Texting Signs You're His Backup Girl

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

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[@stellakamau6994]

goes missing then shows up out of the blue as if everything should continue as normal.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Yep.. "nice to know ya and bye bye now..." 👋🏼

[@BohoFlow]

LOOL, a guy I was talking to (on an app) for like 3 days went ghost for 5, and then hit my app like "hey how was your day?" I told him I wasn't interested anymore, and a day later he replied saying "I was never interested in you, I was interested in someone else. You're not that hot anyway. Don't reply back (clown emoji)." That gave me a GOOD laugh as I blocked him. Shits ridiculous.

[@ppward1234]

@@BohoFlow Hell yea its crazy cause your beautiful

[@angelapeninah4953]

Yah some men are wired.....u know

[@bettyssalmon7168]

@@BohoFlow you are gorgeous. He is probably regretting losing you.

[@inge5264]

I always follow the 24 hour rule. If he is interested he will never go for more then 24 hour without contact. If so, move on.

[@user-vg9se2xm1w]

Love this rule!!

[@jannaashleym.esconde1994]

Thanks! Will apply this to me tooo

[@ashlysain1538]

This seems too much to me!

[@natascha.anastasia]

For people that don’t have their own life, loved ones, friends, work, hobbies and goals... they’ll text u everyday. Good luck with that 😂

[@inge5264]

@@natascha.anastasia everybody has their phone with them 24/7. If he or she can't find the time to text you for 10 mins a day on a busy day they don't care enough and are just not that into you. Just keep ur standards high. You deserve to it! Don't take anything less.

[@sofiayz7472]

Thanks for helping me confirm that nobody is genuinely interested in me now 😂

[@juliealexis7438]

Lolololol...for real 🤦🏿‍♀️

[@buzzingbee9499]

🤣 as tho I'm not depressed enough. Great

[@ravenkuyt1355]

Yup same here. 🙈🙄

[@b4Shannon]

😂😂😂 me too !

[@marshellepayne4020]

Sofia Yan Z right

[@Spiritfba]

If a guy is truly interested he will drop heaven and earth to text you back and spend time with you.

[@Cantetinza17]

Distant Guy: What are you wearing? Me: A Medieval Chastity Belt.

[@ravenkuyt1355]

Haha hahaha good one 👍love it

[@lizaagonzi5946]

😃😃😃😃

[@kimmonks116]

Excellent 😁😂😂😂🤣

[@metalmafia875]

Hahaha u made my day🤣😆😂

[@linikkithompson3720]

Lol

[@breakergirl47]

The thing is , don’t be a text buddy. If he can’t call , or face time or Skype , video call , he is a next.

[@carmen5358]

Could not agree more!!

[@Cantetinza17]

There was this guy that I was seriously thinking of dating and we would video chat etc. and that gave me the answer that I needed. He had a severe drinking problem. We were on a video chat for 30 min and he downed 4 beers within that time. No thank you, stage left.

[@alejandrazavala9715]

Carmen o

[@Mrs.T305]

Especially video calls, they're Awesome

[@Sara-world]

Yeah but what if he calls and face times daily, but keeps canceling dates the day off and asking to reschedule with an invite to his place? Think bye!

[@marcellaratliff1304]

A Woman treats a Man how she want's to be treated. Then she treats him how he treated her. Read that again...

[@AR-do2ob]

Thats genious:)

[@KaylaAgainstTheWorld]

This is so true!!!

[@luckyduckydaisyflower2344]

Living this

[@reginad.tucker-musicminist6198]

Facts 💯🔥

[@verablue2772]

Number 9 breaks my heart but I can see it's so true. He used to send Good Morning and Good Night texts, it made me think he cared and was serious about us but then when we were together I always felt like something was off...our conversation never flowed, I couldn't feel a strong connection from him, I was more interested in his life than he was in mine, the one emotion I always felt when I was with him was frustration.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Listen to your gut! It rarely will lead you astray 🙂

[@juliealexis7438]

Vera, I totally feel you on the number 9 disappointment. Especially when Ryan said it's his "favorite" indicator of a suspect guy texting you 😔

[@juliealexis7438]

And I feel you on the constant thread of frustration you got.

[@britneypara8257]

I thought #9 was a positive thing too until this video! Question I have is, what do you do in response to it?

[@crystalanamericaninsicily]

Men CALL and make PLANS with Women they like. If he's not doing this. Your not in a or will never be in a relationship. 😉Move on!

[@lebradavis8447]

Him: " I just got a new job. I barely have time to text" Me: I hear you loud & clear ( blocked) tootaloo booboo

[@ssmith543]

I havent heard that one, but love your comment!

[@annepro5548]

I love this response. Will defiently be using that in the future. I already know that's the type I'm gonna come across. Heck that's all I ever come across.

[@kimgordon3695]

Hahaha luv it

[@kamdhuck3024]

Defo great come back... Noted!!... 😁

[@Askyourmomboutme]

🤣🤣😭

[@crystalanamericaninsicily]

Just the fact that he's just "texting" is a bad sign. Believe or not...Men Call Women they like.

[@ladennayoung2939]

This day and age that is odd to me. I get it I guess. But I don't like talking on the phone like that to anyone. Every now and then I'm in the mood to talk. I like to enjoy watching a movie, or what have you. And still being able to converse with someone.

[@sewgeekdesigns9113]

My friend calls but it’s to apologize for not texting...I don’t even answer now

[@ohmcb]

No, not everyone is confidence with phone calls. Some people might rather want to talk with you face to face than to call you.

[@aleciafinlayson6386]

@@ohmcb 👀...they will want to call even from time to time

[@beunitedwithlove]

Yeah I love to talk over the phone. That’s way better.

[@NkosiCebile]

This dragged for FIVE years, stringing me along... I've been single for years now but emotionally I've been single since last year. The emotional turmoil I went through, I wouldn't wish it on anyone. If you can still walk away.. take Ryan's advice and run with it..

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Thanks Cebile! 🙂Yes, no more wasted time on wishy-washy guys indeed.

[@lucybee3361]

My life 5 years and am left scratching my head

[@NkosiCebile]

@@lucybee3361 at least now we know what we don't want and what we want... I'm still single but I'm loving it . I'm 28 now and my family is getting worried lol while I've never felt so much better...I'm free

[@jopederick5985]

Cebile sibiya- how did he string you along? Dating but never moved in... Never talked about future plans? I'm looking for signs 👀👀👀

[@gioovannabp]

I did 3 years... Some future faking, emotional manipulation... All that, I had some red flags but I overlooked them because of his potential... God, I'm learning now

[@kaoshi_kutie]

I refuse to be any man's back up option 🙅🏽‍♀️👋🏽😁 I'm THE option if he can't see that BOY BYE 😂

[@fumadoradeopio]

I stopped replying to the good morning good night Messages to realize if he was sending it to a lot of girls and yes, I had like 6 good morning good night in a row

[@suej9329]

@Idyllic ツ Agreed. No plan B, C, D etc, only plan A.

[@emilyyates6303]

So the moral of the story is get a really cute dog.

[@aniawalczak1168]

Or cat😅

[@Hazel-qs1te]

☺

[@nadinegomez8858]

Yep. That’s the plan now. The 21st century is RIFE with little boys and not men 🙃

[@nadinegomez8858]

@Вхламинго lol nope. Ask any professional 🙃 even the stats show it. No use being in denial of basic facts

[@suej9329]

Or a cat or any pet for that matter. The truth is that animals love you unconditionally, they don’t play games, are always faithful and never reject you. There’s a lesson to be learned from our ‘furr ever’ friends.

[@radlyn7234]

I was talking to a guy, we argued about something he said, he wanted to prove his point so he took a screenshot of our last conversation on WhatsApp and here I see that he has my name under a male name WTF. I knew he has a girlfriend. His dumb mistake opened my eyes

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

But you don't want to be talking to guys who have girlfriends already.. right?? 😬

[@radlyn7234]

Ryan Patrick no I don’t ... I assume he had a girlfriend after what happened I didn’t talk to him after that because his explanation after I confronted him was irrational and I sensed he was lying (English isn’t my first language I hope I made it clear)

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

@@radlyn7234 Aha! I see 😉

[@yancyneaola1468]

My ex had me as a 4 digit house number in his phone. I wonder what that means lolol

[@juliealexis7438]

That is beautiful karma helping you out and making her point!

[@lauras3871]

This is why I'm 35 and choose to stay single. I hate dating. Too many rules. Just one big game. 😒

[@jujumama]

Same. In 35 single. Still get hit on a lot. Nothing is real.

[@lauras3871]

@@jujumama yep. It's mentally exhausting to try to figure out if people are being genuine or not - and then to play these games back and forth.

[@vaishalipatil3372]

True!💯

[@burberryclaretred6676]

I’m 49 and 43 when my marriage ended and from all this time I see men don’t like used parts or a vintage repurposed bag lol

[@lauras3871]

@@burberryclaretred6676 they like anything that is easy.

[@aradiadealkirk5267]

A big one for me is WHEN he texts. If it’s always late at night like after bed time or normal winding down for the nights and he doesn’t work an odd shift: he looking for a booty call.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Yep, absolutely no respectful for your schedule either. Just say bye bye boy 👋🏼

[@laraselters9185]

@@datingcoachryanpatrick Your videos are REAL amazing!!! Lol my boyfriend broke up with me over the phone...😢😭😭😭Says he's too good for me and can have way hotter things than me and that there's plenty more where I came from..😑😣😥

[@Xtowdavis3772]

@@laraselters9185 oh hell no...

[@bettyssalmon7168]

@@laraselters9185 so sorry. Anyone who can be that cruel is not someone you need in your life. I think he wanted to break your spirit and your confidence because of his own insecurity. You were too good for him and he knew it so insults you to break you down. I feel sorry for him. To need to hurt another person so viciously suggests he has his own emotional issues. You really dodged a bullet with him.

[@laraselters9185]

@@bettyssalmon7168 Awww thank you...

[@shelleyjeanne257]

I ignore the good morning/good night texts. Great guys have set my bar so high that I don't waste my time on the guys who are lazy.

[@amandat2693]

"You're important to me, you're different than the other girls "

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Means nothing over text, my Gawd gross 😖

[@hannahscott6604]

Oh Lordy. Hate those texts

[@crystalanamericaninsicily]

Classic line that means absolutely nothing!

[@BananaGrace]

“I’m different than other guys”... 😂😂😂😂😂 it’s amazing how many “different guys” have said that EXACT same thing. 🙃 weird. There must be a “different guy secret society” where they all ban together and plot out how to be the biggest waste of time to women.

[@rebeccaricks7854]

Anytime a guy tries to convince me "he's a good one"- major red flag. Feels like a salesman convincing me to buy something I don't need. Out of blue, one guy said to me, "I don't beat my women." Ohhh, you want points for not beating someone- instead of just being a decent person. So many red flags and levels of strange. I left 2 seconds later and never looked back.

[@AlexisMaria]

Right! Like dont say it show it! Ughh lol

[@nancieprincess7363]

But not all guys are the same

[@carriegoodwin9058]

These are the WORST ones!

[@queenivy8600]

A guy once told me that, come to find out he had his hand in many hairy pies, lying to multiple women, playing games, mental/emotional manipulation. He swore that he was different but I knew better.

[@DONT4GET_SUNSCREEN]

Aww Damn!😦 I think I'm just going to be the crazy cat lady. Too many games.

[@hayleycrawford2784]

Kitties don't fake their affection and love for you, unless they want their litter changed, or a goodie. 😉 But, they are better companions than men, and humans in general.

[@suej9329]

@@hayleycrawford2784 Agree 💯! People make fun of cat ladies (or dogs), but there’s usually a good reason for them preferring the loyalty and unconditional love of a pet, I love cats the best. 😻🐈🐶🐕👍

[@Nosloballcob]

I definitely got some of these signs from a guy that wasn’t seeing someone else, but just expected me to carry the relationship along with him putting in the absolute minimum effort haha *sad face*

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Yup we just let those types go bye bye.. 👋🏼

[@heddakrueger9252]

@@datingcoachryanpatrick yup. That guys not going anywhere. He's a straight up loser. With a capital L.

[@mrs_is_the_name3377]

Yea everyone r different so true

[@heddakrueger9252]

you know what ryan. Your so rt. Its really weird but ever since cutting ties with this person I feel refreshed n recharged. Like a bull out of the turn buckle. N my heart is not looking back. I cal actually talk to him on the phone. Like im talking to my someone I once knew. Like a brother or sibling. Thank god no sentimental attractions whats so ever I wish him the best that he gets out of his own traps. Cuz that guy has alot of growing up to do. N im already on dif dating sites trying to find a real man. Thanks for all your dating direction. You helped me see clearer. 💋

[@megatron6382]

@@heddakrueger9252 ,which quality a real man poses in your eyes??

[@mupqueen1]

When a man is 47 years old and playing these games he adds up to one word LOSER!! This is why I can't be bothered with b.s. dating crap!

[@Jess1234]

Hes too old to be playing,grandpa needs to be playing with the grandkids

[@hayleycrawford2784]

My ex narc is 52, and a player. He got married to a woman from Turkey who is almost 20 years younger than him. He's disgusting.

[@mayracalderon5598]

Funny about the 47 yr old.. dealing woth one right now, i am going to call off this pseudo relationship with hom today!

[@CorporateQueen]

Or 56. 👀

[@SR-rz9uj]

Also dealing with a 47 year old loser…🤨

[@angeliayates4318]

I miss you babe😯but never finds time to build a relationship always wants something

[@angeliayates4318]

I have good idea ladies 😃let's require that they say our names in their texts 😯say this I have a name let's start typing it more okay !!! Or I'm very exclusive I like my name in our conversations when you say good morning .

[@tamibennett2414]

Alwayssss

[@kaydykes9916]

Sometimes I feel weird when they text my name like what you trying to make sure you text the right person ?

[@tonyamedsker497]

@@angeliayates4318 but MY "GUY" THOUGHT CALLING ME "BABE OR BABY" WAS PROOF OF LOVE!!! LMAO YEAH... PROOF HE DIDN'T WANT TO HAVE TO FOCUS TO KEEP MY NAME AND SIDE CHICKS NAMED A MILLION MILES APART!! LOL AND NOTICE?? "HEY, DO U WANT TO GO .... ???" ME" SURE" EXCITED FOR A HOT SECOND UNTIL.... "IM ON MY WAY!" FALLS OUT OF HIS MOUTH ALL THE TIME! SADLY WE LIVED TOGETHER AND I KNEW BUT NO PROOF... HERE'S MY PROOF! TY TY TY ❤ NO REGRETS SAYING IM DONE THIS MORNING...

[@Tmcsinger91]

So true

[@stormchylde3999]

He keeps the conversation very light and superficial and it's always the same few topics over and over....the weather, compliments your appearance, what did you/he did today, something in the news; nothing too deep or personal.

[@chescasalcedo1748]

👁👄👁

[@adday.]

That is not bad signs.

[@stormchylde3999]

@@adday. It means he is interested but only to a certain level; as in, he's interested in sleeping with you, but does not want to get to know you on a deeper, more personal level. He's not interested in a real relationship.

[@adday.]

@@stormchylde3999 Is this the same man from your other comment? The momma's boy. Don't let him steal more of your time. My father has always called this type of person a "time stealer".

[@adday.]

@@stormchylde3999 "Time thief" may be a more accurate translation from German.

[@maryherrera3628]

I had a guy string me along for 8 months ... he would always say we should do something but never made any plans ... I later found out he was also seeing someone else

[@AmerikanAmplifier]

Honestly, all of the points were spot on. All of it just actually made me sad. I feel so played. I've been such a fool.

[@SoftCloudDust]

We are learning and growing!

[@heatherherrington5774]

me too

[@laurabarber6697]

Only if you keep making the same mistake. Otherwise you've learned and it will never happen again!

[@MsAnchovey]

And karma is s b***ch because all his lying will come back to him in some way (maybe a girl will lie to him that he's in love with. So don't feel bad or feel the fool at all. He's the one that will feel sucky.

[@evani1156]

😢

[@savannahnovotny8789]

3 days of silence, then "I miss you."

[@carolinegomera6210]

So saadddd

[@savannahnovotny8789]

I dumped him after 7 months of being played. Learned my lesson.

[@jidinataga3766]

Loll so true😂

[@marswmnwhoever1365]

Months of not seeing them and then oh I miss you, when tney show up unannounced

[@shandahlibarra2736]

Ghosting followed by breadcrumbs.

[@tati7053]

Love that My guy isn’t Doing any of this except the Good Morning texts lol because our conversations go on and on until I fall asleep on him lol💪🏼😏. He’s very consistent, and intentional. He’s very direct and continuously setting more dates. I’m a bit guarded but I let him in just enough to keep him on his toes.

[@cia2064]

I saw a couple "when he texts you" messages. I noticed a pattern where some guys only message during work hours. Now it's a total tip off that they're already in a relationship.

[@leratotabane5841]

True

[@amyamy9178]

Yep mistaking personal history is Real ! Once a guy i was dating told me on our third date i made this smoked cheese just for you cause i know how much you love it , and i was like no never , i don't like any kind of smoked food ! I've never said that ! He was insisting and i was denying ! So i told him you must be mistaken me for someone else ! He had that awkward moment and awkward laugh and he said yeah ! I kept it cool and classy about an hour and i told him i must be somewhere else and i left and i left for Good 😊

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Smoked cheese??? WOW what a royal screw-up!!! That's like mixing up personal history in a *spectacular* fashion! 🤣🤣

[@amyamy9178]

Ryan Patrick exactly 😄

[@kidrn4u]

Instead of feeling frustrated or angered, I have found them to be a source of amusement. The girls and I have a grand time cracking up about “ghosters” and “submariners” we have met. Of course, there was once a time when it wasn’t too funny...thanks to your vids, we ladies are wee bit more learned! So thank you!❤️💃🏻

[@elizabethwoolnough4358]

I'm always put on the back burner. So I'm just getting on with my own life.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Just gotta crack the right group of guys. Once you meet one, I feel they start flowing in, and then you get to pick and choose. "When it rains it pours" as they say 😉

[@ladennayoung2939]

That is all that you can do.

[@jcollins9392]

I am too for years

[@barbm1001]

Elizabeth Woolnough me too. NEXT!!

[@chanel123ful]

Me too smh

[@stormchylde3999]

Or if he never really wants to know anything about you. Like on a personal level. He only wants to talk about himself, and even then, it's nothing too deep. I talked to a guy on the phone a bit (after one date) and he's rambling on and on about himself and his life story and it was just so boring because there was no give and take in the conversation at all. I finally said that I bet he couldn't answer even the most basic information about me and asked him if he knew if I had been divorced or had children and he couldn't answer that; yet I knew all his past medical problems and even about his mother's medical history.

[@bettyssalmon7168]

Yep. Been there. Red flag if the guy takes no interest in your life it means exactly that - he's not interested. Don't waste your valuable time being his sounding board, listening to his life.

[@me-meluv6921]

Damn..... lollll 😂 what's wrong with the men of the world today

[@adday.]

I met a man who had saved up all his question and asked them when we finally met. He only wanted to ask them in person.

[@stormchylde3999]

@@adday. We had already been on a date in person, where he asked nothing about me then either. I gave him the benefit of the doubt that maybe he was nervous at the time or something, even though he had no trouble talking about himself. Then when we had two more conversations on the phone, he droned on and on about himself in a monotone to the point I would start yawning and couldn't stop. Imagine having to hear an hour and half about a stranger's (and his mother's) in-depth medical history, his ex-wife, etc. And none of it was interesting, either. I had tried to interject and give him some info about myself, but remembered none of it when I asked about it later.

[@adday.]

@@stormchylde3999 He sounds hopeless. A momma's boy who is so far up his own a..

[@ketsia9064]

They always say "I'm busy"

[@bettyssalmon7168]

Mine said 'can't talk today. I have a headache'. That went on for weeks. Told him he needs to see a doctor for the longest headache in history and blocked him

[@Negativespace95]

I hate the words “too busy”. Seriously I’ve said that when I have no interest in a guy not someone I’m trying to get to know.

[@fineasginger3034]

I think a guy is the right guy for you when you feel great around his presence. In few words his way of being makes your own life worth of living. You feel protected and loved by him.

[@adday.]

It shouldn't be what makes your own life worth living, but otherwise agree.

[@itslavonne2929]

#9 came to me as quite a shock! But now in hindsight... Yup! I used to get the “good morning” text and then later in the evening the “how was your day?” text like clockwork without much being said throughout the day or on weekends. It was the same routine every single day so I eventually got bored with it and quit answering. Glad I did!

[@ginacervantes7535]

I think another sign could be when he gives you a "nickname" but it's just all the girls same nickname so he doesn't mix the names!

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Good one!!! 👆👆

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Awww

[@stormchylde3999]

Yeah I had a guy who wanted to call me "Sunshine"....even though I'm not a real smiley or 'sunshiney' person. I found out later he was seeing multiple women behind my back (we were supposed to be exclusive). At most, it wasn't a nickname that he'd given much thought to as it didn't match my personality at all. At worst, it was for the reason you mentioned.

[@heatherfeather9951]

"Hey babe" comes to mind.

[@shutit4024]

Some guy named me under a rappers name just because I told him my favorite female rapper

[@aprayerandpositivethoughts9308]

06:43 ‘what are you wearing?’ so funny

[@elktail]

I am in a long distance relationship and I get from him “let’s just be friends”. Then from him I get “let’s be together again” and last again “let’s be friends” .... I’m no man’s last choice!!

[@wookieelee38]

Gwen woodward oh ughhhhhh 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄 I’m sorry that happend.

[@erk44]

I cant remember a time a guy ever told me "lets just be friends"

[@ddennis978]

Lol the good morning and good night text and Limited during the day .. too true

[@maesancarley699]

He calls you “Babe” like WAY too soon

[@karenwilliams8977]

Yep!

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

I HATE calling a woman "babe" 😣If I called my wife this, she'd be like 😐😐 lol

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

💯

[@hannahscott6604]

My ex did that

[@carmen5358]

Good one, such a red flag!

[@shaina49]

I was feeling a little bad for unfriending my guy. But this video made it clear to exactly what he's been doing to me. Thank you for sharing!!

[@rebeccaricks7854]

How about those randoms "Hey, How are you" - trying to reconnect with me after he's gone silent and yet it's impersonal because he can't text anything personal like my name. Generic text. He's just looking for attention.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

NEXT! 👉👉👉

[@mrs_is_the_name3377]

Saying it is rude,but it doesnt mean he is talking to alot of girls some say tht to any1

[@hannahscott6604]

ReBecca Ricks haha the guy I knew I was his backup texted my name in every text if we argued. So patronizing. If they do the name thing in a argument they’re being patronizing

[@crystalhr89]

This happened yesterday, but dude had a girl gf wks who and asked me out last wk then ghosted again. Got hit with the hi, how are you ? I said great, hope you’re well , hear back from you in another 2 days 🤣🤣 and I got 🦗 .. miss me with that bs

[@BohoFlow]

I just replied to another comment saying the same thing. A while back I was talking to a guy on Hinge app. We talked for like 3 days, but then he didn't reply for 5. After day 5 he hit me with a "hey, how're you" or something like that. I told him I wasn't interested anymore and that I moved on cuz he went MIA. A day later he replies saying: "I was never interested in you, I was interested in someone else. You're not that hot anyway. Don't reply back (clown emoji)." I screenshot, unmatched, and showed my friend, and we got a GOOD laugh from that!! Like how cliche!! "Oh YeAh?? WEll uR noT ThAT cUtE AnyWaY".

[@ssmith543]

Oh, I wish I would have known about the good morning and good night texts...We had been living together for a year when I started finding out about ALL the other girlfriends.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Oh Gawd 😬Sorry to hear that

[@ladennayoung2939]

Yeah my ex was always about the good morning text. I thought it was sweet. Because he would get for work way earlier then I did. Because I thought he didn't want to wake me. Smh. I eventually found out that everything with him was a facade.

[@missindie4199]

Sameeeeee

[@cougarelli]

Damn...if only I discovered you earlier!!! I was soooooo naive!! 😅

[@SamElle]

i wish i had his vids during HS and undergrad LOL

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Glad to have you now better late than never! 😜

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Aww shucks Sam 🙃Thanks!

[@vivianringera1951]

Ive heard this before😂

[@winniemutheu7621]

Me too🤦😭

[@juliaitsikson1512]

This was spot on. “Good morning and goodnight” text was quite an eye opener though. Thank you for the insightful tips

[@KB-hf3ym]

He sends “how was your day” Smiley face. Makes me wonder if it’s a copy paste dealie

[@jaydemelissah]

Your facial expression with the ‘what are you wearing?’ message made my day. This is me every time!

[@VegasLady81]

LOL You're funny as hell, Mr. Patrick. "What are you wearing" with the creepy scary movie type music playing. Hahaha

[@shonjohnson6258]

I texted my friend good morning, then decided to call him afterwards. Instead of him answering he texted back " May I call you later?" That red flag went up. He called me later that evening around six. I didn't answer. Wow, this is mind blowing! I am happy that I did not put too much time into this....whatever this was.

[@Bridgets524]

I've had several men that have sent good morning texts for MONTHS and never met some of them!!

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

You didn't miss much I'm sure 😉

[@Bridgets524]

I don't think so!!🙂

[@erk44]

Same. You wonder why they keep contacting you

[@iplaytowin412]

yikes i never want to get a “good morning” text again😂

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Lol only if he's doing everything else right 😉

[@teenaporter7274]

I get "good morning" and "good night" text but we text throughout the day and talk on the phone for over an hour before bed. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@crystalanamericaninsicily]

Good morning text are nice...if it followed a call later.

[@crystalanamericaninsicily]

@@teenaporter7274 That a good sign. He's a keeper!

[@theundone777]

I have never liked the good morning/good night texts out of context. It feels weird and obligatory and unnatural. Like when someone brings flowers on a first meet/coffee date.

[@KS-ci4mu]

Wtfffff is the difference.. all I’ve learned is that I’m way happier single

[@Nicki17321]

Agreed 1000%

[@alexandravtensek1216]

Definitely!

[@tuathadesidhe1530]

Yep I'm way more happy single too

[@moonbootsally]

Him: “I keep thinking about you.” Me: “Me too ... How have you been?” Him 10 minutes later: “Goodnight 😘” Hahaha 😂 Okay. Goodbye.

[@phugh3878]

Lol wtf ??

[@andreeailie9053]

So true

[@adday.]

Sounds like he likes you. Men are just not good at texting. How is it going?

[@crystalanamericaninsicily]

If he doesn't ask you out on a DATE...and you have NO plans. Your the Sidechick.😉

[@moonbootsally]

Adda Y. Well it would be nice if he did, and maybe he does, but he keeps disappearing for months ... and he also admitted to a mutual friend that he would text several girls at once. On a positive, he also admitted to that friend that he would prefer to not use me like he was using them, which he hasn’t, so ... hard to tell what to do, other than just keep moving on ... !

[@lisad4689]

OMG...good morning and good night texts ...YES!!! Getting rid of that one ....

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Yup! On to the next! 👉👉👉

[@jopederick5985]

@@datingcoachryanpatrick my bf does this with me, but it's not just that, usually a couple of sentences and him asking about my day. Is that still a red flag?

[@MsAnchovey]

Is it still bad to send GM and GN texts if he calls you every day?

[@sweetgirl4u247]

When he texts a few days later asking you questions while you are wondering where he disappeared to.

[@a-zlinguistics5646]

True

[@gemmajames1050]

Oh my god number 9 is so true. I totally got sucked in by that last year. Thank you

[@Karen-ov9iy]

It is far easier for them to hide their real personality in texts. A real voice conversation tells a person a lot more! I will never trust a guy that will not accept voice calls....especially when work is done . My ex is a master manipulator . He loved texting which aided his disrespectful behaviour. Be careful .

[@Karen-ov9iy]

Lioyd Williams Thankyou.....I realize he is very narcissistic and needs therapy..... I am moving on

[@thehedgehog3327]

Last one made me cry just now...I guess some wounds will never heal...

[@dani58301]

WOW. Number 9 was shocking to me. Thank you so much for opening our eyes even more Ryan.

[@anniecrawford3124]

"What'cha doin'?" With no response for hours after answering him.

[@moniamonia1009]

Typical☺

[@verablue2772]

I hate the "What you doing" text, I think it's extremely lazy for a guy to send this, it shows no effort and in my experience the guy is just bored and wants someone to entertain him

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

BOO 👎🏼These guys are a waste of time 🙄

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

💯Ocean!

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Indeed

[@alyssaraine3292]

"Get some rest I'll talk at you in the AM" and then his phone is off all day 😂😂

[@norahmyers5535]

The hot and cold thing is so true . . . he'd make me feel so good and then yank it all out from under me, and I tolerated it for SIX YEARS.

[@BlueWithoutBiu]

So on point. Almost all of them! The "good morning, good night" messages, also the "hey.. what r u doin?"

[@foxylady0015]

Ryan! You hit home with the infamous "good morning beautiful" text! 😂😂 You're a smart man. I've been taking your advice and I'm not as anxious when I'm ghosted. Buddy sends 1 text a day and dissappears all weekend only to return Monday morning with the same damn text? Who has time for that? Not me! 😂 Thank you for providing reassurance and insight. P. S. - Guess who didn't reply to said text this morning... 😉 Keep up the good work. The dating world is better because of you.

[@lisa5821]

God, I fell for this completely. Word for word.

[@upserlivinthedream]

Definitely 5 & 6. Totally feel like a second choice and I feel like I am never a priority....Makes you want to give up and just stay single.

[@jadoreluv6891]

All of these signs I’ve been victim to😂. But I always go radio silent once I figure it out🤔

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

GOOD! Love the efficiency! 👌🏽

[@ginny9080]

A guy I dated years ago, pops up out of the blue, and when day texts, that we should of gotten married! I’m like what are you talking about!

[@michhall0103]

He Sends Goodmorning Texts and like you said dont hear Anything For The Rest Of The Day!! No Goodnight Texts!! Wow Thanks For Letting me Know Something i felt Anyway!!👍👌

[@marshanelms5436]

Oh my gosh, that number 9. Ugh!!!! I thought it was sweet. Urrrrrr!!!!

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

It can be... as long as he's making an effort to take you out on dates along with it 😉

[@marshanelms5436]

@@datingcoachryanpatrick Well, nope. I had been out of the dating pool for years and hadn't been with anyone in 7 years. Lol 😆 He probably spotted me coming 10 miles away. Lesson learned.

[@finawatsonart]

Best one I ever got was "good morning my gorgeous sexy wife" Followed by a hilarious attempt to pretend he had lent his phone to another lad in his army unit, who somehow text me by mistake!

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

WOW! Oops 🙄🤦🏻‍♂️

[@queenivy8600]

🤣🤣😂🤣 busted!

[@careneaton399]

Oooop

[@brittanyknowles4539]

No

[@BananaGrace]

When you see texts from his ex pop up on his screen, that he SWEARS he’s over and she’s just “harassing him and he doesn’t want to be mean” and a week later they’re back together. 🙄🙄🙄 not my current situation ... just a recent situation that I really had no patience for to have my time wasted like that. 😑

[@crystalanamericaninsicily]

Well if you're just dating... It's ok. If it's your "boyfriend" NO.

[@hannahscott6604]

Crystal Dating Coach it’s never ok. Especially if they’ve been stringing your along via text trying to get you to be with them or talk to them until their ex takes them back and you aren’t aware of it until last minute

[@missindie4199]

Oh shit

[@bettyssalmon7168]

@@crystalanamericaninsicily if the man was s honest and you both know you are just dating then maybe but don't claim to be over your ex if you are not.

[@69HaleyBear]

Question is his name John russell? Does he live in Illinois? Its Always the J letters 🤭

[@britnxypham]

another one that wasn’t mentioned is if he ONLY refers to you by a pet name which means he’s talking to other girls and doesn’t wanna mix up names. this happened to me where this guy would only say “hey gorgeous” “how are you beautiful” but never said my name

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

YES!! Someone else I just saw mentioned this too and it's a really good one 👌🏽

[@karenwilliams8977]

Yessss!!!

[@sandracarli1110]

Yes, and babe...

[@hannahscott6604]

My ex did that.... a lot...... YIKES

[@hannahscott6604]

I had a feeling my first ex was seeing multiple girls, I knew he seemed like a player

[@docrhodadelgado]

Thank you for letting me out from my denial stage.

[@AmerikanAmplifier]

The good morning and good night thing helped a lot.

[@sarahc561]

"Hey. U good?"- from a guy on and off for over a year. I finally saw sense and he's gone! Yes!

[@CharliedeCamera]

I love number 9! Minimum efforts indeed! And very subtle.

[@patriciawilson3007]

I had a guy send me a text saying “I wish you were here” under that along with a picture of a sunset at the beach. Then a few seconds later sending the same picture and then under the picture saying “I wish you were her” 😳 like really guy.

[@Youwish11112]

Back up girl ... a real MAN treats women with respect and a goes after that one with or without her and only her unless theres no chance then he moves on

[@tailsmolover45]

When he texts hey and u reply but he leaves you on read for days then asks if ur free that night a week later

[@VaraPappas]

I didn't know that about the good morning and good night texts! That's hilarious! I always found them clingy, and gross. Funny that it's the opposite 😂

[@maryarlynn]

and he actively txting me before he go to sleep but MIA with his entire day 😏😏

[@nickys.2384]

Number 9..all the way. Good morning and goodnight text. No real effort in between, bare minimum for sure

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

BOOM 💥

[@yn9861]

Can't believe I tolerated gm and gn texts for 6 months

[@carmen5358]

A guy that had been hot and cold with me texted me that he missed me at 2:30 in the morning out of the blue last night after a month of not talking to me and I said, bye bye! Haha, I knew what was up. Thank you for your videos, there always right on the money! He exhibited a lot of these signs, I could of used this video about a month ago, but it's ok lol

[@carmen5358]

@@lioydwilliams1850 Yes, I definitely do, thank you!

[@lexxrose8983]

You should do a video about " 10 reasons he's hot and cold" or something like that

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Cool, I dig that! Thanks Lexx! 🙂

[@Cinder1987]

What about when he swears he’s told you about something but you know he didn’t. It’s because he can’t remember which one he told or didn’t tell.

[@Katlynboaty]

“ Thank you, that just made my day! My favorite thing about you has always been your genuine kindness and that you’re such a sweetheart. Thank you for being you and have a great day today 😌” * had a gf

[@theteachingromance]

thank you for no. 9. this actually cleared things up for me as I have been confused about the meaning of it for some time now.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Perfect Catholic! Good to see you on here again! It's been a wile 🙂

[@SamElle]

YESSSS the personal history stuff is a TOTAL dead giveaway!!! This one guy forgot my age and what dates we went on previously LOL

[@moniamonia1009]

One guy forgot on what date site we met☺

[@TheBeaniestBean8675]

LOL 😂

[@SamElle]

@@moniamonia1009 omg there was this guy who showed me his excel spreadsheet of all the other girls he was seeing at the same time!! I WAS LIKE WHAT THE HECK

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Lazy ass 🙄🤦🏻‍♂️

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Yeah probably bc his cheap ass is on 11 free apps... 😒NEXT! 👉👉

[@jenniferdesjardins287]

Perfect!!!! I want to see all of your videos all the time! I will no longer be a fool anymore!!!

[@Thislife78-p1w]

Oh yes I have been the backup girl. Surprisingly when I call them out and set boundaries they get back on track and become consistent. But that is something I don’t like. I like to be valued from the beginning. So... next!

[@tzviaforYahMessiah]

Omg!!!! I’ve had this to much in my life. Every man I’ve dated. Now I’m loving myself so much more to attract the right one down the road. ❤️

[@selenawilliams2219]

Thanks for the tip. Consistency is very important

[@josselynpratt7353]

Omg I needed to hear the good morning and goodnight texts one! Wtf I am beyond grateful for you making me aware of it

[@thefitdoc51]

Damn I have been wasting my time. This is such a slap in the face! Thank you for opening my eyes❤

[@fatemehb8585]

SOOO TRUE ! ladies JUST LISTEN TO HIM & DO NOT LET A MAN PLAY WITH YOUR EMOTIONS !!!!!!

[@krishiaanneelizario598]

Oh my gooosh! all boxes are checked!! I'm soo glad I dumped him.

[@meredithmericle7487]

you are so right. If you are the Tuesday date after three weeks, he's seeing someone else or married. If you call him out on it, you might get a Saturday date ONCE. Then it's back to Tuesday. You can bet your socks on this one.

[@marzypania]

OMG Ryan! I seem to be a magnet for guys who sends these Good Morning and Good Night texts....shit....sooo wasn't expecting that

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Yep just cut him off as soon as you realize it's just those texts and really nothing else of substance coming through 😉