Breaking Toxic Relationship Patterns (with Sierra Dowd)

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5 ай бұрын

This week, Mal is joined by her friend Sierra to discuss toxic relationships: the signs, the patterns, and what to do if you think you might be in one.
It was Sierra's first relationship with a woman that forced her to examine her past, and which brought up repressed memories of Childhood Sexual Assault (CSA). This revelation led to years of healing work and therapy, and Sierra found herself in various unhealthy romantic relationships throughout that challenging time. Sierra shares what she learnt during that time and reminds us that we all deserve a happy ending, no matter the circumstances we came from.
**Content Warning: This episode contains content that may be challenging to some listeners.
Please see resources Sierra shared below:
98Society: ⁠98society.com/⁠
Rainn: ⁠www.rainn.org/⁠
Darkness to Light: ⁠www.d2l.org/⁠
National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233
The Trevor Project: ⁠www.thetrevorproject.org/⁠
Los Angeles - LGBTQ Center: ⁠lalgbtcenter.org/programs/com...
Follow our guest / sierradowd and please remember to subscribe, rate, review and share this episode with someone you suspect might be in a toxic relationship.
For all inquiries email us at contact@madeitoutpodcast.com

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@Curiousangel24 5 ай бұрын

Raise your hand if you have followed each and every guest Mal has hosted.😊

@clv8939 5 ай бұрын

Old person here. You never stop working through the abuse. But if you find the one it doesn’t matter. You will always feel safe

@naturenut7695 3 ай бұрын

Absolutely

@arthyland 5 ай бұрын

One of my Nieces was in an abusive relationship for 11 years , hid it well from myself and others. She joined a Roller Derby club that met twice a week where she met this awesome young woman and they hit it off on a friendship level. She ended up divorcing her abusive husband ( Emotional but not physical ) and moving in with this younger woman. She called me on the phone and asked me point blank if it was okay for her to bring her friend over to meet me. I said sure thing , if she was comfortable , well then so was I. When I met this young woman she was very apprehensive , which I completely understand why , but she had nothing to fear. My Niece asked me if she could have my blessing with her and her friend being lovers . Most definitely I said yes indeed. ( Emily and Devon ) have been Happily married now for 2 1/2 years now , I am really very proud of them and of two other Niece's who have married their girlfriends. Your podcasts are very important , I applaud you guys , absolutely love your Laugh it's very infectious indeed.

@queenbee7074 5 ай бұрын

Its my 3rd video of ‘made it out’ just wanted to say thank you for giving us this platform and shining light on all these issues

@KayBassie 5 ай бұрын

Very important conversation to have. It's insane how alot of children who have been abused (myself included). The whole notion that the people in your life that love you really cant protect you....wow. This podcast, you got me crying again overhere🥺

@lyssasletters3232 5 ай бұрын

Mal, you demonstrate such compassion and joy when you host these podcast episodes. Your facial expressions radiate caring! Regarding this particular episode, you both are so beautiful!!! Love your work. Keep it coming!!!!

@garth56 5 ай бұрын

Abusive behaviour gets way worse in the hetro world it's x100 worse.. My sister will never be the same she will never walk down a street on her own.. She will never even walk properly.. I miss my sister 😞

@truetarottarius 5 ай бұрын

Oh my, this one resonated so deeply with me. Thank you for sharing your story. I am also a survivor and you just articulated the facts and awareness about how difficult it can be when forming relationships. CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) has been a practice of mine for 5 or so years now. It has been the holy grail to recognizing patterns and breaking cycles of toxicity. The importance of finding someone who can hold that safe space to talk about things and have balance with is all anyone asks for. I'm still out here trying to find her 😇🥰🧡

@naturenut7695 5 ай бұрын

Great show. Heavy topic but sooo necessary to talk about and find some one to help you. I've always felt there's no possible way to have a healthy relationship with another person until you yourself are healthy in every aspect. And she made 50 sound old. 50 is the new 35. 😂. Lol look forward to the show. As always thanks for taking us along for the ride. ❤

@hiportugal 5 ай бұрын

thank you so much! (i produce the show hehe) any chance we could ask you to write us a real quick review on Apple Podcasts? Helps us so much so we can keep making episodes!

@GayIRL 5 ай бұрын

I feel similar to Sierra. Hearing her speak about this gives me hope that I will be able to find the person that will heal my inner child and make me feel safe. 🤞

@pridetherapy 5 ай бұрын

Wow! Thanks so much for covering this heavy topic. I’m going to cover this topic soon on my therapy channel to help queer women address past sexual abuse.

@tarinimathur382 5 ай бұрын

Thank you sharing your story Sierra.

@chack4845 5 ай бұрын

🙏🙏🙏 interview Matilda your gf next time. Or whenever , really looking forward to it.

@hiportugal 5 ай бұрын

I AGREE :)

@MadeItOutPodcast 8 күн бұрын

Chack!!! Are you still watching and following we never hear from you anymore 😢

@chack4845 8 күн бұрын

@@MadeItOutPodcast 😱 I do watch but due to work schedule I cannot watch on time. I had to watch 4 to 5 days late and your team seems to delay "Mathilde in the next episode " request so......😄 I ain't going nowhere

@shanameyer7750 5 ай бұрын

Your podcast is fantastic ❤ All the way from South Africa. All the issues exactly the same. Please carry on 😊

@adelle468 Ай бұрын

From SA as well

@lavenderrosecosplay5639 5 ай бұрын

I'm so glad this podcast came up on my recommended. This is a wonderful episode full of things I needed to hear. This and Maddie Zahm's episode encouraged me so much. Thank you!

@Happinessking816 5 ай бұрын

This happened to me as well it is terrible to put together the pieces and your lucky your family is by your side my family SUCKS but I know I am amazing and deserve to love my life and talk about my trauma whenever I want to

@KathleenMint 4 ай бұрын

1. fights 2. Unsafe 3. Love bombing. these are facts applies even to blood family/relatives. Family isn't blood.

@nicoles.2588 5 ай бұрын

Wow I loved how much I related to this ♥️ thank you for sharing

@ROCKONplaceboforever 5 ай бұрын

Amazing conversation and podcast love it thank u so much ❤ so important talks to be heard and listened to appreciate you and sierra im nearly cry listening to it

@wildestdreams_ 5 ай бұрын

I loved all the advice Sierra had to give. very relatable for so many of us. Thank you Mal ❤

@chantal6442 5 ай бұрын

Such a wholesome and much needed conversation! These podcasts are one of the highlights of my week 🥰 Keep up the great work!

@FlyMeToWonderland 5 ай бұрын

Important topic, wonderful guest, amazing podcast as always 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

@sette900 5 ай бұрын

Been off for a while wouldnt miss this for the world😊

@zanaduify 3 ай бұрын

I feel 100% seen here. I was SA-ed and have been in a lot of toxic relationships. I'm still healing and working through my trust issues. I love your podcast :)

@Maria.0.1 5 ай бұрын

Gurl, I binge watched all your podcast episodes, for the last 3 days 😭 why are there so few of them! Anyways, I adore this podcast and I’m so glad I found it 💕💕

@hiportugal 5 ай бұрын

thank you so much! (i produce the show hehe) any chance we could ask you to write us a real quick review on Apple Podcasts? Helps us so much so we can keep making episodes!

@someonesomehow379 2 ай бұрын

NOT THE DEAD SEA MINERALS lolll as a person from jordan- gurl 😭

@Curiousangel24 5 ай бұрын

I understand what she means by you becoming an open person. I talk about my suicide attempt I had when I was 14, because I was outed. And I feel comfortable talking about it because I feel I can help some other person if I share