Bride Wants Bridesmaids To Wear Dresses With Different Necklines | Say Yes To The Dress Bridesmaids

Bride Lindsey has a vision in which every one of her bridesmaids is wearing a dress with a different neckline. But her mother/best friend thinks that looks horrible.
From season 3 episode 15.
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[@vrsalcedo7245]

Having bridesmaids wear different dresses in the same color is a wonderful way to respect each person's body type - and everyone feels happy and comfortable - what's not to like?

[@katiegrace1027]

This episode is clearly at LEAST 10 years old. What you are doing is fairly standard now. I did different dresses in the same color and fabric (chiffon) and it looked very cohesive and everyone looked beautiful.

[@charafisher6929]

Right. I also did different necklines so my friends had a dress they all loved in my wedding 4 years ago. My best friend did that in her wedding 17 years ago. We were classy and it looked good. I’m surprised this is even an issue. Lol

[@M1985-]

Do you comment the same always? I’ve seen this exact comment on another video.😅

[@BasedSockHead007]

That’s the one thing I’m letting my bridesmaids chose because I’m particular about everything else (chiffon, long, no strapless, my color scheme) but I have a couple of friends who are body conscious and I want them comfortable as possible and having them be part of my day means a lot!

[@littlered2244]

Honey no If I'm getting married every one of my bridesmaids will wear the same dress my wedding I could do what the fuck I want it's more bout supporting ur friend that's the bride to celebrate her day her happiness don't urs duh

[@vanillathunder11559]

I went to a friends wedding and she had 4 bridesmaids and every dress was a different style, but the were all navy blue and sunflowers. They all looked amazing. Theres nothing wrong with mismatched.

[@dl144lynch4]

Exactly! I had 5 bridesmaids and they all got to choose their dress as long as they were long and in the color Celadon! It was beautiful and I received many compliments on it! It comes out waaaay better if they all are comfortable in their dress and that it suits their body types better!

[@vanillathunder11559]

@@dl144lynch4 yeah! I had 3 bridesmaids, all in long sleeve velvet, but different colors. Fall themed, it was so pretty!

[@TheLovelyMissBeans]

Agreed! It is nearly impossible find one dress style that is going to flatter the figures of several different ladies at the same time, not to mention honor any of their personal religious or cultural customs of modesty. But, if you choose a color, a particular type.of fabric, and the length of the dress, and allow each lady to choose a silhouette and neckline that best suits her, everyone will look lovely and cohesive.

[@marwahaggar8207]

I soooo agree when i was younger my class teacher got married and she showed us her wedding pictures. And the bridesmaids dresses where absolutely amazing even though they were different styles the colours matched and that was amazing

[@sheseesfortress1719]

Nice ❤️ I like that idea

[@WiccanRai]

The second bride with 6 bridesmaids all in black with different styles proved the first bride's point that different necklines/styles can work. What you need is the same fabric and colour.

[@jeanettemclaughlin4296]

I agree. The length and dye lot should be the same. It is great that the styles are different. It's more complimentary to each body type.

[@evaveronica5222]

The colour helped a lot, too. I think it needs to be a classic one to make this match in different style.

[@orangeblossoms88]

Definitely. I think the fact that they all had similar length as well really helped tie it in together. I would have liked it less if the dresses didnt have similar bottoms.

[@aidagarcia8296]

I agree. At the wedding of my friends son the bridesmaids wore champagne colored dresses with the same basic shape but different necklines. They looked cohesive but each had a dress that flatterd her shape

[@katwil89]

This is the first time I have disagreed with Lori. I don't think the mom and daughter need to compromise - the mom should back off and let the bride have her way. If mom's opinion is asked for, then she should gently give it, and then shut up. And I say this as a mom with daughters.

[@stargazer0480]

It's not up to mum at all, and Lori who is always for the bride, should absolutely not be talking compromise. It's about the bride and the girls wearing it.

[@justvibin7883]

The mom probably didn’t want her daughter to make a mistake

[@mykaburage5778]

If the bride really cares about mom's opinion then YES there must be a compromise

[@camallamadingdong69]

I agree. If I were a mom, I'd feel happy my daughter wanted me to be a part of it at all. The mom got to choose what she wanted for her wedding, and now it's time to feel happy for her daughter at her wedding. And who's looking that close anyway? It's not a pageant with judges😭

[@DonyaSaffold]

Yes, mom chose her bridesmaids’ dresses. Did you see them? 😳🤦🏽‍♀️ They weren’t that flattering. Let your daughter choose what she wants.

[@brandoniswhoiam]

Different necklines in the same colour are perfectly fine to me.

[@seriliaykilel]

I’d add same fabric

[@kitkat2423]

The necklines being different isn’t a issue it’s more that they even in the same color they can look weird if it’s different fabric and from different designers instead of them looking like bridesmaids they look like people who just showed up with a color code

[@kiarimarie]

It just has to have some cohesion. Same color, fabric, designer. Then you vary the neckline.

[@usmaanasir220]

It helps if it's the same fabric, colour and length

[@lisamarieashby2523]

There is a difference between "mismatched" and "not identical". Just because styles are different does not mean "mismatched". Mismatched means different colors of fabric that clash with each other.

[@gracio1231]

Thank you for that huh why’d I not think about like that :)

[@clalyrics441]

If the dresses are all the same colour, I don't see why different styled tops would be a problem

[@melissashilkoff]

And if they're the same fabric and designer too

[@ginger1549]

I like the idea of different styles because every bridesmaid has different figure challenges and so each can wear what compliments them.As long as the fabric is the same and the color. I've been in weddings where I had to wear something that didn't look good on me at all.

[@taunks287]

I'm getting married soon and the ladies are picking whatever they want in the same color. None of their body types are the same. I even have 1 girl that wanted a short dress and the others are floor length. Will totally not distract from my dress!

[@ingridpear1882]

What if it's the color and not the style that doesn't feel comfortable on you/bridesmaid? Are you the type of person who would rather pay for something affordable/have the best deal 'material' wise,be able to resell,remake/repurpose/recycle,donate(singularly or together with other bridesmaids as a set so future party's have affordable matching color items). Or really actually try for something you want to keep/wear again?

[@user-gv5hm8po6b]

well the wedding isn't about you, so you shouldn't worry so much about looking good in the first place

[@jaycookie2912]

@@user-gv5hm8po6b disagree, I wouldn't want my bridesmaids to look frumpy right next to me. I love them, and if I put so much effort into my venue lookin good, why should the people standing who supported me fall short! Let's get it straight, I'm the bride in white with the perfect dress, hair, makeup and jewelery at the alter I'll make sure that nobody can compete with me, you just worry about keeping up!

[@user-gv5hm8po6b]

@@jaycookie2912 no that’s not what i’m saying. it’s just that the bridesmaids shouldn’t be obsessed over looking good when it’s not their day.

[@suedoyle4526]

I love how the 2nd bride let all her bridesmaids choose their own style dresses in the same colour without seeing what they picked. They all looked really happy, comfortable and gorgeous on the day 🥰 The bride looked beautiful too ❤️

[@ashyyyy09]

i like how opinionated the mom is about these dresses, yet her bridesmaid dresses looked like bubblegum nightgowns. 1:14

[@addyshorhnr3544]

Honestly I thought it was weird nun wear.

[@thecatfromoregon]

​@@oil_painted_dessertBut it was possible to find dresses in the 80s that were on trend for the time, but were still beautiful. There were so many better options in the 80s than what Mom picked.

[@mariesmith1616]

It was different fashion style.

[@huson-7wk]

YAH ---- the black dresses looked fantastic together and in no way took the focus off the bride, while allowing the bridesmaids feel comfortable. Good choices!!!!

[@michelleprimeaux1229]

I completely agree!

[@greenhillangel5971]

It helped they were all like flowy at the bottom

[@jaycookie2912]

"We want all eyes on you!" I don't see how having bridesmaids who's only distinguishing factor in attire is wether they have a empire or sweetheart neckline for example will threaten the bride in any way, shape or form. I for one want my bridesmaids to not look plain or uncomfortable!

[@fellowhuman7085]

Bruhhhh she called her mom "Karen." I wouldn't be here anymore if I said that to my mom. ☠

[@squishyshelli]

Her mom's name is actually Karen 😂 I think the point in this particular situation was that she called her by her name and not "mom", but it totally works both ways 🤣

[@L.Spencer]

yeah, this was before 2013, there was no such thing as a "Karen"

[@justjaein]

ain’t no way ur serious… this has to be a joke right?

[@jessibella94]

This episode aired in 2012....

[@alyssastern6073]

Even though her mom's name is Karen, the whole thing just aged like fine wine.

[@melodied4314]

The second bride had black dresses with different necklines for her bridesmaids and they looked very nice.

[@emthesillygoose1454]

Im a big fan of the convertible strap dresses, gives you the option to let your maids be a little individual while all still looking cohesive!

[@yvonnehicks9223]

Take your BFF with you to pick out your dresses and leave everyone else at home. It's your wedding, not theirs.

[@poponachtschnecke]

It looks like her mom hired the church choir to be her bridesmaids 🤣

[@JodiLeaSnakeQueen]

😂 probably did

[@Princess_Sani]

I love Brandon "it's like your friend and your mother so a frother i never heard of a frother that's cuz they shouldn't exist " 🤣

[@kristenstacey5347]

This didn't age well because a lot of people are changing up types and even colors for brides maids. Having all matching makes it look old.

[@megpan8272]

It's been out for 7 hours (on KZbin)and is already aging bad😂

[@L.Spencer]

wedding was in 2013

[@sngray11]

Two weddings that I was a bridesmaid in, the bride chose a dress that the top part could be tied and worn twenty different ways. So while the dress was the same color, material, etc. each bridesmaid could wear the dress in a way that made her comfortable and flattered each bridesmaid’s body type. I actually love the dresses that she chose. 💗

[@nehamaw]

Nothing wrong with mismatched if its the same colour. Many weddings now just ask the 'bridesmaids' and family to have a colour theme and that's it. It means everyone has a style that suits them.

[@shanamarie2183]

I did all different dresses in all different pastels and it didn’t disrupt the photos or the “all eyes on me” at all.

[@squishyshelli]

"Lindsey's mom obviously took a shot of Hater-ade" 🤣😂🤣

[@juliekane1156]

Back in the day (1969), I had an evening wedding with three attendants. They each wore the same velvet skirt and satin sash but in three jewel tones - sapphire, ruby and emerald - and they each chose a white, long sleeved blouse. The three girls had very different coloring - one dark hair and blue eyes, one Japanese, one a strawberry blonde - and in the candlelight, they were all beautiful, each different but all somehow matching. And they could wear the skirts again.

[@justcogitating]

"Lindsey's mom obviously took a shot of haterade today" 🤣

[@csandford6011]

Lori pulled it all together for the girl with a different necklines you go girl

[@katwil89]

Lori always saves the day.

[@jujustalling6318]

Yes Lori always saves the day I love her

[@nicolefox777]

A shot of hater-ade 😂 And I love when the bridesmaids have same color, but different style dresses!!

[@wompwompville]

The amount of blondes here is amazing

[@ang5798]

They ARE related after all..

[@wompwompville]

@@ang5798 ok

[@sbkhider]

My best friend chose a color and each of her bridesmaids got to pick the top they liked but all had the same skirt (they were 2 piece dresses). For me, the maid of honor, she chose a skirt with a bit of a train. We got nothing but compliments because each girl had a top that best fit her figure and we all looked great. The bride was definitely the main attraction. Just because we had slightly different styles we all had the same color and since we picked out our own style we had no reason to complain, not that we would have.

[@realbutstillanonym3532]

In my country we don’t have bridesmaids. I imagine this to be a challenge in a group of girlfriends to pick one maid of honor? Don’t the rest feel like 2nd class friends? I am just curious about this tradition.

[@truthseeker9249]

@@realbutstillanonym3532 yeah a lot of times the other bridesmaids do feel like 2nd class friends. But I like to think that if there is respect and communication among everyone hopefully there will be no drama.

[@sbkhider]

@@realbutstillanonym3532 usually the Maid of Honor (or Matron of Honor if they are married) is a very close sister but usually your very closest friend. Very rarely does it cause conflict between the ladies because everyone usually knows who your best friend is. That friend that not only is there during the great times but would be there during your lowest lows. Hope that helps!

[@realbutstillanonym3532]

@@sbkhider thanks for taking the time to explain 👍🏼

[@CK....]

@@realbutstillanonym3532 Sometimes people have 2 maids of honor if they can't pick or have lots of friends. But the maid of honor usually coordinates and is in charge of planning the bachelorette party and is more involved with helping with wedding plans. She usually gives a speech/toast at the wedding reception too. (Bridesmaids it is optional). She has a lot more responsibility than the other girls. Not all the bridesmaids can or want as much responsibility. And if you have a lot of friends it can be hard for everyone to agree. I think it makes things easier when 1 or 2 girls are more in charge (under the bride of course). Even if people might be jealous. Although for me it was easy to choose. I don't have any sisters, and few friends. So my best friend that I talk to often is my maid of honor.

[@ndisfoshiz]

Funny how it’s actually more common now for bridesmaids to wear dresses with different necklines. However they normally are the same fabric and length too. Thank you Azazie!

[@alissaritter6259]

It's all about the bride, she doesn't have to compromise with her mom if she doesn't want to. It's her wedding.

[@mommab1969]

29 years ago when we were married, I had the girls wear different dresses in same fabric. Married at 6 pm, during a candle lit ceremony, they wore black velvet and we're beautiful and timeless and classic,even to this day.

[@whitneybonslett8573]

I had each of my bridesmaids choose their own dress that they felt comfortable in because they were buying them! I had one girl in a high neckline, one in a sweetheart, and one with a one shoulder and all the girls had the same color dress that was floor length and they all had a slit in the leg! It was gorgeous and looked so perfect next to each other on my wedding day! And the best part is that every girl (even my very pregnant sister, felt beautiful in their dress! I don’t understand why they are hating so much! No one even batted an eye at my wedding!

[@amieeyre1576]

I think it’s amazing having different friends in the exact same colour that way the bridesmaids feel confident in their body but also match so ppl know they are the bridesmaids

[@Rite1010.]

To be honest, when you give a set color and length, they generally look uniform enough to look good in pics. Also, they're more likely to be worn again if they pick individual dresses.

[@YAFAVEBESTIEE]

At the start I was already laughing Ok KaReN-

[@alisonfraser8231]

Different cuts/necklines is not exactly controversial. Of course you want them from a collection, ideally, and the same colour.

[@pazza4555]

Lots of brides just tell bridesmaids to go find a blue dress. Some give fabric preferences

[@schreingeiss]

This is the first time I can remember I've liked dresses on bridesmaids. That first round of A-line dresses were pretty.

[@TiBunCosplay]

I'm doing a mixed-matched theme for my bridal party. I'm letting them choose their own dresses so long as they stick to the guidelines I set for them (length, color, and material) It makes it so each person is comfortable, likes the dress they wear, and can set their own budget. Plus one of my bridal party is a guy and he wouldn't be matching the girls anyway, seeing as he won't be in a dress.

[@BasicYTHandle]

At my brother's wedding, the bride chose matching gowns for all - suited 2 tall, slender bride's friend & sister, but looked terrible on my sister & me (short & not slender). At my sister's wedding, her only instruction was "pastel" (we all wore short dresses that we already had or chose to buy).

[@sarasthoughts]

Length is a huge issue too, tho. I look HORRIBLE in dresses that aren't super long or short. Any mid-size gown makes me look like a hobbit because I'm short with big calves, it erases my curves. Length is a huge factor for different body types.

[@AadenKDragon]

I mean he could as long as he stuck to the guidelines 😂

[@evelyncolon5497]

@@sarasthoughts Most brides will choose floor length gowns as a guideline when they allow the bridesmaids to wear different styles or even different colors because it still provides that cohesion. I don’t really see brides choosing to mismatch a short or mid length dress unless they had the bridesmaids wear different colors in the same exact style. Otherwise there would be no way to guarantee any sort of cohesion.

[@pizza_dr.pepper06]

I don’t see anything wrong with different necklines. My aunt had it at her wedding and it looked awesome! Same color different necklines incredible!

[@level2etmpractical665]

5:29 lol the way their heads moved in sync

[@fellowhuman7085]

They're all named Ashley 😂

[@nenesspirtualgirlbest9562]

Reminds me of the Tv show Recess, there were 5 Ashleys 🤣🤣🤣

[@AlizMari23]

The fact that the narrator said "frother Karen" 😂 😂 😂

[@TessaDShort]

I went to a wedding where all the bridesmaids had 2 piece dresses. Same full skirt, but different style for each. Made for a beautiful wedding party.

[@beeonce6871]

I've been on two weddings where we, the bridemaids wore different styles in same color. The brides only saw our dresses on their big day and they were happy about it

[@nessquik14]

Every wedding I've been to had bridesmaids in the same color but different style. I think it looks great.

[@Spearb0811]

«Sorry bout that Karen» lmaooooo

[@velvetbloom6366]

Title could have been "Bride calls mom a Karen"

[@meredithcarroll6209]

The key really was in putting them in dresses from the same designer. It can be very difficult to picture different dresses working together if you're imaging there's going to be absolutely nothing cohesive about them, but same designer, same color, same fabric, different neckline really does work very well.

[@pennwoman]

I had my bridesmaids choose their dresses. They had to be long & the same color. They looked amazing!

[@Ash-ec1ke]

My mom didn’t care from day one on what style my girls wear for my wedding, as long they are the same color, I rather have my girls comfortable then not

[@Corapaslemagasin]

My cousin did the same for her wedding. We were 7 bridesmaids and it was a perfect idea. We all have the same navy blue but I have a big complex about my legs so I could choose a long dress and be confortable (I like my chest so I also had a big low-cut to balance 😅). Same with her sister who has very big breasts and so she asked for a boat neck and a short dress because she has really beautiful legs and she feels good to show them. So it was clearly a very good idea. Because we were all very comfortable and confident, so pictures during the day were amazing. No stress, no low self-confidence, nothing to worry about our physique for us and also for the bride. We were all very happy!

[@seraphineclouser762]

my mom was getting married and we all wore dresses with a different neckline but the same color. it was stunning (.)

[@andyfranklin4633]

For my brother's wedding all of us bridesmaids had same color dresses, but the dresses themselves weren't the same looking, but we all looked wonderful

[@lahorifoundation7212]

"my mom doesnt like it when i call her Karen" hahahah i had to rewind to check if her name was actually karen considering the age of this episode. this aged so well

[@ljeffcoat8414]

The purple against the black dresses.. .stunning!!!!

[@Jay-gurl]

I was actually just in a wedding party where we all wore the same color dress, all long, but with different tops/sleeves. They all looked great together

[@pennylehrer1306]

So sick of Mom's overpowering their daughters.

[@evez5104]

She was ahead of her time

[@snakebitepellehue]

I actually love this idea. We don't do the whole bridesmaids/groomsmen thing in my country, but if I had them this sounds like something I would do.

[@EquiEsti6194]

I DIED when she called her mom Karen. My mom and I are more friends than anything as well since I grew up with my grandma. So it’s cool to see

[@csandford6011]

The girls with the black and the purple flowers it was beautiful

[@sn.m]

We have weddings where no one tells anyone what to wear. The relatives and friends dress in their best clothes and everyone feels wonderful. No bride feels threatened of losing the limelight. And the crowd looks vibrant and wonderful in different shades, colours, and fabric.

[@amandalupacchino6728]

I mean I like the idea of different styles, but I still want them to compliment each other in some way. But it’s her wedding lol

[@L.Spencer]

Can't find their social media but her father passed away in 2018 and there are some nice wedding pictures of the bride and her father in his online obituary.

[@KariahJ]

but is anyone gonna talk about the fact that she straight up calls her mom by her name? she even said that they have a relationship more as friends than mother and daughter. does anyone else find that strange? like she knows her mother doesnt like that, but she still says it? it just seems disrespectful to me. i definitely agree with brandon when he said a frother shouldnt exist! 😂😂

[@treehouse2902]

Mothers should say " I LOVE" to every dress.

[@paulinasantiago3965]

She was definitely ahead of her time… working in bridal 99% of our brides are doing exactly what she originally planned to do. Same color different necklines (in the same material though)

[@soimsha.]

For Alice, the bridesmaids should’ve sent her a pic of them in the dress they liked best so she could have the final approval. That way they for sure go together

[@samanthaabreu782]

I just think they should remember one thing "They are your pictures girl, you are the one who is going to live with them".

[@pazza4555]

Though anything "in" today will look dated no matter what.

[@sofiamorgan3756]

The fact her name is Karen says a lot about her 😂

[@renownedbandanawearer1345]

No it doesn’t? I feel kind of bad for Karens honestly. The Karens I know in real life are very opposite to the stereotype.

[@nillaskat1]

Think this title totally fits this mom

[@murchie4]

as long as they are the same material and the same color, then the necklines should not matter, its what im doing for my wedding and my girls are all the more thankful for it. they all have different body type so it made way more sense for them to pick their own necklines for dresses

[@beccasmithers2672]

I think sometimes the mom forgets its her daughters wedding not hers

[@julesj5853]

I think its funny that one other bride wanted their bridesmaids be in different dresses and they were like, "oh no honey" but this bride they are all about it?! 😆

[@csandford6011]

I think the black dresses were very classy on the Bridesmaids

[@larissagibbs4837]

Haterade, 🤣🤣🤣 love it.

[@rebeccagibby6019]

“She obviously took a shot of haterade this morning” I’m livinggg😂☠️

[@ShellyK1369]

I irony of the mom being named KAREN!!! 😂

[@SomeoneHuman]

I prefer when all the dresses aren't exactly the same. It's better when they look good together, are pretty similar, and suit the bridesmaids both their personality and their body!

[@nenesspirtualgirlbest9562]

Im surprised the bride called her mom by her real name, thats just disrespectful....and I'm 30 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@jokl89]

I’ve always called my parents by their nicknames. No big deal.

[@arrow_of_ravenclaw5155]

I don’t see what’s wrong with different dresses in like the same color. My cousin did that for her wedding and it looked great. It’s a great idea especially if your bridesmaids have varying body types

[@mr.rightnow.7300]

I love the black and purple wedding. Very chic.

[@HighlandViolinist]

Every wedding photo I've seen from the past few years there are bridesmaids in different dresses and in the same colour.

[@llc1976]

The different dresses in black was gorgeous!

[@Timbergal]

The red long dress on the mannequin is GORGEOUS!

[@lovelivi1591]

I had all my girls pick their own dress just in the same color.. looked great and everyone was happy.

[@NitePixieDust]

Welcome back to it's not your wedding 🤦‍♀️

[@Idk98567]

The mum doesn’t need to be pleased at all, she needs to learn that it’s her daughters decision and not hers. She had her wedding, now it’s the daughters turn

[@heidikickhouse-]

WHAT?! This mother is "incredibly proud of my daughter" (with TEARS no less!) - for being decisive enough to select bridesmaid dresses?! Honey, talk about your privileged life! The future is going to hold some actual curve balls and heartbreaks, buckle up.

[@SamuelSantos-su1jo]

Me at the beginning: Aw the moms nice she doesn’t seem like a Karen Two seconds later: ummm nvm

[@melissarajacobs6182]

Brandon comment on frother that shouldn’t exist is spot on and he is hilarious.🤣

[@collie4155]

I love the two different blue dresses next to each other. What an amazing idea

[@pamtorres1574]

At least the black dresses were cohesive by all being the same color and shade, as well as being all long with a formal appearance. That could've gone so wrong. Glad it worked out well for the bride.

[@jemimaluv4293]

The mom is an icon I love her😂

[@alessiacostantini2440]

Man I love that the bridesmaids dresses are all the same colour but different styles. The ones who do same dress for everyone doesn't always look good and the bridesmaids feel really uncomfortable!

[@kaylynne3748]

Same color, same material, but different styles I think looks nice. Mixing materials does make it look strange

[@arcticelixir]

if i called my mom by her name you better count ur stars i'm alive

[@Beaniie17]

0:30 I feel so bad for laughing bc her moms name is Karen-

[@eriicamcmanus]

Having bridesmaids and making them wear the same dress (or anything they didnt pick for themselves) is soooo mean and painful for everyone ...

[@BasedSockHead007]

When Lindsey said “sorry about that Karen” and the fact that her names actually Karen ☠️