Can understand what you're saying question what about women who have had a double vasectomy feel that could be a problem since I have I feel so happy about it but future partner???

She is hilarious....😂

I think this is super interesting. For some background: I had to do a lot of work on body neutrality for diet culture reasons (unlearning weight bias, accepting my body); but when I started dating my current partner (first gay relationship, first time dating someone in a larger body), my therapist pointed out that there’s a legitimate difference between (on the one hand) deconstructing fatphobia and (on the other) having certain dating/romantic preferences… I.e. Just because you aren’t fatphobic in your belief system does not mean you are equally attracted to all body types. So, when Liza talks about fat women having no Tinder matches, that is not *necessarily* because the queer community is fatphobic.

Great discussion! Thank you for it.

Wow, they’re very inspiring

Intuitive eating has saved me. Stuck in a cycle of restricting and binging for years. Then i started listening to my body, bite by bite. I don’t constantly think about food anymore, I eat what feels nurishing to me, I cycle track too. I’ve been healing, and losing weight in the process, but that’s not my main focus. Next up is healing my relationship w exercise lol!

Maybe I was born broken… lol my mom said I would drink milk til I would vomit as an infant in a way my sister didn’t. Like I would just keep going. She also used weed when pregnant with me and I ended up an addict… so maybe I was born with those tendencies?

Great episode I'm sure this will help a lot of people, put all of the ads during this were for weight loss 😞

We do all process differently--had to accept this too. The interverted & extraverted cognitive functions we tend to use more, or lean into primary for energy, creates different social habits.

Hmmm. I love this podcast but this is not very good. Doritos? That is actual addiction. Crisps/chips = addiction. You need to detox if you’re “intuitively eating” Doritos! Not all food is good food. Some food does belong in the trash!! Read Ultra Processed People. That will get you on the right track. Sorry but taking food advice from Americans is crazy. Ask a European, please!

I absolutely loved this episode. Liza is amazing! This subject resonates with my history with food and relationships. Thank you for such a thought provoking conversation!

oh she’s amazing

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I dont think you are gay. You are just a grifter. Get a real job.

I absolutely agree with this, but I also believe that there is moral value in where food comes from. Like every day factory farming is wrong. We should look for a recovery that is not only kind to us but also others.

44:30 so true😂After the second pizza I'm like nah I'm good. Where's the greens 🥗? It's so about diminished returns. 44:35 "Are we actually atuned to what we want and need?" Such a good question, cause the lines can be blurred based on societal pressures. This was great episode to end the season. Have a great vacation. Y'all deserve it. I appreciate the team and this podcast. Looking forward to 2025 for even more insightful conversations with the Community.❤🏳️‍🌈

13:45 over 90% of ppl with eating disorders fall under the “atypical” description. (The diagnostic criteria are pretty messed up in part bc EDs predominantly affect ppl in multi-marginalized bodies, e.g. women, POC, etc., and the DSM was written largely by men.)

It took me 6 years to lose 65lbs. The first two years i focused on working out. The second two years i focused on my sleeping. Then i plateaued for a year. This past year i havent been depressed and ive been sleeping more and my body is dropping pounds atm.

Merry Christmas Mal and Mathilde. Happy holidays and season greetings. 👏👏for season 1 of your great podcast.. waiting for season 2!🙏🙏

Can’t lie as soon as I came out, I definitely made sure to look “good” because it’s hard to be ugly, not fit, and gay.

Ok, so I’ve been working with nutritionists to lose weight and it’s not going very well. I have lost a little weight but their suggestions for how to alter my diet just make me sad. I cannot be satisfied with a snack of chalky chickpeas or a breakfast of cottage cheese. Eating a salad is actually something I like, but then they want me to get rid of the tasty salad dressing and use something “healthier” that will not taste nearly as good. Texture is SO important to me as an autistic person. Taste is also really important. I’d rather eat less of something I like rather than more of something unappetizing. Also, my ideal weight is 220lbs and when I mention that to my nutritionists their response is something like, oh don’t sell yourself short! You can lose more weight than that! But I don’t want to. That’s how I want to look. My body type, especially because I’m actually very bony with big hipbones, looks best with some softness in my opinion, and I think my opinion matters a lot in this case. I’m going to switch over to intuitive eating, which I’ve already been doing on some level but I could definitely use some guidance. One thing I’ve found very useful is (on top of trying to identify what I’m actually wanting) I only eat until I’m almost satisfied, then sit with that for 15-20 min, and then have a few more bites if I am still hungry. This has reduced the amount of food I end up eating at a meal by probably 40%, which is huge. Before this, I’d eat until I felt completely satisfied and then end up realizing that I ate too much once my satiation hormones caught up with the amount of calories I ate. I do end up eating a bit more frequently because my meals don’t keep me full as long, but I am still eating less overall and have more consistent energy. These are things I had to introduce to the conversation and luckily my nutritionist is on board with it, but she still wants me to switch over to eating sadness instead of the delicious foods I enjoy.

I think you can measure fatphobia and similar issues by looking at how people treat 'outsiders'. I've seen cruel comments about men and republicans. I understand anger, frustration and disgust about political and social issues, especially this year and I feel the same way, but I don't understand making fun of or insulting these people while claiming inclusion. You can't go around calling people fat, too short, ugly, making fun of their teeth, bald head, quirky personality or physicality and call yourself a intersectional feminist. Might still need to work on your biases, even if it only targets your 'enemies'.

Susan Powter was spreading this message years ago and it's a good one. Only when I "let go" and just stopped worrying about it did I lose my food issues and become happy.

Thank you so much for this episode. Many LGBTQ individuals have grown up with very little real-life representations. Most representations come from the media, which is known for homogeneous & unrealistic beauty standards. Not to mention the popular 'melancholic skinny youth' trope prevalent in LGBTQ media. When this is the main source of representation we grow up with, we feel so much more pressure to succumb to these standards.

Well this is exactly what I needed! Saving it for when I’m more awake and can focus. Thank youuuuuuu

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I think there's a tension since you can develop language to include people in on our jokes. This happenes across cultures as well in my experience. It can depend on the "history" and it's frequently awkward; we can practice where we want to connect. As you know who notes... 😉 stay Awkward Brave & Kind

amazing and important episode. As an older person, I can tell you beyond a doubt that there is a bit of a generational disconnect when it comes to people in their 50's into their 90's. We are used to speaking our minds and being deeply connected to our pasts, being curious and asking questions so we can learn, etc. for example, I remember very fondly listening to Bill Cosby, Cheech & Chong, George Carlin, Steve Martin, Eddie Murphy and Sam Kinison in the 70s and 80s. Alot if not most of their jokes couldn't be said today, but 50 years ago, they were very funny. For a loving parent, watching your kids grow and become their own happy person, but we also will have fond memories of our children. I completely understand and empathize with both sides of the conversation. I guess my point is that I hope everyone can just have patience with family and friends, as lon as the respect and love is there.

Amazing as always you keep getting better mal love it appreciate you and this podcast ❤🏳️‍🌈👏 thank you

I AM A FAN OF THIS.

Oh wow, this episode really hit home for me. When i was graped, i didn't even think it was a possibility. I was very out about my Sexuality and this boy was my childhood best friend. He was very openly excepting of my identity. I never worried about staying over at this house. I had countless times but without even knowing it. I was put in a situation where i couldnt escape since i was basically locked in his house, i couldnt tell anyone since we both shared the same social circle [small mountain town] and without knowing it my mindset of "I'm a lesbian and he is just a friend, he would never do that. He hasnt ever done that." Put me in a situation where i couldn't escape. It's scary , thinking that being straight in some way could have helped. Of course, in reality, this happens to straight girls all the time because it is the people you dont expect. But my identity gave me this false sense of protection from the female experience.

7:20 OH MY GOD SAME (kinda) !! when I was on the way to being really ill had I continued the way I was.. and then I found out I have an ovarian cyst that then grew tremendously and had to have surgery and sht.. so yeah that pulled me out of a dark dark place...

“I don’t have a why… I have a who.” As a high school teacher, THIS is the only way to advocate for our youth. So much love for this young lady!!!

this has been on of my fav episodes so far!

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Resume @21:00

apologized yet?

Very intelligent girl. I am glad the drugs did not affect her brain.

Wow! This is spot on.

I like your list! Definitely agree Aneesah Morrow at LSU is very impactful and Lauren Betts on UCLA. I don’t know if Fulwiley is starting at South Carolina but she will be it’s only a matter of time! All incredible athletes in their own right! Thanks for your content

very insightful, thank you very much!

Amazing episode!

Crossdreser 98.5 % straight this is because I'm not in prison or drunk. And that's the differance between straight men and cis mem. And I'm a big fan of both of you. Love that your talking and explaining how you both interacted with genders and sexes. Keep it up Please.PS I now want my kids there 35 22 and 18 call me mummy daddy so cool

Baby, are German ? You continuously used “ya” as afirmación answer . You are very pretty!

UGH such a GREAT episode!!! I wish I could have listened to this when I first came out. Can totally relate to the femme invisibility struggleeeeeee

Respect !🫡🫡🫡...your podcast is an addiction!

This episode is posted on my birthday 🥳 Definitely, a birthday gift 😂😂😂 Was an exciting listen 🥰

Such a great ep! Deja is so good ad I love that you can always make your guests comfortable enough to open up. 🙏🙏🙏

Hang on, America! This brilliant young woman NEEDS to be our future.

what an articulate, committed and engaged woman. I'm sure she's provided a lot of support to fellow women