to hear the conversation. On a human level I know that he lost his mum in a tragic way. But I love gabor mate.

[@lyndkent-cl2oe]

You have some good guest Steven, (thank you) Gabor Mate is my all time greatest human being. Saved my life this man, I share his knowledge to others, buy GM books for friends....thank you.

[@justuscoetzee8104]

This is your best yet

[@ninong7638]

Great interview! The insta link in the info box leads to Tim Spector though 🙃

[@claudiahowell9508]

When I grew up my mother used to say children should been seen but not heard. Ugh. It has taken me most of my 74 years to speak up for myself. Thank you for your compassion.

[@vogeljennifer6318]

same here

[@ksc743]

Same..66 yrs old but what I will say is, judging by the people I know, we are better parents than our parents were.

[@vonnytighe517]

Me too!

[@KiwikimNZ]

Claudia …. I hear you :) ❤ hugs

[@cameronblack7984]

British by any chance? I've heard this too... It seems the British culture has learned the behaviours that cause trauma as actual positives. Stiff upper lip for example.

[@Calibri57]

Truth! If you can’t afford therapy, educate yourself, empower yourself. No one else will.

[@robynhope219]

That's for sure...

[@nicklowe4392]

True and in another perspective is you and you only can look inside and find the real issues with out prejudic or labeling the underlying issue with a text book set approach to someone elses problem or perhaps problems making the resolve more complex. That with an understanding that the cause of the problem or ailment is sometimes more simple to resolve then they may think. Even motiviation or using empowering words and thoughts can change anything. You cannot change the past but you can change the future. Good point.

[@nicoleherzog6883]

@@robynhope219

[@myfavoriteplanet3247]

The fact some people can afford and others can't, creates a divided dynamic from society. Does Gabor cover that cause that covers a lot of people.

[@Ron-j3t]

I found an old ICS matchbook and did my own lobotomy, if I hadn't have puked and passed out I would be a much better person today 😅

[@dottiebaker6623]

Dr. Mate is the only man I've ever heard admit that most men want their women to accommodate to them, to be the only one who changes in the relationship, instead of taking responsibility for their own emotional development. Thank you! Thank you!! THANK YOU!!!

[@007nadineL]

He also stated how much he hates his wife sooooooooo Yeah.. women change or leave because men don't change

[@81mandragora]

Sheesh - how comments get used out of context. He talked about a time in their relationship where he wasn’t getting what he wanted and felt he hated her, until he realized it wasn’t up to her to meet that need in him. More nuanced I think then stating ‘he hates his wife’…..

[@007nadineL]

@@81mandragora we don't know if he hates her everyday. .. yr not there at his house

[@luciennenoel8403]

J’aime cet interview et mieux comprendre Harry….Merci au Dr Gabor

[@enraegen561]

He also eludes to that the patriarchy is basically giving women cancer. 😂

[@143lovemusic]

As a women of 48 years, who is struggling 😢 and can not afford even poor therapy. To you both, You have done so much for me in terms of how to help myself. It's so incredibly hard. So I thank you sirs, both from my ❤

[@overstandself9954]

Watch more of his videos. It literally free therapy especially for childhood trauma 🙌🏾

[@maddbabbleralways9103]

What you said.

[@eleanorcramer7986]

Breath while walking barefoot on a soothing natural earth surface like grass or sand . Earthing. I’m starting to mark out a labyrinth in my yard for fun and letting go of thoughts. A place to pause and melt into the air I’m breathing.

[@aiiiiihh]

chat gpt

[@nataliemesbah1639]

Tim Fletcher on KZbin is incredibly helpful, too!

[@mindyourplants]

I met him going through rehab in 2018 and he also interviewed us at the women's recovery house a few months later. I have read his book "In the realm of hungry ghosts" prior and that was the very beginning of my spiritual journey of recovery and self-love. Been clean and solid for 4 years now.

[@vilaronga23]

Great advance! Thank you for sharing

[@papabear2515]

Good for you!

[@TT-cj3ek]

Congratulations on your recovery journey ❤.

[@tomikola1864]

God bless you. I'm a 51 yr old guy and my demon is pills. I'm trying hard but it's not easy. I'm glad you did it. Maybe I will too one day. Hello from Toronto

[@carolbroome6559]

@@tomikola1864🙏🏼😘

[@rosemoon8072]

" we cant form healthy relationships until we have learned to be alone " so true

[@Mako-L82]

I feel I am naturally good at this .. I love my solitude lol

[@cloudberry27]

I'm terrified of being alone, I freeze, stop eating and numb with alcohol. I'm getting therapy now to work on trauma. I was sent to boarding school very early and left alone in my cot often before then. I stayed in an abusive marriage for years because being alone scared me more than his violence did. Until eventually he scared me more than being alone did. So I'm on my own now. I'm praying this therapist can help me.

[@Mako-L82]

@@cloudberry27 just shows it’s the same experience but people take it completely differently.. I also was sent to boarding school at a young age. Maybe I learned how to be alone happily on my own at 6 years old. I am naturally introverted anyway. I don’t like being with a lot of people they are often draining. After 2 hours, I often just want to be left alone. You can live on your own still go out with friends, go travel, have dogs, live a happy life. I like living alone, I never need to accomodate a guy in my house. I can have a man in my life, not in my house.

[@JohnRamos-dn3qb]

@@Mako-L82I get it.. I feel the same. I’m most comfortable in my own skin alone. Don’t get me wrong I like people but love the quiet times.

[@wyleecoyotee4252]

Actually I find it so much easier to be alone.

[@Frank941]

First time I saw him, I thought he looked really tired, but then I realized he was 80 years old and I was like wow! He looks 20 years younger. 😮

[@espiritualme2048]

Really??? I always thought the same. Thanks for letting us know....

[@szszszsz95395]

He does look really tired.😂

[@reemsaif3105]

He also went through a lot This man understands trauma ❤

[@grl9917]

I think he looks 79.

[@dawulqamar7846]

He looks 80 and so tried but understandable.

[@Soapandwater6]

Thank you, Dr. Mate, for explaining about animals naturally licking and stroking their infants. I am a volunteer baby cuddler at a hospital. I hold and rock newborns in the intensive care unit whose parents are not there for whatever reason. The babies are swaddled without much exposed skin. After listening to you, I will be sure that I always stroke their little heads and hold their little hands while I am talking to them. Even if they are not consciously aware of it, I know that they are biologically aware that I am giving them love.

[@rhythmandblues_alibi]

Wow I didn't know that was something you could do, or a service that was needed.

[@hannerz777]

This is beautiful. Thank you for your light and service.

[@kimtucker7447]

Thank you for your time and love.

[@sarahbuckley5638]

What a wonderful job…

[@laurastabell2489]

In the animal world, mothers lick the face of their babies. In medical history, saliva is seen as healing and is represented by the snake as seen in the cadusis. Thats the symbol of the medical profession with the staff twined by the two snakes. I would love to see a study of the effect of kissing the face of babies up to adults around the temples and forehead. The effect might be the same as extra grooming that leads to more status in tribal animals.

[@elainec5333]

If you don’t make time for wellness, you’ll be forced to make time for illness. Big part of wellness is setting boundaries.

[@jujub6839]

This is a spectacular statement ❤ May I quote you (and give you credit)?

[@Karkussss]

I recently obtained my massage license, and I seek to solve for why massage is out of reach as a treatment option.

[@GinaR21212]

It's also about genetics, My mother was related to the Hatfields and McCoys, the McCoys had von Hipple lindow syndrome, My mother died from cancer, my uncle died from lung cancer, my aunt died from breast cancer I have two cousins that never smoke that have both had double mastectomies, I have adrenal insufficiency All the records can be found at Vanderbilt University in Tennessee. The Hatfields and McCoys have been in this country for over 300 years.

[@ReligionAndMaterialismDebunked]

:3 :p Nice. Fellow Jewish brother, Gabor Maté, that I've been a big fan of for several months. 😅🤝🤝🤝 Yes! Corrupt, and plastic (pun intended) society.

[@halieblair8769]

❤

[@riellycardy9899]

Love his point about men looking for a mother, and then leaving women who finally stand up for themselves, to find a woman who hasn't learned to stand up for herself yet. What a great point.

[@gloriaviruet6026]

Awesome dialogues

[@soraiabranco8687]

My ex-husband....

[@turnoffmyphone]

Yes! We have know this since birth, but for some reason listening to a man say that is a great relief.

[@joybrehaut9416]

They look for a mother or turn the woman into their mother and then eventually dislike them because they are their mother. And the woman/mother eventually does not want to be with their a son.

[@StraightWooAstrology]

This has also happened to me multiple times. Ex boyfriend wanted a mother, I became it (and resented it) and then he cheated on me. Same. Exact. Story. With my ex husband. This is the inevitable outcome - any mother would resent caring for an overgrown child fully capable of taking care of themselves. And only a sick child wants to screw their mom. And then the cycle repeats…

[@JoyceHAnderson-rp5bf]

I'm 80 years old and this video above just drastically changed my life!!!!!!!!!!!!! If I could write a thousand thank you's here I would, right now! Only recently by watching youtube videos about adhd, I've learned that I"ve had all the symptoms all my life and have carried tons of guilt because I never could "fit in" with "normal" people even though I tried so hard to. Suddenly you explained that not ever being hugged as a child, and being ignored by my parents as I grew up, and hearing the cruel arguing my parents hurt each other with, caused me to learn how to "zone out" under any stressful circumstances, and so hyperfocusing on favorite subjects also takes me away from facing head on with any perceived difficulties. I won't take time to mention all the other ADHD symptoms. Suddenly, I completely understand why I am the way I am, and that it's NOT MY FAULT! What a shock and at the same time, what a relief! Now at last I can begin healing. Whew!

[@lj9524]

Your reply brought tears to my eyes. We don’t realize it but there are millions of children like you (us) in the US and the world. Much happiness and live to you in your remaining years on earth ((hug))💕

[@Madeleine-n4g]

@@lj9524 trauma most people have traumas it is impossible not to have some kind of trauma so we have to learn to live with trauma is not ones fault but we must take steps to make life easier with trauma.. .... in Harries case well he is just one of many millions of people with trauma I do not feel sorry for him at all ... he has it all

[@stephensibley]

Yes u can...

[@jessmedina252]

same here as an adult I learned about Bipolarism and understood I why I had a certain pattern of behavior in my earlier days. I finally connected the dots.

[@JoyceHAnderson-rp5bf]

I think I should add that when I put all this information together with all the other things I've learned over the years studying the human brain and how heridity and environment sculpt so many people, I no longer can judge anyone. I don't have their dna and I don't have their life experiences and I don't have their brain wiring. I may not approve of some things folks do, but I still care as I wonder what happened to make them that a way. For the first time I can understand God's unconditional love for us all .

[@sheribrougham4863]

There will never be another Gabor Mate. Appreciate everything about him while you can.

[@andreaeady8000]

He has helped me with my issues with my terrible addiction to opiates & cocaine( & 3 rehabs❤)

[@kays3956]

This session won my subscription. I had a surgery 3 months back. Immediately after my surgery, I read and listened to Gabor Mate's "When the Body Says No". I cried so deeply because his book struck my core. I understood immediately what caused my current state of being. After a time of reflection and a deep desire to heal and recuperate, I made a difficult decision to leave my work and cut down losses in my relationships. It is a deeply scary move but I felt lighter and at peace as a result.

[@strawberrylove5684]

I’m so happy for you that you’ve been able to make those changes! I know from experience that it’s hard to make the move to cut friends who drain you

[@kimdavis5403]

Difficult choices but absolutely necessary! Good for you!!!

[@michaelluu915]

I don't believe you cut down on your relationships, I believe you focused your time on those that matter. You don't have to respond to this comment since your time is precious. Have a beautiful day!

[@call_in_sick]

Self care ❤

[@kays3956]

@@michaelluu915 in a way you are right. i decided to honour my introvert self and not try so hard to be an extrovert anymore. I focus on genuine telationships and not try so hard to please others. its difficult at first but once i gave myself permission i really honour my time and my needs. Thanks for your comment.

[@jjm559]

Can this guy get a noble peace prize please! just the fact that he makes us seem understood is tremendously healing....

[@Zookeeper.]

So many Nobel winners... And I have the feeling this is going to be a busy year for a LOOOOT of us.

[@denisemartinez9142]

❤

[@CarlJAshley]

no they give those to presidents who bomb and kill the most women and children!

[@rosehill9537]

Can we nominate him?

[@teresaheinz9785]

No ok😅😮

[@Theowlhawk]

Dr. Gabor Mate, is a human being, his humanness is raw, honest and sincere.

[@mk9330]

This is so spot on, when I started to say no and stop people pleasing I thrived, I stopped getting sick all the time, and what is very interesting my StepFather died of ALS and he always dropped everything to help people and please people. This was so mind blowing to watch, when I started to think about me and what I need and stopped worrying about being liked my life honestly changed, Thank you Dr Gabor you have made me think about more growth I have todo.

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

Really happy to hear this one resonated with you! Thank you for sharing with us. Team DOAC 🙏

[@kentstout9516]

❤

[@gorkyd7912]

100% of people will die. So if I say that people who are selfish will die I will also be proven correct, 100% of the time. Is this science now?

[@forevergraceful6160]

yeah, me too! I started my thrive mode the moment I decide to think how to take care and love myself, first and foremost!!

[@briobarb8525]

​@@forevergraceful6160I'm still working on it. I have the knowledge that I need to forgive myself... what I need more of is the ability and self compassion to do so...much more often than I am able. 😢

[@silvvvvvvi]

I went to the event he said he did not do his best. It was one of the best event I ever been to, I was in tears. Honestly, I will always remember of that evening and what he and his wife said. 😊❤

[@hexxan007]

Now this is a comment under a YT video i'm sure he would love to read!

[@anitapaul230]

Try to convey it to him❤

[@TheMagickalMedium]

He is so humble but also too hard on himself. The world almost doesn't deserve him! 💖

[@bl3524]

this man always hits the nail. Not knowing to say NO has gotten me into so much trouble. I learned to say NO when I got sick and started caring for myself.

[@earthlingsandy]

Good for you and remember, it's ok to put ourselves first thus say no when it doesn't feel right because if we're not good to ourselves how can we be good to anyone else. God bless! 🙏🏽

[@Bronte866]

I believe higher beings watch over you closely, and you have been guided to care for yourself, to give you care you deserve and didn’t get your deserved portion of earlier. Our journeys have only just begun. This is but a short diversion to the next adventure. That’s what I believe anyway. ☘️

[@debbieketchem194]

Same Here

[@amani1096]

It took me 38 yrs but yes...same here

[@mariaarenas4181]

Taking into account the murders the doctors statements can only be correct

[@fabirocha.locutora]

It struck me to see how humble and honest Gabor is when he talks about his own mistakes. Wow !!

[@MsQ275]

that's called maturity, it's very rare and that's why it's amazing to see

[@notbaltic280]

It´s called a well trodden performance.

[@layloxx1]

Exact thoughts!! Right from the start

[@truthstumbled4d1]

but talking about people in a public forum who did not consent to it, who he probally never met or does not personally know, is unprofessional imo.

[@sangeet9100]

It's terrible how every bit of your action in public is perceived as a performance that's expected to be perfect and appeasing. There's no acceptance of mistakes even though everyone makes mistakes all the time, rehearsed or not. Individuality has faded; it's all a mass behavior

[@tambrancehuisinga616]

Thank you for a fascinating conversation. Emotionally, physically and sexually abused by a parent with RAD and who was a sociopath, I am a non-smoker who at 65 was diagnosed with NSCL cancer, stage 4. The discussion and reference to NSCL cancer cancertoday rang all of my bells. I am still a “pleaser” but I have found my “voice.” And, when my date of anticipated death was pronounced by excellent oncologists, God made a way. Two ORAL medications inactivated the cancer. In May, I will have survived SIX years, instead of the few months I was given in 2018.

[@MsLC-zd1ns]

God bless you 🙏🏼🤗

[@diannephillips5162]

Thankyou Jesus 🙏

[@bshive7669]

Wow a new beginning for you. May God bless you and keep you xx

[@CamC-hs2gv]

Lovely.Thanks for sharing .Keep flourishing. Beauty all around you.

[@briobarb8525]

Good for you...not just for surviving...but for thriving. ❤

[@nicolemcelroy6758]

I love that Gabor, somebody revered for having the answers and enlightened clarity on humans deepest, most hidden issues can openly say he's just figuring life out too. Humbling, reassuring.

[@skittles2055]

👍😊

[@LareinaP]

Super reassuring! ❤

[@zulusoso]

I agree. It means so much more to me that he's honest about his humanity.

[@virgilkirschner5717]

When asked how are you doing, your answer images what most of us are going through. We are up, we are down. Although we enjoy the UPS. We must learn to cope with the downside.❤

[@stacyfiske7903]

Add to this that you NEVER "figure out life," you just get better at it as you become aware of yourself... your true, authentic self.

[@johnmcgrath6192]

My mother was a very kind woman who lived to a healthy old age. She was also strong and capable of expressing her anger. She was also rational and well educated and used anger to put a stop to stupid, mean or unjust behavior or to get a problem out in the open so it could be resolved. For instance, she once burst into the office of the President of her huge corporation, looked right in the eye, and said, "You cheap bastard." He was startled but had the sense to ask, "What's the matter?" They had a civil rational conversation regarding the policy announced that day that a person's years of part time work would not count towards the company's pension. After their conversation there was an announcement the next day that part time work would count towards the company's pension.

[@strawberrylove5684]

Your mom sounds wonderful, I wish I’d had more role models like her

[@LovinLnCottage]

As a lifelong equestrian, I call this action the “chain across the nose and 2 sharp jerks” to get the attention of a recalcitrant stallion.😁😉

[@StBrigidsTempleHEALING]

I want to hear more about that woman!

[@niceknow7493]

Ur mum is amazing

[@moonolyth]

Your Mom was lucky she was not given a shovel or fired. But yes good for her and her people. Most I've had the privlage of working with in that model have been cand or worked and fired...like a cop can find any reason to cuff you..if they feel unsafe❤

[@barba7741]

I am the 4 th of nine children. I felt, and still feel, invisible in my family. At age 72. This is really speaking to me.

[@E.Cerulean]

Wow ! I hope you felt visible with someone else. Do you think it's better to have less children in this day and age?? I wanted 6 but I'm reconsidering

[@jillyjoan8416]

I was 5th of 6 kids. I can relate.

[@barba7741]

It has taken me many years to even realize how minimized I felt in my family, and to step away from that toxicity. As to your question, I can't really say. But these days I am relating to the word - Validation. No matter how many there are, take time to see, hear, validate, and love each one. When there are conflicts, validate each point of view, and teach them how to see and cherish the truth in each point of view. Teach them to listen with love, how to apologize, and how to forgive. Growing up in 9 was a good experience in many ways. But my parents were WWII generation. They didn't talk about feelings, at all. They taught us how to share, to 'get along', to go along, to sit down and be quiet. I still have difficulty knowing what I want, and making decisions. Best wishes to you, and your family. @@E.Cerulean

[@jbyrd2401]

I am last of 9 siblings, we do feel invisible; not heard & lost in the crowd. Just another mouth to feed. Exhausted parents. All just surviving, constant stress... less is best. I have one daughter, love her dearly.

[@mattlittleton5137]

I was 4th of 5 and definitely can understand what you mean.

[@hannerz777]

“Trauma is not just a personal issue. It’s very much a social, collective, and historical issue.” Dr. Mate, here spitting the truth. 👏 When we benefit at the expense of our sisters & brothers, they suffer and we suffer. Here’s to healing 💕🕊️

[@katewilliams60]

I LOVE Gabor’s transparency and examples from his own life.

[@Isragirl10]

For a therapist, it’s very unprofessional and self absorbed to enter his private examples into every clinical situation and explain everything through the lense of his personal experience. It’s actually very narcissistic. Some people work very hard and can handle fame. For others fame becomes their Achilles heel. I think he is the latter. I find his work important, but his persona tedious and self absorbed.

[@RainbowSunshineRain]

@@Isragirl10 he's not doing therapy in interviews ... why the strong judgement? His transparency has helped me a lot, and other as well, that it's ok to be human. If you don't like it, you can just look away.

[@dkdoodle]

@@Isragirl10that applies to a therapy session. He is not being a therapist here. Also he is a medical doctor, not a therapist!

[@sirena6590]

@@Isragirl10girl i’m autistic as hell and his comparison really helped me, he’s being interviewed it’s not that serious

[@MMimi-mg4qt]

Transparency is called honesty?

[@hexxan007]

Gabor Maté is the most profound example of a wounded healer i've ever seen. I am extremely grateful that he's been all over the place lately. His knowledge is part of what this world needs in order to be able to heal. I can warmly recommend his book "The Myth of Normal" and i am spreading copies wherever i can. Edit: I love his wife Rae, too. She who said "Truth is sexy." Now ain't that one sexy truth! :-D

[@indabackyardwithzoemachunga]

Spread the love to me. I wish I could get the book, too.

[@keepingitreal-thatsright]

Me too. So glad I was introduced to this non last year

[@hexxan007]

@@indabackyardwithzoemachunga Hi dear, i replied earlier but that reply "mysteriously" disappeared. I've sent you a bunch of universal love and wished i could send you the book, too. Please check it out, maybe you could afford to buy it, maybe together with a friend, or a few friends? Big hug!

[@janmitchell641]

Rae is also a fabulous artist. We have a few of her very joyful and whimsical prints.

[@rachellemaerosario]

Would love to have one!

[@Pigmyta]

Mister Mate is so humble. To be so wise and yet still be able to admit own faults, that is the true mastery worth following!

[@edelgyn2699]

Don't you admit faults? It's not unusual for people to share poor decisions...

[@Pigmyta]

@@edelgyn2699 You live in a nice reality if you presume this is a standard, congratz! :)

[@EmpoweredToBeMe]

I agree. I’m encouraged.

[@007nadineL]

Dr.

[@joanndaprile9076]

@@007nadineL I agree. He earned the title Doctor and it is his title, Doctor Mate, and not Mister.

[@62Cristoforo]

Authenticity and honesty are such rare commodities these days. Thank you, Gabor.

[@Sabrina-LosAngeles]

His teachings should be mandatory for any academic curriculum of aspiring MDs. He’s amazing ❤❤. Thank you for this conversation.

[@nehasonney]

Emotional self-regulation is the most important life skill. I taught myself the life skills I didn't learn in school. I had to also do a lot of unlea4ning. So I know what you mean in your comment!

[@tdarons]

Our academic institutions have churned out two generations of doctors who lack insight into the human condition, who have poor attitudes to complex trauma survivors (specifically caused by child sexual abuse), who lack empathy and basic respect, and who willingly subscribe to the doctrines and indoctrination of Big Pharma. This has created an extremely unsafe society in general. I am a Survivor. I speak from personal experience here

[@cleestacy]

Yes!!!!!!!!

[@jadebel7006]

This is all lies lol common sense dictates that ppl that are promoting themselves on TV, s0cial media etc n trying to sell you something ..books..lectures..typically are the least credible..they're just trying to make money off of u...these ppl are manipulative oppurtunists trying to make money from you by lying and are damaging ppls minds with their manipulation..n the guy that runs this channel is just a sc*mb@g doing the exact same ...this guy constantly have bad ppl n liars on your channel does he do no research or just have no morals n only care about making £££ I think I know the answer

[@Grenzenlosgesund]

That is exactly what I am thinking 😀🥰 ...but not only for MD's, also for Teachers, Politicians ...for anybody... there is so much to unlearn and relearn in all areas for all of us

[@JayneSiroshton]

This is so true! A few years ago I went through a very tough year where our family suffered from lots of stressful events and I tried to be kind and calm and keep everyone together with a smile on my face but inside I felt very overwhelmed. I didn't know who to talk to so I kept everything bottled up and then I suddenly got very sick, I was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease (psoriatic arthritis) told that it was very aggressive and that the only treatment was to take very harmful drugs to suppress my immune system. I was very ill, I started taking the methotrexate 2 days a week, my fingers were so disfigured and painful that I could barely use them and I'm an artist so that was even more difficult and then I realised that this was all caused by my mind. I started to meditate, I became a vegan, and one evening I was talking to my husband and suddenly found myself crying and told him that I was afraid he would leave me if I was sick (my dad left my mom when she was sick when I was very small). I remember saying "I'm scared you won't want me if I'm not useful" and he laughed and gave me a big hug and said "Who said you've ever been useful? I don't love you because you're useful I love you for you" and then a miracle happened. I never realised that I was trying to be helpful and kind and useful all the time because I was afraid of being left and in that moment it felt like a festering splinter that had been there all my life was finally pulled out and I felt light and free. It's been five years, I am living the most amazing life, I feel free, I am 100% healthy. My husband and I are having an amazing adventure together, this year we moved half way across the world and every day feels exciting and new. Thank you both for this brilliant video life is beautiful xxx

[@YogaBlissDance]

@user-uf4op2en4u YOU NEED TO SHARE YOUR STORY on some of the HEALING CHANNELS! I truly believe 90 percent of illness is emotion/mind caused. Blessings to you on going deep to heal.

[@sallymander7863]

That is really good to hear, thank you and bless you. ❤️❤️👍🏻

[@betsyheimel3336]

cool

[@betsyheimel3336]

@@sallymander7863 lol no 0p

[@starrbowie8649]

Thank you very much for sharing your experience so expressively. It teally resonated with me and will help me in the future, I feel sure. My best to you always....

[@mariascalise]

I loved the message that nobody is broken, that we can all recover our genuine self 💯

[@twilit]

i do too and i’m hopeful we will all have access to support and tools to do so. we develop in relationship with others and it takes relationships with others to heal. for too long access to therapeutic relationships especially non mainstream that recognizes somatic and trauma and the like has been completely out of financial reach for those who need it most. i’m hopeful this is changing.

[@jasonjenkins5857]

That was my favorite part.

[@elydan6049]

Yes I also learned that our dearest body works day and night to support us and we do not respect it and often offend it...

[@jayejaye4life]

This is so true. i got really sick with pneumonia in December 2023, and it took 2 months to fully recover. after setting boundaries with work and relationship and being able to say no, my health has been so much better i feel so great within myself. Being sick was my body way of telling me to slow down and to take care of myself

[@chocolatelover13]

YES! Recognizing trauma is not an excuse to continue the behavior, but to overcome it

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

can be hard to face, but its so true! ❤

[@stevietalk1]

I’ve done the work .. 2 decades of healing work ( from childhood trauma) while I lived everyday life … I only have 1 life, I’m responsible for learning, grieving & healing.. ❤ It seems hard at times, but working through this stuff is SO liberating - FREEDOM ❤️‍🩹 to 💝 = 💪🎉

[@louisedevries4090]

Amen

[@21Sally]

Well said!👍🏼

[@Stormyweld05]

Absolutely!

[@personlady2438]

Gabor is a gift to humanity.

[@christineclements9321]

Gabor IS a gift to humanity, and being able to hear this interview is a gift to me.

[@annabuchanan4256]

Spot on regarding auto immune diseases. I always put everyone’s needs first and programmed to help humanity at the expense of my own needs. I had chronic fatigue for many years but now I’m more balanced but it felt like selfishness at the start, putting my needs before others still feels uncomfortable.

[@1epcut]

I agree, it's such an accurate observation. I was diagnosed with RA at the age of 32, and I used to be that quiet person my whole life, who rarely expressed anger, rarely cussed, was conflict avoidant and just wanted peace at all costs. And it felt scary and awkward to start showing my dissatisfaction, but to my surprise, most of those situations I thought would end up in a conflict, got resolved without as much as an argument. Seeing that helped me to express myself more openly instead of suppressing everything inside

[@majeshna]

For me too. Feels unnatural. But if I don't do my best then nobody else will. 💪

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

I am happy to hear that you are feeling more balanced. Best of luck in your continued healing ❤

[@24get24give]

@@1epcut good for you! hope your health improves, as well!

[@1epcut]

@@24get24give Thank you, that's very kind ☺

[@janegriffith9598]

I feel inner peace is accepting yourself for you are. Taking the time to recharge you batteries, and reflecting who you are.

[@brittrubin9461]

We must remember that we all carry not only our own pain but the memories and experiences of all our ancestors ..thank you Gabor and Steven.

[@alexaelliott2598]

If you believe that you need to change your mindset. This type of thinking is a symptom of 1st world abundance. Stop navel gazing at start finding purpose in your daily life and look forward, not inward or backward. Do you think Gabor looks well? His constant inward gazing is a sign he’s mentally unwell too.

[@AidenRobert-nc1fp]

Hello . I just turned 67 and i am sharing some benefits. Let me know if you are interested . I'm just helping the few I can

[@pelilin2519]

If you are too disagreeable you become psychopath or narcissist. If you are too agreeable people abuse you. I think what every psychologist will agree is that we need to keep things in balance.

[@danthelambboy]

We don't need to but balance is nice. Some people don't and can't resolve their imbalance, that's not to say their experience is invalid

[@dan44zzt231]

If your naturally agreeable learning to be assertive is very important. Something I have struggled with immensely.

[@deborahcurtis1385]

Great but to be fair that's the easy bit. The problem is the how. It's about how to resolve the problems and blocking patterns that are unconscious and are actually bad for you both physically and psychologically. As Mate says, this is not about mind control or about directing your life in only a logical way, rather it's about integrating with the intuition or 'gut feelings'.

[@williamdistasio9358]

I love the comment sections of this channels videos. Always so many opinions and insights from all over the world, and, it's really nice and refreshing to hear healthy, fun, caring debating, caring opinions, and caring towards one another in general. But I do wonder though, why is it so much easier (for me anyway and many others I've observed too, over the years) to, write how I (we) feel? And sometimes, to write passionately, to a person, or people, strangers and/or ppl I (we) know, without reservations and with love and compassion in my (our) heart's.... yet, if I'm standing in front of those SAME ppl, I might have a sudden fear of speaking those same words I could so easily and eloquently write..... What's that about?

[@danthelambboy]

@@dan44zzt231 agreeable people sometimes don't serve others as well as they think they do, being progressive and health minded in our own life's creates more interesting and productive lives for us which others can appreciate, there are many ways to provide for others, being too agreeable can mean not progressing ourselves and bringing others along. It can be harder for others to feel secure around the agreeable as they often won't challenge others to grow when they need, they can tolerate others being stuck in misery while they provide niceness rather than progressive wisdom

[@rachf9695]

Anyone notice him ask if he was talking too much? Cause Steven was listening so contently as he always does that Gabor wasn't sure if he was out of line! Steven has a keen ability to allow his guests to be authentic as he listens and asks questions that continue to level up these incredible podcast! ❤❤❤

[@snowyowl6892]

… listening so intently 👈🏿

[@marzpoolea5752]

Compassionate listening - it's a 'thing some of us do'

[@karmensita274]

🫂

[@traceyryanfreestylehypnoth355]

The best podcast ever.

[@LaraBurn]

The moment when this great and unbelievably wise man asks ‘am I talking too much’ is so endearing. Fantastic episode. Dr Mate is an international treasure ❤

[@monaminas]

What an intelligent, kind, exceptional human being and doctor! I wish that more of the doctors would be like him. So compassionate and truthful! I love your mind and soul, Dr. Mate!

[@newearth4071]

Gabore is a GIFT to humanity ❤ Thank you for this excellent opportunity to interview him.🙏❤

[@iamvictoriakim]

I realized that the reason I couldn't truly be myself was because I was afraid of being judged by others. I came to understand that I always sought attachment over authenticity, which prevented me from becoming my true self. Dr. Mate's insight is remarkable.

[@lorir5728]

I've done that. Always accommodated the other person in relationships but in it my wants and needs never hel got furillrd. Always worried about keeping the other person hwppy. I have always been happier single because I lose myself in relationships.

[@aarathia]

Gabor talks about the compulsion to keep picking up the phone to see if there was anyone who needed him... is so real. Thank you for being authentic as you always are.

[@lewishammond1]

Gabor is brilliant. I am on a journey to self-enlighten after being diagnosed with Bipolar, ADHD and other Disorders at 36. The biggest change was applying some of what Gabor said, letting go of my emotions, being self-aware, learning, focusing on my mental and physical health. I turn 41 next month and listening to podcasts like this gives me hope.

[@caroleminke6116]

Don’t just let go of the emotions but observe them passing through you & you’re on your way to discovering the power within ❤

[@lmiller1413]

Best wishes on your journey. The world is not kind to those of us with executive dysfunctions. Be kind to yourself when others are not.

[@surferdude4487]

Have you looked into Daniel Amen? He has also appeared on this podcast. He is the pioneer of linking active brain-scans to mental health. He also has a lot of useful advice about how to protect your brain and actively help your most important organ to be healthy.

[@mswonder1970]

This MAN !!! Is just too big for words ! His raw honesty and authenticity is off the charts and how can he publicly be so naked about his own issues. Bow down! Love you Gabor!❤️🙏

[@camileytv]

I'm doing same! I was diagnosed emotional disorder caused by substances, with psychotic symptoms. Working on myself with meditation and self awareness

[@Yuki-nz5xy]

Not saying no has a lot to do with the fear of abandonment. It is always a pleasure to listen to Gabor and to learn from him.

[@judedavidson2852]

Dr Mate is the ultimate world wide shaman. His gentle approach, honesty and compassion in his work is healing the intergenerational trauma and social ignorance of child rearing. Most of us are traumatised by parents listening to social norms thinking they’re doing the right thing. It’s great to have someone directing us to a better path.

[@accomplushed]

gabor mate worked so hard on this interview. he really poured his mind and heart into every answer and paced his responses and prompts so well and its nice to see that the interviewer treated him with the respect he deserves which likely ultimately brought out his best work

[@rachf9695]

Did you notice him ask if he was talking too much? Cause Steven was listening so contently as he always does that Gabor wasn't sure if he was out of line! Steven has a keen ability to listen and ask questions that continue to level up these incredible podcast! ❤❤❤

[@lovefitstudio]

I love the vulnerability and honesty of his human experience. ❤️

[@celinenoort7530]

Gabor's voice is so touching, soothing, and his words are so authentic I often find myself teary by his raw stories and attitude. Thank YOU Gabor!

[@24get24give]

I had a stroke in Sept 2008; and went through the same thing with my husband. except for me, it was "I want to take care of you, not need you to take care of me" [they told us I would never walk again] he just laughed and said "me, too, but I made a promise, for better or for worse, and I'll keep it", and he has!, I am walking, with a cane, and just use a chair for long distances but I'll take it I just ordered all of his books and can't wait for them to get here!, I'm even intrigued by Harry's book now, not much of a royal watcher before, but would like to see the interview he talked about, poor kid[Charles always struck me as a cold fish, what little I saw of him], but that sounded incredibly heartless

[@dianathompson8794]

I find his voice a monotone drone....awful.

[@rkamene]

So true...You should also listen to Sadia Khan's, immensely soothing🤗😊

[@cheezypoet]

Absolutely. His voice itself is so therapeutic

[@MrMakiskol]

@@dianathompson8794 Really? WOW! We have an expert talking for nearly two hours and...the only comment you managed to make is about his voice? Did you pay any attention to what he's talking about? 🤦🏻‍♂🤷‍♂

[@Mentaljuana]

This has really, in a way, forced me to accept myself and my faults as completely human and "normal." 😅 To hear a man whom you admire for his wisdom and strength, to hear him say he struggles with the things I do, is such a comfort and validation for self-acceptance. The amount of accountability from this human is soul shaking. You are heard and seen, Dr. Mate 😊🙌✨️💛

[@TheMagickalMedium]

Well said!

[@joyb5525]

My mother was bipolar and i was 6 weeks in an incubator. Never liked her. But here I am at 70 and all the abandonment and bullying issues I've had has lead me to embrace the life of a mystic. I couldn't have asked for more. I am so lucky to have met the right teachers. Like the crucifixion, a right of passage. Dr. Gabor is excellent. A example of a great human being. The wisdom of the survivor. 🎉

[@maryrankin9869]

God Bless you. Glad you found G.M.

[@wilmavlaar8914]

Great spoken very interesting intervieuw!!!

[@Nelikaful]

Can relate - connect. Being not alone is a blessing, isn't it? Let's keep growing, keep stretching, exploring our beauty, feeling the feelings... 💔❤🌈

[@AidenRobert-nc1fp]

Hello . I just turned 67 and i am sharing some benefits. Let me know if you are interested . I'm just helping the few I can

[@luizaperrellibartolo2603]

😮😅😮😅u😅

[@AwakenedAuraa]

I love how he said “am I talking to much”. I love listening to this Man and his voice is very soothing too. We need great doctors like this in the world ❤

[@mialite7959]

Yes! I burst out laughing like a hyena when he said that!

[@alexandradavis7256]

Yes his voice sometimes makes me sleepy but I see that as a good thing!

[@reemked1908]

Listening to these voices, help me affirm the thoughts that i have been ruminating for a while, especially after losing both my parents in a short window of 3 years. My mom was just 60 when she passed away with no medical conditions whatsover. She was extremely extremely over the board generous and patient and nice even to people who hurt her. When she passed away suddenly within a matter of 3 days because of gall bladder infection, people were hellishly shocked and in denial. But strangely, I was not! Though i knew she had no physical problems, i knew what she was going through deep pain psychologically. She was a big time pushover. She could never say a No. So was my dad. All our life decisions were based around pleasing the society! When she passed away, this was the exact thought that came to my mind "Only if she spared herself for herself and us!" . Hundreds of people cried around her but i knew nonev of them knew her well at all They all liked her because she was there for them always with no boundaries! And they would never find any like her! But in real, I wish she saved herself for people who mattered. She had grown resentful over years that took her away from us.... This podcast just gave me the chills as i had a similar epiphany when she passed away! I feel like God is talking to me through this podcast ❤

[@Annapurna818]

Same with my mom.

[@laquerisma]

I'm really sorry about your mom. She was a valuable person. We should all learn our value and save it for those who matter most.

[@Regina-xk6os]

Please, please, read 1 Corinthians 13. It has been said thousands years ago and it's the answer to you in regards to your mom and your pain. The most kind and compassionate people die because they needed but didn't find love from the people they served, but they didn't know there was God who loved them all their life, and this love was greater than any human could give. You can change the world if you love people the way Christ loves them, unconditionally, generously, caringly. I love the word "charity" which King James' Bible uses in place of love in this context. Charity is not a donation of things or money, it's genuine deep caring for people, which is more than love, because it's always doing and acting selflessly. My sincere condolences on your loss. God bless you!

[@maritaalisjahbana4551]

Thanks for sharing... I think a lot of us have known people with this problem and can therefore relate. Good thing we now live in times where this problem is recognized... thanks to Gabor Mate and others... and so help can be sought if we can acknowledge and face up to this issue.

[@berenisemendez5223]

Amen to that! ♥️♥️♥️♥️ your story reminds me of my grandma 76yrs old who her stress finally took a toll on her physical health. I have a huge family and she’s the one everyone looks for because she says yes to everyones favors, specially her children except for my mother. My family treats my grandmother like a maid. My mother has trauma from her abusive father and has unresolved resentment towards my grandma (her mom) which led my mom to separate us from the rest of the family. My grandma calls my mother a few times a year to talk but my mom avoids her at times. Everytime she calls, she ends up venting to my mother, telling her how tired she is of peoples problems and having constant parties family events at her home she’s just stuck on limbo not living life but living for everyone else. It’s sad to see her health deteriorate all while her children, their children and the rest of the family takes advantage of her caretaking.

[@debbiefox4439]

What an absolutely wonderful very wise kind man thankyou Dr Gaber

[@corinaspfx]

Stephen is a King when it comes to the art of asking questions, gets better every episode. As for Gabor, his growth is also palpable, deeply valuable and endlessly heartwarming. Thank you both ❣

[@m-laure4804]

And he is also an interviewer who lets his ‚other‘ talk. So rare these days!

[@speakwell.840]

Nice comment. ❤

[@dreicharz]

I love how he never interrupts anyone ,ever.

[@SwedishTourist]

agree, his interviewing technique is great

[@jaymann5180]

Stephen is a King...I see what you did there.

[@mirandaandrea8215]

What a wonderful man and not afraid to express his fallibility! He's human like all of us! Top notch!

[@marthamagee2055]

Gabor Maté is the Trauma Shaman of our time. ✨🙏

[@hexxan007]

@@marthamagee2055 Exactly! A Shaman with the archetype of the Wounded Healer. I am so grateful he is out here a lot now!

[@livinglifefullywithlove1328]

I cannot give enough likes for Gabor Maté, this man is a genius!!!

[@sjohnson4675]

I had to take a nap halfway through this, but not because I was bored. It's wonderful hearing someone confirm that you are on the right path. I've been working on myself nonstop, and someone else understands. It's overwhelming

[@jessejules2092]

I was shamed by my father for being an overly sensitive child. I was abused physically and mentally through neglect and verbal abuse. UNTIL I learned through reading about psychology and self help, that my sensitivity is a gift. I think it is very important for women to familiarize themselves with terms such as 'condesention' 'shaming' 'undermining' 'gaslighting' 'standover tactics' 'dismissive' 'loaded language' 'belittling' etc, in order to challenge the attitudes and behaviors of others towards them so that they can then hold to account what is wrong in a situation, but also challenge their own internal dialogue.

[@friedaangaine1246]

Is there a book you can recommend? I haven’t read any of his books, but sure to look out for them

[@jenifernadeau]

yes they want to demonize your individuality. Your light scares THEIR darkness. that's all. They KNOW your light and dont want u to shine it...YOUR perception is all that matters, no one, especially family should be put on a pedestal. They're only meant to stay in our lives long enough to teach us BIG lessons, then our true soul tribe shows up as we raise our frequencies...focusing on self love allows for increased trust in our intuition/angels/Higher Self, etc. We are powerful sovereign light beings.. families represent the institutions, govt/media/education etc that we will encounter as tests to learn to see thru the manipulations/coercion/illusions that we survived in childhood.

[@Darren-c6u]

In my case it was my Mother, now I feel sorry for Her because she grew up in a time where this kind of Help was not an option, it also Help me to get rid of the resentment❤ it's nice to feel connected to people when I read the comments❤

[@dagmaryork4940]

Elaine Aron - Talks about Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) helped me tremendously.

[@Darren-c6u]

Same here, I finally understood that if I learned to Chanel it Properly it can become a sort of super power

[@gyorgybernard8647]

This is so true. I have an autoimmune disease and I'm a chronic people pleaser and self abandoner. I don't know if I can change. I wish Gabor would make an exercise book for chronic people pleasers to help them overcome this tendency.

[@Apostolkosto]

I can say that the first step in any change is awareness, and you've already achieved that. Recognizing that you have a tendency to self-abandon in favor of pleasing others is crucial. From here, you can start to explore why you do this and what steps you can take to prioritize yourself more often. It's never too late to change. Even small steps can lead to significant improvements over time. You're not alone in this, so feel free to reach out to people of people who are going through similar emotions so... hope I have contributed with some good.

[@Ffar2578]

Read codependent no more by melony beattie if that helps,it's a profound book

[@fionabooth1816]

Or read Facing Codependence by Pia Melody. I found it very helpful in explaining the routes of Codependence and how to go about changing it. There is also a workbook to go with it.

[@cupcake0480]

Awareness is the first step. Alan Robarge has some vey insightful videos here on KZbin, on people pleasing and the core wound of attachment trauma that might be helpful. He’s a clinical psychologist specialising in attachment wounds and how we then adapt our behaviours in adult life. He has some transformational information. I also have an autoimmune disease that has been in remission since I did the healing work of attachment wounds from my childhood. Might be a coincidence, but I ‘feel’ different now and remission followed.

[@lollylula6399]

Crappy Childhood Fairy here on KZbin has some great videos that help with this and lots of other elements of it.

[@homovitreus9427]

Reading list spontaneously mentioned by Gabor on trauma recovery • Richard Schwartz - No Bad Parts • Bessel van der Kolk - The Body Keeps the Score • Peter Levine - Waking the Tiger • Bruce D. Perry und Oprah Winfrey - What Happend to You? • Bruce D. Perry - The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog • Gabor Maté - When The Body Says No • Gabor Maté - The Myth of Normal

[@renatagoncalvesviana8981]

Thank you for this!

[@caroa5097]

Yes thank you! 😊

[@melowndes]

Thank you!

[@debygiannioti4271]

Thank you 🙏

[@amb7440]

One other GREAT book, I have all these above and feel it has a place in the list. What to Say When You Talk to Yourself. Dr. Shad Helmstetter.

[@lorrainew7529]

Gabor Mate is truly a gift to humanity. He is a humanitarian gift. 🙏

[@jpholistics]

I had to pause this video SO.MANY.TIMES just to give myself a moment to process SO.MUCH.TRUTH. I feel such gratitude both to you and for you that I can hardly express it! Thank you!!

[@anitachojnacki4512]

He is just simply Authentication God bless him

[@mialite7959]

Same here.

[@elletisch]

Same!

[@emmaluftie7688]

Same!

[@gabrielladocche1203]

💗THE BEST episode I have ever seen in a long time. The humility and modesty of Gabor is mind blowing. Admitting he needed help, passing on the message that also great minds like him sometimes cannot do it alone and need to ask for help when needed, this was a great message for the audience. Such an amazing soul, his eyes speaks a thousand words, somehow I feel so much pain through his eyes but his light is brighter than darkness. THANK YOU Steven for being wonderful as always and for guiding the conversation impeccably❣

[@patriciamharris5664]

Yes,,,his eyes...I agree

[@fractalofathena2178]

Well stated 👍

[@denisemartinez9142]

Bingo!

[@justsayin397]

I agree 100%

[@marytrichilo7475]

I love this man. Plain and simple.

[@karinmiegel6420]

I can listen and listen and listen to Gabor. There is the peace of selfreflection and compassion in his voice. Deep bow and thank you so so much. I healed a lot through the teachings of Eckhart Tolle and my willing. What Gabor is talking about is like I deepen my healing and peace for myself and others. Thank you for your conversations. Blessed be

[@bluebell9231]

What a brain! Exceptional human being! I was in tears by the end of this interview. Brought so much to the surface, my childhood, relationships, worklife, and health. Now I realise that the solution is trying to accept, leave behind, and find my inner peace. It's not going to be easy, but I will try.

[@timeamimi2913]

I could listen to Dr. Gabor Maté endlessly. He is a genuine treasure in our world ❤️

[@shelchel9168]

I’m so interested in the correlation between people-pleasing and illness. I went travelling for almost 2 months by myself, and managed to put myself first during this trip. I wasn’t sick once. As soon as I came back and engaged in people pleasing again I got sick. It could just be a coincidence but it’s interesting to think about.

[@ceoa]

@shelche19168 I found it enlightening how he reminded us that the emotional and the immune system operated the same. A good thing to keep in mind! 🙂

[@shelchel9168]

@@ceoa absolutely!

[@the_kingd0m]

I believe a lot of "people pleasers" are just masters of the art of pretending to care, in other words, kissing ass all the time. They lose their inner dignity. There's no problem with being nice but you shouldn't need to put on a fake act. Just be real and try not to be abrasive, generally that's closer to the truth for many and authenticity goes a long way both externally and internally.

[@shelchel9168]

@@the_kingd0m did you watch the video? Dr Gabor explains the root of people-pleasing behaviour and it’s not quite how you’re describing it. Fair enough if that’s what you believe but I don’t think it’s helpful to shame people for behaviour which could be rooted in trauma.

[@athlene110]

Your bang on! Good on ya, for recognizing that 👏 👌

[@milanak2087]

I'm so happy to see in these comments that people love Dr Mate as much as I do! What a great human. Thank you 🤍

[@carolsummers-burke507]

I have to admit I didn’t think much of him because of how his therapy session with Harry was handled, but he is an amazing man. One can only hope Harry will take the advice offered, or take it further because the poor guy is in trouble. We all have problems , myself included. I’m working on it and now I’ll work on it better!

[@gregbatchelor9205]

This man is such a masterful communicator, I will never tire of listening to the compassionate and humanising manner he has of conveying his thoughts and feelings. His public persona (which for the sake of this comment is all that really matters) is truly an inspiration and I consider him quite a role model in that regard.

[@24get24give]

couldn't agree more, except on the guilt part; I try to hang on to the belief that we are all doing the very best we can for our kids, and I'm sure you did as well, and as for the touch part, my kids never went more than thirty minutes without a" yummy" or tickle "attack" ]where I'd chase them around the house throw them on the nearest horizontal surface and tickle and blow bubbles on their tummies until they begged me to stop it still makes them giggle to hear those words and they are twenty-nine and thirty-one now, and my daughter's getting her PhD in chemistry, while my son has one in psychiatry, so proud od them!

[@iwillhissatyou]

Agreed! 🤝🏻

[@ericasilveiracampos5987]

Exactly, I agree

[@NihouNi]

I’m really grateful for Dr Mate’s honesty and humility. Makes me not feel quite such a failure.

[@vj8406]

Keep failing up 🙌

[@claudiacanales2662]

I truly think that Dr. Mate is a gift to humanity to help us understand our traumas...especially in today’s stressful times! He’s soooo humble!

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

you're definitely not a failiure....we are all learninga long the way and doing the best we can with the current level of awareness we have. Just try and learn from any mistakes (mistakes are the way we grow). You are loved ❤

[@Eve65901]

Gabor mate is the light we need in this world. His compassionate work has changed my life and I am forever grateful for his presence and work.

[@Tinyflypie]

Gabor's honesty is so refreshing.

[@TheMagickalMedium]

Yes! And so HUMBLE. ❤

[@traciwebb1235]

Gabor is one of the quintessential teachers of our time. Both due to his profound intellectual knowledge and professional experience, but perhaps most importantly, from his ability to humbly and succinctly model and communicate the subtleties of what healing looks and feels like from the inside out. Thank you Gabor!

[@Funny-xm6yk]

He got so deep till he asked "Am I talking too much?" Doctor is passionate and knows his stuff.... Amazing guy.

[@donnalowe5370]

Let's look after young families. Yes! And look after people who work with kids so they have the energy and emotional resources to support the kids. Excellent discussion. So much wisdom.

[@ketket0725]

Yeeesssss it’s so stressful

[@jadebel7006]

This is all lies lol common sense dictates that ppl that are promoting themselves on TV, s0cial media etc n trying to sell you something ..books..lectures..typically are the least credible..they're just trying to make money off of u...these ppl are manipulative oppurtunists trying to make money from you by lying and are damaging ppls minds with their manipulation..n the guy that runs this channel is just a sc*mb@g doing the exact same ...this guy constantly have bad ppl n liars on your channel does he do no research or just have no morals n only care about making £££ I think I know the answer

[@linapesz313]

And who is going to look after them? It is easy to say ''let's look after''...But who? Is it going to be you? It is definitely not going to be me because I am already tired...Who is this magical person who will look after everybody?

[@donnalowe5370]

@@linapesz313, we start by respecting what teachers/counsellors/social workers do, not running them down in the media or belittling their professions. We pay them enough and we properly resource classrooms. We don't overload them with meaningless paperwork that justifies the existence of an unwieldy middle management. We ensure their education is relevant to what they'll be dealing with, especially acknowledging the fact that they are dealing with traumatised children. We ensure teachers' class sizes are reasonable. We do not tolerate disrespectful or threatening parents acting out. We properly fund education and psychological healthcare, and we shape our society so that we are looking after the next generation properly.

[@linapesz313]

@@donnalowe5370 and where are you going to get money for that? Also other professions will want the pay rise...it is going to be less stressful for them if they do not have to worry so much about cost of everything...Where is this money coming from? And how are you going to deal with disrespectful parents?ohhh I forgot...some people do not have children so they would prefer their taxed to go somewhere else...how are you going to get everyone to agree on something?

[@reyessouthey1350]

Dr Gabor Mate is a gift to mankind. Thank you Steven Bartlett for shining your light on him. Smashing conversation! 🙏🏻Thank you both! 🙏🏻

[@BB8284]

Gabor Maté always speaking to my soul. I love him.

[@viejitaaa]

Out of all the people on KZbin, Gabor is the person I can listen to the longest and never get bored. He is my favorite guest you've had and wrote my favorite book (that is useful for anyone and everyone to read and I enjoy gifting it to unbelievably kind, yet emotionally repressed friends) - When the Body Says No. So happy to see that you've invited him for a second interview.

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

He is an amazing soul ❤

[@cecileroy557]

I need to buy that book!

[@coppersense999]

Fancy seeing you here! You are quite the beautiful healer yourself ❤@@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool

[@covermeband]

Me too.

[@mercedesalexandre29]

I watch his video for hours. I love his delivery. His tone is very soothing & the information he gives is enlightening. I always take the time out to reflect after watching his videos to see what changes I need to make in my life

[@marieoflaherty1686]

Not being seen or heard. Childhood trauma. This man has helped me so much. I am now 66 and I suffered for years from physical and emotional wounds. You have made a difference to me ❤

[@cynthiascott9794]

Dr. Gabor Mate is one of our greatest living humanitarians.

[@linanicolia1363]

I look at this man and I see a face that has heard many tragedies. His intentions are good and he paid his dues. He needs to find peace now, for himself and not hear so much suffering from other people. It is draining.....He is very honest and feels compelled to explain about his personal issues as well, as what he does in his work. Respect and best of luck to him.

[@seannakelly]

I love this one. He is a amazing teacher. He has helped me more then he will ever know. I have realized how much of my childhood trauma has effected me as a mother. It took me to have children to really see how much I was failed by everyone around me my whole childhood.

[@tarkamij07]

Your interview style is one of the best I have ever heard. You listen... and respond with a question that takes your guest even deeper. That combined with showing your own vulnerability made this interview with the great Gabor Mate quite extraordinary 🙏 by the end I was crying, not sadness or joy, just overcome with the words of such deep love and wisdom. Thank you

[@WTFisBeingaHuman-wg4ji]

5 minutes in and I am already loving his vulnerability and honesty. Gabor Mate inspires people to heal and connect to their hearts. This is what I want to do for the world. Showcasing all the messiness of a human so we all see that we are all just humans. Most of us act out of our wounds. But we can choose to look within, fave our emotions, heal ourselves, and be more connected to our hearts. And we can pass this skill down to our children. This is the only way to improve this world.

[@bumblebee_ms]

As someone who is in recovery, once I stopped all of the addictions and paid that money for therapy instead it changed my life.

[@brendacampbell3229]

12 step programs work and are free

[@bernadettekavanagh9984]

Well done, you're on the road to recovery, trust God also you'll be amazed how He can help. ❤❤❤❤❤

[@hislipsmyheart2844]

BRAVO!!!

[@lulumoon6942]

CONGRATULATIONS ON BETTING ON YOURSELF! 👍🙏

[@bumblebee_ms]

Oh wow, thank you everyone for such kind words. It's been a long spiritual journey.

[@jaklyncraft666]

I love listening to Dr Gabor, he is the only person who helps me. You Mr CEO appear to have such wisdom and understanding, and allowing your guests to take the floor without interruption. I stumbled across your podcasts & am really enjoying you & your guests

[@SunrawTheBlueprint]

This man is a gift to humanity! Love you so much dr Gabor Matè! ❤️‍🔥🙏🏼⭐️

[@katisugarbaker7349]

Dr. Mate said there is a correlation between “niceness” and cancer NOT kindness and cancer. These are 2 very very different things. One can be both nice and kind at the same time but nice is just how others perceive someone. Kind is a quality of character.

[@bonim5180]

My goodness i was thinking the same thing. Words are facinating,they have hidden meanings,i have discovered a whole new world studying words🖖🏼

[@fransacchi550]

I've always hated the word 'nice' it always felt like a slur, or a dig...maybe it was being nice(masking) that made me so ill...I'd rather be kind than nice anyway. Words are a minefield...

[@jomlin143]

I love the complexity and simplicity of his answer to the question "how are you" Most of us gloss over this question when people ask the same of us. Love that he answered authentically

[@patbuckley4039]

Most ask as a polite hello, rather than really want to know how you are. Steve asked in a way that he wanted to know.

[@adriennegould7160]

Some children never become aware that they have needs. I didn’t realize it until I was in my 50’s. It suddenly dawned on me - “what about my needs”

[@katherinewhite3858]

Me too, and trying to communicate that to a domineering husband is impossible. How dare I have needs or wants… He thinks my only purpose is to make his life pleasant.

[@adriennegould7160]

@@katherinewhite3858 I asked my husband, straight up, that question, I think it shocked him. Another thing, I was working on my computer, I could hear him calling me from the garage to come help him with something, but I needed to finish up what I was doing and yelled back that I’d be there in a minute. Apparently, it wasn’t fast enough for him. He walked in and stood there, angrily talking to me through his teeth with this contorted look on his face. I said, “go look at your face in the mirror, and see how you look when you talk to me, your face is all twisted” He asked me if I were going to help him, I said yes, he said when, and I said, next week. First time I spoke up for myself, but not the last.

[@heathergonzalez6890]

Adrian and Katherine, you might want to check out Glennon Doyle Melton and Elizabeth Gilbert’s work.

[@katherinewhite3858]

@@heathergonzalez6890 thank you

[@heatherwhittaker6169]

I literally visited an educational enter to have my own in tested before applying for university because I was referred to as the dummy growing u...Truth be told I was memorizing my dads work number at 1 a day a half years of age...but I made it official...that I was intelligent enough to go forward....Abusive and neglectful parents and siblings can ,and do,destroy...others...

[@Violet_Lotus_]

I just love listening to the wisdom of Dr. Gabor Mate. I've been listening for over 10 years and it never gets old.

[@FemiNelson-sb1em]

Dr. Gabor's soft spoken manner is very comforting & his manner of disecting, breakdown & explain scientific facts & etc is so very helpful. Its all related to the pysche. Padre God continue to Bless & help this man, his so important child, to balance his own life. Paz be with us all 🙏. "Isa"

[@tamarapasquali3063]

Cannot get enough of Gabor. Everytime I listen to him I feel like another veil is lifted and I can see clearer.

[@KatKin123]

And the greatest thing we can take from this is that healing is possible and available ❤ Understand yourself, be kind to yourself, seek help and know you can heal and break cycles.

[@robynhope219]

I think some ppl are incapable of healing bc their brains are not wired that way.

[@annanas1657]

Gabor is so generous sharing in such detail everything, holding nothing back, breaking it down into easy to understand. So much he says is true in my experience. He’s a genius.

[@elenagabriela.]

He is between the best people in this crazy world. DR Mate please see this in yourself ❤