Breadcrumbing | Love Bombing | Signs He DOESN'T Really Like You | Hookup Culture Words

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

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[@sweetsmarts3588]

Moral of the story: If they have ego issues, move on!

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

NEXT! 👍

[@komatsusakura]

@@datingcoachryanpatrick Exactly .Move on

[@ekasteviajulip6917]

NEXT!!

[@samanthasnow5452]

Wow must be true

[@kimvannote3690]

Mother issues

[@karend215]

Loved "Don't invest more than what he's investing into you."

[@ahhwe-any7434]

"you must do the passive aggressive thing well. Sneaky! " Me: i didnt know that me being me always had a motive other than to just be me. 😁 Im glad im quiet, shy, reserved, & withdrawn when i am. Whew wee 🤓😁 bc when i get going, especially on giddyness, oh gah id embarrass myself way more often if i was that obvious. Hell, even when i do open up, its sometimes just random.

[@angelsandocean2853]

The most important rule actually

[@karend215]

​@@ahhwe-any7434 Hi there. I don't think that personality traits is what Ryan is referring to. If your personality traits are quiet/shy/reserved, then a woman will care for you for who you are. I think Ryan is referring to a man who doesn't make the woman a priority in his life. If she is doing all the giving and accommodating, then the relationship is unbalanced. She will need to evaluate if he truly loves her in action and is respectful of her commitment to the relationship.

[@brendaleverick3655]

👍👌👏👋

[@ahhwe-any7434]

@@karend215 k thx for sharing

[@JenX422]

Having high standards means you will likely be alone for a long while.

[@nenagrawey7502]

Me rn I don’t even remember what this feels like

[@sissycynara6585]

Why so scared of being alone? Aloneness doesn’t mean loneliness. Happiness or loneliness is within a person. You can be in a crowd but still lonely. Sure your attention is diverted and can pretend of being happy. The important is from within

[@maryblue4587]

That part smh

[@candaceyoung5542]

I would rather be alone than with a POS. High standards are the way to go if you want to be treated with decency.

[@avadea5296]

hahaha, yeah! and being better of like that by any means :-)))

[@maryw3989]

If you think that younger men are the only ones that do this your wrong the older men are even worse. Go to the kill shelter and get a dog.

[@yogaflame4128]

Lol

[@mimig474]

Or cat lol

Yeah, I don’t get it. Why are older men acting worse than younger men?

[@hejira4153]

@ Yes in my experience rude, bad mannered and selfish.

[@TheRealZeeNkosi]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@chenal7445]

Love bombing isn't a hookup culture term. It's a term associated with Narcissistic Relationships, and Narcissistic personality disorder.

[@suekolliopoulou8419]

Yes, there are stages of narcissistic cycle , lovebombing, devalue, discard and hoovering ,this goes on for ages as long as you stay in this shitsitiationship and be knowingly manipulated

[@VDOVault]

Only pathological people love bomb. See it for what it is & go 100% NO CONTACT ASAP.

[@MJBrabantNZL]

Truth, but sadly that's what most people in hookup culture are displaying. Narc traits.

[@dianeat_the_beach3741]

Michael Brabant so true, damn it!

[@Sparky12355]

Yep

[@JYO2023]

If a man doesn’t like me great. That means he’s not my soulmate nor wasting valuable time on him. Life goes on.

[@shanika8]

I don't believe in the word soulmate because i came to this earth alone and I'll die on my own i can live without them

[@tabithaw8526]

Judith I agree!! I just had my heart broken this week and realized I did everything wrong lol 😂😅 now I know for next time!

[@kimberellamartinez4594]

Men in their 40s and 50s aren’t any different than younger men... I give up on dating.

[@toscadonna]

Kimberella Martinez Right, and there’s nothing like an old man who’s still acting like a teenage boy. I have no respect for these man children and hope all of the women in their families are cursed with men just like him.

[@kimberellamartinez4594]

tosca donna I’m convinced that there’s just nobody for me... I don’t except BS and I call men out on it.

[@naiyalexic]

Yep. But don't give up. Real men are out there.

[@nutech1810]

They actually get worse with age lol

[@nutech1810]

@@naiyalexic Ha they are called unicorns and very rare to find. If they are, they're not singled or widowed.

[@dayanaraguzman6841]

I’m tired of getting hurt 😞

[@christinehope6317]

Me too

[@lolohijazi6617]

Me too 😞

[@abireeve-jones4536]

Me too

[@jewelforgenie7115]

Same😪

[@tjaspire]

Keep your legs closed ladies! MOST guys are in it just for the sex. They do not have good intentions.

[@imwatching2960]

Most of these are narcissistic behavioral patterns

[@grobanite4ever85]

Exactly!

[@cyndigooch1162]

I'm watching That's for sure! 😕

[@aloveaffairwithself]

Most people are narcissist so it actually makes sense...😐

[@agnieszkapechan7333]

@@aloveaffairwithself bs. Only approx 20%.

[@jenniferhartman6856]

Many have narrassist behaviors. A good women can not change a man!

[@ZawadiBirya]

All I can say is keep your legs closed ladies. Stay woke!

[@stellawil]

@Zawadi Birya I take my time before getting intimate.

[@beksharraghy8818]

@Kathy Lowery A-woman! ;)

[@jab7168]

Should have kept your legs closed in your 20's.....

[@jab7168]

@@stellawil BS.......you take your time with good guys.....if a guy makes your vajay jay tingle there are no rules....🤣

[@bluecollarlit]

When you're single, you can have freedom and peace.

[@ritaplus100]

I met a guy, the texting was awesome, He turned on the charm, made me laugh, replied within minutes, deep chats, loads of questions, he did everything right - THEN GHOSTED ME AFTER OUR FIRST DATE. TALK ABOUT A BLOW TO THE EGO !!!!!!!! nearly killed me

[@Challenger2A7]

Er, no, you didn't "meet" him. Texting and chatting is NOT meeting someone. You had one real-life meeting with him and it just didn't work. Please, for your own sake, think logically. You don't MEET people online, you CONTACT them, that's all.

[@mgb2531]

@@Challenger2A7 Just shut up, buttercup! You don’t have a say about her “meeting” guys online.

[@lisa5821]

Well hopefully you've recovered and are doing well. Same exact thing just happened to me except I slept with him so my ego is extra hurt

[@taghazoutmoon5031]

Why? It was only one date. You didn't sleep with him. Just don't text so much before meeting

[@Ramanhere468]

As a 30 year old, I’m learning the best way to stream through the dating world is to recognize early red-flags. Try to figure out what the person’s true intentions are with you. Trust their actions and past-repeated patterns more-so than their words. Date around and don’t put all your eggs into one basket (person). And may the odds ever be in your favor.

[@RachyNoodleNest]

100% trust how they treated their ex. My ex abandoned us and never returned. I hope to God the next lady reads between the lines of what he says and dumps his sorry ass!

[@jodyjingles7968]

Very good - you've got it sussed. You won't go far wrong with this - all men will reveal who they truly are in the first 3 months of regular dating - any major red flags then. Make sure you bolt that door behind you. xx

[@ltdodgen]

You are wise beyond your years...

[@vadamsable]

Great advice Raman Follow your intuition. It's too complicated.

[@swiftkarma4436]

@@jodyjingles7968 yep my most recent showed himself in 3 months.

[@bethanyjeppsen7786]

You tell a guy you are looking for a serious relationship and they say the same thing. You make it official, you meet his family, he even talks about moving in, he even shows you a place you can move into and then one day gets cold and breaks up...and now says he needs to think about the relationship. He was the one making all these promises. If he didnt want a future why would he make such big promises or even date me? How can a guy be so serious or all in and the next day not? Was it even real?

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

The guys that talk a big game and make big promises always worry me. I tell the next guy to slow his roll and let's see how things play out so that way *you're* in control of managing both of your expectations. 😉

[@bethanyjeppsen7786]

Even if I was in control of the pace...I dont understand how a guy can be all in and then the next second not. Makes it less motivating to even try again because it doesnt matter all the effort they can just pick up and leave.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

@Spooky Spectre I think that's the major angle I'd like to bring to all of these LIVEs moving forward. We'll experiment a bit and see how it plays with the group! ✊🏼

[@rozsa-readgirl3476]

Yes, the guy I was seeing was planning to move in with me, even choosing furniture pieces and then I said...but hang on a minute!!- nobody knows you're seeing me- not even your family... you can already guess how the whole story ends...

[@rocirgg7348]

It seems that they like to waste our time

[@kianicarroll2220]

Now take a bunch of those together. Mix it together. And you get dating a covert narcissist. Never again.

[@hannahscott6604]

This

[@maggienelson1848]

Been there too, can't believe a single thing now that comes out of a guys mouth 😐

[@suzg7670]

Dating in your 50s can be a real kick to the self esteem. Benching, stashing & breadcrumbing are very real scenarios 😔 I'm tired......

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Hang in there, Suz! Time to kick back! 😉

[@victoriamundae2570]

Dating in your 50s is *also* the Baby Boomer Period...

[@rebeccajones8628]

All these happen at younger ages too.

[@rebeccajones8628]

@@victoriamundae2570 People in their 50's are generation X. Baby boomers are the previous generation.

[@victoriamundae2570]

@@rebeccajones8628 , I am in my 50s and I am part of the Boomer Generation. The Boomer Generation lasted until 1964/1965.

[@tubewatcher314]

Unfortunately I’ve received all of these from one guy. A total narcissist.

[@jodyjingles7968]

Been there too. Am 44 now , I've dated all different kinds of bad - but a Narcissist is on a different level. When he came along, I certainly knew about it.

[@celiaverdinho54]

Sadly we ALL in this boat! I feel nauseated! Hopefully there is a Mr or Mrs right for all single good people!;)

[@yogaflame4128]

Girl damn bro lol 😂

[@Claire-tn4xp]

Me too

[@Dark_Harmony]

@@celiaverdinho54 apparently, my Mr. Right exists somewhere in Tanzania! Lord FOR-BID he exist near me somewhere, within millions of men in a 20 mile radius!

[@deborahalden5312]

The best way to treat a man is smile and keep walking.

[@thatcrazywhitegirl1836]

🙌👍😂

[@sne631]

I agree. Everything is a waste of time.

[@anndavis2920]

most of them got gf's anyway or baby momas. (third party ships) i cant go nfor that. 4-7-21

[@creamyalmondz]

Hell I don’t even make eye contact.

[@pieahgee8180]

Right don’t even say anything

[@PigeoneerToy]

I'm having a blast with all these names 😂😂😂 that are basically lies, manipulation & childish behaviour 😂

[@lisabradford8180]

in a nutshell!

[@animalames78]

Yes exactly... selfish boys play them games (and these boys can be in the 30’s,40’s, 50’s,60’s +)

[@silviadecarvalho3297]

All said lol

[@JenX422]

It is full on psychological abuse- that wouldn't be tolerated in nay other context aside from "dating". Nothing more; nothing less. No one should be subjected to it.

[@jodyjingles7968]

@@animalames78 that's a fact👍

[@lindaamerica4587]

One guy told me his current relationship was complicated. I responded with, " do you think I'm desperate or stupid? " I really enjoyed your advise Ryan. Simple and light-hearted. Thank you.

[@MrMkayultra]

Linda America , you go girl! What did the prick say when you asked him that? You are one brave intelligent woman

[@lindaamerica4587]

Thank you. I don't remember his response. His picture was the back of his head which he was unrecognizable. I'm not brave though just pissed off from so many lies that men think they can get away with. 98% of men on line are losers and liars and cheaters. Social media is a great tool for deception. Fortunately I can size up a guy with one or two phone calls. Or one date.

[@hallorican]

@@lindaamerica4587 Good for you.

[@barbarawarren9443]

Great response! I might also say something like, "Thank you for clarifying that, so I don't waste my valuable time. I'm actually looking for someone with a much higher IQ and EQ, and obviously, you're not qualified, but I wish you the best in your search."

[@sabrinas2181]

Anyone who says "It's complicated" is a waste of time in my experience. You're either with someone or you're not.

[@JenX422]

Bottom line- my male friends all tell me they know most women are desperate for companionship. Men believe women need them financially (of course we need partners, since we are paid 70 cents on the dollar for the same work- hard to thrive on a single stagnant income these days). Also, inherently, most women prefer companionship and value relationships- in our DNA. Men know this and exploit it.

[@Cadetx99]

I CANT STAND ONLINE dating as a woman i have serous trust issues now and spotted multiple red flags. I had to take a step back because it was ruining my mental health. the last encounter that I had was embarrassing and disturbing.

[@findingdori442]

Always know your value and add tax! Know when to walk away 💜

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

"Add tax!" LOVE IT! 🙌🏼🙌🏼

[@kristine8338]

Ryan Patrick, What Does it mean? I am Dutch.

[@cherylconway4577]

Great comment, I'm going to use that from now on:)

[@Sleeping_Wolf]

Know your value and add tax! I love it♥️

[@tinaible4046]

Clearly I am breadcrumbing mode with this individual and I have so much worth too put my self in that space.. just think next month would make it a year,Him and talking..

[@daniellesuzanneisitt2210]

Im almost 33.. and would love a video aimed at my age group. All guys iv met in the past 6 years have been inconsistent. They tend to not put in much effort.. chivalry seems dead...

[@StephenWestSyd]

Yes women are their own worst enemy. They contradict themselves too! For me to invest anymore time and resources into a modern woman she had really want to be a unicorn! If not? I'm happy to stay single and occasionally pay to see a prostitute! No shame in it I think.

[@StephenWestSyd]

@Dexy Nash no way! Too many ulterior motives from the modern woman or they're too caught up in a bs job running themselves into the ground! Every time I pour my heart out to a woman I get chewed up and spat out! Really not interested anymore.

[@lillyvgutierrez9685]

I'm 33 too n last 6 years been. Bad

[@puttycake]

I'm in my 60s. Help!

[@areejzahid2714]

same situation here these guys are all inconsistent it's better to do your own thing and make your self busy somewhere else because these guys can't stay with one girl they want so many girls at a time one wife and so many other also

[@heatherblanchard5492]

Who cares if he's not talking to u? Women need to get into their power so their happiness doesn't depend on some dude calling or texting you back lol

[@collettemclafferty2614]

I’ve had all 13 scenarios! I stopped dating because I’m over it and have been so happy ever since! Being single is highly underrated. Love your videos though they randomly popped up on my feed.

[@MsSmashone]

I was happiest celibate and single. Thinking why I wanted to go back to dating hell!

[@lindaamerica4587]

I've met baby boomer aged men on line, talked on the phone, texted and dated. 98% have lied about themselves like their height, income and relationship status. I've been love bombed and zombied. After 1 year, I quit online dating and met a good man organically. My husband is the love of my life now (thank you Jesus).

[@ltdodgen]

Glad things turned out well for you in the end, but your experience is...your experience. Many baby boomers have found a mate online. I think you should throw out fishing lines everywhere and see what you catch. Up the odds by considering all strategies...😍

[@lindaamerica4587]

@@ltdodgen I totally agree!

[@jbehlok]

Omg I had a guy say he was 42 and showed up and he was 66 bald and fat. Like you didn’t think I would notice. And he was the stupidest person ever. I felt sorry for him. Pathetic that you have to lie. Sorry but authenticity is important. Hey you guy making this video... make one to teach men how to treat women. We are not the problem. I don’t lie, I am loyal and kind.

[@ltdodgen]

@@jbehlok Do you really believe that men don’t encounter this very same scenario on their online dates? It’s not a man vs woman thing...it’s a deceptive people vs honest people thing.

[@jbehlok]

@@ltdodgen tell us about it. I know men have been catfished and so have I but the things in this video he was talking about men doing these things. I don't know what women do. But its a crap shoot. Many people don't know who they are and they do this stupid stuff and they stay single for a reason. I try not to ghost and give a reason why I am exiting but it doesn't always go well. Ghosting is sometimes more healthy and define intervention. I did have a guy say to me are you real send me pictures, that their are just sex adds on their side. Well maybe the numbers of women on-line have declined because of their bad behavior because women are afraid of those sites and they have little ing the companies to pull from. Like I heard that like bumble has 10k men to 2k females using the site. I had a guy ask me if I was real because he said their are all these adds of girls that are hookers. one the looking at my side at men their are a lot of out of shape, unshaved men holding a dead fish or deer back woods look and to me yuck not my type.The good looking men are all sex addicts and cheaters. you get the couples looking for a third and the kinky people, and women just say hi and don't write back. and I tried it for 4 years and that's all you get over and over. I had to sadly write in my profile I like a guy that is well groomed, cologne and shaves. The lady on these comments who said she saw the same thing, she is write I see that too. With women there is a wide gamut of looks, size, and interests. women put far more time in their profiles. Their are the rear exceptions and those catch your eye. Sites are focused on shallow stuff, rear is the key word.

[@laurielabarr5893]

It doesn't get better with age.. I'm 53 and you would think with age comes growth. I was in a relationship at 51 with a 52 year old man that played probably 8 of your scenarios with me...I cant wrap my head around how or why these behaviors have become an epidemic. Why cant folks just be normal, real, anymore?

[@spajas8092]

People have more options available nowadays with online dating, if less investment/effort has to be put in for the same result, the overall value of relationships goes down.

[@chars437]

Me too. Same story. I'm the same age as you. You're not alone.

[@svetlanaarkhipova7456]

I guess these behaviors became an epidemic because a lots of woman accepted it and keep their bars very low.

[@Dark_Harmony]

Immaturity. Aka, 'Mid-Life Crisis.' They want to go back in time, because being middleaged is a syndrome. That's my best guess.

[@Dark_Harmony]

@@svetlanaarkhipova7456 because women have needs that has to be met too. Year after horrible year (like me) of not having anything at all, forces us to give in for anything.

[@cynthiaallen9225]

I'm not on the market but these men sound pathetic. Don't waste your time.

[@VDOVault]

Beware, they sometimes reach out to you in social media as well, it's not just on online dating sites. So creepy when it happens, yikes!

[@Aliceinchains606]

Hahahaha loved the way you said it

[@amberl4053]

Theres a hell of a lot of men on youtube telling women how to handle mens behaviour...but I dont see any telling men to control themselves when it comes to sowing their seed anywhere and everywhere without a care for anyone else.

[@ahhwe-any7434]

Im not really either... I just kind of got lost in the comments. I apparently like to do alotta reading, just minus the attachments.

[@tamarar7684]

I’m 42. Never been married. Lived in NYC my whole life. I’m introverted and pretty sensitive and it’s hard to deal with dating in general. Don’t want to end up alone but I do have standards. I want to have real intimacy but I’ve dated guys who are boring, or pushing too soon for sex, or just impolite. I’m interested in a guy who I think did submarining- and the intimate side of the relationship got me hooked and I don’t want to be over him. Pretty rough out there! Can u show something for the gen x demographic who would need help navigating dating in a city?

[@payalpatel3163]

In a nutshell avoid all men! I’ve experienced every scenario 🤦🏽‍♀️😩

[@tonitaquetaparks3304]

Stop using online dating haha because that is all you are going to find on those apps. I know that some people do find relationships but not everyone is lucky.

[@ltdodgen]

@@tonitaquetaparks3304 well if everyone got lucky there would be no need for dating websites. Just be discerning and use them as another tool to help you meet your man....or woman.

[@Machelle3200]

@Suddenly Possible Well it's like we said. The good ones are dead or taken..So sorry about your loss love!

[@bethhall5158]

New to dating after six years. It’s been a nightmare lol. I’ve been love bombed, cushioned and breadcrumbed. This is helping me sort things out!!!

[@sweetsmarts3588]

The GenXer in me is asking “Why is the act of merely meeting men getting so damn complicated and frustrating?” Both young and older men play crazy games because they can and because we let them by accepting their lame excuses and/or ignoring their actions completely for fear they will stop talking to us. As you can tell, I’m fed up too!

[@Deborah-go3kh]

I remember when people only dated one person at a time before internet.

[@threexladi]

I am 64, and have a no-excuses policy.

[@findingdori442]

sweet smarts I finally realized this...what we allow remains. So, I no longer allow a man to “breadcrumb” me.

[@StephenWestSyd]

@@Deborah-go3kh investing time and resources in the modern woman is a waste of energy! No matter what man does for the woman he cares for, in her view its never enough. Last relationship I felt like I was taking my daughter out on a date and I'm not even a father!

[@seapearltoo1]

@@StephenWestSyd A woman who knows her worth would never want a man like you.

[@jessiesprague8390]

I’m 39, divorced... no kids. It seems so brutal out there, makes it hard to want to start dating again. I think the different groups is a GREAT idea!!!

[@laurasperling8915]

Turning 50 and I have experienced all of the signs. I have become a hermit. I do want to meet someone Soo tired of the bs. I miss the days when guys would actually approach you and you could have a decent conversation 😉

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Good point, Laura! I think a fun topic of discussion for one of our YT LIVEs could be this very thing you bring up: creating situations where ladies feel they can get guys to approach them naturally to strike up those conversations 👍

[@lisabradford8180]

@laura: even when you meet some one with decent conversation, wonderful ones at that, you still have to beware. i knew such a guy a few years ago, we talked about everything under the sun yet, in the end, he was just playing a game with me. i don't think i'd been so disappointed in a man in my life and thats really saying something 😢👿

[@sarahsworldjoseph8861]

Its only a decent conversation if he thinks so 😋 let him feel like it was decent. They're so sensitive and dumb.

[@sarahcellblockh1562]

@Stacy Caruso ok, lets see what you look like then? If it makes you uncomfortable, you could always use the image of troll.

[@christinehope6317]

@@datingcoachryanpatrick wow

[@angelicadoloresm8078]

Love-bombing is common in patological personalities, you think you are meeting a soul mate but actually is a psicopath...

[@elleoconner9965]

Happened to me 😒

[@lavanyaduggirala8559]

Happened to me as well

[@africaevangelisticband4873]

The cushioning method. He has been using me to talk about his ex. And I think he knows I like him. He doesn't like to wear his big boy pants. LoL

[@shannonfranks10]

Great stuff here Ryan. Even 40-50 + year olds behave this way and waste people’s time. It’s nice to know these lame behaviors have a name. Thank you!

[@ladybee9160]

Yes, ghosted, love bombed, breadcrumbed, catfished... Called them all out. Proposed to after 1 date, and when I said no, was offered money to marry his younger brother for a residential visa. OMG 😂

[@missanthropy2251]

And now I’m completely turned off dating forever! #HermitLife 🙌🏻😂 Thank you for the shout-out Ryan! Another suggestion for age group: a billion years old and up- gotta represent my Ancient Ones fam 💫🐙👽💃🏻💫

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

You bet, Miss Anthropy! And yes, we'll have the "Greek God" group lol 😄

[@casy6203]

I enjoy how animated you are during your videos..I actually sit down to watch them because you are fun to watch👍

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Aww thanks Casy! 😊

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

@Spooky Spectre I need to thank Brittney 100% for those! She's a creative genius 🤓

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

@Spooky Spectre Ohhh the poses she puts me through... 🤦🏻‍♂️😖Lol

[@lovelycam8631]

I've had too many of these things happen... I think I'm done with relationships.

[@BloodyCatastrophee]

Am completely there with you. Ain't seeming worth it at all anymore. Feel like I'm deeply purging from all this bs.

[@violetbetancourt930]

I’m almost 60 and been single again almost 5 years and have seen all these 13 scenarios with men 55-65 - I have no patience for this

[@janlittle4688]

Yes please do a video for 50's and over 60's

[@imatruthseeker4094]

I second that!

[@avaava4669]

I AGREE, BUT DO YOU REALLY THINK THIS YOUNG GUY, KNOWS WHAT'S IN THE MIND OF OLDER MEN, WHEN HE'S HALF THEIR AGE?

[@skucha]

godness, so many new ways to get screwed 💔

[@jackiejames3898]

Lol that's a good title for a book😁

[@debbiekeyes3631]

skucha no doubt.Its Sooo confusing and scary.Guys don't know what they want...only sex.

[@veronicamorta4587]

I love the idea. I am 62 years old and dealing with a man who has shown all the signs of what you have just spoken about. Thank you for the pleasant way in which you present your very good advice xxxxxx

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

You're most welcome, Veronica! Thanks for the compliment 😉

[@cupcake5867]

Run !!!! ......dont walk.

[@ltdodgen]

Stacy Caruso Not true, but with that attitude, it’s probably true for you....

[@celestinaazzoni7336]

I like the idea too of grouping, however I am 55 yrs old and only get younger guys interested in me, for obvious reasons. Would be nice to have a fit, buff man of my age be interested. As a whole, most men just aren't into committment snd relationships as I see it.

[@lindaamerica4587]

@Stacy Caruso absolutely not true. When I got back on the market so to speak, at 40 after my divorce, there was plenty of interest. And immature men. But I kept meeting men and after age 51 I met the love of the rest of my life. Being young in your 20 ' s and 30 ' s is a DISADVANTAGE because of naivete. Because they are at child bearing years, they need to be EXTRA careful and intuitive to not fall for a loser, liar or cheater. I pray for the fatherless young ladies out there.

[@budgiebirdy]

This is the tough love that a lot of us need. Basically to sum up this video: Respect yourself and stop putting up with BS. That is good advice regardless of gender. I came across a few creepy channels hosted by men basically teaching other men how to manipulate women into sleeping with them and how to be an emotional manipulator to get what they want from women in longer term relationships. Lots of misogyny flying around and clearly from men who don't really respect women. It just made me sick to watch. Super creepy and gross. These men and their followers prey on women who are insecure and will allow themselves to be treated like dirt. But it won't work if you have self-respect and are aware of the games they're playing. THEY CAN'T DO IT IF YOU DON'T ALLOW IT.

[@Dpech087]

I am so guilty of that! Fortunately, I'm getting out of a toxic marriage that was like that and I'm gonna stay single for the rest of my life!

[@andreamagyar7776]

Exactly. Time to walk the walk. Of a tiger.

[@key2theuniverse713]

I don't know why I'm watching this I'm a straight male

[@monas5054]

Hopefully you can not be like these guys

[@key2theuniverse713]

@@monas5054 why? They that bad?

[@lizfowle2473]

Cheating is bad sooo yeah let’s hope you aren’t 🙃

[@key2theuniverse713]

@@lizfowle2473 I mean I'm loyal so also im to worried about my gf cheating on me soooo

[@rpmcmurphey927]

As long as you're not using this information to become more covert with your shenanigans for personal gain, I don't think it's weird to be learning social ques...

[@quinoasongs2507]

Here's another one. Weaning. You hear from them less and less.........

[@stellawil]

Yes . I'm in my 40's and I've noted this immature behavior.

[@moniamonia1009]

Yes. I meet only immature men

[@juliettesleeve6763]

If you want play game love comes around again Its a game it's fun just laugh didnt take so seriously Once you decided to do this and live your life for yourself going on trip going doing what you want to do Instead of chasing waiting for ridiculous text messages and even picking up his dirty laundry Let them go they will start chasing you

[@cupcake5867]

What people don't realize is that by doing all this mean things, by being deceitful and playing games. By just taking advantage of someone. Not only do they waste the other persons life, they damage them that they loose hope that they are worthy. They loose hope in love. It's what has happened to me. After two years being with a man who cheats like its nothing. I fell in love with who he pretended to be. Its hard stop loving someone despite knowing what jerkk he is.

[@huiajoy2576]

Cup cake, you fell in love with your idea of him. Not the cold hard facts. Always believe a guys actions. There are good guys out there who back their words by there actions.👍

[@kimfrederick7710]

The idea of the different groups would be more targeted for the age ranges so I really think that was a great idea!!!

[@npkrn6764]

Unfortunately, however, Ryan IS young himself with therefore limited life experience (strike one for being 100% useful for older people). Also, he stated he is an attorney by education - not a licensed psychologist or has any other qualifications that may outweigh his youth and inexperience. Strike two. ***Now I'm not saying he doesn't have anything useful to say, or that he can't help younger, more inexperienced people navigate dating in that age group. But into the 30s and 40s and beyond, it would be useless. My good friend's daughter actually sent me a link to his channel wanting my "elder" opinion (I'm in my 40s) and I told her he is making good common sense points for HER age group (she's 22). But for someone older who is dating older gentlemen - who may have children - who may be divorced - caring for aging parents - or all the other potential problems that are often in middle age - he really wouldn't have a frame of reference with which to give an opinion. I like Ryan and have watched quite a few of the videos and commented my perspective having had a lot of dating experience myself - but I would never try to give my parents or grandparents advice on their situations or relationships because I don't have their life experience- they'd laugh me out of the room! Ryan is indeed insightful and has common sense, but I think he'd be wrong to try to impart advice about situations he knows nothing about.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Good to know, Kim! Thanks!

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

@@npkrn6764 Hey KN! Thanks for your feedback! I just wanted to clear a few things up because a few things you said were inaccurate. First, I'm not sure how old you think I am (I'm taking this as a compliment), but I'm probably not as young as you suggest. I'm not much younger than you. I also *never* stated that I'm an attorney of any kind. Just want to be clear about that. And yes, I'm not a licensed psychologist, however, my education is in psychology. I have coached many women of wide-ranging ages for years prior to me even starting this KZbin Channel. In those coaching sessions, clients typically never asked me questions that they didn't think I had some situational awareness around. I wouldn't expect viewers of this channel or those who happen to attend a YT LIVE with me to do so either. People are looking for an outside perspective that comes with a lot of heart and a deep degree of emotional intelligence. That's hopefully what I provide on this channel. My goal is to help create micro-communities within the channel so other viewers of similar age have a chance to connect with others, as well. 🙂

[@npkrn6764]

@@datingcoachryanpatrick Ryan you did say you were a millennial (meaning millennial generation). I am Gen X. Also I could have SWORN you said in another video you were an attorney who left that career!! I suppose it's possible it was from some other KZbin dating advice person (my friend's daughter sent me another guy to check out) but again, I was sure it was you who said that. If I am wrong, I do apologize; however my other points stand. While I do think outside, unbiased opinion on subjects can be valid whether the advisor has personal experience or not...its best to tread lightly I've found. Especially on youtube or any other public/large scale way. Plenty of hurting and vulnerable people come to your channel and if they like you, they'll treat each pearl of advice as gospel. These people are prime targets for being led down the wrong path and carrying that advice into their personal lives...which obviously affects others... and on and on. You seem to have integrity, however unlike quite a few others on KZbin. Therefore, I hope you wouldn't give advice just to have a video!!! 😳 But there are MANY who do. Bottom line - I just wanted to put that reminder out there to people watching that they need to consider these points carefully. Even therapists with massive experience get things wrong and talk out of their ass at times! Just saying :)

[@yvonnejohn220]

I agree

[@victoriacaropreso1506]

You are so animated! Love your advice because of that!😂❤️

[@lexiemaep7930]

I have been through all of these. I'm done with men. I actually enjoy being alone so much more. Men cause stress and anxiety. When I'm alone, I feel damn good❤

[@leopardlily3398]

“Reduce your interaction with them and slip away” beat it buffer boy

[@kathyt.8431]

I’m dating someone in his 60s for six months and have still not met friends or family. He lives to work and apparently I’m no longer a priority as he’s been breadcrumbing me. C’est la vie

[@dorisvargas1713]

I’m for the different age groups you want to do. I’m agreeing with something someone else said. Men in there 40’s and 50’s are no different then the younger guys. They play all kinds of games too.

[@GabiPGonzalez]

I’m 41, divorced.. struggling with dating. Apparently I “intimidate” people. 🙄

[@LaDyLuCk909]

No. You dont intimidate them. Men these days want easy dating, easy women..I am sure your a complete catch 😃😃

[@Z5Z5Z5]

You prob know your worth, have confidence, and have standards. 🙏🏻 good for you girl thats amazing!

[@alanikeiser]

Gabi Gonzalez apparently me too

[@elyjane8316]

No, you are not intimidating, the men you are meeting just want passivity, and really find women who have standards etc difficult.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Hey Gabi! Thanks for making the LIVE the other night! Yeah, I think the word "intimidate" is actually a great screener word to help you sort faster. If they're "intimidated" now, how would they fare in a relationship if times got tough? They'd probably fold immediately! Just keep sorting, keep smiling, and never look back 😉

[@kathrynmoreno3267]

I was ghosted and breadcrumbed , I finally walked away and invested in myself and am able to think clearer and being older (70) I like your ideas on the the different age groups. Thank you for the tips

[@lisalynch8128]

Love, love, , love the age group idea!! Dating in my 50's is...brutal

[@sheilawolbeck4835]

I agree

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Awesome Lynn & Shiela! Thanks for the feedback 🙂

[@threexladi]

Go for younger, but not the ones who ask you for money.

[@carmenarguetayacaman1274]

Hey Ryan, I discover your channel, frankly, you talk about many realistic things. 21 years marriage, 25 together, and now 3 separated/divorced. I don't regret my marriage I take everything in a positive way a very great learning experience. But I this point, dating it is very inconsistent, it is hard to find guys that commit, or really just want to have a good friendship to begin with...all they want or have written in their faces is "I wanna have sex w you", and truly that's not me, I need or have to get to know the person first, before I invest or anything could happen, I could use some advise...this times it is harder than 20 yrs ago..lol...so totally different... Thanks...

[@exclusiveprincess1]

🤦🏽‍♀️ all these scenarios, ugh. The dating world is scary these days.

[@annepro5548]

I can't believe people still do online dating. I did it for years and learned many of lessons. Don't do it ladies! Besides that, it's not even safe no more to be meeting complete strangers anyways.

[@ltdodgen]

I disagree. It’s just another way to up the odds of meeting a man. But you do need to be smart about it. I’m afraid many women are just too naive to handle this method of meeting men. This might be why they have one bad experience after another.

[@claudiacarley4050]

I gave up the Online dating...even though in rare occasions through a mutual Friend you might find the Guy..maybe????even though you try but don't push yourself to hard ...they'll run...take it easy and observe!

[@downhomegirl5]

Submarining lol 😆😂 yes it hurts like Hell!! Also has avoidant attachment style from abusive childhood & relationships fear of intimacy. Ugh 😥

[@sunflowerslily]

Dating today makes me want to vomit

[@stormysocks]

Also with "scrooging" just before your bday or Valentines Day, Christmas they will pick a fight and not see you until after and then want to make up but no gift.

[@kristine8338]

I turn 60 and another 60 to go. I did learn So much in life. It has been wonder-ful !

[@Metropolitangirl]

Submarining killed me I dont know why.😂

[@Metropolitangirl]

@@leolovelife777 everything you said I can relate too! I dated someone just like that. Blocked him everywhere but he would message me at platforms I didn't even know I had. They're the worst. Definitely narcissist! I'm convinced mine was a psychopath. I hope you were able to move on and he no longer bothers you

[@L0veMe0rDie]

I'm ashamed to admit that I have been fooled by a guy who is guilty of all these crimes. He's been given a lifetime sentence of never hearing from me again.

[@michah321]

Don't be ashamed! No one is expected to be a mind reader. It's so sad that people blame themselves. This is sociopath behavior. If you ever had to break up with somone who really liked you but you just didn't like them that much.. AUGH it's aweful, I'd rather be dumped 10 x than that. If people don't feel bad about hurting someone who cares for them, they are lacking a fundamental piece of humanity.

[@alexandrab1120]

Doesnt sound enough of a punishment

[@SAR-re1fx]

THIS IS SO TRUE, if he breadcrumbs he is either with other women, or ex, or you are the sidechick. Mr Right or Ms Right will never breadcrumb and will be really interested in you and not losing the opportunity to be with you. Think about it, if you like someone you don´t want to fuck things up. Pls, do a 20 to 30 y/o live stream. I can't believe how men behave this days. I'm 27 and is even worst than when I was 20... I'm so scared of not been able to find anybody with a healthy mindset.

[@blancarosasmusica]

It's horrible the breadcrumbing. Especially if you like the person.

[@bitsywillmott6881]

Life is hard and then you die....

[@luckyduckydaisyflower2344]

Dang bitsy! I feel bad too. Let's try to treat ourselves really well.

[@How.Dare.You.]

😢

[@sharmainescott7271]

I'm a baby boomer and would love to hear what you have to say. Many people my age (65) are trapped in an old age mentality which I find very tiresome. So I relate to people much younger than myself, esp guys in their 20s and 30s. They send out signals of interest but oftentimes, I get the feeling they're just playing. After watching some of your videos, you confirm what I suspect with some of them. Others are friends or just friendly. Thanks for these videos.

[@oliviagutierrez5732]

i'm turning 30 this year and i have extremly hard to find a guy that treats me with respect and i don't know what i'm doing wrong or why they they ever treat me in the right way and the once i have met that do respect me doesn't want to date me ….

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Hmmm that sounds like it could be an issue of simply becoming congruent with yourself about the type of man who would be a really good fit for you, Olivia. It takes a bit of work and practice, but once you start getting clear on that, your behavior towards men and your targeting of male partners become in alignment with one another and you gradually begin to see more and more success 🙂

[@oliviagutierrez5732]

@@datingcoachryanpatrick ok yeah maybe! Thank you you gave alot to think about 🙏👍 i also have met alot of guys that sems so interested in the beginning and then it just suddenly turns into hardcore flirting and is me that make then do this? Or is it them that doesn't know what they want? 🤔🤦

[@samboriboun7866]

30 days its 3 months?

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

@@oliviagutierrez5732 I'm hoping you can get to a cool, comfortable place where you can lean back in these interactions, not be too invested what these guys say or do in the beginning and just be focused on what makes you feel good so you can keep putting yourself in scenarios that amplify safety (first and foremost), reciprocal vibes (he's giving as much as you are, and vice versa) and no attachments mentally to any end result with any one guy and just letting it happen naturally 🙂

[@oliviagutierrez5732]

@@datingcoachryanpatrick yeah me too! i am trying to get there belive me 🙏🙂

[@spirituallotus2628]

The emotional affair. The destruction that it actually causes in a relationship.

[@denisesiddon7241]

I'm 43 and this pisses me off older men than me even play games Gonna give up altogether getting breadcrumbed by someone I liked for nearly 3 years

[@patricialangeveld1227]

Your video is like a breath of fresh air compared to other dating videos. I like how you get right to the point and don't sugarcoat in this case the games men play! Thanks!

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

You bet, Patricia! I'm really happy you dig my coaching style! 😉

[@naturalcurlyhair8331]

1.) If texting only cut that out. Get a phone conversation. 2.) If he can text he can call. Excuses work( break time he can call) at family ( he can still call). If you call and he can't pick up after a text. Drop him.3.) Don't let him come to your place. If time progresses make sure you know if he has his own place. 4.) No good men lie. If he is playing games. He has something to hide. He is giving you excuses.Block keep block.5.) If he lie about the small things, he will just keep on lying. 6.) Don't play with him. Life is short and if he is a little boy. No need for anything to go further. Cut off and keep him cut off.

[@shirleymckenney-hornyak7117]

Great idea 50 to 60 group

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Love it, Shirley! Thank you!

[@Amy_Stanmore]

I had a roach haha I said bye bye and no friendship either, if he told me he had a gf we could've remained friends in time. Oh well that's his loss

[@amberc6335]

Benching and Breadcruming... going through that now and my heart is broken

[@happygoluckyme6926]

Same here. Freakin brutal.

[@AngieRival]

I recently turned 50 and have been single for a year. Best birthday ever and I'm pretty happy being single. Why did I just watch this? I guess to be mindful of what to watch out for if I ever feel like dating again. Plus you were so funny. I might subscribe for the laughs...cheers from Australia!!!

[@DrJenTattoo]

I really enjoyed the live video. I'm up for 40 and 50 group. I just turned 40 in December.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Sounds good, Jen!

[@sandycassidy3870]

I like that idea. I’m 62, he’s 58. We have only dated a couple of months. We live 1 1/2 hours away from each other which is still doable. Spent 4 separate weekends together, morning/evening texts of calls. But it seems I’m always the one having to ask when are we going to see each other again. He treats me good when we are together, we both enjoy each other’s company. He says he doesn’t want me to see anyone else and is interested in me. But he won’t step up and plan, once I ask when we are seeing each other again then he steps up and plans but I feel like I’m not a priority. What can I do?

[@patriciawhelan5002]

Hey Ryan, My relationship is several months long. We are both 50+. He suddenly backed off. I binged a bunch of your video's. I was frantic. Fortunately, I did not let him know I was freaking out. I took your advice and was not available. You were right. 2 days later, he is calling me and texting, he is freaking out. I am still backed off, kind of a 'whatever' position, keeping busy, not taking all of his calls, not txting much, it worked. You were so right and I am much calmer and happier. Thanks Ryan! Patti P

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

My pleasure, Patricia! Glad things are working out! 😎

[@froggy8030]

For a brief moment I thought this guy was David Faustino, very alike

[@Bellag77]

Very helpful. Eye opener for sure! Just found your channel last week and im already binging! Lol.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Haha awesome Bella! Welcome to the channel 🙂

[@janayewill3883]

I’m learning to work on my self esteem because I want to be approached correctly

[@clairexxx0405]

As a bereaved mum at 42 afraid I've been in most of the situations you talk of, though never knew they'd got all these names 🙄 Thank you for explaining. 🙂 Love the age group idea. As I often feel too old to be still trying and still getting it so wrong!

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Thanks Claire! Yes, way too many names in fact! 😬

[@louisaklimentos7583]

I am leaving my husband at 56 years old and feel too old to meet someone knew My husband is abusive and I feel there is something wrong with me

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

@@louisaklimentos7583 This is 100% on him and I'm glad you're leaving. You're never too old to meet the right person Louisa 🙂

[@JenX422]

Out of 13 scenarios, only 1 was positive. The rest all toxic. Dating is toxic. Stop sleeping with these clowns if you want a real relationship. You are fulfilling their needs before yours are being met.

[@Expatnema]

Why am i still watching these advice videos when he left without even saying goodbye ;( whay its so hard to forget him even after 6months

[@philly1952]

I was dating a pastor ...he never invited me to his church 😳

[@michellecedeno3255]

😂🤣

[@asimazfitness1125]

Lol 🤣

[@funclassylassy4426]

Maybe he wanted to keep his professional and personal life separate until you had been dating a significant amount of time and he felt that their relationship was going somewhere. If you were dating, for instance, more than six months this does seem unusual. Especially if you were exclusive. But if you've only dating between 1 and 4 months then, no, I do not think it's unusual. Many congregations have gossip mongers and things spread like wildfire.

[@elizabethlibero1878]

He didn’t want you to run into his wife.

[@philly1952]

@@elizabethlibero1878I was thinking that was the case but I've sent him packing and im in to better days

[@kimley3095]

A lot of these correlate with narcissism too. So it is best to walk before it gets too far along.

[@theraptureisnearbelieveinj7695]

If you’ve already been married, and your first spouse is still alive, don’t seek after another spouse. Read Romans 7:3, Matthew 5:32, Matthew 19:9, John 4 & 8. It’s the end of the world guys! Just focus on Jesus. Repent, believe in Jesus, get baptized, read your Bible, and pray. The sand in the hourglass is running out!

[@leighlong7005]

Yes, need dating advice in my 40's as I am just getting back out there..

[@Cornerstoner]

Same here

[@dreazaeangel4504]

Yes! I love the idea of having different groupings. I'm in my 50s and dating in my 50s is different from dating in my 20s!

[@Anniloves21]

Oh my God, the last guy I was getting to know did most of this. I cut the cord and got blocked. Such an idiot

[@hollyv117]

Breadcrumbing !! For the love of God, give me a freaking slice, or hit the road tapeworm 😂

[@rubystaging237]

I had the first experience mentioned, I was very frustrating and ego shattering. I eventually caught on to what he was doing