Bridesmaid ONLY Has A $20 Budget For Her Dress | Say Yes To The Dress: Bridesmaids

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[@maxerica69]

you mean ya'll couldnt have taken this POOR mother of 4 to a sears/macys/dillards/etc or even a thrift store to find a SIMILAR (darkly colored) ruffled dress that would have probly been half the price? Maybe grab her something from your clearance rack that is close to theme? Shif... idgaf if she was my best friend i would refuse to be a brides maid and just be a normal guest rather than pay $200 for a dress. I wouldnt pay $200 for a wedding dress. I would just wear a basic dress

[@pbayer773]

My twin sis and I were bridesmaids for a school friend. The bride picked pretty dress’s but had them died a dark Christmas green, since her wedding was at christmas. Then we also had to buy new shoes that were white & they also were dyed green. So two dresses and 2 pair of shoes that were expensive. The bride gave us white pearls to wear too. My parents never said a word and paid a lot of money and we never wore the dresses or shoes ever again. Worst colors imaginable!! My wedding, we went to JC Penney and bought very simple cotton dresses in a pretty spring color, light peach. They were cheap and the girls could wear the dresses after the wedding was over. I would never ask people to pay a lot for someone else’s wedding. Weddings are so expensive now it’s become a competition to see whose wedding is the biggest and best. This was in 1970 so things were not like today. Weddings have become a clown show to me!!!

[@naomiemoore5725]

​@maxerica69 I am almost all with you. Love second hand, clearance rack Items. Some great finds if one is patient. I paid $500 for mine and made my own veil. Went after work to a local Beverly Hills shop that sells ready to wear dresses. I purchased the first dress that fit with no alterations. I can sew, but I didn't have time to do a proper job. My matron of honor wanted to go dress shopping but she and my Mom, it would have been a disaster and I was juggling too many projects. Nothing I would have chosen, and hated the but made mom happy.

[@kiarimarie]

I don't know why these conversations don't happen before you agree to be a bridesmaids.

[@dustercat21]

I think its because its understood that a bridesmaid at least pays for their own lodging, travel, dress, shoes for the wedding. However, I think what needs to be normalized is not feeling guilty for declining to be a bridesmaid if budget might be a problem. You wanna do this for your friend or family member and you feel honored they selected you to be in their bridal party. Theres a guilt that goes along with feeling like you HAVE to accept or that you cant discuss your budget.

[@kiarimarie]

Right, and if that's the cause, you need to be honest with the bride off the bat if money is tight. I didn't have a bridal party for my wedding and no regrets. I also really don't mind that I've never been a bridesmaid.

[@dustercat21]

@@kiarimarie Personally, I dont think I'm going to have a bridal party either if I ever get married. I have a few reasons for that, this being one of the issues. Its gonna cost some of my friends enough already just to travel to my area for the wedding considering some of them are halfway across the US from me. I most certainly dont want to put extra pressure on them to buy a whole bridesmaid dress too when I'm sure they have appreciate attire already for a wedding. The other reason is family related which is a completely different story lol

[@malamaurer4043]

Exactly...start at TJ Maxx and Marshalls or similar and work around the base price. 😐

[@tinkeramma]

​@malamaurer4043 My sister-in-law chose ours from Target online and they actually were $20. They had more of a t-shirt texture yet were still gorgeous in photos. Machine washable and I still wear it several times a month 10 years later. She paired our yellow dresses with blue cardigans. We all looked gorgeous, even accounting for the variety of sizes and shapes. The parents of the bride and groom covered the cost for the bridesmaid dresses and groomsmen suits. It makes even more sense knowing almost everyone in the bridal party was a sibling to either the bride or groom.

[@the.magic.catbus9459]

I was a bridesmaid and my friend gave us a website with dresses under $100. She told us the fabric, color, and length and we were able to get a dress we could afford. We also had about 2 yrs to save up.

[@420bluntly_]

What’s the website?

[@val-qt8bq]

i would also like to know the website

[@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj]

My former friend bought me and her other 3 bride maids a dress for only $55 each. She was lucky to get it at wholesale price. She bought her cake cutting gown at the same place for $200.

[@the.magic.catbus9459]

Azazie. I corrected my original post. They are not all under $100 but they have dresses under $100@@420bluntly_

[@the.magic.catbus9459]

@@val-qt8bq It's called Azazie. I corrected my original post. They are not all under $100 but they have dresses under $100

[@silentbliss7666]

They don't have to shop at wedding dress boutiques. For less than $100, there are beautiful cocktail dresses which bridesmaids could wear.

[@llamamama2910]

Yes as soon as it is labeled brisk, they Jack up the price.

[@mechloe8528]

Yeah exactly!! There are soo many other places that have nice dresses & are way cheaper

[@mistytsim]

Eshakiti has great dresses that can actually be worn again at a reasonable price.

[@fredadezwart5398]

And so it is.

[@latsnojokelee6434]

You can even find really nice dresses at Macy’s with all the coupons and discounts they have.

[@kelseymcmunn5348]

The embarrassment and shame in Krista’s eyes I felt so deeply. It’s really hard to want to be there for your friend and have everyone gang up against you when you can’t do what everyone else can. And frankly the bride as her friend had to know her situation beforehand.

[@janetrouse5917]

But then why did Krista agree to be a brides maid? She should have known she was going to have to shell out some money.

[@livingoutloudwithDrMimiCheri]

This had me crying! I could feel her pain! I pray she is in a better financial situation to not only afford the things she and her family need, but to also to not be deprived of participating in pleasurable activities due financial strain! ❤🙏🏾🤗

[@jirou6228]

@@janetrouse5917 but she doesn't want to pay that much for a dress she doesn't like and don't wear

[@caripeck21]

@@jirou6228 There are realistic expectations and then allowing pride to get in the way. If she could not afford a dress over $100 you say that BEFORE you go dress shopping. Period. I have very rarely met a bridesmaid that ever wants to spend money on a dress they won't wear again, but that is generally what happens as a bridesmaid no matter if someone says otherwise. Krista, who was childhood friends of the bride, is very comfortable speaking up for herself about her likes but couldn't have a private conversation about her personal budget to begin with? The makes Krista in the wrong, no one else.

[@LanaRioss]

Yes and no. Finances can be embarrassing. There's no way she didn't know how low her budget was. She could've and probably should've said no.

[@yuh4979]

6:28 "she does have four kids" ohmygod then stop forcing her to get a dress she clearly cant afford...

[@gailjohnston9253]

She shouldn't have agreed to be a part of it.

[@baskervillebee6097]

She should have spoken to the bride privately before and dropped out.

[@kathymyers7279]

She SHOULD HAVE SAID “I’m sorry I’d like you to be a bridesmaid BUT I CANT financially, so NO THANKYOU. “ beforehand!

[@janehasson6650]

If she couldn’t afford it, she should have told the bride beforehand.

[@baskervillebee6097]

@@janehasson6650 This could have been settled privately instead of on tv for the world to see.

[@krisclayfree]

My jaw dropped at the cost of those dresses. I didn’t expect them to be over $150.

[@krisclayfree]

I’m also shocked that her budget wasn’t discussed beforehand. Poor girl was embarrassed and now the bride is an a-hole if she only pays for one dress and not all of them 😬

[@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj]

I agree and my former friend bought me one for $55 bucks and it was way prettier than these dresses.

[@wonderwoman1700]

Period. Horrendous

[@djjones7039]

@@krisclayfreeno no she’s not an ahole only paying for that 1 when the others clearly stated their way bigger budgets earlier

[@aliciatrotter8089]

This is an expensive bridal shop so of course the dresses would be on the pricier end.

[@YarnCrafts4lefties]

The price for bridesmaid's dresses are ridiculous ESPECIALLY when they are ugly as hell! Also, don't just assume people can pay those prices.

[@ChristaLina1]

None of those dresses were pretty

[@baileybell9849]

Finally I was looking for a comment that agreed the dresses were not it especially for that price

[@juliearmfield2634]

I thought it was total BS how they tried to guilt and shame her into buying that dress and just to have her have to fill humiliated for not being able to afford the dress

[@annaneu9954]

Actually I liked Kristinas pick most.

[@iHeartAmySue]

They could’ve found better dresses at Burlington Coat Factory for $25 bucks! 😂

[@iHeartAmySue]

I feel bad for the girl that isn’t as wealthy. “It’s a gift to the bride” isn’t as easy as all that when it would take a YEAR to save that amount. Some people do not understand.

[@fdm2155]

Krista and bride should have had that talk upfront. Why wait until you're at the appointment?

[@Pidatha]

Then she shouldn't have agreed to being a Bridesmaid. Just be honest and tell her you can't afford it

[@iHeartAmySue]

@@Pidatha even you can understand that unexpected emergencies like car problems or house issues can drain your savings account overnight right?

[@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj]

@@Pidatha I agree and if I can’t afford it then I wouldn’t be a bridesmaid.

[@R4YLYNN]

she shouldnt have went to an expensive place lol there are godwills everywhere

[@Anna-ik8nn]

No way they seriously villainized a poor woman for not being able to shell out 220$ on a dress she doesn't like that she won't wear ever again. This is robbery

[@nanaberry4120]

She should have told the bride she couldn’t afford to buy a dress to be in the wedding. She has 4 children, sometimes when we have children, we can’t do everything we could do before our children. She could have handled the guest book, or helped sere at the reception.

[@jessicaspecht]

@@nanaberry4120 Being in the wedding has nothing to do with being able to afford a $220 dress that she will only wear once. Many bridesmaids can plan financially to be part of a wedding. That doesn't mean they should be forced to shell out a lot of money they don't have to buy a dress they will likely only wear once.

[@saraschneider6781]

They who? It was all Krista.

[@oneoptimisticstar]

​@@jessicaspecht she could have decided to be a bridesmaid, it's really that simple, the bride shouldn't have to compromise because a bridesmaids made can't afford the dress, when you agree to be a bridesmaid, you should realize that you may be spending over $500 between the dress, makeup, activities and whatnot. She should have gracefully declined her offer.

[@MaxsMom-bv6hf]

Then you do not accept the bridesmaid position.

[@cherylmccue956]

The cost of the dresses should have been discussed before shopping. Good communication is important. I understand about not being able to afford the dress.

[@moglaude]

The sale assistant saying " it comes with being a bridesmaid, you need to compromise " when talking about the price point being way too high for someone is wild 😒

[@amymoyfshgylgjkkjmmvn5517]

She meant her attitude. She had an attitude for everything

[@wetnoodles5751]

had she communicated her money problems to the bride instead of being rude and selfish during the try on maybe there would have only been a compromise on the brides end to pay for it . “ if you pay for it “ is not a way you ask someone to help you out

[@moglaude]

@@wetnoodles5751 i do agree with that, if it's the first and only time she communicated on her struggle, it's out of place. I was thinking that she made it known before.

[@colleendarley9019]

@@wetnoodles5751 "Rebecca knows my situation and she knows I don't have that kind of money in the bank." implies there was a conversation.

[@Nina01.]

It’s wrong that they’re in that store to begin with

[@brittanyjaskiewicz6354]

I got married 5 years ago. I knew what kind of color scheme I wanted. I also told all of my bridesmaids to pick something comfortable and nice looking that fit with the colors. One of my bridesmaids is a single mom and I knew that it was going to be difficult for her to purchase something. Not just for her, but her daughter was my flower girl. So I got the measurements for her daughter. I found several cute ones and had her daughter pick the one she wanted. Boom! Done! It was only $65.00. I also bought my bridesmaid her dress and shoes. I asked if anyone else needed help and they all said no. I told them all I could help if they needed it because all together with my dress and alterations, accessories, my husband's suit and shoes all came in under $1000.00. Every bride should be willing to help cover costs for their bridal party. Just sayin'.

[@erenestawanjiru1935]

Well Spoken ❤❤...U Are Sooooooooo Thoughtful

[@momonie4]

I've been married for 28 years and back in my day no bridesmaids, groomsmen, etc etc., would even think of asking the bride to help pay for their clothes WTH...I see things have changed. It's more than enough for the bride & groom to pay for the Wedding, Honeymoon, (New Home my hubby and I purchased a new home too). Then to have to worry about chipping in for the wedding party clothes too OMG!!!!!

[@iHeartAmySue]

I did the same for my bridesmaid. ❤

[@iHeartAmySue]

@@momonie4if someone you love is in your bridal party and they don’t have the money for rent let alone a $260 dress - are you going to kick them out? If you do then they are definitely better off without you. The amount of insensitivity in this comment section is astounding.

[@betrue2yourself10]

You are a good person.

[@jennessacumberbatch4048]

Made me tear up a bit. If they were her true friends they would have understood her situation and not make her feel badly .

[@ambergaffney2705]

I loved the way my friend did it. She gave us a website, color, fabric and length. Then we picked three we liked and sent them to her and she picked which ones looked best together from those. So no one knew anyone else’s budgets and most were under $150. And as low as $20 for dresses on sale.

[@realamari]

@7:38 She said the BRIDE knows her financial situation. Thats messed up. What type of friend does that???? Also, to embarrass her on national tv is sick‼️

[@biancapolk8053]

I paid for all of my bridesmaids dresses, and kept them under $100. I couldn’t imagine asking my friends to spend 100-300 dollars on a dress for one day. That just seems extravagant.

[@saraschneider6781]

It's their fault if they don't rewear it, not yours.

[@agricolaregs]

@@saraschneider6781I don’t know where this convention started but bridesmaids shouldn’t have to shell out hundreds for a dress.

[@siobhanwalker6816]

She shouldn’t have went to the store that’ll be on TV. Bc all of these dress are a lot. Shoulda went to Dave and bridal

[@ChickenPermission617]

@@siobhanwalker6816honestly when she introduced herself as someone who doesn’t like to be the center of attention, I was like then why be on TV?

[@Silver_Owl]

@@saraschneider6781 A lot of bridesmaid dresses just aren't rewearable. Not like you can easily wear a full length satin gown to Walmart.

[@thenightking7167]

I cannot believe that they all stood there while the girl in the lower socioeconomic stratum was overtly humiliated. This was such an easily dilemma to solve from the get go. There were 6 people (mother included), who all had prior knowledge of her financial situation. All they has to do, is to is divide the cost by 6, and contribute a small portion. And shame on the the sales associates for speaking ever so judgmentally.

[@donnawilson559]

And Krista should have pulled the bride over privately before the dress shopping and indicate that she could not afford to buy a dress. There could have been a conversation between them and the mother on other options before any of this occurred in public. Krista should have been more forthright about her situation to the bride beforehand.

[@thenightking7167]

@@donnawilson559, they already knew that Krista had severe budget constraints. This was addressed by one of he bridesmaids prior to Krista speaking about it on camera.

[@valrollins7148]

My daughter just paid for all the bridesmaids' dresses for my granddaughter's upcoming wedding. We never even thought twice about it. Gave the girls a budget, and what do you know they all found lovely dresses for about one-third of their budget. Shame on the bride and everyone else in the wedding party. And double shame on the salesperson.

[@kimmyt1024]

Nobody’s going to say anything about Krista referring to herself in the third person 😂

[@Scalooosh1]

I was looking for this comment

[@trinity3272]

She has 4 kids? Are they insane, why the hell are they treating her this way it’s disgusting

[@Poundtown327]

she shouldnt have had kids then if shes so broke thats on her she also should have told her before hand and they couldve picked some cheap dresses but its also the brides fault..

[@60sbaby608]

Don't say she shouldn't have had kids if she's so broke, you don't know that girls situation, that's really mean saying that. I had 3 kids and didn't plan on being single and raising them because dad didn't want to grow up and be a responsible parent.

[@ThatgirlisSpicy97]

Yall pop out kids and then say life is hard….think before you do things. If you don’t have the money say that before hand.

[@rizkyramadhan7129]

Shame on her for putting her friend in this situation on national tv

[@geneviasims7617]

The friend put herself in this position by not sayin "I cant afford to be in your wedding"

[@miryam.makkkk]

@@geneviasims7617what kind of woman are you to say something like that???

[@geneviasims7617]

@@miryam.makkkk The one who doesnt speakin up for herself.....

[@SD-hs2pk]

She put herself in that situation by not making it clear beforehand

[@melj9338]

​@@geneviasims7617be a better friend. Two way street.

[@TeresaDeM]

I feel krystas pain and I see her defensiveness in the beginning and disagreement because she was embarrassed she can’t afford it….so happy the bride was able to help ❤

[@saraschneider6781]

She was literally forced because she was humiliated on national tv.

[@bleechrcreechrr]

If you know you have money issues you shpuld discuss your budget with the bride beforehand. Or decline and ask to take on a different role like doing the invites or something

[@user-nb8tk6hh6x]

@@bleechrcreechrror the bride should pay 🤷🏽‍♀️ it’s her wedding why should anyone spend any money on an ugly dress she’ll only ever wear once?

[@bleechrcreechrr]

@@user-nb8tk6hh6x no, she shouldn't. If you don't want to spend money don't be a bridesmaid. Simple. You're not entitled to her money. Or, be honest up front and say you cant afford it. The bride may not be able to pay for everyone, but may be able to help one or two. And idk what kind of Alabama-what-in-the-South weddings you're going to, but every wedding I've been to the bridesmaids dresses were perfectly wearable again for any formal occasion. Just basic long chiffon dresses.

[@Anna-ik8nn]

@@bleechrcreechrr As a bride, I would be ashamed to ask my closest friends to shell out $200 for a dress for me, especially if I knew a few of them had money struggles. The fact that a lot of the comments are saying to kick this woman out of being a bridesmaid to not be next to one of her closest friends on her big day, just because she cannot afford to be "on theme" tells me a lot about the kind of people watching this show, not people I would want as friends.

[@seriliaykilel]

Here's the thing - if you have a close friend/family member who cannot afford the dress, you either change to a cheaper option or pay for it yourself. It is not okay to push someone to spend more than what they are comfortable -- it doesn't show their support to you to blow their budget. If it matters to you that they are in your bridal party, then either accommodate their price range or pay for it yourself. That said, you don't have a choice about what you are asked to wear. You can ask for certain accommodations for your body type and size, but if the bride decides a trashbag is the correct look, say hello to trashbag dress. Supporting the bride's vision is supporting the bride.

[@tinkeramma]

I have a personal modesty standard that is tied to my faith. It's not something I can set aside for a bridesmaids dress. A friend of mine was getting married and her bridesmaid situation was a mess. She verified with me that I wouldn't wear a strapless dress. It's not something I can compromise on, and we mutually agreed it wasn't the right fit, even though she would have asked me to be her matron of honor. I was also 6 months pregnant but carrying like I was 8-9 months pregnant because baby was so big. I don't think it would have been unreasonable to change the aesthetic; her dress certainly would look very awkward on a bridesmaid that was heavily pregnant. Still, while I did have hurt feelings, it was her call and I supported her in it. She still doesn't know it hurt. That was a gift to her because I love her and wouldn't want to add to her stress. We're still friends and that baby is old enough to drive.

[@gracielou1407]

Christa should not have agreed to be a bridesmaid because she has 4 kids, and it is understandable that she would not have the budget. Also, the dress is just the beginning: shoes, makeup, hairstyle, showers, bachelorette party, etc. Ka-ching-Ka-ching. Does she expect the bride to pay for all of this for her? It sounds to me like she wants to do all of this, cannot afford it and at the same time resents the bride for paying for it as well as being the most opinionated. IMO Christa set up the bride to pay for this and is so entitled that she thinks that is appropriate since the bride knows her financial situation. It wouldn't surprise me if she was eventually eliminated from the bridal party for her entitlement and controlling personality. In the end instead of being grateful she sounds resentful for the bride paying for the dress as well as not getting the dress she wants, whatever that is. She acts like the bride is at fault for placing her in this situation when she knew before the appointment she couldn't afford the dress.

[@Violingirl79]

@gracielou1407 Why shouldn’t the bride pay for it? I paid for my bridesmaids’ dresses. You don’t have to pay for makeup or manicures, just do that yourself. I do agree that she was rather ungrateful though.

[@NH-tb2sm]

Being a bridesmaids comes with expenses so if you can't afford to be a bridesmaid then either tell the bride you can't be a bridesmaid or explain that you can't afford it and discuss other options.

[@naomidoss1837]

​@@gracielou1407it was over dramatised for good watching

[@tsukkihernandez6496]

My thing is how come they do not discuss this BEFORE agreeing to be a bridesmaid

[@MegaFluffyBunny]

I think it's totally fair to say that you will wear whatever the bride wants if she is the one paying for it. But if I'm paying for a dress out of my own pocket, I better like how it looks on me!

[@eleanorcooke7136]

This bridesmaid obviously would struggle to pay for the dress if she's a single mother, strapped for cash. I understand the bride wanting her vision, but the bride would've known that this was an issue before they even arrived. It should've been sorted before they even looked at dresses.

[@GubbiGap]

It makes me wonder if it's because the bride went into it thinking they could all just have different dresses so the bridesmaid could pick a cheap one and then once she saw how chaotic it all was she changed her mind and wanted a specific style of dress which then meant a different price too?

[@leilanihenry8645]

If the bride knew she was already in a tight financial situation, she should’ve had a talk with her beforehand or even with the other friends asking if they could pitch in

[@saraschneider6781]

She didn't clearly. Krista was expecting a free dress.

[@edwardjones7313]

@@saraschneider6781she literally said “ ik she is having financial problems “ go watch again and this time actually listen

[@vern0018]

Somehow as friends, there would be a knowledge of the financial situation of each other but it seemed to not be the case here.

[@morganl2633]

One wedding I was in, the bride asked that the bridesmaids find a white or cream dress that made us feel beautiful in. We all had different dresses but they came together and looked beautiful. It was so nice that everyone felt confident and showed a bit of their own style in the dresses.

[@saraibra7252]

White dress for a bridesmaid?

[@gattaccia3533]

@@saraibra7252 If the bride wears a colored dress, she pops up amazingly if her girls are in white. It's such a a nice choice!

[@saeranchoi3343]

⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠@@saraibra7252 If I ever get married, I would request that everyone else wears white/black at the wedding while me and my bride wear coloured clothing ✌️

[@Superdudehatesmilk]

I did that, too, but unfortunately my experience wasn't as great lol. One bridesmaid decided to make her dress. I privately offered to buy her dress if she found one she liked "so she didn't have to go to the trouble of making a dress for my wedding" and she turned down my offer because she INSISTED on making her dress. When we all got together, everyone looked great except for that bridesmaid. It looked like she had thrown a literal tent around her neck. She knew it was a disaster, because she had tried to talk us out of meeting up to see what the dresses looked like together. When she saw everyone else's dresses and how beautiful they looked, it turned into a pity party/compliment fishing expedition. It was an absolute mess. She ended up dropping out of the wedding party and didn't even attend the wedding, even though her husband was our best man.

[@pickles1314]

@@SuperdudehatesmilkI did the same where I let my bridesmaids pick and only requirement was the color and I also had trouble. One of my bridesmaids waited until the week before to get her dress. Then she realized day before she didn’t have time for a hem (duh girl) so she spent half of rehearsal day hunting for a new one. People man. Another bridesmaid I chose to ask to not be in my party because 30 days out I asked if she had any idea when she’d get a dress and she was just super rude about it and acted like emerald in November was a really hard to find color.

[@rekapadilla233]

I love that the bride didn’t make her feel worse that’s true friendship and I also agree when you ask someone to be a bridesmaid to let them know what their responsibilities financially, emotionally are

[@TinyDancerO]

Just when did a bridesmaid paying for their own dresses become a thing? I was a bridesmaid three times, not one time did any of us have to pay for our own dresses. If a bride wants a bunch of bridesmaids wearing a specific dress and colour, then she should be prepared to pay for them. Times sure have changed!!!!

[@riorio982]

I literally told my bridesmaid, "wear what you want". Even then we decided on a solid color dress, etc. But the sweet part was the night before when she revealed she was a few months pregnant. I was so happy, they had been trying for a while. In the end, she ended up wearing a print dress because of the baby bump, and I couldn't have been happier. My biggest requirement: be there.

[@carinel.1333]

Way easier like that.

[@kateyare4708]

When the day came, and my fiance and I actually married, I cared only that people were there and enjoyed themselves (they did) and did not even notice what they were wearing.

[@joyfuljaj]

If I ever get married, I will be a slightly older bride, so maybe my expectations will also have become more about the truly important things. I never expected a big shindig as my family is not well off, but figuring out how to get reasonably priced bridesmaids dresses that look good together was important to me. Now, maybe I can accept the fact that dresses perhaps in closely similar colors that each lady is comfortable in will suffice. Having friends as part of the celebration will be the most important part.

[@leili6143]

I agree with krista those ruffle neck dresses were horrendous

[@pmeehan_3]

They look outdated and frumpish.

[@pixazelz]

I kinda liked them though , they looked classy

[@doraandboots7319]

@@pixazelzclassy as hood classy

[@pixazelz]

@@doraandboots7319 thats mean they were sophisticated

[@marietighe6328]

I live in Ireland and was bridesmaid twice. The BRIDE pays for the bridesmaid dresses. Also she bought us each a small gift , like a necklace, as a thank you. When my best friend got married I'd saved up 500 dollars ( euros) as her wedding gift . ( I had two years notice) . She also went half to cover the cost of the hotel room... now I would have paid full price but she insisted that it was HER day and we'd all helped out with planning, phone calls, taking time off work to pick her dress. Go to fittings etc. I can't understand why you would shame someone like this. YOU asked them to be bridesmaid at YOUR wedding. So cough up or shut up....

[@The13thGoddessAries]

Same with my sisters wedding. She got us a nice earring and necklace set for us bridesmaids. She ordered the dresses for us and we were fitted ahead of time. I think the “opinionated” friend was a low-key hater though.. the one that complained about the dresses 😂

[@court529]

In America, that's not the case. Each bridesmaid pays the cost of her dress and shoes.

[@kehaulani1467]

When i was the bride, i took varying budgets into consideration, so that no one had an issue with cost. The whole ceremony/reception was done tastefully, yet very frugally. Even our honeymoon was both memorable and budget friendly.

[@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj]

@@court529I am in America and my former friend paid for my dress. But I paid for the flight to come as I was the only one who was long distance. I had my own shoes too. I stayed at her house for free too so did not need to pay for hotels.

[@spacey_gracie]

@@court529I agree with this.. Bridesmaids should be paying for their own dresses and shoes..

[@shesellseashells]

I feel so so bad for her. Sometimes tough situations in your life make you behave in a certain way that others judge you but only you know the pain that is in hour heart.

[@Cutejess2407]

1:50 is very red flaggy. I wonder if they stayed friends for long after this..

[@Larissa_white]

Fr

[@danahickman5716]

I'm almost 70 and have been in 2 weddings in my younger years. One I was the Maid of Honor and the other I was a Bridesmaid. The brides' family covered the cost for the dresses. They were being made and they just told me where to go to get fitted. There was no "What do you want to wear?" The bride told us what we were wearing.

[@NH-tb2sm]

When the bride's family covers the cost of the dress then you wear what they buy but nowadays the bridesmaids pay for their own dresses so they want a dress they at least somewhat like.

[@danahickman5716]

​@@NH-tb2smTimes are changing for sure.

[@juliearmfield2634]

​@@NH-tb2smyeah I think couples are wanting bigger and better weddings and the only way they can get that is by making their Bridal parties pay for it in one way or another

[@keplersdream901]

@@danahickman5716 Yeah, nowadays, bitchy brides are expecting their female friends to buy outrageously expensive and HIDEOUS dresses so that they can satisfy a "vision." Most of the time, they end up getting divorced within five years. Meanwhile, these female friends are expected to be quiet and accommodating, even if the experience humiliates and/or puts them in financial difficulties. This is why bride = bitch in my generation. I've never had an experience where this WASN'T true.

[@Timetravellingdoll]

I want my two matrons of honour to be comfortable, both are my age group, I'm 60 and this is my first wedding. We are all old enough and ugly enough to understand our tastes. They know my style and colour and I want them to chose what they want to wear within those parameters. They keep the outfits to wear again and are happy to pay. I do feel that if a woman wants to look like a Disney Princess, she needs to postpone getting married till she realises that it's only one day, and life ain't a fairy tale, grow up in other words.

[@amandamorton-king2112]

If you cant afford to pay for 5 dresses for your bridesmaids then you don't GET them! It's outrageous to expect the whole Disney production performance at other people's expense.

[@ginadelsasso288]

$200 something is insane to spend on a dress for someone else's wedding.

[@alexrusso6503]

It's an expectation of bridesmaids to pay for their own dresses. If the bride is gonna be outrageous with something expensive then the bride should pay. Your bridesmaid dresses are based on what your bridesmaid can afford. Like knowing her friends budget going shopping at a store like this is out of the question. For the bridesmaids if you can't afford to participate in the wedding party tell the bride/groom when they ask you that you would love to but can't afford it. Don't just agree then be difficult when it comes to buy a dress. If you communicate and are important to them they will help figure something out with you even if you go 50/50 or if they really like you they may pay for it all.

[@addelineschluckbier1014]

It's expected for the bridesmaids to pay for there own dress, shoes and accessories

[@amandamorton-king2112]

Not in England! We're not that cheap.@@addelineschluckbier1014

[@angelamitchell7531]

In the UK its normally expected that the bride and her family pay for all the dresses etc

[@Cass_Suitor]

This is why I refuse to have a wedding. My friend still mentions that I didn't give her a Bachelorettes party but honestly I'm a single mother of 2 I didn't have it like that.

[@philippatill9727]

She doesn't sound like a friend.

[@malindarayallen]

Ditch her. Seriously. You deserve better.

[@vir725]

That is so terribly rude!

[@jo-annbastings]

Starting at 2:25, I agree completely with what Lori said about the bridesmaids being the frame of the wedding picture. The comparison is perfect.

[@charlieyu7178]

She’s not a good friend. That’s NOT a friend.

[@MamaTriedSolo]

That manager made the poor girl cry. Please tell me she doesnt work there anymore?!

[@Sternchen1963]

This issue needed to be sorted out, before they started looking for bridesmaid dresses! For sure the bride knew, that she would not be able to buy a bridesmaid dress, so there was definitely no reason, to make her feel ashamed in front of all! Sad, she could've been more thoughtful about this issue! Over here in Germany it's usual, that the bridesmaid pays for the dress by herself! This golden dress with the ruffles looked ugly as hell! 🤢🤮

[@tiffytatortots1278]

Krista also knew she couldn't afford it so why did she put herself in that position? She is responsible for herself. Yall keep taking responsibility off the one person whose responsibility it was! If they are such good friends there should have been a conversation long before this.

[@lilly_ann]

​@@tiffytatortots1278 you're really out here replying to all the comments talking about she knew she couldn't afford it... makes one wonder..

[@saraschneider6781]

No Krista just expected a free dress.

[@keplersdream901]

@@tiffytatortots1278 Sweetie-cakes, it's obvious you're one of those girlies who care more about the wedding than the marriage. If bride really wanted Krista in the wedding, then she should have said, "Wear what you want, just pick X color." Or go dutch. Everyone's happy, and no one's breaking the bank. That's the correct, MATURE thing to do. Only little girls care about color AND style coordination of a bunch of grown women for ONE day. Rather, bitchy bride is an obvious passive-aggressive; my guess is that this was her way of forcing Krista to buy the dress (power move) or forcing her out. Brides who play dress up with other people are generally the ones who are divorced in short order. Why? Because they're not mature. And none of these girls are.

[@lindseymohlman5922]

When I got married 7 years ago I had four bridesmaids and I paid for their dresses.. they were cute and were something that they could also wear to church or to work as well. They just told me their sizes and I bought them at a cute boutique along with some cute necklaces as a thank you gift 😊

[@erenestawanjiru1935]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@jayfurjill]

First wedding, I actually hired my wedding dress and the bridesmaids dresses,but they paid for their own shoes,just little flat ballet pumps

[@jb6712]

"Cute"???🙄

[@jijiani677]

@@jb6712 did you see it? No If it's cute for her it is cute Bich

[@shae686]

That’s so sweet

[@Insertnamehere428]

Poor Krista has 4 kids! I’m glad the bride will help her pay for the dress to have her participation in the wedding. She deserves to be a part of the festivities no matter what her finances are. 💗

[@rayneishadavis7263]

I think she should’ve told the bride beforehand that she couldn’t afford a dress and maybe she could’ve just been a guest at the wedding

[@Insertnamehere428]

@@rayneishadavis7263 Absolutely agree. I think she said the bride did know what she was going through. But you are correct, prior communication ahead of time could have avoided this drama.

[@saraschneider6781]

Help her be toxic because she can't keep her legs closed?

[@PlanetSerenityMoonKfamily]

This was horrible to watch. I do feel for Krista. She is supposed to be her childhood friend so the bride should understand her friend's situation, specially if she has 4 kids and seems to be going through a hard time. Ganging up on her like that and having her admit on tv she had no money was disgusting.

[@aileenquiroz4453]

Krista needs to be ok with saying, “I love you but I can’t be in your wedding party.”

[@cheyswags]

Well other cultures and countries have the bride pay for dresses. I would like to do that for my bridesmaids and if I don't I will use Birdy Grey because they are $99

[@angelamitchell1128]

The Bride should have had a private talk to make sure what someone could or could not afford before asking them to be a bridesmaid

[@lizvtaz6]

not gonna lie if this was my best friend I would have her stand next to me at my wedding even if she was wearing a T-shirt. But now I am from Russia and we do not have this whole crazy "themed wedding" culture.

[@aileenquiroz4453]

@@lizvtaz6 that’s beautiful❣️You are absolutely correct❣️

[@JewelBlueIbanez]

The bride should just pay for everyone.

[@OlgaBab-ov2uo]

Absolutely ridiculous how the store manager tried to push her to spend 220$ it not all just compromise if you love the bride! Some people cannot afford it, and if she got extra money she would prefer to spend it on extras for her children. It was so manipulative and insensitive!

[@reemalshehri5712]

Ikr! Unbelievable

[@keplersdream901]

Yeah, I thought so, too. David's Bridal has nice dresses that are $50-100. If I knew one of my friends was having a hard time, I'd go dutch on a $100 dress. Then again, I wouldn't play dress up with my friends. They're adults, and I'd just expect them to wear their best. That's the way it used to be -- the bride and her party wore their best dresses. I swear, people care more about the wedding than about the marriage.

[@coffeeaddictexpress5038]

My bridesmaids dresses were 16.95 at Ross lol. I never was one to dream up a big wedding though. The marriage was what was important.

[@LittleMissRockChalk]

My husband and I chose not to have a wedding party, and while I love SYTTD, it definitely reinforces the choice we made. I believe that wedding party attire should just be a part of the wedding budget (why should anyone else have to pay for the bride's vision?), so not having the wedding party cut out a lot of hassle and expenses.

[@samanthac.349]

I have a friend who confessed to me that she was going to be in a wedding for a couple who I didn’t know. The bridesmaid dresses were $120. She loved this friend and didn’t realize that they were going to have such a fancy wedding when she agreed. She was afraid she’d have to back out of the wedding. She had two kids at home on a tight budget. She said $100 was her weekly budget for groceries. I didn’t have kids at the time and had a bit of savings, so I went and bought some pantry staples and grocery gift cards that equaled a little more than $120.

[@missjoshemmett]

She is her lifelong friend. She knows absolutely everything that has happened to her and is going on now. The woman has 4 children, and even if she is married, that is a lot of mouths to feed and clothe. Of course she needs to be in the wedding! But they should have talked first. All the bride did was echo everyone else. The mother said she would take care of it. But the bride gives the wedding party their dresses and a little remembrance gift.

[@jonquilgemstone]

She doesn't NEED to be a bridesmaid to honor a lifelong friendship.

[@saraschneider6781]

No she doesn't need to be in the wedding.

[@Carol-D.1324]

My best friend tried to back out because she couldn’t afford to buy any kind of dress..I was more than happy to pay for hers, she was my best friend and I couldn’t imagine getting married without her by my side.

[@user-vt2ce2jc4r]

Im Indian and from one of Indian community and in my culture we pay for everything for our bridesmaid coz after all its our wedding and they are doing us the honour....if we cant afford we dont have bridesmaid.....i cant imagine letting someone pay for participating in my wedding ... We were so shocked when my sister in America told us bridesmaid pay for their dress in America

[@btsarmyforever3816]

I am India and this is 100% true. We pay for everything. Their makeup hairdo is also done by the stylist the bride hires and the bride pays for everything. In the western culture, most of the brides won't pay for the bridesmaid dress. We as Indians are also fortunate cause most times the bridesmaid dress is also a saree. Will fit everyone, is also modest. And no one complains because it will look like any other saree, not a "Bridesmaids" dress. In the west most of them can't wear these dresses again cause it's like bridesmaid uniform.

[@JaneAustenAteMyCat]

Can't believe the bridesmaids are expected to pay for anything 😦 That's unheard of in the UK. The bridesmaids' outfits are part of the wedding budget here

[@cezza_4]

Same in Australia. This is so weird to expect the bridesmaids to pay for their own dresses

[@Christfollwer94]

That's how it should be here in the U.S. too

[@suzdeangelo2314]

Use to be here.

[@kritikamurali5524]

Common American L

[@OlgaBab-ov2uo]

Especially that you will never wear this dress again

[@queenofcats9240]

A lot of the comments that I’m reading are actually really good advice on how to handle bridesmaids dresses. I definitely want to get married in the future, and I’ve always known that I would want my bridesmaids in lavender dresses (my favorite color) but now I know that I gotta consider fabric options, everyone’s body type and the season in which my wedding takes place in. So thank you to everyone who is leaving this advice!

[@shirleyallen1418]

My daughter's bridesmaid dresses were burgundy lace,beautiful from Ross for $17 each. Matched the burgundy Calla lillies in bouquets. We paid for it all. Including silver & black satin vests & ties for the men

[@kwest5171]

The bride needed to talk to everyone before asking them to be a bridesmaid to see if they could afford it. Then a firm budget number needs to be set. Why does this happen? And lord knows, if you have maids on a budget, get your butt to David's bridal because Bridals by Lori is super expensive.

[@michellebloch8970]

In this case it happened because the bride had no idea what she’s doing. She had no vision for the wedding and hadn’t even found her own dress yet. She is not the “typical” bride that has been dreaming about her wedding since she was young and has an idea of what she likes and wants. Seems like she would just rather have someone else make all the decisions for her and just tell her when and where to show up for the wedding 😬 Also think they do stage some of these conversations for drama purposes for the shows

[@melissamojica9143]

Okay but the bridesmaid is old enough to speak up

[@harlinaindra4899]

Why did she not speak up? Maybe she does not dare or she does not like conflict

[@kwest5171]

@@melissamojica9143 Do you know how uncomfortable it is to be so poor you can't afford a bridesmaid dress? Do you know how demoralizing it is to have to tell someone that you can't stand for them on their day because you have to feed your kids and pay bills? We don't know if this woman is a single mom or if her husband lost a job, nothing. It's the bride's responsibility to have this talk with each of the people she asks to stand for her.

[@mawmawmakeup3602]

​@@kwest5171 exaxtly!!!!! not to mention she had said ' so and so knows my situation' maybe when she had agreed to be in the bridal party her situation was different... maybe something came up that had forced their financial situation to change... they said they have been friends since they were children.. felt so bad watching her be publically shamed like this on national television. Poor girl.

[@emilyprentice5581]

Krista is her oldest/longest friend. 2 are sisters, 2 are college roommates. That means the only person Krista had in her corner was the bride. The others could tag team and pull rank, because they're in pairs. It's actually so sad that someone else had to tell the bride that there was probably another reason she was acting that way, and that even after that she made it no easier for her. It's very hard to admit something like that in front of strangers and literal television, or to feel like you can't support your friends because you're not well off. Even sadder that the mother had to bail Krista out. The bride just stood there. Krista tried to save face and drop hints throughout eventually she just broke down. I hope the bride works on being as oblivious as she is, because had she considered her friend more she would've saved her from the embarrassment and stress. I don't even think she likes the dress, she just can't refuse, and that in itself is hard. Hope she's a little better now

[@iHeartAmySue]

Exactly. They put her in a position that she couldn’t refuse. I’m hoping her best friend knew of her financial situation which any woman with four kids would be in- but sometimes friends like that refuse to see due to selfishness.

[@genedycandelario]

She shouldn’t have agreed to be a bridesmaid

[@emilyprentice5581]

@@genedycandelario Why not? That's her friend from childhood. She supported her friend by being there for her throughout the process and on her big day, and her friend should've supported her by understanding her situation and not putting her in a compromising position. Give and take is what friendship is about. The dress is the least crucial part of being a bridesmaid, a lot of it is emotional and mental support, encouragement, and a lot of other non-monetary forms of assistance. People like Krista who have grown up with her probably understand her the most and can help her best. It absolutely makes sense for her to be a bridesmaid, and in most countries, the bride pays for the dresses. It's the least they can do considering bridesmaids commit themselves to helping the bride for a couple months to a year or more and adjust their schedules to suit, and they are normally the ones dealing with all the frustration the bride spits out when the process gets overwhelming.

[@WanderingAlone.]

​@emilyprentice5581 Lol. There's other ways to show support or be supportive other than being a bridesmaid. She could've simply said, "no."

[@adriana_cern]

@@WanderingAlone.OR the bride could’ve paid for the dress, if I was choosing dresses for my bridesmaids I would’ve paid, they might not have another opportunity to wear that dress, so why should they pay for it?

[@captaincrunch784]

Being a bridesmaid broke the bank for me. It destroyed the friendship and we fought until I dropped out after she wanted $400 heels I would never wear again because I'm already super tall plus a mink stole and a satin ballgown. $1500 at least for the outfit not including the limo we were all asked to pay for just for the bride, the car rental, hotel, gifts, flight et when I was unemployed and couldn't afford groceries.

[@ashleyt6840]

Please tell me you didn’t shell out any money and if you did please tell me you got it back.

[@captaincrunch784]

@@ashleyt6840 nooooooo we had a huge fight and I dumped her as my friend

[@theunknowjellybean118]

Damn girl how tall are ya?

[@captaincrunch784]

@@theunknowjellybean118 5'10" and the bride wanted me in 3" stilletos... in the winter...in the snow

[@verenamaharajah6082]

Oh my goodness! That is so wrong, she’s not your friend, she’s just someone you know.

[@rosepalanivel7383]

I paid for my entire bridal party. If you ask someone to be part of your day, you pay!!! It’s just how I grew up. And if you don’t, that’s fine… at least ask them to make sure it’s okay before hand.

[@katea74648]

My bridesmaids all wore different dresses, similar colours all very close to maroon colour, 2 wore a floral type pattern both different.. I always just said I wanted them to be comfy and they kinda just worked it out from there. Everyone looked beautiful and it was perfectly mismatched ❤️

[@suzannesenser607]

If i could'nt afford it, id just drop out. Bridesmaids are not indispensable. Be there as a friend.

[@Judyogoya49]

Exactly al do the same

[@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj]

I agree and having bridesmaids are not a requirement. You don’t need to have any. If you must have one then one is enough. My aunt did not even have one and had a very small and simple wedding. But she is very happily married for 26 years now.

[@prpatel04]

If they have been friends for that long, she should have known not to bring her friend onto the show and embarrass her

[@JL-zn7me]

Don’t ever feel embarrassed or ashamed for not having extra money! I understand pride, I understand struggle… I’m there right now- it’s devastating. But, this is a very special day and you’re a special person to the bride. Accept the help and pay it forward whenever you can in the future. 💜

[@ayakotami3318]

When a friend of mine got recently married I mentioned about not being able to afford an expensive dress. She told me as long as it was purple, has flowers, sleeveless, and floor length it would work. I found one for about $60 on EBAY. After the wedding I gave it to a friend whose daughter needed it for Prom since I knew I wouldn't wear it again. I have too many dresses as it was. 😅 Amd by what I know she still has it. 😊

[@alisonschofield7235]

I had 1 bridesmaid and I bought her dress, shoes etc. I couldn't imagine making anyone pay

[@Beth21794]

When I got married I couldn’t imagine asking any of my bridesmaids to pay for their dress let alone something I like and they don’t. I asked all my bridesmaids to get their dresses at the same store and the same color but I said the style and fabric can be whatever they are most comfortable in and I paid for everything. They looked beautiful and my wedding was beautiful. It’s a privilege to have someone say yes to being in your wedding not a right. I was a maid of honor for a bride that wanted everyone to pay their way and for her and it was a total nightmare to the point where two of her bridesmaids dropped out. Call me old fashion but the bride should pay for the dresses and her bridal party.

[@lauramuller7079]

I paid for all my bridesmaids dresses. I don't understand making everyone pay for dress that's your wedding.

[@burkabrigade]

Wow this was a painful thingto eatch. I cringed and grieved at the humiliation that poor woman felt.

[@twb6yz361]

My heart goes out to the friend. She's very embarrassed that she has to speak up and say she can't afford the dress and yet they broadcast it on the show and here on KZbin for more people to see it and comment on.

[@lauramcinerney1559]

There should be NO reason for a bridesmaid to pay almost 300 for a hideous dress. There are too many stores and websites for less expensive dresses!

[@JustAnotherPerson4U]

I mean I still don't understand why in America the bridesmaids pay for their dresses when they're being picked by the bride. Imo, that should be in the wedding budget paid by the bride and groom if the bridesmaids are buying dresses they wouldn't normally pick.

[@csigusz522]

It's the same in Europe too 😢

[@annagraser5088]

I agree. When my daughter was a flower girl I didn't have to buy it.

[@mssorrento1]

I agree I have been bridesmaid 4 times and never paid for a dress x

[@MzStarlett5]

Good point

[@lillilillibo]

Totally agree

[@wintersanctuary]

I think traditions between the UK and the US are so different when it comes to costs and who’s expected to pay for what. Never, never would I expect for a bridesmaid of mine to pay for their own dress!! It’s completely ridiculous and I would be waving 👋🏻 bye bye to a friend or family member who expected me to pay for mine 😮

[@lyndastreet7344]

The bride knew the situation with her go-to girl. Why did she put her through the embarrassment of all that??

[@MariposaAzul2004]

I’ve seen plenty of weddings where the bridesmaids had some sort of theme or color pallet and just mixed and matched and it looked great.

[@Boyds_Irish_Lass]

When my best friend got married in 1988, we wert to the Gunne Sax outlet and she found bridesmaid dresses for $5.00 each and she found her wedding dress for $10.00! Needless to say her $3000.00 budget for her wedding dress was used for the down payment on the house she wanted! Imagine getting lucky enough to only have to spend a total of $50.00 for the wedding party dresses! OH and 6 years later, my niece restyled my bridesmaid gown into her prom dress!

[@clwbchbabycakes]

I can understand the struggle to pay $200+ for something you don't even like and would never wear again, especially when you don't have it. Hopefully she knows someone who sews and can change it for her after the wedding so she can wear it again.

[@wendilafey3943]

When I got married, my sister helped me find the most beautiful vintage wedding dress at goodwill for only $50.00! It had a train that bustled up for the reception, and it already fit me perf! I had been considering seeing my own (I made my own prom dress), but I couldn't even uy all that fabric for $50, so I totally jumped at the one we found. My sister, and 3 of my friends were my bridesmaids. I chose the color, and let them pick their own dress styles. We went to a thrift store that was known for fancy dresses, and they found ones they loved for $10 and $20 each. Even so, 2 of my bridesmaids asked if they could be ushers instead, because they were shy, and also didn't have the budget for even the thrift store dresses, but they still wanted to take part. I told them I understand, and actually, my fiance only had 2 groomsmen who would be able to travel to our wedding in my home state, so that ended up working out for everyone.

[@brockreynolds870]

My mother made my sister's wedding dress for 75$ on a 1910 singer treadle sewing machine. Long, puffed sleeves, 3 foot train, seed pearls, the whole 9 yards.

[@rebeccadeal2560]

My bridesmaids were my cousins and sister, and I used the money I got from my late aunt to pay for their dresses as a symbolic gesture (she had no kids of her own but doted on her nieces). They were touched and it took so much stress out of the whole process.

[@morganwhite2176]

Bridesmaids rarely help at weddings, all the actually do is reflect their own problems and grievances of the past on your happy day so if you take them to a fitting, you have to be the boss and know what you want, otherwise it becomes silly and emotional.

[@themadisonwhichelo]

I only had one bridesmaid and then my brother, so I went ahead and bought her dress and his shirt. It’s a lot of money to shell out when you have multiple gals. Definitely something that as friends needs to be noted at the start as to expectations for who pays what! Glad this situation ended positively!!

[@patpeters6331]

I had 2 bridesmaids. Told them to buy a yellow dress that they would wear again. I provided the wide brimmed sun hats. It was the 70s but looked so cute.

[@brittanyb1927]

Being in a wedding is always a financial burden these days. If I’m asked to be in a wedding it’s an easy $1000 each time. Its become so outrageous I hope no one else asks me anymore!

[@AlliandoX]

Forreal!! If u can’t afford bridesmaid dresses just go elope!

[@QveenChelsea]

4 bridesmaids 4 body types and 4 different dresses along with budgets. I gave them teal as the colour and let them know it was a end of summer area, and I hope you enjoy shipping!

[@georgiamurray7580]

Is it just me that thought the bride bought the dresses? Every wedding I've been involved in the bride has always paid for the dresses

[@bovinebeautymoo2884]

If I was that girl ….. and they KNEW she wasnt well off and had FOUR kids… I would have excused myself to the Bathroom and LEFT! Absolute SHAME in the Bride for NOT being a GROWN Woman and prepare for making Bride maid dress decisions BEFORE going shopping and EXTRA SHAME on the Manger AND Store for saying everyone makes sacrifices for the Bride.. WRONG! The Bride Maids are to SUPPORT the Bride emotionally NOT be an ACCESSORY to her Fantasy Wedding!

[@lorrainehuddart1402]

In Britain the tradition is the bride’s family pay for the bridesmaids’ dresses, possibly the shoes as well. The bride picks the colour and the style and you just go with it. It’s her day

[@kwosilait2855]

Love this! I'm in the US, and I had a matron of honor but no bridesmaids. She wore a dress that she had gotten for someone else's wedding, and it was perfect. I got her new shoes as a gift, and they were shoes that she could wear to church, so she was delighted. I simply do not understand expecting your friends to subsidize your idea of how your wedding should be.

[@0mcmhs8]

I think the consultant saying sometimes you have to compromise for the bride and that basically shows your love for her was a pretty crappy thing to say. The bride knows her friend’s situation and should have taken that into consideration before asking her to be 8:34 apart of the bridal party. Instead you embarrass her on national tv. $250 for a dress so some people is an outrageous amount. Luckily my mom paid for all the dresses and tuxedos on my wedding day. I’m so grateful for that.

[@carlaatughwe8745]

We in the UK pay for the bridesmaids dresses, and buy them a gift as well. Well I did when I got married for the first time.

[@annelisemessina651]

We do this too in Australia- bride pays for dresses, shoes, hair and hair up and jewellery-

[@mrsfahrenheit]

bro they all knew she had financial struggles and yet she was still put on a pedestal and pushed until she literally had to spell it out for them word for word that she simply cannot afford it😒 poor girl. She felt so embarrassed.. and on top of that everyone else painted her as the villain. I feel for her deeply♥️🙏🏻 that was so unnecessary of the group. It’s sweet the bride agreed to help her out in the end but this should‘ve gone a different way.

[@DebraMcCann-r9f]

Probably should’ve mentioned her budget with everyone before hand.

[@athena775.]

I just feel like when you are the bride you have to pay for ur bridesmaids dresses or otherwise you have to know your bridesmaids financial states and then chose budget yourself accordingly and if you see they have kids and they are always busy don't choose them as a bridesmaids you are just gonna make their life more stressful. At the end of the day it's your day so other PPL should not be under pressure for your special day

[@katiedubuque7481]

I'm a Bride getting married in a few short months and I prevented my bridal party from facing this humiliation by first off not choosing an obnoxiously expensive store for them to get their dresses but also giving them the freedom to buy their dresses from whatever place they can afford. My mother in law literally bought her dress off of Temu (she's my maid of honor) and it's beautiful

[@aliciatrotter8089]

It's okay to decline an invitation to be in a wedding if it's not in your budget.

[@ablessedlifejourney]

I hate the dresses with that big ruffle around the neck. And if you have to buy your own dress then it has to be something they like. Either the bride pays or deals with what they pick. I bought the dresses for my wedding.

[@gwendolynrainbolt3849]

250 for a dress you dont like and your only going to wear once can be a bit much

[@Aitherea]

Funny how shes the bad person for not wanting to spend 200$ on a dress she hates and would only wear once. And because money absolutely is an object she has to feel ashamed for her financial standing because she struggles to afford the dress her friends can apparently afford. I hate how they were all painting her as the ridiculous one when she was fucking right, those dresses were ugly as hell and you shouldnt have to spend 200$ on something you hate.

[@Sehara]

My daughter simply choose and bought all bridesmaid dresses, paid for their hair and makeup, and also the shoes. Problem solved. She saved money on the cake, I made it for her. 😅

[@jishingaaru]

So many issues here.. the bride has no clue what she wanted, didn’t manage expectations, and decided last minute she wanted ruffles when honestly it didn’t suit her friend.. it’s just kind of haphazard.

[@christyr873]

We all go through things in life. Your time devoted to the wedding and supporting the bride helps too.